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LILY Pod

By Jeff & Cathy Teichert
"LILY Pod" is a production of "Love in Later Years," an organization dedicated serving mid-singles and later married couples. This show discusses topics like dating and relationships, personal development, single parenting, remarrying, blended families, and lifestyle tips for the middle aged and beyond.
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76. The Divine Masculine & Feminine
Jeff & Cathy discuss the divinity of masculine and feminine characteristics. Jeff even compares ancient Toltec wisdom to modern day scripture about the feminine energy of mother earth and the masculine energy of the sun. As men and women with unique attributes that are both powerful and important, we can appreciate and have reverence for our differences in pursuit of divine destiny.
41:51
June 28, 2022
75. Serial Dating
Jeff & Cathy discuss the pros and cons of "Serial Dating" and the social stigma it tends to carry. This episode explores the benefits of being free to explore in the dating realm by getting to know many people in search of the right one for you, and allowing other single dating partners the freedom to do the same.
31:19
June 21, 2022
74. I See You with Julie Lee
Jeff & Cathy interview Julie Lee, author of "I See You," professional speaker, and passionate advocate for human connection and compassion. Enjoy this heartwarming conversation about being aware and mindful of those around us and to intentionally look for and bring out the best in people with simple every day acts of kindness. 
01:04:40
June 16, 2022
73. When Helping is Hurting
Jeff & Cathy discuss why it is important to stay in our own lanes in life and relationships rather than trying to manage other people, even when we think it's for their benefit. This episode explores the downsides of codependence, obliging tendencies, and over-functioning. The key to avoiding those problems is grounding our self-worth in relationship with God, cultivating "Real Love" with wise people, and maintaining healthy boundaries that allow us to adequately care for our own physical, emotional and spiritual needs. 
47:57
June 07, 2022
72. Being a Chooser
Jeff & Cathy discuss the importance of intentionally creating our lives through the power of choice, including choosing our response to circumstances we don't choose, and honoring the choices of others.
31:15
May 31, 2022
71. Finding Love After Death & Divorce with Stephanie Parrish
In this delightful interview, Jeff & Cathy explore the losses Stephanie experienced through two divorces and the death of a beloved spouse--and a miraculous thriving 4th marriage that started 6 months ago. Steph is a former mid-single who definitely considers herself experiencing the beauty of "love in later years." Learn from someone who's experienced losses both by divorce and death, as she explains the similarities and differences between divorce and widowhood. 
01:53:44
May 24, 2022
70. The Dark Side of Agency
Jeff & Cathy discuss the magnificent God given gift of agency, the universal power of choice we all cherish, and the ways in which we as humans are subject to the dark side of agency by the choices we or others make that hurt us. Those who have experienced divorce or an abusive relationship learn the dark side of agency better than most.
36:00
May 17, 2022
69. Radical Acceptance
Jeff & Cathy explore the healing power of radical acceptance and the many ways in which applying it can lead to more joy in life.
40:01
May 10, 2022
68. Three Steps to Deepen Relationships
Jeff & Cathy Teichert, together with Kels & Stephanie Goodman, expound on three specific steps that can deepen and strengthen our most important relationships.
01:10:06
May 03, 2022
67. "Woman Up" with Cathy & Stephanie
Cathy Teichert and Stephanie Goodman discuss what it means to "Woman Up" in this delightful conversation about living with joy and creating abundance.
57:59
April 26, 2022
66. "Man Up" with Jeff & Kels
Jeff Teichert & Kels Goodman discuss the unique challenges of men in the modern world and what it means to "Man Up." 
49:32
April 19, 2022
65. LGBTQ Mid-Singles and the Church
Calm voices of substance may not be as trendy as loud critical voices these days, but through the spirit they can support our highest good as we intentionally seek to receive golden nuggets of truth and enlightenment. In this podcast we touch on substance from our most recent General Conference and tackle one of the most sensitive issues--navigating LGBTQ concerns within our faith. Please listen with an open heart and mind. We sincerely hope our message will bring more light and love into our community of Saints, encouraging us all to be more loving and compassionate toward ourselves and one another.
44:48
April 12, 2022
64. Seasoned & Desirable
Mid-singles can be some of the most experienced and wise individuals we know. The personal growth required to recover from losing a companion, or not yet being blessed with companionship into middle-age, can produce seasoned and desirable results with all the tools needed to create an amazing marriage. 
