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Connecting with Dr. Kim Swales

Connecting with Dr. Kim Swales

By Dr. Kim Swales
Do you want to learn how to connect and communicate better in your relationships? Dr. Kim Swales and rotating guests will discuss parenting, marriage, dating, friendship, family, relationships and self-growth in this podcast about connecting better in life. Episodes will include the latest research, real-life stories, listener questions and practical tips that will help you create and maintain happier and healthier connections. Tune in each Thursday for a new episode.

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Episode 23: The Biological Impact of Grief, Stress and Major Life Events

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Episode 33: Regret with Dr. Chris Gonzalez
In this episode, Kim has an in depth conversation with therapist and Lipscomb University faculty member, Chris Gonzalez about regret. They talk about what regret is and how it impacts us emotionally and relationally. They talk about guilt and shame, humility and vulnerability. Dr. Gonzalez shares a six step process for building a healthy relationship with regret.  It is something that can really hep us all process and work through regret. We all suffer from regret at various times in our life and this episode will help you get "unstuck" if you have been weighed down by regret.  Dr. Chris Gonzalez is the program Director of the Marriage and Family Therapy Master's program at Lipscomb University in Nashville, TN. He earned a Ph.D. in Family Social Science from the University of Minnesota and a Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy from Abilene Christian University.  His purpose in life is to heal his own wounds and help others do the same.  His treasure is his wife, Gail, daughter Sierra, and son Canaan.  You can find Dr. Gonzalez at Follow Dr. Gonzalez on 
May 13, 2021
Episode 32: Mom Brain with Dr. Ilyse DiMarco
Kim’s guest this week is Dr. Ilyse DiMarco, author of the new book, Mom Brain. Kim and Dr. DiMarco have a candid conversation about the chaos of the “mom brain” and how to cope with all of the emotional and cognitive demands of motherhood. They talk about comparison, social media and “mom-shaming.” They discuss the expectations of motherhood versus the reality, how to craft your new mom identity and dealing with perfectionism. They give suggestions for finding mom friends, sharing responsibilities with your partner, asking for what you want and dealing with boundaries and in-laws. This is a great listen for new moms and veteran moms alike. Dr. DiMarco offers really great advice and a down-to-earth perspective. Order Dr. DiMarco's Book- Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood– and Relax into your New Self ( Instagram: Twitter: Washington Post article: New York Times article:
May 6, 2021
Episode 31: Raising Thrivers with Dr. Michele Borba
In this episode, Kim interviews Dr. Michele Borba on her new book, Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Other Shine. Dr. Borba shares the seven characteristics that parents can teach their kids to promote resilience. Kim and Dr. Borba talk about how to raise thrivers instead of strivers. They talk about how parenting out of fear or overprotection paralyzes kids and leaves them unprepared for adulthood. They also discuss learning from mistakes, integrity, empathy and intrinsic motivation. This is an excellent episode for parents, teachers, coaches and anyone who works with kids. You can find Dr. Borba at Instagram: Twitter: Thrivers: The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine -
April 29, 2021
Episode 30: Women’s Friendships
Women are feeling lonelier than ever and wanting more friendships, but sometimes it is difficult to make friends. Kim and her guest Emily Siegel, host of The Connected Mom Life Podcast, talk about finding friends in different seasons of life. They share how to make new friends, be a good friend and show up for your friends. Then they discuss how to rebuild a friendship, let one go and break into a new friend group. They also talk about how to model good, healthy friendships for your kids. This episode has bits of friendship wisdom for everyone.  You can find Emily at  Instagram:  Facebook:  Helpful Reads-  Codependent No More (  MWF Seeking BFF: My Year-Long Search For A New Best Friend (
April 22, 2021
Episode 29: Self-Compassion and Self-Care with Dr. Kerry Luke
In this episode, Kim talks with Dr. Kerry Luke about the stressors we have all been facing in the last year and in life in general. They talk about what self-care really is and why it is important. Listen in as they talk about social media, comparison, surviving during the pandemic and friendship. They also discuss taking care of everyone else while still trying to take care of ourselves. Follow Kerry on Instagram: Kerry’s Website: (it’s under construction right now) Other resources: (Dr. Kristin Neff’s website and quiz) Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at
April 15, 2021
Episode 28: Raising Worry-Free, Brave Girls with Sissy Goff
