Life Lived Better
By Joseph Massey and Paula Garland
Life Lived BetterApr 20, 2023
Episode 101: Dimensions of Happiness
Embark on a transformative journey as we explore the essence of happiness through a groundbreaking lens. In this captivating episode, we unravel the enigmatic layers of happiness, dissecting its essence into three distinct dimensions. From the ebbs and flows of emotional well-being to the profound impact of meaningful connections, and the pursuit of personal growth and purpose, we delve deep into the intricacies of what it means to live a truly fulfilling life. Join us as we navigate through the complexities of human experience, offering invaluable insights and practical strategies to unlock happiness across all dimensions of our lives. Whether you're seeking clarity, inspiration, or simply a deeper understanding of your own happiness, this episode promises to enlighten and empower you on your quest for lasting fulfillment. Tune in and embark on the path to a brighter, more joyful tomorrow.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used to develop this episode:
Episode 100 - Finding Happiness
This is our 100th episode! Thank you for embarking on this journey of discovery with us. We have grown an amazing community and forged connections along the way, thanks to you, our amazingly dedicated listeners. You have been the heart and soul of what has fueled our passion and inspired us to keep going since our first episode in January 2022. So today, as we celebrate our 100th episode, we want to express our deepest gratitude to each and every one of you. Whether you have been with us from the very beginning or just joined recently, your presence means the world to us. Here’s to the next 100.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used for this episode:
How to Be Happy: 23 Ways to Be Happier | Psychology Today
How to Be Happy: 27 Habits to Help You Live a Happier Life (healthline.com)
How to Find Happiness | Psychology Today
Quiz Well-Being Survey - The Berkeley Well-Being Institute (berkeleywellbeing.com)
The 10 Vital Happiness Rules | Psychology Today
What Is Happiness and Why Is It Important? (+ Definition) (positivepsychology.com)
Episode 99: Sleep Hygiene
Join us in this episode as we dive into the world of sleep hygiene, uncovering the secrets to a restful night's sleep. Sleep hygiene isn't just about having a comfy pillow; it's about creating the ideal environment and habits to promote quality sleep.
In this episode, we'll explore the science behind sleep hygiene, discussing how factors like light exposure, screen time, and caffeine consumption can impact your ability to drift off into dreamland. We'll also share practical tips and strategies for improving your sleep hygiene, from establishing a consistent bedtime routine to optimizing your bedroom for optimal rest.
Featuring expert insights from sleep specialists and psychologists, we'll debunk common myths about sleep and offer evidence-based advice to help you achieve better sleep quality. Whether you're struggling with insomnia or simply want to enhance your sleep habits, this episode has something for everyone.
Tune in to learn how to transform your nights from restless to rejuvenating and wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day.
Sweet dreams await!
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used to write this episode:
Adults - Sleep and Sleep Disorders | CDC
Sleep Hygiene: Definition, Types, Techniques, Efficacy (verywellhealth.com)
The Connection Between Mental Health and Sleep Disorders (verywellhealth.com)
What is sleep hygiene? Tips and changes you can make to get better quality sleep. (msn.com)
Episode 98: Burnout - Insights and Strategies for Well-being
In this episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the complex and often overlooked topic of burnout. Drawing from their own experiences and expertise, they provide invaluable insights, practical tips, and strategies for combating burnout and fostering well-being.
Join us on this journey through the various dimensions of burnout, exploring its causes, symptoms, and consequences. Through candid discussion Joseph and Paula shed light on the importance of recognizing burnout, destigmatizing discussions around mental health, and seeking support when needed.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used to create this episode include:
Burnout: 5 Signs and What to Do About It (clevelandclinic.org)
Even Under the Best Circumstances, Burnout Is Widespread | Psychology Today
Episode 97: Etiquette
In this episode of Life Lived Better, Joseph and Paula delve into the intricacies of etiquette and its relevance in today's fast-paced world. The pair explore the art of congenial living by uncovering the timeless principles of etiquette that can enrich our interactions and relationships.
