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LoveJames Podcast

By Andrew and Juli-Anne James

We are Juli-Anne and Andrew James. A couple of bold, eternal optimists who believe in old school love.

We don't have all the answers about love and marriage, but through our podcast, we hope to share perspectives with you that will help inspire healthy growth and evolution in your relationships.

We've been married for 11 years, known each other for 18, and counseled couples into and through marriage. We've put in some hours.

On top of all of that, our parents have been married for a combined total of 98 years and counting!

Talk to us! Follow @formorelovejames on Instagram.
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Season 2 - Episode 6: Family Matters

LoveJames PodcastSep 25, 2020

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SEASON 4 // EPISODE 7 - Sustaining Attraction: The Flow of True Intimacy

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 7 - Sustaining Attraction: The Flow of True Intimacy

Welcome back to Episode 7 of the LoveJames Podcast, where we dive deep into the waters of attraction and physical intimacy, and how they're underpinned by the spiritual and emotional connections that bind us. This episode, we're unpacking the layers of what truly fuels our physical relationship, going beyond the surface to explore the foundation of genuine intimacy. In This Episode:

  • Beyond Physical Attraction: Discover how a deeper spiritual and emotional bond enhances physical intimacy in marriage, creating a more fulfilling connection.
  • The Real Foundations of Attraction: We discuss how real attraction is sustained over time, and why it's about so much more than just physical appearance or initial chemistry.
  • Flowing from Spiritual to Physical: Learn about the seamless flow from spiritual and emotional connection down into the physical realm of your relationship, and why nurturing all aspects is key.
  • A Glimpse into Our Life: Don't miss a hilarious anecdote from our own journey—the story of how Andrew once broke a door off its hinges before we were married and how a similar behavior in our marriage caught Juli-Anne by surprise. This story promises not just laughs but also insights into realistic expectations and growth within a relationship.

Why Listen: For anyone looking to deepen their understanding of what truly makes a relationship tick, this episode offers valuable insights into nurturing every layer of your bond, from the spiritual to the deeply physical. It's a must-listen for couples at any stage in their journey together. Connect With Us: We love hearing from you! Share your thoughts, stories, or questions about attraction and intimacy in your relationships. Find us and become part of our growing community: Instagram: instagram.com/formorelovejames TikTok: TikTok.com/@morelovejames Online: thejameses.ca/lovejames #marriage #marriagemastery #lovejamespodcast #couplegoals #blacklove #marriagehelp #couplestherapy #marriagementor #marriagegoals #relationships #relationshipadvice #marriageadvice #love #modernmarriage #datingadvice Thank you for tuning in to the LoveJames Podcast. Here's to exploring the depths of love and intimacy and to all the laughter and growth along the way.

Mar 27, 202433:20
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 6 - The Power of Appreciation

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 6 - The Power of Appreciation

In this episode, we get into the impactful role that appreciation and gratitude play in nurturing a strong, resilient, and loving marriage. Plus, we’re thrilled to introduce our latest creation, the Love Ledger: Keeping a Record of Right. It's a 3-Year Journal designed to revolutionize how couples connect and cherish each other's presence in their lives.

Why This Episode Is a Must-Listen: Whether you’re looking to deepen your emotional connection, strengthen intimacy, navigate through challenging times, or enhance the joy in your marriage, this episode provides valuable insights and actionable steps to harness the power of appreciation. Plus, find out how the Love Ledger Journal can become a cherished part of your journey together.

Engage With Us: We'd love to hear how appreciation has transformed your relationship or how you plan to use the Love Ledger Journal to deepen your bond. Share your stories and insights in the comments below or connect with us on social media using #LoveJamesPodcast.

Stay Updated: Subscribe to our channel and follow us on our social media platforms to stay updated on new episodes and our journey with the Love Ledger.

#PowerOfAppreciation #StrongMarriage #LoveLedger #LoveJamesPodcast

Thank you for tuning in. Here’s to building a marriage filled with love, gratitude, and endless appreciation.


Mar 20, 202444:38
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 5 - The Dance of Offense & Forgiveness

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 5 - The Dance of Offense & Forgiveness

"The Dance of Offense & Forgiveness" explores the intricate steps couples must take to navigate the challenges of hurt and reconciliation in marriage. Through this dance, we uncover the layers of understanding, empathy, and, ultimately, the choice to forgive that can transform a relationship.

Whether you're currently navigating the tricky waters of offense in your relationship or looking to bolster your emotional resilience for future challenges, this episode offers valuable perspectives on maintaining love and respect through conflict. Join us as we explore how the delicate dance of offense and forgiveness can lead to deeper intimacy and a stronger bond.

Engage With Us:

After listening, we'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences with offense and forgiveness in your relationships. Share your stories in the comments below, and let's continue the conversation.

