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Creating Connection

By Kim Ross

Are you wanting to move from overwhelm to calm? Looking for a more sustainable way to live your life, look after your family and run your business?

Join me, Kim Ross, Psychologist, as I discuss fierce self-care and connection. What it is, why it's important and how it can make a difference in how you think about life and the way you live.

Creating Connection includes information, meditations, verbal scripts and other practical tools to help you understand yourself, reduce feelings of isolation and work towards a state of equanimity.
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Jan 10, 202410:29
An active self-compassionate Christmas reflection

An active self-compassionate Christmas reflection

Using a keystone activity as a reflection anchor.

- Choose an activity that has meaning to you. It may be something that has uncomfortable associations, it may reflect an underlying value. It may be celebratory.

- Choose an accompanying affirmation to use as a reflection.

You can try 'I release myself from the outcome'.

- Whilst you are engaging in the activity actively reflect on thoughts and feelings that arise; the nature of the process; and the outcome of the process.


Through releasing expectations and allowing yourself to fail, you are treating yourself with compassion.



May joy flow through the cracks this Christmas.

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I have this theory about wonderful women. It goes like this:

Without doubt we are a special bunch.

Regardless of what life throws at us, we’re willing to work to find calm in our world whilst not running away from it. Our dreams consist not of power and progress, but of understanding, cooperation and healing. 

We firmly believe in the power of knowing ourselves, respecting others, honouring our environment and fostering deep connections. And we love receiving and giving sprinkles of wisdom.

Join the community of other wonderful women who receive regular sprinkles in their inbox from me.  It's where I share insights, inspiration, reflections, support and do-able strategies on how you can create and integrate more calm, connection and confidence into your life without running away to Bali. 

A reminder this podcast is for general information and advice only. It is not designed to replace therapy in any way. For some people Christmas is not just stressful, it is also traumatic. 

The information provided in this podcast is not meant to address Christmas trauma. If you are experiencing trauma, overwhelming Christmas anxiety, depression, or any other mental health concern please see your GP, or your mental health therapist.

If you liked what you just listened to, I’d appreciate you leaving Creating Connections a review or sharing this podcast with your friends.

Dec 22, 202314:51
How to find Space, Time And Direction For Inner Wisdom

How to find Space, Time And Direction For Inner Wisdom

Hello, and welcome to the edition of Creating Connection where we talk about how wonderful women can start to embrace their inner wisdom.

First, wisdom isn't a construct with one definition and one theory. In the world of psychological investigation we're still exploring, we're still researching, debating, and discussing what is Wisdom.

I'm giving you my take on four key aspects of wisdom: experience, reflection, compassion and action.

1.     Experience. That does not mean age. Research shows that your wisdom increases to around your mid-20s. And then it plateaus. And when you're much older, it may decrease.
2.     Reflection, compassion and action. It's not just sitting here pontificating, it's making things happen. It's living it, sharing it, acting upon it, connecting with others, making change, and it's compassionate.
You can have all the experience and all the knowledge. But if you're an empty vessel, if you're agitating for the sake of it, if your aim behind sharing your knowledge is, just to make money or just progress and growth for the sake of it, you're missing the point.
The point is to take compassionate action. It's caring, it's connection. And Reflection is the processing of your experiences so that you can take compassionate action. Today, in particular, I want to take you through reflection, and three things to take into account with reflection.

Three aspects of reflection.: space, time, and direction.

Let's start with Space. And I'm talking about where you find the mental and physical space for reflection.

We all lead parallel lives: a physical life and a digital life. Your physical life includes - raising children, managing the household, building careers. And then you have this other life, which runs along in the background, which is your digital world. And it never switches off.  So, you're not just managing this world, you're also managing your relationship with this world. Not a lot of space in here for reflection is there.

And depending on your life stage, you'll also have additional challenges. If your children are young, that space to think for yourself can seem like non-existent because children are young, they want to be with you all the time. They want to be with you when you shower or go to the toilet or sleep. And some children don't, I am generalising. But when you're a parent, and you're in that stage, it can feel quite claustrophobic. No matter how much you love your kids. Where is that space for you? How do you carve that out?

Time. Not having enough time is one of the biggest reasons that people give for not engaging in self-care. We lead these lives, trying to balance these two lives parallel.

However, there are three main different ways you can factor in time for reflection.

1.     You can take a retreat. Whether it’s half a day, full day, weekend or longer. There is something truly magical about taking that space and time for yourself. However, it's not always practical, it's not always affordable. Luckily, there are two other main ways that you can do this.

2.     You can set aside a regular, time of the day or week where you can reflect.

3.      You can integrate it into day-to-day practices.


A reminder this podcast is for general information and advice only. It is not designed to replace therapy in any way. If you are experiencing any mental health concerns please see your GP, or your mental health therapist.

- Join the Sprinkles of Wisdom for Wonderful Women Newsletter Community - https://bit.ly/SprinklesOfWisdom.

