Refocused: Loving God, Loving People

Can mothers truly have it all? On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Irene Moyaba. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and we are serving the tea piping hot! Love always, Kuku & Blessing

To all the ladies who feel like their ovaries are running out of time... hold your horses! In this extremely hilarious yet very educative episode. We unpacked a lot of controversies surrounding pregnancy and motherhood. Some of the questions that centered the conversation include :- -Is “snapback culture” purely motivated by vanity? -Is it just the young moms who get their bodies back after pregnancy? -Why are we so stressed about stretch marks, are they avoidable? -What happens with sex and intimacy post- partum? -Is it possible to maintain a healthy weight during pregnancy? On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Uche Daubry. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and we are serving the tea piping hot! Grab your pens and paper to jot down pregnancy cheat codes ha-ha We highly recommend this episode for everyone…ladies, men, expecting moms, moms, moms to be, expecting dads, dads, dads to be, and even those who have chosen to be child-free. Love always, Kuku & Blessing

Does anything really prepare you for the transformable journey of pregnancy to the destination of motherhood…apparently not! On this episode co-hosted by the amazing Blessing Ibeafu and our incredible guest Mmabatho Mphalele. We visited the young momma’s club as promised and revealed many deep truths. This raw but extremely insightful episode lets us in on something deeper than the physical aspects of pregnancy and motherhood. The conversation was heavy on the emotional side, especially the connection with the child, and taking up a new identity as “mom” We highly recommend this episode for everyone…moms, moms to be, dads, dads to be and even those who have chosen to be child-free. Love always, Kuku & Blessing

Hello refocused hun, The concept of “Arranged marriages” is not new at all. It’s part of a long standing tradition that has declined substantially during the 19th and 20th centuries. It is a super controversial topic loaded with many complex possibilities, pros & cons. On today’s episode we are joined with Lerit Nifesi: a married Wellness & Style Blogger and Joy Otegbayo, popularly known as R-Jay “a relationship enthusiast” They shared their stance on the chosen topic and uncovered a lot of areas not usually spoken about. The recording session was educative and exciting indeed. Anyways thanks for coming to the end of the love series, feel free to go binge if you’ve been naughty, but if you’ve been nice settle down for an amazing conversation. Love always, Your very single host, Kuku

By now we all know that idolizing relationships are a thing, but have we also begun to idolize singleness, have we over glorified the wait? On this amazing yet impactful episode, I was joined by Sharon Mohie (Creative, Blogger & Podcaster: Unashamed and Unafraid, Sport enthusiast) & Sindi Mcata, the heart behind “Devoted with Sindi” as she beautifully put it. We discussed healing, hurt, self-sufficiency, stability prior to a relationship, feminism, societal roles and how our faith intersects it all. I hope it brings you a lot of clarity and direction regardless of the season you’re in. Love always, Your very single host, Kuku

Over the last few days, young Nigerians all over the country have come out to peacefully protest in the thousands, demanding an end to police brutality and the disbandment of the “Special Anti Robbery Squad”. On Sunday, The 11th of October 2020 the current DG of police released a statement claiming they were disbanding/dissolving SARS as a unit. First, this is nothing new. In 2015, 2017, 2018, and 2019, the same proclamations and declarations were made and nothing changed. These officials remained on the road; raping, beating, kidnapping and stealing from young Nigerians. Second, there is to be no reckoning according to the plans this administration has. All former SARS officials will be redeployed to other existing departments. That is a gross insult to the very many Nigerians who have died at the hands of these criminals. We demand a public inquiry, investigation and hearing into every death, and every act of brutality. If the police cannot hold itself to account, it does not deserve public trust and funding. Thirdly, PEACEFUL Protesters across the country have been brutalised by the police; arrested, tear gassed, sprayed with water cannons, beaten and over 10 young Nigerians have lost their lives. Our protest has both been peaceful and respectful and well within our constitutional rights. We are not criminals. We are not area boys. We are not hooligans. We are Nigerians who are FED UP and have decided we will do something about it. We inherited a broken system from you, but we want better for the generation after us. Young people know that SARS is rotten fruit of a diseased tree. We want restitution, changes in recruitment and reform. We want investigations into crimes committed by police officials. We also want a psychological evaluation & retraining (by an independent body) of all disbanded SARS officers before they are redeployed. We want an increase in police officers salaries so that they are adequately compensated for protecting lives and properties of citizens. Ways to help:- Educate yourself, Raise awareness & Donate. https://donatebtc.feministcoalition2020.com/

I’ve not laughed this hard during a segment in a very long time, I learned so much too. Getting married young is quite a controversy in the 21st century, while some desire it cause they think it’s trendy, others are more concerned with building themselves completely before taking in someone else. Tola (23) & Yomi (33) have been married for about 4 months now, Tola describes the experience as a “learning curve”, while Yomi describes it as getting to know each other deeper. Join them in this amazing episode to discover everything from first dates, to meeting the parents, to mental preparation, to altering their plans to accommodate each other . Most importantly find out how they “mend the unmendables” -(Yomi, 2020) Love always, Refocused