Holistic Trauma Healing with Lindsey Lockett

In this episode, Lindsey and her daughter, Addie, have an intimate mother-daughter conversation. While at first listen, it may seem that the focus of this conversation is Addie's recent awareness about her disordered relationship with food, the heart of this issue is much deeper. Lindsey and Addie discuss how Lindsey's own dysregulation showed up at a time when she was trying to transition their family to a healthier way of eating. Her patterns of perfectionism, hypervigilance, and binary thinking tainted the message she was trying to teach her kids about food, and now, at 18 years old, Addie is experiencing those consequences in her own relationship with food. Lindsey explains how her dysregulated patterns and voice became her daughter's Inner Critic voice about food, health, and sugar, in particular. Addie shares about her rebellion with food, developing her first cavity, and her desire to listen to her body about what feels nourishing as she thought-stops her Inner Critic's messages of guilt about food and expresses feeling safe with her mom's support.

More broadly, Lindsey shares with Addie about the collective disconnect between Millennials and their Boomer parents and how she desires to foster the intimacy, safety, and authenticity in her relationship with her children that she and many other Millennials do not have with their Boomer parents. Lindsey brings awareness to the "healing journeys" that Millennials are now going through.

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In this conversation, Lindsey and Sarah Cook, a writer and trauma-informed mentor, discuss the transformative power of creativity, why it's so important to create simply for ourselves, apart from external validation or goals. Sarah also explores the cyclical nature of creativity, the need for periods of rest and dormancy, and the myth of writer's block. Childhood experiences impact our creativity and can hold potential for healing through imagination and intuition. This conversation explores devotion to creativity, the difference between creativity as a necessity for survival and creativity for pleasure, and the role of seasons in creative expression. Trauma a societal expectations can hinder our creativity, and it is necessary to reclaim and nurture our creative impulses in every season of the creative cycle. Sarah's trauma-informed approach to creative coaching recognizes and challenges clients' limiting beliefs, creates a safe space for exploration, and honors each clients individual creative process. Lindsey and Sarah also discuss intuition and imagination as powerful tools for reconnecting with your creativity, if you feel that your creativity is elusive.

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In this episode, cult survivor Tara Oathout shares her experience growing up in the IBLP cult (think the Duggar Family/Quiverfull Movement) and the impact it had on her life. Tara and Lindsey open up about the effects of purity culture and the shame they felt around sex, despite growing up in 2 different cult environments. Tara and Lindsey also discuss other experiences with religion, including some of the aspects they miss. They explore the stages of anger and ambivalence towards religion, the complexities of faith deconstruction, the longing for corporate worship, and the personal growth and self-discovery that come when one bravely challenges indoctrination.

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Webs of Truth is a monthly sub-podcast of The Rooted Business Podcast with Spiritual Business Mentor Kat Lee and the Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast with Holistic Trauma Educator Lindsey Lockett.

In this conversation, Kat and Lindsey explore the concept of responsibility from both the perspective of coach and client by examining the emotional wounds our clients have carried from past coaching experiences. This is a nuanced discussion that asks us to intentionally dissect how we hold space, invite questions and uphold boundaries to create transparency and safety for our clients.

As trauma-informed coaches ourselves, we firmly believe in empowering clients to see the coach’s role as a guide, not an authority figure. You’ll hear us drawing upon examples from our own experiences as practitioners to share how we embody this energy of guide. We hope to inspire you to think about how you too can create a similar culture of trust that your clients can sink into.

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Lindsey is joined by returning guest Kat HoSoo Lee to explore authenticity as a pathway to having our needs met. This conversation was sparked by the requests from Lindsey's and Kat's Instagram audiences of, "How do you show up authentically online??"

Many of us have lost touch with our Authentic selves in pursuit of attachment, influenced by childhood experiences and cultural expectations. In this episode, Lindsey and Kat share insights on balancing needs in relationships and explain how authenticity can help us meet our needs while maintaining connection. They share personal anecdotes to illustrate their personal journeys of self-discovery.

Lindsey and Kat uncover how reclaiming authenticity and sovereignty, exploring and actualizing our desires, and giving ourselves permission to follow our passions can empower us on this journey. They discuss the power of reclaiming their own given names and discuss this reclamation as a potent tool for self-identification and fulfilling one's purpose in this lifetime. As coaches with online presences, Lindsey and Kat discuss the importance of cultivating reciprocity online and overcoming the fear of visibility and accompanying judgment. As they challenge the archetype of The Good Girl, they demonstrate the transformative power of authenticity to inspire you on your own journey of reclamation, self-discovery, resilience, self-love, and self-trust.

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Lindsey speaks with returning guest, Theresa Lear Levine, an EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) practitioner and author of Becoming More Me, Tapping into Success, Subconscious Secrets of an ADHD Entrepreneurial Mom. The book details Theresa's personal journey, discussing her traumas, ADHD challenges, client experiences, and insights into emotional freedom techniques, tapping, hypnotherapy, and the chakra system. They discuss Theresa's writing struggles due to her ADHD and the support she received from her husband, Jeff.

The conversation touches on the distinction between surrendering and quitting and the difficulties associated with procrastination and resistance. Theresa shares her personal challenges, including a car accident, a fibromyalgia diagnosis, estrangement from her father, and a challenging first marriage. She speaks about the vulnerability of sharing her story in a book.
They explore the concept of self-awareness, with Lindsey likening it to a muscle that strengthens over time, and the role of the nervous system in intuition and awareness.

Lindsey and Theresa discuss the emotional aspects of writing, its impact on relationships, and the growth it fosters. Theresa describes her book as a mix of autobiography and instruction, enriched with QR codes (how cool!!) for added resources.