Dec 06, 202323:31
How to Declutter Your Christmas Expectations

How to Declutter Your Christmas Expectations

Feeling overwhelmed by the pressure to create a "perfect" Christmas? Discover how to simplify expectations, reduce stress, and embrace an awesome holiday season with these 6 powerful steps. ​ 1. Awareness. Take 10-20 minutes and connect with what you feel and what you think about all these expectations that you have created or bought into. What are the thoughts and feelings that come up when you think about Christmas? Find something to write in and listen to what you are saying to yourself. It may look something like this “I’m feeling guilty because I don’t want to make my pudding this year, but I know everyone loves it and I should”. I’m feeling sad. I keep thinking how much I miss my mum and wish she was here’ I’m feeling overwhelmed. There’s so much to do and I don’t know where I’m going to fit it in. I’m feeling angry. I don’t want to go to x/s house on Christmas Day. We always do and it’s not fair. I want to stay at y own home all day and let the kids play. "I'm feeling confused. I don't know how to keep everyone from not fighting on Christmas Day and I just wish it was all over. "I don't know where to start”. Note:: If getting in touch with your feelings is difficult there can be a few reasons why that is happening.  You can come back to exploring your feelings in the future either with your GP, or mental health therapist, or if this is something you would like help with you are welcome to contact me for an appointment. 2. Reflection. Once you’ve named and acknowledged your thoughts and feelings it’s time to reflect on what they might be trying to tell you about what is important to you at Christmas.  Here are some simple guiding reflection questions. What are your best memories of Christmas's past? What would you have liked to have done last year that you didn’t get to do? What got in the way of that happening? Is there something different/special coming up this year that you are looking forward to? What was stressful? What would you like to change? What is the most important thing about the Christmas season for you? Include everything in the lead up to Christmas Day and the days after?




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How to Make This Christmas Simply Awesome


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Nov 20, 202310:21
Put some pep in your step with the WIA Bingo Card

Put some pep in your step with the WIA Bingo Card

  • Walking is a great way to brighten up your day and improve your mental health.
  • The key to creating a walking habit is to find ways to enjoy the process.
  • The Walking is Awesome bingo card includes a variety of different tasks to help you make the most of your walks.
  • Some of the tasks on the bingo card are designed to help you overcome anxiety and feel safer walking by yourself.
  • The bingo card is a great way to track your progress and make walking a more fun and rewarding experience.

Hi. If you are looking for a way to, you know, brighten up your walks, put some pet back in your step, change it up a little. This episode is for you. In this episode, I bring to you the walking is awesome bingo card.

I wanted to take the opportunity to talk about why I've included some of them, because, you know, I'm not a fitness expert, not a physical fitness expert. I'm a psychologist and we are experts in mental health, and fitness, and these are some of the things that make doing this bingo card a little bit different.


There are elements of counting steps of looking at time, but also some things that you might go, why would I be doing that?

And I'm gonna tell you why.

Because the key components of walking and creating a habit have to do with enjoying the process, right?

So many people will say, oh, I know I should walk, or, I haven't got time for walk or walking is so boring and I get it.

You know, life can be super chaotic and it takes time to walk, or the difference between going for a five K run and going for a five K walk is quite significant.

Mind you, the last time I went for a five K run, it probably took me about as long as a 5K walk. I'm not a natural runner, so I stick to walking, but it's like I have to walk for like an hour a day. I mean, I haven't got an hour in the day, you know, I don't wanna walk for an hour in the day.

It's boring. So we break it up. I don't walk an hour at a time. I think I walk roughly an hour all up, but it's spaced, right? You don't have to do it all at once.

The things that I have in this bingo card are bite-sized.

There are 25 different things, and you can choose to do a square a day.

You might do a couple of squares on a day over different walks. There might be some gaps in between gaps, whichever. There's no timeline for this. So the first one, walk 4,000 steps.

4,000 tends to be around half an hour, depending on how quickly you walk. It might take a bit longer, it might take you less time. For me, my morning walk is roughly 4,000 steps, and then I'll do some more later.

Walking alone is the next one on the card.

Walking by yourself can be a significant anxiety hurdle to overcome.

You may feel less safe walking by yourself.

Now, I don't put a time limit or a step limit around this.

Whatever you can do if you haven't walked by yourself before and it's a big obstacle, just walk to the letterbox, walk around the block, walk somewhere that feels quite safe for you to walk.


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A Creating Connection Podcast by Kim Ross, Psychologist.

Positive Young Minds

Download your free Walking is Awesome Bingo Card


BEFORE YOU GO, CAN YOU DO ME A FAVOUR? If you like this episode, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes, and share it with your friends.    If you would like to help others understand how connection matters leaving a review is one of the best ways to do this.  If you do so please let me know so I can read it on in an upcoming podcast.

Thank you.  And until next time, take care of yourself. Kim xx


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Oct 04, 202317:28
The power of a clarity bubble in creating a walking habit.

The power of a clarity bubble in creating a walking habit.

Mental barriers to leaving the house. 0:00

    • Do you struggle with anxiety and avoidance, feeling overwhelmed by the thought of leaving the house?

  • Recognizing and managing inner dialogue. 1:18

    • Reflecting on inner dialogue and thoughts, seeking to understand and manage their impact.

  • Finding clarity and purpose through self-reflection. 2:42

    • Daily habits and values, the power of clarity and aligning habits with your desired life path.

  • Overcoming addiction and negative thoughts. 4:33

    • Personal growth and realization of negative thoughts and feelings after recognising avoidance and addictive habits.

  • Creating a walking habit for mental health. 6:15

    • Committing to a walking habit, despite lack of motivation.

    • A walking program can be a great support to your mental health journey.


      www.positiveyoungminds.com.au


Sep 24, 202309:60
For Therapists - Making Networking less Scary
Aug 01, 202338:26
How far should you walk?

How far should you walk?

Walking is Awesome waitlisted - https://bit.ly/3PpsSCg. Walking is Awesome Facebook group - https://m.facebook.com/groups/239630682328595/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF
Jul 29, 202309:56
Why blocking out time for yourself may not work

Why blocking out time for yourself may not work

Creating healthy habits relies on flexibility, not rigid planning.
Jul 22, 202309:55
Why chasing health goals is so difficult.

Why chasing health goals is so difficult.

Have you been told you should walk? Maybe that’s what’s getting in the way.