41:04
April 05, 2022
63. Loving Boldly with Becky Mackintosh
Becky Mackintosh believes the answer to every problem or conflict is love. She is the author of "Love Boldly: Embracing your LGBTQ Loved Ones AND Your Faith." Jeff & Cathy interview her in depth about what it means to love boldly and how that can apply to mid-singles and later married couples with blended families, who tend to have complications unique to their own life circumstance. Be inspired by her encouraging message to "lean into love" and "trust God" with all of life's unexpected twists and turns.
01:12:27
March 29, 2022
62. Wanting is Superior to Needing
Codependency causes us to depend on another for our own emotional and psychological well-being. The problem with NEEDING someone is we aren't free to WANT them, which is far superior to needing them. This week our focus is on overcoming codependent relationship patterns to free ourselves up to desire our partners and intentionally create healthy companionship.
40:56
March 22, 2022
61. Creating Luck
Want to know the secrets of those who are lucky in love? It may seem ironic that we could intentionally create our luck, which by definition is outside of our control, yet we've determined the best way to do just that. Success is where preparation (intentional creation) meets opportunity (luck), therefore, preparation is where we have the ability to create our own luck. Listen to learn more about how you can play an active role in creating your own luck in love and in life.
43:04
March 15, 2022
60. Balancing Our Sexual Natures
We are all sexual beings, whether we are in a sexual relationship or not. Jeff & Cathy discuss how to integrate sexuality with the goal of being happily and eternally partnered. Sexual repression and aggression are two unhealthy extremes. This is why finding balance is so important. God can help us to channel our sexual energy toward our highest good. Enjoy this dialogue about finding a healthy sexual outlook as a single person, while working toward a committed marital relationship where you can fully, joyfully, and freely explore sexual love.
38:12
March 08, 2022
59. Real Love with Dr. Greg Baer
Jeff & Cathy interview Dr. Greg Baer, M.D.--leader in the field of unconditional love and founder of The Real Love Company, a nonprofit organization. He has authored and published 18 books internationally, produced a PBS TV special, created The Ridiculously Effective Parenting Training, conducted over 300 seminars and speeches worldwide, and has appeared on over 1600 radio and TV shows, teaching "Real Love" principles that replace fear and anger with peace and confidence. For the HUGE library of resources he offers, much of which is FREE, visit RealLove.com and RealLoveParenting.com. We felt honored to have Dr. Greg Baer on "LILY Tube" (for those watching) and "LILY Pod" (for those listening). Enjoy this insightful and elevating discussion about Real Love!
01:21:10
March 01, 2022
58. Men, Let's not Underestimate our Women
Jeff & Cathy explore all the gifts and unique attributes of women that are at times under appreciated and under supported. Emphasizing the need for rest and nourishment, suggestions are offered for renewing life energy in order to show up in life at highest capacity. Men and women both have so much to offer; we can support each other both in the important ways we each contribute and with compassion for our mutual human experience. 
40:35
February 22, 2022
57. Women, Let's not Underestimate our Men
Jeff & Cathy explore the subtle cultural paradigms in our society, which are creating unwarranted assumptions that the realm of connection, relationships and feelings are the exclusive domain of women. Suggestions are offered for both sexes on how to shift this paradigm and encourage men to more fully engage in their unique and important role of supporting connection, relationships, and their own emotional health. 
36:16
February 15, 2022
56. Whirlwind Romance with Victoria Wynn & Trent Limb
Jeff and Cathy explore Victoria Wynn's "eat, pray, love" journey across the country, ultimately leading her to the great love of her life. She married Trent Limb on a beach in Belize. Enjoy this delightful whirlwind romance that inspires the belief that you never know when love might find you, especially if you are ready for it. Wishing couples and single dreamers everywhere a very Happy Valentine's!  Trent Limb CFO & Victoria Wynn CEO & Fine Artist: wynnmodernart.com You can WATCH this episode on LILY Tube: youtube.com/c/LoveInLaterYears
01:13:44
February 08, 2022
55. Single Status and Love Month
Jeff & Cathy share how to thrive as a single person during love month (February) and any other time of year. The principles apply to all who desire to be happier in spite of challenges and to show up as healthier selves in life and in relationships.
31:22
February 01, 2022
54. Mental Health Stewardship with Ganel-Lyn Condie
It is cool to talk about mental health! It is such an important part of our health that too often goes unacknowledged and untreated. As wise stewards, we are responsible for daily self-checks and seeking support. There are many helpful tools offered in this wonderful interview, along with a lot of love and empathy from someone who knows what it is like to lose a loved one to suicide. The world is never better off without you.  Ganel-Lyn's Website: ganellyn.com Pre-Order Ganel-Lyn's Newest Book: seagullbook.com/the-stewardship-principle Jeff & Cathy's Coaching Page: loveinlateryears.com/lily-coaching
01:34:32
January 25, 2022
53. Confidently Asking for a First Date
Jeff & Cathy discuss the subject of how to ask for a first date. This is a great episode for anyone who is new to the dating scene after years of marriage or dating inactivity, but sincerely wants to try dating again. It will calm your fears. 
