Kings of Hearts Podcast

We are incredibly excited to introduce our latest podcast episode featuring Dr. Robert Glover, renowned author, men's leader, and coach.

Join us as we delve into the intricacies of the Nice Guy Syndrome as Robert shares profound insights on the importance of authenticity, the transformative power of speaking one's truth, and much more.

From navigating conflict to redefining masculinity today, this conversation offers a powerful perspective on personal growth and connection for men wishing to break free and recover from the "Nice Guy". PS. we all got it in us in some form.

Dr. Robert Glover, coach, speaker, and educator is a relationship expert with over 40 years of professional experience. He is the author of the groundbreaking, No More Mr. Nice Guy, Dating Essentials for Men, and The Big Stick. In July of 2023, Dr. Glover launched Integration Nation, an international community of Integrated Men.

In this episode we explore:

1. What is a Nice Guy and why does he exist
2. What we really need as men that we don't ask for
3. The 3 most common covert contracts Nice Guys have
4. What is the Integrated Man
5. Dr. Robert's own personal story of recovering as a Nice Guy
6. The state of men and masculinity today
7. and much more.

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In this episode of the Kings of Hearts podcast, Andy and Yenukwa embark on a poignant exploration of alternatives to suicide.

Recognizing the prevalence and impact of suicide, especially among men, they delve into proactive approaches to prevention and the importance of regular check-ins and support.

Through candid dialogue and personal anecdotes, they tackle uncomfortable topics with courage, emphasizing the role of heart-based leadership in facilitating discussions on mental health.

Key Topics:

• Suicide Prevention: Men's Mental Health Priority
• Proactive Suicide Prevention Strategies
• Warrior vs Gardener Approach to Suicide Prevention
• Recognizing Signs and Proactive Measures for Mental Health
• Effective Communication and Emotional Preparedness
• Wallowing, Detachment, and Post-Event Reflections
• Emotions Processing vs Avoidance: Finding Balance
• Importance of Mental Health Check-Ins and Awareness
• Self-Care, Emotional Health, and Spirituality in Coping Strategies

Plus, whenever you're ready... here are 3 ways we can help you become more self aware, integrate your insights, become a powerful heart-based leader in your life and relationships:

Welcome to the third and final installment of our three-part series, where we dive into the intricate world of masculinity and the masks men often wear.

In this episode, inspired by Lewis Howes' powerful book "Masks of Masculinity," we unravel the layers behind the Invincible Mask, the Know-it-All Mask, and the Alpha Mask.

Join us as we explore how these masks influence men's lives, relationships, and the way they navigate vulnerability.

Discover how awareness of these masks can transform romantic relationships, allowing for genuine connection and intimacy.

Our insightful discussion focuses on unpacking these masks and embracing vulnerability as a means of personal growth and deeper emotional connections.

Whether you're on a quest for personal development or seeking to enhance your intimate relationships, this episode offers profound insights and practical strategies for shedding these masks to live authentically.

Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that paves the way for a more authentic, vulnerable, and fulfilling life.

Incase you haven't listened to Part 1 or Part 2.

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Plus, whenever you're ready... here are 3 ways we can help you become more self aware, integrate your insights, become a powerful heart-based leader in your life and relationships:

Welcome to the second installment of our three-part series, where we dive into the intricate world of masculinity and the masks men often wear.

In this episode, inspired by Lewis Howes' powerful book "Masks of Masculinity," we unravel the layers behind the Sexual Mask, the Aggression Mask, and the Joker Mask.

Join us as we explore how these masks influence men's lives, relationships, and the way they navigate vulnerability.

Discover how awareness of these masks can transform romantic relationships, allowing for genuine connection and intimacy.

Our insightful discussion focuses on unpacking these masks and embracing vulnerability as a means of personal growth and deeper emotional connections.

Whether you're on a quest for personal development or seeking to enhance your intimate relationships, this episode offers profound insights and practical strategies for shedding these masks to live authentically.

Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that paves the way for a more authentic, vulnerable, and fulfilling life.

Stay tuned for Part 3, where we'll continue exploring the diverse masks of masculinity and their impact on men's lives and relationships.

The Kings of Hearts presents an episode featuring guest Michael Young. Delving into various themes, Michael shares his Asian American experiences, highlighting men's mental health, leadership, and emotional intelligence. The discussion allowed Michael to publicly share personal experiences for the first time.

