Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott

Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott

By Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott

Love & Life is your place for conversations grounded in psych research, psychotherapy, and Biblical truth to help you THRIVE in love and life! Join psychologist Karin Anderson Abrell, Ph.D. and pastor and psychotherapist Elliott Anderson, M.A., as they focus on relationships and how to flourish therein with a holistic approach to emotional and psychological well-being, recognizing we only thrive when we nourish each of these key domains—Mind, Body, and Spirit. Together they bring over 60 years of counseling experience and academic expertise to each podcast discussion and interview.
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Is it Better to Marry Younger or Wait a While? What Does the Science Say? Part 1 Ep. 304

Love & Life with Dr. Karin & Pastor ElliottMay 16, 2024
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Take Charge of Your Health with Cell Fit Ep. 357

Take Charge of Your Health with Cell Fit Ep. 357

Last March I was walking through my all-time favorite grocery store, Seed to Table in Naples, Florida.


Yes, I have a favorite grocery store, and yes, it’s the best ever.


While browsing through the Health & Wellness section, I met Michelle Albergo who was sharing information about Cell Fit.


Cell Fit’s lead scientist, biochemist Tricia Flanagan, created a product like no other! It’s not a supplement, rather it’s a therapeutic enzyme which works at the cellular level to heal conditions and optimize health.


From Cell Fit’s website:


“Our lead scientist, Tricia Flanagan, spent the first part of her 25 year career as a biochemist in immunology and oncology at Brown University.  She studied how healthy cells behave and how they stay healthy.  She developed Cell Fit over the last three years with an attention to purity of product and performance.


Our Super Oxide Dismutase is like no other—our product is the purest brand available and we've exhausted every effort in bringing you the most effective and safe SOD on the market.“


I bought some Cell Fit myself and asked Michelle and Tricia to join us on Love & Life to let us all know the benefits of Cell Fit’s novel approach to health!


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Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson

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Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook

Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

May 15, 202546:32
Cultivating Intimacy with Statements NOT Questions! Ep. 356
May 08, 202534:40
Deepen Intimacy with this Pro Tip from Counseling 101! Ep. 355

Deepen Intimacy with this Pro Tip from Counseling 101! Ep. 355

When you want to get to know someone better, you ask them a lot of questions, right?

Maybe not . . .

This week, we pick up on an important point Elliott made last episode about avoiding questions to facilitate effective, authentic communication.

It seems counterintuitive, but we can actually gather MORE information and cultivate DEEPER intimacy by communicating with statements.

So, how exactly do we do this?

Elliott and I share a foundational technique from Carl Rogers’ Client Centered Therapy—reflective listening.

It’s a simple adjustment that dramatically alters communication.

You can try it today and immediately experience the difference!

Your friends, family, and romantic partners will feel seen, heard, and validated. They’ll know how much you care about them through your reflections of what they’re expressing.

The best part? You don’t have to try to figure out the right words to say or the right questions to ask.

Because, as we noted above, it’s NOT about questions at all!

If you’re ready to level up your communication skills to deepen understanding and intimacy, join us for some Counseling 101!

Citation: Behavior Expert, Chase Hughes, from Steve Bartlett’s Facebook page.

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May 01, 202539:50
The Power of Partnership Language in Romantic Relationships Ep. 354
Apr 24, 202535:17
Sarah Knott's Story: Trauma Recovery Through Words & Beliefs Ep. 353
Apr 17, 202538:50
The Collective Trauma of COVID, Part 2 with Jenna McCarthy Ep. 352

The Collective Trauma of COVID, Part 2 with Jenna McCarthy Ep. 352

Apr 10, 202541:56
The Collective Trauma of COVID with Jenna McCarthy Ep. 351

The Collective Trauma of COVID with Jenna McCarthy Ep. 351

Elliott and I have been doing a series on trauma—which got me thinking about the thing I’m pretty much always thinking about—COVID.


Talk about a traumatizing event!


Since we all—as in, the entire world—endured the pandemic, it certainly qualifies as what psychologists call a “collective trauma.”


Because we went through it together, right? 


