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Knot 4U

Knot 4U

By Knot 4U
Unconventional,Untraditional, Unapologetically Us!! Navigating and understand the world of Polyamorous relationships and other love styles.
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Kink, Fetish, Erotica; Oh My!

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Relationship Red Flags: Why Do We Ignore Them?
Just like there are red flags in mono dating, there are red flags when dating poly. Let’s be honest, if you’re not a good person, it doesn’t matter if you’re in one relationship or multiple relationships simultaneously, your relationship(s) will likely be shitty because you are! This episode we talk about some common red flags in polyamory.
43:03
August 06, 2022
The Miseducation of Ethical Non-Monogamy
We created our podcast to educate POC on ENM, specifically polyamory. One of the main things that inspired us to do it was the MANY f*ck ups we made along the way. There was no user manual for ENM for us. We didn’t even know there was a community, so we wanted to bring awareness and education to it. My goal is to help some ppl avoid the mistakes we’ve made in our journey. With that being said, we came across a commercial for this season of TLC’s Seeking Sister-wives. Since I know very little about polygamy, and saw several POC, I decided to check it out and babyyyyyyy, it’s something else! There are four couples, one black couple, one mixed couple, and two white couples. Each dynamic is quite different which made me even more curious about it. So I did some research and found that as with polyamory, polygamy has many misconceptions. This got me thinking about the many instances of the miseducation of ENM. What do you do when you see miseducation of ENM? Are we correcting the mistakes, or continuing to have the masses misinformed? Let’s talk about it!
01:15:59
July 31, 2022
Is Your Sex Good?
We all have had partners who feel they got that good good... but is it really? In this episode we talk about the MANY way one may know they got that WAP or that weak meat!!
01:07:45
May 07, 2022
The 5 Love Languages
Knowing and embracing someone’s love language(s) can be the ultimate cheat code for dating. Paying attention to the little things that make your partner happy can get you far! But what are the 5 love languages? Do you know your partner(s) love languages? How do you ensure you’re catering to your them? Join us this week when we dive into knowing and embracing your partner(s) love languages.
54:35
April 16, 2022
Consenting Adults: No Blurred Lines
Let’s talk consent. Everyone needs it, so why don’t we talk about it more in polyamory and ENM? We openly talk about the importance of communication, intimacy, and sex, so why not consent? This episode, we’re going to talk about it! What does consent mean? How can you ensure you don’t get or give mixed signals when discussing consent? Join us this week to learn how you can ensure you have no blurred lines with consent. Oh Yeah... And we WILL also weigh in on the slap that ROCKed the world!! lol!!
01:00:26
April 02, 2022
Love Me Outloud!📢
Who wants to be loved only behind closed doors? Not us!!! Recognizing that not all people aren’t “out” in their ethically nonmonogamous love style, some may find it hard to share their relationships out in the open! If you have a partner who wants to keep your relationship private how would that make you feel?
45:26
March 26, 2022
Swipe Left ❌👈🏾
Unless you’ve been living under a rock the past three weeks, you’ve seen or at least heard of The Tinder Swindler. This docu-series from Netflix got me to thinking, “Isn’t making connections on dating apps hard enough without worry about being finessed?!?” So this episode we’re going to be discussing dating apps, and things that make us Just Swipe Left.
01:15:36
March 12, 2022
Emotional Hoarding
In life we all deal with situations that can sometimes overwhelm us. Holding onto these things can be bad for our overall growth. We take on the burdens of others and never learn to unpack our emotions and the emotional hoard that some of us possess can become extremely detrimental and can ruin great relationships. In this solo episode with Kue he'll unpack that.
35:54
February 19, 2022
Gift Giving🎁
Getting gifts for that special someone can be tough  at times. What do they need? What size do they wear? What color should it be?  Do they already have this?.... But what if you have special SOMEONES... Lets talk about it cuz if your timing and POCKETS arent right.... ummmm
32:25
February 12, 2022
Threesome Etiquette
I think its a safe assumption that almost all of us have wanted to, thought about it, or regularly engage in threesomes... But how should one go into this space so we all have fun and no one gets cut? In this episode ww discuss some of the things that should be done to assure you and ALL involved parties are on the same page so nothing but good moments and memories are created!! AND so you can also do it again... and again.. AND AGAIN!!  
