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SLTS Self-Leadership Through Storytelling

SLTS Self-Leadership Through Storytelling

By Lill Øyunn Nermoen-Hanssen
Talks about self-leadership, creativity, the power of small talk and how to gain a high quality of life. Editor and owner of publication Self-leadership Through Storytelling on Medium.
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Reading people in small talk situations
There have been studies about reading groups but reading a person right in front of you is another matter. However, there are things you can do to feel more comfortable in a small talk situation. The link to the study mentioned in the podcast:
April 14, 2021
What if you knew you'd be a 102 years old?
Ten years ago I saw a woman in her mid seventies who had started doing yoga and had become a much loved teacher of it too. It got me thinking about all the people, from their thirties and up, who talk and lead their lives as though they're just waiting to die. I made some changes myself whilst researching with the question in mind: what if I knew I'd be a 102 years old, would I still choose what I choose today?
April 13, 2021
SLTS Mental Health and Inspirational Posters
On Mondays I read from my publication on Todays stories are: How writing centres my mental health Why an Inspirational Quote Will Never Be Enough Check out my page on for more stories and have a read yourself.
April 12, 2021
How to include yourself in small talk
We don't learn how to do basic conversations with people. We learn the superficial and we learn how to be wide open. But, how to have meaningful conversations, especially short ones who are a investment in your future and confidence is what's episode is all about
April 11, 2021
Creative Book of Wonder
This tool, I've spoken about it before but, now I've decided to build a class for it to be launched in July of 2021. It's been with me for over 15 years and it has been crucial for creating a life I did not know was possible.  Show notes on
April 10, 2021
The need for modern small talk right now
With the constant communication in social media and the demand to speak correctly so you won't be misunderstand people are getting more and more exhausted. This is why and how we can change it.  Show notes on website
April 9, 2021
Moderne Small Talk og Selvledelse
Introduksjon til en fast spalte hver torsdag om småprat og slikt som mange har et dårlig forhold til. Lill Nermoen-Hanssen er her for å fortelle deg at small talk er det som skal til for å føle deg tryggere i samtaler med kjente og ukjente. Faktisk så vil du få selvtillit av det også!  Torsdager er det norske sammendraget av den engelske versjonen av Modern Small Talk and Self-Leadership som går hver onsdag, fredag og søndag. 
April 8, 2021
Modern Small Talk and more
Every Wednesday, Friday and Sunday you will be learning about the new ways of small talk, how to master it and what you gain from it! In this episode you'll get a taste of what's to come. Show notes on Check out my Pinterest for more inspiration on small talk, confidence, self-leadership, higher quality of living – and cakes and biscuits. 
April 7, 2021
Finding your footing with a new project
Have you ever tried someone else's advice, and found a few weeks in that you are out of fuel? Instead of being excited about this new wind of change, the motivation is ebbing out. Where did it go? The momentum lost its footing.
September 22, 2020
How to be a friend to someone who needs a change
Rewiring your brain can sometimes feel like being a dung beetle rolling a big ball of turd, whilst walking on your hands and keeping the momentum up with your feet. Then four of your friends come along to help you. Here’s how to find the one that actually helps.
September 11, 2020
Struggling with shame for writing in English
Over the last few years, I have been googling one statement again and again. I found all sorts of classes for writing in English when it is your second language until I found what I was looking for, right here, on Medium. My search was: easier to write in English even though it is not your first language.
September 3, 2020
Using conflicts as a possibility for better relationships
The art of being part of a discussion is not a lost art, because to be fair, has it ever been close to the drawing board in the first place?  Apparently, you only have two options. Either you are right or you are wrong. That is like saying there are only solid colours in the colour palettes being ignorant to the beautiful shades of grey, yellow, red and so much more.  How we live our lives are based on the stories we tell ourselves and the world around us. The repeated truths that we have grown unconscious of. What is your story?
September 2, 2020
How I keep moving forward when I’m tired
I wrote a story about how to organise an overly creative mind where I showed you how I use spreadsheets to organise my overly creative mind. What I didn’t tell you about the three-month writing marathon of writing every day, is by day 15, — I am exhausted as I sit down to write. Here’s how I keep moving forward!
August 31, 2020
How to organise an overly creative mind
I am halfway through the first month, of the three months that I have dedicated to write and post every day. I have missed one day. That was the day when I decided to go all in.
