The episodes of “Look Ma, No Hands” are candid dispatches from the frontlines of motherhood. Join Laura Max Rose as she interviews experts in fields pertaining to motherhood, mothers themselves and all-around heartwarming and thought-provoking folk whom she hopes will make everyone’s motherhood journey easier, fuller and more joyful.
First things first: I'm an epidural girl. Second things second: Latina's incredible, non-judgmental approach to guiding women through childbirth and the postpartum period is why we were able to have such a candid, hilarious conversation about her natural birth experiences and what she knows about birth, perinatal and postpartum care as a doula and founder of Marley and Moo Maternity.
You can learn more about Latina and inquire about her services at marleyandmoomaternity.com or follow her on instagram, @marleyandmoo.
In my last Sex Talk with Dr. Emily Jamea of Revive Therapy, we discussed all the ins and outs (eh hem) of having a healthy sex life postpartum and what that really looks like. In this episode, I'm asking a different question of Dr. Jamea's colleague, Dr. Meryl Cohen: how do we talk to our children about sex?
Meryl Cohen is the author of "Why is this Sex Book Different from all other Sex Books?" and I think you'll find her commentary on how we introduce these kinds of conversations to our children fascinating. We also dive into a discussion about gender identity and more that you don't want to miss!
I expected to talk about "cramming it all in" when I greeted Aimee Woodall for our interview, but instead our conversation evolved into a heartfelt chat about self-care, honoring our time and living a full yet un-frazzled life. I was so refreshed by Aimee's daily routine, perspective and workplace implementations such as an office concierge that helps her employees with daily tasks like dry-cleaning so they can actually focus on their work AND enjoy their time off on the weekends. Aimee founded The Black Sheep Agency, an Inc.com Best Place to Work and local brand strategy and creative agency that breaks barriers and activates people around causes that truly matter. She does all of this while raising two little ones (one of whom made an early and extremely emotional entrance that she discusses in this podcast) and I know you'll be nodding along with so much of what she has to say.
In this episode of "Look Ma', No Hands", personal organizer Ellen Cooley confirms what I've long suspected: our outside "mess" or lack thereof is a reflection of whatever we have going on inside of us (not sure what that says about my vehicle, which could certainly qualify me for an episode of "Hoarders: Buried Alive.") Clutter can often stem from chaos, which obviously includes the chaos of raising little ones. How can we stay tidy with tinies? Ellen answers all of our questions and speaks to the way organization has helped her keep her own anxiety under control is this conversation you don't want to miss.
To learn more about Ellen or to work with her, visit her online at www.southernsequence.com or follow her on Instagram, @southernsequence.
Forget everything you think you know about sex and dive into this episode about sex postpartum, the science behind our sex drive and lack thereof, why "scheduling sex" might not be as weird as you think it is, and what all couples should consider when approaching a healthy relationship in and out of the bedroom.
What are the core traits that make someone successful? I'll give you a hint: it's not about being perfect at everything. It's not about being all things to all people, all the time.
"We're built with a set of gifts," explains Denise Hamilton. "You are not designed to impact the world through your weaknesses. You're designed to impact the world through your strengths."
Forget editing and filtering your favorite snaps and think about how you filter what you see on social media. Why? Because our self-worth, ability to "start" the projects we've been dreaming of and embrace who we are as parents and people depends on it. Most of us can only do a few things really well, so why are we suddenly so hung up on doing everything perfectly? The energy we're putting in to firing on all cylinders in every area of life is draining us and causing burnout in epic proportions. Not only that, but we're expecting the same of our spouses and others around us in a way that's detrimental to our happiness and mental health. But alas, there is oh-so-much hope. Hear it, listen to it and feel it in this latest episode of LMNH with the one and only Denise Hamilton, founder of Watch Her Work (www.watcherwork.com.)
Denise has been featured on NPR, Forbes, FOX, Huffington Post, CBS, NBC and most recently as the host of “Project Comeback” on Lifetime. She has been featured in Huffington Post, Ebony Magazine, Xconomy, Black Enterprise, and the Houston Business Journal. She was named one of the 41 Most Fascinating People in Houston by the Houston Chronicle and Woman Who Means Business by the Houston Business Journal. She was named one the 41 Most Fascinating People in Houston by the Houston Chronicle and one of Houston’s Most Influential Women by Houston Woman Magazine.
Denise believes that you shouldn’t have to have powerful friends to have powerful information. She is committed to making sure that the information needed for women to build a business, climb the corporate ladder, and get on boards is available to every woman and the men that support them.
At WatchHerWork, Her life is your lesson.
"Denise has been one of the best reviewed speakers of all time. We have female employees all over the world. She was able to engage them at all levels. She is a master at what she does." - Merlex Harris, IBM
Mary Beth Arcidiacono, LMSW is a mother, social worker, consultant, researcher, and advocate. On August 8, 1998 she was involved in an accident with her four children on her family’s drive home from a vacation in Colorado. Her oldest son, Johnny, was killed, and his younger brother, Christopher, sustained a traumatic brain injury.