From the rules of being a gracious houseguest to the practice of navigating social norms in the digital age, they discuss the power of thoughtful gestures and the impact of etiquette on our daily lives.
Practicing etiquette can elevate your social presence and enhance your connections with others. Tune in to discover how cultivating grace and civility can lead to a more fulfilling and harmonious life.
Resources used to write this episode include:
The 11 Rudest Things You Can Do In Someone Else’s House, According To Etiquette Experts (msn.com)
The Ultimate Netiquette Guide: 11 Rules for Online Behavior | Trusted Since 1922 (rd.com)
What Is Netiquette? (With 10 Basic Rules To Follow) | Indeed.com
Episode 96: Internal Dialogue
In this thought-provoking episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the intricate world of internal dialogue, the silent conversations that shape our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Join us as we embark on a journey to unravel the complexities of our inner voices and their profound impact on our lives.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used for this episode: Rewriting Your Internal Dialogue at Work | Psychology Today
Encore - Dependent Personalities Episode 68
While Joseph and Paula are traveling, they did not want you to miss valuable information. This episode is an encore of a popular discussion about dependent personalities, which followed the episode about Love Addiction. Enjoy!
In the last episode Joseph and Paula talked about Love and Love Addiction. In this episode, they address sex addiction, erotomania, and dependent personality disorder. They explore the signs, symptoms, and treatment of each.
If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org
If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resourced Information
Dependent Personality Disorder | Psychology Today
Erotomania, What Is It? Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatment (webmd.com)
Encore - Love and Love Addiction Episode 67
Joseph and Paula are currently traveling. They cannot wait to be back with you soon. In the meantime, we are sharing one of the more popular discussions about Love and Love Addiction. We hope you enjoy.
Is it love or addiction? Joseph and Paula address the benefits of love and also look at love addiction. What are the signs, symptoms, and treatment? Listen to find out.
If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resourced Information
7 benefits of being in love | Life (news24.com)
Love Addiction: Definition, Symptoms, Causes, Treatment (verywellmind.com)
Episode 95: Decluttering
Got clutter? Joseph and Paula discuss how clutter and disorganization negatively impacts mental and physical health. They share the benefits of being organized and provide tips on how to get and stay organized.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used for this episode:
Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Physical activity reduces stress.
How to Declutter Your Home: 6 Best Room-by-Room Methods (thespruce.com)
Indiana University. Tidier homes, fitter bodies.
Lang M, Krátký J, Shaver JH, Jerotijević D, Xygalatas D. Effects of anxiety on spontaneous ritualized behavior. Curr Biol. 2015 Jul 20;25(14):1892-7. doi:10.1016/j.cub.2015.05.049. PMID: 26096971.
McMains S, Kastner S. Interactions of top-down and bottom-up mechanisms in human visual cortex. J Neurosci. 2011 Jan 12;31(2):587-97. doi:10.1523/JNEUROSCI.3766-10.2011. PMID: 21228167.
Saxbe DE, Repetti R. No place like home: home tours correlate with daily patterns of mood and cortisol. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2010 Jan;36(1):71-81. doi:10.1177/0146167209352864. PMID: 19934011.
Episode 94: Questions for Counselors
This episode is a listener and co-host favorite - Questions for Counselors!
Some of the questions Joseph and Paula address include: What is the difference between being selfish and selfless? How can I stay healthy when I have no time for myself? I think I have too much empathy. How can I be a helping professional? And several more!
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Episode 93: Barriers to Communication
In Episode 93 Joseph and Paula shared some basic communication skills. They follow up in this episode by discussing barriers.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include:
4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com
Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org
Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com)
Episode 92: Communication Skills
A topic that runs through all of our episodes is communication. There is no doubt that if we were healthier and more effective with our communication, we would have healthier and more content relationships. In this episode, we provide a broad overview of effective communication skills - verbal and non-verbal.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include:
4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com
Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org
Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com)
Episode 91: Abandonment
Joseph and Paula are talking about abandonment and the impact abandonment can have. Being abandoned, emotionally or physically, can cause long-lasting pain and affect every part of our lives. But when we understand it, we can begin to recover.
