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Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life

Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life

By Lesbian Chronicles

Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Alli and Melisa share their own experiences of leaving their heterosexual marriages to be their true selves in an effort to help others find their own way and feel a little less alone in the process.
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Episode 152: The Inbetween Time
Episode 152: The Inbetween Time
What does separation even look like? Alli and Melisa reflect back on how everything unfolded leading up to their divorces. 
48:29
June 19, 2022
Episode 151: Melissa Lester from GROUP! (Part 2)
Episode 151: Melissa Lester from GROUP! (Part 2)
Part 2 of our conversation with Melissa Lester, LCSW who created the Group that truly saved Melisa and Alli in their coming out process.
34:27
June 12, 2022
Episode 150: Melissa Lester from GROUP!
Episode 150: Melissa Lester from GROUP!
This week we welcome Melissa Lester, LCSW who created the Group that truly saved Melisa and Alli in their coming out process. 
33:41
June 05, 2022
Episode 149: Hurricane Ari Part Two
Episode 149: Hurricane Ari Part Two
Ari shares more of her coming out story and how she learned to let go of labels and "just be." 
22:09
May 29, 2022
Episode 148: Hurricane Ari Part One
Episode 148: Hurricane Ari Part One
Alli chats with her new friend Ari about how she came out later in life.
36:25
May 22, 2022
Episode 147: Hilliary's Story
Episode 147: Hilliary's Story
TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions sexual abuse.  Alli's neighbor Hilliary joins us this week to share her coming out story and how a traumatic incident with her first girlfriend led her to end the relationship. 
31:45
May 16, 2022
Episode 146: Sonia Leigh
Episode 146: Sonia Leigh
Music artist Sonia Leigh joins us this week to share her story about coming out in the 90s! 
45:02
May 07, 2022
Episode 145: God Gives Very Little S***s
Episode 145: God Gives Very Little S***s
This week we're joined by Alexis aka The Queer Mom on TikTok. They are an Episcopal Priest with a Masters degree in Divinity. We discuss their take on religion and how they're working to bring queer people together via TikTok. 
36:22
May 01, 2022
Episode 144: Christine's Story: Part 2
Episode 144: Christine's Story: Part 2
You're now part of the LGBTQ community -- but you feel like the new kid in class. Christine shares what it's like to be old, but new at the same time. 
40:18
April 17, 2022
Episode 143: Christine's Story: Part 1
Episode 143: Christine's Story: Part 1
Our friend Christine shares her coming out story -- and the post-divorce pressure to prove coming out was worth it. 
34:22
April 10, 2022
Episode 142: More Peaches (and avocados)
Episode 142: More Peaches (and avocados)
This week -- we do the impossible and dive into a how-to on eating peaches (and avocados, apparently) 
46:17
April 03, 2022
Episode 141: Eat More Peaches
Episode 141: Eat More Peaches
We're back! And we're talking initiating sexy time after a listener shared her struggles with putting the moves on her partner. 
40:01
March 27, 2022
Episode 140: Say Gay!
Episode 140: Say Gay!
This week we discuss the insane legislation proposed in the US about sexuality in schools -- and how not hearing the word "gay" growing up influenced us growing up.
50:07
March 13, 2022
Episode 139: The Heartbreak of Divorce
Episode 139: The Heartbreak of Divorce
Conflicting feelings come up in divorce -- you know you're gay... but also heartbroken over leaving your husband. Melisa and Alli talk about how these feelings can co-exist. And why getting over relationships with women is soooo hard. 
30:25
March 06, 2022
Episode 138: Don't Be a Rubik's Cube
Episode 138: Don't Be a Rubik's Cube
How do you know if you're truly attracted to someone? This week we talk about attraction and how dating men now has some questioning their own instincts. We also hit on a good way to let someone know you're just not into them. 
44:58
February 27, 2022
Episode 137: Dr. Jaime: A Commitment to Yourself
Episode 137: Dr. Jaime: A Commitment to Yourself
Dr. Jaime Blandino is back, dropping more wisdom!! 
45:06
February 20, 2022
Episode 136: Marina's Story Part 2
Episode 136: Marina's Story Part 2
Marina's back! This week we talk about her relationship with her mother -- who hasn't been accepting of her sexuality. 
39:41
February 13, 2022
Episode 135: Marina's Story Part 1
Episode 135: Marina's Story Part 1
This week, we chat with Marina who was born and raised in Ukraine/Russia and moved to the US as a teenager. She shares how she went from being "boy crazy" to a heterosexual marriage to starting to date women in her 20s. Oh, she's also Melisa's girlfriend so there's that :) 
39:24
February 06, 2022
Episode 134: Blending Families
Episode 134: Blending Families
Alli and Melisa share their experiences in blending families in new relationships -- from Melisa's trip to Disney with her ex to Alli's love for her partner's son. 