Well no, we didn’t. The “collective trauma” wasn’t a unifying experience. Some complied with the proclamations from “experts” on high. Others resisted the authoritarianism.


The COVID event fractured society and pitted us against each other. Friendships broke down. Family members viewed each other with suspicion and disdain. 


We should have rallied together, yet we remained—and remain—polarized. 


How do we heal from “collective trauma” that has so splintered and divided?


I’m still trying to figure it all out.


To this end, we’re launching a series on COVID trauma.


I’m thrilled to introduce our first COVID trauma guest, Jenna McCarthy. She’s the author of Yankee Doodle Soup for the Fringy, Tin Foil Hat-Wearing Conspiracy Theorist’s Soul and The War on Ivermectin:  The Medicine that Saved Millions and Could Have Ended the Pandemic with Dr. Pierre Kory. 


Jenna shares her COVID journey—and yes, her career tanked and friends turned against her. Oh, and that screenplay she wrote—the one Hollywood producers were so excited about? It got tossed once she publicly challenged “the official” COVID narrative.


If, like me, you’re not over COVID—or, even if you are—this episode is for you! Dissidents will feel heard and validated. Those who went along with the program will gain a greater understanding as to why some of your friends and loved ones didn’t.


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Apr 08, 202554:43
Are You Sabotaging Yourself with Your Words? Ep. 350

Are You Sabotaging Yourself with Your Words? Ep. 350

Take charge of your thoughts, take charge of your life! 


Elliott reminds us to take charge of our words, too!


What are you speaking over yourself? Do you talk in defeatist terms? Do you make All-or-Nothing statements?


  • I CAN’T do ___________.
  • This is going to be HORRIBLE!
  • I’ll NEVER be _________.
  • I’ll ALWAYS struggle with __________.


Our thoughts matter. Our words matter. They have an impact on our mood, our behavior, and our ability to thrive in love and life!


Join us for practical strategies for challenging negativity and victim mentality!

Apr 03, 202550:16
My Husband Gets Mad b/c My Parents Want to Hang Out with Us All the Time—Help! Ep. 349
Apr 01, 202528:09
3 Active Movements to Holistic Healing Ep. 348
Mar 27, 202537:05
5 Steps for Cleaning up Our Mental Mess Ep. 347
Mar 20, 202542:04
Recovery Mindset: Elliott’s 3 Perspectives on Moving Through Trauma Ep. 346
Mar 13, 202536:23
Measles Outbreak: 8 Facts We Need to Know! Ep. 345
Mar 06, 202523:51
I’m 49 and Looking for Love. Should I Bother with Dating Apps? Ep. 344

I’m 49 and Looking for Love. Should I Bother with Dating Apps? Ep. 344

Question:What is the best way for a 49-year-old to meet a guy? In person or an app? Cuz it's rough out here!Answer:It’s a jungle out there. I should know. I spent 27 years on the dating scene. I get how frustrating it can be. 😫To address this question, I discuss some strategies that helped me when I was single—ones I talk about in my book, Single is the New Black: Don’t Wear White ‘til it’s Right. I also share how I met my husband through a dating service called It’s Just Lunch. (Hear more about IJL in episode 46 of Love & Life!)Elliott and I offer ways to reframe the frustrating reality of finding yourself out of step with where you hoped to be at a particular age.We also consider ways to utilize dating apps without getting completely burned out.Should you choose to hop on an app, be sure to check out my conversation with Dr. Duana Welch who met her husband on an app. It’s episode 169 of Love & Life (linked below)!Join us for some encouragement and support!Ep. 46 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tired-of-dating-apps-try-its-just-lunch-an/id1183475201?i=1000426094502 Ep. 169 - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/science-says-do-this-to-stop-hating-dating-apps-and/id1183475201?i=1000541395131 Sponsor:The Wellness CompanyWebsite: ⁠https://www.twc.health/lovelife⁠Code: LOVELIFE for 15% off your order!Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott AndersonWebsite: http://loveandlifemedia.com/Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBookInstagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Feb 27, 202515:38
We Broke Up Due to Religion. Can We Still be Friends? L&L Q&A Ep. 343

We Broke Up Due to Religion. Can We Still be Friends? L&L Q&A Ep. 343

Question:  

I met this guy when I was 18 and he was 19. Three years later, I’ve chosen to break it off after realizing that no matter what, my family won’t accept us as a couple. 


