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Conversations with H.E.R.

Conversations with H.E.R.

By Malane Shani

Welcome to the Conversations with H.E.R. podcast, where we strive to empower and uplift women through insightful discussions and interviews with leading ladies inside the Her First Collective, who will share personal stories of strength and triumph. Our mission is to create a safe space where women can come together to share their experiences, learn from one another, and gain the courage and confidence to dream their dreams and reach new heights. Become the best version of yourself and let's embrace our unique strengths, put ourselves first and make a positive impact in our world.
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High Vibes... High Life

Conversations with H.E.R.Feb 11, 2021

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Magnetize Your Mate: How to Attract and Magnetize Your Mate with the Love for Yourself

Magnetize Your Mate: How to Attract and Magnetize Your Mate with the Love for Yourself

Join for Season 2, Episode 7 of Conversations with Her Podcast as we explore the seven key areas of self-love essential for magnetizing your ideal partner. This episode features Amber Shani of the Her First Collective, offering insightful commentary and sharing gems from Malane Shani's original Clubhouse episode.

Discover how self-acceptance, embracing your uniqueness, practicing self-care, setting internal boundaries, cultivating self-confidence, expressing gratitude, and maintaining a positive mindset can transform your aura and draw your soulmate closer. By prioritizing these aspects of self-love, you'll not only enhance your attractiveness but also elevate your self-value and self-respect.

Tune in as we navigate the journey of building a foundation of love within yourself, empowering you to choose relationships that align with your true essence, rather than seeking validation from external sources. Whether you're single and seeking love or already in a relationship, this episode offers invaluable wisdom for cultivating a fulfilling and authentic connection.

Mar 21, 202401:10:01
Are You Ready to Love?

Are You Ready to Love?

Welcome to Episode 6, Season 2 of Conversations with Her Podcast.

Are you prepared to receive the love you have been asking for?
In this empowering episode of Conversations with HER, Rosalyn and Katessa of the Her First Collective delve into the essential steps to prepare yourself for love, particularly for women 40+ who are unmarried or divorced and navigating the dating world.

They explore the importance of deepening self-love and strengthening your spiritual connection as foundational pillars for inviting love into your life. Through this candid discussion, Rosalyn and Katessa tackle the myths surrounding dating and relationships, offering refreshing perspectives and insightful truths. From debunking societal pressures on women over 40 to embracing personal growth within relationships, Rosalyn and Katessa guide listeners through the process of redefining love and romance on their own terms.
Discover how to trust yourself, prioritize inner work, and view relationships as opportunities for growth and self-discovery. Tune in to this illuminating episode of Conversations with Her and embark on a journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and readiness for love.

Feb 15, 202434:47
What You Need to Know in 2024

What You Need to Know in 2024

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 5 of the Conversations with Her Podcast. Join us in this empowering episode, titled "What You Need to Know in 2024," where Malane Shani and the Her First Collective share their lessons learned in the transformative year of 2023.

In this engaging conversation, our panelists explore a range of powerful lessons, from learning to trust oneself to the art of letting go. Discover the importance of embracing change and allowing oneself to pivot when necessary. Gain insights into the nuances of building meaningful relationships by delving into a person's character rather than merely focusing on their likes and dislikes.

As we step into the new year, this episode serves as a guide for women seeking wisdom and inspiration. Each speaker provides practical tips derived from their own experiences, offering you tangible advice to apply in your life throughout 2024.

Whether you're looking to enhance your personal growth, strengthen your relationships, or navigate the complexities of business, this podcast episode offers guidance and empowerment.

Jan 18, 202401:07:20
From Struggle to Strength: Mastering Resilience in Difficult Times

From Struggle to Strength: Mastering Resilience in Difficult Times

Welcome to Conversations with Her Podcast: Season 2, Episode 4

Join us for an intimate and empowering episode with Felicia Harlow of Her First Collective as she defines resilience and shares her personal journey of turning adversity into a source of profound resilience and inner strength.