35:07
January 30, 2022
Episode 133: Meet Mia
Episode 133: Meet Mia
Mia shares her story of coming out 10 years ago and how things have evolved since then.
37:48
January 23, 2022
Episode 132: Coming Out at 60
Episode 132: Coming Out at 60
Laura shares her story of coming out at 60-years-old and how she’s helping others through her TikTok videos where she has nearly 45k followers!
37:49
January 07, 2022
Episode 131: Coming Out Colton
Episode 131: Coming Out Colton
This week we chat about the Netflix series, “Coming Out Colton” and how other people’s opinions and a religious upbringing can hold you back from coming out.
34:36
December 23, 2021
Episode 130: Weight of Religion with our Catholic Deacon
Episode 130: Weight of Religion with our Catholic Deacon
Alli’s future father-in-law who is also a Deacon in the Catholic Church speaks about his experience having two gay daughters and his take on acceptance.
34:38
December 16, 2021
Episode 129: Meet Your New..???
Episode 129: Meet Your New..???
Melisa is back! She catches everyone up on what’s new in her life, including an impromptu vacation on the Melissa Etheridge Cruise!
39:21
December 07, 2021
Episode 128: Laws of Attraction
Episode 128: Laws of Attraction
Dr. Jaime Blandino and Alyssa are back with Alli this week to talk about sexual attraction vs romantic attraction
45:16
November 28, 2021
Episode 127: The Wisdom in Stillness
Episode 127: The Wisdom in Stillness
Special guests this week… Dr. Jaime and Alyssa join the conversation about how people have found their true selves because of the pandemic
51:48
November 22, 2021
Episode 126: Meghan’s Story
Episode 126: Meghan’s Story
Meghan divorced her husband and dated women.  She went back to her husband before meeting her partner and beginning an authentic journey as a gay woman.  This journey includes moving in with her partner and blending a family.  
35:39
November 14, 2021
Episode 125: Tonishia’s Story
Episode 125: Tonishia’s Story
Listener Tonishia shares her story about how she moved from dating men to women… and the struggle to put a label on herself.
33:09
November 08, 2021
Episode 124: Sex Anxiety
Episode 124: Sex Anxiety
Rachel from our Sleepless in Seattle episode joins us again… this time to talk about all the anxiety that comes with intimacy
39:28
November 01, 2021
Episode 123: Part 2: How Did You Meet
Episode 123: Part 2: How Did You Meet
We share more listener stories of how they met their person and share some ideas about how to navigate dating apps.
30:20
October 24, 2021
Episode 122: How Did You Meet?
Episode 122: How Did You Meet?
This week we share stories of how some of our listeners met their significant other!!
29:49
October 17, 2021
Episode 121: From the Drafts
Episode 121: From the Drafts
This week is an episode we recorded in August 2020 but never published. So enjoy this little bit of randomness with Melisa and Alli.
30:21
October 11, 2021
Episode 120: Double Lives
Episode 120: Double Lives
When you’re in that odd in between of being out… but not to everyone.
45:21
October 07, 2021
Episode 119: FOLLOW UP: Gay But Still Married
Episode 119: FOLLOW UP: Gay But Still Married
We catch up with Jocelyn who we spoke with last year about her plans to stay married. Things have changed.
32:60
September 30, 2021
Episode 118: It Feels Like The First Time Part 2
Episode 118: It Feels Like The First Time Part 2
A continuation of Melisa and Alli’s conversation from last week
42:25
September 19, 2021
Episode 117: It Feels Like The First Time
Episode 117: It Feels Like The First Time
Alli and Melisa talk about a lot of things… like why do the lights have to be on during sexy time???
35:28
September 13, 2021
Episode 116: Unattached with K.Deer
Episode 116: Unattached with K.Deer
Another listener who wasn’t married but came out later, our friend Kristine Deer (founder of K.Deer fitness apparel). She shares her coming out experience and the art of being unattached to outcomes in life.
39:35
September 05, 2021
Episode 115: Sleepless in Seattle
Episode 115: Sleepless in Seattle
A highly requested topic… what is it like to come out having not been married? We chat with Rachel from Seattle about her shift from dating men to dating women.
33:04
August 29, 2021
Episode 114:Talk Soup
Episode 114:Talk Soup
You know you’re getting older when soup is exciting… Alli and Melisa talk about sobriety and how alcohol impacts other parts of your life.
35:48
August 25, 2021
Episode 113: Blending Families
Episode 113: Blending Families
Alli and her partner Maria talk about how they’ve blended their families.. and the difficult parts of navigating life with four kids.
48:48
August 15, 2021
Episode 112: The Best and Worst Part of Coming Out
Episode 112: The Best and Worst Part of Coming Out
This week we share what we’ve found to be the best and worst parts of coming out. And we hear from a few listeners about their own experiences.
