Cycle Breaker Parents Unite
By Laura Linklater
So often our ability to show our love for our children can be squashed by day-to-day pressures, by challenging behaviour that we’re unsure how to deal with it, and of course, those triggers from our own upbringing and life experiences. You’re in the right place for all you need to enable you to step into your power as a leader in your family and watch your family relationships bloom.
Episode 34 – Sarah Parkes - Our parenting legacy
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Today’s guest is Sarah Parkes. Sarah is a mum of 3, a speaker, author & legacy coach. She helps coaches, therapists & healers parent consciously, whilst growing your legacy & impact.
Her vision is for our children to grow up in a world of possibility, where positive legacy creation is the norm. Where feminine and masculine qualities are equally respected and valued.
We talk about:
· Parenting with a thoughtful focus on the legacy you will leave behind (which is often tricky to envisage when you are ‘in the trenches’ with young children)
· Finding our voice to advocate for ourselves when we have children – the emergence of the lioness!
· Being present in the moment whilst also looking to the future
· Dads – and how Cycle Breaker Dads are so wonderful as they buck societal trends. Extra salute to Cycle Breaker Dads
You can find out more about Sarah and the support she offers on her website at https://www.spcoaching.co.uk/ and her Facebook group: howtotalksokidswilllistenuk
The summit is sadly over now, but if you would still like to listen to Sarah’s talk about sibling rivalry (aka stopping them from fighting!), you CAN still sign up hereand £15 of every purchase will go to Leeds Baby Bank for every purchase.
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts and mingle with other Cycle Breakers.
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Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
33. It's okay to be different! [Summit Interview]
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Today’s guest is Sarah Brooks. She is an author, and a home educating mum. She is raising her family according to the principles of respectful parenting and radical unschooling.
We talk about:
- Doing things differently as a parent – how it can be challenging to go against the mainstream grain and it’s still okay to do that
- Respectful parenting and intentional living
- The importance of finding your tribe of supporters as you live into your authentic expression of yourself and what your parenting looks like
You can find out more about Sarah at:
https://www.instagram.com/i_am_simple_natural_life/
And get a copy of ‘I Am Simple Natural Life’ here:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08L67KWCJ
Sarah’s book, I Am Simple Natural Life, helps people on their journeys towards a more natural life that feels good to them. The book covers everything from eco-living to natural toiletries, changing your work practices, unschooling, through to holistic well-being for your mind and body.
*Don’t worry if you missed the Be a Cycle Breaker Summit 2022 and you really want to listen to the talks now! You can still buy it here and get a super special podcast discount applied as you do.*
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts and mingle with other Cycle Breakers.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
32. Decolonising our healing [SUMMIT SPEAKER INTERVIEW]
Episode 32
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Today’s guest is Tejal Patel.
Tejal is a trained embodiment mentor and decolonised yoga guide specialising in trauma-informed body-based healing. She supports others stepping into their personal power, self-sovereignty & soul-led creation. Her expertise includes body-mind healing for systemic oppression, emotional trauma, stress and anxiety.
We talk about:
· How parents can bring themselves into a healthy, regulated body?
· How can we tell what state our nervous system is in?
· What decolonised healing means to Tejal and an invitation to consider what it might mean for you
You can still listen to Tejal’s talk and all the summit talks here with 10% off for podcast listeners by getting yourself an all-access pass and supporting Leeds Baby Bank Charity
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You can follow Tejal on Instagram @tejal_p and she has an incredible gift for podcast listeners:
If you are a visionary or cycle-breaker looking to step deeper into heart-led, authentic ways of being and creating, Tejal is offering free 30 minute 1:1 Embodied Mentorship sessions - a synergy of vision-creating, somatic healing and sovereignty reclamation - in exchange for being interviewed as part of her research for her community development
Connect with Laura:
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts and mingle with other Cycle Breakers.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
31. The Body Keeps the Score [SUMMIT SPEAKER INTERVIEW]
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Today’s guest is Aoife Griffin, Holistic Healer.