In this episode, you'll discover that self-care is not an indulgence but a profound investment in one's well-being. It is the toolkit for turning pain into power, offering a roadmap for resilience and inner strength that can guide anyone through life's tumultuous terrain.

As Felicia shares her story and the self-care practices that carried her through difficult times, you'll be inspired to embrace your own vulnerabilities, navigate through the storms, and emerge with a newfound resilience that can weather any challenge.




Dec 13, 202337:51
The Love of Teaching: Planting Seeds of Empowerment through Education

The Love of Teaching: Planting Seeds of Empowerment through Education

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 3 of Conversations with Her Podcast!

In this episode, hosts Felicia and Katessa discuss the important role teachers play in planting seeds of empowerment in children. As experienced schoolteachers and educators, they've found that the most impactful teaching approach is one that is founded on love and authentic connection. This lesson rings true not only in the field of education, but in all areas of life. By sourcing love rather than fear, stress or anxiety, you can make an impact in even the most challenging situations. Felicia and Katessa also acknowledge the challenges posed by technology and restrictions on teachers, drawing parallels to the obstacles one might encounter in their own pursuit of personal empowerment. Discover how navigating these challenges, much like educators do in the classroom, can be the key to unlocking your full potential.

Nov 29, 202330:13
The Gifts in the Shadows After Divorce

The Gifts in the Shadows After Divorce

Season 2, Episode 2

Welcome to part two of our episode, "Why Women Act Out After Breakup & Divorce and How to Start Over." This episode features Rosalyn Harris and Katessa Robinson from the Her First Collective, and they delve into the profound and transformative journey of post-divorce self-discovery. They share their personal stories of navigating the shadows that follow the end of a marriage, and the unexpected gifts they found in the process.

If you are currently experiencing divorce, or still healing from divorce, let this episode help you illuminate your own gifts and powerful lessons learned.

Nov 16, 202342:25
Are You Treading Shallow Waters? A Discussion About Fat Phobia and Beyond

Are You Treading Shallow Waters? A Discussion About Fat Phobia and Beyond

Welcome to Season 2, Episode 1 of Conversations with Her Podcast!

In this powerful and eye-opening episode of "Conversations with Her," co-hosts Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow take on the topic of fat phobia and the impact of judging others based on their body size.

With their unique perspectives, Malane, a plus-size woman, and Felicia, a slender woman, engage in a genuine and thought-provoking dialogue about the complex issues surrounding fat phobia. This episode goes beyond the surface, challenging societal stereotypes and encouraging understanding and empathy.

This episode of "Conversations with Her" is a safe space for listeners to explore the nuances of fat phobia, challenge their own beliefs, and gain a deeper understanding of the impact it has on individuals and society at large. Malane and Felicia lead by example, demonstrating how women from different backgrounds can come together to create a meaningful and empathetic conversation.
This episode invites you to go beyond the external and take a deeper look at yourself and others.

Nov 07, 202356:60
From Overwhelmed to Empowered: The Importance of Emotional Self-Care in the Workplace

From Overwhelmed to Empowered: The Importance of Emotional Self-Care in the Workplace

Do you feel undervalued and unappreciated at work? Do you struggle with managing your emotions, especially during these trying times? Tune into the Season 1 Finale of Conversations with H.E.R Podcast, From Overwhelmed to Empowered: The Importance of Emotional Self-Care in the Workplace. Ahzjah of WRFG Radio interviews Malane Shani, a seasoned expert in empowerment and emotional wellness, for a transformative conversation on overcoming the challenges facing professional women today. With the pandemic forcing us to confront our inner selves, Malane offers seven practical steps to help women reduce stress, increase peace, and deepen self-love. From setting boundaries to advocating for yourself, these tools will equip you with the resilience and grace to tackle any obstacle. And for those ready to take ownership of their work and purpose, Malane shares invaluable tips on transitioning from a job to entrepreneurship. Join us as we empower ourselves and create a powerfully peaceful life, thriving in every aspect of our professional world.