The Kindle version of her book will be available on Amazon for 99 cents on November 6th, with the paperback and audible versions releasing on November 11th. Both women express joy in their work, emphasizing the valuable connections they forge and the positive influence they exert on others.

In this episode, Lindsey delves into her personal experiences with psychiatry, tracing her struggles with anxiety, insomnia, and a suicide attempt in 2019. Misguided medical advice led her to self-advocate and push against standard practices, especially concerning tapering off medications. A turning point came when she met a supportive psychiatrist in the summer of 2019, forging a unique bond based on mutual respect and understanding. This episode features a telehealth session between them, exploring Lindsey's emotional traumas, especially relating to her mother and past experiences, and their impact on her present life. Throughout their conversation, the importance of understanding, self-awareness, and setting boundaries emerges as crucial for mental well-being. Lindsey's psychiatrist validates and appreciates her current work as a nervous system coach and trauma educator, noting that her awareness, curiosity, and ability to feel her feelings and meet herself where she is holds the key to most people's healing. The session ends with gratitude for the supportive therapeutic relationship they share, and Lindsey invites listeners to check out her signature group coaching program FEEL WITHOUT FEAR.

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In this solo episode, Lindsey delves into the insights, lessons, pain, triggers, and progress she has been through. She vulnerably reveals a strained relationship with her mother and a year of non-communication and emotional pain, even while expressing a hope for future reconciliation.

Lindsey discusses her understanding of her own Complex PTSD abandonment triggers caused by inadequate and her commitment to feeling her way through them all while acknowledging that her mother did the best she could. She challenges the definition of the word "healed" when so many have the expectation that "healed" means "totally gone, resolved, done, fixed". Instead, she offers a new definition of healing — that maybe it doesn't mean all pain is eliminated but that we learn to navigate and respond to pain and triggers differently.

Lindsey concludes with a commitment to forge emotionally safe and reciprocal relationships, acknowledging her growth in handling her emotional responses amidst the shadows of past trauma, showcasing her resilience, self-awareness, and ongoing quest for recovery and healthier relationships.

FEEL WITHOUT FEAR starts in November 2023.

Are you at the point in your “healing journey” where you’ve learned a bunch of nervous system tools, but something still feels like it’s not… clicking?

• you’re still repeating patterns and facing the same triggers again and again.
• that pesky Complex PTSD is turned all the way up in your body and you’re uncomfortable all the time.
• you’re still in a contracted state, unable to expand to hold more… either more stress or more joy.
• the anxiety — about your health, your money, your relationship, or life in general — is still constantly buzzing in your body and the best you can do at this point is to distract yourself somehow or power through.
• you’ve learned a bunch of nervous system regulating tools… and you’re still so dysregulated that you’re reaching for a tool all the time.
• you see all these posts on Instagram about feeling your feelings, but you have no fucking clue what that means or it scares you.

Being able to FEEL WITHOUT FEAR may be the thread that stitches this jagged patchwork healing quilt of yours together.

This is Lindsey's signature group coaching program and consists of...

• 6 in-depth workshops or masterclasses (If you’ve been to one of my workshops before, you know about the “LL workshop experience” as my Instagram followers have come to call it. You will not leave wanting anything.)
• 6 in-depth group coaching calls for questions, practical application, curiosity, awareness, and support from me and the other FWF students + homework so you can integrate what you’re learning as we go
• 1 final Integration Ceremony where you will be witnessed and to practice embodying the emotions you learn to fearlessly feel

In this episode, we're chatting about business as a spiritual practice, ethical marketing, and cultivating a reciprocal relationship with one's business with frequent podcast guest Kat Lee. Kat shares her experiences with various businesses and how they have shaped how she does business today. Lindsey and Kat explore the concept of the Dao, a guiding principle, and its application to business and life. They emphasize the cyclical nature of business, with seasons of growth and contraction, and how these phases can lead to greater alignment and clarity in one's business. Additionally, they touch upon the importance of support and containment, especially for those with a more expansive and watery nature. They discuss the importance of incorporating earthy practices to provide containment for emotions, using a nature analogy of riverbanks to illustrate the need for boundaries and strength.

The conversation also delves into the drawbacks of fast-paced, high-pressure business growth and the need for a sustainable, long-term approach. The idea of foundational work and flexibility in business development is likened to homesteading and the careful planning and adaptation required to manage land effectively — without immediate gratification. It underscores the value of slowing down and being open to pivoting when necessary.

Kat shares about her one-of-a-kind group coaching program Business Alchemist Mentorship (BAM), which focuses on business as a spiritual practice and developing a reciprocal relationship with your business. The program covers various aspects of entrepreneurship, including clarifying values and ethics, finding your niche, conscious marketing, and more. It also fosters a supportive community among participants, promoting collaboration and networking opportunities.

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In this episode of the Holistic Trauma Healing Podcast, Lindsey interviews Catherine Quiring, a licensed mental health counselor and self-trust coach who specializes in religious trauma. They delve into the challenges of growing up in evangelical Christianity, discussing the disconnection from oneself and the body, as well as the lack of questioning and exploration often fostered by religious environments.

Catherine sheds light on control tactics used in high-control religious systems and fear-based elements within religious trauma. Lindsey and Catherine explore topics such as judgment, intervention, and the damaging effects of purity culture. They also discuss the infiltration of evangelicalism into non-evangelical spaces and the harmful messages ingrained by evangelicalism, emphasizing the importance of self-trust and reclaiming personal agency.

About this episode's guest... Catherine Quiring is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Self-Trust Coach.  She helps exvangelicals learn to trust their desires and reconnect to their inner wisdom. She also helps people-pleasers learn to trust themselves and recenter themselves at the helm of their lives. She is an advocate for liberating spirituality. Outside of work, Catherine is an avid podcast-listener, book lover, paddleboard enthusiast, and toddler-chaser.