40:43
August 08, 2021
Episode 111: Late to Lesbian
Episode 111: Late to Lesbian
We FINALLY chat with the woman behind the Late to Lesbian Instagram account!
59:21
August 01, 2021
Episode 110: Beep Beep! Who Got The Keys to The Jeep?
Episode 110: Beep Beep! Who Got The Keys to The Jeep?
This week, a chat about internalized homophobia and how it holds us back in life.
36:18
July 26, 2021
Episode 109: Dating Someone Who’s Married
Episode 109: Dating Someone Who’s Married
This week we tackle what it’s like to date someone who is married and not sure how to proceed.
24:36
July 18, 2021
Episode 108: The Ever Evolving Sherri
Episode 108: The Ever Evolving Sherri
Sherri’s back! This time we talk about how we are always changing and evolving as humans and learning who we truly are!
37:60
July 11, 2021
Episode 107: QWN of Atlanta
Episode 107: QWN of Atlanta
This week we sit down with Laura, the creator of Queer Women’s Network of Atlanta. She shares how she got the group started and The LO., an app she’s working on to help queer women build community.
34:14
July 06, 2021
Episode 106: It's Ok to Stay
Episode 106: It's Ok to Stay
This week we give space to those who stay in their marriage -- because it's ok to stay if that's where your life is at right now. 
44:55
June 28, 2021
Episode 105: Get Out The Map… So I Can Find That GSpot
Episode 105: Get Out The Map… So I Can Find That GSpot
We gotta give it to you like you’ve asked… more sex centric episodes!! We talk straight sex and how it sometimes misses the mark. Along with a lively conversation about undies!!
41:28
June 20, 2021
Episode 104: Pride Month History Lesson
Episode 104: Pride Month History Lesson
It’s Pride Month and as newly out members of the LGBTQ community, want to educate ourselves and our listeners. Historian Cassandre helps us do that!
46:04
June 14, 2021
Episode 103: If You Build It They Will Come
Episode 103: If You Build It They Will Come
This week we talk about how a group of our listeners are coming together to build community through the Bloomers Society.
30:57
June 08, 2021
Episode 102: Check Your Vibe
Episode 102: Check Your Vibe
This week we discuss how to keep your friendships from crossing over into relationship territory.
31:20
May 30, 2021
Episode 101: “Live” from Piedmont Park
Episode 101: “Live” from Piedmont Park
We celebrated Episode 101 with a meetup in Piedmont Park! We had a blast meeting everyone and hearing some amazing stories! Feeling the love for sure!
52:46
May 23, 2021
Episode 100: Sherri’s Story Part 3
Episode 100: Sherri’s Story Part 3
We wrap up the wild ride that is Sherri’s life!
42:59
May 16, 2021
Episode 99: Sherri’s Story Part Two
Episode 99: Sherri’s Story Part Two
We can’t get enough of Sherri’s story... this week she talks about gender identity and the start of a very intense relationship.
35:16
May 10, 2021
Episode 98: Sherri’s Story: Two Marriages and A Cult
Episode 98: Sherri’s Story: Two Marriages and A Cult
Buckle up! Because Sherri’s coming out journey is a wild one! This is Part One of Three so get ready!
41:47
May 04, 2021
Episode 97: What If You’re Wrong
Episode 97: What If You’re Wrong
What if you’re wrong about your sexuality? But... what if you’re right?
27:50
April 25, 2021
Episode 96: Meg the Catalyst
Episode 96: Meg the Catalyst
Ok, so the title makes it sound sinister but Meg is the absolute sweetest. She shares what it is like to be the “catalyst.”
29:10
April 18, 2021
Episode 95: That Catholic Guilt Tho
Episode 95: That Catholic Guilt Tho
Alli shares how her Catholic upbringing impacted her life and coming out.
37:31
April 13, 2021
Episode 94: The Hard Lessons Make Us Who We Are Today
Episode 94: The Hard Lessons Make Us Who We Are Today
We discuss the hard lessons we’ve learned. And why we wouldn’t change our past.
30:32
April 04, 2021
Episode 93: Whitney’s Coming Out Story
Episode 93: Whitney’s Coming Out Story
Whitney identified as bisexual at an early age... heterosexual norms drove her to two marriages to men. Now she identifies as a lesbian, is co-parenting with her ex and thriving in her new career.
54:44
March 30, 2021
Episode 92: Lower Your Expectations, Not Your Standards
Episode 92: Lower Your Expectations, Not Your Standards
This week we talk dating and how to not get too excited about your dating prospects before you meet in person.
