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How Do You Want To Be Seen?

How Do You Want To Be Seen?

By Lisa Arnold

Asking, discussing, and answering the question, How do you want to be seen? Far, far more than how we want to look, or even how were are looked at.

How we live our lives, show up every day, and the principles, ethics, and personality we bring to our personal and professional lives ~ this is how we are seen. So why not decide how you'll be seen?
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Emily Aborn ~ She Built This

How Do You Want To Be Seen?Mar 30, 2020

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What Do We Do When We've Lost Ourselves? - Debbie Freeman #46
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'We're All So Much More Than The Beliefs We Allow To Bog Us Down ~ Emily Aborn (#46)
Mar 24, 202252:24
'I Knew I Needed A Change' ~ Kara Bitar (#45)
Feb 17, 202201:07:42
Roadtrip 2022
Feb 10, 202204:27
Emily Otterman - The Gratitude Project (#43)

Emily Otterman - The Gratitude Project (#43)

Emily has been creating most of her life.  The project she's displaying now at Labelle Winery in Derry, NH goes beyond pretty pictures.  Listen as she discusses the very personal motivation that has prompted her to commit to this years' long endeavor. 

It was so easy spending time with her and I'm looking forward to experiencing her work in person.  It's available through August 30th.  If you know someone who would be touched by this exhibit please, do share. 

https://www.emilyotterman.com

https://www.emilyotterman.com/#/the-gratitude-collection/

Aug 01, 202145:27
"Suffering is a Wicked Good Teacher, Until You Get a Better Teacher" Karen Kenney (#42)

"Suffering is a Wicked Good Teacher, Until You Get a Better Teacher" Karen Kenney (#42)

Much of Karen Kenney's thinking is aligned with my own.  And even in areas where we may differ I feel such a depth of respect for her.  You're going to hear why her choosing the path she has is incredible, not just for its own sake but for the obstacles that could easily have pushed her in another direction.

This was a fun, moving, touching conversation.  Thank you Karen.

We mention a lot of worthwhile information that may be of interest to you. Here are some Karen is passing along:

KK Website: http://karenkenney.com

The Karen Kenney Show Podcast: https://www.karenkenney.com/podcast

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/karenkenneylive/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karenkenneylive/

Free Gift - Your Spiritual Team: https://www.karenkenney.com/freebie

And I mentioned the books You Are Not A Rock written by Mark Freeman and Feeling Good by David Burns

Not for the first time, a thank you to Emily Aborn for the connection, the support and way you make it all look so easy.

Jun 29, 202159:37
And Now The Tables Have Turned. (#41)
Jun 08, 202127:56
"You Have To Sit In The Fire" Sonya Lyn (#40)

"You Have To Sit In The Fire" Sonya Lyn (#40)

That doesn't sound terribly appealing, does it?  But ask yourself this; how many wonderfully, life-changing experiences have you had that didn't involve work?  When I heard Sonya use that term, sit in the fire I immediately went to the refining process. Without that extraordinary heat and pressure the finest gold cannot meet its full potential.  

This is the second of two conversations around life with those with narcissistic  tendencies (Please click here to listen to that first conversation).  As with the first with Tammy Jordan, this conversation does address the real challenges that come from these relationships.  However, I also really wanted to get into what is it about those who draw or are drawn to those with these tendencies that can be recognized, and helpful.  

I've received a lot of feedback from this conversation, and I'm deeply grateful.  At the end of this episode I'm asking for your help with another highly sensitive topic.  Please reach out if you're interested in helping.  

Here's Sonya's contact information.  She wants to help. 


Jun 04, 202101:13:24
"You Know...The Only Truth Is Love" Tammy Jordan's son, Finn (#39)

"You Know...The Only Truth Is Love" Tammy Jordan's son, Finn (#39)

I know, this one's going long.  Add to that, we're getting into some pretty heavy stuff.

Tammy Jordan was introduced to me through the She Built This network group (Thank you Emily & Erin).  I indicated that I was interested in recording a conversation with someone qualified to discuss narcissism and narcissistic personality traits as well as the challenges that come with caring for someone with these characteristics.  The request was kind of out of the blue but the response was quick and enthusiastic.  Tammy has written a book describing her own experiences both as a child and residual affects as she is herself now a mom.  