31:23
January 18, 2022
52. Joy and the Refiner's Fire
Jeff & Cathy share a prophetic talk Jeff gave in early 2013, during the most difficult period of his life as a mid-single. God's promises gave him hope and have since been fulfilled in his life. This is a story of hope, healing, gratitude, and the power of creating all good things spiritually so they can manifest in the world.
41:50
January 11, 2022
51. The Power of One Word
As 2022 begins, Jeff and Cathy discuss how powerful one word can be when choosing a focus for each new year. What is your word for this coming year? Listen to get inspiration and ideas. 
46:42
January 04, 2022
50. Creating from Scratch
As 2021 draws to a close, Jeff & Cathy discuss the process of "creating from scratch" as they explore the past year in review, including their creation of Love In Later Years (LILY). Episode 50 finishes up their first year of podcasting since starting "LILY Pod" in April 2021, with more than 3.3k listens to celebrate. Thanks so much for listening and sharing with others. Happy New Year's Eve!!!
34:58
December 31, 2021
49. Money & Mindset with Karin Nelson
Jeff & Cathy interview Confidence Coach, Karin Nelson, who works with divorced women to create a life even better than when they were married. The first half is about mindset and how helpful coaching and effective thought-work can be. The second half focuses on money goals and re-establishing a strong financial foundation after loss. Enjoy this special episode, geared to get us ready for a new year of growth and abundance.  Karin's Coaching Website: karinnelsoncoaching.com Jeff & Cathy's Coaching Page: loveinlateryears.com/lily-coaching
01:08:06
December 28, 2021
48. Keeping Christ in Christmas
Jeff & Cathy offer a wonderful way to receive a little more of the reason for the season as they explore Luke 2 and the "good tidings of great joy" Jesus Christ brought to this world for "all people." 
27:46
December 21, 2021
47. Loving with Intention
Special introduction and conclusion by Paul & Collette Pulsipher, who recently interviewed Jeff & Cathy Teichert on "Stepping Into Freedom" about the importance of acting, rather than being acted upon. Loving with intention (as opposed to living by emotion) is the key to happiness in marriage and family life.  Stepping Into Freedom with Paul & Collette Pulsipher: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stepping-into-freedom
01:39:46
December 14, 2021
46. Divorce and the Holidays
Jeff & Cathy discuss navigating the painful elements of being single or divorced during the holidays as well as some of the magical opportunities it presents.
37:44
December 07, 2021
45. The Serenity Prayer
Jeff & Cathy discuss how the Serenity Prayer has a special application for mid-singles.
45:47
November 30, 2021
44. The Lord's Prayer
Jeff & Cathy apply the elements of The Lord's Prayer to mid-single life.  
41:06
November 23, 2021
43. Rising Like a Phoenix
Jeff & Cathy discuss how to achieve peace, personal growth, and loving relationships out of tragedy and painful loss.
01:00:23
November 19, 2021
42. Personal Restoration is a Process
Jeff & Cathy discuss the process of personal restoration when we feel shattered by grief and loss, as well as our need for daily rejuvenation.
44:25
November 12, 2021
41. Hurry and Wait!
Jeff & Cathy discuss the blessings that come from intentional action combined with patience in the Lord's timetable for finding your eternal companion. On the day of this episode, our listeners can hurry and order our newly released book, "Intentional Courtship" on Amazon, and then patiently wait for it to arrive! :-) *Now an Amazon Best-Seller! Order Intentional Courtship here: https://amzn.to/3GXW5h1
30:46
November 05, 2021
40. Healing & Thriving with Dr. Sean Brotherson
Jeff & Cathy interview Dr. Sean Brotherson, Family Science Professor and former Bishop, who offers valuable insights for single parents regarding self-care, creating a supportive social network, and healing from trauma. Discover the antidotes for the "four horsemen of the sexual apocalypse," Sean's special formula. This podcast is valuable for mid-singles and married couples alike.  Professor Page: ndsu.edu/hdfs/people/sean_brotherson/
01:37:01
October 29, 2021
39. Sober Confidence
Jeff & Cathy define humility and discuss how it can help us overcome the fear that arises from being human and experiencing things we can't control.  
29:36
October 22, 2021
38. The Illusion of Control
Jeff & Cathy discuss the perils of believing we have more control over our circumstances than we really do, and the power of intentionally focusing on the things we can influence.
