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Living In The Third Degree With BPD

Living In The Third Degree With BPD

By Brad S.

This podcast is about my experiences of having a wife of 34 years diagnosed with BPD. I talk about the turmoil, challenges and frustrations of my relationship and raising a family when BPD is present.
** I do not have any professional experience with mental health all my knowledge is from my own research and living with someone with BPD. If you love someone who has BPD, remember...
“Love and understand them, because they find it so hard to understand and love themselves” - 2020 Brad
If you have questions or would like to be a guest on an episode, Email: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com
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#15 Sneak peek into season 2!!!

Living In The Third Degree With BPDAug 26, 2020

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#81 Is Rational Reasoning an oxymoron?

#81 Is Rational Reasoning an oxymoron?

This episode focuses on rational reasoning when people with BPD don't know how to reason rationally.
Some examples of effective ways that has worked in my relationship situation.
Oct 14, 202321:18
#80 Unlocking The Demon Within BPD

#80 Unlocking The Demon Within BPD

This episode has to do with if you have a particular situation that includes something that is similar related to a deep-seated fear with the person with BPD you could possibly jump over the extra situation at hand and late night the deep-seated fiera within the person with BPD and after you fight more about that than the issue than the issue at hand.
Jun 07, 202322:26
#79 The absence of compassion can lead to BPD thoughts.

#79 The absence of compassion can lead to BPD thoughts.

This episode pertains to my experience when you have the absence of compassion and that closeness and loving words can lead to the thoughts
Of infidelity from the person with BPD because they figure if you're not acting loving towards them and offering loving words that you must be offering all that to somebody else so that can be a huge trigger and either end up with them splitting or slowly leading into a much bigger and explosive argument either lasting the normal time that your person splits or any longer period of time.
So this is views and suggestions for my personal experiences in regards to the subject.
Apr 15, 202318:18
#78 Splitting and effective ways to control the argument.

#78 Splitting and effective ways to control the argument.

These are suggestions that I have used as well as read about and watch videos when it comes to splitting on how to take control of the argument to avoid the person with BPD of them deflecting and getting off track when it comes to the matter at hand but as well as effective ways to show empathy and validate their feelings.
Jan 19, 202334:59
#77 Lying, Impulsivly, Deflecting and Not Sorry.

#77 Lying, Impulsivly, Deflecting and Not Sorry.

This episode is about people with BPD lying deflecting and not saying sorry for things they say and things they do
Jan 18, 202323:30
#76 Dealing with Anhedonia when Combined with BPD.

#76 Dealing with Anhedonia when Combined with BPD.

This episode deals with people who have BPD and are experiencing anhedonia as well. I talk about what I have learned involving the symptoms what causes antedonia the medical procedures and procedures you can do on your own at home with my suggestions and educating yourself from what you can find online through YouTube videos and podcasts.
Jan 15, 202352:53
#75 A BPD Favorite Person

#75 A BPD Favorite Person

This episode is in addition to one I had done last year in regards to somebody with BPD who has a favorite person. This episode is specifically around someone who has BPD and builds their favorite person up to the point of perfection in a distorted way to get them in their life but this might also be helpful for somebody who doesn't have BPD so they might recognize if they are becoming a favorite person.
Jan 12, 202344:18
#74 A defanged rattlesnake will still strike!

#74 A defanged rattlesnake will still strike!

This episode clearly outlines even if somebody with BPD can do a 180 they still have the instincts embedded in them from BPD where they split and still have the BPD characteristics of an argument.
Dec 16, 202210:54
#73 An Unconventional Approach with Loving Tactics

#73 An Unconventional Approach with Loving Tactics

This episode is about an unconventional approach as far as unconventional in mental health standards for the loving tactic if you have the patience and the love for the person in your life who has BPD you can apply this tactic and approach that I have and have a smooth relationship with a person in your life who has BPD.
Dec 02, 202219:50
#72 BPD Triggers of Love AND Hate...

#72 BPD Triggers of Love AND Hate...