What you can learn in this episode:

• Managing anger
• What is Generative masculinity
• The significance of vulnerability, self-compassion, and community building in men's groups
• Michael's insights on societal impact, the role of elders, and transitioning into middle age
• A deeper understanding of crucial life stages through these discussions
• and more

About Michael Young:

Welcome to the first installment of our three-part series, where we dive into the intricate world of masculinity and the masks men often wear.

In this episode, inspired by Lewis Howes' enlightening book "Masks of Masculinity," we unravel the layers behind the Stoic Mask, the Athlete Mask, and the Material Mask. Join us as we explore how these masks influence men's lives, relationships, and the way they navigate vulnerability.

Discover how awareness of these masks can transform romantic relationships, allowing for genuine connection and intimacy. Our insightful discussion focuses on unpacking these masks and embracing vulnerability as a means of personal growth and deeper emotional connections.

Whether you're on a quest for personal development or seeking to enhance your romantic relationships, this episode offers profound insights and practical strategies for shedding these masks to live authentically. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that paves the way for a more authentic, vulnerable, and fulfilling life.

Stay tuned for Parts 2 and 3, where we'll continue exploring the diverse masks of masculinity and their impact on men's lives and relationships.

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Plus, whenever you're ready... here are 4 ways we can help you become more self aware, integrate your insights, become a powerful heart-based leader in your life and relationships:

Join us in this episode as we dive deep into the everyday excuses that hold us back, keeping us from stepping into our true potential.

At the heart of our mission to empower men is the call to embrace victorhood over victimhood. It's time to break free from the cycle of making excuses and reclaim your agency in shaping your life.

In Part 2 of this two-part series, Yenukwa and Andy unpack the final five out of twelve common excuses, shedding light on how to overcome them and take charge of your destiny.

Don't miss out on this transformative discussion!

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Join us in this episode as we dive deep into the everyday excuses that hold us back, keeping us from stepping into our true potential. At the heart of our mission to empower men is the call to embrace victorhood over victimhood. It's time to break free from the cycle of making excuses and reclaim your agency in shaping your life.

In Part 1 of this two-part series, Yenukwa and Andy unpack six out of twelve common excuses, shedding light on how to overcome them and take charge of your destiny. Don't miss out on this transformative discussion!

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In this episode we explore:

• The extreme polarities of the Warrior and Lover (archetype)
• The Light and Shadow aspects of the Warrior and Lover (archetype)
• Public figures such as David Goggins and Andrew Tate, and their influence on modern men
• The importance of leadership discernment in the moment
• Accessing many facets of yourself as a man, not limiting yourself
• and much more

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It's been 6 years since the four Original Kings got together to what was the beginning grassroots journey of the Kings of Hearts.

Sohan and Sunjeev join Andy and Yenukwa for a powerful nostalgic conversation, an update on their lives, how Kings of Hearts started through their eyes, we also talk about purpose, passions, and much more.

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Devin Fredericksen has been an emerging expert in the fields of personal development and self-mastery, regenerative agriculture, high-frequency cooking, and men’s work. A native of Hawaii and known to his friends as the Hawaiian Viking, his broad range of work, studies, and experience has crafted a singular capacity to approach the most pressing challenges of our age with an innovative and holistic approach. 

Devin Fredericksen helps people reconnect to themselves, each other, and Mother Earth in a heart centered path. He supports the Regeneration of the Masculine, with the intention to reunite the global brotherhood. Devin is an Men’s Coach, Ecstatic Chef, Regenerative Permaculture Consultant, and Relationship & Intimacy Coach. Through his diverse experiences, devotional practice and training, Devin has created a unique approach to helping others remember their belonging to Life is found inherently within. By weaving these elements together, he facilitates the process of living in a harmonious relationship with ourselves.

Devin is on a mission to bridge men’s work and personal development, with Earth Care to leave a future worth living for the next 7 generations. Through this mission, he supports regenerative culture and sovereignty around the world, by way of food forests, permaculture projects, and community building to return humanity back to nature.

In this episode we explore:

• Emotions falling too far on one side.
• Waking up vs rooting in
• Listening vs domination
• Providing as a man in many ways
• Building trust in ones self
• Devin's near death experience
• Trusting the feminine
• Ruthless devotion
• Andrew Tate's movement
• Where can you give more and deeper
• and much more.