August 30, 2020
My story of no more f•cks to give
What's your story today?  I speak on storytelling every day. That is, other peoples stories that in the end inspire you to either agree or disagree, being provoked to an action or a new train of thought.
August 28, 2020
The Need for Literature Ideas
Is writing about the future, an attempt to predict the future, or is it a medium to play with an idea? Growing up with a love for films and series about the future I was often disappointed about how it almost to a fault, portrayed a dystopian society with different levels of advanced technology that is a story of its own. 
August 27, 2020
The strength in a film score
I watched Superman when I was a little girl, with Christopher Reeves and when I heard the music start up, I cringed. Come decades years later I realised why.
August 26, 2020
The power of the first episode
I watched the first episode in the first season, after the last episode of the 2nd series, realising I had bailed on the episode only after a few minutes. That's how much of a chance I was willing to give the already popular show. A mere 2 minutes and 50 seconds to judge the episode. Still, the television series kept waving it's index finger to invite me in. "You'll love me, I promise."
August 25, 2020
Movies that changed the quality of my life
Some movies bring up a topic that I would love to hear more about. A second movie is just not going to cut it, I am in the moment right now and I just want it to last. 
August 23, 2020
Can a character drive a full story?
When others think they have levelled up in being a movie connoisseur when they find movies celebrated by the Cannes Film festival a stamp of approval, I've found myself levelling up with finding characters be a story in of its own.
August 22, 2020
Why teaching through storytelling is the ultimate shaper of a child's future
Storytelling is not only used for getting a better grasp of the language, connecting us and add meaning to our lives. What's interesting is that we actually calm down when we hear stories and it can be quite magical
August 21, 2020
The storytellers urge to become a scientist
At one point in life, I wanted to become a scientist. Was I a math wiz? Not even close. Anything math was close to oblivion in my mind due to a marvellous lack of interest in understanding the subject, still – I was frustrated that I couldn’t become one. Without schooling in natural sciences, why did I still pursue the thought of becoming one?
August 20, 2020
Stop fighting your natural workflow
You can look for inspiration on how to have your optimal workday but in the end, what works for does work for you. Accepting this could be the best thing you ever do.
August 19, 2020
For the love of Short Stories
It was supposed to be the name of my podcast. I had just had the biggest aha-moment in shaping my writing career, and you know how it goes, when something feels so right, it has to be life-changing, doesn’t it?
August 18, 2020
The strength of truly listening in life
Composers have impacted my writing lately and my life in general. Listen in on how one reminded me to listen. 
August 17, 2020
How the need for writing was mistaken for ADHD
The other day I was thinking of designs for my Redbubble shop, LillOyunn, when I remembered something from my past. Something I thought was wrong with me but in fact, was the essence of me. This episode shows how being in wonder can help you beyond labels. 
August 16, 2020
Allowing your feelings to be your superpower
I have found that my allowance of all my different feelings is a unused asset I haven't tapped into,  until now! I really write some of my best scenes when I indulge in emotions. I will tell you how on this episode!  Remember to check out my website for the show notes and more inspiration! 
August 15, 2020
How to use feelings to become a great writer!
Feelings tend to be perceived as monsters but, what if you could turn them in to great writing instead and in the process get a bonus for yourself?
August 14, 2020
The perfect writing scene – where do you write?
Is there really a perfect recipe for writing conditions? I have explored some techniques and this is what I found work for me.  Whenever you write something, whether it is a short story, a novel, an essay or a poem; at what time are you allowed to write? In your opinion? What is required for you to be in your writing state of mind?
August 13, 2020
Drowning in Creativity
Do you have a mind that suggest new ideas every ten seconds whilst in the next ten seconds puts you in a downward spiral with thoughts on why are the wrong person to produce said idea? Here’s how to trick your mind out of procrastination and realise why the ideas came to you in the first place!
May 19, 2020
Book Review Name of the Wind by Patrick Rothfuss
This is the first of a series of book reviews, where I talk about the wonder element in the book as well as relational aspects that impress me. Also wording and the beauty of the language, like in this first book by my favourite author! PS Spoiler alert: I am reading a scene for you so you can get a sense of his language. I am reading this scene to anyone who will listen because the gentleness and comprehension of humans which he portrayes in this scene blows my mind! Enjoy!
May 7, 2020
How to be as cool as Pippi Longstocking
There is a quote from this beloved children’s tale that is popular amongst all ages. This podcast is about the ups and downs with quotes and the challenge I gave myself that gave me more than ease with being inspired by this quote. And I even gave the quote an upgrade.
