Less Than Ideal 20s
By Alexis Kamalani and Katelynn Cassidee Rae
Less Than Ideal 20sDec 16, 2020
020. Living Multiple Lives in 2020, Systems over Goals, Cookies for Santa
What a year, huh? Katelynn and Alexis discuss and reflect on the year 2020, their mental health transformations, change in opinions and thoughts, rediscovering themselves, thoughts on new year's resolutions and goals, as well as thoughts and storytimes on the holidays. Thank you for being a part of this journey, figuring sh** out along the way. See you all next season on January 20th, 2021.
019. Sorry Mom, Hungover Birthday Girl, Punched in the Club Bathroom
Nothing like getting hungover on your birthday... right? Katelynn and Alexis discuss their drinking misadventures including first drinking experiences, drinking while studying abroad, Katelynn's wild 21st birthday, change in drinking habits and thoughts on drinking as a whole.
018. Long Distance Relationships, FaceTime with a Stranger, Anticlimactic Reunion
Are long distance relationships worth it? Katelynn and Alexis discuss their experiences and thoughts in long distance relationships in both friendships and dating relationships as well as realities and tips on how to thrive in a long distance relationship.
017. Acne as a Barrier, Makeup as a Mask, Perfection Obsession
Why are we so obsessed with being "flawless?" Katelynn and Alexis discuss their acne journeys, relationship with makeup growing up, insecurities, society's obsession with the idea of perfection, beauty standards and appearance in the media, as well as how to become comfortable in your own skin and using makeup with positive intention.
016. F*** The "Four Year" Degree, Discouraged College Students, Dying to Live
What's the rush or need for college anyways? Katelynn and Alexis discuss their thoughts on college as a structure in our society, the education system, pros and cons of going to college, their reasoning behind attending college, the college experience, as well as question the expectations and pressures put on kids straight out of high school.
015. A Beautiful Coming of Age Story, Too Good to Be True, Burning Memories
Breakups are the best thing that ever happened to us. Katelynn and Alexis discuss their breakup and healing process from long-term relationships, including their mental and physical well-being, getting outside of their comfort zone, learning to be present, long-term effects of trauma, moving on, stages of grief as well as advice on how to get through what can be a very tough time.
014.5 An Insider Look at The Influencer Industry w/ Sincerely Sarah C.
What better way to learn more about the influencer industry than to ask an influencer? Sarah, aka Sincerely, Sarah C., a beauty and lifestyle YouTuber, joins Katelynn and Alexis in discussing Sarah's unexpected journey to becoming an influencer, finding motivation when working in the creative space, the stigma around the word "influencer," redefining what it means to be an influencer, importance of breaks for mental health and well-being, an insider look at the influencer industry including realities of working from home and work/life balance, challenges of being an influencer including maintaining accountability and negative comments, positive outcomes of being a creator including community and friendships, tips for people wanting to become a content creator, the challenge of sharing the role as an internet person to friends and family as well as get to know more about Sarah!
Sarah's YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/SarahC
Sarah's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sincerelysarahc/
014. The Word “Influencer” SUCKS, Sell-Outs, What's Behind The Cameras?
Why does the word "influencer" make me cringe? Katelynn and Alexis discuss the meaning of being an influencer, the disconnect between consumers and influencers, the ethics behind influence, the power and privilege in the influencer industry, flex culture, what really goes on behind the scenes as an influencer and share their take on the "boss babe" phenomenon.
013. Years of People Pleasing, Never Good Enough, Lost Childhood Experiences
Not caring about what other people think is easier said than done… Katelynn and Alexis discuss their personal journeys with confidence from childhood to adulthood, years of people pleasing, how insecurities can turn into a barrier in life as well as how to become your most authentic self through reflecting, inner child healing, shadow work and honoring your own needs first.
012. Ghosting My Boyfriend, Vibe Check, Bad Boy
Oh to be a 15 year old in high school.... Katelynn and Alexis discuss dating post-breakup, first date storytimes, "things," unrequited love, "guy best friends," how they got into their current serious relationships and advice for taking on the modern dating world.
011.5 Entrepreneurship w/ Valeria Sanchez
Small business owner of Valessence LLC, Valeria Sanchez, joins Katelynn and Alexis on a conversation about entrepreneurship, including long-term visualization, importance of education on self-development and business, mindset shifts, support systems, life as a small business owner, challenges and realities of being your own boss, losing "friends," and practical tips on how to start your own business.
