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Love, Lust & Lies

Love, Lust & Lies

By Stephon and Sex Therapist Jen
Sex Therapist Jen and Stephon discuss the ups, downs, ins and outs of new aged dating, relationships, the battle between men and women, all things sexual and so much more every Wednesday.
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S2: Ep 12 "Arrangements"
On the final episode of season 2 Sex Therapist Jen and Steph talk about being comfortable in whatever arrangement you are in. Whether its just a hook-up, casual dating, situationship, friends with benefits, polyamorous relationships, etc. Sex Therapist Jen talks about Imposter Syndrome and how people aren't really being their true selves in relationships. Steph says "You are the only Expert in your relationship. No one can tell you about your relationship better than you." Steph and Sex Therapist Jen both think people allow societal pressures too much authority on their "Arrangements." Once again we appreciate all our listeners. We thank you for tuning in every week. Please send us your comments and thoughts about the show. Share some of the topics you'd like to hear. Share some of the stories you have with us and we'll talk about them on the show. You can remain anonymous if you'd like. You can reach us at Message us on, @lovelustliespodcast, @sextherapistjen, @stephon_urquelle on Instagram. Also like and subscribe on all platforms. See y'all next season
May 20, 2021
S2: Ep 11 "It's Vibe"
This weeks episode is all in support Masturbation Month. We are joined by Sex Educator and toy supplier Linnea Maire. Linnea and Sex Therapist Jen share stories about their "What that mouth do?!" workshop and the importance oral pleasure. We talk about the importance of masturbation. Steph and Sex Therapist Jen share some intimate stories about masturbation. Also we discuss why masturbation isn't "Taboo" and should be normalized.
May 12, 2021
S2:Ep 10 "The Parental Influence"
This week we dive into how the way we are raised effects our relationships. Does your parents relationships effect your decision making in relationships. Also does the lack of witnessing a successful loving relationship determine whether you can have a successful loving relationship. Sex Therapist Jen and Steph share stories on their up bringing and how they think it has effected their relationships.
May 05, 2021
S2:Ep 9 "KING: Life of a Porn Star Featuring Kingnoire"
During this episode Steph and Sex Therapist Jen interview Kingnoire. He is a Porn Star, Educator, Rapper and Co-Owner of Royal Fetish Films. King gives insight on how he started in the business and what it's like working with different performers. He also drops gems on how men can have more stamina in the bedroom!
April 28, 2021
S2: Ep 8 "So What's Up With Your Friend?"
This episode is all about the co-sign. Sex Therapist Jen and Steph talk about co-signing the homie. Steph has his reservations about giving the approval to dating his friends. Sex Therapist Jen explains why the co-sign could be a very sketchy reference. Also there's more than one type of co-sign. There's what some would say a "Dick Review" when the ladies are describing whether or not a friend is worth the time when suitors come calling. Also is dating the homie a good idea... If it doesn't workout can you go back to being homies. All that plus some juicy stories shared by both Sex Therapist Jen and Steph.
April 14, 2021
S2: Ep 7 "Derrick Jaxn"
This we talk all thing Derrick Jaxn. Why do women believe these so called "Relationship Gurus"? Also Sex Therapist Jen sets the record straight on the difference between so called Life Coaches and Therapist. 
March 31, 2021
S2: Ep 6 "Truth Hurts"
This episode is all about Truth! Can you handle the truth? Who deals with truth better men or women? Steph shares some stories about how he was confronted with the truth and how he reacted. Sex Therapist Jen explains that truth must be delivered in with care so it can be received instead of with intent to hurt. At the end of the day would you rather enjoy the lie or live in your truth? 
March 24, 2021
S2: Ep 5 "Ex-Factor"
Keeping in touch with you Ex... Is it cheating or not? Is it ok to keep in touch with your ex and your mate doesn't know. We getting to all that and more in this weeks episode Sex Therapist Jen and Steph share their stories and opinions on the Ex-Factor. Sex Therapist Jen has an interesting story about exes and her family. 
March 17, 2021
S2: Ep4 "Where do we begin?"
Dating is so confusing so in this weeks episode Sex Therapist Jen and Steph try to get some clarity and breakdown the stages of dating. They discuss Talking, FWB, Situationships, Dating, the actual relationship, etc. Also how important is your parents thoughts and opinions when it comes to your relationships? Does parental approval matter? Does your mate have to get along with your family? Well you'll hear Sex Therapist Jen and Steph's thoughts on all these things and more.
March 10, 2021
S2: Ep3 "Therapy With The Carters"
This week Sex Therapist Jen sits down with The Carters and pulls back the curtain on how they met, who said "I love you" first, co-parenting and just the ends and outs up and downs of being in a loving relationships. 
March 03, 2021
S2: Ep 2 "Reproductive Rights"
This week's episode is about a topic that is uncomfortable to have an honest discussion about. This is a sensitive top and may trigger some of our listeners. Abortion is a topic that has always been looked at as a woman's only choice and we discuss is that fair. Also what rights does the man have when it comes to their kids. How do you approach the subject of abortion when you find out you're pregnant? What happens when you're not as excited as your partner. Why is this a subject that's off limits to joke about. Truly discussing abortion being used as contraceptive. Also we talk about how children are held hostage and used as leverage in relationships. Lastly how people are trapping their mates into parenthood. These are all deep topics and we're going to dive right in. Plus Sex Therapist Jen and Steph share their own personal experiences surrounding the topic.
