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Latter-Day Lesbian

Latter-Day Lesbian

By Latter Day Lesbian

An ex-Mormon gay girl trying to figure out life.

Hosts Mary and Shelly tackle religious trauma and later-in-life LGBTQ issues while laughing their asses off on a weekly podcast.

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53: Trauma Bonding, a.k.a. Mary & Shelly's Intervention

Latter-Day LesbianNov 23, 2019

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01:09:55
89: Welcome to the Stage: Lucifer!
Sep 06, 202001:04:59
88: Pirate God, A.K.A. the F-Bomb Episode
Aug 29, 202056:25
87: Check Out My Endowment
Aug 23, 202001:16:03
86: Temple Pt 2: Get Your Hands Out of My Poncho
Aug 15, 202057:48
85: Hitler Becomes a Mormon & Other LDS Temple Wackiness
Aug 08, 202053:60
84: Patriarchal Blessing B.S.

84: Patriarchal Blessing B.S.

In today's episode we get up close and personal with the cut and pasted splendor that is the Mormon Patriarchal Blessing. Is everyone throwing up in their mouths? Because that's the appropriate response. We kick things off with our good friend and Mormon history buff, Bryce Blankenagel. We also roast a troll or two, and stump Shelly with a FUMPOTD, courtesy, once again of Mr. Blankenagel. Bryce, are your ears burning? They should be. 

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://purple-planet.com.

Aug 02, 202052:54
83: COVID Couples Counseling Part Deux

83: COVID Couples Counseling Part Deux

Looks like we needed to head back to the counseling couch this week for another session of "therapy without a therapist." Maybe don't try that at home. We also have a FUMPOTD courtesy of Alice, a "He Said What" that's particularly douchey and a letter from Cole that we think you'll find inspirational. It's a good time, y'all, so please join us!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://purple-planet.com.

Jul 25, 202001:06:35
82: The Newly-Les Game!
Jul 19, 202059:16
81: Mary Gets Vulnerable About Kids

81: Mary Gets Vulnerable About Kids

In this episode Mary gives Shelly a break and takes over the planning. She quizzes her on a FUMPOTD (thanks Bryce Blankenagel) and comes up with an evangelical mad lib. Also Sister Fanny Fact-Check pays a visit with another installment of "Deep Dives into Dire Doctrine." This one's chock full, so please join us! 

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://purple-planet.com

Jul 12, 202001:02:23
80: Suicide Safety and Prevention with Kimberly Anderson, MFA, MA, AMFT

80: Suicide Safety and Prevention with Kimberly Anderson, MFA, MA, AMFT

After receiving an email from a listener who let us know that her girlfriend (also a listener) had recently died by suicide, we felt that we wanted to bring on therapist and friend, Kimberly Anderson, to help us navigate this topic. So this episode is dedicated to Charly. If someone you care about is contemplating suicide, please reference the links below for help. Thank you.

Kimberly is holding an open-to-the-public LGBTQ+ and Trauma Informed Suicide Education/Prevention workshop on July 12th at 7pm PST. Come one, come all. Also, please share: https://www.facebook.com/events/265060641466169/

QPR Institute: 800-273-TALK / Question. Persuade. Refer. https://qprinstitute.com

Safety Plan Template: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Brown_StanleySafetyPlanTemplate.pdf

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255 / https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Trans Lifeline: 877-565-8860 / https://www.translifeline.org

The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386 / https://www.thetrevorproject.org

Project Semicolon: https://projectsemicolon.com

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: 800-273-8255 / Support groups: https://afsp.org/find-a-support-group/

Suicide Awareness Voices of Education: 800-273-8255 / Support groups: https://save.org/what-we-do/grief-support/

Alliance of Hope support groups: https://allianceofhope.org/find-support/find-a-support-group/

American Association of Suicidology support groups: https://suicidology.org/resources/support-groups/

