Getting you out of your head and into your heart. Heidi is the creator ofLoveWideOpen.com and Love Wide Open on all major social media channels, a Heart Space Coach, Author, Blogger, an Alternative Healthcare Practitioner atHeidiDellaire.com. Her book, Roots and Tendrils, is a poetic journey through the highs of love and the lows of heartbreak ultimately leading to self-love. If you are interested in coaching work with Heidi or finding out more about her book, you can contact her atHeidiDellaire.com
What does that mean...the art of holding heart space? "The Art of Holding Heart Space" is the tagline to my social media presence and website for Love Wide Open. Love Wide Open...the art of holding heart space. So many people have asked me what it means and how you hold heart space for yourself and others.
I will even go as far as to say that holding heart space can literally save the world if we all practiced it. Join me for this episode where we dive deep into the heart of ourselves so that we can bear witness to others. The world needs more of this right now.
I referenced my course, Creating Peace Within, at the beginning of this episode. You can find out more about it under the "courses" tab at heididellaire.com or go directly here: https://courses.heididellaire.com/p/creating-peace-within
You can find out more about me, my coaching or either of my websites at
https://heididellaire.com or https://lovewideopen.com
Sending you all lots of love. Let's hold the space for each other during these trying times. ~Heidi
If you are in a relationship with someone with a toxic personality, you might find yourself defending everything you say or do. Over time you will begin to question your own perspective as each action on your part causes a negative reaction. Does that sound familiar? So many people enter into relationships with toxic partners. There are many reasons this may happen, but for the most part, it is because there is something unhealed or something that you don't even understand about yourself that drew this type of person to you.
I work as a Heart Space Coach with clients around these types of issues. I work with folks to restore their self-esteem and self-worth and help guide them to a more confident self in all of their relationships. I use an integrative, embodied approach to healing.
You can find me at heididellaire.com for coaching work (look for the Work With Me page). You can also find more self-development articles at lovewideopen.com
We often believe that we are self-aware when we really ARE NOT. Being self-aware helps a person make more informed decisions, and contributes to one's overall wellbeing. Self-awareness makes it easier to identify situations and people that hit our triggers and enables us to anticipate our own reactions. It allows us to make positive behavioral changes that can lead to greater personal and interpersonal success. Being aware of yourself also helps in identifying what your stressors are, so you can utilize the information to build effective coping mechanisms. In this episode, I will give some tips on how to cultivate self-awareness. It will help you and the others around you.
If you are interested in working with me directly, you can find out more about my Heart Space Sessions 1-to-1 Coaching at HeidiDellaire.com or find more self-development articles at LoveWideOpen.com.
Sending lots of love. ~Heidi
Around the world, fears of Covid-19 are spreading faster than the actual virus. Countries are firming up their borders, many businesses are closing, thousands of people are buying with panic, and the majority of us are being asked to self-isolate. It's entirely understandable if you have feelings of fear, anxiety, or insecurity at this time. We are feeling collective grief: grief for what was, what is and what may be.
We are in an unprecedented time. The only thing we can control is ourselves in the present moment. Mindfulness and meditation can help ease those moments of doubt and grief.
You can also find my coaching services and blog at Heidi Dellaire.com along with other self-development articles at LoveWideOpen.com.
Thank you for listening.
In this episode, I discuss the difference between meditation and mindfulness. That meditation is about quieting the mind, while mindfulness is about being aware of what you are doing while you are doing it. Granted, there is more to it than that. I give some examples of how to bring mindfulness into your life. It takes practice if you are someone who is always up in your head. I teach mindfulness and meditation to my clients as part of their healing routine. There is a mindfulness blog series over on HeidiDellaire.com.
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Lots of love,
As an Ayurvedic Practitioner, I like to share health knowledge that can benefit everyone. It's a simple thing to do to adopt a glass of pure warm lemon water before you ingest anything else in the morning. Listen in to hear all of the benefits that this daily practice can provide you. I can be reached through the contact forms on either HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com
I had the pleasure of speaking with Louise Clarke, a Certified Parent Coach about all things parenting involving teenagers. Her book, Parenting The MODERN TEEN: The secret to understanding, connecting and communicating with your teen in a disconnected, distracted and digital world, is all about raising your teen into a responsible, respectful, reliable, and confident young adult while building a strong connection and relationship with them.
We talk about triggers that are built into us from an early age and how as adults, raising our own children is like playing back old, pre-loaded software. We also discuss a topic near and dear to her, ADHD in teens.
Louise us such a valuable resource to parents. She has a blog series on various topics and a series about ADHD. You can listen to her podcast, Parenting In The Thick Of It on many podcast platforms, designed for busy moms on the go. Check out her new book and many courses that she offers. You can also reach her through her website, YourParentingPartner.com, if you would like to work with her directly or take more of a look at her parenting resources.