In this episode

  • What is getting in the way of you walking? 0:02
    • What can be getting in the way of you walking is how you are talking to yourself about it, such as external-focused words such as should have.
  • Why do you not follow through on your health goals? 1:28
    • A lot of people take up positive healthy habits after a major scare, but many of them find it too difficult to consolidate the changes.
  • Letting go of excuses, barriers and reasons for not following through with a health commitment . 2:32
    • Your mind loves to 'help' you by using words of 'encouragement' - telling you you have to, need to, must, and should, do things. This is counterproductive.
    • Hands up if you love it when people tell you what to do.
    • The first step is letting go of excuses, barriers, reasons and instead focus on the language you are using.
  • Owning your thoughts and feelings. 5:26
    • The next step is to own the thoughts and feelings that are coming up, and how you feel when you write them.
  • Creating a space for choice. 7:13
    • A brain dump gives you clarity and leaves space for choice.
    • The next step is to play with decision and choice words and see how they sound.


    Join the Walking is Awesome program, or work one on one with me to establish a long term walking habit that you want to do.

    https://bit.ly/3PpsSCg.


    If you found this episode useful, I would appreciate a review, as it helps others find the Creating Connections Podcast.

    If you have suggestions for future topics, you are warmly welcome to email me at walkingisawesome@proton.me.



Jul 15, 202310:01
Walking and Belonging
Jun 29, 202312:29
How to challenge anxiety using walking.
Jun 23, 202307:35
Stop telling people to 'Put your oxygen mask on first'.
Jun 14, 202315:38
From walking is boring to walking is awesome

From walking is boring to walking is awesome

Walking doesn't have to be a chore.


Yes, it's 'good for you', and often suggested as a exercise to improve mental and physical health, and it's benefits are supported by research, especially in conjunction with medication and/or therapy.


But when something is good for you, it can become associated with guilt if you're not doing it.


I share with you one of the reasons why I appreciate the power of walking and one of the strategies I used, and still use to reinforce my daily walk habit.


The Walking is Awesome program wants to help you love the process of your daily walk, not just the results.


Join the Walking is Awesome waitlist - subscribepage.io/ejYJGC

Jun 07, 202310:10
Creating Connection through Speed Networking

Creating Connection through Speed Networking

Speed networking can sound scary. It's loud and quick and not for the fient hearted. To help you create connections that matter, here are some strategies to stand out and not get lost in the crowd. Here are a couple of quick take aways. 1. Check the font on your business cards, both the contrast and the font. Hint - give it to someone over 50 to read. 2. The people who stood out talked about the pleasure they find in being part of someone’s life and helping them within their speciality. 3. The importance of differentiating yourself when there are umpteen finance/mortgage brokers, or any multiple businesses. The people who stood out were able to articulate what they did differently, and what clients they particularly loved working with. 4. Ensure your name is on any information you give to others. 5. Take advantage of the opportunity to practice your elevator pitch over and over. You find out whether it sounds boring to your ears and because you talk to so many people you get to change it up as you go. I think I had it about right by the end. 6. The difference it makes when you tailor your pitch to the person in front of you (the hint that going second in the pairing helps you do this). I think this is what my pitch ended up sounding like at the end, note to self- next time take better notes! I’m passionate about reducing isolation and increasing connection. This is translated into supporting parents by working with them and their kids to help with anxiety, sleep problems, emotional and behavioural difficulties and school refusal. Also with parent education. And then in a non-clinical way helping mental health professionals reduce their isolation so they can keep doing great work to help others (or at least everything I said was some variation on that). If you are a mental health professional and concerned about burning out and would love to switch from traditional to fierce self-care with a focus on connection, I recommend you start here - the Time to Check In mini workbook. It will help you identify some of your biggest sources of stress and is aimed to give you structure to reflect on what is behind them.

May 18, 202316:17
Fierce Self-Care for Therapists (an episode for mental health practitioners)
Apr 27, 202325:10
Work-life boundary. The transition space where work ends and home begins.
Mar 23, 202307:48
Paying attention is the key to the change you want to happen

Paying attention is the key to the change you want to happen

Learning how to pay attention to your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a mindful way is the key to all the changes you wish to make.

Many of us engage in activities that take us away from paying attention or noticing.

Things like binge watching, gaming, reading, gambling, drinking, scrolling, eating.

Any behaviour that takes us away from what you are feeling, thinking, experiencing may be helpful or not.

There are two facts here:

• Increasing your awareness can be difficult and painful.

• Reducing your awareness can be isolating and life shrinking.

With the first one – it’s a caution that increased awareness needs to be monitored. So before diving into any mindfulness based program engage someone experienced who can act as a guide (like me ;) ).

For most people, it’s worth it, because among the downsides to NOT increasing awareness is numbness, disconnection, denial, and a small life.

To ease into it we're going to start with the practice of savouring.  Choosing something you love and giving it your full attention. Have yourself a tiny little experience.

The first bite of something. Your morning coffee, A flower, the wind, a piece of music.

1. Do just this one thing.

2. Use your senses to fully experience this moment.

You can record it in a journal or keep it as a visual memory.

One reminder to engage in savouring, is if you feel the urge to take a take a photo of something, savour it first.

Mar 17, 202318:23
Three ways to regain your parenting confidence.

Three ways to regain your parenting confidence.

Three ways to regain your parenting confidence.  

It's easy to lose your confidence as a parent, starting with preparing to become pregnant.   

There are so many stages where it's easy to lose confidence.
preparing to be pregnant

being pregnant

giving birth

the first milestones - sleeping, feeding,developing

kindergarten

the education process.  