LGBTQ+ subsidized therapy: https://flourishtherapy.org

Find a therapist: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us

DBT explained: https://psychcentral.com/lib/an-overview-of-dialectical-behavior-therapy/

“Same Sex Attracted” – LGBT BYU documentary: 7/10 – 7/19 film festival tickets: https://www.utahfilmcenter.org/damntheseheels/dth2020/

Jul 05, 202001:19:14
79: Tired of the Transgender Bathroom Debate

79: Tired of the Transgender Bathroom Debate

Seriously, can we all just get over this subject and move on to more important topics, like learning how to love one another? This week's "He Said What" is a real treat, not really. We also have a fun Mormon Mad Lib and we read a couple of great letters. Please join us!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://purple-planet.com.

Jun 28, 202051:33
78: Reaction to the 6/15 Supreme Court Decision

78: Reaction to the 6/15 Supreme Court Decision

This week we interview our friend, LDL Podcast Discussion Group moderator and transgender activist, Alice Ashton, about her thoughts surrounding the recent Title VII Supreme Court ruling. We also roast a literal crap-ton of FB trolls (pretty sure that’s a metric unit). Please join us.

Shelly references a recent post about Dallin H. Oaks by Latter Gay Stories: https://www.facebook.com/LatterGayStories/posts/3266348586751666

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jun 21, 202059:34
77: Interview with Musician, Writer, Activist: Courtney Ariel

77: Interview with Musician, Writer, Activist: Courtney Ariel

In today's episode we are fortunate to have with us the inspiring and talented, a.k.a "loving blossom" (Shelly's term for her), Courtney Ariel. As you may remember, Courtney wrote the article we read last week, "For Our White Friends Desiring To Be Allies." Please join us for this enlightening conversation. 

Courtney's recommendations and contact info:

BOOKS:

The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander 

Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates (additionally he has written amazing/insightful articles featured in the news publication: The Atlantic) 

Citizen by Claudia Rankine  

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

The Color Purple by Alice Walker

White Fragility by Robin J. DiAngelo 

FILM:

Must watch Film based off of James Baldwin works: "I am not your Negro"

SOJOURNERS PUBLICATION FEATURED ARTICLES: 

https://sojo.net/biography/courtney-ariel


MUSIC:                                                               

Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/48wwNodTzVibSVGkuX8MjF

Apple Music: https://itunes.apple.com/us/artist/courtney-ariel/id283282575

Tidal: https://tidal.com/browse/artist/7342329

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/courtneyariel

Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/courtney-ariel


SOCIAL MEDIA:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/courtneyarielmusic

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/courtneyarielmusic

Twitter: https://twitter.com/carielmusic

Jun 14, 202059:42
76: Hey White People, Let’s Learn to Be Better Allies

76: Hey White People, Let’s Learn to Be Better Allies

In this episode we read from various racist LDS documents, including the BOM and the words of various "prophets" of the Mormon church. But even though that's part of our history, in many cases, that's not where the story has to end. Let's do something about it! We start with a fantastic article by Courtney Ariel entitled, For Our White Friends Desiring to Be Allies. It's informative and eye opening; hopefully you get as much out of it as we did.  We also recommend the list of books, below.

Michelle Alexander: The New Jim Crow

Ta-Nehisi Coates: Between the World and Me

Claudia Rankine: Citizen

Ibram X. Kendi: Stamped from the Beginning / How to Be an Antiracist

Crystal M. Fleming: How to Be Less Stupid About Race

Ruby Hamad: White Tears/Brown Scars

Robin DiAngelo: White Fragility

Jun 07, 202022:41
75: Jesus Wants Me For a Lounge Chair
May 30, 202001:06:51
74: In Plain Sight [WARNING: Intense Themes]
May 24, 202001:00:16
73: Shelly's Journal Journey
May 17, 202001:03:51
72: Mother's Day Mad Libs
May 10, 202001:07:10
71: Girding Up Our Loins For Mother's Day

71: Girding Up Our Loins For Mother's Day

Happy early Mother's Day everybody! Once again we read from the book "Woman" (written by 15 men) to learn all about how to be a good mother, and Shelly relates it to her own experience. Should be a good time. Also, we read a letter from a listener who's related by marriage to one of the aforementioned authors/experts on how to be female: Boyd K. Packer. Somebody's gotta be I guess. Nutty.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://purple-planet.com.