She readily attributes much of her own growth to various authors; all of the pertinent links are below.  Included is a link to the video version of the recording.  I will say that as I edited the episode I saw a lot of discomfort in my own reactions.  That is not to say to I regret having had the conversation, not at all.  But if you want to see me squirm...

There will be another conversation in a couple of weeks with Sonya Lyn following up and taking a look at the individuals who see themselves drawn towards those who exhibit hurtful behavior.  It's also kind a of tough episode, but hopeful. I'd like to consider having a round-table discussion with a small group and someone like Tammy or Sonya to field questions.  It's clear there are a number of people impacted.

Thank you Tammy.  Thank  you all who responded to my request. Enjoy.

Video version of our conversation

Tammy's book: Returning to Whole (free first chapter)

Purchase Returning to Whole through Amazon

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.

Waking the Tiger by Peter Levine

Peter Levine's organization

Tammy's headshot was created by Alexandra Chan

May 07, 202101:45:49
"I'm On A Mission To Change The Conversation Around Creativity" Angie Follensbee-Hall (#38)
Apr 29, 202130:03
The Healing Power of Music ~ Christopher Booth (#37)
Apr 27, 202125:32
"If You Don't Like What You're Seeing Without, Start Working Within" Dr. Amanda Barrientez (#36)
Apr 20, 202149:09
"I Want To Be Seen At Peace" LaurieAnn Campbell
Mar 26, 202150:45
'You're Going to Have Highs and Lows; Deal With The Lows, Focus on the Highs'. Lori Baker Schena
Mar 19, 202129:36
'You Can't Give From An Empty Vessel" Lucy Weed
Mar 12, 202132:13
How Can We Help Our Bodies? Amy Novotny
Mar 04, 202141:08
'My Goal Is To Help Women Feel Gorgeous' Jennifer Ginty
Feb 26, 202131:42
'As a Model of 'Anything is Possible.'" Kasey Mathews
Feb 19, 202137:33
Massaging Mailmen - Meg Poor
Feb 11, 202100:24
The Woman Gave a Mailman a Massage on the Street - Meg Poor
Feb 11, 202123:24
What Stops You?

What Stops You?

Discomfort. Guilt. Anxiety. Money Blocks. Insecurity. Lack of confidence. 

How would, or perhaps how do these issues stop many of us from reaching our goals?  This episode gives you a very brief synopsis of a three-day event with six presenters taking on these challenges.  As you listen, if you find yourself wanting more please click here to register and get free access to the entire event.  

We know that even taking a full hour each isn't enough time to topple these obstacles so we are arranging round table discussions to help grow your business or face personal issues together.  If you would like to be a part of these open, yet directed conversations please let me know here.  

Feb 02, 202136:42
"I want to be seen as giving generously from a caring, non-judgmental place" ~ Ashley Nanney

"I want to be seen as giving generously from a caring, non-judgmental place" ~ Ashley Nanney

In order to grow our businesses you need to Be Seen.  

Marketing ourselves can take time and energy we just don't have. 

These are two conflicting truths. If you own a business you probably know just what I'm talking about. 

That is what Ashley Nanney and her collaboration of marketing pros does for her clients.  Imagine being able to do what you love about your business confident that the tools are being implemented to make it grow.  Ashley's focus, due in large part to her own history with wellness, is in working with those businesses who are committed to help others with their wellness.  My not-so-secret hope though is that she someday will be able to offer her services to all small businesses.  I have a whole list of people who need it. 

"If there's something to share from my journey ...that is useful and powerful...I want to be seen as her." Ashley Nanney


Jan 07, 202142:03
Where Is The Edge of Your Comfort Zone? Sandy Demarest

Where Is The Edge of Your Comfort Zone? Sandy Demarest

What is your comfort zone? Does it provide real comfort or a justification for not reaching further? This conversation deals with what to do when you want more but just aren't sure how to get 'there'.
Imagine being as excited about Monday morning as you are about Friday afternoon. That's Sandy Demarest's goal for her clients.
How do you feel about your comfort zones? If they are keeping you from moving forward what are you missing out on?
Photo credit goes to Kristin Hardwick
Dec 07, 202034:11
'I want to be teacher who helps people find..their own power.;  Deb Arthur
Nov 22, 202034:08
"I want to be seen as someone who gives others permission to live the life they want." ~ Judy Fine

"I want to be seen as someone who gives others permission to live the life they want." ~ Judy Fine

This episode has been published and can be heard everywhere your podcast is available.