For context, I belong to an ethnoreligious group—marrying outside the faith is frowned upon, as we work to preserve our identity and heritage. He was raised Christian, but he’s not devout.


We never met each other's families, I would always be the one to talk about the future, while he just wanted to ''take it day by day.” He never talked about us with his parents or family.


I had several conversations with my mother and because I knew my family would never accept him, I decided it would be best to break it off. When we broke up, he started saying we would probably clash in the future since his family attends Christian church and believes in Jesus.


We chose to remain friends because we value our hobbies together and have the same interests. However, it is sometimes hard to set boundaries when it comes to romantic feelings. 


How do I know if I made the right decision? Would it have been a mistake to leave my family, community, religion, and identity for my boyfriend?


Answer:

Listen to this week’s episode to hear our advice and recommendations for this listener!


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Feb 25, 202514:40
Help! I Regret Taking the Jab! Love & Life Q&A Ep. 342
Feb 20, 202517:53
Love & Life LIVE - Part 2: 5 Love Languages & Attachment Styles! Ep. 341
Feb 14, 202550:31
Love & Life LIVE - Part 1: The Personality of Love❣️Understand Yourself and Your Partner! Ep. 340
Feb 13, 202558:10
How to Handle Valentine’s Day When You’re Single—Or Wish You Were! Ep. 339

How to Handle Valentine’s Day When You’re Single—Or Wish You Were! Ep. 339

The Valentine’s season can be difficult if you’re single and you don’t want to be. We’re wired for intimacy and connection—it’s normal to feel a huge void when we’re waiting to meet our person.


The season can also be rough for couples if your relationship is rocky. You’re supposed to feel all lovey-dovey, but at the moment, you really can’t stand your partner.


Your happily ever after” has turned into disaster.


Elliott and I discuss strategies to move through the season of love. I share how I handled my many Valentine’s Days as a single woman. Elliott provides insight from his 30+ years working with couples in crisis and marriage recovery.


Join us for love and support during the Valentine’s season!


Previous Episode Resources:

Ep. 303 - Paula Scanlan: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/save-womens-sports-with-former-upenn-swimmer-paula/id1183475201?i=1000655071522


Ep. 229 - How to Move Through Loneliness at Valentine's: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-move-through-loneliness-at-valentines-ep-229/id1183475201?i=1000598843007


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Feb 06, 202544:04
Toxic Masculinity vs. Toxic Femininity Ep. 338
Jan 30, 202538:09
Post Inauguration Thoughts: Can Friends Survive the Next Four Years? Ep. 337
Jan 23, 202532:13
Are You Truly Healing or Stuck in Endless “Recovery?” Ep. 336
Jan 16, 202540:58
New Year, New Love—How to Fall for Someone GOOD for You! Ep. 335
Jan 09, 202523:53
Messy Christmas: Broken Relationships During the Holidays Ep. 334

Messy Christmas: Broken Relationships During the Holidays Ep. 334

The holidays can be rough. Family dynamics can be complicated and messy. On today's special Christmas Eve episode we dive into a question Elliott received from a listener about how to deal with difficult family dynamics after a divorce that involves kids. We hope today's episode will give you a sense of support and encouragement during this holiday season. Merry Christmas and thank you for listening! Sponsor: The Wellness Company Website: ⁠https://www.twc.health/lovelife⁠ Code: LOVELIFE for 15% off your order! Dr. Karin & Pastor Elliott Anderson Website: http://loveandlifemedia.com/ Empowered Dating Playbook: smarturl.it/EmpoweredDatingBook Instagram: @dr.karin | @pastorelliottanderson

Dec 24, 202429:59
What if You’re NOT Feeling Merry & Bright This Christmas? Ep. 333

What if You’re NOT Feeling Merry & Bright This Christmas? Ep. 333

Christmas time is here! We’re supposed to feel merry and bright!