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We're celebrating 100 episodes!!

In this Q&A episode, Lindsey is answering juicy questions like...

• What is the best way to deal with frustration and rage?
• Can a lack of self-confidence come from nervous system dysregulation? And will trauma work "cure" it?
• Any tips to move through ego when I struggle to apologize, even when I know I'm in the wrong?
• What are your thoughts on the Healy (a healing frequency device)?
• How do you recognize negative patterns within you and what are the first steps to heal?

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In this episode, Lindsey interviews Peggy Khoucasian, who shares her journey into holistic modalities and her passion for providing women with integrative, sustainable mental and emotional support. The conversation explores self-expression, embodiment, and authenticity in the healing journey and personal growth of women. Peggy emphasizes the importance of recognizing patterns from childhood conditioning, reprogramming our minds, and cultivating awareness. She highlights the significance of daily practices, such as gratitude journaling and embracing the body's strength.

The discussion also covers the role of nervous system regulation in creating safety within the body and the importance of recognizing and releasing trauma. Peggy reflects on her own experience as an immigrant woman and how yoga helped her find her true self. The concept of feminine embodiment is explored, with an emphasis on moving out of the head and incorporating pleasure, joy, and physical rituals. Stepping into one's power is discussed, including self-acceptance, distinguishing between fear-based and intuitive resistance, and nurturing the inner child. The episode concludes with a conversation on overcoming complacency and expanding the window of tolerance for being seen. Listeners are encouraged to embrace their own unique forms of expression and explore different modalities to connect with their inner selves.

Peggy Khoucasian is a Certified Somatic Attachment Therapist Specialist, Reiki Practitioner, & RYS300 Yoga Teacher. Founder of the Sisterhood Agency, a women's alignment coaching platform & the creator of Daughters of Culture, a women's ethical sustainable clothing brand.

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In this episode, Lindsey reflects on her recent experiences of pleasure and rebellion, highlighting the importance of pleasure in the healing journey. She discusses the shift in her relationship with fear and consequences, emphasizing the need to widen the window of tolerance for pleasure. Lindsey distinguishes between pleasure and fun, inviting listeners to explore non-sexual ways to experience pleasure and rebellion.

In this episode with neuroscientist, author, momma, and doula Dr. Greer Kirshenbaum, we...

• discuss nurture and the science of how nurture actually has the capability to prevent trauma
• talk about how the infant brain is wired and how both nature and nurture play crucial roles; it's not one or the other
• tenderly explore parenting regret, mom guilt, and "I didn't know what I didn't know" when it comes to raising children
• discuss why quality of nurturing is more important than quantity of nurturing
• share why trauma prevention is where our focus must be as the collective mental health crisis gets worse
• discuss the worsening mental health crisis even in the face of people getting more therapy and having more awareness of their trauma and nervous systems
• talk about the high level of support all parents need to nurture their babies
• explore how systems of capitalism and patriarchy condition us to pathologize our children's normal human emotions and needs
• shift the conversation from "what's wrong with my baby and me?" to "what about my child's environment needs to change so they are set up for a gentler, more regulated adolescence and adulthood?"

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This is the second part of a two-part conversation about plants and mushrooms for mental health with herbalist and forager Andi Grace Rose. In this episode, we...

• share Andi's long-standing relationship with psychedelics, which she was introduced to in the music festival scene
• discuss both micro-dosing and macro-dosing
• suggest some resources people can look into if they want to know more about psychedelic medicine, its uses, its history, and contraindications
• discuss the lack of information about psychedelics in the Western pharmacopia
• talk about what an interesting time it is to be alive for the resurgence and potential legalization of psychedelic drugs
• discuss the Spirit Bear microdosing tincture Andi makes with psilocybin and lion's mane mushrooms
• share the benefits Andi has experienced with microdosing, including microdosing during pregnancy and breastfeeding — something there is NO information on
• talk about microdosing's effects on the emotions and increased emotional sensitivity that can cause anxiety when microdosing
• share Lindsey's recent experience with psychedelic support in feeling and processing the grief of her son moving out and transitioning out of the active mothering phase of her life
• talk about one of Lindsey's recent "bad trips"
• discuss the phenomenon of how psychedelic trips change how we approach life and stress without our actual circumstances changing at all
• briefly discuss the implications of taking psychedelics out of indigenous ceremonial use and into the mainstream
• talk about psychedelic's ability to help people lay down addictions to smoking and alcohol
• discuss our differences in how we have used psychedelics
• dive into our thoughts on seasonal affective "disorder" and capitalism
• share Andi's experiences in working harm reduction and trip-sitting for people
• talk about a favorite ephemeral plant medicine: ghost pipe

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In this episode with herbalist and forager Andi Grace Rose, we...

• discuss some commonly used plants for supporting the nervous system
• talk about the complexities and nuance of using allopathic medicine, herbal medicine, and/or a combination of both to support mental health
• discuss using plants and medicines alongside pharmaceuticals
• talk about self-experimentation without fear and with intuition, personal responsibility, and agency
• expand on the neuroplastic properties of mushrooms that pharmaceuticals just don't possess
• elaborate on why hitting the "easy button" of psychiatric medications may not be so easy after all
• discuss using psychedelics and SSRIs at the same time and serotonin syndrome
• expand on micro-dosing psilocybin
• talk about the incredible benefits for both brain and nervous system of lion's mane and other medicinal, non-psychedelic mushrooms
• discuss our shared insomnia experiences and how we've tried "all the things"

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In this episode with Becoming More Me Podcast host and EFT practitioner Theresa Lear Levine, we...