I love this conversation.  I love what Judy Fine is doing.  I didn't know anyone was doing what she's doing.

If you are one of those people who don't have anything against the  'normal' lifestyle of a house and kids and mortgage and a couple of  cars...but you just don't see it as your thing.  You're going to like  this.

Nov 15, 202027:07
'I want to be seen as someone who is living a really cool life' Liz Sumner
Nov 08, 202022:22
"I Want To Help People; That's Where I Find The Most Joy" ~Jon Ingram

"I Want To Help People; That's Where I Find The Most Joy" ~Jon Ingram

If you're in business you are likely aware of business network groups whether international organizations like BNI or perhaps local 'grass roots' groups.  They are often a powerful force for growth. In fact my own portrait business has benefited from a local group, Evolution Business Development here in the Monadnock region.  But my guest today, Jon Ingram has filled a different need for business owners. a different way of connecting.  Imagine gathering a handful of people you respect and having the opportunity to meet weekly for full, honest conversations.  No sales pitches. No elevator speeches.  No exchanging of upcoming events.  Rather, a supportive group where ideas and concerns are exchanged with the intent of growing as individuals.  How would your business benefit from that kind of group?  That's what Jon has done here.  Here's ready to arrange new groups.  If you operate a small business, one with no board members, often not even a partner, you know the value of connection and feedback.  Here's a quick intro.

You can see two members of the group of which I'm a member talk about just a few of the ways they benefit.  

Jon Ingram's Facebook

Testimonial from Jeanne Demers & Judy Blake

Nov 02, 202039:41
'I would like to be seen as a guide'. Emily Benson
Sep 21, 202028:51
'I Want to be seen...period." ~ Amy Nelson
Aug 17, 202039:08
"I want to be seen as a cross between David Bowie..and a fat English nanny." Becky Karush
Aug 07, 202037:09
"I want to be seen as someone where others will say: 'If you did that, I know I can, and I will too'." Heather Sweeney

"I want to be seen as someone where others will say: 'If you did that, I know I can, and I will too'." Heather Sweeney

Heather Sweeney, like so many of us has worked through those difficult times.  That's not why her story is one to share; it's because of how she did it and what she's learned along the way.  

In our conversation she shared quite a bit about the projects she's supporting through nonprofit organizations.  If you'd like to learn more ask her.  And in the meantime, here are some relevant links.

Team In Training   Climb 2 Cure {Kilimanjaro) 

The Leukemia & Lymphoma Society (LLS)

Thank you Heather for you decision to be positive and to share with others your strength, empathy and compassion.  

Photo credit goes to Kristin Hardwick.

Jul 27, 202032:52
"My Interest is My Blocks...What Keeps You Stuck..." Jeanne Demers

"My Interest is My Blocks...What Keeps You Stuck..." Jeanne Demers

"Out of your vulnerabilities will come your strengths." Sigmund Freud 

Can our weaknesses, our 'soft spots' really lead us to our strengths?

This is the second time Jeanne has been on the podcast.  I was first introduced to Jeanne as an EFT Tapping coach.  She's still offering that to her clients. But as you'll hear in our conversation Jeanne is welcoming the reality of change and growth and learning from past unpleasant circumstances.

See how she's developing programs to help you use your vulnerabilities to produce your greatest strengths.  And to learn more about how EFT Tapping works, especially if you are having money issues, enjoy our previous conversation.  

