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When our child is tantruming, pushing back or having a difficult time it can be challenging for us to hold space in that moment because we have so many unshed tears ourselves.
Years and years of suppressed emotions that then get "triggered" when our child is going through something or an experience that we have not yet had the opportunity to work through or release ourselves.
So in the heat of the moment, it can be difficult to untangle which emotions belong to us and which ones belong to our child.
A mentor once offered me a very useful shift in perspective and that's what I want to share with you today.
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It can feel impossible to speak our truth when it has been dismissed and de-valued our entire life.
Especially when our subconscious has connected speaking out to experiencing pain.
It can feel scary to find out that our truth looks very different from who our parents think we should be.
Every human walking the earth has a story.
As we come into contact, we cannot help but to project our story onto each other.
When we take the time to get to know our own story, our own beliefs, our own limitations, the more we begin to see what belongs to us and what belongs to the other.
If we are blind to this when we have children, they quickly become the screens for our personal movie.
This is a difficult place and the definitions of these ideas often get wrongly exchanged...
So I want to start by breaking them down a bit.
Threats are empty and cruel.
They simply teach our children to fear us rather than to problem solve and understand how behavior is related to consequences.
There is a difference between natural and logical consequences and we have to be careful not to exchange the word consequence for punishment. Especially when it is handed down out of frustration and anger.
When our children experience strong emotions, it is an opportunity to connect with them. We can help them by offering language to label their feelings and needs so they are better able to communicate them in the future.
Emotional and social intelligence grows and develops through relationship and primarily through the experiences that a child has with his or her parents.
When we offer our children empathy and help them to cope with negative feelings like anger, sadness and fear, we create a foundation of loyalty and trust that our children carry with them throughout their lives.