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Modern Small Talk

Modern Small Talk

By Lill Øyunn Nermoen-Hanssen
This is small talk with all the missing ingredients! In this podcast, you'll get the tools you need to build the confidence you need to talk to anyone and create valuable connections.

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MST Reading people in small talk situations
Do you have a list of default questions that you go to when you get into a small talk situation? This podcast will make small talk so much easier.
July 03, 2021
WI102 Exploring your own creativity skills
Do you have to be artsy to be creative? Or, could you be just as creative as anyone else, in your own field of work and hobbies?
June 29, 2021
MST How to be an introvert and excel in Modern Small Talk (republished)
So there's small talk and then there's this new thing: Modern Small Talk. This is the way to include the extrovert and introvert. A way to do small talk where both feel seen. Is that even possible? Look out for future episodes every Friday. You are in for a treat! 
June 26, 2021
WI102 Setting the bar on how we talk on social media (republished)
If you're tired of how rude people are on social media, now is your chance to do something about it. In this episode we talk about setting the bar on how we talk on social media.
June 22, 2021
MST How do deal with promises and accountability (reupload)
When you so dearly want to deliver, something, –something to be proud of, that makes you feel heard, this accountability can drain all energy of you. This is how I dealt with mine. And in reuploading it, I'm doing it again.  This weeks episodes on WI102 and MST are reuploaded due to a book I'm writing and need to priorities right now.  I've learned over the years, that if I don't listen I get physically ill. This is me, practicing what I preach on this podcasts.  This is me listening to my own conversation.  Thank you for listening too.  I would love to hear your comment on my website:
June 18, 2021
WI102 What if you knew you'd be a 102 years old? (republished)
A woman in her 70s choosing to become a yoga teacher would be the final inspiration I needed to start investing in my life longterm. How? You'll hear it all in this podcast. This is how it all began!
June 15, 2021
MST Why the old small talk drains you
You know all the traditional small talk starters: how are you, what do you do, and is this seat taken? These are the reasons not that many like small talk and this episode shows you why. I'd love for you to leave a comment on my website Instagram lill_nermoen_hanssen Pinterest LillNermoenHanssen
June 11, 2021
WI102 Candor over a rhubarb pie
You know when someone is just so helpful when you haven't asked for it? How do you deal with it? How do you stay true to your and not go into service and suddenly what you wanted to do was no longer yours? Here's what you do! 
June 08, 2021
MST How owning your story empowers your small talk
What happens when you own your own story and how do you go about doing that? You'll get all the tools you need here to be inspired for the mindset needed.  If you'd like to book a session to get your own tools for shaping the story you'd like to live you can contact me on:
June 04, 2021
WI102 I’m not afraid to die and, - I choose to live.
How do you know if you're truly living? 
June 01, 2021
MST Positive gossip is there such a thing?
Since 1620s, gossip is described as idle talk. Talking about the affairs of others. That feeling of intimacy and the power of knowledge, is it possible to gain it from small talk or other ways of communicating? These are the links mentioned in this podcast:
May 28, 2021
WI102 How do you invests in you and your future?
How you receive a grand gift or huge amounts of money shows you how you invest in you and your future. I played with the thought of 300 million and had some interesting thoughts. 
May 25, 2021
MST Why creating your own vocabulary empowers you
Are the words you use most a quilt of other peoples words or are they true to who you –right now?
May 21, 2021
Remember to say hello in the mirror
Have you noticed how your body changes and given up on it? You might be in for a treat if you just remember to say hello.
May 18, 2021
MST The simplicity of the hello
I was in an awkward situation and it reminded me of one of the many reasons I saw the need for the conversation about small talk. 
May 14, 2021
Guilty pleasures, what are they?
After watching a Netflix-show, inspired by a most ingenious woman, I needed to start the conversation on guilty pleasure.
May 11, 2021
MST The side-effects to Modern Small Talk
In this episode I discuss the perks beyond a short conversation that you might find beneficial. 
