For many years, I equated Happiness with Success. I thought that reaching certain levels of success would bring happiness. But in reality, they were meaningless achievements that provided short term happiness at best. Are you really happy commuting long hours to make crazy money just to pay for an unnecessary hi-cost life. I now know that, for me, success does not bring happiness but living a happy life is success. The key to creating an action plan for you to live a happy life is self-awareness.
Today is February 15th, the day after Valentine’s Day, and society has finally decided to give out 8th Place Trophies to adults by calling today “Singles Awareness Day”. Relationships fail for many different reasons and we should neither be punished nor persecuted when they do. But to celebrate or be rewarded for being alone is absurd. We all deserve to be in a healthy relationship. It is what makes us a civilized society. Being alone is not something that should be celebrated, rewarded or proud of; but it is an opportunity. It is a special time; a time for reflection and self-awareness. When you are alone, this is God’s way of telling you that you have work to do. This is a time for you to become a better version of yourself through introspection, self-awareness and personal growth. In time, you will be rewarded with the healthy relationship that God wants for you. Today should be called “I need to start focussing on ME day”.
Do It Every Day is the 3rd D of my 3 D’s of Happiness. Once you have taken the effort through self-awareness to discover you, have taken the initiative to execute and DO YOU, have selfishly decided to DO IT FOR YOU, now just DO YOU EVERY DAY. If you can’t do it every day, at least do it every chance you get. But isn’t it sad when you only do what you love on the weekends; or when spring & summer arrive, you suddenly come alive; or worse, you stop doing it altogether. There are many people living the life they want to live every day. They aren’t just lucky stiffs. They are choosing to live their lives on their terms. You and I can make the same choice. DO YOU, DO IT FOR YOU and DO IT EVERY DAY.
Do It For You; the second D of my 3 D’s of Happiness. Are you just going through the motions in life? Not doing YOU for YOU. Depleting your emotional bank account as Dr. Phil would say. There is no need for past regrets; but you can change what you do from today on. Just make a conscious choice to be happy. If you continue to deplete your emotional bank account, you will eventually have nothing left of you to give. So what can you do to Do It For You? Make the choice today, right now, to live your life on your terms and finally DO YOU, FOR YOU.
Do You is the first D of my 3 D’s of Happiness. But before you can DO, you have to BE. This is done through self-awareness. Peel back the layers of that onion by asking yourself what are you good at, what are your passions, what are your core values, and what is your DNA? The answers to these questions should be genuine; from your heart & soul. I say, “Before you can DO YOU, you have to KNOW YOU and it wouldn’t truly be YOU if you worried about other people’s perceptions of YOU”.
Do You, Do it for You, and Do it every day. Doing You is simply a matter of self-awareness. Figure out who you are, what are you good at, what is your DNA and what is your purpose in life. Stop lying to yourself and everyone around you and just be You. Do it for you. If you don’t live your life for You, you will wake up one day hating your life and who you have let yourself become. Even worse, you will start blaming and resenting those around you for what is really your fault. Do it every day. Once you figure out who you are and have decided to live your life for you, keep doing what makes you happy. Don’t stop. My friends, life is a balance but you owe it to yourself to tip the scales in your favor. It’s never too late to Do You, Do it for You and Do it every day.
Resilience is the ability to recover from or adjust to misfortune or change. Adversity is a fact of life. Things do not always go our way. Sometimes, it seems that things never go our way. Resilience is a part of our character that allows some of us to get knocked down by life yet get back up and come back even stronger. Listen to some tips on how we can persist in the face of adversity.
Consistency is to stand firm and carry on regardless of obstacles or distractions. Tony Robbins believes “It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently”. Dr. Gloria Petruzzelli provides 5 Tips For Being Consistent: 1. Make a conscious decision to remain consistent; 2. Revise your concept of time; 3. Have a plan and know your objective; 4. Remember that feelings & thoughts are temporary and subjective; and 5. Do one thing at a time and be in the present moment. I believe that when you stay true to yourself while executing consistently, everything else will fall into place.
Commitment is the state of being dedicated to a cause, activity or goal. T.D. Jakes once said “You cannot conquer what you are not committed to”. Logan Marshall of the Free Life Project provides 4 Steps to Unshakeable Commitment: 1. Get your mindset right;2. Refine your goals; 3. Focus on what’s important; and 4. Hold yourself accountable. If you have been putting off anything in your life, please ask yourself why. Whatever your mountain to climb is, commit to it and stick to it.
Podcasts are entertaining, informative and a great way to pass the time while multi-tasking. Why would you start your own? Maybe you like to hear yourself talk, maybe you were meant to bestow your wisdom upon others, or maybe you are just plain funny. So how do you get started? I suggest you download the AnchorFM app to your smartphone. It’s easy and it’s free. This podcast is a fun hobby which allows me to connect with you. But the real benefit is the legacy it will leave. Wouldn’t you love to hear the voice of someone dear to you who has passed on and, more importantly, wouldn’t you want someone to hear your voice again once you are gone? That is true legacy.