Three ways to gain confidence:

stop comparing your child and you with everyone else

letting go of the shoulds/expectations

increasing your range of identities   

https://www.halaxy.com/book/mrs-kim-dunn/psychologist/18816/518581If you'd like to book an individual session - https://www.halaxy.com/book/mrs-kim-dunn/psychologist/18816/518581.


Mar 07, 202318:14
Anxiety, depression, bullying and belonging: why I became a micro business owner
Feb 07, 202314:51
About the Creating Connection Podcast

About the Creating Connection Podcast

About the Creating Connection Podcast

Jan 25, 202301:40
Why is it so hard to change my habits?

Why is it so hard to change my habits?

Why is it so hard to change my habits?

One of the main reasons it's so hard to change your habits is the amount of myths circulating about habit change.    

The five myths this video busts about habit change are:   

1. It takes 21 days to make a habit. Nope.  It can take up to a year to create a new habit. Depends on the habit and on your individual circumstances  

2. You are getting rid of your old habits. Nope  You don’t get rid of old patterns of behaviour, they’re there under the surface. waiting to be reactivated, particularly when you are under stress. What you are doing is creating new habits, with different neural pathways. Over time they will strengthen and become your go to neural track - they will become a stronger habit and pattern of behaviour than your old one.  

3. You just need more motivation. Nope.  Motivation is not enough to sustain change. It can kickstart momentum and provide you with a part of your reason for change, but it's not the how.  

4. Failing means you aren't capable of meeting the goal, or you are lacking in motivation. Nope  Failure, or relapse is a normal part of the behaviour change cycle.  

5. If you tell myself often enough that you can do it you will. Nope.  Positive affirmations can do more harm than good. An affirmation is a statement of truth. If what you are saying out loud does not match how you think or feel about yourself, this can create increased inner turmoil and disconnection from your authentic self, making it harder to create and sustain a new healthy lifestyle.  

So if motivation and giving yourself pep talks doesn't work, what does?  Starting from a base of awareness and acceptance. Knowing where you are and what you are currently experiencing allows you to recenter, connect and keep going.


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Creating Connection is a podcast by Kim Ross, Psychologist.  It is for mums, micro business owners and mental health professionals. 


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Jan 25, 202319:10
MOVE- how to get off your chair and out the door
Jan 05, 202309:39
PODCAST IN MY POCKET

PODCAST IN MY POCKET

A quick podcast my pocket. The loneliness loop and , the human need to belong
Nov 12, 202106:29
7 reasons why you MUST set work boundaries
Jun 02, 202125:59
Pops of calm. Eating oranges and bliss.
May 28, 202105:11
What does being connected feel like?
May 26, 202110:33
5 simple ways to listen

5 simple ways to listen

Being fully present in a conversation can be really tough.

In this episode I share five simple strategies about how you can be there fro someone else when they want to talk to you.  Whether it's about something super important or whether it's a 'normal' conversation and you want to strengthen and deepen your relationship with them.

What are the five strategies?

Letting go of expectations

Putting your phone away

Listening with intent to connect, not fix

Creating some boundaries for yourself

Bringing yourself back to the moment.


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Thank you for joining me on Creating Connection.

What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen and deepen the connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Facebook - @kimdunnpsych

Instagram - @kimdunnpsychologist

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-dunn/

Resources -  Self-Care Hub for Psychologists

Until next time, be kind, take care of yourself and go gently.

Kim xx


May 19, 202116:15
How to network when you are socially awkward

How to network when you are socially awkward

Did you know that you are part of a network, whether you want to be or not?

Yep,  a network is a group of people who are connected to each other.  Whether that be directly or indirectly.  For example your closest friend is part of your network and so is there cousin who comes out with you from time to time.

Your teachers, your boss, your LinkedIn connections, the people in your team.  Anyone you communicate with on a regular or irregular basis AND anyone they communicate with AND anyone they can communicate with.

Some people are close connections, and some more distant.  And others in your network you can only access through someone else.

There are undoubtable benefits to having a good network.  Including better mental health through increased connections.  Also more job or referral opportunities, more opportunities for growth and protection against burnout.  And conversely small networks can contribute to increased loneliness and isolation and insular perspectives.

But what if you’re socially awkward?

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Thank YOU for joining me on Creating Connection.  

What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown 

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

 If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world. 

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. 

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  


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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Facebook - @kimdunnpsych

Instagram - @kimdunnpsychologist

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-dunn/

Resources -  Self-Care Hub for Psychologists

Until next time, be kind, take care of yourself and go gently.


Kim xx

May 13, 202123:47
How your Mental health gets in the way of forming connections

How your Mental health gets in the way of forming connections

Poor mental health, such as chronic anxiety and/or depression can grossly interfere with your ability to connect with and trust yourself, and connect with others.   In this episode I touch on some signs that this might be happening to you. If you have been experiencing poor mental health for a long time, seek help sooner rather than later.  Everyone's mental health journey is different.  Some people experience brief period of poor mental health, for others it is a life time commitment to manage.  Creating connection is one element of an overall intentional self-care plan.   You can access a range of resources that can help here, or seek out individual help through your therapist, GP or other trained support.   

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Thank YOU for joining me on Creating Connection.  What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. "Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.” ― Brené Brown To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world. If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. 


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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Facebook - @kimdunnpsych

Instagram - @kimdunnpsychologist

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-dunn/

Resources -  Self-Care Hub for Psychologists

Until next time, be kind, take care of yourself and go gently.

Kim xx

Apr 05, 202112:43
9 keys to successful habit creation.

9 keys to successful habit creation.

As you work through introducing new habits in your life, here are 9 keys that can help.  These include practicing self-compassion, structure and 


Click here to download your copy of the Creating Habits Checklist.  