Any site that you look up and regards to BPD you always find information about triggers of BPD when it comes to episodes and splitting but very rarely will you find one that involves triggers of love so I want to do this episode involving triggers of love as well as hate.
Dec 02, 202222:24
#71 Characteristics of BPD during an argument.

#71 Characteristics of BPD during an argument.

This episode is about what I've noticed there are certain characteristics of somebody with BPD specifically during an argument so I'm offering my experience with my wife dating back to when she had full blown BPD starting in 2012 and how she reacts now during full blown argumentative since she has done a 180 almost 6 months ago.
Oct 07, 202239:47
#70 What have you got to lose? Try this suggestions to help turn BPD 180 Degrees.

#70 What have you got to lose? Try this suggestions to help turn BPD 180 Degrees.

This is suggestions on what I tried with my wife which helped turn her BPD 180° but I can also help any relationship that he's become stale....
Sep 26, 202216:08
#69 IMPORTANT: I have proof someone with BPD can do a 180!! Yes, even after 11 agonizing years!!!

#69 IMPORTANT: I have proof someone with BPD can do a 180!! Yes, even after 11 agonizing years!!!

This episode proves that people with BPD can do a 180° change proven it with my wife who has had BPD since 2011 and after all this time I have seen a 180° changing her so with that being said enjoy this episode and hopefully if you have somebody in your life with BPD or if you have BPD yourself there is hope I guarantee you there is 100% hope
Sep 23, 202228:39
#68 IMPORTANT EPISODE!!!    This is about a Surprising BPD change for good and 8 Days of Heaven!

#68 IMPORTANT EPISODE!!! This is about a Surprising BPD change for good and 8 Days of Heaven!

I would invite EVERYONE who has BPD or involved with someone who has BPD to understand that after knowing my wife and her disorder getting progressinly worse since 2012 to the point that she was so consumed by her disorder she became someone I did not know anymore, she was not the woman I fell in love with and not the person that was such a loving, kind and caring person not only to me and loved ones but to strangers as well....

I DO NOT have any answer at all, I have not researched yet how this is possible but in the past and as with anyone with BPD, when stress or emotions are introduced they are known to split to avoid, deflect and distort reality to avoid dealing with the emotion, BUT to my surprise with her and to my surprise to how BPD works, she had experienced the most traumatic events over the past 6 months which she was turned away, abandoned, pushed away by friends, family and even her children... She lost every material possession she owned including her place to live, her and

there can be a significant change for the better for themselves and for the people involved in the life of the BPD because I have seen the sadness of the worst for my wife being inflicted with BPD and seeing such a good human being with so much love and caring not only for me but everyone in her life including strangers!

There has been over a 100 things I have said and done weather it was actions, words, songs etc. that in the past would have triggered an episode being small to a full blown episode which in the past made me walk on eggshells and even then it was a crap shoot, and with the most traumatic events she sustained over the past 6 months from losing her home, every possession she owned including her pets, being homeless, being pushed out and abandoned by her friends and even own child and feeling lower than ever in her life and finally contemplating suicide and landing in the behavioral health ward twice at 2 separate hospitals in less than a month and coming out of it being the most thoughtful, amazing human being that I have know and grown to love then being robbed of all that because of BPD taking over her mind, but if all this that happened to her, someone diagnosed with full blown BPD, even I thought it was could to either suicide or that I would be the devil in her mind to hate and see to it that her presence was never to be around me and forget me forever, yet to my surprise she has subsided her BPD and has been more loving, thoughtful and super amazing than I remember ever in years and years even before her diagnosis of BPD, I cant explain it... I have to research more on how this might have turned a 180 for the better, but until then, Im ever so grateful and thankful and want to take advantage of every blessed minute of this amazing woman that I gave my heart to 34 years ago, and if her BPD surfaces I still will be there there to love her and support her as I have always tried my best, but even more now than ever!
THERE IS HOPE OUT THERE! Trust me when I tell you that if she is capable of Turing a 180 ANYONE can do it!
May 24, 202221:27
#67 Their last interaction is how they perceive you.