Aristotle once said “ Through self-discipline comes freedom “. Self-discipline is simply the ability to make yourself do things when you know you should, even if you do not want to do them. But why is this simple concept so hard? Because we as humans are naturally drawn towards pleasure, not pain. Our parents taught us not to touch fire. Education taught us that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. Society teaches us to take the easy way out. But champions, mavericks, trend setters and pioneers do the opposite. They take the road less traveled, they think out of the box, they go where no man has gone before and they brake those chains that bind them. Self-discipline is painful emotionally and physically. You must flip the switch and re-wire your brain to embrace the pain of your struggle, work through it and let the pain be your oxygen that fuels you to get what is yours. You have to see it, feel it, work through it and want it more than you want to breathe.
Minimalism is the Intentional promotion of things we most value and the removal of everything that distracts us from it. Minimalism suits me because I have realized that I neither need or want much in the form of stuff. I know this lifestyle is not for everyone. Just remember, when the financial ball drops, you won’t be able to pick it back up if your hands are carrying excess baggage. Minimalism is not about living less, it is about living more with less.
The continuation of Joshua Becker’s list of 10 Tips to Start Living in the Present. 8. Stop Worrying - you can’t fully appreciate today if you worry too much about tomorrow; tomorrow is going to happen no matter what. 9. Think Beyond Old Solutions to Problems - our world is changing so fast that most of yesterday’s solutions are no longer the right answers today. 10. Conquer Addictions - addictions will hold you and the people around you hostage and will take away your freedom; emotionally and physically. The bottom line is this: you can live either in the past, admiring those useless plaques & awards on your Wall of Fame; you can live in the future, looking out the window dreaming of a better life while sitting on the sofa doing nothing; or you can live in the present, in the moment, working & grinding everyday towards realizing your dreams.
The continuation of Joshua Becker’s list of 10 Tips to Start Living in the Present. 4. Forgive Past Hurts - resentment festers and the more you hold onto it, the stronger it gets. 5. Love Your Job - you can either find a new job that you do enjoy or focus on the positives of your current job. Full disclosure here; I absolutely believe that life is too short to spend one minute doing what you hate. 6. Dream about the future but work hard today - dream big, set goals and plan for the future. But remember, dreams without execution are just dreams so you must work hard today as the first step towards realizing your dream for tomorrow. 7. Don’t dwell on past accomplishments - if you are still yapping about all the great things you did yesterday then you are not doing much today.
Joshua Becker believes that “the secret of health for both mind & body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly”. Here are some of his 10 Tips for Living in the Moment: 1. Remove unnecessary possessions, 2. Smile, and 3. Fully appreciate the moments of today. Remember my friends, we are not promised tomorrow.
Mis en place is the French culinary term for having the right ingredients “set in place” before you start cooking. It is not enough to just have Drive. What are the ingredients for having the drive of a champion? 1. A strong Why and 2. Discipline; containing a dash of commitment, consistency & resilience. The drive to succeed is already inside of you. God is the Master Chef and set you up when he created you. The Mis En Place is up to you.
Drive is the innate urge to attain a goal or satisfy a need. Drive is the starting point of motivation. It helps you focus on a specific goal. It is the first step. Without action or execution, your journey is just a dream. Drive is the first step in the execution of your journey to success. Your drive will set you on your way and the strength of your drive will determine how far you go.
When you are doing something that you are passionate about, your Why is obvious. It is the thrill, excitement and sense of accomplishment you feel while doing it. But what about when it is a job or career that you may not be so passionate about; or something that involves more time or more mental and physical effort. It is crucial that you identify your why ASAP. This requires self-awareness. It must be your Why, not someone else’s. This is a personal choice and you may have to tune out the noise of those around you. I speak from the heart on this because I trapped myself in a 23 year career that left me unfulfilled and empty. It’s never too late to identify your Why. Please have that long over-due conversation with yourself. Discover your Why and run with it. When you do You, for You, with all you heart and soul; and you do You every day, this is where the magic happens.
Motivation is the state of being motivated or having a strong reason to act or accomplish something. Motivation is the reason behind the thing you are doing - the why. When you combine your love and joy for something - your passion, with strong reasons for doing it - your Y, you become unstoppable. Whatever your passion may be, dig deep down to expose your internal why and when you combine the two, that, my friends, is where the magic happens.
When I was in college, I read Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance (ZAMM), the 1974 philosophical classic novel by Robert M. Pirsig. I didn’t have enough life experience at that time to fully appreciate it and my only take-away was “how cool would it be to ride across America on a motorcycle. On my Instagram page, Leadership Aficionado, you can view several one minute video clips depicting a middle aged man riding his Indian Motorcycles across America with my words of wisdom as background audio. You can say that this is my modern version of ZAMM. Check it out and let’s take the journey with him.
Passion is more than just enthusiasm; it is ambition that is materialized into action. It is when you put as much mind, body & soul into something as possible. One of Tony Robbins’ many mantras was “Live with Passion”. I believed in this philosophy but I didn’t execute it. Sadly, we are just one moment away from a negative life-changing event. Please live every day like it is your last. Don’t wait to tell people you love them. Do what you love to do every day. Live with Passion and let the magic happen.