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Thank YOU for joining me on Creating Connection.  What does connection mean to you?  I see it as the antidote to loneliness that is so prevalent throughout the world. 

"Connection is the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”
Brené Brown

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.


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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

Facebook - @kimdunnpsych

Instagram - @kimdunnpsychologist

LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-dunn/

Resources -  Self-Care Hub for Psychologists

Until next time, be kind, take care of yourself and go gently.

Kim xx

Mar 09, 202117:27
How to create habits that stick - The process of change and SMART goals

How to create habits that stick - The process of change and SMART goals

In this episode I discuss the six steps in the process of change and SMART goals.

Click here for the handout on the Stages of Change and SMART goals. 

For more information about the process of change - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model#cite_note-Prochaska2005-1.


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Thank YOU for listening.

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections is an important part of Intentional Self-Care.  To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.


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I love hearing your feedback, questions and observations.

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Resources -  Self-Care Hub for Psychologists

Until next time, be kind, take care of yourself and go gently.

Kim xx

Mar 03, 202118:17
Stop doing all the things!

Stop doing all the things!

FOCUS

  • Declutter what you are no longer interested in
  • Commit one thing at a time.  One course, one membership
  • Stop gathering more followers - connect with those you already have.
  • Regularly checking in - what do you need?
  • Check in with the quality of your existing connections. Can they be strengthened?

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Thank YOU for listening.

If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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Click here for intentional self-care strategy resources.

You can email me here.

Until next time, take care of yourself, and treat yourself as well as you treat your clients.

Kim xx

Feb 24, 202118:03
How to control your work (over) load

How to control your work (over) load

Do you remember the rush of starting your first job, or a new job?

Excitement, nerves, anticipation, energy, enthusiasm.  Wanting to do your best and make a good impression.  Perhaps a bit of Imposter Syndrome standing beside you giving you encouraging words like – “Are you sure you’re up to it?”

You expect in those early times for the work to take longer, as you are on a learning curve.  So working outside normal hours is OK because you are learning and it will get quicker and easier.  Stepping in and covering when someone is sick to answer the phones or attend to reception is OK because you are part of a team now, and there’s no money to pay a casual receptionist.  Skipping breaks to finish a report is OK because there’s a deadline and that’s important.

It’s so easy when you start something new, want to make a good impression, or are working extra hard due to Imposter Syndrome to say ‘that’s OK’ or YES – “I can do that”.  Then all these OKs add up to work (over) load.  You don't have enough time, you are doing too much, you are doing irrelevant work

Or, if you are a solo practitioner the process is similar, except in this case you are telling yourself it’s ok to work outside the hours you have set for yourself.  And that it’s OK for you to do everything.

Until it's not.

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Thank YOU for listening.  

Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.  

And if you know others who need to hear this, please forward this to them. If you like this episode and want to put more intentional self-care into your life,  subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. 

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. 

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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Click here for intentional self-care strategy resources.

You can email me here.

Until next time, take care of yourself, and treat yourself as well as you treat your clients.

Kim xx

Feb 17, 202120:40
Are you vulnerable to being bullied?

Are you vulnerable to being bullied?

Hands up if you thought that becoming a mental health professional meant you were entering a field where mental health would be important. Where perhaps your workplace, professional organisations and peers would understand and facilitate environments where mental health was prioritised? 

Me too. 

I worked for many years in various Government departments before becoming a psychologist. There were definitely signs of nepotism and frustrations with the type of work and other work places stressors - which weren’t healthy, but personally I don’t think I experienced any bullying or vitriol. (a little bit of sexual harassment - but that’s another story). 

And I certainly didn’t think that the Mental Health Industry would be worse! 

One of the problems we have as psychologists is a lack of power and the shame and stigma of bullying. So, join me as we dive in to look at possible sources of bullying within the Mental Health Industry. -


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Thank YOU for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.  And if you know others who need to hear this, please forward this to them. If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career. To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  . By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

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You can access my ESSENTIAL SELF-CARE FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS PROGRAM and other resources click here. 

You can email me here

Until next time, take care of yourself, and treat yourself as well as you treat your clients.. 


Kim xx

Feb 10, 202119:17
How to make Imposter Syndrome your best business buddy.

How to make Imposter Syndrome your best business buddy.

I can almost guarantee if you are listening to this you have experienced Imposter Syndrome. When I first graduated I had this big time! And when I became a mother, and when I first went to Uni. It keeps popping up! It describes the feeling when you are in a situation where you are ‘expected’ to know things and to be able to perform at a particular level when you are not feeling ready for it.

It’s that voice that says - you are not good enough.

But with an attitude of openness and curiosity, your Imposter Syndrome can be your best business ally and help you prevent burnout.  

Listen to what it is telling you and use that feedback to step into your doubt and fear in a productive and sustainable way.

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THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that you are hearing what you need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies, you CAN strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

To access my ESSENTIAL SELF-CARE FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS PROGRAM and other resources click here.

To contact me email me here.

Until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx

Feb 03, 202117:28
Intentional networking: What it is, and, how it can help YOU save time, feel energised, and achieve YOUR dreams.

Intentional networking: What it is, and, how it can help YOU save time, feel energised, and achieve YOUR dreams.

Once you know where you are and where you want to get to, intentional networking can help bridge the gap, (and save you some time in going down endless rabbit holes.).