May 24, 202357:01
Feel So You Can Heal: Unlocking Your Emotional Freedom

Feel So You Can Heal: Unlocking Your Emotional Freedom

In this episode, Malane Shani is interviewed by Ahzjah of WRFG Radio. They dive deep into the world of emotions, exploring how to feel, heal, and process emotions effectively. Malane shares the importance of understanding the difference between emotional and mental well-being, and how emotional literacy can be key to achieving a more stable and fulfilling life. She tackles the common misconceptions about emotions and provides listeners with a proven roadmap and step-by-step system for navigating the sometimes chaotic world of feelings. Through honest and practical advice, by the end of this episode you will feel empowered and equipped to take control of your emotional well-being and live a more authentic and satisfying life. So, tune in to learn about how to embrace and honor your emotions and experience true emotional intelligence!


May 17, 202349:43
You First: Mother's Day Special Episode

You First: Mother's Day Special Episode

In this special Mother's Day episode, Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow explore the importance of women putting themselves first--as mothers, business owners, and in all aspects of life. They discuss why it's crucial for women to prioritize their own needs, wants, and desires, and how doing so can create a ripple effect, positively impacting everything from relationships and career to mental, emotional, and physical health.

Malane and Felicia also discuss some of the common barriers that prevent women from putting themselves first and offer practical tips and strategies for breaking free from these limitations. Whether you're a busy working mom, a single woman navigating the dating scene, or anyone else struggling to make time for yourself, this episode will empower you to prioritize your own well-being and start living your best life.

May 14, 202333:30
What Would You Do if You Weren't Afraid: How to Break Free from Fear and Live Your Authentic Life

What Would You Do if You Weren't Afraid: How to Break Free from Fear and Live Your Authentic Life

On Episode 7 of Conversations with H.E.R., Malane Shani is joined by her Mentor and Spiritual Counselor Toni Avery for a potent discussion on breaking through fear and living an authentic life. What would you do if you weren't afraid? Maybe you would open the doors to your business, or step back into the dating world after divorce. Or, maybe you would simply give yourself permission to live life on your own terms, and not according to other people's expectations. In this episode, you'll learn that stillness, self-reflection, and the ability to be honest with yourself are key to breaking through fear. Malane and Toni share practical tips and self-reflection exercises you can use now to build your inner strength and take full ownership of your life. These are necessary components to living an authentic life. Step out of your comfort zone and start living the life you were born to live.

May 03, 202359:25
Why Women Act Out After Breakup & Divorce and How to Start Over

Why Women Act Out After Breakup & Divorce and How to Start Over

In this episode, Malane Shani is joined by Rosalyn Harris, Pentené Milner, and Katessa Robinson from the Her First Collective to discuss the challenges women face after divorce and how to heal from the emotional turmoil to start anew. Divorce can be an extremely difficult experience, and it's not uncommon for women to act out in various ways as they try to adjust to their new reality. This episode explores the reasons behind this behavior and offers insights on how to transition from being married to divorced and then to single, with minimal disruption.

The conversation covers essential self-care practices, the importance of creating a new vision for your life, and establishing a sense of stability and routine in a post-divorce world. Our guests also emphasize the significance of working on oneself by letting go of old patterns and beliefs that no longer serve you and embracing change. Whether you're currently going through a divorce or struggling to move on from a past one, this episode provides practical tips to help you rebuild your life and thrive after adversity.
Apr 25, 202301:14:29
The Power of Self-Value: Understanding Your True Worth as a Woman - Part Two