May 07, 2021
WI102 How to deal with promises and accountability
I learned a lot in three weeks of podcasting every day. This is what I learned and what you'll get in the coming weeks. 
May 04, 2021
Nr 045 How resting bitch face inspired Modern Small Talk
After my surgery I needed to reclaim my life. I intentionally tried RBF Resting Bitch Face for three months and it was the best decision in years! Here's the story. 
April 30, 2021
How teaching gratitude whilst driving fosters more confidence
These days I'm teaching my teenager to drive and I've become more aware of how I use gratitude in traffic and more importantly why. 
April 28, 2021
Your feelings and emotions as a friend or foe
Feelings and emotions could be the best in life, if you let it. Being conscious of what they do to you, how they control you if you let them. Knowing how freeing they can be, if you let them. 
April 27, 2021
SLTS 3 steps to increase your productivity and get past the final obstacle
Have you heard about having a creative and productive hangover? That's what I've called them because I never got anything done. Now I've cracked the code for how to keep moving forward and in this episode I share my tricks for for you to test out yourself or be inspired to find what works for you.  Here's the link to Zita Fontaines story about listening to one song and how it can boost your creativity.
April 26, 2021
MST Intentional Communication part 2
This is the rest of the intentional living podcast I started on Wednesday, so have a listen for tips there as well.  The website that inspired this two-parter is and here's the link. 
April 25, 2021
CBW What does inner drive have to do with creativity?
If you listened to your inner drive, you'd be more creative and more things done. So what is this elusive feeling?
April 24, 2021
MST The allowance of a breakdown that prompted breakthrough
Having a breakdown, when you allow it, can create a breakthrough. Here's how I went through mine and what I gained.  The song I talked about was: Amber Marks Worth it
April 23, 2021
MSTN Heve standarden på hvordan vi snakker i sosiale medier
Hvis du er lei av troll? Er du lei av å bli misforstått i sosiale medier? Det er det vi snakker om i dag.
April 22, 2021
MST Intentional Communication part 1 of 3
There's intentional living and there's intentional communication. We're looking at a list of 10 things to think of for your intentional living and how to empower your communication skills with yourself and others. It's the Norwegian Netflix link but you'll find one for your own language: Marie Kondo
April 21, 2021
Complacency vs Self-leadership
What is complacency really and how is it opposite to self-leadership? Complacency is the poison that kills us slowly is the story I talk about that you can read on by Brian Kurian
April 20, 2021
How Podcasting became the solution to my writing
I had a hard time sticking to one story whenever I sat down to write. One story would get more legs than an octopus and I finally it would not make any sense. After I started podcasting every day it all made sense.
April 19, 2021
Setting the bar on how we talk on social media
There's trolls, there's the social media self appointed police and there are the Karens and Richards. Where should we set the bar on social media commenting and dialogues?
April 18, 2021
How to be an introvert and excel in Modern Small Talk
The secret is: Modern Small Talk is based on the introvert way of conversing. Here's how!  11 things introverts want you to know A great read about this is to be found on by Alexander M. Combstrong called The Highly Confident Introvert: Far from an Oxymoron.
April 16, 2021
MST Hvordan inkludere deg selv, lese folk og være introvert med Moderne Small Talk
I dag får du et sammendrag fra tre tidligere episoder fra den engelskspråklige versjonen av programmet Modern Small Talk.  Linker som jeg nevnte i programmet finner du på programbeskrivelsen på nettsiden
April 15, 2021
Reading people in small talk situations
There have been studies about reading groups but reading a person right in front of you is another matter. However, there are things you can do to feel more comfortable in a small talk situation. The link to the study mentioned in the podcast:
April 14, 2021
What if you knew you'd be a 102 years old?
Ten years ago I saw a woman in her mid seventies who had started doing yoga and had become a much loved teacher of it too. It got me thinking about all the people, from their thirties and up, who talk and lead their lives as though they're just waiting to die. I made some changes myself whilst researching with the question in mind: what if I knew I'd be a 102 years old, would I still choose what I choose today?