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include:
Abandonment Issues: Types, Signs, Causes, Treatment & More (therapymantra.co)
Abandonment Issues: Signs, Causes, and How to Cope (psychcentral.com)
Episode 90: Questions for Counselors
Questions for Counselors returns, and this week Joseph and Paula answer some tough questions! No kidding. How do you cope with individuals who use abusive language toward me? Does one have to believe in counseling for it to be beneficial? What can someone do to stay safe if staying in an emotionally unsafe environment? And there are even more!
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Episode 89: Parenting Styles
In this episode Joseph and Paula discuss 4 different parenting styles. 1 is the most effective. Do you know which you use or were raised with? If you have any topic suggestions or questions, let us know! Info@lifelivedbetter.net Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources used for this episode can be found:
4 Parenting Styles: What Your Style Is and Why It Matters (verywellfamily.com)
Parenting Styles | Psychology Today
The 4 types of parenting styles: What style is right for you? - Mayo Clinic Press
Why Being an Authoritative Parent Is the Best Approach (verywellfamily.com)
Episode 88: Toxic Families - Part 2
We look forward to a wonderful year learning and growing with all of you.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
Episode 87: Toxic Families, Part 1
In this two-part series we discuss how to know if you grew up in a toxic family, how it impacts life today, what a healthy family looks like, and how to make necessary changes today.
This is our first recording of 2024. We took a little time off due to the holidays, traveling, and even recovering from illness. We are so excited to be back with you and look forward to a wonderful year learning and growing with all of you.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
Episode 84: Questions for Counselors
It has been a while...so this week Paula and Joseph are excited to bring you a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors! Enjoy! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Episode 85: Gaslighting
Do you ever feel like something's off, but you can't quite put your finger on it?
Join Joseph and Paula as they dive deep into the world of gaslighting, a subtle yet devastating form of emotional manipulation that can leave you questioning your own reality.
In this episode they unravel the origins of the term “gaslighting” and explore its insidious presence in relationships from families to the workplace.
Your co-hosts will talk through the signs, phrases, and harms of gaslighting and discuss strategies to make changes if you are being gaslit.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
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References researched to create this episode:
Gaslighting | Psychology Today
Klein, W., Li, S., & Wood, S. (2023). A qualitative analysis of gaslighting in romantic relationships. Personal Relationships, 1– 25. https://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12510
What is gaslighting? Examples and how to respond (medicalnewstoday.com)
Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D. Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People — and Break Free
Episode 86: Problem Solving
Happy New Year! We have missed you.
We all have problems, and we all attempt to solve them. Joseph and Paula walk you through a step-by-step process on healthy problem-solving techniques.
We recorded this episode prior to the holidays, though it is a first-time release. We hope you benefit from an overview of Problem Solving.
Resources used for this episode
Canva M. (2011). Steve Jobs: His 10 best quotes about art and creativity. https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/comic-riffs/post/steve-jobs-his-10-best-quotes-about-art-and-creativity/2011/10/06/gIQAc0ZARL_blog.html
Steel P, et al. (2018). Examining procrastination across multiple goal stages: A longitudinal study of temporal motivation theory.https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2018.00327/full
Wang Y-P. (2021). Effects of online problem-solving instruction and identification attitude toward instructional strategies on students' creativity. https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2021.771128/full
Happy Thanksgiving!
Happy Thanksgiving from Life Lived Better.
Transcription: Hello there. This is Paula in the Life Lived Better studios. Today is Thanksgiving in the United States so we will not be releasing our typical weekly episode. Joseph and I want to take a moment to wish you the best and let you know that on this Thanksgiving and every other day we are so grateful for you. Without you there would be no podcast. We hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and we cannot wait to be back with you next week.
Episode 83 - Narcissism
On this week’s episode of Life Lived Better, Joseph and Paula will dive into the complex world of narcissism. They will discuss the common traits and explore the definition and types of narcissism.