Fear prevents us from opening certain doors, driving certain roads and climbing certain mountains. What are you really afraid of? The unknown, failure, or the opinion of others. Not facing your fears leads to a life of mediocrity, unfulfilled dreams and lack of growth. The only way to overcome your fear (F) is when the pain of not moving forward (P) plus the desire for something more, your why (Y) is greater. Then you will succeed (S). When P + Y > F = S. God gave you Heart, Soul, Spirit, Hope & Free Will. Use these gifts to face your fears with all your might and get what You want out of life.
What are you giving your children? What Legacy are you leaving for them? The best thing you can do for them is to become the best person that you can be. To actually become the men and women who you are encouraging them to be. Show them that life is about being happy and that they should follow their dreams. That success is not money, a fancy title or power. Show your children that success is doing what you want to do; when, where, and how you want to do it - on your terms. The best way to show them this, is for you yourself to become happy and live life on your terms. If you can provide your children a glimpse of what their future can be as a result of your actions, that is Legacy; and that my friends, is where the magic happens.
To achieve any goal, you have to become the person who can and will achieve that goal and you need patience to become that person. The patience to keep grinding even though results are not immediately evident. You may be on the road to success but do you have the patience to see it through.
Professional goal setting is a little more involved because it requires Self-awareness. Before you can Do, you have to Be. Do you actually have a profession or is it just a job? Are you capitalizing on who you are; your DNA, or are you just trying to fit a square peg into a round hole? Assuming that you are doing whatever it is that moves you, then here are some tips.
2019 Financial Goals: 1. STOP SPENDING- you cannot move forward financially if you are constantly buying bullshit. 2. PAY OFF DEBT- credit card debt can paralyze you for years. 3. DOWNSIZE- the more stuff you have or more expensive, bigger stuff you have, the harder and longer you are going to struggle financially. 4. INVEST- once you have stopped the bleeding, paid off debt and made life simpler for yourself, start buying dividend producing stocks when they go on sale.
Goal setting is so much more than just making a list. Goal setting is results oriented but the process is more valuable than the outcome. It’s one thing to achieve a particular goal, but you have to become the person who can and will achieve that goal. Please don’t rush your goal setting process. Take your time, think it through and incorporate self-awareness. Do this right and you will set yourself up for a successful year.
There are hundreds of studies demonstrating that writing your goals down increase your chances of successfully achieving them. I know firsthand that when I write my goals down, on average, I have an 80% success rate. When you have goals, you need to do whatever it takes to achieve them. Write them down on paper or in the Notes app on your smartphone. Write them on post-its and put them on the fridge or your bathroom mirror. Whatever it takes. You have to want the desired outcome more than you want to breathe.
We have to trim the emotional fat in our lives. Get rid of your loser friends and tune out the noise. We all have one or two friends who are such emotional wrecks that they not only waste our time and wear us out; they just suck the life out of us with their drama. For those family members or housemates who we can’t just blow off; distance yourself as much as you can, share less of your future plans and tune them out. When you are moving toward your goals and dreams, make like a butcher and trim the emotional fat that will only weigh you down and hinder your success.
Before you can set goals for yourself, you have to know who you are. Self-awareness is ground zero. If you embark on any path without knowing who you are, you run the risk of just spinning your wheels. Before you waste any more time, before you start on a path of unfulfilling mediocrity, become self-aware. Take the time now to discover who you are, what you like to do and where you want to do it. Assess your strengths and ask yourself what do you have a passion for, what are you good at? Before you jot down goals and formulate a strategy, dig deep down, search your soul, discover your essence and the path to your new journey will be obvious.
This is going to be our year. We are going to accomplish small short-term goals and we are going to move closer to those bigger long-term goals. My friends, with God, all things are possible and, along with a recipe of self-awareness, clearly written goals, drive, determination and tenacity, you can become the person who can achieve his or her goals. Remember, before you can DO, you have to BE. Before you can achieve your goals, you have to BECOME the person who is willing and able to achieve those goals. Celebrate today, welcome the New Year with open arms and embrace 2019 as a new beginning.
The New Year is just hours away. Tomorrow is a very big day. Tomorrow, we move forward. But today, we have to think about what needs to be done to allow us to move forward and what or who is preventing us from moving forward. There are two things you need to do today. First, I want you to emotionally purge yourself of the people in your life who are preventing you from going for your dreams. Second, I want you to picture yourself years from now sitting in a rocking chair thinking about what could have been. What are you going to say that you wish you did. The New Year is about getting rid of the old and bringing in the new. It’s about moving forward and doing whatever it takes to fulfill your hopes and dreams. And most of all, my friends, it’s about sitting in that rocking chair and not having one regret.
The New Year is 2 days away. As a leader, did you cultivate a culture of respect? Or do you entertain and enable the cry babies at work? Did you steer the ship yourself or did you captain your crew to navigate the rough seas? Use a leadership checklist year-round not just year-end. Hold yourself accountable for who you are and for the kind of leader you want to be.