The Power of Self-Value: Understanding Your True Worth as a Woman - Part Two

Join us for part two of "The Power of Self-Value: Understanding Your True Worth as a Woman" with Malane Shani, Felicia Harlow, and Amber Shani. In this episode, we take a deeper dive into the importance of core values, and we share insights on how identifying and embodying these values can lead to a greater sense of self-worth and fulfillment. We explore common barriers and misconceptions around living according to your values and share steps for boosting your self-value. By the end of this episode, you will gain a deeper understanding of the interplay between self-worth, self-esteem, and our core values, as well as practical advice on how to lead a more fulfilling, value-driven life.
Apr 18, 202345:57
The Power of Self-Value: Understanding Your True Value as a Woman

The Power of Self-Value: Understanding Your True Value as a Woman

Are you aware of your own worth? Join us for the fourth episode of Conversations with H.E.R. as Malane Shani, Felicia Harlow, and Amber Shani gather for a thought-provoking discussion on personal value. Discover ways to elevate your self-value and maintain it, and learn practical approaches on how to assert your worth in a world that may not fully appreciate who you are. In this roundtable discussion, we cover various topics regarding self-value, including what steps to take to build your self-value and how to remain true to yourself. Our conversation also shares valuable insights on the significant role self-value plays in your life.


Apr 12, 202331:40
Liberate Yourself: How to Move On From Loss & Grief Part Two

Liberate Yourself: How to Move On From Loss & Grief Part Two

In Part Two of "Liberate Yourself: How to Move On From Loss & Grief", Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow dive deeper into the 5 stages of grief and how they can be used as a tool to help liberate yourself and overcome the pain of loss. The 5 stages of grief, as originally proposed by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, are denial, bargaining, anger, depression, and acceptance. Each stage represents different emotions that we may experience during the grieving process. In this episode, Malane and Felicia explore each stage in more detail, share their personal experiences with grief and loss and provide tips and strategies for overcoming each stage. Whether you are dealing with the loss of a loved one, a relationship, or a significant life change, healing is possible. Let's start the journey to liberation together.
Apr 05, 202329:36
Liberate Yourself: How to Move on From Loss & Grief

Liberate Yourself: How to Move on From Loss & Grief

Join Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow in the second episode of Conversations with H.E.R. as they discuss their personal experiences with grief and loss, and how they were able to move on and regain hope for a brighter future. Grief and loss aren't limited to losing a loved one--grief can also be triggered by losing a job, a relationship, or transitioning from one phase of life into the next.
This episode empowers listeners to face their own experiences with grief and loss and begin to walk the path to healing. Honoring your feelings during times of loss and grief is critical to healing, and this episode offers valuable insights and tools to help you navigate through tough times and rediscover your joy and purpose.

Mar 28, 202331:59
The Slap: Truth vs Illusion

The Slap: Truth vs Illusion

In the debut episode of Conversations with H.E.R., the focus is on truth versus illusion. Hosted by Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow. This episode takes a deep dive into the infamous slap between Will Smith and Chris Rock. The controversy raised questions about the authenticity of the incident. Through candid discussions, Malane Shani and Felicia Harlow explore the complex interplay between honesty and perception, ultimately asking the question: is it better to live in truth or in illusion?
Mar 20, 202344:44
How to Attract & Align and Get What You Want

How to Attract & Align and Get What You Want

What you seek, is seeking you.
For some of you, it may not feel like that right now. Maybe you're seeking peace of mind, or happiness. A new job, a new business, or a new relationship. Or, just more money. And for some reason, it just seems to elude you. In today's podcast, I am sharing with you my personal three practices to getting what you want NOW and the #1 key to manifestation most Law of Attraction books and videos don't include.
Having what you want--no matter how big or small--is only a matter of alignment. If you can align with it, you can attract and manifest it. It's time for you to have a new life. You deserve it. And as an added bonus, in today's podcast I also facilitate a live clearing exercise with step-by-step instructions, so you can use the exercise anytime, anywhere in your daily life to supercharge your manifestations.
Dec 16, 202156:06
Is Your Love Life Kind or Unkind?

Is Your Love Life Kind or Unkind?