We talk about:
· The ways in which trauma is stored in the body
· Our own adversities and how we overcame (and are still overcoming) our own trauma
· Some of the research into ADHD and trauma – and misdiagnosis in young people and in adults
You can still listen to Aoife's talk and all the summit talks here with 10% off for podcast listeners by getting yourself an all-access pass and supporting Leeds Baby Bank Charity
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You can find out more about Aoife and the support she offers on Instagram @yourpowerwithin and her website: aoifegriffin.ie
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts and mingle with other Cycle Breakers.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
30. The power of your breath to help you find calm [SUMMIT INTERVIEW]
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Today’s guest is Beckie Shuttleworth, Children’s Wellbeing Mentor.
We talk about:
· The power of something as simple as breath to help you and your children find calm
· A couple of great techniques you can take away from this podcast
· Why it’s never too late to learn about using your breath and reap the benefits
You can find out more about Beckie and the support she offers on Instagram.
Book yoga (adult and children sessions) with Beckie here:
Be sure to download Beckie’s free guide to supporting your child with anxiety.
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Wednesday.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
29. Getting Unstuck [SUMMIT SPEAKER INTERVIEW]
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Today’s guest is the wonderful Cat Googe. Cat is a Confidence & Joy Coach. She helps mums in their 40's and 50's release overwhelm, get unstuck and embrace their most spectacular decades. Cat is on a mission to help you reconnect with happiness, step into self-belief and fall back in love with yourself.
We talk about:
· How to get unstuck when you’re feeling uninspired and even trapped my parenthood
· The power of laughter yoga (warning: there is lots of laughter in this podcast!)
· Why massage is such a powerful tool for cycle-breaker parents especially
You can find out more about Cat and the support she offers on Instagram and Facebook.
Be sure to download the free Self-Love Meditation
Join me in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Wednesday.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
28. The power of baby massage
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Helen Thompson of My Baby Massage shares her knowledge of baby massage and 30+ years of childcare with us this week.
We talk about:
· Some different ways you can use baby massage with your little one
· How baby massage can help you bond with your baby
· Why massage is such a powerful tool for cycle-breaker parents especially
You can find out more about Helen and the baby massage support she offers at: www.mybabymassage.net.
Be sure to download the free 4-exercise cheatsheet on the website.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
27. Cycle-breaker case study
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Deirdre Maguire from Wisdom of Ireland joins us today in this final podcast in a 3-part series to discuss the conscious and the subconscious processes of the mind.
You will hear us talk about:
· Her childhood experiences and the cycles she broke in adulthood
· Deirdre’s loss of her father to suicide after a long history of alcoholism
· How Deirdre broke her cycle – and how you can use some of the same techniques
You can find out more about Deirdre and at: www.deirdremaguire.com/#2
And follow her on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/deirdre.maguire2
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
26. Happiness is a skill - you can learn it
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Deirdre Maguire from Wisdom of Ireland joins us today in this second podcast in a 3-part series to discuss the conscious and the subconscious processes of the mind.
You will hear us talk about:
· What happiness actually is (spoiler alert: it’s not sunshine and rainbows 24/7)
· How you can make a change – starting today - to step towards being a generally happier person
· The effects of reframing your personal story and working towards happiness and contentment
· Deirdre’s Stress Solution System and how she supports her clients (you can absolutely follow these steps too)
[Episode 3, next week, Deirdre shares her story of growing up with a parent with an alcohol dependency and how she broke her cycle.]
You can find out more about Deirdre and at: www.deirdremaguire.com/#2
And follow her on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/deirdre.maguire2
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
25. How underlying beliefs drive your decisions
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Deirdre Maguire from Wisdom of Ireland joins us today in this first podcast in a 3-part series to discuss the conscious and the subconscious processes of the mind.
You will learn:
· About the difference between the conscious and the subconscious
· Why we mostly don’t realise we have underlying beliefs, but they are there nevertheless
· How the subconscious beliefs are driving our behaviours and how you can do something about it
· Why this is so relevant for cycle-breaker parents, who have had tough upbringings during the ages 0-7, a key time for beliefs to be formed
[Episode 2, next week, talks about how we can learn the skills to support ourselves towards happiness by uncovering and releasing the stories in our subconscious]
You can find out more about Deirdre and at: www.deirdremaguire.com/
And follow her on Facebook.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
24. Supporting children with body image
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Anupa Roper joins us today. She is a positive body image advocate and author of the incredible children’s book, Sparrowlegs.