May 03, 202001:00:18
70: Kimberly's Coping Tips

70: Kimberly's Coping Tips

Once again we are thrilled to welcome our good friend and therapist (not that she's our therapist or anything), the lovely, kind and compassionate, Kimberly Anderson. This time Kimberly offers some really good advice for thriving during the pandemic, and she also fills us in on what she's been up to. 

To find Kimberly's CTR group, just head to Facebook and search for Conversion Therapy Recovery.

For self care, Kimberly recommends everyone Google Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT).

Check out Story Time with Miss Kimberly on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8zFW5LkcTuc

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Apr 26, 202001:01:39
69: COVID Couples Counseling
Apr 19, 202059:26
68: Next Stop - Gay Town
Apr 12, 202058:44
67: TED Talkin' With Elena Joy Thurston
Apr 05, 202001:08:52
LDL Letters 35: Someone's in the Kitchen With Dinah

LDL Letters 35: Someone's in the Kitchen With Dinah

Today we read a letter from Dinah who's led quite the life! After battling an attraction for women and serving a mission, she finally gave a big middle finger to the church and started her life back over in San Francisco during the 1960s, eventually becoming an activist. It's a good one, so we hope you join us.

Each week we read and discuss 1-2 letters (depending on length) from listeners just like you! So please get in touch with us through our website at http://latterdaylesbian.org/contact. We'd love to hear from you. Thanks!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Apr 01, 202029:04
66: Taste the Forbidden Apple
Mar 29, 202001:05:36
LDL Letters 34: Bible-Believing Baptists and Birthing Advice
Mar 25, 202031:34
65: A True Prophet of the Lard!

65: A True Prophet of the Lard!

In today's episode we talk about some Mormon reactions to COVID-19. Hey, guess what? Russell M. Nelson is NOT an actual prophet, people. He's just a dude with way too much authority (in our opinion). We also have a terrific FUMPOTD, and Sister Fanny Fact Check helps us out with that one. So put in your earbuds and practice social distancing with your favorite ex-Mo-lesbo podcast, won't you?

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Mar 22, 202051:13
LDL Letters 33: Bussing in the Missionaries
Mar 18, 202023:23
64: Time to Flourish

64: Time to Flourish

In this episode we learn all about a cause near and dear to us: Flourish Therapy. Part of every LDL Patreon dollar goes to to support this organization. We interview Lisa Hansen PHD, LMFT and Clinical Director of Flourish Therapy. We also talk to Blaire Ostler, a self described queer, Mormon Transhumanist and author, with a book in the works about queer Mormon theology set to be published this summer. 

Find out more at https://flourishtherapy.org and http://www.blaireostler.com.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Mar 15, 202001:06:21
LDL Letters 32: Crushing Christian Ethics Class

LDL Letters 32: Crushing Christian Ethics Class

Today we read a letter from Natalie S, who attended a fundamentalist Christian high school. What a good time that must have been. She has a great story to tell, so enjoy!

Each week we read and discuss 1-2 letters (depending on length) from listeners just like you! So please get in touch with us through our website at http://latterdaylesbian.org/contact. We'd love to hear from you. Thanks!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Mar 11, 202029:50
63: Zelph Hung Out On Our Shelf

63: Zelph Hung Out On Our Shelf

As the episode title implies, we interviewed Samantha and Tanner from Zelph on the Shelf! Aw hell yeah! What a fun time as we got to know these two and heard their amazing insights into spirituality and their journeys out of Mormonism and into the inspiring humans they are today. 