Networking has been said to be 'connecting people with people, people with ideas and people with opportunities' - Michele Jennae

  • You want to share your knowledge and experiences to help others (paid/unpaid - coaching/mentoring/workshops) [add value]. This is a common talked about reason for hopping on to a social media platform - but lets expand that a little bit…..  Other important intentional reasons for networking include:
  • You want to learn from other people’s experiences and wisdom (paid/unpaid - coaching/mentoring/workshops).
  • You want to meet people you can sell to
  • You want to meet people who know people or work with people you can sell to
  • You are looking for opportunities to collaborate, talk, podcast, event
  • You have opportunities to collaborate, talk, podcast, event you would like to share with others
  • You are lonely and want to meet people with like minded values and goals to share the ups and downs of your journey
  • You love the process of connecting and hearing about others stories.

So decide which one of these will be your your MAIN focus.  Decide on this before hopping on your social media networking platform. 

Additional reflections.

1. Do I need to meet more people?

2. Do I need to deepen and explore the connections I have. For example if you look at your existing social network are there people in there who could possibly fit one of these reasons you are hopping on social networks. If there are, is there a reason you are not exploring this connection further?

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THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.


Creating connections in the mental health professional world is essential to avoid burnout, and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.


RESOURCES

To access my 7 STEP DIGITAL DETOX PROGRAM or the ESSENTIAL SELF-CARE FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS PROGRAM and other resources click here.

To contact me email me here.

Until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx


Jan 27, 202128:15
Simplify your online world in five steps

Simplify your online world in five steps

You know networking is important, and that connection is important to help avoid burnout and set yourself up for a successful and sustainable career.  So you reach out and friend and follow others, and they reach out and follow you and before you know it you are connected to all these people you don't actually know.  And you aren't connecting with the people you want to connect with.  So what do you do?  Here are five steps.

INTENT

Be very clear on your purpose for networking, then you can curate and grow your network intentionally.

AUDIT

Look at your list of contacts - LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram.

  • Do they fit into your reason/purpose for networking? 
  • Do these people fit your values?
  • Do they engage in ethical behaviour?
  • Do you trust them?
  • Are they people you would (or think you would) enjoy having a cup of coffee with?
  • Have you liked any dealings you have had with them in the past?
  • Do you think they might be ‘using’ you?
  • Do you feel energised when interacting with them?

INTROSPECTION

  • Look at the quality of YOUR interactions with others..
  • If you don’t want to have someone as part of your network anymore - unfollow, change your notifications, leave groups, don’t react to anything they post - they will stop showing up in your feed. If they are toxic - then delete, unfriend etc.

CONFIDENCE IN CONNECTION

If you do want them in your network, and, want to strengthen the connection look at what YOU can share/offer.  

It can be a perspective, an insight, a question, an opinion, a challenge, a story/experience, gratitude, an idea, the ability to share someones ideas/work with someone else - to be a link in the network.

PLANNING AND PATIENCE

Look ahead. what would you love to be doing? Who would you love to work with? what area would you love to work in? (this calls for knowing yourself, your values, your goals - allowing yourself to dream and connect in with the authentic you_

Don’t let Imposter Syndrome get in the way!


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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and prolonged career.

To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

7 STEP DIGITAL DETOX PROGRAM  to access this program and other resources click here.

To contact me email me here.

THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx

Jan 20, 202120:05
Why you still feel exhausted after your break, and the next step to take up
Jan 15, 202120:57
How labels in the Mental Health Profession are an obstacle to connection, and what you can do about it

How labels in the Mental Health Profession are an obstacle to connection, and what you can do about it

Whether you are a psych, psychiatrist, mental health nurse, mental health social worker, mental health OT, counsellor, or are working in a different capacity in the mental health field, we share something in common. An inbuilt desire to help others improve their mental health.

Not many people know how it feels to sit in acceptance with another human being. To encourage people to share with your their deepest thoughts, the ones that keep them up at night, that stop them forming relationships and loving others, from loving themselves.

And then through the deepest caring and understanding help them lead better, more fulfilling lives.

You and me, we are part of an exclusive club.

Now I don’t know about you but ever since I graduated I’ve had a love/hate relationship with my label. The result of which is division, judgement, ego driven decisions made by professional bodies; and as peers we get engaged in justification discussions, energy zapping (Maybe you’re noticing an internal dialogue about this with yourself as you are listening/reading).

Labels have their purpose but….

when we talk in the short hand of labels, there is the risk of losing the nuances and humanity and we top seeing each other as people first.

MY TIPS

Commit yourself to

  1. seeing the MHP as a person first
  2. seeing their abilities
  3. understanding your abilities and speaking to those
  4. making referrals to the most appropriate MHP you know that can help with a presenting problem.
  5. noticing and compartmentalising the it’s not fair talk (like I needed/need to do)

Some journal prompts / guiding questions

What skills do you need in your referral network.

What do I do well?

What do I need help with - who may be able to help me with this?

What next?

  • Declutter - ask yourself if groups you are in / connections you have are showing appropriate levels of acceptance and tolerance.
  • A reminder that for the month of January – I am gifting you the 7 Step Digital Detox Program in return for an authentic review and/or a share or recommendation.


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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and sustainable career.

To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES To access free and paid resources click here.  

To contact me email me here.

THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx


Jan 13, 202125:27
How even a short Digital Detox can help you tap into what is important to you and clarify your needs.

How even a short Digital Detox can help you tap into what is important to you and clarify your needs.

When I started as a new solo private mental health practitioner – it was drilled into me that I had to be visible on social media.  Maybe you’ve heard the same thing.  However, what is the opportunity cost here?

To mark the start of the New Year I planned a 3 day digital detox.  I was so excited and committed that I wrote up the 7 Step Digital Detox Program.  The first step of which is to do some digital decluttering.  Just like in real life, it didn't go perfectly....