Kim and Sissy have an in-depth conversation about anxiety and girls. They talk about how anxiety has become an epidemic and how we can help girls cope with anxiety and stress. They specifically discuss current pressures on both parents and kids that are factors in anxiety today such as school, friendships, social media and COVID. Sissy offers insightful and practical advice to help girls become brave, worry-free, confident and resilient. You can find Sissy here at & Instagram: Books by Sissy Goff: Braver, Stronger, Smarter Raising Worry-Free Girls Brave: A Teen Girl’s Guide to Beating Worry and Anxiety Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at
April 8, 2021
Episode 27: Protecting Your Kids from Substance Abuse with Jessica Lahey
In this powerful episode, Kim talks to Jessica Lahey, author of The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence. They discuss the research on substance abuse and addiction. And they talk about the importance of arming our kids with information and evidence. Jessica unpacks the risks for addiction, how we can help our kids, and how we need to both model and teach them strategies. This is a MUST listen for all parents. Website: Book: The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence IG: Twitter: Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at
April 1, 2021
Episode 26: Managing your Emotions and Coping with Cancer Using DBT
Have you struggled with fear, uncertainty, a difficult medical diagnosis or cancer? In this episode, Kim interviews psychoanalyst Elizabeth Stuntz to talk about how dialectical behavior therapy can help the heavy emotions that come along with these stressful life events. They focus on coping strategies, managing strong emotions, nurturing relationships, supporting others through cancer or tough times and living with meaning. Liz also offers strategies for how to talk to your kids about a difficult medical diagnosis or cancer. You can find Liz at Book: Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage your Emotions and Balance Uncertainty with Hope - Register for her webinar: Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at
March 25, 2021
Episode 25: Understanding Narcissism with Dr. W. Keith Campbell
The interest in narcissism has skyrocketed lately due to social media, politics and increased interest in relationships. Dr. Keith Campbell, expert, and author of four books on narcissism describes the difference between typical narcissistic traits, extreme grandiose narcissism, vulnerable narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder. They discuss love bombing, gaslighting and manipulation in relationships. They also discuss how to set boundaries and deal with narcissistic people in your life. You can find Dr. Keith Campbell at The New Science of Narcissism Book: Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at
March 18, 2021
Episode 24: ADHD with Dr. Ned Hallowell
Kim interviews world authority on ADHD, Dr. Ned Hallowell. They talk about the unique and wonderful traits and strengths that come with ADHD. They discuss how important connection is in helping kids and adults with ADHD. Dr. Hallowell talks about the misconceptions of this widely diagnosed disorder and how to help people succeed. This episode is truly one of the most important ones we have done. It is full of engaging stories and practical tips for kids and adults.  You can find Dr. Hallowell at ADHD 2.0 Book:  Instagram:  Youtube:  Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at  Listen to my favorite podcast of the moment, Conversations with Warrior Women!  Podcast:  Instagram:
March 11, 2021
Episode 23: The Biological Impact of Grief, Stress and Major Life Events
In this episode, Kim talks to psychology and bioscience researcher and 4th-year graduate student, Ryan Linn Brown about the physical effects of stress on our bodies. They discuss caregiving, grief and bereavement, and emotion suppression. This episode looks at the research of the impact of our emotions on our health. Ryan Linn Brown is a 4th year Ph.D. student at Rice University. Her research focuses on investigating the biological mechanisms through which psychological stress (e.g., bereavement, spousal caregiving) dysregulates the immune, autonomic, and endocrine systems…essentially, how stress gets “under the skin.” You can find her at Instagram: Twitter: Youtube: Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color! Find your fearless, effortless hair color here at Listen to my favorite podcast of the moment, Conversations with Warrior Women! Podcast: Instagram:
March 4, 2021
Episode 22: Find Your Purpose, Align Your Values and Declutter Your Life with Erica Layne
In this episode, Kim talks to Erica Layne of The Life on Purpose Movement. If you feel overwhelmed, this episode is for you. Erica talks about finding your purpose regardless of your role in life right now. Kim and Erica talk about overconsumption, shopping to fill a void, comparison, and reducing your mental load. They offer suggestions for aligning your life with your values and what is truly important to you. They also talk about clearing out your emotional, mental, digital and physical clutter. This is a great episode if you want to simplify your life and find more meaning.  You can find Erica at "Do you know your purpose?" worksheet:  Instagram: @thelifeonpurposemovement  The Minimalist way: Minimalism strategies to declutter your life and make room for joy:  Thank you to our sponsor Della Rica Hair Color!