Do you ever feel like the world is out to get to you?
Maybe your relationships just don't seem to work out.
Maybe you rarely feel seen or valued at your job. 

In today's podcast, I want to share with you my secret strategy for creating a life that feels a little more kind. Here on Conversations with the Love Goddess, we believe the world treats you, how you treat you. So if your life feels difficult, or unfair at times, how are you treating yourself? With kindness and love? Or frustration and doubt?

Join us to discover how you can begin to shift your life right now and stay tuned till the very end for an exercise you can use on your own personal healing journey.

Dec 10, 202149:57
Why Are You Single vs Why Are You in a Relationship

Why Are You Single vs Why Are You in a Relationship

Have you ever been asked why you're single? Have you been questioned by your family or friends, who wonder when you're finally going to settle down or get married? Or are you in a relationship, but unsatisfied and wondering how to resolve your challenges?

Today we're going to flip the switch and share a new perspective on the concepts of being single and being in a relationship. Singleness is not a waiting space, it doesn't mean something is missing or wrong with you, and being in a relationship doesn't guarantee happiness, love, or fulfillment. Both singleness and relating are spaces to heal. Join us on the first episode of Conversations with the Love Goddess for this potent conversation and an exercise to help you in your personal healing work. 

Dec 03, 202154:02
 High Vibes... High Life

High Vibes... High Life

Did you know that one of the best ways to raise your vibration is to simply lay down and take a nap? In today's episode of Self-Care Central, we're talking about high and low vibration feelings, and how practicing self-care and being well-rested helps you manifest and create with intention. Malane shares her tips on raising your vibration and releasing low vibration feelings through rest and relaxation.

Feb 11, 202119:29
Healing Old Wounds Through Self-Care Practice

Healing Old Wounds Through Self-Care Practice

Are you practicing self-care, or are you practicing sedation?
Are you truly prioritizing yourself and your well-being, or are you looking for instant gratification or something that will make you feel good for the moment?
In today's episode of Self-Care Central, we're talking about old wounds and how they impact our ability to take care of ourselves. When you are resisting dealing with your wounds, or unwilling to acknowledge them, it can cause you to sedate yourself rather than care for yourself. Malane Shani shares her insight on healing old wounds and her personal journey to increasing her self-care.
Feb 03, 202124:55
The Beautiful Liar

The Beautiful Liar

Welcome to the Self-Care Central Podcast with Malane Shani the Love Goddess! This year, our theme is self-love and self-care and on this podcast, we're going to be giving you real talk for real women on the move, and plenty of tips, tools and exercises you can do to take better care of yourself and love yourself deeper. Today's episode is "The Beautiful Liar" and we're talking about how to manage those people in your life who show up asking for help when deep down, they really aren't open to being supported or ready to change. 

Jan 12, 202112:17
What Is Your Communication Light?

What Is Your Communication Light?

What is your communication light? What message are you here to deliver to others, and are you allowing yourself to fulfill that purpose in love and relationships? Join me for Episode 11 of Inner Tea Talk for a clip from one of my most popular shows from the daily Real, Relatable Love series on Facebook Live and Instagram Live. In this episode, I provide an elevated view of communication. Here's a hint: communication is not about small talk! Don't forget to join me Monday through Friday at 12PM EST live on Facebook and Instagram @IAmMalaneShani for Real, Relatable Love. Enjoy!

Apr 10, 202035:33
Who Do You Trust?

Who Do You Trust?

Who do you trust? Yourself? Your significant other, friends, family? No one? Join me for Episode 10 of Inner Tea Talk for a clip from one of my most popular lives from the daily Real, Relatable Love series on Facebook Live and Instagram Live. In this episode, we reveal the 3rd secret to overcoming fear and limiting beliefs. Get ready to take some notes, and don't forget to join me Monday through Friday at 12PM Noon live on Facebook and Instagram @IAmMalaneShani for Real, Relatable Love. Enjoy!

Apr 02, 202031:05
Are You Forecasting Crisis in Your Life?