The New Year is 3 days away. As a leader in 2018, did you cultivate leadership in others? Did you lead with positivity? Did you take ownership? Did you manage your relationships? Did you lead with inspiration? This is the last weekend before the New Year. Please take the time today to reflect, assess and plan your new strategy for 2019.
The New Year is four days away. Let’s continue with Lolly Daskal’s Year-end Leadership Checklist. Did you build others up; instilling confidence in them? Did you communicate effectively; were you clear, concise and specific? Did you listen to your people; with the genuine intent to learn from them? Do you encourage feedback from others?
The New Year is 5 days away. Listen to a year-end checklist for effective leaders. Take the time today to reflect on 2018. Were you a person of character? Did you visualize who or where you wanted to be; getting everyone involved on board? Did you pull the trigger and execute?
It’s December 26th, 2019 is 6 days away and I want you to finish strong. Your are on the six yard line, just 18 feet from the goal line. Listen to your options because in life, my friends, it’s all up to you and to win, you have to be stronger, faster, more determined and more tenacious than the guy/gal in front of you.
It is Christmas Eve 2018 and it is game time. Listen to 4 great tips for the day. Remember, the best gift of all to give others is You. Your compassion, empathy, advice or just plain good conversation. When you connect with others on these simple levels while sharing a Holiday moment, that my friends, is where the magic happens.
Are you so pre-occupied with yourself that you are uncaring of the people in front of you? Open your eyes and see past your nose. Then open your mind so you can process what you see before you. Then open your heart and embrace the situation before you. Now, my friends, you have the potential to make the magic happen.
S2:E003 It’s A Wonderful Life - When you are disillusioned because of unfulfilled dreams, take a step back and evaluate your situation. You may truly have a Wonderful Life or you may just have to tweak a few things. Come up with a game plan and change what you can change or just change how you react to people. You deserve to be fulfilled and your loved ones deserve the fulfilled version of yourself.
Thanksgiving is over and the leftovers are all gone so now what? Just keep being thankful. If we focus on Giving and not Getting, we can continue to practice giving throughout the Holiday season and when we are Thankful, my friends, on a daily basis, this is where the magic happens.
Episode 98 Integrity: A Badge of Honor - Integrity is not a sweater you wear for the new fall season. Integrity is who you are. It is your DNA. When Integrity is your true essence, this is your Badge of Honor. Wear it proudly my friends.
Episode 97 Be A Giver Not A Taker - “Only by giving are you able to receive more than you already have”. Take notice and you will see that the more successful people around you are the ones who are giving the most and the selfish lone wolves are becoming more isolated and eventually fall by the wayside. Be a giver not a taker and give all of yourself to everyone around you unconditionally and selflessly. When you are at that place of giving, my friends, this is where the magic happens.
Episode 96 My Purpose In Life - God’s purpose for me is to have a relationship with Him and, as a result, I am at peace. This place of peace allows me to use my God-given talent which is to help people. It is my DNA and what I do with it, is up to me. I pray for and wish all the same for you. When you are good with God, in a place of peace, using the talents He gave you; this my friends, is where the magic happens.
Episode 94 Collaboration - Hear how the younger generation is giving value to each other and working together to create content and produce projects with a “what can we accomplish together” attitude. This is behavior that the older generation should pay attention to and learn from.
Episode 93 How Not to Execute: A follow-up to yesterday’s episode, “Leadership is in the Execution”. Hear how Not to execute. Once you fail to execute or make it about you while you are executing, your efforts are no longer genuine and you immediately lose.
Episode 060 Choosing the Right Friends Part Two - As per the Huffington Post, the people you associate with have a major impact and influence on your personal success. You must chooses the Right friends and here’s how: 6. Choose friends with similar interests 7. Choose friends who have a thirst for knowledge 8. Choose friends who will celebrate your success 9. Choose friends who are go-getters and 10. Be a friend first. If you live by the Golden Rule and give all you can to others, you will have friendships that are fulfilling and rewarding.
Episode 061 How To Be A Leader In Your Community - Serving your Community is an honorable way to give back to society while getting your name and business out in front of the public. Give free presentations to various community organizations providing information that will benefit your target audience. Volunteer with community groups and causes that you as a person are passionate about. People do business with you if they know, like and trust you. Get involved in your community. Do it for you, do it for your business and do it because it’s the Right thing to do.
Episode 089 Delayed Gratification Update: A follow-up to Episode 086 where I was contemplating what to do when returning my last leased vehicle. Do I drive out with another 4 wheeled monthly payment or do I walk out and stop the financial bleeding. Listen to see what I did.
Episode 088 Happy Valentine’s Day - If you have someone special, keep loving them with all your heart. If you don’t have someone special, today is a great day to start loving yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you can’t give love to others. This year is about a little “you” time because before you can “do”, you have to “be”. The first step, then, is self-awareness. Who are you? Who do you want to be? What do you want? Step two is openness. Put on that Faccia Bella instead of that Faccia Brutta. But you then need, step three, patience. Wait for that special person to gravitate towards you. For how long? “ALAIT”: As Long As It Takes because the second you put a time limit on the process, you lose.