April 13, 2021
SLTS Mental Health and Inspirational Posters
On Mondays I read from my publication on Todays stories are: How writing centres my mental health Why an Inspirational Quote Will Never Be Enough Check out my page on for more stories and have a read yourself.
April 12, 2021
How to include yourself in small talk
We don't learn how to do basic conversations with people. We learn the superficial and we learn how to be wide open. But, how to have meaningful conversations, especially short ones who are a investment in your future and confidence is what's episode is all about
April 11, 2021
Creative Book of Wonder
This tool, I've spoken about it before but, now I've decided to build a class for it to be launched in July of 2021. It's been with me for over 15 years and it has been crucial for creating a life I did not know was possible.  Show notes on
April 10, 2021
The need for modern small talk right now
With the constant communication in social media and the demand to speak correctly so you won't be misunderstand people are getting more and more exhausted. This is why and how we can change it.  Show notes on website
April 09, 2021
Moderne Small Talk og Selvledelse
Introduksjon til en fast spalte hver torsdag om småprat og slikt som mange har et dårlig forhold til. Lill Nermoen-Hanssen er her for å fortelle deg at small talk er det som skal til for å føle deg tryggere i samtaler med kjente og ukjente. Faktisk så vil du få selvtillit av det også!  Torsdager er det norske sammendraget av den engelske versjonen av Modern Small Talk and Self-Leadership som går hver onsdag, fredag og søndag. 
April 08, 2021
Modern Small Talk and more
Every Wednesday, Friday and Sunday you will be learning about the new ways of small talk, how to master it and what you gain from it! In this episode you'll get a taste of what's to come. Show notes on Check out my Pinterest for more inspiration on small talk, confidence, self-leadership, higher quality of living – and cakes and biscuits. 
April 07, 2021
Finding your footing with a new project
Have you ever tried someone else's advice, and found a few weeks in that you are out of fuel? Instead of being excited about this new wind of change, the motivation is ebbing out. Where did it go? The momentum lost its footing.
September 22, 2020
How to be a friend to someone who needs a change
Rewiring your brain can sometimes feel like being a dung beetle rolling a big ball of turd, whilst walking on your hands and keeping the momentum up with your feet. Then four of your friends come along to help you. Here’s how to find the one that actually helps.
September 11, 2020
Struggling with shame for writing in English
Over the last few years, I have been googling one statement again and again. I found all sorts of classes for writing in English when it is your second language until I found what I was looking for, right here, on Medium. My search was: easier to write in English even though it is not your first language.
September 03, 2020
Using conflicts as a possibility for better relationships
The art of being part of a discussion is not a lost art, because to be fair, has it ever been close to the drawing board in the first place?  Apparently, you only have two options. Either you are right or you are wrong. That is like saying there are only solid colours in the colour palettes being ignorant to the beautiful shades of grey, yellow, red and so much more.  How we live our lives are based on the stories we tell ourselves and the world around us. The repeated truths that we have grown unconscious of. What is your story?
September 02, 2020
How I keep moving forward when I’m tired
I wrote a story about how to organise an overly creative mind where I showed you how I use spreadsheets to organise my overly creative mind. What I didn’t tell you about the three-month writing marathon of writing every day, is by day 15, — I am exhausted as I sit down to write. Here’s how I keep moving forward!
August 31, 2020
How to organise an overly creative mind
I am halfway through the first month, of the three months that I have dedicated to write and post every day. I have missed one day. That was the day when I decided to go all in.
August 30, 2020
My story of no more f•cks to give
What's your story today?  I speak on storytelling every day. That is, other peoples stories that in the end inspire you to either agree or disagree, being provoked to an action or a new train of thought.
August 28, 2020
The Need for Literature Ideas
Is writing about the future, an attempt to predict the future, or is it a medium to play with an idea? Growing up with a love for films and series about the future I was often disappointed about how it almost to a fault, portrayed a dystopian society with different levels of advanced technology that is a story of its own. 
August 27, 2020
The strength in a film score
I watched Superman when I was a little girl, with Christopher Reeves and when I heard the music start up, I cringed. Come decades years later I realised why.
