Yaesha Bloom

The hatred we may feel for ourselves may be the things that drive a wedge in our healthy connections. Let the love others have for you overshadow that self-defeating attitude.

We should always love and appreciate others and our Ethnic culture, but we should strive to develop our own personal culture.

Growth can be seen as the release of the best part of yourself. No matter the kind of growth we should allow ourselves a chance to. Release yourself to the unknown.

Too often I've allowed myself to take responsibility for things that are out of my control until I learned that everything isn't my fault.

No one likes to hear that things take time in such an on-demand world, yet we can't avoid this in terms of healing the soul. Remember it's never too late to grow, it takes time!

To resist healthy change is to stunt potential growth. How can we ever know our capabilities if we remain the same?

Sometimes to remain silent is doing ourselves a disservice. From speaking up for ourselves or what we want, I believe cultivating the right use of your voice is essential.

We all have moments when we need to vent but there is a time and place for that. Allowing ourselves to become neurotic and subjecting others to hysterical fits is not a healthy expression. We must find a balance in the expression of deep emotions.

There are moments in our lives where we must call upon a strength that comes from within. This strength isn't just available however, it must be cultivated.

We all have a few things we'd like to tell our younger selves. I feel it is important to say to ourselves these things even now. Enjoy this episode about things we'd like to tell our younger selves with a fantastic guest speaker Angie.

Too often I feel we beat ourselves up with feeling sorry instead of cultivating empathy and an understanding for ourselves. When we begin to have compassion for our own being we may open the doors to natural healing.

Sometimes it feels like to develop patience we must learn to slow down and take a break. Slowing down can also help in realizing how far you've come, pat yourself on the back, and realign with your main quest!

There comes a point where we must allow ourselves adequate time to adjust to new modes of existence. It's not just an overnight mental thing it's a lifestyle!

Don't let false pride get in the way of what you deserve, whether it be asking for helping or being able to receive it. Let's allow ourselves what we need.

I feel we all need to come to a point in life where we can allow ourselves to get lost in what we love for the sake of living fully with no shame or guilt.

We must learn to become aware when we are being driven by inclinations that may not lead to a fruitful end. Better yet, be sure that what you do feel inclined to do is coming from within you not some sphere of influence outside yourself.

There is no sense in living a half-life by doing what's expected or keeping up with the Joneses, we should cultivate our own being by learning to do what we like! This way, life can feel more whole and not separated from our inner being.

Learning to exercise using the word no as a people pleaser can be very difficult. Too often I found that many of us don't have healthy boundaries especially when we make ourselves too available. There comes a point in life when "No" becomes a part of choosing yourself over others when necessary.

We must balance rebelling with a just cause or lack of one. Many of us have been led into a rebellion without a reason or direction and find ourselves in critical moments that beg our attention. Let's avoid these pitfall situations and learn to make better conscious rebel moves with a true direction in mind.

We are all familiar with the phrase "Let sleeping dogs lie". This holds so much weight when traversing the changes of time as a Natural Law. Too often I found myself dwelling on the past preventing me from experiencing new things in the present. Allowing myself to learn to close those doors and reminisce with a warm heart, and growing into a new mode of existence helps me thrive fuller in the present.

Sometimes to learn new things about ourselves and the world around we need to mix up our routines. A healthy little deviation from your monotonous day-to-day may align you with the inspiration or new experiences you've been looking for. Rigidity breeds boredom and loss of inspiration in my opinion so try shifting a little.

"Awakening" can have many descriptions depending on each individual's personal experience. Still, for me to start off it simply means the process of coming into awareness of the things we have chosen to ignore or subconsciously. Then constructively addressing these things to improve our experience as we grow.

We should not allow ourselves to be at every whim of trivial circumstances. There comes a need to strengthen ourselves mentally and emotionally so that we are not inclined towards the wrong action just because our emotions are invoked. A more profound discipline in the aspect of life will begin to show you a side of yourself you never knew existed.

Many things when misused or with selfish intentions can do more harm than good. I find it deeply important to take the time to understand what we take in, to be used properly. "Everything that glitters isn't gold".

Don't let your feelings of inadequacy stop you from grabbing hold of what's yours. We work so hard for what we need and desire, why not feel deserving of the fruits of your labor? We are and can be more than we may realize if we get out of the way. It's time to bloom!

I've come to believe that being alone shouldn't mean isolation. Let us start by recognizing what we believe being alone means to us and why the need for it is necessary when prompted. I've often heard and also been the person to say"I just can't be alone". I never asked myself why or sought to understand the more profound need here. I think we need to learn to be alone in healthy ways for a deeper understanding of self but still open to the world so we're not facing self-imposed isolation.

On this twisting journey of unfoldment, a plethora of distractions come from various mediums. Learning to become aware of how these distractions play a role in your life can help tighten up on what you really want and where you're going. Some can be healthy and help us grow while others only serve to further us from what we seek. Know the difference.

"If you want to go fast go alone, if you want to go far go together"- African Proverb

We need to learn to cultivate and sustain a few long-lasting friendships in our lives. I believe it is essential, especially when we need support or a friendly face or voice. As we change so does the world around us but we can still stay connected with those we love. 

Way too often I used to find myself in precarious situations from ignoring intuitive nudges, and sometimes gut feelings about others around me. I am continuing to learn the value and strength of understanding, decoding, and following these signs. This doesn't mean every feeling is a sign but more times than none most are.