• discuss the many camps of belief around ADHD: from it being a superpower to it being a potential sign of brain inflammation and nervous system dysregulation
• share Theresa's experience of ADHD, what it feels like for her, how it's her superpower, her choice about medication, and how she personally uses EFT
• discuss how Theresa's experience of ADHD was totally fine for her all throughout school, but then really made things more difficult when she became a mother
• talk about why Theresa ultimately sees ADHD as her superpower
• share about how using EFT helps to get to emotional roots of ADHD-type behaviors such as procrastination and overwhelm
• discuss how Theresa can use EFT to help "get her there" when she's not in the mental state for certain things like meetings and work projects
• talk about self-criticism and self-doubt and the role of acceptance with ADHD
• expand upon the connection between ADHD and the nervous system
• talk about how emotional regulation can be challenging for the "ADHD brain" and how EFT tapping can help with emotional processing and regulation

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When your nervous system is really dysregulated, you need safety signals more than ever. Things that signal safety? Slowness, being satiated, co-regulation, sleep, a serene setting, setting boundaries, reaching out for support, and a sense of satisfaction in your life.

The "things" in this episode are the opposite of those safety signals.

In this episode with EFT practitioner and teacher Theresa Lear Levine, we...

• share how Theresa found EFT after struggling to figure out how to be more successful, recover from perfectionism, live with ADHD and high-functioning anxiety, and navigate "normal" life traumas like childhood, divorce, re-marriage, and more
• discuss EFT as a combination of modern psychology and ancient Chinese medicine 
• share how Theresa initially felt she didn't have "severe enough" trauma to benefit from EFT and how she changed her mind
• talk about the "borrowed benefits" of EFT, such as more energy and regulating the nervous system
• give the background of EFT tapping and share its efficacy for things like past trauma, bothersome memories, future worries, anxiety, physical symptoms, and more
• share the benefits of EFT specifically for the nervous system
• answer the question, "Is there anything EFT doesn't 'work' for?"
• discuss EFT as a possible tool for Lindsey's chronic psoas muscle pain and for our clients with health anxiety
• share how Theresa uses EFT to address past traumas, even the stuff from our past we think doesn't really matter that much
• talk about how to use EFT tapping to get off the "Hamster Wheel of Wellness"
• dabble in a little bit of conversation about EFT for ADHD

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In this episode, I'm chatting with The Anxiety MD, Russ Kennedy. Dr. Russ and I...

• talk about his upbringing and the toll it took on Russ' nervous system to be the child of a father with severe mental illness (bipolar and schizophrenia)
• discuss what anxiety is and what it isn't
• discuss being in a victim state and how those of us with anxiety unknowingly victimize ourselves
• share what A.L.A.R.M. really is
• expand on our shared experiences with awareness and the importance of awareness in anyone's healing journey
• talk about the difference between alarm in the body and anxiety in the mind
• share about where we somatically feel anxiety in our own bodies
• talk about Complex PTSD and some of our shared experiences in our nervous systems related to "the voice in the head" and the alarm sensations in our bodies
• share about Lindsey's core wound of feeling abandoned by her mother when her mom gave her the silent treatment

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In this solo episode, I ...

• share about my personal experiences with cancel culture, accountability culture, online callouts, harassment, stalking, and bullying from 2020-2021
• discuss the necessity of having boundaries with followers on social media, especially if you're an entrepreneur, healer, or teacher in the holistic + trauma-healing + nervous system + activism spaces
• talk about the regulation and dysregulation of the nervous system and what that looks like on social media
• talk about the game of Hot Potato we can play with our followers if we meet their dysregulation with our own dysregulation
• discuss the subject of "safety" and triggers on social media and how a false responsibility to create safety for our followers is keeping creators stuck
• share about my own Good Girl's subconscious reactions, fears, and hypervigilance and how that affected my ability to access and express my Authentic Voice
• explain why trying to appeal to the masses on social media will force you to dilute the potency of your Message, your Medicine, and your Magic

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In this episode, I

• share 12 ways to signal safety to your nervous system and why these signals are so nourishing to our nervous systems
• discuss our current culture of urgency, hustling, and capitalism as the opposite of safety; it is a huge source of our individual and collective dysregulation
• share that slowing way down is how we give the middle finger to hustle culture
• talk about how the nervous system doesn't operate on our schedules or care about our convenience
• discuss conforming our lifestyles to support the body rather than demanding the body to conform to unsustainable lifestyles
• talk about the flight state and the emotions and unconscious behaviors of this state (which is the state for which slowness is the most beneficial)
• share ways to practice slowness with intention
• elaborate on the role of personal responsibility in structuring a life that is supportive to healing and regulating the nervous system

In this episode with returning guest Michelle Roberton, we...

• share examples of how mother wounding shows up in our lives
• discuss Good Girl Programming as a "symptom" of mother wounding
• talk about how mothers pass on body image issues
• discuss the subtleties of mother wounding, even in people who would say they have a good relationship with their mothers
• discuss our responsibilities as adult women to recognize how our behaviors stem from mother wounding and what we can sovereignly do to heal
• talk about the powerful shift in our own mothering of our children when we work with and heal our mother wounds
• discuss the healing power of sharing with our own mothers
• talk about the necessary grief we must feel about not having the mothers we needed and deserved
• discuss how we as mothers may overcompensate or with our own children to "make up for" our lack of adequate mothering
• discuss how mother wounding affects our sexuality
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In this episode, I...