#67 Their last interaction is how they perceive you.

This is a cross between one of my older episodes of every time we fought she sound like a broken record along with a couple of new ideas that I had read in a couple of magazines and books about borderline personality disorder and how they perceive you with their last interaction.
Mar 15, 202224:48
#66 360 degree of hate and negative emotions

#66 360 degree of hate and negative emotions

This episode is about somebody who has BPD when they're splitting they have a 360° circle of emotions they will attack everything that you are to them a father a husband a lover a friend or anything that they ever said good about you they will reverse it when they're splitting.
Mar 12, 202219:46
#65 fueling the demon

#65 fueling the demon

This episode is called feeling the demon and I'm trying to teach people how to not feed the BPD side of your loved one the more you feed into it the more it fuels them that's what they're looking for there's certain characteristics of BPD that you can fight by different actions for every action there's a reaction so I'm offering a suggestion that works for me hopefully it'll work for you
Mar 06, 202220:06
#64 Trauma Bond Relationship Signs

#64 Trauma Bond Relationship Signs

After receiving an email from a listener asking if I thought my relationship with my wife was a trauma Bond relationship but I had never heard of that before so I had done some reading and figured I would bring to you what I learned about a drama relationship.
Dec 21, 202132:18
#63 A war during a nuclear disaster!

#63 A war during a nuclear disaster!

This is the worst episode of recorded to date... My wife just went through extremely tragic event and because we were fighting she refused to allow me to be involved in this incident and pushed me away and I haven't spoken to her and afraid of going to be a long time they're so sweet to me and that's even if she ever will again.
Dec 03, 202143:56
#62 Interview With My BPD Wife! - PART 1

#62 Interview With My BPD Wife! - PART 1

**(To date part 2 has still not been recorded...) This is very special episode I never ever thought that I could get my wife Michelle to have an interview with me, considering I kept this podcast hidden from her for over a year!!! Unfortunately there was supposed to be a part 2 to her interview but there was an argument after part one, but at least I want to put up what I could get out of her for now...
Nov 26, 202127:04
#61 Trying a different approach when accused will give you a different result...

#61 Trying a different approach when accused will give you a different result...

I hope you find this episode interesting I figured three different ways of approaching the same kind of situation and it actually made my wife open up and tell me the one approach not to take because it actually hurt worse than me denying an accusation I think you'll find it very interesting and helpful.
Nov 20, 202126:17
#60 The Hypochondriac BPD

#60 The Hypochondriac BPD

This episode is about her being a hypochondriac but got so much worse once she was diagnosed with BPD and when stresses come on it triggers more of her hypochondriac behavior.
Nov 17, 202114:51
#59 My 9 Hours In Heaven

#59 My 9 Hours In Heaven

This episode is a follow-up from a couple of episodes back where I said I have not had contact with my wife and almost 2 months and the next time I did have contact with her that I would do a follow-up episode to let my listeners know what transpired and what came about during the visit and how it ended I think you'll enjoy this one obviously by the name of the title 9 hours in heaven it was an excellent excellent visit and ending.
Nov 17, 202123:14
#58 My Secret Digital Identy

#58 My Secret Digital Identy

So in this episode I talk about an embarrassing thing I've been doing and how i created a second personality which I call my digital personality it's the only way that I can find out the true feelings of how my wife thinks about me I think you'll enjoy this episode but it was very hard for me to admit this kind of deceptive but useful tool I've been doing with all good intentions.
Nov 14, 202131:48
#57 Anticipation and Impatiently Waiting!

#57 Anticipation and Impatiently Waiting!

In this episode this is a part one of a part 2 episode of taking advice of family members and staying away for at least a month with no communication and see if she can appreciate all the things I was doing for her including love and attention and financial support....
Oct 23, 202116:56
#56 Listener Email "Taking teasing to another level into his own hands!"