The pair will discuss common symptoms, characteristics, and even provide valuable insights into the cause of this frequently referenced disorder. This episode will delve into the effects of narcissism on relationships and our discussion of tips on dealing with someone who has these traits.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
Episode 82 - Toxic Positivity
In a previous episode, Joseph and Paula mentioned Toxic Positivity. It is a topic that has been getting a lot of attention lately and they wanted to delve a little deeper into this concept. In today’s episode the pair explore what it is, its impact on mental health, and how to navigate this phenomenon in daily life.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources researched or referenced for this episode:
Carmichael, C., Ph. D. (2021, July 21). What is Toxic Positivity? Psychology Today. Retrieved June 20, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-is-toxic-positivity
Cherry, K., MS, ED. (2023, May 15). Toxic Positivity: Why It’s Harmful and What to Say Instead. Verywell Mind. Retrieved June 13, 2023, from https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-positivity
Villines, Z. (2021, March 31). What to Know About Toxic Positivity. Medical News Today. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/toxic-positivity#what-it-is
Toxic Positivity. (n.d.-b). Psychology Today. Retrieved June 15, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/toxic-positivity
Episode 81: Emotional Regulation and Mindfulness
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources researched or referenced for this episode:
Mindfulness www.scienceofpeople.com/mindfulness-activities/
Episode 79: Emotions
Got Emotions? We all do. What are emotions? What makes them complex? Joseph and Paula talk about emotions in this episode. They share some theories about them, discuss primary and secondary emotions, and share some tips for how to deal with all emotions.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net. Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources researched or referenced for this episode:
Episode 80: Managing Negative Emotions
Why do we avoid negative emotions? Which emotions are considered negative? Joseph and Paula dig into negative emotions and discuss how to deal with them. One of Joseph's favorite sayings is, "Honor your emotions!" and we truly believe that. The duo shared some great resources, too. You will find those linked below. Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources Referenced and used as Research in this episode:
How Negative Emotions Affect Us and How to Embrace Them (verywellmind.com)
Lim N. Cultural differences in emotion: differences in emotional arousal level between the East and the West. Integrate Med Res. 2016;5(2):105-109. doi:10.1016/j.imr.2016.03.004
Negative Emotions: Types, Causes, and How to Cope (verywellmind.com)
Taking a Break from Work (and Why You Need To) (verywellmind.com)
Ugueto AM, Santucci LC, Krumholz LS, Weisz JR. Problem-solving skills training. Evidence-Based CBT for Anxiety and Depression in Children and Adolescents: A Competencies-Based Approach. 2014. doi:10.1002/9781118500576.ch17
ENCORE! Poisonous Parings!
We are bringing you an ENCORE this week. - one of our most listened to episodes!
We are practicing self-care during this rapid paced fall season by taking a week away from the Life Lived Better Studios.
As you move about your life, don't forget to take care of yourself.
Original Show Notes:
We are talking about Toxic Relationships. Shaming, blaming, isolating...just a few of the things you might find in an unhealthy relationship. Paula refers to them as "Poisonous Pairings" and Joseph tells you when you need to run the other way. The topic is complex, so it is broken into two parts. This episode discusses the often-subtle red flags to be aware of.
If you or someone you know needs help, the National Domestic Violence Hotline phone number is 1-800-799-7233.