Anupa gives us four points to consider when breaking the societal and in many cases, family cycle of body shame or feeling uncomfortable in one’s body.
1. Exploring our own biases – about ourselves and other people’s bodies
2. Considering the language we use when talking about our bodies and other people’s… the children are always listening
3. Take steps to heal our relationship with food
4. Move towards body acceptance (you don’t have to necessarily love every single part of your body – sometimes that is unrealistic in the short term. But working towards acceptance can be a great first step).
You can find out more (including the blog we talked about) at: sparrowlegs.com You can buy her incredible book through her site too.
And join Anupa’s Facebook group, Sparrowlegs.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
23. Conscious Parenting and PDA Support
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I am honoured today to interview Nicola Reekie, a PDA parent and expert who offers solution-focused therapist supporting PDA/ ASD parents with their emotional well-being & creating calm.
Conscious parenting and cycle-breaking are significant commitments in themselves… what about when additional needs and behaviours need to be considered?
Today, Nicola and I discuss:
- Neurodivergent parents and neurodivergent children and young people, especially PDA
- Navigating the school and social care systems as a loving advocate for your child (and supporting your own well-being through that process)
- Breaking the cycle if you were a neurodivergent child who didn’t feel seen, accepted for who you are or even understood… giving your child that wonderful gift (and the feelings that come up when we break cycles)
- Some practical tips for PDA parents and how to find out more in Nicola’s ground-breaking learning hub The PDA Space
You can find out more at: www.thepdaspace.com(there’s a great freebie on the first page).
And follow Nicola at The PDA Parent Space Facebook group.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
22. Nurturing the true essence of your child
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Clare Ford, Expert Educator and founder of Switched ON! online academy, and I talk this week about:
- The importance of meeting children and young people where they are at, not shoe-horning them into a framework of expectations (academic or otherwise)
- What happens when we adults put children’s mental wellbeing first (spoiler: they flourish and their academics thrive too!)
- Children’s innate curiosity and sparkle… and what it’s like to nourish that
- How many adults there are walking around with ‘school wounds’ (people-pleasing, feeling ‘stupid,’ not being heard etc) who are breaking this cycle for their children by being more involved in their kids’ education and feelings around learning and schooling.
You can find Clare at her website https://www.switchedonglobal.com, Facebook and Insta.
And Clare would kindly like to gift listeners her ‘7 Success Strategies (To Get Your Child Excited About Learning Again)’
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for the next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, ‘The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
21. The power of healthy habits
Tereza Szalai, Personal Trainer at Foxy Fitness, and I talk this week about:
- The huge power of healthy habits on women’s health, feelings of wellness, bodies and their emotions… and the way they show up as parents
- The effects of small tweaks in behaviour in relation to four main areas: sleep, hydration, nutrition and movement/ exercise
- The wonderful ripples throughout the family when mums look after themselves
- How this is so key for Cycle-Breaker Parents and why it might be harder for Cycle-Breakers to care for themselves
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts– and also hang around for next free weekly training I deliver each Friday.
You can find Tereza on Linked In and at her website: www.tereza-szalai.com.
Her Foxy Fierce hour personalised session is right now just £99! Email her at tereza.szalai@gmail.com or through Linked In.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
Have you signed up for my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset?'
Explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
20. You deserve to flow [interview]
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Laura Hart, artist, healer and coach, and I talk this week about:
- Flow! What it is and what it means to feel you are in flow
- How Cycle-Breaker Parents may have been sensible in tough childhoods to inhibit their sense of flow and not fully express themselves – especially if they were in survival mode at home
- And how you can break the cycle of hiding our creative sides by investing in yourself to show your children that it is safe and joyful to flow and be their creative, authentic selves.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts on this idea – and also hang around for next Friday training. You can watch all the old videos in Guide 1 in the group.
You can follow Laura Hart through her Facebook group – Hartflow – for all the details of her online and face-to-face sessions (starting 10th Nov 2021).