February 25, 2021
Episode 21: Everyday Worry, Anxiety, Hard Political Conversations and Friendships
In this episode, Kim talks with Dr. Catherine Schmidt, a licensed clinical psychologist who helps women improve their relationships, alleviate anxiety and cultivate a balanced, fulfilling life. They have an honest conversation about anxiety and everyday worry with ways to combat it. They give wisdom on how you can shift your focus. And Dr. Schmidt shares advice on how to have hard political conversations with friends and spouses. This episode has pieces of practical wisdom for everyone.  You can find Dr. Schmidt at Follow Dr. Schmidt on Instagram to stay updated on the launch of her "Relief From Anxiety" course! Instagram: @drcatherineschmidt
February 18, 2021
Episode 20: How to Add More Fun and Positivity to Your Relationship
Kim invites marriage counselor, Lori Epting, back to talk about how to maintain your relationship by adding fun, positivity and spontaneity on a more regular basis. They go back and forth sharing some of their practical suggestions for small and simple things you can do to connect with your partner in more positive ways. If you’ve been in a relationship rut or are feeling disconnected or like roommates, this episode will have so many good suggestions for you just in time for Valentine’s Day. They also share some fun date ideas.  Kim's Creative Date Ideas: Lori Epting can be found at and Her new book is called From Chaos to Connecting: A Marriage Counselor's Candid Guide for the Married Couple ( Instagram: Facebook:
February 11, 2021
Episode 19: The Parent Compass
In this episode, Kim talks to Jenn Curtis and Cindy Muchnik, authors of "The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen’s Wellness and Academic Journey in Today’s Competitive World." They discuss how we show our kids we believe in them, setting goals, and looking at how our own past impacts our parenting. They share their own parenting stories and lots of tips for how to use our compass to guide our kids. You can purchase "The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen's Wellness and Academic Journey in Today's Competitive World" here: Instagram: Facebook: Website:
February 4, 2021
Episode 18: Anxiety, OCD, Fears and Phobias in Children
In this episode, Kim talks to her colleague and anxiety expert, Dr. Ivy Ruths about anxiety in children. They go into detail about the difference between stress and diagnosable anxiety. They talk about how to teach young children to talk about their feelings and how to model handling our own anxiety in front of our kids. Dr. Ruths shares her wisdom on OCD and fears and phobias in children. She offers so many practical tips that all parents could benefit from. You can find Dr. Ivy Ruths at Instagram: Facebook: Some good books for helping kids identify their feelings: Visiting Feelings by Lauren J. Rubenstien - In My Heart: A book of feelings by Jo Witek - A little SPOT of anxiety: a story about calming your worries by Diane Alber -
January 28, 2021
Episode 17: Attachment in Relationships
In this episode, Kim explores the importance of attachment in childhood and adult relationships with specialist and author, Paula Sacks. They discuss the primary conditions for developing and providing a secure and healthy attachment in childhood. Furthermore, they talk about the four attachment styles in adults and how they impact all of our relationships in life. This episode is such an important listen for everyone. New parents or expectant parents can really learn how to help build a secure attachment style in their babies. Adults can better understand their own attachment style, where it came from and how it impacts their current relationships. You can find Paula at  Instagram: Youtube: Facebook: Paula's Books- The Importance of Love Rays: Developing Secure Attachment in Infancy and Childhood ( Love Rays Children's Story Book ( Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair ( The Attachment Project:
January 21, 2021
Episode 16: Continuing the Conversation About the College Application Process (Part 2)
As Kim and her guest, Danielle Leach, continue the conversation about the college admission process they discuss college visits and how to get a feel for a college in covid times.  In this episode, they also talk about standardized tests (ACT and SAT) and how their importance might be changing.  Finally, they talk about the pressures high schoolers face and how parents can support their kids as they navigate this process. You can find Danielle at Instagram: @daniellepleach Email:
January 14, 2021
Episode 15: Starting the College Application Process (Part 1)