Are You Forecasting Crisis in Your Life?

Even though it seems that our world is in an intense and fearful place right now, we must remember the power we all hold to create peace and joy through making intentional choices about who and how we are going to be. In this episode, I share the tools I use daily to stay peaceful, high vibrational and in tune with my Spirit in the midst of chaos. We must not forecast and project crisis into our lives. 

Mar 20, 202042:33
3 Steps to Real, Relatable Love

3 Steps to Real, Relatable Love

Get ready to deepen your self-love and attract beautiful new relationships into your life with my new 21 Day Challenge, Real Relatable Love. Join me every day at 12PM EST beginning March 23rd, 2020 on Facebook Live @IAmMalaneShani for the real talk, relatable topics and open advice for your love life.

Mar 12, 202045:22
Sex, Intimacy and Integrity: What's the Connection?

Sex, Intimacy and Integrity: What's the Connection?

Is your intimate life liberating you or holding you hostage? To find out, listen to the Inner Tea Talk Podcast for this week's topic, "Sex, Intimacy and Integrity: What's the Connection?"

Mar 03, 202044:57
Soul Wealth with Master Je'-Ruji

Soul Wealth with Master Je'-Ruji

How do you define wealth? How do you define opulence? In this episode of Inner Tea Talk featuring special guest Master Je'-Ruji, we're talking about his upcoming virtual summit, the Soul Wealth Summit, and what it truly means to be wealthy in all areas of your life. I am so excited to be a presenter at this summit and encourage you all to register for free at thesoulwealthsummit.com.

Feb 22, 202049:01
Is Love a Choice? Can We All Just Get Along...

Is Love a Choice? Can We All Just Get Along...

Happy Love Day! Enjoy this week's topic, "Is Love a Choice? Can We All Just Get Along..."

Feb 14, 202048:49
3 Steps on How to Master the Master in You

3 Steps on How to Master the Master in You

Are you looking to increase your mastery and create something new in any area of your life--family, work, health, intimate relationships, etc.? Join me for episode 4 of Inner Tea Talk: 3 Steps on How to Master the Master in You, where I share an exclusive clip from my webinar "Mastering the Master in You." In my philosophy, self-mastery is the foundation of all mastery; it supports us in creating both success and sustainability throughout all areas of our lives. If you want to create something new in your life, this episode provides simple tools you can use to master yourself so you can be fully prepared for the manifestation of all your heart's desires. 

Feb 06, 202040:14
From Hustle & Grind to CEO Divine: 3 Steps on How to Leave the Grind Behind

From Hustle & Grind to CEO Divine: 3 Steps on How to Leave the Grind Behind

Do you have a desire to become an entrepreneur, but have no idea where to start? Are you grinding and hustling trying to sustain your business? In this episode, I share the 3 steps that supported me in not only transitioning into entrepreneurship but also in building a sustainable and profitable business, doing what I love. Join us on episode 3 of Inner Tea Talk and get the tea on how you can release the hustle and create your entrepreneurial dreams with ease. 

Jan 31, 202038:30
Heal U: 3 Steps to Activating Your Inner Healer

Heal U: 3 Steps to Activating Your Inner Healer

Are you ready to activate your inner healer—to reclaim your power and discover 3 simple steps that will inspire you to change your mind, heal your life and get you in alignment with your purpose. Join us on Episode 2 of Inner Tea Talk and sip on some Healing Inner for your soul.
Jan 22, 202046:23
3 Steps to Activate your 2020 Vision Board

3 Steps to Activate your 2020 Vision Board

Have you ever created a vision board and didn’t see any or little results? Did you activate it? We spend hours cutting and pasting pictures and words to our board and when we are complete we are proud happy, scared and ready to see results. Discover 3 steps to get real results on your 2020 vision board. See your dreams and visions manifest like never before!! Lots of gems in this episode. Join me and sip some inner tea for your soul!
Jan 15, 202041:05