29:20
March 21, 2021
Episode 91: Dr. Jaime on Attachment Styles
Episode 91: Dr. Jaime on Attachment Styles
Dr. Jaime talks attachment styles and how your past relationships play a role.
35:55
March 14, 2021
Episode 90: Dr. Jaime on Your Inner Child
Episode 90: Dr. Jaime on Your Inner Child
Dr. Jaime Blandino talks about how your childhood impacts your actions and feelings in adulthood.
41:23
March 07, 2021
Episode 89: Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
Episode 89: Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable
Coming out means uncomfortable conversations. Learn how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s temporary.
46:21
February 28, 2021
Episode 88: Bisexuality Defined
Episode 88: Bisexuality Defined
Admittedly, we are experts on nothing, so this week we bring on a guest who is bisexual... she shares what that means for her and how the bisexual label is often misunderstood.
24:54
February 21, 2021
Episode 87: But I’m Bisexual
Episode 87: But I’m Bisexual
This week we discuss what to do if you’re discovering your sexuality later in life but you’re bisexual
26:28
February 14, 2021
Episode 86: Getting to Knoooow You
Episode 86: Getting to Knoooow You
You may have noticed an additional voice on the podcast in recent months. It’s Alyssa, our very own audio producer and “gold star lesbian.” This week, we get to know her a little better.
32:47
February 07, 2021
Episode 85: When Your Husband Sucks
Episode 85: When Your Husband Sucks
This week, we chat with Rosie.. an Australian listener who’s coming out and divorce was anything but easy.
26:01
January 31, 2021
Episode 84: The Power Shift
Episode 84: The Power Shift
This week, Melisa, Alli and Alyssa talk about how the power dynamic can change in your catalyst relationship as you begin to feel more comfortable with your sexuality and branch out on your own.
45:47
January 24, 2021
Episode Re-Boot: Dr. Jaime on Cheating and Love Bombing
Episode Re-Boot: Dr. Jaime on Cheating and Love Bombing
Here’s an episode from November 2019 that we love... Dr. Jaime Blandino gives insight on cheating and love bombing. And also, why being with a woman for the first time can be so exhilarating!
40:59
January 18, 2021
Episode 83: Stephanie Gray: The Love Coach
Episode 83: Stephanie Gray: The Love Coach
This week we welcome Stephanie Gray, The Love Coach. Stephanie is a former international professional basketball player turned author, speaker and love coach. She shares how her life experiences have brought her where she is today... and how she helps others navigate relationships. Check out her book, The 10 Universal Rules of Love Plus One. https://www.stephanielgray.com/home
50:45
January 10, 2021
Episode 82: Christmas isn’t Christmas
Episode 82: Christmas isn’t Christmas
Alli and Melisa talk about how they spent their Christmas... and what a bummer it was.
39:16
January 03, 2021
Episode 81: Dr. Rachel: Culture of Consent
Episode 81: Dr. Rachel: Culture of Consent
This week we chat with Dr. Rachel Anne Kieran, Psy.D. on consent, polyamory and relationships.
46:45
December 27, 2020
Episode 80: Molly Wizenberg and The Fixed Stars
Episode 80: Molly Wizenberg and The Fixed Stars
Author Molly Wizenberg joins the show and shares how her own life experiences shaped her book, “The Fixed Stars.”
50:60
December 20, 2020
Episode 79: Mom Guilt
Episode 79: Mom Guilt
There is so much mom guilt surrounding divorcing and coming out. This week we talk about how we’ve coped with that aspect of our lives.
01:04:51
December 13, 2020
Episode 78: This One’s For The Hubs
Episode 78: This One’s For The Hubs
This week we talk with Mark who is in the midst of coping with his wife coming out and discuss how they’re moving forward in this process.
30:38
December 06, 2020
Episode 77: Let’s Go to The Movies (and not have sex with your brother)
Episode 77: Let’s Go to The Movies (and not have sex with your brother)
This week we chat about our Thanksgiving holidays and movies we’ve seen recently (including “Happiest Season”). And apparently sex with your husband can start to feel like sex with your brother 🤔
53:57
November 29, 2020
Episode 76: Dr Jaime: Finding Your True North
Episode 76: Dr Jaime: Finding Your True North
We are joined by Dr. Jaime Blandino to talk about gaslighting, finding your true north and how to handle the holidays with family.
01:06:37
November 22, 2020
Episode 75: Flip It and Reverse It
Episode 75: Flip It and Reverse It
Alli, Melisa and Alyssa chat with Lisa, who’s longtime partner passed away... but she’s now found new love with a man. We explore how preferences shift... and how love can be about the person, not their gender. Lisa does amazing work for racial justice and healing through The Radical Optimist Collective!
50:48
November 15, 2020
Episode 74: Show Me Your Oh Face
Episode 74: Show Me Your Oh Face
This week we talk about sex. Do we really have to say anything more?