In this episode, Kim has a conversation with Danielle Leach, Assistant Director of college counseling at an independent school, about starting the college application process. This is part one of a series and in this episode, they discuss how to brainstorm a list of potential colleges with your child and what factors to consider when making a list of colleges to apply to. They also talk about what to expect from a school college counselor, what goes into school rankings and why they might not matter as much as people think and how and when to hire a private college counselor. Finally, they discuss how to talk about the finances involved in this process and how to discuss if a school is a financial fit with your family and potential merit aid. This is a great episode for anyone with a high-school-aged child as Kim and Danielle talk about the very beginning of the process. Stay tuned for more on this topic next week. You can find Danielle at Instagram: @daniellepleach Email:
January 7, 2021
Episode 14: The Art of Dating with Eunice Hong
Kim talks all things dating with Eunice Hong, a NYC certified dating coach. They discuss how to know when you’re ready to date again after a breakup or divorce, dating during covid, how and when to bring up tough subjects when dating. Eunice gives excellent advice on self-growth and reflection so that you can find a good partner, relationship autopsies and utilizing dating apps. Kim and Eunice also discuss what makes a healthy, long term relationship. If you are out there in the dating world or wanting to jump in, give this episode a listen and share with all your dating friends. You can find Eunice at Instagram:
December 31, 2020
Episode 13: Connecting Through Play
In this episode, Kim and her guest, Rebecca A. Weiner, M.Ed. discuss the role of play in children's lives. They talk about floor time, meaningful feedback and meeting your children where they are. There are valuable tips for all parents who want a deeper and more meaningful connection with their children. Instagram: @learnplaygrowconsulting Facebook: @RebeccaAWeinerMEd Join the Learn Play Grow newsletter, which is full of videos and strategies for parenting, positive discipline, playtime, storytime, and more!
December 24, 2020
Episode 12: Your Next Chapter
In this episode, Kim and her guest, Liz Svatek, host of the Conversations with Warrior Women podcast, talk about making big changes in your life. They talk about how many women spend so much of their time taking care of others that their needs often fall by the wayside. For Liz, a milestone birthday was the motivation to make some big changes, physically, emotionally and professionally. This conversation is one for anyone who wants to make changes in their life but doesn’t know where to start.  Both Kim and Liz share some things that held them back from taking a leap. They also share what made them finally go for it and they encourage you to go for whatever it is you want next. Podcast: Instagram: and
December 17, 2020
Episode 11: Close Family Connections in the Young Adult Years
Kim has a conversation with Sydney Carver of Summer Wind about how to maintain close family relationships after college and in the young adult years. They discuss how family roles and relationships evolve, advice and guidance, normal struggles, living at home after college, and family traditions.  They also talk about how Sydney leaned on her parents while she had to postpone her wedding during covid and how her parents responded. It is a really heartwarming conversation. You can find Sydney at Instagram: The Family Dinner Project: and
December 10, 2020
Episode 10: Co-Parenting Through and After Divorce
Kim welcomes her guest, Andrea Odom, to talk about the challenges of co-parenting during and after divorce. Andrea is a mom of 3 children and she works really hard to co-parent them as peacefully as possible with her ex-husband for the benefit of their children. They discuss how to tell children about a divorce, sharing custody and navigating holidays and covid. They address the biggest challenges and the rewards of trying to co-parent peacefully after divorce. This episode is so helpful for any families or extended families going through or who have gone through a divorce. Instagram: Andrea Odom, Odom Consulting Group:
December 3, 2020
Episode 9: Adjusting to Motherhood
Kim welcomes pediatrician and mom, Dr. Deanna Barry to talk about life after baby. They discuss adding children to the family and how it affects relationships and friendships and going back to work. Furthermore, they talk about how social media and comparison can sometimes make women feel pressure to do it all and do it all well. When, in reality, that is not possible. Finally, they discuss baby blues, postpartum depression and anxiety, and adjusting expectations after giving birth. This episode is like talking to a friend about all the demands and expectations of motherhood and how to navigate them in today’s world. Instagram: Website: Book: And Baby Makes Three by John and Julie Gottman;
November 26, 2020
Episode 8: The Importance of Rituals and Traditions in Relationships and Families
Kim connects with her colleague and good friend from graduate school, Dr. Carol Bruess, to talk about rituals in relationships. Dr. Bruess is a professor, author and researcher on relationships and she is passionate about rituals and traditions. They discuss the research on rituals, traditions and nicknames in families, couples and friendships. They also share advice and tips for making and sustaining your own relationship rituals and traditions. You can find Carol at The "Do you know?" Scale