August 26, 2020
The power of the first episode
I watched the first episode in the first season, after the last episode of the 2nd series, realising I had bailed on the episode only after a few minutes. That's how much of a chance I was willing to give the already popular show. A mere 2 minutes and 50 seconds to judge the episode. Still, the television series kept waving it's index finger to invite me in. "You'll love me, I promise."
August 25, 2020
Movies that changed the quality of my life
Some movies bring up a topic that I would love to hear more about. A second movie is just not going to cut it, I am in the moment right now and I just want it to last. 
August 23, 2020
Can a character drive a full story?
When others think they have levelled up in being a movie connoisseur when they find movies celebrated by the Cannes Film festival a stamp of approval, I've found myself levelling up with finding characters be a story in of its own.
August 22, 2020
Why teaching through storytelling is the ultimate shaper of a child's future
Storytelling is not only used for getting a better grasp of the language, connecting us and add meaning to our lives. What's interesting is that we actually calm down when we hear stories and it can be quite magical
August 21, 2020
The storytellers urge to become a scientist
At one point in life, I wanted to become a scientist. Was I a math wiz? Not even close. Anything math was close to oblivion in my mind due to a marvellous lack of interest in understanding the subject, still – I was frustrated that I couldn’t become one. Without schooling in natural sciences, why did I still pursue the thought of becoming one?
August 20, 2020
Stop fighting your natural workflow
You can look for inspiration on how to have your optimal workday but in the end, what works for does work for you. Accepting this could be the best thing you ever do.
August 19, 2020
For the love of Short Stories
It was supposed to be the name of my podcast. I had just had the biggest aha-moment in shaping my writing career, and you know how it goes, when something feels so right, it has to be life-changing, doesn’t it?
August 18, 2020
The strength of truly listening in life
Composers have impacted my writing lately and my life in general. Listen in on how one reminded me to listen. 
August 17, 2020
How the need for writing was mistaken for ADHD
The other day I was thinking of designs for my Redbubble shop, LillOyunn, when I remembered something from my past. Something I thought was wrong with me but in fact, was the essence of me. This episode shows how being in wonder can help you beyond labels. 
August 16, 2020
Allowing your feelings to be your superpower
I have found that my allowance of all my different feelings is a unused asset I haven't tapped into,  until now! I really write some of my best scenes when I indulge in emotions. I will tell you how on this episode!  Remember to check out my website for the show notes and more inspiration! 
August 15, 2020
How to use feelings to become a great writer!
Feelings tend to be perceived as monsters but, what if you could turn them in to great writing instead and in the process get a bonus for yourself?
August 14, 2020
The perfect writing scene – where do you write?
Is there really a perfect recipe for writing conditions? I have explored some techniques and this is what I found work for me.  Whenever you write something, whether it is a short story, a novel, an essay or a poem; at what time are you allowed to write? In your opinion? What is required for you to be in your writing state of mind?
August 13, 2020
Drowning in Creativity
Do you have a mind that suggest new ideas every ten seconds whilst in the next ten seconds puts you in a downward spiral with thoughts on why are the wrong person to produce said idea? Here’s how to trick your mind out of procrastination and realise why the ideas came to you in the first place!
May 19, 2020
Book Review Name of the Wind by Patrick Rothfuss
This is the first of a series of book reviews, where I talk about the wonder element in the book as well as relational aspects that impress me. Also wording and the beauty of the language, like in this first book by my favourite author! PS Spoiler alert: I am reading a scene for you so you can get a sense of his language. I am reading this scene to anyone who will listen because the gentleness and comprehension of humans which he portrayes in this scene blows my mind! Enjoy!
May 07, 2020
How to be as cool as Pippi Longstocking
There is a quote from this beloved children’s tale that is popular amongst all ages. This podcast is about the ups and downs with quotes and the challenge I gave myself that gave me more than ease with being inspired by this quote. And I even gave the quote an upgrade.
May 05, 2020
How to have fun with clothes and styling for you!