It takes time to grow into our emotional expression of our mental atmosphere, after all, it's not like we had classes in school for it. Nonetheless, I believe it to be very important to find passion in understanding your own mental health and needs. This journey for many of us can be a scary goal to pursue but take it from me the earlier you start the more you'll thank yourself for doing so later. Its a Journey of rediscovery 

Sometimes we must grow apart to grow together. I believe it is essential to refine yourself and the company you keep over time, naturally this already happens. Resistance to this creates worlds of chaos so many find themselves, typically emotional to start off. Like anything else involving conscious change, this step as one of many is not an easy one. Yet it can be a part of your anchor of strength in yourself when the tides of life churn. 

Just another reiteration of how I believe defining who you are as an individual is important. It's a beautiful life and it's a fast one we should know who we are and where we're going. Enjoy the journey but plan your steps knowing changes will take place as old identities fall away.

Sometimes the lack of drive to continue on our path can be a significant sign. Often I feel we ignore this sign in order to sustain things that are not meant for us. Return to what feels suitable for you and watch the resistance fade away.

Sometimes situations call for us to stand firm when expressing our feelings to others or to have healthy discussions. Once a people pleaser I found it hard to do this for fear of losing folks. Although uncomfortable at first you'll find liberation in doing so. The right people will always listen without getting super defensive.

Too many times I hear about folks having a lack of purpose. Know, you define that purpose. It may sound cheesy but take it from my life has always felt fuller when I do what I want within reason. We shouldn't spend a lifetime trying to remember what brought s joy as children. Life can and should still be purpose-inspiring when you really seek it.

This can go in many directions when applied but I feel in a min,d, body, and spirit aspect you must learn to follow your own counsel. After we've asked all the questions and overturned many stones we are still met with having to make our own choices. What better way to forge your path than by learning to cultivate your willpower, determination, grace, integrities, etc? We can learn from each other but at the end of the day we must make and live out our own choices.

I believe we all have the natural inclination for deep expression, especially in times of uncertainty. These types of emotional deep expressions depending on the listener can be mistaken as depression. I feel it is essential to recognize the difference not just for yourself but when some may just need a hug and a little emotional support. Too often we repress these emotional expressions and this in my opinion is the culprit for some forms of "depression". 

One of the major things I've noticed is not many folks prepare for getting older whether 30 or 60yrs old, we go along drifting. Expecting more from the lease amount of effort in no direction. To grow for me means planning for the unknown with a direction or goal in mind. This means fear will show itself in the face of uncomfortable change but we must learn to act anyway for the sake of our own growth. In these moments we learn new things about ourselves as we shed a younger mind and bloom renewed.

Many like to say it's easy to move forward and just cut old things away. But no one really speaks on the emotionally painful part of it, to me we have to remember the practical aspect of being emotional creatures that hardly understand ourselves at best. Growth isn't so black and white, what works for one may not work for another. With this in mind, I believe there is importance in being aware and gentle with harder aspects of growth as we mature.

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Growth isn't just something we gain overnight. From my experience so far in this life, it takes time, as much as I hated hearing that it's comforting for me now. The reality is any form of growth like tending a garden takes maintenance. We should learn to cultivate joy in the maintenance of the things we cherish. To gain isn't enough to call it growth to accomplish longevity is the real deal.

It's common and understandable after days of labor to feel like one of our main freedoms is to do what we want by doing nothing. But let's be realistic it's not about toxic productivity but remembering the joy in learning and daily tasks. I, for one, have always enjoyed the maintenance of the things I cherish, including relationships as an example. So why not learn to take your time further by learning things or relearning to love the things you do know and once enjoyed?

In a world that constantly changes and so does the mind when pulled in many directions. I feel one of the best ways to combat becoming a drifter, is to have and build a plan around where you're going also with the reality in mind we're getting older. Even if that means hitting some roadblocks and revamping a plan it's better to have one for your life than not having one.

I believe failure is not a state of true being but an idea lived in. If we learn to look and these moments as opportunities to reroute growth then we'd feel less like failures and more like eternal students striving to learn through natural trial and error.

Learning to commit to anything worthwhile especially yourself can really help propel you towards what we so dearly seek. Many times I missed out on great opportunities because I gave up right before their attainment. Things take time undoubtedly but we can help to keep our faith in our goals when we know, feel n' see the results of our commitment.

This one is in memory of a dear friend of mine who just passed away this week, Rest In Power Winnie! The only way we can grow, teach and support each other is to support ourselves first. Finding the strength to do so isn't a task for the faint of heart but it can lead to exponential growth for anyone who takes upon the journey.

Seeking counsel from those you love, a stranger, etc should never feel like a weakness because it is not. I have found that it has become one of my greatest strengths in growing through this school of life.  Support comes from reaching out when you feel the need and taking the best of that support as needed.

I was a guest on a show earlier and the question was "Is being a nice guy enough and why do we finish last?". I wanted to speak on this but from a broader perspective, I feel we don't finish last we quite emotionally/literally put ourselves last.

I have found as a growing co-creator with the universe it can be a little stressful trying to manage your time between life and creative endeavors. Here are a few of my thoughts on finding and growing into my own balance.

If you have no self control in your finances or life and can't seem to keep up with your own appetites there is a problem? Sometimes the key to our struggles is in viewing them from a different lens and making a few adjustments. Just a clean up in your thought process and relationship with your resources, may just be the quick fix you've been look for (sarcasm).  

Let's us remember the precious and the rare are not always easy to come by. Be Patient, stay open and keep up the inner work new friends are everywhere. Sometimes we can have an open mind but a closed heart, let this not keep us from connecting with other like souls.