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Kindness Drives Change

Kindness Drives Change

Your mission should you choose to accept it is to join me as I solve the mystery around our heads and hearts.
Since our feelings last longer than our memories they are the clues we are meant to follow.
As your guide, I’m here to show you what lays underneath the fear and to show you the light around every dark corner.

I’m KDC, your host, and as a mindful relationship coach and true crime junkie I’m excited to collide these two passions to bring you Emotional Investigation

Join in every week as you are given a new mission that will push you to make friends with your feelings
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13. May Check-In
We are BACK in ACTION!  Check for the full show notes over on the website and sign up for your new adventure over on the KDC Classroom And join us on the PL3Y Kids Fitness FB group where there are free weekly classes 
May 18, 2021
12. how to level up
Deciding to change is the easiest part. In this episode we talk about how I found kindness through change and what mindful tools have kept me sane.  get full field notes here
March 09, 2021
11. how to activate MAGIC
Do you feel connected to yourself or is your mind too full of all the things? Practice mindfulness by listening to today's episode. Learn what mindfulness is and isn't and I share my favourite mindful journaling spreads and tools. view full field notes by clicking here
February 23, 2021
Galentine's Love note
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February 13, 2021
10. how to love on yourself
Let's use the 5 love languages as a guide to show ourselves some much needed love this Valentine's day season.  view the full fieldnotes here
February 10, 2021
9. Acceptance is hard
This week we investigate the feeling of acceptance.  Where do and don't you feel accepted? What about when it comes to yourself? Grad this week's full field notes here
February 02, 2021
8. Embody Balance
What does it really mean to live in balance? Listen in as I give you the tips and the quickest ways to realign.  view the full shownotes here
January 26, 2021
7. get into the flow
This week we are investigating feeling CAPABLE.  How do we get there when it doesn't come naturally and how do we stay in that space?  Read the full shownotes here and sign up for the January Journal Jam 
January 19, 2021
Let's talk about multitasking.  How we use it and why it can be more detrimental to our time than we mean it to be. View full shownotes here
January 12, 2021
mindful time meditation
use this meditation whenever you're feeling gross about your time. when paired with the Mindful Time workbook you will be able to plan on purpose and get shit done! 
January 05, 2021
5. Mindful Time
Do you choose a word of the year? This has been a part of my new year rhythms since 2016.  This week I'm sharing my word, the why behind it and how you can do the same.  Wanna know how to crush. your goals, new years resolution or not? I share my secrets with you!  To download your Mindful Time workbook visit the full shownotes here
January 05, 2021
4. Journal Jam volume 1
Grab the workbook here Listen to the tunes here  Watch the video here
December 22, 2020
3. Kind Crews
(**At the time of recording this episode, I was still driving a lot for life. But now that I'm at home I'm looking for more opportunities to listen to podcasts) I wanna know when do you listen? At the start of this year, I was very intentional in setting up my own kind crew. I wanted to choose my people on purpose so that I could be challenged and supported at the same time. And when the pandemic hit I was SO THANKFUL to have these groups and tools to keep me going. In this week's episode, I'm sharing why I chose the groups and people that I did and what it was like working with them through this year. My Self-Sabattoge Coach: took part in a 1-year mastermind My Creative Coach: took part in a 6-month creative process Biz Programs I was a part of this year: My Self-Coaching Group: took part in a 2-year coaching program Find a local therapist in your area -------- And now I'm excited to offer my own kind crew Kindness Drives Change Mastermind is available now We start in January read more about it here
December 15, 2020
2. How to deal with Change
Change is something that we can expect but still hate when it shows up. So how do we deal with change in a way that is supportive? Listen to this episode to find out how I deal with change and the mantra I keep close to my heart during seasons of change.  Grab today's field notes here Sign up for the Journal Jam sesh volume 1: click here Sign up for the Mastermind: click here Follow on IG for more @kdccoaching @EmotionalInvestigations