Sign up to be the first to know when her 40 minute Quantum Flow sessions start (I will be there, so it will be great to see you!) and Laura’s incredible Art Prints Shop is on her website:: https://lauraharthome.com/shop/
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
You can now access my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
19. EFT and the power of the subconscious [Interview]
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Sarah Dodsley, Confidence and Empowerment Coach, and I talk this week about:
- The power of the subconscious (particularly for Cycle-Breaker Parents)
- EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique, also known as Tapping, and the impact it has on adults and children alike
- Matrix Reimprinting (a technique which Sarah uses with her clients)
- Why learning skills and techniques for dealing with children is so important
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts on this idea – and also hang around for next Friday training. You can watch all the old videos in Guide 1 in the group.
I also really recommend joining Sarah’s brilliant group The Empowered Collective for regular updates of fabulousness!
You can watch podcast recordings and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
You can now access my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
18. The stress ladder
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In this extra-long special podcast episode, taken from one of my free Facebook Live training sessions (which I deliver every Friday in my group), talks about:
- The Polyvagal Theory approach to stress (deeper than safe or fight/flight/freeze)
- The individual parts of the Polyvagal ‘ladder’ of stress
- The effects of different types of stress in the developmental years of your growing nervous system
- Why this is so important for Cycle Breaker Parents to know
- What you can do about healing your nervous system (because there is a lot you can do)
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts on this idea – and also hang around for next Friday training. You can watch all the old videos in Guide 1 in the group.
You can subscribe to my channel for more videos - including this one.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
You can now access my free mini-course,The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
17: When you've been triggered
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One of my most common questions is: What do I do when I am triggered, but I still have to deal with the kids?
Here are my six steps:
1. Get safe – using whatever techniques you find the most useful. Starting with three deep belly breaths is great
2. Have a card/ sentence that centres you – something like ‘I’ve been triggered. I can get through this. I am safe.’
3. Take a moment for yourself to feel your feelings – a cuppa, a glass of water, a few breaths hiding in the bathroom…
4. LATER: journal or talk to someone about what happened. What may have set you off, and what the root cause might be
5. Using a technique like Ho’oponopono, go through the process of letting go the hurt.. or reducing its power over you
6. If all of the above still isn’t helping you, you absolutely have the right to seek professional support from a therapist.
Coaching will help you move forward with your plans and your life, whilst therapy will provide targeted, slower, deeper insight and release of emotions and memories that are deeply troubling. You deserve support. You are worthy of this gift. Everyone in your family will benefit from you seeking support.
Join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts on this idea.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
You can now access my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
16. The Four Ss
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Dan Siegel (MD) and Tina Bryson (PhD) have co-authored lots of books on developmental psychology and child development.
My favourite is The Power of Showing Up. I talk about it today and introduce you to the 4 Ss that a child needs:
To feel and be Safe, Seen, Soothed and Secure.
Send me an email or join us in the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite and share your thoughts on this idea.
The group also houses more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents... and of course, learn how to work with me if you want to go deeper and break your cycle with my full support.
You can watch the Youtube recording of this podcast and subscribe to my channel for more videos.
Connect with me on Facebook and Instagram
You can now access my free mini-course, The 7-day Connection Reset' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
Remember: Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
15. The time for action
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Today, I talk about the value of our time - as parents and as busy human beings - and I share my reasons for signing up to a new (to me) app that provides child- and adult-friendly tapping meditations using EFT. The time vs money vs speed of getting the solution to my family's problem (poor sleep during lockdown) equation is discussed.
I also talk about the teenage years for family's with currently-small children, and why the relationship you have with your teens starts in their toddlerhood, and childhood years.
And finally the nature of 'action.' In this world of extremes, the small actions aren't often given the credit they deserve... drinking water, prioritising self-care time, 5 minutes of reflection at the end of the day. Actions CAN be big - such as signing up for The Turning Point (my 6-month cycle breaker mentor program, seeking therapy for your specific needs, changing your career (the woman I mention by the way is Lou Hynes, corporate escape mentor, and you can check out Podcast Episode 4 with Josh Peck about Work-Life-Balance if you want to think about that more), but the small changes over time really do add up to huge life changes.