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Episode 78: Emotional Intelligence
Do you have a high EQ? You can always increase it. What is Emotional Intelligence? Joseph and Paula will discuss that and tell you the benefits and how to increase yours.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
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Information resourced in this episode:
Emotional Intelligence | Psychology Today
Emotional Intelligence (verywellmind.com)
https://www.healthline.com/health/how-to-control-your-emotions
https://www.mhanational.org/helpful-vs-harmful-ways-manage-emotions
https://mhanational.org/what-emotional-intelligence-and-how-does-it-apply-workplace
https://psychcentral.com/health/ways-to-manage-your-emotions
Episode 77: Friendship
What are the benefits of friendship? How does one find friends? How do you keep them once you have them? And when should you let them go? Joseph and Paula address these questions and discuss how to let them go when the time comes. Friendships come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
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Information resourced in this episode:
Friendships: Enrich your life and improve your health - Mayo Clinic
How to End a Friendship Without Hurting Feelings (choosingtherapy.com)
Reason, Season, or Lifetime: How These Relationships Can Support You (psychcentral.com)
The Importance of Friendship | Psychology Today
When It’s Time to End a Friendship and How to End It (webmd.com)
Episode 76: Q4C - Interview Version
Joseph and Paula are back with Questions for Counselors - with a twist. This time, Paula interviews Joseph by asking him questions some of her students sent.
This interview is in conjunction with The UNT Recovery to Practice Initiative and you can watch the interview on YouTube. All questions can be found on the UNT RTP YouTube Channel. If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Episode 75: Values Clarification
What do you value and what is the reason it is important to find out? Values make us feel more secure, for one. There are many other reasons. Joseph and Paula share how to clarity your values and begin to live by them.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Information resourced in this episode:
39 Core Values—and How to Live by Them | Psychology Today
7 Ways to Discover and Clarify Your Personal Values (nickwignall.com)
Values Clarification in CBT and Beyond: 18+ Examples & Tools (positivepsychology.com)
Happy Labor Day!
Have a safe and healthy Labor Day. We look forward to being back with you soon.
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Episode 74: Healthy Employment - What that is and How to find it
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Information resourced in this episode:
www.boisestate.edu/student-life/5-1-2-things-to-look-for-in-an-employer/
What Makes a Company a Great Place To Work: 15 Things | Indeed.com
www.wayup.com/guide/10-things-look-company/
Episode 73: Disklike Your Family?
Dislike your family? You are not alone. We are all human beings, and all have likes and dislikes. It is not that abnormal to dislike some family members. Joseph and Paula will address how to deal with your own feelings and your family when you find yourself in this situation.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
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And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources:
'I Hate My Family:' What to Do If You Feel This Way (verywellmind.com)
ENCORE: Who Am I?
Joseph and Paula are taking their own advice and taking a week off for self-care. Who Am I? is one of their most played previous episodes. Enjoy.
Have you ever considered what makes you who you are and how you became that way? What is the reason for your beliefs? Your likes and dislikes? Your perceptions and values? Joseph and Paula tackle the existential question, Who Am I? on this issue of Life, Lived Better.
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Episode 72: Self Talk Part Two
In the second part of this topic, Joseph and Paula share examples of positive and negative self-talk and provide ideas on how to combat negative self-talk.
In part one, they asked...When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Does your inner voice compliment or criticize? How can we change a negative inner voice to a positive?
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
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Resourced Information
Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources:
7 Examples of Positive Self-Talk - Jay Shetty Genius -
21 Examples of Negative Self Talk & Negative Thoughts That Kill (thedailymeditation.com)
Episode 71: Self Talk - Part One
When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Does your inner voice compliment or criticize? How can we change a negative inner voice to a positive? In this episode, Joseph and Paula address Self-Talk...the reason it exists and how to use it to your advantage.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resourced Information
Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources:
7 Examples of Positive Self-Talk - Jay Shetty Genius -
21 Examples of Negative Self Talk & Negative Thoughts That Kill (thedailymeditation.com)
Episode 70: Hitting Rock Bottom
Hitting Rock Bottom is a sign that something is not working. In this episode, Joseph and Paula define Rock Bottom, share some personal rock bottom stories, and offer some tips on what to do when you are there.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.
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And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources:
When You Hit Rock Bottom, Follow These 7 Tips to Thrive Again (lifeadvancer.com)
Why hitting rock bottom can be good for you - PsychMechanics
Episode 69: Questions for Counselors
Enjoy!