Episode 087 Robert C Stern - The Social Leader. Robert learned how to use Facebook to connect with others and by connecting to people, he became a top selling real estate agent. Now Robert teaches others that success on Facebook is all about engagement. He suggests you Like and Reply to every reply your posts generate. He further suggests your posts be either Entertaining or Educational or else nobody is interested. Robert also suggests that you post to your Facebook business page at least once a day and share the post to your personal page. Lastly, Robert believes that the use of Facebook Live Videos is the best way to increase your reach. Hats off to you Robert C Stern. You truly are The Social Leader.
Episode 086 Delayed Gratification - Delayed Gratification is the opposite of impulse buying. We constantly find ourselves on the horns of a dilemma because, as a society, we have learned to acquire stuff. Bigger is better and more is better. Combined with the quick and easy availability of spending, we have become a society obsessed with instant gratification. Delayed Gratification is a skill that requires practice, discipline, self-control and patience. Listen to some of the benefits of practicing Delayed Gratification. You have what it takes so next time you want stuff, remember two marshmallows are better than one.
Episode 085 Patience - Yesterday, Elon Musk successfully launched the world’s most powerful rocket, the Falco Heavy. He first reported this idea to the press in April 2011. Imagine the Patience Elon Musk and his team at Space X must have had to bring this amazing accomplishment to fruition. What kind of Patience do we need to realize our goals and dreams? Patience is a process consisting of self-awareness; who are you now. Who do you want to be or what is it that you want. What do you have to do be that person or to reach that goal. Whatever dreams or goals are on your launchpad, Patience will get you to 3...2....1....Lift-off.
Episode 084 The Real Estate Brokerage Apocalypse - Listen to a recap of Gary Vaynerchuk’s podcast interview of Million Dollar Listing NY’s Ryan Serhant. Real Estate Brokerage is already evolving. EXIT Realty Int’l is proof of this because of their unique commission structure paying residual income to their agents. EXIT Realty is not trying to make a name for themselves. EXIT Realty, instead, provides their agents with all the state of the art tools so they can brand themselves. When the real estate Brokerage Apocalypse comes, as Ryan predicts, only EXIT Realty agents will be armed with the tools to survive the New Age of Real Estate. Get with the program and join the EXIT Realty family.
Episode 083 While You Are Waiting - It’s February. Now what? All those great ideas you had on January first haven’t quite began to reap the benefits you had hoped. Now you are frustrated and ready to fall back into complacency. Eric Thomas has 4 great tips for what to do while you are waiting: 1. Work while you wait 2. Work on your focus 3. Work on your faith and 4. Work on yourself. Get out there and get what’s yours but you have to put in the time and the work. Don’t just sit there waiting on the world to change.
Episode 082 Complacency - The Silent Killer of Success. Are you in a rut; Paralyzed by Complacency? Here are some ways to overcome Complacency: 1. Embrace creativity 2. Transparency 3. Accountability 4. Help someone else achieve 5. Small successes and 6. Believe in Yes. When you are in that rut, that funk, walk by faith and pray to God for guidance.
Episode 081 Summer Leadership Opportunities - What are your kids doing this summer? Now is the time to do research, submit applications and initiate communication to secure a great leadership opportunity this summer. Listen to some great tips. Today our kids have a gazillion more opportunities than we did. Encourage them to get on the right path towards a fulfilling future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.
Episode 081 Leadership Opportunities For Our Children. What are your kids doing this summer? Now is the time to research, submit applications and initiate communications to line up a great summer leadership opportunity for your kids. Listen to a few tips to get your kids started to secure a rewarding summer leadership experience. There are gazillions more opportunities for our kids today than when we were young. There is no excuse for kids today to sit around all summer playing XBOX. Help them get started on the path to a fulfilling future.
Episode 080 Leaders in Disguise - Leaders are not always dressed a certain way. They don’t always have advanced certifications and degrees. They are sometimes just the guy or gal next to you on line but they are experiencing trials & tribulations you would not wish on anyone. These unassuming heroes are leading themselves back from their own living hell trying to land on their feet and reclaim their dignity. They could give up and wallow in self-pity, but Leaders don’t do that. Leaders get punched in the face, knocked on their ass, get back up and keep going. To be a real leader, you have to be able to lead yourself even if it’s to come back from hell. Let’s not judge those around us. Reach out to someone, even for a moment and be their glimmer of hope, reminding them that “this too shall pass”.
Episode 079 Public Speaking & Leadership Part 3 - Hear about some of the venues where you can speak to an audience as well as some public speaking training available. We all have something of value to say, just get out there and say it. Leaders have a voice and use it to inspire.
Episode 078 Public Speaking & Leadership Part 2 - Here are some quick tips to become a better speaker: 1. Never memorize your speech. 2. Use conversational language. 3. Practice & Rehearse. 4. Focus on your message and 5. Take a Public Speaking class. Becoming a confident and competent public speaker is achieved only through focused effort and a lot of practice. “How do you get to Carnegie Hall?”....”Practice, Practice, Practice”.