February 24, 2021
S2: Ep 1 "Valentine's Day"
Season 2 begins with the good, bad and ugly of Valentine's Day. Sex Therapist Jen shares a Valentine's Day horror story. Steph and Jen share their thoughts on who Valentine's Day is for and the misconceptions and expectations that accompany Lovers Day. Are men left out of Valentine's Day and what ladies should do to show their man he's special on Valentine's Day. Also Steph helps the fellas with low budget ideas to spoil your lady on Lovers Day. 
February 17, 2021
Episode 12 - "Is Your Real Life As Good As Your IG?"
Season 1 concludes with Sex Therapist Jen and Steph discussing health; mental, physical and financial health. They discuss how focusing on all three are extremely important in becoming a better you. Sex Therapist Jen and Steph both share stories on how they are managing all these factors in their lives during these troubling times. Sex Therapist Jen gives advice on how we can maintain a healthy lifestyle.
December 16, 2020
Episode - 11 "Cheating: Who does it better?"
We are talking about cheating. Who does it the most, who does it the best and how do you heal. Sex Therapist Jen has a story to tell about how she stepped out of character during a cheating incident. Steph talks about the joys of cheating and the pain of being cheated on. Also Sex Therapist Jen and Steph talk about why we cheat and how to move on. 
December 09, 2020
Episode 10 - "Where's my dildo?"
This weeks episode is all about toys. Yup, sex toys and all of their splendor. Steph tells a story about how he was introduced to toys in the bedroom and it caught him off guard. Sex Therapist Jen educates the listeners on the different kinds of toys. How to use them, how to clean them and her favorites. Both Jen and Steph share their experiences with toys and Jen asks why aren't guys more receptive to using toys during foreplay.
November 11, 2020
Episode 9 - "Do Men Fake It?"
This week Sex Therapist Jen tells a story about when a man denied her access to pound town. Jen and Steph discuss how hard it is for women to hear the word no when it pertains to sex. Steph shares a few reasons why men take a pass on sex and also some of the backlash he's received for saying no to sex. Sex Therapist Jen educates the ladies on how to tell if your man is faking it during sex.
November 04, 2020
Episode 8 - "Why You So Mad?!?!"
In episode 8 Steph wants to know why are some women so mad? Steph shares a couple stories about getting unwarranted heat from women. Sex Therapist Jen tries to help men understand why some women may project their irritation and anger on unsuspecting suitors. Jen speaks on the struggles black women deal with on a daily basis that many misinterpret as anger and aggression. Steph also wonders why some women have trouble accepting compliments.  Lastly, Sex Therapist Jen and Steph bring awareness to sexual trauma and the importance of discussing it with your partner.
October 28, 2020
Episode 7 - "Fuck Me Like You Want Me"
In this episode Sex Therapist Jen tells a story about not getting all he's got. Steph and Jen talk about guys giving random chicks super dick while wifey gets regular dick. We give our thoughts on Monogamy & Marriage Sex After 10 years; a topic from the Deadass Podcast with Devale & Khadeen. We dive into the question why do women request monogamy if they're not ready to handle the male sexual appetite. Also discuss sex becoming a chore, being prepared for marriage and do woman place too much pressure on men? Oh and Steph says “Fuck Dem Kids!”
October 21, 2020
Episode 6 - "I Could Eat..."
Steph feels used by women who go on "Dinner Dates." Sex Therapist Jen says don't offer to take me out if you can't afford it and she also shares some dating tips for the fellas. Is it tricking if you got it? Steph and Jen discuss what is tricking and the lines may be a little blurred. 
October 14, 2020
Episode 5 - "Big Dick Energy"
This week is all about Big Dick Energy! Who has it, who can claim it and how it's earned. Also Sex Therapist Jen has a story to tell and Steph is dumbfounded by the dedication discovered in Jen's story. Jen wants to know why men think they forever stake claim to the pussy, Steph says all men aren't as easy as women think and lastly Sex Therapist Jen and Steph discuss the rules on getting that old thing back.
October 07, 2020
Episode 4 - "Expectations & Accountability"
Are your expectations realistic or fictional? Steph has a story to tell about unrealistic expectations. Sex Therapist Jen shares why realistic expectations and communication makes a happier more unified relationship. Steph rants about the non existence of female accountability. Jen says men don't get married because they are "WEAK!"
September 30, 2020
Episode 3 - "OH, SHIT!!!"
On this episode Sex Therapist Jen and Steph discuss a fetish that could get a bit messy, Steph has a story tell about weapons during sex, Jen and Steph examine the struggles of online dating and is "Ghosting" a millennial trait?  
September 23, 2020
Episode 2 - "Money, Power and Pussy"
This week on Love, Lust and Lies, Sex Therapist Jen plays footsie. Steph shares why the male brain becomes incoherent when entangled with the "WAP". What is the "WAP" and are too many women miss representing the presence of it? Women use pussy and men use money, Steph and Jen share why it's just how the game goes.
September 16, 2020
Episode 1 - "Second Time Around"
On the debut episode, Steph and Sex Therapist Jen discuss how they met and what brought Love, Lust and Lies to fruition. Jen talks about her road to becoming a sex therapist and what the job entails. Steph looks back on how he began watching porn and the crazy kinds of porn he watches. Jen may have a second career filming porn. Plus Jen and Steph discuss the importance of "Consent." 
September 09, 2020