#56 Listener Email "Taking teasing to another level into his own hands!"

This was an email sent in from a listener...."Hey listen I sent you an email on how he had made the conscious decision to make her see how it felt to get hurt with words as soon backfired on him I think you'll find this episode very intriguing and insightful as I did."
Sep 28, 202121:02
#55 Writing a letter to your loved one, with the useful outline...

#55 Writing a letter to your loved one, with the useful outline...

I'm passing on my advice on the outline that I use that's been mostly effective when we're not together it's not so much an apology letter but it's a general letter outlining that I don't like arguing not putting anybody at flame but saying how much I love her and how I'm willing to discuss things proactively before they turn into an argument hopefully this could work for you.
Sep 13, 202123:48
#54 After 6 weeks of heaven I was sent to hell! #WTFONCEAGAIN

#54 After 6 weeks of heaven I was sent to hell! #WTFONCEAGAIN

After 6 weeks of being together and most of it being like heaven she opened up to me we had great talks and the worst time in her life she did everything she could to make me leave so I did.
Aug 28, 202129:58
#53 Back together again! (for now...)

#53 Back together again! (for now...)

This episode is what I've been experienced over the past 6 weeks since me and my wife have gotten back together.
Aug 23, 202117:30
#52 My visit after almost 3 months Also being our anniversary of 34 years

#52 My visit after almost 3 months Also being our anniversary of 34 years

This episode deals with the incidents on my last visit at my wife's house after almost 4 months of not seeing her and having her ignore any of my phone calls text and attempts to visit her it lasted less than 72 hours of her sending me away once again only because I repeated myself twice which is part of her delusions that if I'm repeating myself I'm repeating it for somebody else other than her, PLUS we met June 20th 1987 so this was our 34 year anniversary!


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Jun 21, 202127:14
#51 First Interview! With my son Matt speaking about growing up in the dynamics of a BPD family

#51 First Interview! With my son Matt speaking about growing up in the dynamics of a BPD family

This is my FIRST INTERVIEW and it happens to be with my son Matthew who is 26 years old and happens to be an inmate at the NH State Prison For Men in Berlin, NH. He speaks about his childhood through adulthood growing up and having to deal with the turmoil and chaos of having a parent with BPD. This was probably the most interesting episode I've ever done, so PLEASE listen as as stated in the episode that if you are interested in ASKING A SPECIFIC QUESTION for Matthew or if you would like him to touch on a specific subject that you would like me to read on the air and have him answer for you, I will do that in the next episode with him. ALSO... If you would like to write Matthew a letter or become his pen pal, please Email me an I will forward you his information. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS ALL POSSIBLE!!!  EMAIL: thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ****** Please feel free to send me an email with questions, comments or feedback to thirddegreepodcastnh@gmail.com ******** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR MY LISTNERS ******* Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d
Jun 14, 202101:41:33
#50 Honey You Foiled My Plan!!!

#50 Honey You Foiled My Plan!!!

This is a few tips and tricks you can try to use that work for me when you're being accused of something before it actually happens it's kind of a reverse psychology but letting her know however she wants to take it but to look at reality and it can prove if you're guilty but also it can prove how much you really love him/her.

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Jun 12, 202113:56
#49 Bite your tongue and bite the bullet!

#49 Bite your tongue and bite the bullet!

I'd like to give some advice to win somebody with BPD or even doesn't have BPD and when they're accusing you rather than blasting back at them and having an unnecessary argument try to take these tips that I'm giving you it's worked in many times that I've had arguments with my wife about her accusing me of cheating I'm not saying it'll work 100% of the time but even if it works once that's one less fight you have to have with somebody that you love.


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Jun 12, 202126:31
#48 Listener Email Telling me it's not my fault for being abused

#48 Listener Email Telling me it's not my fault for being abused

This is a very special episode to me, this is a listener who's email I read on a previous episode and he tells me the abuse is not my fault even though I have blamed myself even publicly. I want to thank him for his thoughtful response!


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Jun 08, 202111:59
#47 Men Hurt Too!