November 19, 2020
Episode 7: A Conversation on Friendship with Carly the Prepster
Kim sits down for an in-depth conversation with esteemed blogger, Carly Riordan of Carly the Prepster. They talk about making friends in adulthood, challenges in friendship, loneliness, vulnerability, and authenticity. Carly talks for the first time publicly about her recent wedding and how those plans changed and adapted during covid.  Their conversation shifts to hobbies and connecting with others during challenging times and the role social media has on our own mental health and relationships. Carly shares an honest and vulnerable side of herself that her readers and others will really enjoy.  Carly can be found at Instagram:  Facebook:
November 12, 2020
Episode 6: Toddlers, Tantrums and Emotions
Kim talks to Dr. Phil Boucher, father of five young children and pediatrician, about connecting with toddlers, handling meltdowns and tantrums and teaching them to express their emotions in healthy ways. They also talk about the role of dads and how to get dads more involved in the day to day stuff of parenting. Dr. Boucher offers concise and practical advice that will help all parents, but especially parents of young children. Instagram: Youtube: Website:
November 5, 2020
Episode 5: Integrative Medicine, Wellness and Self-Care
In this episode, Kim has a conversation with Dr. Anna Shannahan, an Integrative MD at the Osher Center at Northwestern in Chicago. They talk about finding the root cause of illness, practicing medicine in COVID times and how to ask your doctor about alternative therapies. They dive into what integrative medicine is and how to find a practitioner as well as supplements, herbal remedies, and self-care. If you are feeling overwhelmed and confused by your healthcare options, this is a great episode for you. Dr. Shannahan offers great practical tips for a healthy lifestyle. Instagram: @drannabthewellnessmd Twitter: @AnnaBWellnessMD Facebook: Website: Blog: To help find a trained provider in your area- Academic Consortium for Integrative Medicine & Health: University of Arizona resource: Other resources- Osher Collaborative: Integrative Medicine for the Underserved organization: Free Worksheet:
October 29, 2020
Episode 4: Connecting Better in Your Marriage
Kim has an in-depth conversation with fellow marriage counselor and author, Lori Epting. They talk about the biggest struggles facing couples today, simple ways to strengthen your marriage and when to seek help from a professional. They also talk about extra-martial affairs, how they happen and ways to rebuild. Finally, they talk about empathy, how overwhelmed couples with young children feel and ways to connect more deeply. There are practical tips and wisdom for every couple in this episode. Lori Epting can be found at and Her new book is called From Chaos to Connection: A Marriage Counselor’s Candid Guide for the Married Couple Instagram: Facebook:
October 22, 2020
Episode 3: Navigating Parenting an Athlete
Kim sits down with Sports Psychology and Mental Performance Coach, Ashley Eckermann to talk about how to best support your kids in sports. They discuss motivation, life lessons, fear, playing multiple sports versus specializing, what age to begin playing sports and when to know if it’s time to quit or move on to something different. They even talk about how to handle a difficult game or practice. Ashely offers lots of practical tips on all of these topics and more. Expert Guest: Ashley Eckermann, Sports Psychology Coach at Maximize the Mind, Mental Performance Coaching. You can find Ashley at Instagram: Facebook: Email:
October 15, 2020
Episode 2: Parenting Teens Q&A
Kim is joined again by Chiarra Stratton, friend and mom of two teens, to answer questions about parenting teens submitted by YOU, the readers/listeners. In this Q&A episode, they discuss social media, phone use, punishments and independence, whether you should track your teen and much more. This episode was produced and edited by Sonia Kerrigan.
October 8, 2020
Episode 1: Connecting in the Teenage Years
In this episode, Kim shares her best tips for building better relationships and clear boundaries in the teenage years. In this conversation with her friend and fellow mom to teenagers, Chiarra Stratton, they discuss the do’s and don’ts of parenting teens and how the things that worked when they were little don’t always work anymore. Resources: Untangled by Lisa Damour This episode was produced and edited by Sonia Kerrigan. 
October 8, 2020
Season 1 Trailer
Join Kim Swales each week as she helps you find practical ways to better connect in your relationships with family, friends and loved ones. In this episode, Kim introduces herself and the topics she will be talking about with experts and friends this season. Subscribe now so you don't miss an episode. 
September 30, 2020