Script This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views. This is LIFE by Lill Radio and I am Lill Nermoen-Hanssen your guide in the world of wonder.
March 16, 2020
To compliment or not compliment
In this episode I am presenting the three types of complimenters out there. Which one are you? Also, I talk on why people find it awkward to give compliments! I would love to hear your thoughts on which you are and how you receive compliments!
February 27, 2020
Following your gut feeling Day 3
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views.
February 20, 2020
Following your gut feeling Day 2
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views.
February 19, 2020
Following your gut feeling Week day 1
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views. 
February 18, 2020
Å komme for sent og andre uvaner
Det å hele tiden komme for sent og andre uvaner er ofte en fortsettelse av noe. En følelse du har bestemt er om deg. Hør mer på podcasten hvordan du kan forandre det!
September 07, 2019
Det er ikke et nei til deg, men et ja til oss
Hvordan jeg hjalp Petter og Elsa å forstå mer om hvordan folk fungerer.
September 04, 2019
Let the senses guide you with your toddler
Every Wednesday, the audio of the facebook live from Thriving with toddlers with communications coach Lill Nermoen-Hanssen, is shared here on lifebylill radio. This week we are talking about how and when to let your toddler choose, and when not to. The episode will alternate being in Norwegian or English.
August 22, 2019
En invitasjon til deg
Du vet når du velger noe annet og går litt ut i den mentale åkeren og kjenner at det er umulig å velge noe annet? I denne episoden får du innsikt i hvordan jeg kommer ut av det selv og hvordan jeg jobber med deg i coachingtimene med deg/dere.
August 18, 2019
Dag 21 - Kontrollbehov og 6 tips for å slippe det 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Kall det kontrollbehov eller kall det perfeksjonisme, denne episoden drar buksa ned på kontrollmonsteret og kaller en spade for en spade. La oss fortsette fremover folkens og drite i å ha kontroll. Oppskriften på det motsatte finnes i denne episoden! 
July 01, 2019
Dag 20 - Produktivitetskrise 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Hva gjør du når du kjenner du vil gi opp på prosjektet? Det gjorde jeg i dag. 
June 26, 2019
Dag 19 - 10 regler for hva sann respekt er i 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Hva er egentlig respekt? Er det noe som tilhører gjenger, eldre eller religiøse miljøer? Eller handler det egentlig om noe helt annet som å selvrespekt, sosiale normer og lignende? Her er 10 regler for et respektfullt liv og mer trygghet i relasjoner med kjente og ukjente. 
June 26, 2019
Dag 1 30 dagers utfordring i God Nok Livsstil
Vi tar opp kampen mot perfekthetsjaget og tar opp samtalen om hvordan leve et godt nok liv i forhold til DEG. I dag snakker vi generelt om hvorfor jeg tar opp denne kampen og inviterer deg med på "leken". 
June 24, 2019
Creative Book of Wonder
Have you ever been frustrated about not accomplishing your goals or not knowing what your goals are? Of course you have! We all have. But what if you were putting in a lot of energy on accomplishing goals that were never yours?
May 29, 2019
Hva om dette er den sanne folkesjela?
Etter en fin dag i Oslo, med mange sjenerøse og pratsalige folk, fikk det meg til å tenke: hva om dette er den sanne folkesjela?
May 17, 2019
Great communication is in the detail
Are you tired of saying: I don’t know how to talk this person, she never understands me or you would like to find love?
May 15, 2019
How to use yoga to gain more clarity, and more!
Welcome to a Kitchentalk with lill form lifebylill! Every week we talk about how to have a uncomplicated life, one day at a time and how to get more done in your every day life! Todays episode is about: How I use yoga to gain more clarity and more! 
April 18, 2019
Hva om at du tar feil?
Velkommen til kjøkkenprat med Lill fra lifebylill!  Hver uke snakker vi om hvordan man kan ha et ukomplisert liv, en dag av og gangen og hvordan få mer gjort i hverdagen! Dagens episode handler om: Hva om du tar feil, i at du, er feil?
April 18, 2019