Valeria's Website: https://valessence.shop/
Valeria's Business Instagram and TikTok: @valessence.shop
Valeria's Personal Instagram: @valeriaemilyy
011. Finding Freedom, MLM Scam, "Work/Life" Balance
We are TIRED of answering to everyone else! Katelynn and Alexis discuss why they want to be their own boss including creating their ideal lifestyles, mlm scam storytime and challenges and realities of being your own boss including the tough beginning stages, "the grind," and the personal mental health effects of pursuing entrepreneurship.
010.5 Food and Diet Culture w/ Meghan Rillamas
One size does NOT fit all. Food and body image coach Meghan Rillamas joins Katelynn and Alexis on a conversation about the effects of diet culture on our perceptions of ourselves and food, practical ways to heal our relationships with food on a physical, emotional, mental and spiritual level and showing compassion for ourselves as we learn and grow.
Meghan's Website: https://www.bodies-empowered.com/
Meghan's Instagram and TikTok: @bodies_empowered
Support and Resources: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline
010. Hot Cheetos, The Pyramid, Food Morality
Sometimes food is not about food at all? Katelynn and Alexis discuss their relationships with food including how it plays a role in their daily lives through feelings of guilt, anger, fear and personal traumas, diet culture, morality attached to food, as well as how to develop a healthy relationship with food the best they can at the moment. Support and Resources: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline
009. Guilty Child, Suppressed Emotions, Being Human
Katelynn and Alexis discuss anxiety including how it plays a role in their daily lives through breakdowns and panic attacks, their triggers such as guilt, feeling invalidated, and past traumas, as well as practical tips and advice from how they manage their anxiety the best way they can at the moment. Mental Health Support and Resources: www.nimh.nih.gov
008. Retail Sucks, Existential Crisis, Kissing Peoples’ A**
Is there anyway we can opt-out of the “real world?” Katelynn and Alexis discuss the job hunt including storytimes about the worst jobs ever, thoughts on the application process from resumes to interviews, post-college existential crisis, living paycheck to paycheck, entrepreneurship and how to purpose and fulfillment in a job.
007. F*** Numbers, Eating Almonds, Cookie Pouches
Learning to love our bodies is always a work in progress. Katelynn and Alexis discuss body image including their insecurities, hip dips and tummies, numbers, habits, relationships with food, asian culture and how to build a positive, healthy perspective on our beautifully unique bodies. Body Image Support and Resources: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline
006. F*** The 5 Year Plan, Marriage and Babies, Challenging Our Boundaries
Are we supposed to have everything figured out after our 20s? Katelynn and Alexis discuss “the social timeline,” aka the steps that are "supposed" to be followed after your 20s, including 5 year plans, marriage, babies, work status, COVID-19 and how we challenge the status quo by living by our own personal standards.
005. Unfollow Spree, 1000 followers, 6 friends, Nana Has Facebook
004. Sh***y Friend Phase, Internalized Micro-Misogyny, Elementary School Drama
Can you tell us how exactly to make friends in our 20s? Katelynn and Alexis discuss what community means, funny and traumatizing storytimes about friendships and communities they have been a part of in the past, loneliness, difficulties making meaningful, deep connections with people, internalized micro-misogyny, what it means to be a true friend and how to build a genuine community.
003. Missing Out on Life, Growing a Garden, Calculating My Career
Can we escape "the grind" work ethic? Katelynn and Alexis discuss what "the grind" means, how this way of living affects their daily life including burnout, fear of being left behind, misunderstanding by the people closest to you and figuring out if it is even possible to escape "the grind" through healthy practices such as reflecting and prioritizing your mental health.
002. Worst Birthday Ever, Being THE IG Couple, Crying in My College Dorm
What's more romantic than your "first love?" Right...? Katelynn and Alexis spill the tea on their past relationships including toxic habits, emotional storytimes, personal growth and healing through very similar, but different experiences.
001. F*** Expectations, Unemployed Living in My Parent's Basement, College?
Introducing Less Than Ideal 20s
Introducing Less Than Ideal 20s presented by Alexis Kamalani and Katelynn Cassidee Rae. A podcast for 20 somethings figuring out what they are doing with their lives, one less than ideal situation at a time.