Sign up for the next Own Your Parenthood five-day free workshop, and head on over to the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
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14. The 5 love languages - how to best help your child to hear and feel your love
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Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
Gary Chapman's famous book The Five Love Languages presents the concept that there are 5 ways we can express - and also feel - love.
1. Words of affirmation
2. Acts of service
3. Receiving gifts
4. Quality time
5. Physical touch
I talk about them today and share how I have noticed this within my own home. Have you seen similar dynamics in your family?
You can now join my free mini-course, 'The 7-day Connection Builder' to explore the love languages in your family and identify how your child best feels love - and just enjoy connecting with them in a range of ways over the 7 days of the videos (of course, you can binge them or watch and then take longer over each love language - it's your choice!)
If you would like more free training, head on over to the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents... and of course learn how to work with me if you want to go deeper and break your cycle with my full support.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
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13. Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs)
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Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
The skills part of this equation is often expressed by the question: ‘how do I get my kids to…?’
Today I explain the ACEs model, which looks at Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and how they affect children and the adults they become.
I explain what ACEs are; some limitations of the model and - most important of all - how YOU HAVE CONTROL OVER YOUR OWN LIFE.
You have the power to seek healing, to learn skills and to break your cycles so you don't pass on intergenerational trauma. The ACEs model and media/ fiction sensationalisation can lead people to feel they are 'damaged' and 'hopeless.' Please know, you have more power than you know and ACEs are not a life sentence.
Learn more about ACEs here in this free 50-minute training delivered by the UK government (aimed at young children professionals, but accessible by everyone).
Dr Jessica Taylor is the psychologist I discussed – her work is incredible and will hugely benefit all cycle breaker parents.
Sign up for the Own Your Parenthood five day free workshop, and then head on over to the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
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12. Supporting children with healthy eating
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Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
The skills part of this equation is often expressed by the question: ‘how do I get my kids to…?’
Today’s guest, Joanne Roach of The Foodies, offers us lots of support around the common question:
“How do I get my kids to eat more fruit and veg?”
You will hear about:
1. Familiarity = safety
2. Eating in seasons
3. Involving the children with play around food
4. Joanne’s brilliant books and Little Foodies Club subscription box
Learn more and access free resources at her website: https://www.thefoodies.org/
Sign up for the Own Your Parenthood five day free workshop, and then head on over to the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be
You can find the Youtube recording of this interview and subscribe here.
11. It's never too late
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In Part 2 of my interview series with hypnotherapist and holistic healer, Aoife Griffin, we delve into an all-too-common misconception people have - and something we have heard a thousand times from people who know they need support, and yet don't feel they deserve it:
"It's too late" or "I'm too old"
We blow this out of the water and share the great news and positive message that it is NEVER too late... and the ripples of your own bravery in healing will spread throughout your family unit, your wider community and ultimately the world. There is never a time when you don't deserve love and to feel good about yourself, calm and whole.
Sign up for the Own Your Parenthood five day free workshop here, and then head on over to the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents.
You can find the Youtube recording of this interview and subscribe here.
And the wonderful Aoife can be found on Facebook, and her website: https://aoifegriffin.ie/
10. Anxiety - the signs to look out for in children and in ourselves
In this podcast, Beckie Shuttleworth and I talk about:
1. Anxiety - what it is, why medication may be useful but doesn’t have to be the first option
2. Signs that your child may be suffering from anxiety
3. How to support them
4. How to look after yourself if you are feeling anxious as well
Links discussed in today's podcast:
Cultivating Inner Peace, a course for adults in August
Webinar link for SHINE Brightly (transition on focus from Primary to Secondary School) - 13th September or 15th September.
SHINE Brightly program starts week beg 20th September
Join Beckie's group SHINE Brightly with Beckie for all the info.
Tips on beginning to support children who are feeling anxious.
I invite you to join my Facebook group – ‘Cycle Breaker Parents Unite’ – or pop over to Insta to learn more about doing The Work and going deeper. You can always reach out by email too: laura@theafterconsulting.com.