45:51
November 08, 2020
Episode 73: Gay But Still Married
Episode 73: Gay But Still Married
This week we talk with Jocelyn... a listener who recently discovered her sexuality but is staying married to her husband.
38:24
November 02, 2020
Episode 72: Your Intentions of Coming Out
Episode 72: Your Intentions of Coming Out
This week we talk about what expectations we initially had in coming out to our husbands.
44:29
October 25, 2020
Episode 71: The Big D (And not the good one...)
Episode 71: The Big D (And not the good one...)
Melisa and Alli talk with Catrina, a divorce attorney in Michigan. She shares her insight on the divorce process, child custody and alimony. And fun fact: You can't lose your kids because of your sexuality. 
44:44
October 18, 2020
Episode 70: I’m Coming Out! I Want the World to Know!
Episode 70: I’m Coming Out! I Want the World to Know!
We’re a bit all over the place this week.. but we talk about National Coming Out Day and get to know Alyssa better!
52:29
October 11, 2020
Episode 69: Dating Tips: "She Hasn't Even Sent Me a Full Body Shot Yet..."
Episode 69: Dating Tips: "She Hasn't Even Sent Me a Full Body Shot Yet..."
Melisa and Alli dive deep into the world of dating apps and how people can improve their profiles. Also, how do you human during a first date? We share tips on how to improve your communication skills... especially after being out of the game for so damn long! (ANNND.. the freakin' boy band we couldn't recall during recording, ONE DIRECTION!) 
46:13
October 04, 2020
Episode 68: My So-Called Past Life
Episode 68: My So-Called Past Life
This week we discuss how we refer to our "past life" and how it doesn't feel right to say we were "in the closet." Also, we talk about the clitoris because that's always fun. 
42:28
September 27, 2020
Episode 67: Financial Repercussions of Divorce
Episode 67: Financial Repercussions of Divorce
Melisa and Alli talk the cost of divorce.. and how it’s a “luxury” some can’t afford to do. (And how that’s total bs)
46:36
September 21, 2020
Episode 66: Sow Those Wild Oats
Episode 66: Sow Those Wild Oats
Melisa and Alli talk about sowing your wild oats as a newly out person -- and how that looks later in life. 
43:55
September 14, 2020
Episode 65: Crocs, Chacos and Cargo Shorts
Episode 65: Crocs, Chacos and Cargo Shorts
Alli and Melisa discuss how the type of women they're attracted to (and their own style) has evolved... Also, how people put out "lifeboats" in relationships. 
34:07
September 06, 2020
Episode 64: Mind the Age Gap
Episode 64: Mind the Age Gap
Alli and Melisa talk about what it's like when your significant other has children. And dating when there's an age gap. 
39:02
August 30, 2020
Episode 63: Are You Happier?
Episode 63: Are You Happier?
Alli and Melisa have turned their lives upside down to live their truth... Now they answer one of the top questions they hear from people --- are you happier? 
31:54
August 23, 2020
Episode 62: The Hot Seat
Episode 62: The Hot Seat
Today’s episode is just for fun... Alli and Melisa are joined by some friends to answer questions in “The Hot Seat!”
46:07
August 16, 2020
Episode 61: This Ain’t No Fairy Tale
Episode 61: This Ain’t No Fairy Tale
Melisa and Alli talk about the hardships of dating and trying to meet “the one.”
42:60
August 09, 2020
Episode 60: Dr. Jaime Talks Mental Health
Episode 60: Dr. Jaime Talks Mental Health
Dr. Jaime Blandino talks mental health
48:35
August 02, 2020
Episode 59: Hey PEOPLE!
Episode 59: Hey PEOPLE!
Alli and Melisa respond to a listener email and address ways to improve ourselves 😁
54:11
July 26, 2020
Episode 58: Rewriting Your Future
Episode 58: Rewriting Your Future
Melisa and Alli talk about how to start over and move forward with your new life after leaving your marriage.
37:12
July 19, 2020
Episode 57: Midlife Awakening
Episode 57: Midlife Awakening
Melisa and Alli read listener emails/questions... and talk about how lucky we are to have this “midlife awakening.” Wake me up!!
41:20
July 12, 2020
Bonus Pride Episode: LGBTQ+ Roundtable
Bonus Pride Episode: LGBTQ+ Roundtable
The Lesbian Chronicles was recently asked to join a roundtable discussion with a few other LGBTQ+ podcasters. We chatted with MinoriTea Report, Tranna Wintour, She's Not Doing So Well and MIZ, The Podcast (who organized the whole thing!) Really cool group of people and a great discussion.
