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LoveBonds

LoveBonds

By Terri DiMatteo, LPC

LoveBonds is among the best Couples Therapy podcasts ranked by traffic, social media followers, domain authority, and freshness by FeedSpot and is among the Best Infidelity Podcasts according to Podessy!

New Jersey’s trusted relationship and couple counselor, Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy, helps listeners unpack the mysteries of love, relationships, and infidelity!

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113: How to Know When It's Time to Call it Quits

LoveBonds Feb 12, 2019

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141: From Trauma to Treatment: Healing Each Person in the Infidelity Triad with Dr. Sarah Fajgenbaum-Teslja, Part 1

141: From Trauma to Treatment: Healing Each Person in the Infidelity Triad with Dr. Sarah Fajgenbaum-Teslja, Part 1

In this first episode of this three-part series, Dr. Sarah Fajgenba⁠urm-Teslja⁠ and ⁠Terri DiMatteo, LPC⁠ discuss trauma and treatment for individuals in committed relationships or marriages whose spouse or partner intimately engages with another outside their relationship or marriage.

Sep 21, 202343:27
140: A Conversation with New Jersey’s Premier Dating Coach and Matchmaker Julianne Canterella, MSW
Jul 20, 202349:01
139: A Conversation with Debbie Mirza, author of "The Covert Passive Aggressive #Narcissist: Recognizing the Traits and Finding Healing After Hidden Emotional and Psychological Abuse"
Apr 14, 202301:00:18
138: Love, Relationships, Betrayal and Healing: An Interview with Couple Therapist Terri DiMatteo, LPC by Sonia Schnee, Founder and Owner of Jersey Indie

138: Love, Relationships, Betrayal and Healing: An Interview with Couple Therapist Terri DiMatteo, LPC by Sonia Schnee, Founder and Owner of Jersey Indie

Many misconceptions exist about love, relationships, infidelity, and relationship repair. In this episode, New Jersey couple therapist and affair recovery counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy in Princeton, NJ. 

This enlightening interview with Sonia Schnee, Founder, and Owner of Jersey Indie, covers the following: 

  • Why is 'communication' not the critical ingredient to a romantic relationship?
  • What defines a romantic relationship? 
  • What is a bond of intimacy? 
  • What is emotional regulation, and why is it so important? 
  • What is the leading cause of infidelity? 

Listeners will surely find these eye-opening and insightful ideas about love, romance, and infidelity captivating and helpful! 


Jan 07, 202357:24
137: The Turbo Relationship with PreMarital Specialist Dr. Mayi Dixon
Aug 19, 202227:15
136: Learn This Advanced Communication Skill For a Stronger Connection

136: Learn This Advanced Communication Skill For a Stronger Connection

Communicating with your most important person can be challenging. Sometimes you need their undivided attention. When you can't get it, panic can set in. To help ensure that you have your spouse or partner’s focused attention, master the higher-level communication skill explained in this crucial episode. 

Dec 06, 202013:18
135: Emotional Affair v Sexual Affair
Sep 28, 202014:29
134: What is a Healthy Relationship?
Sep 27, 202020:31
133: From An Affair to Commitment: What You Need to Know
Sep 25, 202015:22
132: How Your First Family Impacts Your Current Relationship
Sep 25, 202015:38
131: Fierce Fighting Over Small Matters
Sep 25, 202012:08
130: Why Emotional Acuity is Key to Relationship Success

130: Why Emotional Acuity is Key to Relationship Success

Most people think that when it comes to romantic relationships “communication” is key and work hard to communicate more effectively. Unfortunately, that's not what's needed. Emotional smarts are what's needed.

Learn ways to 'up your game' when it comes to emotionally tuning into your partner and having them effectively tune into you. Master this and you'll reap the rewards of relationship fulfillment. 



Sep 25, 202017:25
129: Do This One Thing Right Now for a Stronger Connection

129: Do This One Thing Right Now for a Stronger Connection

Do you find that you and your partner are constantly squabbling over small matters? Underneath it all, there is usually a deeper concern. Most worry that a partner may not really love them, have their back, or really care. It's easy to feel alone in the relationship. Changing just one simple thing can help move your relationship from adversity to connection. Listen now to discover the one simple thing you can do right now that can have a profound effect.

Apr 23, 202005:18
128: How to Talk to Your Partner During the Pandemic

128: How to Talk to Your Partner During the Pandemic

It’s been rough. The pandemic is putting a strain on the best of relationships. Talking about simple matters can quickly become tense and escalate. This episode provides proven techniques to calm tensions so that you and your partner can talk to one another to address the matters at hand. 