Episode 077 Public Speaking & Leadership - The ability to communicate is the top 3rd Competency of Leadership. Leadership is influence and public speaking provides 3 avenues that are paramount to bestow influence. 1. Exposure - A person who is willing to step forward and speak has a voice. 2. Connection - When you connect with your audience by sharing your personal stories, they will connect with you. 3. Change - When you stand up and speak in a powerful way, you will get people thinking and change the hearts and minds of your audience. Effective leadership requires the capacity to drive influence. Public speaking is the engine and the avenues of Exposure, Connection and Change are the 3 gears, first, second & third, that get you there.
Episode 076 Jeff Mistretta Real Estate Agent Extraordinaire Live. Listen to a live interview with Jeff Mistretta from Episode 002. Jeff explains his specialty as a Buyer’s Agent as well as the importance of working with a Buyer’s Agent. Jeff also shares his thoughts on Leadership and his suggestion for all Real Estate Agents. Jeff Mistretta is a true leader and is changing peoples’ lives. Get out there and be like Jeff.
Episode 075 Great Leaders Inspire Those Around Them. Do you? Here are 10 Ways to Inspire others: By expecting the most of them. By challenging them. By caring about them. By taking a stand for what you believe in. By having the courage to change course. By being vulnerable. By practicing Integrity. By sharing the credit. By sharing your influences and By listening to them. I believe God put us on this earth to inspire others to be more, to be the best that they can be and to not give up. Remember, It’s not over until You WIN.
Episode 074 Let’s Empower Our Youth - Today’s teens & young adults have a desire to lead and make a difference but they often feel that their efforts are unsupported and untapped. They sometimes feel they have neither a voice nor a venue for their contributions. These aspiring great minds and big hearts are looking for ways to be part of the solution, but need training and support to take the next step. So, what can we, as leaders who pride ourselves on inspiring others, do to help? 1. Give them tools 2. Encourage the use of passion 3. Give them a voice without judgement 4. Encourage patience 5. Encourage formation of habits 6. Let them fail and 7. Encourage storytelling. “The children are our future. Teach them well and let them lead the way.” Please pray for the victims of today’s horrific school shooting in Kentucky.
Episode 073 Lifelong Regrets Part Two - When you are sitting in that rocking chair 20, 30 or 40 years from now, what are you going to say that you wish you did? Mistakes to STOP making NOW to avoid lifelong regrets: 6. Forgetting to live in the moment 7. Giving up true love 8. Denying others happiness 9. Not standing up for yourself and others and 10. Disregarding your health & wellness. When you are in that rocking chair, will YOU smile knowing that you did your part to make the world a better place?
Episode 072 Lifelong Regrets - When you are sitting in that rocking chair, 20, 30 or 40 years from now, what are you going to say that you wish you did? Mistakes to STOP making NOW to avoid Lifelong Regrets: 1. Following someone else’s dream 2. Taking your loved ones for granted 3. Pretending to be someone you are not 4. Burning bridges and 5. Telling lies.
Episode 071 When DO You Monetize - It is important to be patient and wait for your money. The moment you decide to monetize, you give up your leverage. Once you start monetizing, it is not about your audience or followers...It’s now about you. Once you move out of the friend zone and start putting your hand in their pockets, you better have a leg to stand on. If it’s too soon and they do not know, like and adore you, then you just jumped the shark. The right way to monetize is to WOW your audience to the point that they now feel guilty if they don’t buy your book, subscribe to your service or join your master mind group. Whether you are building your business or your brand, have patience and put the time and work into the process. It is in the process, where you grow, expand and evolve. It is in the process, my friends, where the magic happens.
Episode 070 What Is Your Side Hustle? - You have a variety of interests. Which one do you focus on, how do you tap into your expertise and what are the first steps to take?: 1. Don’t fall in love with your first idea 2. Go with your strengths 3. Don’t quit your day job 4. Build your skill set and 5. Stay in Your lane and run Your race. Do it on the side and do You....Boo.
Episode 069 How To Monetize Your Passion - Generating cash from your activities can be like getting blood from a stone. Monetization is the last step in the creation cycle. All the hard work must be done upfront. If you enjoy what you are doing and not just doing it for the money, you will go that extra mile, make one more call, put in more hours and influence one more person. Monetization is the final phase. It may take years so let’s get started: 1. Be clear on your passion 2. Align your passion with what you are good at 3. Find a need and fill it 4. Tailor what you are offering to the avatar of your consumer and 5. Work a marketing plan. Growing your business is a fluid process where you are continually learning, advancing and evolving. A process where you take what you love to do, the essence of who you are, and change the world in your own little way. This, my friends, is where the magic happens and then the money will follow.