December 08, 2020
1. starting again + Lessons of 2020
It could be easy to write off this year but it has shown us great things at the same time.  I used my Journal Jam sesh workbook to reflect on the year and in this episode I'm sharing my biggest lessons of the year and sharing some of my biggest news!  Sign up for the FREE Journal Jam sesh - Follow on IG for more
December 02, 2020
82. how to: Hack your feelings
Listen to this episode to find my feelings HACK! Wanna create more of a specific feeling? I got the trick that will help you do just that. Interested in the paid mastermind? We will become a group of people wanting to take ACTION. Join in for weekly coaching, group discussions, and personal check-ins with yours truly
November 17, 2020
81. Our brain on emotions
There has been a lot of research around our left and right brain.  What about our emotional brain? Today we are taking a closer look at what makes this so special 
November 10, 2020
80. What comes first? Emotion or Feeling
What came first? The emotion or the feeling? In today's episode, we are getting down to the nitty-gritty and looking at what these two words mean, have in common, and how they are different.  Download this month's Feelings Blueprints to follow along in the month's dares, new feeling vocab words, and notes to say to yourself. Grab them here Join in on the convos in our Facebook group here
November 03, 2020
79. October Meditation: Letting go of Judgment. 
Pop this in when you find yourself sitting in judgment.  Let's focus on what we can control and right now it's our breath.  View full shownotes here
October 27, 2020
78. Use your RBG Energy
What do you do when you are stuck in self-judgment? We go through all the feels you could be moving through and spill the beans on how long an emotion takes to move through our bodies.  When you think of a Judge who pops into your mind? In today's episode, I talk about how you can channel your own RBG energy  View the full shownotes here
October 20, 2020
77. The boo's come from the cheap seats!
Today we are answering just some of the Judgement questions sent in  "What happens when you get judgements from someone you respect?" and "How do you show compassion and kindness when Judgement is the elephant in the room?" are just some of the questions you guys sent in on FB and IG.  In today's episode we are answering your questions!  Download the 3 tips worksheet by visiting today's shownotes here
October 13, 2020
76. 2 signs you're Judgement is in action
This week we are sitting JUDGEMENT down in our emotional investigation chair to ask it some hard questions  This is our focus for the month of October so if you have questions about judgement and why/where it shows up for you please let me know! view full shownotes here
October 06, 2020
75. Karen Styles is a BIG KID
It was so fun to have Karen on the podcast. We recorded this months ago when COVID was just starting to keep us home. Karen was actually one of the last friends I saw IRL! In this episode, we talk about Gretchin Rubin's personality framework The 4 Tendencies. Learning about the different types helped me cultivate more thriving habits and it helped me understand how to have more connected relationships. As a coach, Karen helps her clients find the right words to get the work they want and as she mentions she is also available to lead 4 Tendency workshops! She is a rad human go show her some love online and on IG view full shownotes here
September 22, 2020
74. survival habit of people-plesaing
What does it take to start to heal our survival habit of people-pleasing? Emotional Investigation is always the answer.  In today's episode, I'm talking about how this habit is ingrained in us as kids and how it shows up for us big kids. I give you the formula to stop saying YES to shit you hate!  Join me for a quick meditation as I help you replace those people-pleasing thoughts with more self-pleasing ones
September 15, 2020
73. Intro of from Meltdown to Mindfulness KIT
Did you know there are over 400 feeling words in our language? Using my FREE kit you'll be able to grow your own + your kiddos emotional vocabulary.  In today's episode, I talk about the new free offering you can download straight from  The Meltdown to Mindfulness kit will be your new BFF when it comes to helping your kids feel and understand their big emotions.