But, what if we don’t feel joyful at all? What if we’re pretty darn miserable?


Maybe you’re grieving—it’s the first Christmas since your father passed away.


Maybe you’re lonely—you’re staring down yet another round of holiday parties without a plus 1.


Maybe you’re worried—your kid’s hanging with the wrong crowd.


Maybe you’re depressed—your divorce was just finalized.


How can we experience the joy of the season in the midst of deep emotional suffering?


Elliott and I share our thoughts, along with recommendations and support from Scripture for embracing the beauty of Christmas despite the pain of current circumstances.

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Dec 19, 202436:38
Criminalization of Masculinity: A Pastor’s Response to the Daniel Penny Trial Ep. 332
Dec 17, 202421:31
Inconsiderate Conversations at Christmas - What Do I Do? Ep. 331
Dec 12, 202438:24
Why My Marriage Broke Down with Rachel Hui Ep. 330
Dec 05, 202453:19
Does America Need Marital Therapy? Techniques from Couples Counseling to Heal Our Division Ep. 329
Nov 22, 202437:47
Post Election Stress Disorder: Remaining Connected Despite the Division Ep. 328
Nov 16, 202423:20
Post Election Processing: Managing Your Emotions & Considering the Feelings of Others Ep. 327
Nov 07, 202438:27
Let’s Talk About It! The Misogyny of Progressives Ep. 326
Nov 05, 202415:05
Why I’m Voting for “Hitler”: A COVID Dissident’s Response Ep. 325
Oct 31, 202422:15
Gender Affirming Care for Children: Does it “Follow the Science?” with Psychiatric Nurse David Wayne Ep. 324

Gender Affirming Care for Children: Does it “Follow the Science?” with Psychiatric Nurse David Wayne Ep. 324

It’s such a heated issue—and people on each side believe those who disagree with them are abusing children.


In the last 10 years, we’ve witnessed an exponential increase in the number of kids who feel as if they’re the wrong sex.


Although Gender Dysphoria Disorder remains a psychiatric illness per the DSM-5-TR, it currently is viewed quite differently when compared to other mental conditions.


We don’t “affirm” Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or Bipolar or schizophrenia. We treat clients by providing coping mechanisms and helping them ground themselves in reality.


But, we don’t do this with Gender Dysphoria Disorder. 


Why is this? Why do we abandon logic, reasoning, and science when addressing Gender Dysphoria?


As a psychiatric nurse, David Wayne finds this confusing, frustrating, and appalling—especially as it pertains to the US’s current approach to treating kids who decide they’re actually the opposite sex. 


Join us for an insider’s take on what’s really going on with gender “affirming” care. 


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Oct 24, 202445:48
Let's Talk About It: Wife Guys? Masculinity Gets Political Ep. 323

Let's Talk About It: Wife Guys? Masculinity Gets Political Ep. 323

Oct 23, 202416:59
Faith & Politics: A Pastor’s Take on Voting Ep. 322

Faith & Politics: A Pastor’s Take on Voting Ep. 322

Oct 17, 202441:46
Pandemic of the Unvaccinated? New Data on COVID Hospitalizations with David Wayne Ep. 321

Pandemic of the Unvaccinated? New Data on COVID Hospitalizations with David Wayne Ep. 321

Psychiatric nurse and friend of the program, David Wayne, is back to discuss what he recently shared on Children’s Health Defense’s CHD.TV.


In addition to nursing, Dave has a background in data analytics. Throughout the COVID era, he tried to make sense of the vaccinated vs. unvaccinated hospitalizations—the numbers weren’t adding up.


Databases weren’t talking to each other. Default modes labeled patients as unvaccinated when in MANY cases, these patients had taken the COVID shot.


For those of us who endured derision and scorn for our “selfish” and “irresponsible” choice to abstain from injecting ourselves with a rushed-to-market, mRNA product with no longitudinal studies confirming its safety and efficacy—well for us, these numbers matter.


It matters that, in fact, more COVID hospitalizations occurred among the vaccinated.


