Building Legacy Marriages
By Brandon Coussens, LMFT
A legacy marriage is when a couple works hard to create a very healthy marriage, despite their family history and upbringing, that provides a loving atmosphere and amazing example to their children to follow as they enter their adult years. The goal is to create a legacy of marriages that grows generations of healthy families. These pillar families will provide strength and love to a community to stabilize them and make them strong. It all starts with strong, healthy marriages. A family, a community, a state, and even a country are built on the backbone of the marriages within them.
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 10 - Creating A Plan for When Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
You have now worked through a process of understanding your dishonesty and now it is time to create a plan to change and grow. This episode encourages you, motivates you, and helps you start to break down what a plan would consist of. A plan is your best option for moving forward. It keeps you focused and ready to change. I discuss a little bit about forgiveness, shame, mental health concerns, depression, trauma, seeking help, accountability, and counseling. I hope you have enjoyed this season! Be ready for another exciting season coming up!
November 11, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 9 - What are you Committed to When Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
In this episode, we explore commitment. Knowing what you are committed to or how your commitments affect you can help you stop dishonesty. Did you know that? What is commitment about? How does it help you? We will explore all this, some examples, and you will get a challenge. Come listen and continue this process with me!
November 03, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 8 - Learn What You Really Want When Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
Now that you have worked on knowing yourself better, it is time to learn more about what you really desire. Knowing your desires with help you understand better why you are being dishonest. It will also help you choose healthier behaviors that will be more beneficial. In this episode, you will get examples and information to help you uncover your desires, plus 2 exercises that can help you develop your understanding of your desires and what your dishonesty is really about.
October 27, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 7 - Learn Who You Are when Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
Learning who you are is pivotal to being able to make choices and decisions that benefit you. As you work through the process of changing to stop dishonesty in your marriage and relationships, knowing who you are can help you understand more of your strengths, likes, dislikes, cares, fears, concerns, and beliefs. All of this can help you make better choices, instead of reacting or grasping for things. Most lies are built off of unhealthy choices. Let's know ourselves so we can own our decisions and not have to lie.
October 18, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 6 - Knowing Your Why when Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
Knowing your "Why" is important in so many areas of life. You can't get where you are going if you don't have reasons or motivation to get there. You can also get off on the wrong track if you don't understand your reasons well. I encourage you in this episode to find out your "why." Ask yourself the questions that I provide and step by step discover what happened and why you are being dishonest. This will help you explain to your spouse what happened as you choose to be open and honest about what is true and what is not. Check out my workbook so you have a step-by-step guide to do this. Workbooks: https://brandoncoussenslmft.com/resources/helpful-workbooks/
October 14, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode # 5 - Remorse and Repentance when Dishonesty has been in a Marriage
Following up our last episode, we want to understand what remorse and repentance is. I discuss how this is a must in your relationships, especially as it deals with dishonesty in marriage. I break down how our heart and brokenness can help lead into this. I also give examples to help you create a plan of how to repent.
October 03, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships Episode #4 - Managing the Mind, Will, and Emotions to Help with Remorse and Repentance after Dishonesty in a Marriage
Today's episode discusses how the mind, will, and emotions need to be managed in order to stop dishonesty. I decided to go with this discussion due to the need for "heart change" when there is a need for remorse and repentance. I want people to know what they CAN control, so they are not wasting their energy on fighting something they can't do anything about. In this episode you will learn the difference between the human spirit, heart, soul, mind, will, and emotions. You will also learn how they relate to helping you renew your mind. This discussion will finally help explain the process to renewing the mind so you understand your brokenness and will seek to change. Thus remorse and repentance are part of the process. Keep working on yourself so you can rebuild your marriage! God Bless!
September 26, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships: Episode #3 - Know Your Weaknesses, Focus on Your Strengths to Stop Dishonesty
As you continue to work on the process you created, knowing your weaknesses and strengths will help you create a plan. Your goal is to stop being dishonest. You need tools (strengths) and you need to know what keeps you from moving forward (weaknesses). Let's talk about what weaknesses and strengths are, how you can learn about yours, why it is important to know them, and some other important points that can help you use this information to stop lying and hurting your loved ones. Stay focused on the goal: Beating Dishonesty!
September 20, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships: Episode #2 – Creating a Process to Stop Lying to Your Spouse
A process for stopping behavior or building new behavior can be very important to make progress toward your goals. This is also very true for dealing with dishonest behavior. If you are lying to your spouse and having trouble stopping this type of behavior, then you probably need to sit down and work through a process to change your actions. The process I lay out here is not in order, but can be used as a template to find what works for you. Dishonesty is disastrous to relationships and needs to change. Take what you can from this session and start trying to figure out your process to have better reactions and stop fibbing and start telling the truth.
September 14, 2022
Dishonesty in Relationships: Episode #1 – What is dishonesty?
Today's podcast is the start of a series about dishonesty in relationships and marriage. I have several blog posts on my website brandoncoussenslmft.com that talk about how dishonesty affects marriage and what to do. I want to deepen your understanding of dishonesty. What is it? What is it not? What examples help us understand how hurtful it is? We'll discuss some biblical examples. Finally, we will end it with encouragement. I encourage you to know your enemy! God Bless!
September 09, 2022
Intro to Building Legacy Marriages Podcast
Building Legacy Marriages Podcast is not just another marriage or relationship podcast. Hi, I am Brandon Coussens. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Therapist. I designed the podcast to be a place where you can come and get real, honest, down-to-earth talk about all things relationships. As a Christian with a huge heart for people, especially couples, I want you to have a place where you hear about real struggles in a very real life and learn ways to cope with the ups and downs of life. I especially want to infuse the conversation with Biblical principles and words of wisdom from the one who knows us best, God. The podcast will start with a season or series about dishonesty in marriage. My audience from my blogs on dishonesty deserves to hear more about how they can deal with this very real struggle. However, this issue will overlap and intersect with other areas that relate to improving relationships. As the podcast builds, a diversity of marriage topics, guests, and discussions relating to relationships, Christianity, and our world will be introduced. I also like the research side of life. I will attempt to provide real research and mesh it with what the Bible says. I believe the Bible is God's Word, and I want to apply it to what research and information are coming out to determine if what we are seeing is true. My goal is to help all couples find the truth, the truth about relationships, the truth about love, and the truth about life together. Thank you in advance for taking the time to listen to this podcast. If you have a topic you want me to cover, please email me. Bless you for your participation!
September 08, 2022