Connect with Devin:

LeRoy Daniel Gordon/ Roy "Flash" Gordon is an Authentic Relationship Coach who helps men embody healthy masculinity and develop greater emotional intelligence. He believes through balanced masculine practice that men can thrive.

In this episode we explore:

• Men's work and community
• The Nice Guy paradigm
• Leroy's journey of Leadership
• Getting your sh*t together as a leader
• The old paradigm of leadership
• Being vulnerable as a leader
• Initiation as a man
• Men of colour in the men's work space

Leroy's Resources

In this episode with GS Youngblood, we explore:

• What is Relational masculinity
• Aspects to the Masculine in Relationship blueprint
• Navigating break ups
• Receiving her fully
• The darker energy and it's importance
• Initiation
• Slowing down
• GS guides us through a simple embodiment technique

GS coaches men in relationship how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core.  He does this using the principles of Relational Masculinity, which is the capacity to be grounded in your own power, while still being relational with your Feminine partner.

He is the author of "The Masculine in Relationship" and the companion course "The Art of Relational Masculinity".  He also wrote "The Art of Embodiment for Men", which teaches men how to build and maintain a daily embodiment practice, which is the #1 thing a man can do to build his Masculine core.

His work in this domain of Masculine leadership pulls in principles from a variety of fields: psychology, men's work, spirituality, martial arts, tango, meditation, and BDSM.

Links to connect with GS:

James Bravelove is the founder of Alpha Rising Menswork and the podcast Men Doing the Work. He is a men’s relationship coach and breathwork facilitator. James is on a mission to challenge men to lead, love and play wholeheartedly.

In this episode we explore:

• How to connect with your intuition
• Conscious relationship
• Surrender/Trust
• What brave love is
• James' vision fast/quest
• and more...

Alpha Rising, James Bravelove Resources

Welcome to part 3/3 of this episode where we continue our exploration and deep dive of spirituality.

Spirituality is a crucial pillar to exploring inner work and self-development; however, spirituality is such a vast topic that one can easily get pulled in many directions (or even the opposite, boxing oneself into a narrow tunnel). 

We aim to help men become heart-based leaders at the Kings of Hearts. To do this, the man must become whole within himself and look at all parts within himself. Spirituality is one of these parts; the conscious King is constantly tethered to something larger than himself.

Yenukwa and Andy created this podcast series of three parts as a platform for you to begin this journey of exploration, starting with awareness and ending with practical next steps.

Today we welcome into the community and podcast Ben Goresky.

Ben Goresky is a men's coach, addiction counsellor, and the host of The Evolving Man Podcast. With a focus on men’s work, conscious relationships, and addiction recovery, Ben breaks men out of their unconscious patterns and helps them find their power. Ben is co-director of The Arka Brotherhood, a community of 500+ men focussed on conscious growth and evolution. He also teaches conscious relationship work for couples with his wife Sheleana Aiyana in their course "Creating Conscious Love”, and he leads a live relationship coaching circle for men called The Conscious Relationship Council. 

It is great to have a man with the caliber of experience across the board in the men's leadership space. Ben has been pinnacle in the leadership development of Andy and Yenukwa. We are excited to share with you Ben's wisdom.

In this episode we explore (and much more):

• The costs of NOT waking up and staying the same
• Finding your center and coming back to your true essence
• What men can experience in a men's group
• Remembering your WHY
• Men you don't need another "training", and start embodying/being/serving
• Surrendering as a father

Welcome to part 2/3 of this episode where we continue our exploration and deep dive of spirituality.

Spirituality is a crucial pillar to exploring inner work and self-development; however, spirituality is such a vast topic that one can easily get pulled in many directions (or even the opposite, boxing oneself into a narrow tunnel). 

We aim to help men become heart-based leaders at the Kings of Hearts. To do this, the man must become whole within himself and look at all parts within himself. Spirituality is one of these parts; the conscious King is constantly tethered to something larger than himself.

Yenukwa and Andy created this podcast series of three parts as a platform for you to begin this journey of exploration, starting with awareness and ending with practical next steps.

Spirituality is a crucial pillar to exploring inner work and self-development; however, spirituality is such a vast topic that one can easily get pulled in many directions (or even the opposite, boxing oneself into a narrow tunnel). 