August 06, 2020
71. do THIS when you wanna compare
who do you normally compare yourself to? In today's tip I'll let you know who you should compare yourself to.  view full shownotes here
July 21, 2020
70. comparing myself in a wedding dress
our comparison creep is always lingering and it showed it's face when I was trying on wedding dresses listen to this episode for a helpful tip on how you can use comparison to your benefit view full shownotes here
July 20, 2020
69. jeepers creepers
July's survival habit of focus: Comparison  Today I'm introducing you to your comparison creep and how we feed it.  View full shownotes here
July 14, 2020
68. Stacy Carosa is a BIG KID
Stacy Carosa is this week's BIG KID. In this episode, we talk about how holding grudges has shown up throughout our lives in our thoughts and bodies. We bonded over our love for the mountains, great fall colours and learning more about who we are + asking for what we need. Follow Stacy on IG full shownotes here
July 02, 2020
67. interruption
June has been nothing but a rollercoaster of emotions. So much has happened and I'm excited that so many more people are in on these important conversations. view full shownotes here
July 01, 2020
66. Grudge Nudgers
What have you held a grudge for? Listing your own reasons out can be a helpful first step into healing your survival habit of holding grudges.  find full shownotes here
June 02, 2020
65. a lil' loving kindness
Today's episode includes a guided meditation. Take a couple of moments to chill and bring love to the forefront. When you're feeling stressed turn to your stress busters. Listen to this meditation. Take a second to take a deep breath. Choose 1 of your senses to focus on and just do. 1thing. read full shownotes here
May 27, 2020
64. How to stress minus all the stress
What if we stop looking at stress as a negative? What if we use it as our own RED FLAG and then take the time and care to deal with it instead of procrastinating about it. Full shownotes here
May 20, 2020
61. How to use your procrastination to help you
May is all about our survival habit of PROCRASTINATION  This episode I'm talking about how you can harness it to help you. Remember that anything that needs to changes takes time. It also takes commitment. So chill if you're not seeing results right away!  See full shownotes here
May 12, 2020
60. Procrastination means WHAT?!
For the month of May, we are looking at the survival habit of PROCRASTINATION.  In today's episode, KDC tells you what it's actually trying to tell you. Listen in and take on the dare!  Check out full shownotes here
May 05, 2020
59. how to hold space for others
Wrapping up our month talking about people-pleasing KDC talks about how to replace this survival habit for a thriving habit of holding space and trusting yourself.  If you've ever struggled with how to show up in a relationship in a way where your expectations are not at the forefront this episode will get you thinking!  Read full shownotes here
April 28, 2020
57. sister sister
One of my favourite roles is being a sister. Unconditional love is what makes family amazing, complicated and special all rolled into one. Siblings are some of the only people you can manhandle in one minute and then have a crazy heart to heart and cry session with all in a 10 minute time span. This week I interview my little sister. B is 13 and in 8th grade. She talks about what online school is like, what she misses most about school and she walks us through her nervous feelings. See full shownotes here
April 21, 2020
57. kick that shit to the curb
Let's take a deeper look into who’s expectations we are holding ourselves to and how it’s showing up for our kids. Finally, we are talking about how we can release that guilt so we can shift our expectations to something tangible and reliable. Read full show notes here
April 14, 2020
56. Meghan Johnston is a big kid
In our first interview of the year, we are joined by fellow big kid MEGHAN JOHNSTON.  Check out Meghan's Podcast out With Heart And Wonder and all of her links in the full shownotes.  Visit them here
April 09, 2020
55. People-Pleasing IS a survival habit
For the month of April, we are looking at the survival habit of people-pleasing and what type of thriving habits we can replace it with. This week's episode I talk about growing up in the church and how it was one of my first experiences with this survival habit. find full shownotes here
April 07, 2020
54. Life Lessons courtesy of Chubbs & Olaf
Last week I looked at HOOK and the awesome life lessons that movie has taught me. BANGARANG! Today we look at lessons taught by everyone's favourite snowman and a dude named Chubbs.  Find full shownotes here
March 31, 2020
53. Big Kid Values
In the Big Kid Crew, we care about Kindness, Curiosity and Adventure.  This week we are showing ourselves Kindness by using KDC's check-in questions. We are also talking about what it means to be a big kid and the difference between a Fixed and Growth mindset according to Dr Carol Dweck.  Head to the website for more info and the full show notes
March 24, 2020
52. Spring Meditation
Let's take some time to stimulate our ears and imaginations.  Use this Spring Meditation to recenter yourself and your kiddos aged 6-10. 