It matters that the shot neither prevented infection nor stopped transmission. 


And, it matters that a recent study from the Cleveland Clinic found the more jabs and boosters you took, the MORE likely you are to get COVID.


Dave and I discuss the appalling lack of science guiding our government’s COVID response and the tyrannical jab mandates the administration forced upon us—we’re still astounded. 


If you feel the same—and even if you don’t!—Please join us as our favorite hospital insider reveals what was really going on! 


Citation:

Cleveland Clinic Studies

https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2024.04.27.24306378v2

https://www.medrxiv.org/content/10.1101/2022.12.17.22283625v5


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Oct 10, 202443:35
Masculinity in the Midst of a Father Wound with Bradley Oberrieder Ep. 320
Oct 03, 202450:07
Rescue the Republic: When BFFs Disagree as to How We Do This Ep. 319

Rescue the Republic: When BFFs Disagree as to How We Do This Ep. 319

Dan and I are heading to Rescue the Republic in DC this weekend!


I wanted to share Rescue the Republic’s 8 pillars with Elliott to hear his thoughts. 


  1. War is always the last resort vs. Military Industrial Complex
  2. Sanctify/recodify informed consent vs. Medical Industrial Complex
  3. Banish state media control, surveillance and propaganda vs. Censorship Industrial Complex
  4. Enact a rational boarder policy vs. Immigration Industrial Complex
  5. End lawfare and abuse of the judicial system vs. Injustice Industrial Complex
  6. Secure monetary freedom vs. Finance Industrial Complex
  7. Restore family sovereignty vs. Developmental Industrial Complex
  8. Return to truth-seeking and open dialogue vs. Academic Industrial Complex


For most of our lives, Americans took for granted the values that underpin these pillars. We agreed on these tenets. They were givens.


Not so much anymore.  


Rescue the Republic will bring together Americans from all walks of life and political persuasions. It’s a unity coalition led by Dr. Bret Weinstein (evolutionary biologist), RFK, Jr., Tulsi Gabbard, and others who were formerly on the left but now feel politically homeless.


Elliott shares his thoughts on the movement. What does the Bible say about these pillars? 


I still believe Americans can find common ground. Praying for unity. Praying for peace. Praying for freedom.


If you want to rescue the republic, too, please join us in DC or at least, join us for this conversation!


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Sep 26, 202445:19
Testosterone-Laden Men—A Bad Thing? Ep. 318
Sep 19, 202430:38
My BF Says I’m Trying to Control Him but He’s Going Out Drinking with Other Women… Ep. 317
Sep 12, 202432:15
Pharma Dissidents: Abandoning the Medical Model of Mental Health with David Wayne Ep. 316

Pharma Dissidents: Abandoning the Medical Model of Mental Health with David Wayne Ep. 316

As a psychiatric nurse, David Wayne believed wholeheartedly in the veracity of medical research and the necessity of pharmaceutical interventions—until he saw how ineffective and at times, harmful, these “treatments” were. 


He began to question his profession—especially psychiatry’s pharmaceutical “solution” for every mental health concern.


Then COVID descended, and because he chose not to inject an experimental substance into his body, he got fired from his hospital.


To support others losing their jobs, he attended protests against the COVID shot mandates. He found himself alongside others who shared his values around health freedom. But, he was surprised to learn many of these dissidents were people of faith. 


He discovered they weren’t at all “anti science.” They just knew science must be questioned—always! And, science doesn’t belong solely to government officials or three letter agencies. Furthermore, these dissidents put their faith in God, as opposed to Fauci.


As a psychiatric nurse, David had questioned the tenets of his profession. Now, he began to question his understanding of God and faith.


COVID profoundly changed all of us in various ways. Four years into the COVID era, more and more psychologists and psychiatrists are questioning Pharma’s hold on our profession—not to mention its regulatory capture of governmental institutions such as the FDA and CDC.


If you’re waking up to the Pharma cartel, this episode’s for you!


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Sep 05, 202401:14:12
How Can We Be Friends if You Vote for _______? Ep. 315

How Can We Be Friends if You Vote for _______? Ep. 315

The election is upon us and the political divide—well, it’s probably better described as a chasm. 