We aim to help men become heart-based leaders at the Kings of Hearts. To do this, the man must become whole within himself and look at all parts within himself. Spirituality is one of these parts; the conscious King is constantly tethered to something larger than himself.

Yenukwa and Andy created this podcast series of three parts as a platform for you to begin this journey of exploration, starting with awareness and ending with practical next steps.

In this episode specifically, we talk about:

• The difference between spirituality and religion (from our perspective)
• The King's Relationship to Spirituality
• Stigmas about spirituality
• How all roads lead home
• How spirituality impacts mental health
• and more.

If you have questions about spirituality or topics you'd like to hear us discuss, please email us at kingsofhearts333@gmail.com with your curiosities.

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Yenukwa and Andy are back with a 1v1 dialogue about the generational impact on men's work, masculinity, and KOH. This conversation was inspired by the popular anime Attack On Titan's storyline. It got both KOH founders reflecting on the importance of doing the inner work for us AND future generations. There is a line that Yenukwa received from his mentor years ago: "What You Don't Transform From, You Transfer On To." It is a powerful statement that serves as an anchor for this podcast episode.

Welcome back to the King's Podcast. In this episode, we are excited to introduce the beautiful Erin Hinton. To us, Erin is a connector, a wonderful spirit, a sister, a collaborator, and an awesome human being. It is an absolute honour to have her on our podcast. Tune in with us as we dive deep into the dialogue about serving the world, men's mental health, men in relationships, trusting again, and so much more.

Erin Hinton is a counsellor in Calgary, Alberta specializing in relationships + psychedelic integration. She’s also a mom, a friend, a partner and most importantly, a human, just trying to figure it all out.

Other topics in this episode (in no particular order)…

• Navigating crossroads
• Childhood conditioning and programming
• Trust in Men
• Doing the uncomfortable work
• The Nice guy persona
• Having Needs and owning that
• and more...

We've been itching to get this podcast recording to you featuring our friend and fellow men's leadership teacher Amir Khalighi. In this episode, we learn about Amir's roots and how he came to be on this path of leading men; we dive deep into what masculine embodiment is, what the state of men is in today, and why this inner work is essential. Of course, we also touch on the dynamics of the inner King Archetype. Amir is King, Warrior, Magician, and Lover. It is a pleasure and honour to host Amir on our podcast, so get ready to dive deep and learn.

The Textures of Relationship and Love. 

In this episode, Yenukwa and Andy continue the dialogue around Relationships, Love, and, specifically, the TEXTURES of love. The intention is to continue to bring more awareness into the field and minds of men, as self-awareness is the beginning of change.

This is part two of a 3-part series where Yenukwa and Andy provide a dynamic conversation on conscious relationships and how to navigate them as a King of Hearts.

What's up? Great to have you back on the Kings of Hearts Podcast. Today we dive into our infamous King's Code. We created this code 2 years ago as an expansion of our four pillars: Awareness, Character, Vulnerability, and Service.

Many modern men today live without principles, resulting in a lack of direction, ungroundedness, and reacting to life instead of responding. The King's Code is created for men to have a starting place, and twelve anchors to support men holistically (mind, body, emotions, and spirit).

We trust you will take away what you need from this episode, and most importantly, grab a copy of the King's Code for yourself using the link below:

Thanks again for tuning back into the Kings of Hearts Podcast. Today we bring back Hafeez Sumani for his third appearance as our guest. It is extra special today because he is here on his birthday (October 3rd). Not only do we drop in and celebrate his life, but we also allow for the conversation to move toward a few deep topics on life, leadership, and growth.

In this episode you can expect conversations on:

• The uncomfortable part of growth and shedding the skin
• Reimagining grief
• Going on a journey with our emotions
• The Tale of Two Wolves
• How to feed the "dark" wolf in a healthy conscious way.
• The mindset behind "Don't think you are, know you are."
• The mentality behind "Trusting over knowing."
• The Stone Soup story
• Elements of Men's groups
• And much more...

If you have the call to listen to Hafeez's other episodes check them out here:

We are excited to release this episode about how to be conscious under pressure or “chaos.” It is a valuable topic for everyone, not just men. As we navigate life, life sometimes presents us with challenges and obstacles (most of these for our highest good).

These challenges are not always comfortable, so in this episode, we share with you ways to be self-aware and present, as well as the value that each of those brings in times of pressure.