The Conscious Parenting Toolbox is available RIGHT NOW through my website if you are ready to dive into a 21-day series of lessons introducing Conscious Parenting, key practical skills and support as you step into your leadership role in your family.
9. Yes, you CAN have a Serene Summer Holiday!
Summer holidays are most definitely a pinch point in many people’s families. Never more so than this year after Covid homeschooling, constant, draining fear and uncertainty, extended periods of time together and households having varying needs and responses to growing freedom to meet and attend attractions.
If this episode inspired you in some way, take a screenshot of you listening on your device and post it to your Instagram Stories, and tag me @cyclebreakerparentsunite (and Lou @iamlouportass)!
I have teamed up with the inspirational Lou Portass, a Business Coach who helps female coaches and course creators to launch, scale and grow their businesses. We share our thoughts on how to stay sane whilst working and parenting throughout the summer – even more… you can enjoy it! (Yes, really!)
Get Lou’s Serene Summer Checklist today!
You can also find Lou on Instagram and in her Facebook group, or visit her website - louportass.com - to learn more about her incredible work.
Other links from the podcast:
Recording of: What to do when you lose it - apologising and healing the relationship (my Friday training – partially in the dark due to a power cut!)
https://youtu.be/yy6y76nwQ0U
Aaaand, here is the Youtube recording of this interview and subscribe here
8. Apologising to your children
Losing your temper or reacting to a situation in a way you perhaps later wish you hadn't is totally acceptable! It happens in every household and for oh so many reasons. And it's okay. Today we talk about the art of apologising to your child and moving forward when you have lost your temper.
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In this episode you’ll hear:
- The rupture and repair model of relationships
- Why apologising is so healthy in parent-child (and in fact ALL) relationships
- Some key steps to help you structure a meaningful apology, and pitfalls to avoid -Next steps you can take in self-healing to move forward and avoid the same thing happening again
- Seeing the outburst as an opportunity for you to work on an area of healing.
Join us in the Cycle Breaker Parents Unite Facebook group to learn more about conscious parenting and hang out with fellow awesome cycle breakers.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be.
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7. We all have trauma
In Part 1 of my interview series with hypnotherapist and holistic healer, Aoife Griffin, we look at the word 'trauma.'
Many people have the misconception that trauma must be brought about from having truly horrific Marvel-comic-origin-story worthy experiences. But simply put, it's not.
We demystify trauma a little here and share part of our own personal experiences and stories from clients.
Join the Facebook group Cycle Breaker Parents Unite for more interviews, how-to guides, free training (Friday afternoons) and a community of like-minded parents.
You can find the Youtube recording of this interview and subscribe here.
You can find Aoife on Facebook, and her website: https://aoifegriffin.ie/
6. When a family pet dies
Today's special guest is Carrie Kearns, Companion Animal Bereavement Counsellor.
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Losing a furry (or winged, or scaled...) family member is hard emotionally. It can be difficult to know how to best support your child/ren as they go through their grieving process. And particularly tough for parents who were never able to grieve their own losses as children.
In this episode you’ll hear:
- The importance of age-appropriate honesty - explain what happened in a way they can clearly understand but which doesn’t frighten them
- Why you need to use the words such as dead, died, death, euthanasia. Communicate the permanence of what happened - if there is any doubt as to whether the pet will return or not then the child will cling to that hope.
- Don’t be ashamed to show your emotions, but also try not to offload onto the child so they feel they have to push their feelings aside to support you. Allow your child to see the effect the loss has on you but also see how you cope, because they may model their behaviour on yours.
- Be prepared for questions and brutal honesty from your child. They say it as it is, and they ask the same questions over and over in the hope that the answer will change. If you are clear and stay to the same response they find it easier to process and move forwards.
You can get in touch with Carrie through her website, Facebook, via Carrie@animalbereavementcounselling.com or phone (0044) (0)7522202498.
Join us in the Cycle Breaker Parents Unite Facebook to learn more about conscious parenting and hang out with fellow awesome cycle breakers.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be.
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5. Triggers
In this taste of my free Friday trainings in the Cycle Breaker Parents Unite Facebook group, I dive into the concept of triggers.