• share ways to know if you're operating under "Good Girl Programming"
• discuss the perfectionsim, shame, inner criticism, and judgment that's underneath Good Girl Programming
• talk about recognizing the voice in our heads — the voice of our Inner Judge or Inner Critic
• share a real-life example of Good Girl Programming on social media
• discuss Good Girl Programming as the root of the Sisterhood Wound
• discuss the influences of religion, patriarchy, advertising, media, and culture in indoctrinating little girls to be sweet, complacent, and obedient
• talk about the nervous system state of the Good Girl and why unlearning this programming isn't a mindset issue

Announcing...

UNLEARNING THE GOOD GIRL ROLE: a rock-your-world workshop empowering you to stop being the people-pleasing “good girl”, embrace your fierceness, and break free from shame to embody your authentic self

1. What the Good Girl Role looks like in relationship with Self and others, at work or in your business, and how you show up online
2. What the Good Girl Role feels like in your body and what’s going on in your nervous system
3. Why and how the Good Girl Role develops
4. What is needed to unlearn this role and set yourself free

WHEN: Wednesday, September 21, 2022 at 1pm CDT/11am PDT

COST: $99 — replay included

In this episode with women's health practitioner Adele Wimsett, we...

• talk about women as cyclical beings and why our cycles are our superpower
• discuss ways to honor our cycles through lifestyle shifts
• discuss the gender bias against women that is present in the medical industry
• talk briefly about that gender bias as Lindsey shares her own experience with Pelvic Congestion Syndrome
• discuss the link between the nervous system and endocrine system
• share how we are teaching our daughters to feel powerful and free in their own cycles and how this is healing generational trauma
• talk about menstruation stigma
• share ways mothers and daughters can connect through their cycles

ANNOUNCEMENT:

I'm teaching Nervous System 101 on Tuesday, September 13, 2022, at 6pm CDT.

In this solo episode, I...

• talk about the importance of surrounding ourselves with beauty
• share how cluttered, chaotic environments stress out the nervous system
• give ideas for free ways to drastically increase the peace in our spaces
• discuss our external environments as mirrors of our internal environments
• share why it's never a waste of time, energy, or money to create beautiful spaces
• talk about how the nervous system responds to our external environments

ANNOUNCEMENT:

I'm teaching Nervous System 101 on Tuesday, September 13, 2022, at 6pm CDT.

In this episode, psychotherapist, social worker, and parent coach Teva Johnstone and I...

• question the identity points system, particularly as it appears online, and how neoliberal identitarianism values identity and identity points when deciding if someone is allowed to speak or not
• discuss why people are so attracted to labels and identity markers, particularly after the disconnection from community and belonging so many people experienced in 2020 and beyond
• discuss the labels and identities we hold dear, such as woman and mother
• share Teva's experience with her Instagram account being suddenly deleted without notification after she made a post that went against far left social justice culture
• revist the Chris Rock/Will Smith incident and discuss neurodivergence, violence, and race
• talk about the problem with grouping identities together as if they are a monolith
• talk about colorism and white supremacy
• discuss privilege: when it matters and when it's weaponized to silence people
• discuss class disparity and why that's where we can make the most impact in social justice

I'm teaching Nervous System 101 again on Tuesday, September 13 at 6pm CDT. This is a live Zoom workshop all about the role of the autonomic nervous system, how it's impaired by trauma, the role of brain inflammation in chronic and mysterious symptoms, and what to do about it to start healing. Cost is $55, but financial aid is available, no questions asked. Get on the waitlist to be notified when tickets are on sale again!

My 16-year-old daughter joins me on the podcast to share an incident we had with the Department of Homeland Security during our return from a mother-daughter trip to Mexico earlier this year. She tells the story from her perspective, including what she was feeling in her body and her thoughts on how I handled it as the adult/mom. We talk about trauma responses and what they feel like in her body and whether or not feeling her feelings has been helpful for my daughter. (Hint: she says she doesn't believe that "this stuff works", but what makes me super happy is that she actually has the language to even have the conversation.)

At first glance, this episode seems to not paint me or my work in a very positive light. But what I hope listeners will glean from this episode is that, as parents, our kids often think what we try to teach them is dumb or pointless, but the important thing is that we're planting seeds. Our kids have their own journeys, their own karma to work out, their own soul mission and contracts. There's no way they're going to leave home without trauma or nervous system dysregulation — even with a parent who is a trauma coach and nervous system educator! Still, my daughter has language, and that gives me hope.

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In this episode with the fearless Latonya Williams, we...

• discuss the small-scale Freedom Convoy and how it is a micro movement that mirrors the macro movement of collective awakening
• discuss the 4 points Latonya made in an IG Live that went viral regarding the mass loss of freedom and pervasive surveillance and censoring of social media platforms and government
• share some almost prophetic insight from Latonya's father, how she tried to ignore it to focus on her acting career, and how she ultimately found herself ignited to fearlessly speak up when she realized her dad was right all along
• talk about how Latonya's personal healing and self-development led her to take her power back by making her unconscious conscious
• discuss the seemingly humanitarian and philanthropic actions of men like Bill Gates and Elon Musk and how it's wolves in sheep's clothing
• discuss the way people employ the use of the non-sequiter and ad hominem to shut down critical thinking and discredit those who question their opinions
• discuss the media's bias and faulty reporting and how it perpetuates division and lies
• share some of the corrupt, tyrannical things the Canadian government did from 2020-2022 and how that tyranny fucked the people while benefitting corporations and the elite
• discuss the ongoing food shortages, inflation, increasing gas prices, impacts on farming, and the apocalypse 

In the second part of my two-part conversation with Kirby Criddle, we...