So, we weren’t surprised to receive this question from a listener:


“I’ve seen this rhetoric start to pop up on social media, leading into the election:  ‘Don’t tell someone you love them, and then vote for someone who will hurt them.’


How do we deal with this type of divisive statement?”


Our listener also indicated she’s single and in her 40s. She’s an only child, so her friends are absolutely family to her.


Yet, if she votes for a particular candidate, her friends believe she’s choosing to hurt them.


I had a lot of thoughts about this. Like our listener, I have many friends who take issue with my choices around such issues. Most of these friends won’t talk to me about why I hold these values. 


Many people would recommend we steer clear of these topics. Then again, if we don’t talk about what matters most to us, how can we have deep, authentic relationships? 


Elliott and I share how we would respond to a friend who asked us, “How can you say you love me, yet you’re voting for someone who hurts me?”


Elliott brings in the spiritual—“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” (Ephesians 6:12)


I postulate that the “powers that be” gin up “culture wars” to keep us attacking each other, rather than recognizing how the ruling class//oligarchs continue to oppress us.


If you’re struggling to navigate political divisiveness this election season, please join us!


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Aug 29, 202437:40
Abortions at the DNC: How This Relates to Our What is a Man? Series Ep. 314

Abortions at the DNC: How This Relates to Our What is a Man? Series Ep. 314

Aug 23, 202440:58
What is a Man? Part 3: Theology of Man Ep. 313
Aug 15, 202433:19
What is a Man? Part 2: Female Boxing Controversy at The Olympics Ep. 312

What is a Man? Part 2: Female Boxing Controversy at The Olympics Ep. 312

As you’ve likely heard, last week Olympic boxer Imane Khelif beat Angela Carini in a bout that lasted only 46 seconds.

Carini said of Khelif’s punch to her nose, “I’ve never been hit so hard in my life.”

Controversy ensued because just last year, Khelif had been disqualified from competing in the World Boxing Championships in the women’s category because of testosterone levels that were higher than permissible.

In prior Love & Life episodes, we’ve addressed the touchy subject of men competing against women. We interviewed Paula Scanlan (former UPenn swimmer) in episode 303, author Kara Dansky (The Abolition of Sex:  How the “Transgender” Agenda Harms Women and Girls) in episode 245, and radical feminist Isabella Malbin in episode 193.

With the current controversy still brewing, Elliott and I wanted to share our thoughts. We speak to realities of developmental psychology and biology, along with a Biblical vantage point.

We tackle two questions many people currently struggle to answer or would prefer to avoid, “What is a man?” and “What is a woman?”

Elliott and I start with basic biology—if you have XX, chromosomes you are female. If you have XY chromosomes, you are male.

That being said, in some very rare cases of genetic anomalies, determining a person’s sex can be more complicated. Intersexed individuals (or, what is now known as DSD—Disorders of Sex Development) make up 0.018% (Sax, 2022).

We strive to approach this topic from a place of love. As a husband, father, and big brother, Elliott wants to protect girls and women. As a former female athlete, aunt, and stepmother, I want to protect women’s sports and the future of womanhood itself.

Join us for a conversation we need to have, yet many avoid.


Sax L. How common is intersex? a response to Anne Fausto-Sterling. J Sex Res. 2002 Aug;39(3):174-8. doi: 10.1080/00224490209552139. PMID: 12476264.


Fun fact! The author of the article above appeared on Love & Life in episodes 33 and 34!


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Aug 09, 202443:24
Dying to Be Free!  How to Take Charge in Oppressive Times with Dr. Leland Stillman Ep. 311

Dying to Be Free!  How to Take Charge in Oppressive Times with Dr. Leland Stillman Ep. 311

Our world feels increasingly chaotic and morally inverted. And for those who remain skeptical and endeavor to think critically and rationally, it’s extremely overwhelming.


As you know from episode 294 “COVID Trauma:  How to Move Through Post COVID Stress Disorder,” Elliott and I have lost trust in many, if not most, of the institutions we once thought were at least somewhat honorable.