29:50
October 14, 2021
37. Strong Families Come in all Shapes and Sizes
Jeff & Cathy preview their presentation for the Fall Conference of the Foundation for Family Life of Utah. Website: flc.fflut.org/family-life-center
11:26
October 07, 2021
36. Conference Tidbits
Jeff & Cathy highlight teachings from the most recent General Conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, with application for mid-singles and later-married couples.
39:59
October 05, 2021
35. The Divorce Decision
We live in a religious culture where we receive lots of advice about how to go about getting married. There is almost no defined process for deciding about divorce (if that becomes necessary). Jeff & Cathy discuss a simple formula for wisely considering divorce. 
25:13
October 01, 2021
34. Thoughtful Labeling
Jeff & Cathy discuss the power of words to create our reality, and the impact of the labels we give ourselves and others.
28:58
September 28, 2021
33. Learning to Breathe Again with Lark Galley
Jeff discusses the process of grief, healing, and finding hope after tragic loss with author and consultant Lark Galley. Her book is entitled, "Learning to Breathe Again."  Lark's Website: larkdeangalley.com
01:07:30
September 24, 2021
32. Dating is Like Gardening
Jeff & Cathy glean lessons about dating and relationships from sowing, nurturing, and harvesting a garden.
32:44
September 17, 2021
31. Brightness of Hope with Graciela Moore
Jeff & Cathy, together with certified life coach Graciela Moore, discuss how to develop and maintain a perfect brightness of hope--especially in trying times.  Graciela's Coaching Website: somcoaching.com Jeff & Cathy's Coaching Page: loveinlateryears.com/lily-coaching/
01:12:30
September 10, 2021
30. The Truth About Negative People
Jeff & Cathy discuss why it is so easy to be negative and what we can do about it.
28:23
September 03, 2021
29. A Mid-Singles Guide to Pairing Up
Jeff & Cathy explore the art of pairing up as relationships deepen and become more serious, ultimately leading to a joyful eternal marriage. *Now an Amazon Best-Seller! Order Intentional Courtship here: https://amzn.to/3GXW5h1
43:23
August 27, 2021
28. A Mid-Singles Guide to Progress
Jeff & Cathy discuss how to move forward in dating and in life, as related to the second part of their book "Intentional Courtship" (coming soon, fall of 2021). *Now an Amazon Best-Seller! Order Intentional Courtship here: https://amzn.to/3GXW5h1
39:44
August 20, 2021
27. A Mid-Singles Guide to Peace
Jeff & Cathy discuss how to obtain peace and healing in the wake of personal tragedy and create a joyful life on purpose. *Now an Amazon Best-Seller! Order Intentional Courtship here: https://amzn.to/3GXW5h1
21:04
August 13, 2021
26. Intentional Courtship
Jeff & Cathy discuss the genesis of their book "Intentional Courtship" (soon to be released) and principles for obtaining personal peace, making progress with dating, and ultimately creating an eternal marriage.  *Now an Amazon Best-Seller! Order Intentional Courtship here: https://amzn.to/3GXW5h1
27:32
August 06, 2021
25. The Truth About Positive People
Jeff & Cathy discuss how positive people create themselves to be optimistic on purpose.
28:05
August 01, 2021
24. Wisdom from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife for Mid-Singles
Jeff & Cathy ask prominent Latter-day Saint sex therapist, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, how mid-singles can heal from sexual problems in previous marriages and navigate sexual desires in dating relationships. Jennifer artfully expresses the importance of self-reflection regarding past relationships in order to intentionally create a healthy courtship and future marriage. Maturity requires accepting our sexuality as a good part of ourselves, valuing our capacity for pleasure, and making integrity based choices that are in harmony with who we want to be. Jennifer's Website: finlayson-fife.com
58:51
July 24, 2021
23. Relationships and Risk in the Mid-Single World
Jeff & Cathy explore the folly of trying to find love without risk, how to feel safe taking meaningful risks in dating, and the importance of being vulnerable to create connected relationships.
49:52
July 20, 2021
22. The Power of Intention
Jeff & Cathy discuss using the power of intention to consciously act in our best interest instead of falling prey to destructive impulses. This principle can empower us to create connected relationships and achieve other life-enhancing goals.
39:41
July 16, 2021
21. Freedom from Hatred with Paul & Collette Pulsipher
Jeff & Cathy discuss freedom from hatred with Paul & Collette Pulsipher on their "Stepping into Freedom" Podcast. Stepping Into Freedom with Paul & Collette Pulsipher: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stepping-into-freedom
01:23:23
July 10, 2021
20. Joy in Direction (Not Perfection)
Jeff & Cathy discuss how to cultivate joy in purposeful direction, without getting trapped in perfectionism.