Episode 068 Courage - What’s In Your Wallet? You can harness the inner strength you already have to grow a successful business. From public speaking to skydiving, there are countless things in life that take courage. Starting a new business is on the top of this list, but there are ways to face these challenges without fear: 1. Rely on trusted experts 2. Challenge yourself 3. Focus on your mission 4. Join a networking group and 5. Protect your investment. Courage comes with time and experience and you can gradually build your own confidence by pushing yourself to take on challenges.
Episode 067 Ty Gerot - Entrepreneur, Leader & Loyal Friend. Will you be able to take the lead and fight the good fight when life punches you in the face or when the grim reaper comes knocking? When you get that call at 2 am, will you spring into action the way Ty did this morning. Ty got that call and rushed to a friend’s home who had just passed away. Ty took control making the appropriate notifications while providing solace and strength to those present. Will you be able to step up and lead at times like this? Ty Gerot you are a loyal friend and a true leader. Keep fighting the good fight my friend.
Episode 066 Dr. Martin Luther King Jr - Time Magazine’s Man of the Year In 1963; Nobel Peace Prize Winner In 1964. Entrepreneur Magazine honors this great visionary leader for providing three leadership lessons that have become the backbone of Entrepreneurship today. 1. Total commitment to your cause 2. Disrupting the Status Quo is essential for change and 3. Have a Dream, communicate it and execute it. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr had a dream..... Do you?
Episode 065 How To Gain Respect And Become An Influential Leader Part Three - Leadership is Influence. In order to influence others, you need their respect. Here’s how: 12. Ask before telling 13. Anticipate and optimize 14. Take risks and 15. Expect Greatness. Before you Do, you have to Be and the better you become through growth, the more respect you will get and then the more powerful your influence will be.
Episode 064 How To Gain Respect And Become An Influential Leader Part Two - Leadership is influence. In order to influence others, you need their respect. Here’s how: 7. Understand people personally 8. Position your people properly 9. Praise liberally 10. Mentor, Coach and Advocate and 11. Create partnerships with your people.
Episode 063 How To Gain Respect And Become An Influential Leader - Leadership is influence, plain and simple. But in order to influence others, you need their respect. So how do you gain respect as a leader? 1. Find your style and inspire 2. Demonstrate Integrity 3. Do your homework 4. Invest in yourself 5. Manage your brand and 6. Concentrate on the future.
Episode 062 Lessons Most Leaders Learn Too Late In Life - Listen to Richard Branson’s three Leadership Mantras that Today’s Leaders must master before it is too late: 1. Communicate with your ears 2. Accept that failure is the foundation for success and 3. Put your employees first, even ahead of your customers.
Episode 059 Choosing the Right Friends - The people you associate with have a major impact and influence on your personal success. For your long term success, you must choose the right friends. Here’s how: 1. Associate higher 2. Choose friends with similar values 3. Choose friends with common goals 4. Choose friends who bring balance and 5. Choose friends who stretch, motivate and encourage you.
Episode 058 Instilling Leadership In Our Children Part 3 - Today’s Children Are Tomorrow’s Leaders. What can we do? 11. Use vision boards and flip charts to teach goal setting 12. Avoid jumping in as the savior and allow your child to work through the project 13. Find your child a Mentor 14. Encourage fun reading to promote greater intellectual progress and 15. Teach the value of money through money management to help them live within their means. We, as leaders, can prepare our children today to be the leaders that this great country needs tomorrow.
Episode 057 Instilling Leadership In Our Children Part 2 - Today’s Children are Tomorrow’s Leaders. So what can we do? 6. Practice confident communication 7. Encourage work 8. Enroll in Summer Camp 9. Have Family Game Night and 10. Teach project planning skills.
Episode 056 Instilling Leadership In Our Children - Today’s Children Are Tomorrow’s Leaders. What can we do? 1. Set a good example 2. Encourage team activities 3. Emphasize perseverance 4. Build negotiation skills and 5. Hone decision-making abilities.
Episode 055 Winter Storm 2018 - Your Financial Goals. 1. STOP spending money 2. SAVE money 3. PAY OFF debt 4. INVEST 5. TAX PREP and 6. FINANCIAL EDUCATION. Are you prepared for the next financial Storm? Get your head in the game. Cash is king.
Episode 054 May Olde Acquaintance Be Forgot. In with the new, out with the old. You are the average of the 5 friends you spend the most time with. Replace one loser friend with one new empowering friend. As far as personal relationships go; the warm and fuzzy kind: 1. Do you and stay true to yourself. 2. Stop trying to fit that square peg into the round hole and find someone who is a good fit for you; don’t settle and 3. Follow your journey, it’s yours and don’t take someone away from theirs; share each other’s journey because this, my friends, is where the magic happens.
Episode 053 Resistance - How should we handle obstacles and roadblocks. “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger”. The bigger the Resistance, the greater your Potential. Assess the source of negativity. Stay connected to your WHY. Don’t go it alone. It’s a New Year and you have new goals. Roadblocks will get in your way but they are there to make you stronger and to make your journey all the more sweeter.