Subscribe for More:

Don't forget to subscribe to the podcast for more insightful episodes on building and maintaining loving, resilient relationships.

#OffenseAndForgiveness #MarriageDance #HealingJourney #LoveJamesPodcast

Thank you for joining us on this journey towards understanding and compassion in marriage. Here's to mastering the dance of offense and forgiveness together.

Mar 13, 202431:11
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 4 - Independence, Co-Dependence or Interdependence?

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 4 - Independence, Co-Dependence or Interdependence?

In this episode of Season 4, "Independence, Co-Dependence, or Interdependence?" Andrew and Juli-Anne tackle the intricate dynamics of relationships, dissecting the concepts of independence, co-dependence, and interdependence. This episode aims to shed light on the delicate balance between self-reliance and mutual support that healthy relationships thrive on.


Whether navigating a new relationship or looking to deepen an existing bond, understanding the dynamics of independence, co-dependence, and interdependence can transform how you relate to your partner. This episode is packed with wisdom, personal insights, and practical tips to help you build an empowering and deeply connected relationship.


How do you find balance? Drop your thoughts in the comments or connect with us on social media using #LoveJamesPodcast.

Mar 07, 202437:52
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 3 - Making Room

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 3 - Making Room

This episode gets real about what it takes to make room for the love you want. Andrew and Juli-Anne dive into the tough stuff: letting go of the past, embracing your partner's perspective, and ensuring friends and family respect your relationship boundaries. No fluff, just the raw truths from their own lives on how they keep building a solid relationship. Inside This Episode: Cutting Ties: How the way you move on from past relationships and ties can serve you or your current relationship. Embracing New Perspectives: How your partner's perspective could be the game-changer you need to build capacity. Enforcing Boundaries: The lowdown on keeping external influences in check to protect what you've built together. Why It Matters: For anyone trying to navigate love in today's world, this episode is a toolkit for getting to that deeper connection without losing yourself or caving to outside pressure. Tune In: Check out this episode if you're all about making your relationship work in the real world. Hit subscribe to not miss out on more straight-talk advice from Andrew and Juli-Anne. #realtalk #LoveJamesPodcast #RelationshipGoals #MillennialLove #GenZ #Boundaries #marriagegoals #blacklovedoc #blackloveexists Catch the insights, get inspired, and let's make room for more love in our lives, together.

Feb 29, 202431:03
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 2

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 2

Welcome back to the LoveJames Podcast, where we dive deep into the heart of relationships and the journey of self-discovery within them. In this second episode of Season 4, hosts Andrew and Juli-Anne James explore a critical aspect of partnership often overlooked: the version of ourselves that we commit to being when we choose our partners. Why This Episode Is a Must-Listen: In any committed relationship, it's essential to understand the dynamics of personal change and growth. This episode offers insights into making conscious choices about who we want to be in our relationships and how to support our partners in doing the same. Join the Conversation: Your thoughts and experiences are what make this journey so rich and rewarding. After listening, head over to the comments section to share how your partner has influenced the person you are today and the version of yourself you're striving to become. Stay Connected: Don't forget to subscribe to our channel and turn on notifications to catch every new episode of Season 4. Follow us on our social media platforms for daily insights, behind-the-scenes content, and community discussions. #LoveJamesPodcast #BestSelf #RelationshipGrowth #PartnersInGrowth #Season4 Remember, love isn't about finding the perfect person but creating the perfect partnership together. Let's redefine marriage, one episode at a time.

Feb 22, 202439:17
SEASON 4 // EPISODE 1

SEASON 4 // EPISODE 1

Welcome to the premiere of Season 4 of the LoveJames Podcast, In this opening episode, hosts Andrew and Juli-Anne James invite you to rethink and renew your perception of what it means to be married and to be married well. Whether you're single on the lookout, newlywed, have celebrated decades together, or are somewhere in between, this episode offers fresh perspectives on making your marriage a testament to the strength of unconditional love and commitment. Andrew and Juli-Anne provide practical advice, heartfelt stories, and thought-provoking discussions designed to inspire and challenge you to see marriage in a new light. 🔹 **Connect with Us:** We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts, stories, or questions in the comments below. 🔹 **Stay Tuned:** Subscribe to our channel and hit the notification bell to ensure you don't miss any episodes of Season 4. Join us on this journey to rebrand marriage. Because when we change the way we look at marriage, the marriage we look at changes. #LoveJamesPodcast #RebrandingMarriage #Season4 #LifelongLove #MarriageGoals --- Remember, love isn't about finding the perfect person but creating the perfect partnership, together. Let's redefine marriage, one episode at a time.

Feb 15, 202435:10
Season 3 - Episode 8: Life & Business Partners

Season 3 - Episode 8: Life & Business Partners

Let's get married, build a house, buy a business and have a baby all at the same time!