If you would like to reach out to me, you can find me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. I would love to hear from you. ~Heidi
Being mindful of how you treat others can determine what kind of heart space you are opening up to others. As humans, we carry a powerful darkness within. It is part of the human condition and when triggered it feels so natural we do not even realize when are allowing it enter into our being. When we treat others poorly, we are dehumanizing that person in our brains. Be the seeds of love we need in the world. ~Heidi
If you would like to work with me for Heart Space Coaching, you can reach out through the contact form on HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com.
We are what we believe we are and when we can move past the roadblocks of self-sabotage and understand that we are the creating force behind the kind of life we want to live, we tap into our own magic. Let's talk about believing and creating your own magic. I would love to hear from you about your own magic story. You can reach me through the contact from on either HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. Don't forget to sign up for the newsletter while you are there. If you are using the Anchor.fm app, you can send me a voice message right through the app. Sending lots of love. ~Heidi
All the negative thoughts, experiences, and situations are absorbed into the spirit, much like unhealthy toxins are absorbed into the body. Do you know how good it feels to stand in the hot shower and let the water run over your face after you’ve been crying? It’s a spiritual cleansing. That’s what we are talking about here.
But saying one needs a spiritual cleanse and understanding how to go about achieving the cleanse are two very different things. Before you continue with your cleanse, it is important to note the reasons why you need one.
What negative thoughts or feelings do you need to purge so that you can make space for positive thoughts and feelings to fill that space?
You can reach me at HeidiDellaire.com to learn more about my book or my Heart Space Coaching or at LoveWideOpen.com for self-help and self-development articles and my personal blog. If you use the Anchor app to listen, you can send me voice messages that I may use on future episodes.
Sending lots of love. ~Heidi
Are you an empathetic person? If so, you may have run into this problem before. I sure used to before I learned some healthier boundaries. When you take on another person‘s emotions or baggage as your own, it is very easy to lose yourself in the process. Where many empathetic people have a difficult time turning on and off their empathy, it is necessary to a certain extent or else you run the risk of ruining your own life and happiness. So, is your empathy preventing you from living your life? I would love to hear from you about this episode or anything else that is on your mind. You can reach me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com If you are interested in my book, Roots and Tendrils, which is my journey back from being too empathetic towards others and not enough towards myself, you can learn more on HeidiDellaire.com If you are interested in working with me for Heart Space Sessions, reach out through HeidiDellaire.com.
People with a growth mindset have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience. According to Dweck, when a student has a fixed mindset, they believe that their basic abilities, intelligence, and talents are fixed traits.
Let's talk about what it takes to have a growth mindset and a positive mindset to move forward in life and learn new things. You can reach me at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidDellaire.com If you are listening on the Anchor App, you can send me voice messages that may be used in future episodes.
When we tell our stories, we start to heal. It is through telling our stories that we realize that we are far more alike with others than we are different. I had the pleasure of speaking with Catherine B. Roy, the author of Live From the Heart and Mind.
Catherine B. Roy is a Human Potential Thought Leader, Bestselling Author, Personal Growth and Business Coach, MENSA member and an Award Winning Artist and Scientist whose stimulating, upbeat and inspirational writings have helped countless people in the world.
Catherine’s writings have been published in The Huffington Post, Thrive Global, and many others. She has been featured as a guest expert at many summits and as a participant and expert speaker at numerous international conferences.
Catherine enjoys the distinction of receiving the Top 30 Under 30 award and is an experienced linguistics researcher and is certified in the fields of emotional intelligence and assertive communication.
As the author of the “Live from Your Heart and Mind”, Catherine is the guiding force behind the “LHM” system for increasing a person’s emotional and intellectual capacity, and inspiring them to positive change and accomplishment.
You can find Catherine at her website http://catherinebroy.com/
If you want to reach out to me or are interested in working with me around all areas of the heart (Heart Space Coaching), you can contact me through the contact form on either LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com
I would love to hear what you think about Catherine's story. If you are using the Anchor.fm app, you can send me voice messages that may be used in future podcast episodes.
So many of my clients find themselves in this place in life. Hell, I found myself in this place in life once. We wonder who the hell we are. Why did life get so off track? Is it too late? Can I change it? Do I have the power within myself to do something else? Well, I am here to tell you, Yes! You do still have power to change your life, you just need to WANT to CHOOSE to change it. It's all up to you. If you would like to speak with me about this episode or want to work with me, reach out to me through the contact form at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Have an amazing day and I am happy to be part of your journey. Sending lots of love. ~Heidi
I had the pleasure of hearing Elizabeth Gilbert speak on the last leg of her book tour for City of Girls at Memorial Church at Harvard last week. I got up and asked a question about something that Liz talks about a lot...being love in the room. Liz has been an inspiration to me in many ways and has been a part of my journey. Her book Big Magic was the push I needed to understand that Love Wide Open was a big magic idea. I now teach people about love after learning to love myself again. My own book was my love letter to myself and a healing journey. I now coach people on heart journeys. Thanks Liz for all that you do to remind us that love is messy and beautiful and that life was meant to be lived. There are several powerful quotes from Liz in this episode along with the Derek Walcott poem, Love After Love. I also wrote an article about it for my Heart Space Lessons blog on LoveWideOpen.com. You can find it here https://bit.ly/2Ya3JxN. If you would like to reach out to me or work with me, you can contact me at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com Sending lots of love. ~Heidi
How do you take control of your own life and make it what you want it to be? How do you become who you want to be? We are capable of becoming anything we want to be. It takes practice and diligence. I work with so many clients who get stuck in a self-limiting belief mindset and can't see that they have the ability to CHOOSE what happens next in their lives. They have the responsibility right in their own hands. Understanding that I was capable of anything allowed me to finish my book, Roots and Tendrils.
