Let's behave
By Marcin Konkel & Jarek Nuszczyński
We tackle lying, social engineering, non-verbal cues through neurobiology, the subconscious mind, linguistics and more. We work as consultants thus many of the stories we tell really happened yet their details were changed.
Let's behaveMay 05, 2022
#7 Behavioural hacks in public speaking
This edition of behavioural hacks is focused on public speaking. Listen for tips on how to prepare, what to focus on during your presentation or workshop as well as things to consider afterwards. We answer questions: - What is the one question worth answering in terms of making progress on the stage? - What is the relaxation technique drawn from the military that can help you soothe? - How to prepare, how to manage stress before and on the stage?
📖 Further reading:
👉🏼 What is TRE
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#6 Leadership mistakes
In this episode we tackle some of the leadership mistakes that we encountered when working with companies. It's just a tip of the iceberg as the topic seems to be endless. That said, we touch on:
- access to information
- insecurities & self-esteem
- self-awareness
- learning from others
and more.
📖 Further reading:
* The more experience you have the more lonely you are as a leader (Marcin's Substack)
* Emotional contagion research regarding receiving the emotions you are giving (research paper by Frontiers in Psychology)
* Why efficienct leaders fail? (HBR)
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#5 Behavioural hacks
In this episode we share some real-life tips you can use on daily basis that will improve the way you communicate, notice group dynamics and work with difficult emotions.
These are just some of a multitude of 'hacks' that we want to share with you on a regular basis.
We give some insight on:
- How to deal with anger and agression?
- Why it's good to know a DJ?
- Why should you focus on people's feet?
- What does anxiety signify and how to use this feedback loop?
📖 Episode notes:
* Dr. Nicole LePera in Twitter
* Mirroring behaviour described
* More from Marcin on sitting with discomfort
* "Putting feelings into words"- why it's worth naming what you feel
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#4 Musings on building self-confidence through body and mind
It's been a while.. We're back! Wrapping up the topic of self-confidence we share our unscripted musings on how to build it in two dimentions - your body and mind. We discuss discipline, outregulating others, self-talk and much more. We share scientific background behind some findings and further reading so you can dig deep.
📖 Episode notes:
* Clinton and Arafat door scene (instead of the mentioned Bush and Kadhafi which was incorrect)
* The effects of self-talk paper
* Who is: Janusz Gajos , Gustaw Holubek
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#3 How does self-confidence look like?
In this episode, we share some of the traits of self-confident people from non-verbal and verbal perspectives. You will learn what to look for and how others perceive you. We digress a lot around the subject, so expect the unexpected coupled with to the point examples. Do not forget to check out the additional materials below to clench your thirst for knowledge.
📖 Episode notes:
- Joe Navarro on pacifying behaviours and more
- Power posing topic shaping through the years
- Amy Cuddy’s original working paper
- How women’s voices have changed in the last 50 years
- How to speak with confidence and sound better
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#2 Truth be told
In the second episode we are focusing on the basics of getting to the truth. We talk through baseline assessment, asking the right questions and dealing with reactions. All dressed up in multitude of examples.
📖 Further reading:
* Face asymmetry by Joe Navarro
* “How to spot a liar” - a TED talk by Pamela Meyer
* “Clusters of Nonverbal Behaviors Differ According to Type of Question and Veracity in Investigative Interviews in a Mock Crime Context” research by David Matsumoto & Hyisung C. Hwang
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#1 Why do people lie?
In our first episode we tackle one of the most asked questions - how to detect if somebody is lying. In particular we dig deeper into 'why do people lie?' and 'can we truly know if somebody is lying?'. Treat this as an intro to a subject that will frequently reappear in future episodes. Some of the content mentioned in this episode
📖 Episode notes
1. The Pinocchio Effect:
* University of Granada https://canal.ugr.es/noticia/pinocchio-effect-detecting-when-a-person-is-lying/
* Chris Voss https://www.facebook.com/ChrisVossNegotiation/videos/find-out-if-its-the-pinocchio-effect/432042954536342/
* Deepak Malhotra https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/item.aspx?num=44221
* Joe Navarro https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/spycatcher/201807/the-end-detecting-deception
2. Book menioned:
"Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception" by Pamela Meyer
3. About us:
* Jarek's band 'The Mint'
https://open.spotify.com/artist/5TOnv6rrIVYLe2zKLq5Y9u
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sxgr17t3Yf8
* Marcin's portfolio https://marcinkonkel.com
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