• share an instance when one of Kirby's clients had a spontaneous healing from hearing loss
• talk about the upside and downside of "quantum leaps"
• discuss Kirby's attempted cancellation over a video she made about triggers and self-responsibility
• discuss triggers as a way we close and collapse around pain
• share a story about Lindsey falling, experiencing constriction and closing energy, listening to her body, and shaking and how she remained open
• talk about how openness allows us to suffer less and remain present and move through stress without it becoming trauma
• explain what Kirby calls a "cosmic spanking"
• talk about moving through judgment and shame to stay open
• Kirby shares how different her online cancellation experience could've been if she'd had a Nervous System Hygiene Practice
• share experiences when Kirby remembers consciously closing off and shutting down or exiling parts of herself
• Kirby shares a story about a man she dated who lived a double life and how she convinced herself to ignore her intuition about it
• discuss being closed as a familiar state
• talk about the dance of opening and vulnerability in relationships and how we can trust both our opening and our closing

In this conversation with mystical force Kirby Criddle, we...

• discuss the difference between intellectual understanding and embodied understanding
• talk about the concepts of opening and closing as it relates to trauma, healing, the nervous system, and embodiment
• discuss the effect of energy and its existence prior to how it manifests, first in the nervous system, and then in physical form
• share Kirby's word for 2022 — confluence — and what it means to her
• discuss the traumatized nervous system's tendency to reject entire concepts and make them "wrong" out of a deep fear of not being able to do it "right"
• share the idea of sitting with the discomfort that's present, being curious about what's there, and allowing the discomfort to dissolve and create softeness and openness
• talk about why it's so difficult to discern intuition from fear, particularly if we're disembodied
• discuss our culture's skewed perception of self-trust
• discuss the concept of the nervous system being in charge of physiological processes and also being like a radio receiver that picks up the frequencies of our egos or pain bodies and Higher Selves or souls
• elaborate on openness as being access to a full range of human experiences, sensations, and emotions — not just happiness
• share some of the modalities, like Body Talk, that Kirby uses with her clients
• bring the heart and heart energy into the discussion about the nervous system and coherence
• talk about being closed and why it's not "bad"

In this episode, astrologer and avant-garde thinker Anya Kaats and I...

• share Anya's journey from her Jewish upbringing to her gender and sexuality studies, marriage, divorce, food blogging, chronic illness, agnosticism, and astrology
• talk about the comfort of ritual and connection to something higher, the nature of belief, and the comfort found in belief
• discuss the rise of spiritual influencers, spiritual bypassing of trauma, influencers promising life-changing psychic readings and secret "codes, and Instagram shamans circa 2017
• discuss the nuances of responsible spirituality and how fragile spiritual spaces and practices can be without radical responsibility
• share some of Anya's experiences in spiritual spaces with questionable boundaries and ethics
• talk about some general red flags to watch out for so listeners can better discern and find a spirituality that honors reconnection to Self, Others, and the Planet
• discuss the ancestral connection to the natural world in pre-historic, hunter-gatherer spirituality vs. capitalism and scientism
• share various opinions on abundance as a potential for hoarding wealth and resources

In this episode, I'm chatting with my former client Brynn. Brynn explores the insights, breakthroughs, and challenges she experienced while working with me for 12 weeks. Brynn learned to be more in tune with her body, to feel and express anger and grief, to find compassion for Self and those who harmed her underneath all that anger and grief, and to lean into triggers and difficult emotions without resistance and fear. She shares so openly and sweetly about how trauma coaching, nervous system healing, and awareness work helped her surrender more and more, and she no longer feels like life is happening to her; it's happening FOR her.

I am currently accepting applications for Summer 2022 coaching clients.

In this special Client Journey episode, I'm interviewing my coaching client Chris Willburn. In this interview, Chris shares some of the insights, breakthroughs, and transformations he experienced while working with me. He was able to embody more of his Authentic Self with greater self-trust and self-awareness and release some of the harmful habits he'd picked up when in survival mode (like controlling and micromanaging his body). Chris also shares how working with me helped him realize that trauma has had more of an impact on his life and health than he realized. During our first 12 weeks of working as client and coach, Chris realized he had a lot of brain inflammation that was contributing to some really uncomfortable physical symptoms. Throughout this process, Chris developed more trust in himself, felt a lot of feelings he'd been avoiding for decades, released that stored trauma energy from his body, and began to feel physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually better.

I'm currently taking applications for Summer 2022 coaching clients. 

In the second half of my conversation with Holly Toronto, we...

• discuss the palpable dissonance in the body when we know what feels right for us and also know the potential social consequences we will face if we choose what's right for us
• discuss the therapy world and enmeshment with binary belief and ideologies
• talk about embodying our authenticity after growing up in environments that punished our authenticity
• share about the necessity of a well-resourced nervous system when reclaiming authenticity
• talk about knowing when full authentic expression is unnecessary without self-censoring and the role of discernment in checking ourselves
• talk about developing relationships where we can be fully seen and held in our messiness as we learn to embody authenticity
• discuss the use of labels and identity markers and whether they're helping us or hindering us
• talk about showing up more authentically in romantic relationships
• share about cultivating relationships where authenticity is ever-evolving and accepted as a gift rather than rejected as a threat
• discuss the creation of monoliths, the othering of people, and the egoic need to be "right" — and how nothing in nature thrives in same-ness
• elaborate on the difference between fitting in and belonging
• talk about the expansiveness of letting go of an us vs. them mentality

In this episode with returning guest Holly Toronto, we...