Hello and welcome back to the Kings of Hearts Podcast. Here where we dive into all things men's work, masculinity, men's mental health, leadership, and more. 

In this episode, we dive into the realm of Intimacy -- specifically the three pillars that we identify as important aspects to consider. These are Intimacy with Self, with others (same gender), and within a romantic relationship.

The motivation behind this topic is coming out of our August Heart-to-Heart event. As a community, we came together to unpack these 3 pillars and felt that a following-up conversation was aligned to feel complete.

Tune in and let us know what you think, and what comes up for you.

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This month we are launching our next round of King's Council -our bi-annual men's group journey.

Applications are open, and we're inviting men into this container for a four-month journey. Council is a powerful men's group experience of bonding, discussion, accountability, emotional attunement, and much more. 

Hello, welcome back to the Kings of Hearts Podcast where we dive into all things men's work, masculinity, men's mental health, heart-based leadership, and much more. 

Our commitment to you is to continue putting out content to help you navigate life as a man in this generation. Part of the journey is unlearning, reimagining, and deconditioning old narratives to reinstall healthier ways of showing up and leading life. 

One of these topics is working vs. resting and "playing." Play is a word that might trigger some men, as many of us have lost touch with that inner boy/child. Join us in this episode and deep conversation where we unpack all three aspects. One of our favourites for sure!

PS. If you are looking to join a community of men, participate and begin your journey with all like-minded individuals then King's Council Men's Group is a great start for you. We are taking applications for our next round. 

This episode is an extra important one! Tune in and learn why Kings of Hearts decided to move away from a non-profit structure. Yenukwa and Andy dive into what led to this decision, the blindspots, the evolution, and how we intend to move forward as a community. Transparency is fundamentally key in our organizational ethos as well as personal integrity, so recording this episode was a non-negotiable.

This is an episode to remember. Today we have with us Chantai Minet. A dear friend, a Registered Provisional Psychologist, an avid supporter of Kings of Hearts, and a beautiful soul. We get into a deep dialogue with Chantai about drawing wisdom from the land, returning to remembrance, men's mental health, the intersection between embodiment and spirituality, and much more.

There is a line that Chantai expressed that hits us in the feels: "To be unwell in our body is a spiritual crisis". Wow.

We trust you will enjoy this wonderful dialogue with us, and as always if it resonates with you share it with your community.

Blessings from the Kings.

About Chantai:

Chantai Minet is a Registered Provisional Psychologist, poet, aspiring yogi, and sunshine seeker in Mohkinstis/Calgary, Alberta. Chantai was raised in the Yukon Territory and identifies as someone with mixed ancestry (Tlingit First Nations, European, Chinese, and Vietnamese). She obtained a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology at the University of Calgary in 2014 and a Master of Science in Educational Psychology Program, specializing in Counselling Psychology at the University of Calgary in 2021. Chantai’s long-held curiosity and interest in different cultures are expressed through her love of traveling and the creative arts. Chantai has backpacked around the world, partnering with various philanthropic organizations to contribute support to communities in need. Her graduate research focused on decolonization through de-essentializing Indigenous relationality. In her professional practice, Chantai works from a holistic perspective which means she supports people in the areas of mental, emotional, embodied, and spiritual healing. Amongst other things, Chantai values healthy relationships (with self and others), humility, creativity, and the courage of authentic storytelling.

Jon started his career as a Royal Marines Officer at the commando training center in Devon, England. Following two tours of duty in Afghanistan, he left the Marines in 2014. After his tour of duty, he worked in large corporations doing operational roles before realizing there is more to life. Since 2016 Jon has been heavily involved in personal development and is focused on leveling up and helping other men to do the same. Jon is married to Kate and has three children, Henry (10), Arthur and Leila (4), and their dog Kali. 

In this episode, Jon gets very candid about navigating suicidal thoughts and what recovery has looked like for him. He shares tools and attitudes on how he navigates his mental health currently. Jon also shares how important it is to be present with his kids (specifically his sons) since he never intentionally received this from his own father. 

In closing, Jon highlights the importance of being willing to deconstruct our identities (up to this point) and reconstruct them to serve us fully for all healthy reasons. 

Enjoy.

Angela Epp (aka Burkey) is back! She was so excited from the last episode having more to share she wanted to make a swift return.