Episode 051 Kick Start Your 2018 Part Two - The New Years Eve Day Episode. Listen to more ideas how you can kickstart the New Year. Slow down, become a student, rule out what Not To Do, take daily steps toward your vision and become a “Yes Man”. Have a Happy New Year and please Don’t Drink and Drive.
Episode 049 Square Peg Round Hole - If you are with the wrong company then stop fooling yourself or better yet, stop letting them fool you. Whatever your passion may be, you need to associate yourself with a company who is keeping up with the advancements of our society. A company who offers Training, Branding, Technology, Culture and Residual Income. An innovative company like EXIT Realty.
Episode 048 Leadership Begins at Home Part Three - Here about 10 ways to help you become the leader of your family. Having a close family is a conscious choice that you, the leader, must make. Be the leader your family needs and deserves.
Episode 045 Merry Christmas - Remember the words of Little Tiny Tim Cratchet. “God Bless Us ..... Everyone”. Christmas is about Giving not getting. Hear about a few ways you can still give by continuing to spread Holiday cheer throughout the week.
Episode 044 Holiday Hosting - Today is the last day to get ready for Christmas and if you are hosting tonight’s Feast of the Seven Fish or tomorrow’s Christmas Dinner, it’s game time. Hear about 10 last minute tips from the Holiday Hosting Playbook.
Episode 043 Teachable Moments. These are great opportunities to pass along our values to our children. A way for us to influence and inspire them to make good decisions. Be a leader within your family and create Teachable Moments.
Episode 042 Mastermind - The Third Mind. Napoleon Hill believed that when 2 or more minds come together, a 3rd invisible intangible force is created; in essence, a 3rd mind, the Mastermind. Hear about Forbes Magazine’s benefits to being part of a Mastermind Group.
Episode 041 The Gift of Giving. You don’t have to be a great leader to be a good gift giver; you just need a little love in your heart. Hear about the 6 Health & Wellness benefits of giving gifts this Holiday Season.
Episode 040 Put Your Dream to the Test. A dream is a picture and blueprint of a person’s purpose and potential. Hear about why people don’t pursue their dreams and the must have components for realizing your dream. Dare to Dream.
Episode 039 The Law of Contribution- Growing yourself enables you to help others grow. We help others grow by adding value to them. Be a river, not a reservoir. Let all you have to give flow like a river downstream; helping everyone you meet along the way. Be a mentor and define your success as sowing, not reaping.
Episode 038 The Law of Expansion- As we increase our capacity, we increase our ability to grow. As we expand our capacity, we expand our impact. Capacity is not a measure of how much we can hold. Capacity is a measure of how much we can give; to ourselves and to those around us.
Episode 037 The Law of Modeling - It’s hard to improve when you have no one but yourself to follow. To grow as a leader, you have to shadow, emulate and replicate the behavior of a great leader. And remember Grasshopper, you are never too old to snatch the pebble from a Master’s hand.
Episode 036 The Law of Curiosity - Growth is stimulated by asking “Why”. When we cultivate curiosity by peeling back the layers of the onion, we arrive at the core reason, our true intent and purpose. We grow by being curious so peel back that onion and find your true “why”.
Episode 035 Theresa Caputo - The Long Island Medium. Leader of souls living & dead. Theresa guides us in the process of coming to terms with the loss of a loved one while providing a platform for their spirit to come forward.
Episode 034 The Law of Tradeoffs - You have to give up to go up. What are you willing to give up? You have to want success more than you want to breathe. The alternative, doing nothing, maintaining the status quo....is no life my friends.
Episode 030 The Law of the Ladder - Your Character determines the height of your Personal Growth. The stronger your Character, the greater your Growth Potential. If you have patience, faith, keep growing and continue to be a person of character, then your ladder will eventually take you to where you want to be.
Episode 029 The Law of Pain - Good Management of Bad Experiences Leads to Growth. Until we accept the pain of a bad experience and all the emotions that come with that pain, we can’t even begin to learn from it, move on from it and grow as a result of it.
Episode 028 Branding - Check Yourself Before You Wreck Yourself. Your personal brand and your reputation is everything. People do business with you if they know, trust and like you. Listen to the do’s & don’ts of your Facebook page.
Episode 027 Training ROI - Are You Paying Too Much? What is the Return on Investment for your training & development. Sometimes we get sucked in to paying a little too much. Hear how I avoided unnecessary spending in producing my daily podcast.
Episode 019 Exit Ambassador Champions. Hear about Exit Realty’s Elite and how they are offering to change the lives of Real Estate Agents by hosting events where Agents from outside the Corporation can hear the amazing Exit Story. If you are a Real Estate Agent or are thinking about a career in Real Estate and you want to reach your fullest potential while providing a financial legacy for your loved ones then you need to join the amazing Exit Family.
Episode 018 The Law of the Mirror. You must see value in yourself and add value to yourself in order to grow. Hear how you can build your self-esteem so that you can visualize the amazing you who you want to be every day.
Episode 016 Rick O’Neil - Real Estate Maestro. Hear how this Real Estate guru changes the lives of agents across America by spearheading Exit Realty’s national Ambassador Leadership Development Program.