Some Zelph on the Shelf YouTube videos of note: Provo's Most Eligible, High on a Mountain Top, and Mormonforcement Exposes Zelph on the Shelf.

Samantha references Sapiens by Yuval Noah Harare and Inner Bonding by Margaret Paul.

Tanner references British writer and lecturer, Alan Watts, poet Mary Oliver, and American ethnobotanist and mystic, Terence McKenna.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Mar 08, 202001:04:17
LDL Letters 31: Amy's Handbook Outrage
Mar 04, 202028:12
62: A Big Fetch You to the Handbook!

62: A Big Fetch You to the Handbook!

This episode is all about the Mormon handbook's new policies against transgender people. Let's all raise a middle finger in the general direction of the LDS temple (it's as if Moroni is flipping a bird instead of blowing his trumpet). Along these lines, we also read a letter to the SLC Tribune written by our good friend Kimberly Anderson. So please grab a generous cup of outrage and join us, won't you? 

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Mar 01, 202001:00:53
LDL Letters 30: Pass the Gravy and the Guilt-n-Shame
Feb 26, 202024:55
61: Something About Mary

61: Something About Mary

This episode is pretty much all about Mary. In recognition of her recent interview on the Brave Files Podcast (episode #101 available on your favorite podcast app), we decided to dedicate this show to the Ed McMahon, or in more relevant terms, the Andy Richter of podcast hosts: Mary Rutt. Warning: it gets heavy and downright depressing at times. There. You've been warned. We also have a FUMPOTD, a He Said What, and Sister Fanny Fact Check pays us a visit.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com


Feb 23, 202055:28
LDL Letters 29: My Pastor Wanted to Kill People
Feb 19, 202025:59
60: Purity Culture Can Suck It!

60: Purity Culture Can Suck It!

In this episode we interview Linda Kay Klein, author of  Pure: Inside the Evangelical Movement That Shamed a Generation of Young Women and How I Broke Free. This was a fascinating episode and one to not miss (in our humble opinions). Linda references her website: lindakayklein.com, her non profit organization: breakfreetogether.org and David Dickerson who authored: House of Cards: The True Story of How a 26-Year-Old Fundamentalist Virgin Learned about Life, Love, and Sex by Writing Greeting Cards.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Feb 16, 202001:06:20
LDL Letters 28: Rocky Little Shop of Horrors

LDL Letters 28: Rocky Little Shop of Horrors

This week's letter is from Ari, a never-mo transgender woman who met her fiancé during a performance of a very iconic cult classic. Can you guess which one based on the title of this episode? Pretty sure Shelly is still confused. Hint: there's no Venus flytrap character. So grab a cup of Apostate Coffee and give a listen, won't you?

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Feb 12, 202028:23
59: We're Feeling A Bit Trunky
Feb 09, 202056:08
LDL Letters 27: What's In A Name?

LDL Letters 27: What's In A Name?

This week's letter writer cracks Mary up, as in, a big belly laugh. Shelly is left a bit baffled, proving what a difference an 8-year age gap can make. Confused? Give a listen to the episode and see what we mean.

Each week we read and discuss 1-2 letters (depending on length) from listeners just like you! So please get in touch with us through our website at latterdaylesbian.org/contact. We'd love to hear from you. Thanks!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Feb 05, 202031:56
58: Mary & Shelly Break the Any-Ol'-Gram Test

58: Mary & Shelly Break the Any-Ol'-Gram Test

Diana joins us for another fast and testimony episode, and this time she tells us all about the Enneagram Test. We can't seem to get the name right though...Banana Gram? Wait - Candy Gram? Uh...Teddy Grahams? And no, Shelly, you're not a "yellow" (no idea what test she's taking).

In this episode Diana references The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut PhD, Neurobiologist Dr. Jerome Lubbe, and The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Feb 02, 202001:01:16
LDL Letters 26: Cult or Club? Chris Helps Us Decide.