Jul 12, 202033:29
"I want to be seen as a person that is caring, passionate about life, and about possibility." Diana Place-Third Act Quest"I want to be seen as person that is caring...passionate about life, and about

"I want to be seen as a person that is caring, passionate about life, and about possibility." Diana Place-Third Act Quest"I want to be seen as person that is caring...passionate about life, and about

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"

Mary Oliver

Do you know?  How long has it been since you asked yourself that question, or one like it?  A simple life is a good life.  A purposeless life, not so.  And the thing is, we all can reach for and attain that which fills us.  Diana Place, of Third Act Quest has decided not only to do that but to be a resource for others who would like find what fills them.  Unfortunately I had to limit our conversation's time but you can learn more by visiting Diana.  She's got big plans.

“Live Now, Live Forward: Designing your ‘Third Act’”

A transformational four-week online workshop that will guide you to create a plan for the life of your dreams.

When is the last time you took the time to create a plan for your life?  For most people, the answer is never.

This workshop is for you if you're 50+, wondering what's next.  It's for you if you'd love to unearth your dreams, rise above all the stress and uncertainty to explore your life's possibilities.   You'll be guided through a step by step process including video instruction, an online course & weekly small group coaching calls with me.   At the end of 4 weeks you will have designed a life framework for your future, full of joy and meaning-- your "Third Act".   Summer Sessions start July 9, July 23, & August 6.  The workshop is designed to take only 3 hours per week.

Links for Information, Testimonials and to set up a Call with me to see if this program is right for you:
"Live Forward" online workshop Info and Sign up
Third Act Quest's 2020 offerings -- coaching, workshops and events
Testimonials
Set up Call with me with questions and to see if this program is right for you

Jun 28, 202043:30
"I Want To Be Seen As Somebody Who Makes A Difference" ~ Liz Wyman

"I Want To Be Seen As Somebody Who Makes A Difference" ~ Liz Wyman

"To be courageous, we must be willing to surrender our perfectionism, if only for a moment. If my self-worth is attached to being flawless why would I ever try to learn anything new? After all, learning requires mistakes." Vironika Tugaleva
We all admit to imperfection, we recognize it as an indivisible part of being human. But when faced with specific imperfections, or when our striving for excellence escorts us over the line into perfectionism we often find ourselves feeling unsettled. What some see as an admirable attribute, that of reaching beyond excellence is in fact paralyzing to many.
Listen to Liz Wyman share her experience of falling into a 'dark place' and how she traded in fear for love.
In this episode I mention a book called You Are Not A Rock. It was referred to me by a dear friend. I'm not a therapist and so am not recommending this book as treatment, but I'm finding it to be a good read. I also refer to Car Van Leuven (I mention her but not by name). I want to link my conversation with Cara because of her own process of reaching for excellence and finding joy and contentment. Here's a look at Cara's paintings. (Photo credit of Liz goes to Miss MegaBug (Meg Brown).)
Jun 22, 202043:39
Melissa Scherer ~ Fitness, Nutrition & Transformation

Melissa Scherer ~ Fitness, Nutrition & Transformation

"Growth must be chosen again and again.  Fear must be overcome again and again."   Abraham Maslow

It is true that with growth and transformation there is often challenges.  But for those who face those challenges the results can be so satisfying, even life-changing.

Melissa Scherer is a fitness & nutrition coach working remotely with her clients long before it was a thing.  Tailoring her plans to fit the individual needs of each person.

The conversation also mentions Sue Bruce Photography a successful, inspiring photographer who has helped me shape my business.  She deserves to be credited.

Jun 15, 202032:54
"Growing Up Girl' ~ Lori Pedrick
Jun 08, 202034:44
"I want to be seen as a person who will hear you." Cheyenne Vaughn ~ Creative Writing Coach

"I want to be seen as a person who will hear you." Cheyenne Vaughn ~ Creative Writing Coach

Somewhere along the way we let go of the power of the written word.  Not all of us, of course, but it's undeniable that society today relies less on telling heartfelt stories in a way they once did.  With 280 character limits and the immediacy of social media in general the lost art of putting pen to paper seems to be left to generations past.  

But words matter.  Using the 'right' words matters.  Sitting with our thoughts and feelings can help us find our thoughts and feelings and put them into words.  Cheyenne is a copywriter, she helps small businesses choose the words to represent their business.  But she also encourages those with the inclination to use the written word in expressing themselves personally.  