Apr 23, 202006:41
127: The Secret to Securely Connected Couples

127: The Secret to Securely Connected Couples

Research shows that what separates couples that are in long-lasting satisfying relationships from those that are not engage in a particular interaction! Tune in to discover the magic to satisfying long-lasting love and connection.
Apr 21, 202011:51
126: Do This One Thing to Protect Your Relationship

126: Do This One Thing to Protect Your Relationship

No matter your situation, your relationship is likely under enormous stress and strain right now and could use a little help! In this episode you’ll learn the one thing you can do right now to see your relationship safely to the other side of this pandemic.
Apr 21, 202008:21
125: How Couples Counseling Helps to Restore and Improve a Relationship

125: How Couples Counseling Helps to Restore and Improve a Relationship

What is couples counseling, and how does it work? How can a couple tell if relationship counseling is effective? This episode identifies the four most common reasons that couples seek professional relationship care, defines the primary aim of couple counseling, and provides ways to assess if the therapy is helping. Listeners can enhance their understanding of this episode by also listening to LoveBonds Episode 118, ‘The Function of the Romantic Relationship’ and Episode 101, ‘How Love Helps Manage Difficult Emotions.’ 

Feb 16, 202022:03
124: The Art of Romance: Heartfelt Ways of Making Your Partner Feel Loved and Desired

124: The Art of Romance: Heartfelt Ways of Making Your Partner Feel Loved and Desired

You and your spouse or partner are in a romantic relationship — so where’s the romance? Whether it comes easily, or needs a bit of effort, this episode is for you! Learn ways to go beyond superficial niceties or simply giving your partner a compliment. In this episode you will discover ways to go deeper— to emotionally move your partner so that they not only feel loved and desired but are more likely to respond to you lovingly and with desire!
Feb 14, 202015:34
123: Getting Through Divorce

123: Getting Through Divorce

Even in the best of circumstances with a lot of agreement between partners, divorce is never easy. It is regarded as one of life’s most stressful and painful experiences. So what can ease the pain and see you through? Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo shares a few ideas that can help.
Dec 26, 201915:36
122: Reflections on the show ‘Married at First Sight’

122: Reflections on the show ‘Married at First Sight’

A New Jersey relationship and couple counselor shares relationship insights and observations based on the show ‘Married at First Sight’ — where brides and grooms meet each other for the first time at the altar!
Dec 22, 201918:42
121: What does it mean to repair a relationship?

121: What does it mean to repair a relationship?

Is the absence of fighting or simply ‘getting along’ indicative of a healed relationship? How about enjoying one another or being polite? How much does mutually expressing fondness and admiration go? Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo provides you with clear insights on how to assess relationship restoration.
Dec 18, 201912:54
120: Can Your Relationship Survive an Affair?

120: Can Your Relationship Survive an Affair?

The future of a relationship is no longer certain upon the discovery of an affair. Four key elements help determine the likelihood that a relationship that has been traumatized by infidelity can endure. Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy in Westfield, NJ, will help in determining the survivability of a relationship impacted by infidelity.
Dec 07, 201915:54
119: Why the "Best Friend" Relationship Model Doesn't Work

119: Why the "Best Friend" Relationship Model Doesn't Work

Do you refer to your partner as your 'best friend'?

On the surface, this seems fine enough. After all, best friends are generally close confidants that enjoy one another. There's a warmth, familiarity and camaraderie between close friends - so what could possibly be amiss in referencing your partner as your 'bestie'?

Listen as relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo unpacks the reasons why the 'best friend' model doesn't work for romantic pairs and suggests another relationship model that is more akin to the romantic relationship.
Dec 05, 201912:19
118: The Function of a Romantic Relationship

118: The Function of a Romantic Relationship

We've all heard relationship advice, have seen relationship memes on social media and have heard 'tips' and 'dos and don'ts' when it comes to the romantic relationship: but what are these ideas and suggestions based on? Many of these suggestions imply that if just one person in the relationship would make changes, the relationship would improve.

Unfortunately, many such notions add to the confusion and misunderstanding already surrounding romantic relationships. Before you can restore or repair a romantic relationship you need to know what its function is, how it works and what it's supposed to do for you.