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Reanna & Michael 

Apr 02, 202145:35
Season 3 - Episode 7: Love & Basketball

Season 3 - Episode 7: Love & Basketball

Let's bet on us. 

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Sherelle & Justin

Mar 27, 202136:35
Season 3 - Episode 6: Just learn to like each other

Season 3 - Episode 6: Just learn to like each other

"It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages." – Nietzsche

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Meisha & Justin

Mar 20, 202137:33
Season 3 - Episode 5: Patience & Forgiveness

Season 3 - Episode 5: Patience & Forgiveness

Patience is a virtue but be quick to forgive.

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Liz & Greg aka #TeamGriz

Mar 13, 202147:34
Season 3 - Episode 4: Learn & Unlearn

Season 3 - Episode 4: Learn & Unlearn

Marriage is as much about learning as it is about unlearning.

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Noni & Kai

Mar 06, 202148:54
Season 3 - Episode 3: Push & Pull

Season 3 - Episode 3: Push & Pull

Can you compromise?

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage.

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In this episode, we talk to Rochelle & Chris

Feb 27, 202137:16
Season 3 - Episode 2: Beauty & The Beast

Season 3 - Episode 2: Beauty & The Beast

Are you a beast???

This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. 

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In this episode, we talk to Monique and Kyle. 

Feb 20, 202141:37
Season 3 - Episode 1: Rice & Peas

Season 3 - Episode 1: Rice & Peas

Welcome (back) to the lovejames Podcast! This season we are talking with couples from all over who have been married for various different lengths of time. These are all couples that we've journeyed with in some way or another, and we want you to hear from them about what's really real when it comes to being married. We'll discuss their greatest marital challenge, how they are working to overcome it and what they've learned about themselves and about marriage. On this episode, we talk to Lisa and Andre.


Feb 15, 202141:09
Season 2 - Episode 8: Why Did I Get Married?

Season 2 - Episode 8: Why Did I Get Married?

It's an important question that we are really only thinking about 11 years later. We're inviting you to ask yourself and your spouse this question also. And, if you're not married yet, we're giving you the scoop on what we think is the ONLY reason that you should ever get married. Curious? Hit play and let's talk! Talk back to us through email (podcast@thejameses.ca), Facebook (lovejames Podcast), or Instagram (@formorelovejames).

Stay in love.

Oct 16, 202042:12
Season 2 - Episode 7: Money Matters

Season 2 - Episode 7: Money Matters

We've all heard the stats. Finances, and arguments about money are one of the most consistent leading causes of divorce and marital stress and failure. So, we're sharing our perspective with you on this major issue. As always, we're sharing some of our personal experiences and views, with the hope that something we say is helpful. Don't forget to talk back to us through email (podcast@thejameses.ca), Facebook (lovejames Podcast), or Instagram (@formorelovejames).

Stay in love.

Oct 13, 202045:31
Season 2 - Episode 6: Family Matters

Season 2 - Episode 6: Family Matters

On this episode we discuss the positive and negative role that can be played by your family of origin, and the boundary line in between those two roles. We share some of our own personal experiences with each other's parents, and the strategies we employ as a couple to stay within the boundary. 


Sep 25, 202047:33
Season 2 - Episode 5: True Partnership (Anniversary Special)

Season 2 - Episode 5: True Partnership (Anniversary Special)

On this episode of lovejames, we're reflecting on the last eleven years together, the years preceding those eleven years, some lessons learned, and the difference between a relationship and a true partnership.

Connect with us on social media @formorelovejames  |  lovejames podcast. Email us at podcast@thejameses.ca

Sep 12, 202045:03
Season 2 - Episode 4: God and Marriage w/Rev. Marva Tyndale

Season 2 - Episode 4: God and Marriage w/Rev. Marva Tyndale

This week we sit down with Reverend Marva Tyndale to discuss faith, and the role of God in marriage. Rev. Tyndale, or “auntie Marva” as we call her, has been a great support for us from the beginning of our own marriage. We hope her words also encourage you.

Sep 04, 202052:42
Season 2 - Episode 3: #BigFight

Season 2 - Episode 3: #BigFight

Why do we assume that having knock-down, drag-out fights is a natural and even necessary part of being married? I mean, sure, we will disagree, but can we disagree productively? On this episode, we share our fight history, and what we've learned from it.
Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Aug 28, 202045:12
Season 2 - Episode 2: Are you self-aware?

Season 2 - Episode 2: Are you self-aware?

In season one (episode 2), we talked about doing a whole episode on self-awareness. Well, here it is! Self-awareness is defined as "conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, and desires." We'll talk about some of our own personal definitions of self-awareness, but more importantly, why we believe it is critical to great relationships.