• share Holly's experiences with "us vs. them" thinking in the space of pregnancy, birth, and motherhood and why she's choosing to keep some things to herself.
• talk about the collective's inability to hold grief and other human experiences and discuss fear as the root of this inability
• share the wide range of thought, belief, and experiences on one of the most controversial subjects — birth — and how fear and othering is showing up in other spaces as well, including race, COVID, vaccines, parenting, and more
• talk about the epidemic of self-censorship that us vs. them thinking has created
• discuss the nuances of why people choose what they choose
• share about the necessity of having a village and how us vs. them thinking destroys our sense of genuine community
• share our concern about the next generation engaging in "accountability" culture and cancel culture because our generation hasn't modeled tolerance, inclusivity, and acceptance to them and how it's not just happening on social media
• discuss our shared experiences in fundamentalist Christianity and how us vs. them thinking was engrained into us from a young age

In this episode, mental health mentor Darcey Segers and I...

• discuss the connection between "mental illness" diagnoses and childhood and family trauma
• share Darcey's diagnosis of Bipolar I and the symptoms she had that led to that diagnosis
• share about regulating the nervous system, processing trauma, and the importance of taking breaks in the healing journey
• discuss the importance of researching medications and considering long-term impact of medications like Seroquel, Zoloft, Lexapro, benzos, Naltraxone, and more
• share some practical ways to advocate for yourself without fear and deal with dismissive doctors
• share what to look for in a psychiatrist
• explain why symptoms aren't meant to be gotten rid of or suppressed and what happens when we start listening
• share how Darcey and I have helped our kids to feel into their bodies, be with uncomfortable sensations, and how to move emotions
• share our perspectives on expansion, symptom "relapses", and the nervous system
• share why the inclusion of spirituality is important in healing holistically

In this episode, sexual trauma survivor and healer Michelle Roberton and I...

• talk about dissociation as a protective mechanism for surviving abuse
• discuss how Michelle's process of embodiment resurrected buried memories and flashbacks of her sexual trauma and how she worked through that
• discuss how talk therapy re-traumatized Michelle and how felt sense and somatic work helped her heal and reclaim her sovereignty
• share several ways that our sex is traumatized beyond physical sexual abuse, including menopause, childbirth, and religion
• explore the reclamation of creativity, expression, play, fun, pleasure, and more when we heal our sex
• share the ways nonphysical sexual trauma shows up in men
• discuss the overall detrimental effects of porn on our sex
• explore how sex begins outside the bedroom and what that looks like
• discuss the role of acceptance and forgiveness in healing sexual trauma
• share how Michelle deals with triggers and her daily practice of talking to herself
• share how Michelle playfully and creatively changed her language to create a reality in which she was whole and not broken
• talk about patterns of self-sabotage and noticing the feelings in our bodies while offering nurturing and nourishment to our whole selves

In this episode, holistic psychiatrist Dr. Ellen Vora and I...

• discuss Dr. Vora's holistic approach to psychiatry
• discuss anxiety as a symptom, not a diagnosis
• discuss the necessity of switching echo chambers, especially if the echo chamber you find yourself in is disempowering and keeping you stuck believing that anxiety is a mental illness diagnosis
• talk about transforming our understanding of anxiety
• discuss the difference between "false anxiety" and "true anxiety"
• ask "what is my anxiety trying to tell me?" instead of "how do I get rid of anxiety?"
• share practical ways to discharge anxiety energy from the body and talk about crying as a free, but underrated way to regulate and discharge anxious energy
• talk about the relationship between psychedelics and anxiety and the scientific hesitation to have the conversation
• discuss people who are naturals at life and highly sensitive people who feel like life doesn't come naturally

In this very interesting episode, I chat with Deniz and Celia about...

• what it means to read the Akashic Records of a property, home, or business
• how negative energies become stuck or trapped in homes and businesses and how that energy directly affects the residents, owners, tenants, customers, and children
• the process of opening the Akashic Records of a property and the process of property realignment
• share the types of entities, spirits, thought forms, portals, and more than may be discovered in a property's Akashic Records
• discuss how souls become "earthbound"
• discuss how negative, uncleared energies may affect the sale of a property and how clearing a home's energy can help it sell more quickly

Kerri Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake with an authenticity, passion and purpose that positively impacts others. She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom. Kerri is also the author of several international best-selling books and is the host of the Soul Nectar Show.

In this episode, Kerri and I discuss several key parts of her book, The Second Wave, as well as share a synchronicity and our shared spirit guide, White Eagle.

In this episode with physical therapist and mind-body practitioner Dr. Marysa Meyer, we...

• share Marysa's love for sleuthing out and helping heal chronic pain for people who've "tried everything"
• share why people deal with chronic pain through the lens of the nervous system (hint: chronic pain is a nervous system response and NOT necessarily indicative of pathology or structural issues)
• discuss the very unique expression of symptoms of a dysregulated nervous system, including chronic pain
• discuss attachment — to pain, identity, and outcomes
• share the profound usefulness of slow, gentle, subtle movements for body connection, nervous system regulation, and healing
• talk about the importance of finding an anchor to help sit with chronic pain

In this episode with Emotional Alchemist and Daoist Practitioner Kat Lee, we...

• discuss the pull between wanting to honor ourselves as individuals while also wanting to honor the collective
• discuss the relationship of balance between nature and our human experience through Kat's Daoist perspective
• talk about spirituality and healing sometimes feeling like an itch we can't scratch
• discuss healing as a mostly subtractive process
• talk about discerning our sovereign, autonomous choice from the external voices of what we "should" do
• talk about the roles we take on to survive, the Drama Triangle, and vacillating between roles
• share why we can't get behind "love and light"
• discuss labels and identity markers and why they don't matter as much as how we care for ourselves and our nervous systems within our own experience of the world

In this episode, I'm sharing 9 free ways to support your nervous system — no cost whatsoever action steps you can start doing as soon as you turn off this episode!

I'm also teaching my foundational workshop, Nervous System 101, on 2/1/2022. Tickets are $55, but if you need financial assistance, please send an email to hey@lindseylockett.com or DM me on Instagram (@iamlindseylockett).