March 20, 2020
51. how to WORRY & how to HELP
With everything going on right now it can be hard NOT to worry. In today's episode we are talking about how to not get stuck in the worry and how to help other humans  Stay safe and healthy out there friends 
March 18, 2020
50. Celebrating our FIRST BIRTHDAY as BIG KIDS
WELCOME TO EPISODE 50 of Big Kid Pod. In today’s episode, we are celebrating big things. 1 year of the podcast and my 30' something birthday. We’re looking back at the past year at all the life lessons in both biz and life. As an introvert, I’m not usually down with the spotlight, but with my birthday coming up this week I wanted to talk about how to receive compliments without feeling like an asshat! Visit the website
March 03, 2020
49. Tearing Walls Down
This week we are coming back at FULL FORCE! We are talking about the survival habits we create when it comes to our relationships. KDC shares her own thriving habits with you so you can start taking stalk of your own.  Listen to Lizzo's Cuz I Love You 
February 18, 2020
48. Year of the Word
Today KDC talks New Year's resolutions...but not really. For the past few years KDC has ditched the resolution and come up with a different plan altogether: choosing one word she would like to describe the upcoming year. You'll hear what KDC's word for 2020 is, and we give you homework for how to find your own!
January 07, 2020
47. Love Languages
Why yes, we are here with a fresh episode on Christmas Eve! Let's talk about love languages and what they look like in your life, in your relationships, and how creating boundaries for yourself can help you to better express your own love language to others.
December 24, 2019
46. Holidays with the Urkles
We all have those folks we have to see around the Holidays, those people that "urk" you. What if you were to change your mindset around the situation completely? Wouldn't those times be infinately more enjoyable? Today, KDC gives us tools for getting through the holidays, and she might just make things fun for you this year!
December 17, 2019
45. Mindful Tasks
"Mindfulness is the quality of being present and engaged with whatever we are doing at the moment" Guys, KDC is on a mission: DOWN WITH MULTITASKING! She wants us to know that cultivating thriving habits means you need to pay attention to yourself and what you are doing in the moment. Today you'll recieve tools on how to apply these methods to whatever you're doing, whenever you're doing it. It's time to feel harmonious!
December 10, 2019
44. Make. The. Time.
"If you can't love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else" -Rupaul Showing kindness towards yourself can be a key factor in actually using your feelings for a greater purpose. Are we blowing your mind yet? Showing kindness to yourself means something different for everyone though, so today we talk about what small changes can do for your whole mindset. KDC explains how she started small and worked her way up to a healthier morning routine to change her attitude about what was in store for her day to come. We also look ahead to 2020 and give a sneak peek of what is in store for Big Kid in the coming year.
December 03, 2019
43. How Will You Show Up?
"Confidence is silent, insecurities are loud." We are wrapping up this month's habit themes of Anxiety and Confidence on the podcast, so KDC asks us the question: How will you show up for yourself? Are you going to let those obnoxious insecurities get the best of your week, or will you give yourself the quiet space you need to grow?
November 26, 2019
42. Self-compassion and Leggings
How does your anxiety manifest? Does it center around your physical appearance? KDC wants you to know that when it comes to your anxiety toolbox, learning self-compassion can be one of the hardest earned, and most rewarding tools. All that in today's pep talk.
November 19, 2019
41. Self-assurance is Your Key
Do you listen to your insecurities enough that they hold you back? KDC is here to remind you that you embody greatness, and she is here to teach you how to remind yourself of that to combat the insecurities that are creating barriers in your life.