Mary Beth started on a new path at the unexpected moment of her loss and along the way has struggled, explored, questioned, and discovered things that need to be shared with others. She has become an expert on the realities and consequences of traumatic loss and grief – and offers rare and illuminating practical suggestions for the families and friends of those who have lost a loved one.
Dr. Megan Pallister is a Houston-based OBGYN for the modern era; she does skype calls with her patients for their two-week postpartum appointment so they don't have to trek all the way to her office (can I get a Hallelujah), her Instagram is a transparent, dedicated platform that makes you feel like you have an on-call OB/BFF, and her perspective on delivering babies changed in a major way when she finally had her own baby several years ago. If you've struggled with miscarriage, breastfeeding, baby blues and any of the other bumps in the road associated with life postpartum, you'll want to listen to what Dr. Pallister has to say about her own experiences and how she uses her practice to make this world a brighter, better place for pregnant and postpartum mamas.
Talking to Elizabeth Miller of Elizabeth Miller Therapy was like walking into a warm hug. She's a psychotherapist and marriage and family counselor who works with women in all stages of motherhood and holds space for their stories, grief, love and hope.
Facebook groups assembled to "support" moms in all stages of motherhood might appear to be communities of support, but underneath the surface, they can be a hotbed for "mom shaming", intense criticism and online bullying. Amanda Ducach decided to do something when she started "Social Mama App", a "match.com for moms" that helps you find your mom soulmates in a supportive online forum. Listen to hear from both Amanda and Amanda Vlastas of West University Moms on how the app is changing the game when it comes to friendship postpartum.
"Don't look back: you're not going that way." - Wayne Dyer. Basya Benshushan helps me piece together something I haven't understood until now: I'm not going back to who I was before, not even the person I was after I gave birth to my first daughter, Selma. There is no roadmap in my past for my future. With each child I bear, I grow more into who I am meant to be, and sometimes, I'm surprised by who she is. It's scary being in foreign territory with yourself. And yet, Basya's bravery has inspired my own and I hope you'll listen to this mother of four and CEO of digital marketing agency Pink Cilantro on what it means to evolve openheartedly and stay spiritually grounded in motherhood and beyond.
The best of "Look Ma' No Hands" so far and the upcoming interviews I can't wait to share with you. Plus: my friend who's doing a "no-shop November" and why I'm inspired and the bedroom after babies - why nobody talks about it and every mama wants to talk about it.
Self-care is so much more than just getting a mani/pedi or doing an at-home facial. Self-care is about choices, prioritizing your needs and, as Megan of Willow Crowns puts it, making every decision with the goal of "preserving your emotional bandwidth." We only have so much energy to give to ourselves, our children, and our passions, so it makes sense that being meticulous about how we expend that energy, who we spend time with, and how we choose not to spend our time, makes all the difference in how we feel each day and what our lives look like.
I hope you’ll tune in to this latest podcast episode where Megan and I discuss the holy grail of taking care of ourselves while caring care of others, how she started her hair accessories business with two kids in tow, and what she knows about success in motherhood, business and life. If being a mom has taught me anything, it’s that you can fit what matters into one day with room to spare, so long as you prioritize what matters.
Forget doing your own hair when you wake up to a baby screaming, right? Messy buns, yoga pants - most of us are familiar with this version of the "mom" uniform. But what if we have more options than we think? According to image consultant and personal stylist Natalie Weakly of "Signature Style", it all starts with curating your closet and shopping with some of her highly coveted wisdom. Tune in for countless tips and tricks for how to look and feel fabulous - everyday - in motherhood and beyond. ALSO: 3 people every mama needs to be following on instagram, the perfect earrings for your face shape, how to hang your clothes so you can find them and how to buy them so you love them, and so much more!
Can we still reach across the aisle in 2020? One of my best friends and host of the epic podcast "Hashtag No Filter" is turning the tables on me in this two-way interview where we go into why I started "Look Ma', No Hands", the truth behind my political convictions and why I think the intersection between motherhood and politics is so important.
Chanda Scott's daughter was a perfectly-developing 15-month old when suddenly, everything changed. Chanda came home to find her daughter has an escalating fever and was listless: she could no longer walk, talk or do any of the things that she was capable of just days before. She would later find out that her daughter had contracted Kawasaki disease, also known as mucocutaneous lymph node syndrome, which while extremely rare and treatable, would change their lives forever. In this episode of "Look Ma', No Hands", Chanda tells us how this moment changed her perspective, the way she approaches her business "The Pampered Pickle", and so much more.
I had a 30-hour labor with my firstborn that concluded in a c-section, several months of trauma and some physical agony to follow. I went for the big "VBAC" (Vaginal birth after c-section) with my second birth and now I have a lot to share about the process and what it really means to birth a baby...and a mother. I'm sitting down with the two birth doulas who helped me birth my second daughter Violet to discuss how we can better understand the meaning of birth and the importance of postpartum care for the modern day mama.
For the first-ever episode of Look Ma', No Hands, I'm sitting down with functional nutritionist and self-proclaimed "Period Guru" Jenna Longoria to talk about hormonal imbalance, postpartum anxiety and depression, the side effects of hormonal birth control and how we can use what we know about our monthly cycles to empower ourselves throughout the month and live free-er of what weighs us down hormonally.