This is what I journalled on the first day. “It’s 7.49.  I’ve been up for about 60-90 minutes and I already feel like my left arms has been chopped off.  I’m missing that thrill, excitement of being online, see what everyone is up to”.  But then, as what tends to happen when you allow ourself (maybe even force yourself) to experience some quietness, other insights and clarification happen.  "I am more than my productivity".


Special offer - I am currently gifting the 7 Step Digital Detox Program to you if you kindly leave this podcast a review and/or share the podcast or recommend it to a mental health professional you know.  Simple send me a screenshot or tag me and I'll send you the gift code .


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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and prolonged career.  

To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. 

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies,  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here.

THANK YOU so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.


Until next time, take care of yourself.


Kim xx

Jan 05, 202118:04
How do you connect with other mental health professionals? Five steps.

How do you connect with other mental health professionals? Five steps.

As a (solo private) mental health practitioner I know how easy it is to feel isolated.  For many years I worked for a government organisation, and for better or worse, there was always someone you could have a quick chat with.  It’s one of the reasons I worked for headspace for a while – so that I knew there would be people around I could touch base with.

This podcast shows you how you don’t need to work for an organisation to create your own connection network.  

To develop a network of people you can trust, to prolong your career and avoid burnout, to stay in your lane and create your own splash, I recommend these five steps.

1.  Listen to what YOU need for support, for your career (authenticity)

2.  Think about the people you want to be supported by.  Don’t be quick to jump into a connection, but listen to the tone.  State clearly your opinion and see what happens.

3.  The online world is quite small.  Keep your eyes and ears open.

4.  Own what you can provide/offer to a relationship. Be proud of your gifts and don’t be easily swayed by others.

5.  Create and take advantages of opportunities.

In an ironic twist you may not have seen coming, I invite you to step away from social media and switch off to connect first with yourself.  

If true connection is having someone who understands and gets the real you.  You need to ensure you allow the real you to shine through.

Special New Year Bonus - valid until the end of January 2021.  If you are kind enough to leave my podcast a rating or review and/or share it with another mental health professional your know, send me a screenshot and I will gift you my new program 7 Steps to Digital Detox Program (valued at $47).

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Connection in the mental health professional world can be difficult, but is necessary to avoid burnout and to have a satisfying and prolonged career.  To increase connection  start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for how we are all connected to create positive change in the world.  .

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. 

If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here.

THANK YOU Thank you so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Thank you. And until next time, take care of yourself.


Kim xx

Dec 31, 202019:55
Getting started with a digital detox

Getting started with a digital detox

How to tame your social media is a glimpse into the 7 Step Digital Detox Program.  In this episode I outline the main yardstick for curating your social media. This is one way to create more opportunities for deeper connection and understanding of yourself, and be more available to those in your physical space.  The full program is available now at https://positiveyoungminds.vipmembervault.com. 

** Special New Year Bonus.  If you are kind enough to leave my podcast a rating or review, send me a screenshot and I will gift you my new program 7 Steps to Digital Detox Program (valued at $47).

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Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truely cares or understands you.  To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for the natural world.  

By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life. If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be. Using gentle, simple and practical strategies  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world. 

RESOURCES To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here. 

THANK YOU Thank you so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.  

If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes. I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well. 

Thank you. And until next time, take care of yourself.

Dec 23, 202013:41
How do you feel right now? Five things that may be getting in the way of you being able to answer that question

How do you feel right now? Five things that may be getting in the way of you being able to answer that question

If someone asks you how you are feeling, what do you reply?  In this episode I look at five reasons why your answer may not be helping you.

You can find the  7 Step Digital Detox Program discussed in the episode here..  


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If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.  

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here.

THANK YOU

Thank you so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.  If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.     

 I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.    

Thank you.  

And until next time, take care of yourself.


Kim xx

Dec 16, 202010:49
5 lessons from my cherry tree

5 lessons from my cherry tree

With so much written about connection and finding your authentic self, it can become overwhelming.  My aim is to help you with this gently, and simply.  

You can deepen connection with yourself and the world around you wherever you are.  In the episode I use my relationship with my cherry tree as an example of everyday mindful connection.

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Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truely cares or understands you.  To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for the natural world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.
If this sound a bit overwhelming, it doesn't have to be.

Using gentle, simple and practical strategies  you can strengthen connection with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here.

THANK YOU

Thank you so much for listening.  Everytime I see that someone else has listened to an episode, I think of them and give thanks that my words are connecting with someone, wherever they are and I hope that they are hearing what they need.  If you like this episode, please subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes.

I am always keen to hear of what questions you would like me to answer, or what topics you would like me to talk about.  And if you know a great guest for the podcast you can let me know that as well.

Thank you.

And until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx

Dec 11, 202008:47
Two Christmas Books - a reading.

Two Christmas Books - a reading.

A reading of two Christmas Books Jesus' Christmas Party by Nicholas Allan and Wombat Divine by Mem Fox.
I also mention the picture book (without words) A Small Miracle by Peter Collington.
This is a bonus episode of Creating Connections that Matter.
Sharing books with your children can be a wonderful connection activity. The ritual of reading before bed, even if it is the same book 100 times, is such a special opportunity to slow down, relax and allow the words to take you away.

Dec 11, 202009:42
How to create a journaling habit.

How to create a journaling habit.

Journaling can help you find and connect with your authentic self.
Have you ever felt lost?