November 12, 2019
40. That Creeping Feeling
Let's get November started! Today KDC talks about her experience at the Imperfect Bosses Camp and addresses the fact that sometimes despite how nurturing and welcoming an atmosphere can be, that feeling of anxiety will still creep in and tell you "you're not good enough".
November 05, 2019
39. Befriending the Skeletons
We all have those skeletons in our closet, nobody is an exception to that. What if someone told you they were going to "air out your closet" and tell everyone your biggest secrets? Operating during our most fearful times can be the worst of times. So what do you do when you're scared? This week KDC explains how using fear as a catalyst to propel you forward can be helpful in your life.
October 22, 2019
38. Combat Fear with Curiosity
Have you ever considered that having endless curiosity can actually be a life skill? When you want to know all the things you gain new perspectives and knowledge of the world. But, when you take a personal fear and tun it IN to curiosity, well then, my friend, you have yourself a new superpower.
October 15, 2019
37. Talkin' 'Bout Fear
In today's pep talk KDC dives into one of this month's feelings themes, fear. You'll get tips on ways to conquer day-to-day fears and, as always, KDC has a great metaphor story for us.
October 08, 2019
36. Stand in Your Own Glory
The people that surround you can often represent good OR bad parts of your life. Deciding what you want out of life and who you want at your side is a big part of finding courage within. KDC gives you tools for how to reach those decisions in this week's pep talk.
September 24, 2019
35. The Inner Critic
We all struggle with Imposter Syndrome at one time or another. This week, KDC gives you tips on how to overcome by trusting in your own values and showing-up for yourself by staying true to yourself.
September 17, 2019
34. Be a Mud Hero
Are you stuck in the mud pit of overwhelm? This week, KDC gives three tips for ways to overcome these fears and focus on the step in front of you, not the whole staircase.
September 10, 2019
33. Look. Listen.
Fear is a reaction. Courage is a decision. Here is your first pep talk for September and an intro to this month's themes of fear and courage. Notice where your fear comes from then give yourself a little room to cultivate courage.
September 03, 2019
32. We Dare Ya
This is week's super quick pep talk is all about the homework. KDC dares us to go beyond "thinking happy thoughts" and be mindful of the things that TRUELY make us joyful.
August 27, 2019
31. Trolls R Us
Do your media streams bring you joy? For this week's pep talk KDC gives tips on how to curate the information you intake to lighten your mental load. She also talks about the difference between happiness and joy.
August 20, 2019
30. Be Shameless
"We can't grow when we are in shame and we can't use shame to change ourselves in others" -Brene Brown KDC reminds us not to weaponize shame against others OR ourselves in this week's pep talk.
August 13, 2019
29. Shame, Shame, Shame.
Your first pep talk for the month of August! KDC introduces to you to the feelings themes of Shame and Joy this month and gives you tips on tackling feelings of shame in your life this week.
August 06, 2019
28. J is for Joy!
This week's pep talk is brought to you by the word "joy"! KDC reminds us to be in the present and not let the thoughts of our past and fear of the future affect whats happening in our present!
July 30, 2019
27. The Big 'H'
"Doing what you like is freedom. Liking what you do is happiness". Whether this applies to your job, or other parts of your life, you can conquer this week with dedication and gratitude for the things you're passionate about.
July 23, 2019
26. Let It Be
Anxiety can creep in to the most unexpected places. It kills happiness and to causes us to focus on the negative. On this week's pep talk KDC gives pointers on how to redirect an overthinking brain and focus on positive and constructive areas.
July 16, 2019
25. Don’t Let Idiots Ruin Your Day
There is no such thing as people don’t hurting your feelings . We just focus on what people say and focus on the negativity of the situation. We control our own feelings and how we respond when people say things to us. Today, on Just the Tips Tuesday, KDC gives us some tips on taking those situations in to our own hands.
July 09, 2019
24. Happy/Sad in a Bottle
July is here! Today KDC introduces us to our July themes of Happy and Sadness, gives us tips for the week, and explains why being happy 100% of the time is unrealistic.