LDL Letters 26: Cult or Club? Chris Helps Us Decide.

This week we hear from Chris on nude paintings, that caused the spirit to leave (and frightened neighborhood children), and rocking a Jesus beard. Way to break those Mormon norms, hairy Chris. 

Each week we read and discuss 1-2 letters (depending on length) from listeners just like you! So please get in touch with us through our website at latterdaylesbian.org/contact. We'd love to hear from you. Thanks!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 29, 202025:08
57: Jerry Springer Inspired Me To Come Out

57: Jerry Springer Inspired Me To Come Out

Please give a listen to our amazing interview with special guest, Amy Stephens, cohost of the Transformation Thursday Podcast (available wherever you listen to podcasts). Amy is a hilarious stand-up comic, and her story is amazing! You will crack up and be inspired at the same time. 

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 26, 202057:16
LDL Letters 25: Molly Un-Mormon Makes Shelly Trigger

LDL Letters 25: Molly Un-Mormon Makes Shelly Trigger

This week we find out what if feels like to be considered past your marrying prime at the ripe old age of 31 and are asked to leave the singles ward. Yet another reason to feel shamed by Mormonism (but we expect no less at this point). 

Each week we read and discuss 1-2 letters (depending on length) from listeners just like you! So please get in touch with us through our website at latterdaylesbian.org/contact. We'd love to hear from you. Thanks!

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 22, 202029:49
56: Ordinary Equality, Talking ERA with Kate Kelly

56: Ordinary Equality, Talking ERA with Kate Kelly

Hey everybody, we're super excited about this week's interview with ex-Mormon activist and all around badass, Kate Kelly! We hear all about what she's been up to, and she wasn't afraid to tackle the tough questions we threw at her, like, "So Kate, is it true ya like the ladies?" We learned so much, and laughed of course...ya know, the usual. Also, want to express a heartfelt congratulations to the state of Virginia for finally getting their shit together! Join us, won't you?

Kate's references in this show: www.equalitynow.org/era, author Sonia Johnson: "From Housewife to Heretic", Kate's article: "The ERA is Queer", and of course her new podcast: Ordinary Equality (available wherever you listen to podcasts).

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 19, 202001:08:43
LDL Letters 24: Dorothy on Pregnant Mare Urine and Other Beauty Tips
Jan 15, 202022:46
55: How Mo Tab Ruined Sleigh Ride

55: How Mo Tab Ruined Sleigh Ride

Did you know the LDS church changed a bunch of Christmas songs to sound more Mormony? We discuss a couple of them this week with the help of Sister Fanny Fact Check and Hermana Concha. We also roast a troll and talk about Mary's wacky holiday with her family. Please join us for our 2019 year-end wrap up.  Should be a good one.

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 12, 202001:05:36
LDL Letters 23: Annetta on Pirate Porn and The Priesthood
Jan 08, 202034:37
54: Resolve to Not Resolve: A Better New Year's Tradition

54: Resolve to Not Resolve: A Better New Year's Tradition

Diana joins us once again for our first podcast in 2020! In this episode we resolve to screw resolutions, embrace that inner child, and more hippy-dippy crap like that. Kumbaya listeners. You're welcome.

Once again Diana references Holistic Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera. Check her out here: https://yourholisticpsychologist.com

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Jan 05, 202048:25
FUMPOTD FESTIVUS: a 2019 Holiday Special (for the rest of us)

FUMPOTD FESTIVUS: a 2019 Holiday Special (for the rest of us)

Surprise! It's a gift from us to you in the form of an unexpected episode. We're revisiting our favorite FUMPOTDs of 2019. With the help of Sister Fanny Fact-Check, and of course, Brother Ben, we'll take a look back at the phrases that made us chuckle or just scratch our heads and wonder what Brother Joe was smokin. We hope you enjoy, and have a very happy holiday season! 

Music provided by Purple Planet: https://www.purple-planet.com

Dec 23, 201955:43