Like me, have you felt that somewhere along the way you took a wrong turn, veered of the path, or just became bamboozled with what life threw at you?
It can feel like a battle to create your own space in a world that is often driven by consumerism, material success and 'progress'.
However, there is a growing movement of people who know that tapping into personal and universal energy can create a sense of oneness and wholeness that transcends the artificial.
One way of reconnecting with your authentic self is through writing, or journaling. If you have never tried tapping into the thoughts and emotions inside you in this way, I encourage you to give it a go.
However, many people find there is a slight problem with this.  
Maybe you have experienced putting aside the time, sitting down to write....and then
....your mind goes blank.
You know that your mind isn't actually blank.  In fact you have 10's of 1,000s of thoughts each day.  
What is probably stopping  you is not getting it right.

In this episode I touch on how to journal, and bust one of the most common misconception about journaling. 

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Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truely cares or understands you.  To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for the natural world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.

How can you feel more connected?  Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist,  as I delve into providing you with practical strategies to help you connect with yourself, others and the natural world.

RESOURCES

To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.  To contact me you can email me here.

BEFORE YOU GO I HAVE A FAVOUR TO ASK

If you like this episode, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes, and share with your friends.    If you would like to help others understand how connection matters leaving a review is one of the best ways to do this.  If you do so please let me know so I can read it on in an upcoming podcast.

Thank you.  And until next time, take care of yourself.


Kim xx

Dec 01, 202014:02
Creating Christmas Calm through managing expectations

Creating Christmas Calm through managing expectations

In this episode, I explore expectations and confidence around Christmas and reducing Christmas Stress.  What is on your 'should do' list and what is on your 'want to do' list?  Do they overlap at all?  And what to do about it. What happens when you step back and simply observe all the expectations and how it feels to have them?  Look at them again.  Where have they come from?  Are they necessary, and important, do they enhance Christmas time? You can see the ‘shoulds’ and ‘have tos’ for what they are; they aren’t rules by which you have to live by, they aren’t absolute truths, they are just thoughts your mind is holding on to.  By seeing this you can you can choose to let go of expectations that have no meaning or satisfaction for you. And knowing this you can choose.   Making your own choices You can choose to participate in activities leading up to Christmas that you value. That brings joy to your heart and that of your family.  You can choose activities that focus on kindness, gratitude, and togetherness.  You don’t need to be religious to tap into the goodwill that exists at this time of the year when most people are actively trying to make other people happy.   There is a lot of freedom that comes with being an adult and having so many choices to make.  We might feel the heavy weight of expectations, but when we lose that weight it is not just freeing, it also exposes us and makes us vulnerable.  I think that is one reason why treading your own path at Christmas, in line with your values and not others' expectations, is so difficult, but for you, it might be the path to your Christmas calm, connection and confidence. ----------------------------- Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truly cares or understands you.  To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; and then of a deep appreciation for the natural world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into your life. How can you feel more connected?  Join me, Kim Ross, Psychologist,  as I delve into providing you with practical strategies to help you connect with yourself, others and the natural world.

BEFORE YOU GO, CAN YOU DO ME A FAVOUR? If you like this episode, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes, and share with your friends.    If you would like to help others understand how connection matters leaving a review is one of the best ways to do this.  If you do so please let me know so I can read it on in an upcoming podcast.

Thank you.  And until next time, take care of yourself. Kim xx


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Kim Ross, Psychologist and Founder of Positive Young Minds

www.positiveyoungminds.com.au




Nov 25, 202012:59
Why you need to get rid of your books

Why you need to get rid of your books

Each year leading up to Christmas when we ask ourselves what we want for Christmas, I find this an inspiring time to actually look at what I have.  We know that if you are looking to increase the happiness in your life that putting time and energy into experiences rather than things is the way to go.

However, things have a way of accumulating.  Whether you have bought them with good intentions or whether they have come to you as gifts or through other means.  And before you know it even things you love can just become part of ‘stuff everywhere’!

Curating your stuff can be a great way of reconnecting with what is important to you and creating an uplifting environment.

Let’s start by looking at books.

Growing up we had a set of World Book encyclopedias.  I loved them.  You could open up at any page and learn something new about the world.  Looking at them gave me a sense of wonder and thirst for knowledge.  I probably loved my fantasy books (Enid Blyton anyone?) where I went into worlds where anything and everything was possible.

It’s the promise contained in books that I love.

As I grew older my relationship with books became a bit more complicated.  Books I had to read – school novels, reference books.  Books I thought I should read – parenting books, self-help books.  And instead of being always about pleasure books also became a mirror reminding me of things I didn’t understand, couldn’t learn or highlighted my inadequacies.

Do you love all your books?  Do you smile when you see them, refer to them regularly and rejoice in their wisdom?

OR

Are their books on your bookshelf that taunt you with reminders about your failures?  Cookbooks full of recipes you haven’t tried.  Self-help books with exercises you haven’t completed.  Novels you haven’t read.  Parenting books that seem to mock you.  Reference books you don’t use (or are way out of date).

Listen to find out what to do about them.  You can also read the blog here


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How can I feel more connected?  Join me, Kim Dunn, Psychologist,  as I delve into providing you with practical strategies to help you connect with yourself, others and the natural world.  

Loneliness often stems from a belief that no-one truely cares or understands you.  To increase connection you start with an authentic and accepting understanding of yourself; then of others; then of a deep appreciation for the natural world.  By embracing your authenticity you invite confidence and calm into you life.  

RESOURCES

To find out more about creating connection, calm and confidence click here.


BEFORE YOU GO I HAVE A FAVOUR TO ASK

If you like this episode, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss upcoming episodes, and share with your friends.  

If you would like to help others understand how connection matters leaving a review is one of the best ways to do this.  If you do so please let me know so I can read it on in an upcoming podcast. 


Thank you.  And until next time, take care of yourself.

Kim xx

Nov 17, 202015:26
Connect with your calm through a guided visualisation (for kids and adults).
Sep 11, 202010:52