(Apologies for the pots and pans band in the background about 2/3 of the way through - this live training was recorded during lockdown here in Vietnam!)
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How would you like to get a comprehensive introduction to triggers, the workings of the subconscious in your decision making processes and your parenting relationships AND a whole range of practical skills?
You can also apply for the next round of The Turning Point, 12-week group or 1:1 program here - www.theafterconsulting.com/the-turning-point/
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In this episode you’ll hear:
- What triggers are
- The ball in the box analogy
- Real-life examples of triggers in action
LINKS:
The Conscious Parenting Toolbox
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4. Work-life balance
In this podcast, Josh Peck from Your Best Life UK and I talk about:
- Managing all of the things and still finding time and energy to FLOURISH yourself (yes - it is possible!).
- We briefly discuss smashing the patriarchy
- Josh shares with us the five main principles that he recommends for working parents feeling squashed right now under the weight of 'managing it all'
To find out more about how to work with Josh on your work-life balance, head over to his website, or to his Instagram or Facebook where he shares daily tips, tricks and insight for working parents.
As always, I invite you to join my Facebook group – ‘Cycle Breaker Parents Unite’ – or pop over to Insta to learn more about going deeper and doing The Work that will free you to show up in your family life in the ways you want to. You can always reach out by email too: laura@theafterconsulting.com.
Healing + skills = the parent you always wanted to be.
3. Child mental health during the pandemic
In this podcast, Beckie and I talk about:
1. The realities of child and adult mental health during this pandemic
2. Steps that you can take to support your children and yourself
3. Why NOW is the time to seek support - it's so important to reach out. Don't wait until the mythical time of 'after Covid' to make a change.
4. Never doubt: you deserve to feel good. Your children deserve to feel happy in their lives. There is good news. There are so many things you can do.
I invite you to join my Facebook group – ‘Cycle Breaker Parents Unite’ – or pop over to Insta to learn more about doing The Work and going deeper. You can always reach out by email too: laura@theafterconsulting.com.
The Conscious Parenting Toolbox is available RIGHT NOW through my website if you are ready to dive into a 21-day series of lessons introducing Conscious Parenting, key practical skills and support as you step into your leadership role in your family.
To book yoga and meditation classes for children and adults go to www.thebhumiyoga.com and to keep up with everything going on in Bhumi Yoga and Bhumi Kids follow Beckie on Facebook and Instagram.
2: Radical Compassion
Radical Compassion is about not holding grudges, and not beating ourselves up when we are not perfect, because, of course, we can't be perfect. No human being is.
In this podcast, I talk about
1. How we treat our friends and loved ones versus how we treat ourselves
2. Why not beating ourselves up is beneficial to our children just as much as it is for us
3. The simple truth: You deserve to feel good. You deserve kindness.
I invite you to join my Facebook group – ‘Cycle Breaker Parents Unite’ to join a wonderful like-minded community of cycle breakers and be the first to know of any new courses, workshops or other exciting events I put on.
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And you can access my free course, the 7-day Connection Reset, right here.
1. Step into your power
Stepping into the parenting role you wish to have – and away from the style of parenting you are unhappy with – requires so much more than following a sequence of prompts from a book.
We need to first give ourselves the permission to step fully into who WE are and allow ourselves to discover and live our authentic selves. This is why so many courses and books that focus on behaviour change alone don’t hit the mark. Because the mark is inside us and only we have the power to change the way we live to become in alignment with the person we truly are.
In this podcast, I talk about
1. Why we as modern adults, let alone parents, are cut off from our authentic voice
2. Why it is so important to reclaim our power as humans before we can make long-lasting deep changes in our relationships
3. Permission to be you
I invite you to join my Facebook group – ‘Cycle Breaker Parents Unite’ – or pop over to Insta to learn more about doing The Work and going deeper. You can always reach out by email too: laura@theafterconsulting.com.
The Conscious Parenting Toolbox is available RIGHT NOW through my website if you are ready to dive into a 21-day series of lessons introducing Conscious Parenting, key practical skills and support as you step into your leadership role in your family.