01:13:19
December 11, 2021
Tailoring Your Poly
A great suit is a tailored suit. The same thing applies to your poly and or ethical non-monogamous relationships! We discuss the importance of building your relationships to fit your needs and not conforming to the needs of others. The way you want to move is vital for a successful ENM relationship.
34:39
December 04, 2021
The Art of BDSM
The Art of Dominance/The Art of BDSM Description: We’ve all heard about it and many are curious, so let’s talk about it! This week we have two special guests joining us to give an introduction to The Art of BDSM. These sex educators are a polyamorous couple who are members of the BDSM and kink communities. Join us for another educational and entertaining episode!
01:26:31
November 20, 2021
Sowing Seeds: Cultivating multiple relationships at the same time.
This episode is a bit of a continuation of Episode three from season one titled: Enough is Enough. On this episode we discuss cultivating new relationships while maintaining and flourishing your newest connection. How do you ensure none of your partners are lacking while you actively date?
01:04:09
November 13, 2021
Mono Vs. Poly: A Mono Conversation
In this episode, Kue is rolling solo... or is he? Join us for this mono conversation.
55:41
October 30, 2021
Fetish: You Like Whaaaaaa???
This week’s episode is part two of our kink/fetish series. On this episode we discuss the difference between fetishes and kinks, if we have any fetishes, and the most common and uncommon fetishes. This is another episode you won’t want to miss!
51:02
October 16, 2021
Kink Me Baby!
 We received so much wonderful feedback on our last episode, that we thought it would be nice to expound on it. With that in mind, we decided to create a three part kink/fetish series. During this first episode we open up and share our first time experiencing some kinks. We also discuss what we learned in the process and how it helped us in our relationships. We’ll be revealing some stuff to one another that we’ve never shared, so you don’t want to miss it!
57:47
October 09, 2021
Kink, Fetish, Erotica; Oh My!
We’ve got another great episode coming this week! Let’s talk sex. We all know that polyamory isn’t all about sex but sex is a huge part of most relationships polyamory so technically, sex is a huge large of polyamory. While it is 2021, discussing sex, kinks and fetishes outside of the bedroom is still considered taboo by many today. But y’all know we’re all about those uncomfortable conversations. So get ready, episode three titled Kink, Fetish, Erotica; Oh My! will be like this Saturday, September 25th at 10:00 a.m EST. We’ll be discussing all things sex with Human Sexuality/Sexual Health Licensed Professional Counselor, Tamela R McDonald to talk sex, kink and fetishes in ENM.
49:10
September 25, 2021
Pinned Favorite📌
 Do you think there’s favoritism in polyamory? We all know that the politically correct answer is no, but let’s be real, do you have a favorite partner? Why or why not? Have you found that his effects your relationship with that partner or any of your other partners? Yea, that’s a lot to unpack right?! We’ll be unpacking with y’all! Join us this week to discuss our thoughts on if favoritism exists within polyamorous relationships.
01:03:38
September 18, 2021
Polynating🐝🍯
If you’re inexperienced in polyamory, do you think you could date people who are new to polyamory? If you’re new to polyamory, do you think you could date people more experienced in polyamory? That’s a lot to think about right?! Join us as we kick off season two to discuss polynating.