May 5, 2020
How to have fun with clothes and styling for you!
Script This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views. This is LIFE by Lill Radio and I am Lill Nermoen-Hanssen your guide in the world of wonder.
March 16, 2020
To compliment or not compliment
In this episode I am presenting the three types of complimenters out there. Which one are you? Also, I talk on why people find it awkward to give compliments! I would love to hear your thoughts on which you are and how you receive compliments!
February 27, 2020
Following your gut feeling Day 3
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views.
February 20, 2020
Following your gut feeling Day 2
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views.
February 19, 2020
Following your gut feeling Week day 1
This podcast-series is recorded as I am writing a book called Creative Book of Wonder. It touches on how being in wonder is the tool to create those changes you have desired in your life and hopefully inspires you to try them out for yourself. Every week I choose a topic and explore how it works for myself and see if I am inspired by my research on other peoples views. 
February 18, 2020
Å komme for sent og andre uvaner
Det å hele tiden komme for sent og andre uvaner er ofte en fortsettelse av noe. En følelse du har bestemt er om deg. Hør mer på podcasten hvordan du kan forandre det!
September 7, 2019
Det er ikke et nei til deg, men et ja til oss
Hvordan jeg hjalp Petter og Elsa å forstå mer om hvordan folk fungerer.
September 4, 2019
Let the senses guide you with your toddler
Every Wednesday, the audio of the facebook live from Thriving with toddlers with communications coach Lill Nermoen-Hanssen, is shared here on lifebylill radio. This week we are talking about how and when to let your toddler choose, and when not to. The episode will alternate being in Norwegian or English.
August 22, 2019
En invitasjon til deg
Du vet når du velger noe annet og går litt ut i den mentale åkeren og kjenner at det er umulig å velge noe annet? I denne episoden får du innsikt i hvordan jeg kommer ut av det selv og hvordan jeg jobber med deg i coachingtimene med deg/dere.
August 18, 2019
Dag 21 - Kontrollbehov og 6 tips for å slippe det 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Kall det kontrollbehov eller kall det perfeksjonisme, denne episoden drar buksa ned på kontrollmonsteret og kaller en spade for en spade. La oss fortsette fremover folkens og drite i å ha kontroll. Oppskriften på det motsatte finnes i denne episoden! 
July 1, 2019
Dag 20 - Produktivitetskrise 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Hva gjør du når du kjenner du vil gi opp på prosjektet? Det gjorde jeg i dag. 
June 26, 2019
Dag 19 - 10 regler for hva sann respekt er i 30 dagers utfordring i god nok
Hva er egentlig respekt? Er det noe som tilhører gjenger, eldre eller religiøse miljøer? Eller handler det egentlig om noe helt annet som å selvrespekt, sosiale normer og lignende? Her er 10 regler for et respektfullt liv og mer trygghet i relasjoner med kjente og ukjente. 
June 26, 2019
Dag 1 30 dagers utfordring i God Nok Livsstil
Vi tar opp kampen mot perfekthetsjaget og tar opp samtalen om hvordan leve et godt nok liv i forhold til DEG. I dag snakker vi generelt om hvorfor jeg tar opp denne kampen og inviterer deg med på "leken". 
June 24, 2019
Creative Book of Wonder
Have you ever been frustrated about not accomplishing your goals or not knowing what your goals are? Of course you have! We all have. But what if you were putting in a lot of energy on accomplishing goals that were never yours?
May 29, 2019
Hva om dette er den sanne folkesjela?
Etter en fin dag i Oslo, med mange sjenerøse og pratsalige folk, fikk det meg til å tenke: hva om dette er den sanne folkesjela?
May 17, 2019
Great communication is in the detail
Are you tired of saying: I don’t know how to talk this person, she never understands me or you would like to find love?
May 15, 2019
How to use yoga to gain more clarity, and more!
Welcome to a Kitchentalk with lill form lifebylill! Every week we talk about how to have a uncomplicated life, one day at a time and how to get more done in your every day life! Todays episode is about: How I use yoga to gain more clarity and more! 
April 18, 2019
Hva om at du tar feil?
Velkommen til kjøkkenprat med Lill fra lifebylill!  Hver uke snakker vi om hvordan man kan ha et ukomplisert liv, en dag av og gangen og hvordan få mer gjort i hverdagen! Dagens episode handler om: Hva om du tar feil, i at du, er feil?
April 18, 2019