In Nervous System 101, you will learn

• what your Autonomic Nervous System is and how it works
• Polyvagal Theory distilled down in a way that even a 5th grader can understand
• how the Autonomic Nervous System is heavily involved in the development of many chronic and mysterious health conditions and "mental illnesses"
• how the different branches of your nervous system behave when under threat (ie. the difference between "fight" and "freeze" from a physiological point of view)
• what trauma really is and how it affects your brain
• why healing is a mostly subtractive process
• the 4 Pillars of Holistic Trauma Healing

Seats are limited to the first 100 people, so reserve your spot TODAY!

In this episode, author of The Fuck It Diet and Tired as Fuck, Caroline Dooner, and I...

• discuss her first book The Fuck It Diet, fixation with food, perceived food addiction, restrictive diets, and fear-based eating
• talk about building trust with our bodies and why we live in a culture that rewards an obsession with wellness and thinness but doesn't reward intuition and self-trust
• share Lindsey's experience with her spontaneous Fuck It Diet, weight gain, and dealing with the mental voice that says, "You can't keep eating whatever you want."
• share why Caroline intentionally gave herself 2 years of rest, quit pursuing an acting career, and how Marie Kondo's tidying up helped her with her lifestyle
• talk about lifestyle inflammation: what it is, how it shows up, why we have to reduce it, and the guilt that shows up when we do
• talk about letting go of health perfectionism and fear-based eating and getting to a place of intuition and care
• talk about listening to your body and seeking medical help from a grounded, non-urgent place of sovereignty
• explain why most people won't let themselves heal their relationships with food, intuition, and their bodies
• discuss the traumatic impact our thoughts have on our bodies and nervous systems
• share Lindsey's 4 Pillars of Holistic Trauma Healing (first time EVER on a podcast!)

This is the second part of my conversation with Dr. Jennifer Love. Part 1 is Episode 64. In this episode, we...

• discuss how health paradigm shifts when we look at health through the lens of the nervous system
• discuss the physiological cascade of symptoms, such as hormone imbalances, autoimmune issues, "mental illness", menstrual irregularities, and other chronic and mysterious health issues that arise as a result of chronic stress and a dysregulated nervous system
• discuss the potential effects of chronic stress on the brain
• share briefly about a healing protocol, called the Nemechek Protocol, that has been immensely helpful for Lindsey
• talk about the dumpster fire of 2020-2021, the anger, division, and politicization of medical choice and the effects that's having on the collective
• discuss the role of conscious choice to disengage from behaviors, like watching the news, that create more stress and choosing community, family, and joy instead
• discuss sources of overstimulation that are part of everyday life and how we can choose to disengage from them
• share some of our own self-motivating tools for de-stressing and getting through hard times
• talk about self-sovereign choices for developing resiliency

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Love and I...

In this episode, Holistic Pelvic Health practitioner, healer, and midwife Kate Coletti and I...

• share Lindsey's journey of treating and healing hypertonic pelvic floor dysfunction
• discuss the chronic disconnection from our pelvic bowls and pelvic floors
• talk about holding stress, tension, and trauma in the pelvic bowl and pelvic floor
• share how reconnecting with the pelvic bowl/pelvic floor echoes into the rest of a woman's life and creates more openness and less rigidity
• talk about the energetics that are stored in the pelvic floor and fascia and why it's important to "clean it out"
• discuss various manifestations of tension, heaviness and trauma in the pelvic floor such as pelvic floor weakness, displacement of organs, prolapse, and more
• explain the process of mapping and sweeping the pelvic bowl to clear out stagnancy and nurture the connection to our pelvises
• discuss releasing tension from the jaw, face, and throat as a way to begin to release tension from the pelvis
• share the correlation between the state of the pelvic floor and the common state of women who carry so much for everyone and how reclaiming parts of ourselves can increase pelvic health
• talk about Yoni steaming, self-care bodywork, fascial release, pelvic mapping, breast massage, and other forms of self-care
• discuss menstruation in a patriarchal culture
• talk about free bleeding, menstrual cups, disks, organic tampons, and more body-friendly options for our blood and using options that support your pelvic floor/pelvic bowl
• share about the natural cycle healing that can happen when menstruation is viewed as a powerful spiritual and physical force vs. an inconvenience
• discuss menstruating on the full moon vs. the new moon
• talk about how our connection to our pelvic bowls and cycles can heal sisterhood

This is the second half of my IRL conversation with community organizer and BF Honor Schauland. We're zooming in on our discussion about community to focus on cultivating close friendships. In this episode Honor and I...

• share more about the importance and necessity of community during the Apocalypse (hint: we're already in it!)
• give listeners a glimpse into our own trauma-informed, real-life friendship 
• talk about navigating conflict, establishing safety, and moving past our differences
• share why, on paper, our friendship doesn't make much sense
• explain how our shared understanding of trauma has given us the ability to custom-design a close, intimate friendship
• share how we've thrown out the checkboxes of identity when it comes to cultivating close friendships
• explain why shared experiences isn't necessarily the main ingredient in a healthy, thriving relationship

In this episode — the first ever recorded in person! — community organizer Honor Schauland and I...

• discuss broader community and work our way down to inner circle community
• talk about the importance and necessity of embracing differences in our very rural community
• share that humans do not have a monopoly on community and that other-than-human beings do community quite well, often better than we do
• discuss the "checkboxes" we humans like to use to categorize people, which isn't very effective
• contrast "fitting in" with true belonging
• contrast Lindsey's former life as an evangelical Christian with built-in church community to building a truer sense of community outside the church
• discuss the Apocalypse at length — why it's not at all like Hollywood, why we're already in it, and why community matters