Who can we trust? What’s going on behind the scenes? Who’s actually in charge and why are they so determined to strip us of our rights?


I frequently listen to Dr. Joseph Mercola’s podcast and when I heard his interview with Dr. Leland Stillman, I immediately bought Dr. Stillman’s book, Dying to be Free:  How America's Ruling Class Is Killing and Bankrupting Americans, and What to Do About It.


I devoured the book in a few days. It covers an enormous amount of ground and provides answers to questions like the ones I posed above. 


If you’re not familiar with Dr. Leland Stillman and his work, I’m thrilled to introduce you to him in today’s episode.


Our father told us to “Take Charge” in every aspect of our lives. If you want to know how to take charge in these oppressive times, this episode is for you!


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Aug 01, 202453:12
What is a Man? Part 1: A Tribute to My Father-in-Law Ep. 310

What is a Man? Part 1: A Tribute to My Father-in-Law Ep. 310

My father-in-law passed away a month ago. We knew his death was imminent, so we weren’t caught off guard, but I was definitely surprised by the depth of my grief. I’d only known Max for 14 years and because I was in my 40s when I joined the Abrell family, I hadn’t had the years of connection with him. Yet my grief was significant and multifaceted.


My mom, Elliott, and our brother, Warren, attended the funeral. At the end of the service, Dan opened up the floor for anyone who might want to say something to honor Max. I tried to get my courage up but I was afraid I’d cry too hard and make everyone feel uncomfortable. 


I left the service full of regret for not having shared how much Max meant to me, and how blessed I felt to have been his daughter-in-law. Even though I didn’t have the chance to know Max longer, I nevertheless feel his influence every day in my marriage. He raised the love of my life and for that, I’m so incredibly grateful. 


I wish I’d shared these thoughts with those who attended the funeral. 


At the meal after the service, Elliott told me how learning more about Max stirred within him ideas about what it means to be a man of honor, integrity, and character. Since he works with young men and teaches them at Judson University, he sees how much GenZers could learn from the men of Max’s generation!


To make up for my lack of courage at the funeral, we decided to kick off our new series, “What is a Man?” with a tribute to one of the best there’s ever been—Max L. Abrell.


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Jul 25, 202440:04
Do These 3 Things TODAY to Level Up Your Mindset! Ep. 309
Jul 09, 202442:28
Single and NOT Settling! with Vanessa Maree Ep. 308

Single and NOT Settling! with Vanessa Maree Ep. 308

Please enjoy this conversation Dr. Karin had on the Single and Not Settling podcast!


A note from Vanessa of Single and Not Settling:


"This is absolutely a dream come true. I was so nervous throughout this interview as I could have pinched myself, achieving this goal of mine. You see in 2020 after I was ghosted and the world shut down, I found a podcast by Dr Karin. Her advice on dating and relationships gave me hope, taught me so much of what I know today but also helped me dive deeper into why I was choosing the wrong men, it all began to make sense!! On this platform I created, I saw it as an opportunity to personally thank Dr Karin for having such an impact on my life, where I am today and where I continue to grow.


Dr Karin is such a genuine person, so kind and has the best sense of humour!


I am so proud of myself and proud of this episode.


I hope you gain value from Dr Karin as much as I have throughout the years."


In this exciting episode of "Single and NOT Settling," Vanessa Maree sits down with Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell, a psychologist, author, and captivating speaker.


Dr. Karin opens up about her own experience as a "runaway bride" and so much more! Tune in to discover:



The struggle of walking away from a relationship that seems "good enough."

Dealing with the guilt that follows once you've left that relationship behind, and how Dr. Karin finally let go of that guilt.

Insights into ghosting and navigating the world of dating apps.

The importance of understanding your values and finding someone who shares those same values.

High-status dating: What it entails and the impact when women take the lead in dating.

Exploring Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how it can transform negative thoughts into positive outlooks, especially on your dating journey.


Don't miss out on this empowering conversation packed with valuable insights for your dating journey!


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⁠⁠⁠@vanessamaree_wingwoman

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Jun 13, 202456:37