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Episode 68: Dependent Personality Disorders
In the last episode Joseph and Paula talked about Love and Love Addiction. In this episode, they address sex addiction, erotomania, and dependent personality disorder. They explore the signs, symptoms, and treatment of each.
If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org
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Resourced Information
Dependent Personality Disorder | Psychology Today
Erotomania, What Is It? Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatment (webmd.com)
Fourth of July
Happy Independence Day to our listeners in the USA.
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Episode 67: Love and Love Addiction
Is it love or addiction? Joseph and Paula address the benefits of love and also look at love addiction. What are the signs, symptoms, and treatment? Listen to find out.
If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org
Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
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Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resourced Information
7 benefits of being in love | Life (news24.com)
Love Addiction: Definition, Symptoms, Causes, Treatment (verywellmind.com)
Episode 66: Magical Thinking
Knock on wood? Throw salt over your shoulder? Think wearing your lucky undies will help your favorite sports team win the big game? You might be engaging in Magical Thinking. And that is not all bad. But, there is a downside to Magical Thinking. Joseph and Paula share examples of this Magical Thinking and Superstitions. They also address why we do this, the negative outcomes if it goes too far, and how to stop.
If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
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Resourced Information that contributed to this episode:
7 Helpful Tips to Overcome Magical Thinking | Inspiration | SuccessStory
Episode 65: Keep the Change
Keep the change!
Want to not only make some life changes but keep the changed things changed? In this episode, Joseph and Paula provide some insight into the reason it is difficult to change, steps to make changes, and tips on how to keep the change once you have taken the initial action.
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Resourced Information:
Episode 64: Excuses
Forget to mow the lawn? Miss your best friend's last birthday? Run late for that important meeting? We all faulter. But, how do you respond to your transgressions? Do you blame others or take full responsibility? If you find yourself making excuses, this episode will tell you why and give you the steps to stop!
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Resourced Information:
13 Steps to Stop Making Excuses and Take Responsibility (developgoodhabits.com)
Memorial Day Message
Happy Memorial Day and Mental Health Month from Life, Lived Better.
Episode 63: Questions for Counselors, Part 2
Finishing up this round of Questions for Counselors, Joseph and Paula address reasons some addictions are harder to overcome than others, how to support a person who has made major changes, things to help a person change without going to counseling and more!
Keep the questions coming. They get better with each new Questions for Counselors!
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Episode 62: Questions for Counselors, Part 1
How do you get over the loss of your father? How do you help your loved one get into recovery? How do you support someone who has made huge life changes?
These are a few of the questions people asked Joseph and Paula to answer on this episode of Questions for Counselors!
Enjoy!
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Episode 61: The Mask We Wear
Social Masks are created to make us more comfortable and ease our fears. We wear masks when interacting with people we think will not accept us if they knew who we “really were”. There are a number of types of masks we might wear. They all hide our authenticity. In this episode, Joseph and Paula talk about the reasons we wear masks, the types of masks many people use, and how to break free of these masks to reveal who you truly are.
Information sourced for this episode includes:
The Dream Catcher: Live Your Dream Life, Make a Difference.
The Masks That We Wear | Psychology Today
Personality Masks: 11 Examples | Psych Central
Lyrics to Perfect by Alanis Morisette
Poem Please Heard What I'm Not Saying by Charles C. Finn, 1966
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Episode 60: Communication Styles
If someone asks you to go to dinner, what is your response?
- Sure. I will go if I can pick the restaurant.
- Sure. I will go and I will go to the restaurant you pick.
- Sure. I have no opinion on where we go. But I will complain if it isn't what I secretly wanted.
- Sure. We can go to the restaurant you pick this time and my choice next time.
Each of these responses represent a Communication Style. Do you know your Communication Style? Listen as Joseph and Paula address the 4 Styles to determine which you most frequently use.
Resourced information:
4 Types of Communication Styles | Alvernia University
Burr, W. R. (1990). Beyond I-Statements in family communication. Family Relations, 39(3), 266. https://doi.org/10.2307/584870
Understanding Your Communication Style | Princeton University
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