25:47
July 02, 2021
19. The Power of Letting Go
Are you holding on to something that is hurting you? If so, this episode contains an important message about how to let it go.
27:39
June 30, 2021
18. Respect and Fair Play
Jeff and Cathy talk about the importance of respectful authenticity in dating, and having empathy for the feelings our dating partners. Fair play leads to deeper and more connected relationships, and it is the right thing to do.
24:55
June 28, 2021
17. Self-Image
Jeff & Cathy discuss the importance of self-image in living a happy life and creating healthy relationships. 
22:38
June 25, 2021
16. Pursuit of Excellence
Jeff & Cathy explore the pursuit of personal and relationship excellence as part of one's overall pursuit of happiness.
23:40
June 24, 2021
15. Sheri Braithwaite and the Dating Olympics
Jeff & Cathy discuss Sheri Braithwaite's journey as a mid-single, recovery from divorce, and why someone who "hates" dating created the Dating Olympics. Sheri's Website: datingolympics.com
01:04:06
June 14, 2021
14. The First Church Wide Devotional for Mid-Singles
Jeff and Cathy discuss the first church wide devotional for single adults over the age of 30 in a Face to Face with Relief Society President Jean Bingham, Sister Sharon Eubank, and Elder Neil L. Anderson.  
41:19
June 14, 2021
13. Miracles that Brought Us Together with Tim & Annie Bishop
Tim & Annie Bishop join Jeff & Cathy to discuss their former relationship and life struggles and the miracles that brought them together in their middle years. This is a story of hope, wisdom and profound faith.  The episode artwork depicts Tim & Annie's hands and represents the seed they planted when they were joined in marriage. The artwork is an original drawing by Tim Bishop, all rights reserved.
01:06:09
June 12, 2021
12. Divorce Stories
Jeff & Cathy discuss divorce stories and how they impact perspectives on life, emotional well-being, and the development of future relationships.
38:48
June 04, 2021
11. Our F-SEEBO Model
Jeff & Cathy discuss how shifting our stories can elevate our energy and emotions, naturally creating new behaviors and desired outcomes.
46:09
May 31, 2021
10. Get REAL with Amy Nielson Biesinger
Jeff and Cathy explore with mid-single mom and "Get REAL Foundation" co-founder, Amy Nielson Biesinger, dealing with depression and loss, dating as a mid-single parent, and co-parenting after divorce. Website: getrealfoundation.org
01:00:16
May 21, 2021
9. Elevating Energy from Grief to Gratitude
Jeff & Cathy discuss how shifting emotions with intentional thought work can take us from our lowest vibration to our highest.
29:47
May 17, 2021
8. The Power of Thought
Jeff & Cathy discuss light, truth, knowledge, agency, and the power of thought as taught in the scriptures and other inspired literature.
49:37
May 06, 2021
7. Dating Etiquette for Mid-Singles and Married Couples
Jeff & Cathy discuss preparing for dates and creating connection as mid-singles and married couples.
36:26
May 03, 2021
6. Cultivating Love for Thy Neighbor
Jeff and Cathy discuss how the second great commandment can bless our lives as we take our love for God and self and share it generously with all of humanity.
29:25
April 29, 2021
5. Cultivating Love for Thy Self
Jeff and Cathy discuss how the second great commandment can bless our lives as we take responsibility for our own well-being by intentionally cultivating self love and self care.
22:01
April 29, 2021
4. Cultivating Love for Thy God
Jeff and Cathy discuss how the first great commandment blesses our lives, and practical ways to cultivate a personal relationship with God.
23:48
April 28, 2021
3. Relationship Priority Order
Jeff and Cathy discuss how prioritizing our relationships with God, self, spouse, children, and others can affect compatibility with our current or future spouses and our overall happiness in life.
29:18
April 28, 2021
2. God is Love, So Are We
God is love and we are created in His image so we can BE love too. How loving energy can transform your life and relationships. 
22:06
April 23, 2021
1. The Silent Majority
Jeff & Cathy discuss the challenges and blessings of mid-single life. As highlighted in our most recent General Conference, single adults have now become the majority in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  To learn more about the resources we offer mid-singles, visit our website: loveinlateryears.com
30:09
April 22, 2021
"LILY Pod" Trailer
Love In Later Years (LILY) was created to take on the complex issues facing mid-singles and later married couples. This is a perfect podcast for individuals who are divorced, widowed, over 30 and not yet married, or those who are remarried with a blended family. We also welcome all who enjoy personal growth and enriching relationships.
00:49
April 21, 2021