01:18:07
June 30, 2020
Episode 56: The Long Haul U-Haul
Episode 56: The Long Haul U-Haul
Alli and Melisa chat with our friend Kelly who has been with her partner for almost 11 years! Awww
42:37
June 28, 2020
Episode 55: Dating Over 50
Episode 55: Dating Over 50
Dating over 50
40:12
June 21, 2020
Episode 54: Lesbian Bed Death
Episode 54: Lesbian Bed Death
Melisa and Alli chat about the impending doom of lesbian bed death
49:12
June 14, 2020
Episode 53: The Secret Episode
Episode 53: The Secret Episode
This is one we’ve held off on publishing. But to celebrate our 1st anniversary... here ya go! Alli and Melisa talk about when they were separated and attempting to navigate new relationships.
30:25
June 07, 2020
Episode 52: Fear: Coming Out is Like Having a Snake Thrown at You
Episode 52: Fear: Coming Out is Like Having a Snake Thrown at You
Melisa and Alli talk about the fears surrounding coming out later.
30:42
May 31, 2020
Episode 51: What Am I?
Episode 51: What Am I?
Alli and Melisa talk about labels. Am I gay, bisexual, lesbian, queer? Or is a label even necessary?
34:19
May 24, 2020
Episode 50: Blending Families
Episode 50: Blending Families
Alli and Melisa talk about blending families in new relationships. Also, what it’s like to date after 50.
49:55
May 17, 2020
Episode 49: Alli’s Girlfriend in the Hotseat
Episode 49: Alli’s Girlfriend in the Hotseat
Alli’s girlfriend shares what it’s like to be in a relationship with a late in life lesbian.
28:09
May 10, 2020
Episode 48: Secret Love
Episode 48: Secret Love
Alli and Melisa discuss the new Netflix documentary “Secret Love.” We also talk about keeping the spark going in quarantine.
35:48
May 03, 2020
Episode 47: What’s Your Fantasy?
Episode 47: What’s Your Fantasy?
Alli and Melisa share listener stories and fantasies! 😏😅🤤🔥🔥🔥
45:40
April 26, 2020
Episode 46: Catalysts: For Better and Worse
Episode 46: Catalysts: For Better and Worse
Alli and Melisa talk about why relationships with catalysts turn volatile. We also share how people are finding ways to build community despite the Rona.
36:31
April 19, 2020
Episode 45: Being the Catalyst
Episode 45: Being the Catalyst
Alli and Melisa talk about our first listener Zoom call. And what it’s like to be the catalyst.. having to play the waiting game through someone else’s process.
37:41
April 12, 2020
Episode 44: The Catalyst
Episode 44: The Catalyst
Alli and Melisa talk about life during the apocalypse. And we get to that gritty topic of our catalysts!
44:37
April 05, 2020
Episode 43: The Corony Crazy
Episode 43: The Corony Crazy
Alli and Melisa talk about how to deal with being quarantined and still married. Bc it doesn’t sound fun.
43:09
March 29, 2020
Episode 42: Dr Jaime Answers Listener Questions
Episode 42: Dr Jaime Answers Listener Questions
Part two of questions from Dr Jaime
29:20
March 22, 2020
Episode 41: Dr. Jaime Takes Listener Questions
Episode 41: Dr. Jaime Takes Listener Questions
Dr Jaime answers the question... but what if I change my mind about my sexuality?
30:08
March 15, 2020
Episode 40: You Have One Job!
Episode 40: You Have One Job!
Alli and Melisa talk about what we’ve learned about ourselves since coming out. We also touch on how similar the dynamic between Alli and her partner is to Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach. And we talk about a Texas teacher placed on administrative leave for “pushing the homosexual agenda.”
21:53
March 08, 2020
Episode 39: Facebook Live
Episode 39: Facebook Live
Alli and Melisa take questions on Facebook live
48:52
March 01, 2020
Episode 38: Why Can’t I Google My Future?
Episode 38: Why Can’t I Google My Future?
How great would it be if you could google your future and know exactly what life will look like?? Alli and Melisa talk about how fear of the unknown occupies our brains and holds us back. They also discuss how hard it was to admit to their husbands they’re gay.. knowing the confession would end their marriages.
32:06
February 23, 2020
Episode 37: Relationship Attachment Styles
Episode 37: Relationship Attachment Styles
Alli and Melisa give an update on their lives... including the recent lice infestation at Alli’s house. And we talk about different attachment styles in relationships.
40:34
February 16, 2020
Episode 36: Evolution of Relationships
Episode 36: Evolution of Relationships
Alli and Melisa talk about how relationships develop... the bullet train or the slow burn.
38:56
February 09, 2020
Episode 35: The Kids Are Alright
Episode 35: The Kids Are Alright
Alli and Melisa talk to Alli’s son, Owen, about what it was like when his mom came out... and how he actually beat her to the punch and came out before Alli! (You’ll also hear Melisa curse in front of a child, so.. win win!)