#47 Men Hurt Too!

Men by societies standard are supposed to e strong, not cry, deal with not being loved or having affection, that is all women stuff right? WRONG! Men are equal with needs and hurt and sometimes leads to suicide because of having to hide or suppress those feelings of shame.

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Jun 06, 202120:05
#46 A new approach when looking for forgiveness

#46 A new approach when looking for forgiveness

After listening to many other podcasts and reading material not just on BPD but marriage in general I have some tips that I picked up in pieces to put together in one episode to share with you.

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Jun 06, 202129:33
#45 Connecting the dots Part 2

#45 Connecting the dots Part 2

We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you.

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Jun 05, 202115:53
#44 Connecting the dots correcting wrongs to rights

#44 Connecting the dots correcting wrongs to rights

We dont understands all the time how to communicate with our loved ones and its even harder with BPD! I have put together some facts and personal feelings into making wrongs into rights, it maybe be too late for mem, but I hope it's not for you.

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Jun 04, 202125:53
#43 All black and white ignoring the gray

#43 All black and white ignoring the gray

no matter how much you speak or write to someone with BPD about anything between the black and white they will ignore due to there is no middle ground with BPD.

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Jun 03, 202118:48
#42 Emails that listeners send in to thank me

#42 Emails that listeners send in to thank me

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Jun 02, 202119:09
#41 Paranoid Delusional Stories (Part 3)
Jun 01, 202129:27
#40 A look into season 2 - Starting with Family and children affected by BPD
May 29, 202118:08
#39 Listener Email: His Girlfriend has Paranoia and delusional episodes.
May 29, 202130:04
#38 BPD the Cancer of the mind that keeps living
May 29, 202125:51
#37 Runaway Thoughts, Perceptions and Misconceptions with time
May 29, 202128:19
#36 Paranoid Delusional Stories (Part 2)
May 25, 202132:57
#35 When their favorite person is someone else
May 23, 202117:25
#34 Putting yourself in their shoes by trying alternatives

#34 Putting yourself in their shoes by trying alternatives

These are a collection of some tips that I gathered by researching online or listening to audio books that I have tried in situations with my wife (who has BPD) and they have worked many times and I wanted to offer them to you. If YOU HAVE BPD: I would suggest that you think of situations in the past or that may arise and try turning the tables and think of the examples I put in place and IF YOU ARE A NON-BPD maybe you should try these tips if you care enough about the person in your life with BPD and if you ant to end a cycle of the same outcome.

These tips may not only help upcoming situations BUT they may end a situation that is a reoccurring situation but you can try to end the cycle with a new approach for a better outcome.

Good luck to all and remember... If you have BPD, you are still a good person, you are special and beautiful! You are loving, caring and compassionate but what might make you question all these good things about yourself is people with BPD generally have a more harsh side then people who don't so with the over the top tantrums, the nasty harsh things you say to your partner it may overshadow the good person that you really are, so if you want to feel better about yourself and have a happier and healthier relationship you need to work on yourself and then the good in you will shine!  


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May 21, 202101:07:09
#33 You can't change someone else, no matter how hard you try!
Apr 23, 202118:25
#32 She will go to extremes to avoid abandonment!

#32 She will go to extremes to avoid abandonment!

This episode covers the extremes that someone with BPD will go through to avoid being abandoned. This is one of the most confusing traits to someone with BPD.... Very confusing for the other person like me! *** AUDIBLE.COM SPECIAL FOR LISTNERS ***  Click the link below for a special for our listeners! ONE FREE MONTH of audible.com and 2 FREE AUDIBLE BOOKS which are YOURS TO KEEP FOREVER even if you decide to cancel! https://www.amazon.com/hz/audible/mlp/membership/plus?ref_=assoc_tag_ph_1524216631897&_encoding=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&linkCode=pf4&tag=eggshellpod09-20&linkId=c2ccdbcfbc874edb7e88243891afdc1d
Apr 21, 202123:57