Relationship and couple counselor, Terri DiMatteo of Open Door Therapy in Westfield, New Jersey unpacks it all in an easy to understand and helpful way.
Dec 04, 201917:12
December 3, 2019

December 3, 2019

Dec 03, 201900:60
117: Exploring the Old Adage "Once a Cheater Always a Cheater"

117: Exploring the Old Adage "Once a Cheater Always a Cheater"

We've all heard it. We've heard it among friends. We've heard it at social gatherings. We've heard it on the television and among relationship experts - 'once a cheater, always a cheater'.
Is is true?
This episode provides an in-depth exploration of the old adage 'once a cheater, always a cheater'.
Feb 17, 201912:57
116: Three Problems With Online Dating

116: Three Problems With Online Dating

Online dating is easy, convenient and popular. Many a pair have met, fallen in love and married through online dating apps - so what's wrong with meeting people through dating apps?
Relationship and couple counselor Terri DiMatteo, LPC of Open Door Therapy shares ways in which online dating works against building a safe and trusting romantic relationship.
Feb 14, 201912:50
115: One Reason Why Affair Recovery is So Difficult
Feb 14, 201912:19
114: Will Your New Relationship Last? One Way to Find Out

114: Will Your New Relationship Last? One Way to Find Out

If you're in a shiny new relationship and things are going great, you might be wondering if he or she be 'the one.' Does your new relationship have enough of the right stuff to go the distance? Is it too early to tell? Here's a quick - but effective - way to determine if your new relationship might have genuine, long-lasting potential. 

Feb 13, 201908:22
113: How to Know When It's Time to Call it Quits
Feb 12, 201909:31
112:Challenging Popular Notions on the Affair Triad

112:Challenging Popular Notions on the Affair Triad

We've all seen the magazine headlines, celebrity gossip stories, politicians who cheat and have listened to the experts that portray infidelity in trite and predictable ways. Our culture tends to simplify and trivialize each person within the affair triad. In fact, the language of affairs also contributes to infidelity misunderstanding. Popular notions suggest that: The one who engaged in the infidelity is portrayed as a heartless, immoral villain and is labeled "The Cheater". The one who's partner strayed is portrayed as an innocent victim who was wronged and made no contribution to the relationship crisis of infidelity. This party gets labeled "The Betrayed Partner". The outside party is demonized as an immoral, sex-crazed home-wrecker and is labeled "The Mistress". (NOTE: There is no gender-parallel term for a male affair-partner). Are these portrayals accurate? Are the roles cast in concrete? Infidelity and affair recovery expert, Terri DiMatteo, LPC challenges these conventional notions and offers a deeper, more comprehensive understanding.
Feb 12, 201926:02
111: The Psychopathic Partner: Terri DiMatteo, LPC in Conversation with Steve Becker, LCSW
Feb 09, 201925:15
110: Terri DiMatteo with Pre-Marital Bliss Podcast Host Mayi Dixon on the Challenges of Pre-Marital Infidelity

110: Terri DiMatteo with Pre-Marital Bliss Podcast Host Mayi Dixon on the Challenges of Pre-Marital Infidelity

What is a couple to do when infidelity occurs before getting married? Mayi Dixon, LPC host of Anchor's "The PreMarital Bliss Podcast," interviews relationship and couples counselor Terri DiMatteo. The two discuss the unique concerns that occur when infidelity happens before getting married. What is the best response, and what is the best way forward? You can learn more about Mayi by visiting her website www.innovcounseling.com and by listening to her at "The PreMarital Bliss Podcast" on Apple Podcasts here. 

Aug 14, 201828:57
109: Why You May Still Be Thinking About An Old Flame

109: Why You May Still Be Thinking About An Old Flame

Do you still occasionally think about a romantic partner from your past? Do you sometimes wonder 'what if?' even though many years have passed and each of you has moved on? Does a particular past person still hold a tender place in your heart? If so, perhaps you have experienced a love that was interrupted rather than an actual break-up. This episode is based on the fascinating research on lost love by Dr. Nancy Kalish.

May 10, 201805:39
108: Making Sense of Infidelity: An interview by Dini of Vigilantes Radio with Terri DiMatteo, LPC
Apr 15, 201801:07:12
107: The Trouble With Conflict Avoidance
Aug 04, 201704:21
106: Was it cheating or not?
Jul 31, 201704:44
105: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part Three of Three Parts)

105: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part Three of Three Parts)

The first task in affair recovery is to fully and permanently conclude the relationship with the outside party or the affair-partner. Full affair recovery cannot truly take place while a spouse or committed partner remains in contact with the affair-partner. While this task can occur expediently, more often than not, it is usually a challenging process that often comes with some backsliding. This stage of affair recovery is a complex and highly misunderstood process. How "no contact" takes place is critical. Listen now to  part one of a three-part segment on "The Complex Challenges of 'No Contact' With the Affair Partner" as explained by affair recovery expert, Terri DiMatteo, LPC.

Jul 31, 201704:60
104: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part Two of Three Parts)
Jul 31, 201704:60
103: The Complex Challenges of "No Contact" With the Affair Partner (Part One of Three Parts)
Jul 31, 201704:55
102: The Surprising Reason People Have Affairs
Jul 27, 201704:40
101: How Love Helps Manage Difficult Emotions and Why It Matters
Jul 27, 201704:27