This lighthearted conversation was a long time coming.  I enjoyed it so much.  Here's Cheyenne's Facebook.

In the episode I mentioned a local photographer Lisa Scoville. She's creating powerful images, telling the stories of those in her community as they deal, upfront with the Covid19 crisis.  Please visit her page.  

Jun 01, 202028:17
"I want to be seen as free....to be whimsical, to be creative" Julie Trieb; Creator of Designs by JuJu
May 18, 202026:48
"I See Myself Being Here For You." Jillian Miner Wellness
May 11, 202036:11
"I want to be seen as someone who is deserving." Cara Van Leuven
May 04, 202028:20
'I Want To Help People Feel Better In Themselves." Sarah Ann Aborn
Apr 26, 202026:50
Judy Blake ~ Survive & Thrive in Uncertain Times
Apr 18, 202023:10
"I'd like to be seens as someone with so much happiness and joy..." Tricia Heed

"I'd like to be seens as someone with so much happiness and joy..." Tricia Heed

Tricia Heed is a long-time resident of the Keene area. Having served the community as a teacher and now a spinning instructor she has found herself creating beauty.  New to the world of entrepreneurship, Tricia is taking the seeming ordinary she sees around and creating unique pieces of art.  Using sea glass from Europe, rocks from local rivers and beaches she has various lines of necklaces to show the beauty she sees around her.   I had the privilege of photographing Tricia and love the images that resulted.  The one here in the episode shows what I saw in her.  When this is over I'd love to ask you - How Do You Want To Be Seen?

Apr 13, 202017:38
"I Want To Be Seen As A Resource...And To Bring Joy." Brianna Graves ~ Saga Wellness Collaborative
Apr 04, 202030:23
Emily Aborn ~ She Built This
Mar 30, 202025:54
Jeanne Demer - Realize What Matters ~ EFT Tapping

Jeanne Demer - Realize What Matters ~ EFT Tapping

How familiar is this: 'I want to get paid for my talents but when it comes time to ask for my worth, I freeze.  I just seem...incapable of getting paid what I'm worth'?  If this rings true you need to hear this episode. Jeanne Demers knows this all too well and has developed the skills, the tools to help her readjust, rewire her thinking.  Too good to be true?  I know, I thought so too.  Then I worked with Jeanne.  It's still a work in progress, but there is progress.  So much so that I've asked her to join me along with a group of other professionals to present at a How Do You Want To Be Seen In Your Business retreat.  Click here for more information.  And here's Jeanne's information.

Mar 10, 202038:46
Annie Caslin ~ An Unexpedted Financial Advisor (Full episode)

Annie Caslin ~ An Unexpedted Financial Advisor (Full episode)

Annie not only didn't plan on being a financial advisor, if you'd asked her a couple of years ago if she'd consider that path she'd have told you no.  Definitely, No.  

But after seeing the impact of financial burdens on those she loved, and at least as importantly, being shown how she could make a difference, she reconsidered.  

Listen to my conversation with Annie and leave a comment on how the financial crisis, not that long ago, is or isn't impacting your decisions today.  And leave thoughts and questions.

Annie's link

In this episode we talked about a number of resources that you would do well to keep in mind if you're in business or even just considering starting one.  Here are links that may help:

A business development group, a Tuesday Peterborough, Wednesday Keene and Thursday Brattleboro, VT location Evolution Business Development

Women2Women Keene.  Meets the second Monday of each month at Hannah Grimes in Keene, NH noon each day.

Women2Women Peterborough meets the third Monday of each month at European Esthetics in Depot Square Peterborough, NH; 5:30-7:00 pm.

How Do You Want To Be Seen In Your Business is a full-day retreat asking and discussing that questions.  You'll hear from professionals in various fields that directly and seemingly inadvertently affect your business: Social Media; Creative Writing; Life Coach; Money Blocks; Financial Advising; Portraits.  Click here to link to more information including tickets.   

Mar 07, 202017:57
Wait...Can It Be A Good Business If It's NOT Downtown? Jen Brown-Bassle; Manager Supercuts
Feb 26, 202012:56
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