30:36
February 02, 2020
Episode 34: I’m Gay! Sex Me Up!
Episode 34: I’m Gay! Sex Me Up!
Melisa and Alli talk about how much sex has changed since coming out. How we went from avoiding sex to loving it!
43:32
January 26, 2020
Episode 33: Where My Girls At?
Episode 33: Where My Girls At?
Dating... but how do you meet people??
38:57
January 19, 2020
Episode 32: Make Me Another Damn Sandwich!
Episode 32: Make Me Another Damn Sandwich!
Remember Marie from Episode 3? Well, she’s back! This time with her real name and sharing her coming out story!
34:18
January 12, 2020
Episode 31: Hetero Sex When You’re Gay AF
Episode 31: Hetero Sex When You’re Gay AF
Alli and Melisa address what it was like to attempt to be intimate with our ex husbands after realizing we were gay. We also answer some listener questions and Alli educates Melisa on the Catholic Church and feeling the obligation to be intimate with your husband.
35:12
January 05, 2020
Episode 30: Christmas Shit Show
Episode 30: Christmas Shit Show
Alli shares what it was like to have her parents, ex-husband, in-laws AND her girlfriend all over for Christmas. And Melisa discusses actively not dating.
33:15
December 29, 2019
Episode 29: Coming Out at 27
Episode 29: Coming Out at 27
Our friend Miranda shares what it was like coming out in her late 20s and how she came to the realization she was queer. She’s also like a walking Urban Dictionary so we get the lowdown on some queer terminology.
44:49
December 22, 2019
Episode 28: Where Do Broken Hearts Go?
Episode 28: Where Do Broken Hearts Go?
This week we channel our inner Whitney and talk about recovering from a breakup, the steps you can take to move on, and how to go about dating again and putting yourself out there. (“This seems I’m setting myself up to get my ass kicked.”) We also answer a listener question about coming out at work.
36:25
December 15, 2019
Episode 27: Modern Family Christmas
Episode 27: Modern Family Christmas
How will we be celebrating the holidays this year?? Very much like we did pre-divorce!
33:32
December 08, 2019
Episode 26: Elsa is So Gay! Hooray!
Episode 26: Elsa is So Gay! Hooray!
Melisa is convinced Elsa is so gay in Frozen 2. Alli talks about an encounter from her “past life.” We also chat about how lesbians have better sex which contradicts lesbian bed death rumors. And we get into what our lives look like lately and they heavy stuff that still weighs on us.
35:39
December 01, 2019
Episode 25: Rev. Susannah Davis on Gayness and God
Episode 25: Rev. Susannah Davis on Gayness and God
Rev. Susannah Davis of Kirkwood United Church of Christ joins Alli and Melisa to talk about reconciling faith with sexuality.
33:06
November 24, 2019
Episode 24: Red Flag! Red Flag!
Episode 24: Red Flag! Red Flag!
Alli and Melisa cover the warning signs that you’re in a not-so-great relationship. (Also, the audio in this episode sucks, but please bare with us. We’re amateurs but working to improve.)
32:37
November 18, 2019
Episode 23: Dykes on Bikes Atlanta/Polyamory
Episode 23: Dykes on Bikes Atlanta/Polyamory
Alli and Melisa talk with the President of Dykes on Bikes Atlanta about their organization and her experience as a polyamorous lesbian.
46:05
November 10, 2019
Episode 22: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Cheating Guilt and Love Bombing
Episode 22: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Cheating Guilt and Love Bombing
Does someone have cancer? Is someone being deported? Why the love bombing?? Another great talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino on why some people express love so quickly and how to handle the aftermath of cheating.
40:25
November 03, 2019
Episode 21: Coping with Lifestyle Change and Hypersexuality
Episode 21: Coping with Lifestyle Change and Hypersexuality
Melisa and Alli discuss how life looks different following divorce and coming out. We also talk about hypersexuality and how we both feel like 15 year old boys in the height of puberty. Soo fun times.
29:44
October 27, 2019
Episode 20: Atlanta Pride 2019
Episode 20: Atlanta Pride 2019
Alli and Melisa chat about attending Pride in Atlanta and share ideas on building a community.
34:01
October 20, 2019
Episode 19: Making It Work With Your Ex
Episode 19: Making It Work With Your Ex
Strategies that Melisa and Allison have incorporated for making things awesome their exes. Traveling as a Modern Family and finding friendship with your Ex husband. Also, being positive about your exes new relationship.
32:41
October 14, 2019
Episode 18: Life After Separation
Episode 18: Life After Separation
This week we talk about what our lives were like after separating from our husbands and dealing with the looming divorce. No FMK — instead we talk about the movie “Imagine Me and You” and some movies that stirred early “feelings” in our childhood. Fun fact: Alli wanted to be Ralph Macchio in “Karate Kid.” #halloweencostumeidea (But also, more recently Melisa was ready to hop in bed with a female robot from “Westworld.”)