57:07
September 11, 2021
LIVE from Hedo!! Season 1 Finale
Since it’s the season finale, we wanted to end it with a bang! 😁 This episode, we’re on location at Hedonism II in Negril, Jamaica. We’re talking to some old and new guests at Hedo about their experience(s) and sooooo much more! We’ll also be discussing what we learned about ourselves this trip and throughout the season, so buckle up and enjoy! Thanks so much for rocking with us. We love y’all! ❤️❤️❤️❤️ If you weren’t there, I’m sorry you missed it, but there’s always next year! 😉 DM us on IG if you’re seriously interested! Come be wicked for a week! 😈
01:04:30
July 03, 2021
*Bonus Episode* - INFJ Sh*t 💩💩💩
While we finish up our finale episode, we wanted to surprise y’all with a little bonus. 😄 Join us this week to chat with Elle and discuss her boundaries of as an INFJ (introverted, intuitive, feeling, judging) personality in polyamory. Learn how you can ensure you respect the boundaries of those with INFJ personality traits similar to Elle. Y’all know she doesn’t talk much so you won’t want to miss this!
21:16
June 22, 2021
Managing Metamourships
Do you remember your first metamour? Friendships with metas can be tricky, but as with most things, you get out of it what you put into it. This week we’ll discuss pros and cons of meta relationships, so join us this week to hear our meta stories.
47:34
May 19, 2021
Family Matters: Coming out as Poly
Do you remember when you came out as poly? Have you not come out to your family yet?  Why or why not? How was it received by the family? We’ll be talking about all this and more on this week’s episode.             -Interviews with Nakayla and Gwen
52:45
May 08, 2021
Lights Camera Poly!
Have you noticed any ethical non-monogamous (ENM) relationships on tv or the big screen? Maybe they were present and thought it was weird. 😆 This week we’ll discuss some of our favorite ENM relationships on tv. How were they similar? How were they different? Do you feel you learned anything during the season or movie? Let’s talk about it!
55:44
April 17, 2021
Who Peed In The Dating Pool?
Kue and Elle discuss the struggles of dating. Why are there so many good men and women still single? And where the hell are y’all hiding?!
39:10
April 11, 2021
Veto Power/Couples Privilege and Dating Separately.
Kue and Elle discuss veto power. What is veto power? How/when should it be used? Does it automatically equal/mean couple’s privilege? Find out on this week’s episode!
52:50
April 03, 2021
Is Cheating Cheating?
When you’re ethically non-monogamous, is it possible to cheat on your partners? If so, how is cheating defined? And what the hell was Derrick Jaxn thinking?! 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏿‍♂️ Join Kue and Elle to discuss these topics during this week’s episode!
53:29
March 27, 2021
Poly-ish?
Kue and Elle discuss the two ends of the spectrum of relating in polyamory. We talk about how having no additional partners often make people feel “less poly”. We also discuss how to navigate social events when your poly is poppin’ and multiple partners are present as well as how to balance communicating with partners when you’ve travelled to visit a partner. 
45:17
March 20, 2021
Relationship transitions; how many of us have them?!
Kue and Elle discuss relationship transitions. How you can be there for your partner in the ways they need to during such a difficult time. What are some ways to maintain balance when you or one of your partner(s) suffers a relationship transition or break-up?
01:01:60
March 13, 2021
Hedonism 😈😈😈
You asked for it to, so we delivered! Let’s talk Hedonism baby!!!!! Kue and Elle discuss their experience at one of the greatest adult resorts on earth; Hedonism!!! They discuss their experience from year one to year three and how their comfortability progressed over the years. They also have an in depth conversation with some dear friends. TRUST US, you don’t want to miss the story at the end. It’s is off the chain!
01:10:55
March 06, 2021
Enough Is Enough!
Kue and Elle discuss what it means to be poly saturated and how they determine how many partners is too many. They talk about dealing with insecurities of other partners and how they work through them.
53:60
February 28, 2021
Rules Are Made to be Broken
RULES... How many of us have them!? No really, how many of us have rules in our lives and relationships that really don't make or break the overall foundation of the relationship? Hear how we navigate through old and new rules as we grow along in our journey.
01:03:05
February 20, 2021
Knot 4U The Intro
Poly-what??? During episode one we discuss the many forms of ethical non-monogamy and define polyamory.  We give insight on how our journey began and discuss how and why we became polyamorous.  Enjoy our foolery while taking a ride with us on our journey of polyamory!  Tell us what you think by leaving a rating and go follow us on IG @Knot4UPodcast.
47:41
February 13, 2021