July 02, 2019
23. The Ways of an Empath
How do you practice empathy and also teach your kids to build up their own empathic muscles? KDC shares more of her own story on the actions she took to be an effective empath while protecting her own feelings. You'll also get lots of creative suggestions on ways to flex your empathy muscle.
June 28, 2019
22. Last Notes on Empathy
KDC wraps up June's themes and gives some lasting advice on practicing empathy.
June 25, 2019
21. From Regret to Gratitude
This week we are talking about those two best friends Anxiety and Regret and how they will often work together as a harmful team. KDC offers advice on how to combat them, and turn regret in to feelings of gratitude.
June 21, 2019
20. Nada Regrets
In this week's Just the Tip Tuesday: KDC Reminds us to take the leap, whatever the leap is for you, with no regrets.
June 18, 2019
19. You Are Not Alone.
Here is your Tuesday pick-me-up! KDC gives us some thoughts that remind us we are not alone, whatever we are handling this week.
June 11, 2019
18. 1...2...GO!
On this Just the Tips Tuesday: KDC introduces us to June's feelings themes and gives us thought nuggets you can use this week.
June 04, 2019
17. So long, May.
KDC wraps up this month's theme of self-love on this week's Tips Tuesday.
May 28, 2019
16. Partners in Parallel
Partnerships are everywhere. Home, work, your love life. KDC talks about how to be a better partner in any situation and what small OR big changes need to be made to get there.
May 24, 2019
15. Treat Yo' Self!
For this Tips Tuesday: KDC continues to share more of her superpower secrets when it comes to taking steps that will change your life for the better.
May 21, 2019
14. The Art of Vulnerability
On this episode of Tips Tuesday: KDC gives guidance towards living a more vulnerable life.
May 14, 2019
13. You're Welcome
We are back with another hard-hitting, heavy weight episode talking about forgiving the seemingly unforgivable and how forgiveness can change other relationships in your life for the better.
May 10, 2019
12. Use Your Words
On this short Tips Tuesday, KDC talks vulnerability and openess. She also lets us in on all the fun things happening around the KDC in YYC website this month!
May 07, 2019
11. Uh-Oh!
Things are getting heavy for this milestone of an Episode 10. Over on the podcast this week KDC talks about parent guilt, tells puberty stories and takes lots of deep breaths to dig in to the deep feels.
April 26, 2019
10. Feels So Good
Are you ready? This week we hunker down and get to the root of how to really feel some of those hardcore feelings. THEN we go even further to talk about making space for your kids to feel their own feelings too!
April 14, 2019
9. Henny, check yo' self
This week KDC talks about checking-in with yourself when it comes to blame and where it's being placed. We are also introduced to this month's feeling themes.
April 05, 2019
8. Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda.
Time to liiive! KDC gives advice on how to stop living with a "could-haves" state-of-mind and start living in the now, and what happens when we do.
March 26, 2019
7. Connecting With Curiosity
KDC wraps up this month's focus on Curiosity and touches on our mantra that is "Kindess Drives Change".
March 22, 2019
6. This is Your Brain on Donuts
On this episode of Tips Tuesday, KDC talks about where blame can originate, how to combat it, and provides tips on how to shop for a therapist.
March 19, 2019
5. A Diabetic on Blame Island
Learning how to love yourself and let others love you too. KDC talks about her own personal journey when diagnosed with a life-altering disease.
March 15, 2019
4. Happiness is an Inside Job
In this week's episode of Tips Tuesday, KDC talks about deriving true happiness from within and how we can convey that outlook to the people around us.
March 12, 2019
3. Brothers
Get ready for some raw talk! KDC talks with kids about Fortnite, farts and feelings.
March 06, 2019
2. Friendship
Making new friends as an adult is hard! KDC talks about how she made some new friends after a big shift in priorities came about in her life.
March 06, 2019
1. Welcome to Big Kid
A look at what's to come. KDC talks about what Big Kid is all about and what we will talk about in this podcast.
March 06, 2019