29:30
October 06, 2019
Episode 17: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Guilt
Episode 17: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Guilt
Alli and Melisa talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino about the guilt of leaving your heterosexual marriage. The price of admission is high. But the price of exclusion from your most authentic life is higher.
28:44
September 29, 2019
Episode 16: Friendship Boundaries, Shower Sex and Centaurs
Episode 16: Friendship Boundaries, Shower Sex and Centaurs
We talk about setting boundaries in friendships and how to avoid crossing the line. And we finally watched “Below Her Mouth” and we have a lot of questions... specifically about shower sex and centaurs 🤣
32:40
September 22, 2019
Episode 15: The Aftermath
Episode 15: The Aftermath
Alli and Melisa discuss the aftermath of coming out
34:54
September 15, 2019
Episode 14: Manifesting the Life You Want
Episode 14: Manifesting the Life You Want
Today we talk about envisioning how you want your life to look in an effort to make it a reality. We also hit on hushing the noise and paying close attention to what you want versus what others think is right for you. FMK- “Girls” (Sorry, Hannah Horvath)
28:46
September 08, 2019
Episode 13: All the Guilt
Episode 13: All the Guilt
Alli and Melisa talk about how guilt weighs you down when coming out and divorcing... and how you’re not responsible for other people’s happiness. Our FMK today— Transparent! (Such a good show!)
38:22
September 01, 2019
Episode 12: Bag of Dicks
Episode 12: Bag of Dicks
Alli and Melisa talk the dirty details of lesbian sex.
27:24
August 25, 2019
Episode 11: Listener Questions
Episode 11: Listener Questions
This week we cover a few questions we’ve gotten from our lovely listeners. Then we go off the rails a little and end up talking Roombas, recycling and the pH levels of water.
38:55
August 18, 2019
Episode 10: A Chat with Dr. Jaime Blandino
Episode 10: A Chat with Dr. Jaime Blandino
Melisa and Alli sit down with Dr. Jaime Blandino to discuss the shame that surrounds coming out.
35:34
August 11, 2019
Episode 9: Living in Your Marriage
Episode 9: Living in Your Marriage
Alli and Melisa talk about staying married even when you know you’re gay or “not straight.” We also talk about Julianna Hough coming out as “not straight.” And today’s FM and *not* kill... the US Women’s Soccer Team.
37:36
August 08, 2019
Special Segment: Alli talks to her teen daughter
Special Segment: Alli talks to her teen daughter
Short interview with Alli’s teenage daughter regarding divorce and having a gay mother.
13:59
August 06, 2019
Episode 8: The Master Doc
Episode 8: The Master Doc
Melisa and Alli talk about a popular document viewed by women questioning their sexuality. And for FMK... we swoon over the lovely Jennifer Anniston!
47:42
July 29, 2019
Episode 7: It’s Not About Sex
Episode 7: It’s Not About Sex
Alli and Melisa discuss the aspects to relationships with women ... and no, it’s about sex.
30:40
July 22, 2019
Episode 6: The Dating Game
Episode 6: The Dating Game
Alli and Melisa talk about the levels of difficulty to coming out at different stages in life. And the dating game! Where are the single ladies? Do you buy flowers for women?
28:19
July 14, 2019
Episode 5: Grieving your Marriage
Episode 5: Grieving your Marriage
Alli and Melisa discuss the process of grieving your marriage and allowing yourself and your husband the time to do so. We also finally started to watch The Handmaids Tale!
26:58
July 07, 2019
Episode 4: The Hard Conversation
Episode 4: The Hard Conversation
Alli and Melisa talk about the difficulties of telling your significant other you are gay.
27:50
June 28, 2019
Episode 3: Make Me a Damn Sandwich
Episode 3: Make Me a Damn Sandwich
Alli and Melisa here at Nashville Pride! We are joined by our friend Marie and we talk a lot about sex... and sandwiches.
29:47
June 23, 2019
Episode 2: How did you know?
Episode 2: How did you know?
Alli and Melisa go into more details on when/how they knew they are gay. We also answer a listener question on keeping the peace between your ex and new girlfriend. And we bring Nicole Kidman back from the dead!
28:07
June 17, 2019
Episode 1: From the Closet but not in the Closet
Episode 1: From the Closet but not in the Closet
Alli and Melisa’s first Lesbian Chronicles episode.... recorded from Alli’s closet! Literally! We cover our stories about coming out later in life and how we are now safely on the other side. This is for anyone coming out be it as gay, lesbian, or transgender. Especially for those who are leaving heterosexual marriages/relationships.
35:39
June 11, 2019