Don't forget to talk back to us. Let us know your thoughts and perspectives on the topic!

Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it. 

Aug 21, 202043:20
Season 2 - Episode 1: Let’s talk about compatibility.

Season 2 - Episode 1: Let’s talk about compatibility.

In the era of COVID-19, we’re hearing that lots of couples are feeling the burn of having to be locked down together. Is this highlighting previously ignored issues around compatibility? We explore this idea and talk about what compatibility means, how to assess it and how to create it! Yes. You can create compatibility. Take a listen.
Aug 14, 202047:14
lovejames - Episode Eight: The Singles Episode part 2

lovejames - Episode Eight: The Singles Episode part 2

PART TWO: By popular request--the singles episode! We sit down with two twenty-somethings to get a sense of what it's like to be single in today's environment. Danielle and O'Shane share their perspectives and their questions, and we end up recording two whole episodes. Take a listen and tell us what you think about these two.
Apr 03, 202001:11:19
lovejames - Episode Seven: The Singles Episode

lovejames - Episode Seven: The Singles Episode

By popular request--the singles episode! We sit down with two twenty-somethings to get a sense of what it's like to be single in today's environment. Danielle and O'Shane share their perspectives and their questions, and we end up recording two whole episodes. Take a listen and tell us what you think about these two.
Mar 27, 202001:05:34
lovejames - Episode Six: Communication

lovejames - Episode Six: Communication

We hear it all the time--"communication is everything". It's good advice I suppose--but what is communication really? In this episode, we talk about issues of communication and trust. Take a good listen and see if you recognize yourself anywhere at all in this conversation.
Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Mar 20, 202001:03:04
lovejames - Episode Five: Karen & Chris

lovejames - Episode Five: Karen & Chris

This week, we chat with Karen and Chris. They bring their unique experience and perspective to the discussion about what it takes to make a great relationship. How much of a role does your upbringing play? How does human evolution shape our behaviour in relationships? How realistic are your expectations? And does faith play a role? We discuss all of this and more as we explore this crazy little thing called love!
Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Mar 13, 202055:24
lovejames - Episode Four: Respect

lovejames - Episode Four: Respect

Lauryn Hill said “it’s just a minimum” and Aretha Franklin was only asking for a little. This week on the podcast we’re talking about respect.

Not just respect on the surface level, but we discuss how nurturing deep respect for your spouse can serve as a safeguard for your relationship. We also explore how easily and silently respect can slip away. As always, we welcome your thoughts and comments.

Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Mar 06, 202001:02:38
lovejames - Episode Three: Natanya & Tristan

lovejames - Episode Three: Natanya & Tristan

This week, we are chatting with a guest couple--Tristan and Natanya Barrocks. September 2020 will mark their 10th year of marriage and they stop in to share their thoughts about what the journey of marriage has been like for them so far.
Among other things, we discuss the notoriously precarious first year of marriage, and boy, do these two have a really interesting story to share about that!
You'll laugh, and hopefully learn something through their experience. We are definitely glad they stopped by. Be sure to encourage them by commenting, emailing, sharing, liking, waving, poking, snapping, tik tok-ing and whatever else the kids are doing these days.
Thanks for listening...
Peace and lovejames!
Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Feb 28, 202057:31
lovejames - Episode Two: Capacity

lovejames - Episode Two: Capacity

Can You Stand The Rain? Are You That Somebody? How Deep Is Your Love? How Will I Know?
In this week's episode, we discuss the quality of capacity. What it is, why it's important, how you can assess it, and why and how you can work to build it so that your relationships can be stronger.
Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. The strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.
Feb 21, 202057:56
lovejames - Episode One - Just a little introduction

lovejames - Episode One - Just a little introduction

We are Juli-Anne and Andrew James. A couple of bold, eternal optimists who believe in old school love. We don't have all the answers about love and marriage, but through this podcast, we hope to share perspective with you that will help inspire healthy growth and evolution in your relationships. We've been married for 10 years, known each other for 18, and counseled couples into and through marriage. We've put in some hours. On top of all of that, our parents have been married for a combined total of 98 years and counting! 

Here's to the start of our conversation with you. Episode one introduces us, our Executive Producer Tristan, and goes into some foundational thoughts and perspectives on love and marriage. 

We want to hear from you. So be sure to follow us on Instagram @formorelovejames, tell us what you think by dropping us a line at podcast@thejameses.ca, or by visiting thejameses.ca/lovejames. Peace & lovejames

Disclaimer: On the lovejames podcast, we talk about love. Abuse is not love. It is one person in a relationship having power and control over the other person. the strategies we discuss for resolving conflict and working through the challenges of relationships assume that both people are willing and well-meaning. If you are in an abusive relationship, we encourage you to seek help in safely getting out of it.

Feb 14, 202043:60