If you would like to work with me or reach out about this episode, you can find me through the contact form at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. You may also leave me a message or become a sponsor of this podcast at Anchor.fm/lovewideopen.
Thank you for listening and doing the work on yourselves to keep growing.
Much love. ~Heidi
We have all been through it. We have made mistakes. We have hurt people. What do we do when someone won't forgive us for what we have done to them? Is it our responsibility to try to make them understand and forgive us or do we need to forgive ourselves in the midst of taking responsibility for our actions and say that we are sorry? I would love to hear more from you. You can find me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com. If you are interested in working with me for Heart Space Coaching, reach out through the websites above. Sending lots of love to everyone.
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Substance abuse is a topic that comes up a lot with clients, whether it be their personal addiction or the addiction of someone they love. Whether the addict in your life is a partner, a parent, a sibling or a friend, maintaining a relationship with a person with a substance abuse issue will present challenges for you. If you love someone who abuses drugs or alcohol, their dependence becomes an unavoidable part of your life.
Don't forget to subscribe or follow on whatever platform you are listening on so that you don't miss another episode. If you are listening on the Anchor app, you can leave me a message that may be used or read in a future episode. I can also be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com I look forward to hearing from you. Be gentle with yourself, always.
In the last two episodes, I have discussed negative and positive self-talk. In this episode, I discuss how to put positivity into action and the practices that you can put into place to obtain a more positive mindset. If you are listening on the Anchor app, you can send me a message that may be read or played on a future episode. Thank you for listening and I can be reached through the contact form at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com
Words have power. We can either use negative words or positive words. Negative words hold us back. Positive words propel us forward. The language we use with ourselves internally and with the world at large have a major impact on who we become. They can keep us struggling or they can empower us to strive for high achievement and a better life for ourselves and the world. There is power in getting into a routine or habit of positive self-talk. Let me know what your words of positivity are going to be for yourself. If you would like to work with me, I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Don't forget to subscribe or follow the podcast on whatever channel you are listening so that you don't miss another episode.
Sometimes we aren't even aware that we have a negative internal dialogue that can also spill out to the Universe and become our reality. Negative words and thoughts become what we are. If we believe we aren't good enough, then we aren't. The things we think and speak are important to our stagnation or our growth. Let's discuss those negative words and phrases and touch upon how to slowly shift that around. If you are listening on Anchor, you can send me a message via the app, if you are listening on Apple Podcasts, I would love your honest review. Don't forget to subscribe or favorite so that you don't miss another episode. I can also be reached at HeidiDellaire.com or at LoveWideOpen.com
If you knew you had one week to live, what would you do differently with your time? If it is different than your every day life, it is time to dig deeper. Let's talk about how death teaches us how to live instead of wasting our precious gift of life. If you are listening on Anchor, you can send me a message about this episode or any previous episode. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts, please leave your honest review of this podcast. There is a poem in my book, Roots and Tendrils, that speaks to this topic called "Life". I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Thank you for your support.
Why are we so quick to fear change? Why do we get anxious about the things we can't control? Change, often, brings us amazing periods of growth. So what must we do to embrace change and put fear aside? I would love your feedback on this episode or any other episode. If you are listening on Apple Podcasts or another platform that allows reviews, I would also love your review. I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.
So many of us push away our discomforts and opt to stay only in our comfort zones. What we are ultimately doing is pushing away those things that we need to work through from past hurts, traumas or faulty beliefs. When we lean into the discomfort and allow ourselves to heal our "stuff", we free ourselves and allow are hearts to be more open. And when our hearts are more open, so are our minds and vice versa. Don't forget to subscribe and review if your listening platform allows it. Thank you. If you have questions or comments about this episode or other episodes, I can be reached at LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.
Many of you have heard me talk about chasing joy after getting out of a toxic relationship. I have made a few videos about it on both the Love Wide Open Channel on YouTube and also Love Wide Open on Facebook. How do you do it? How do you rebuild your life after losing yourself and giving yourself away to a toxic connection with someone else. It takes a lot of hard work and effort but it starts with getting back into doing the things you love and spending time with the people who love you. There are numerous articles about it on LoveWideOpen.com. If you have any questions about this episode or want to work with me, I can be reached through either LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com.
Just because you love someone doesn't mean that they are going to be able to receive it. You can't save someone with your love. Only they can save themselves. When we squeeze too hard, we can squash the love we are trying to give away and then it just becomes toxic for both parties involved. You can find me on LoveWideOpen.com or HeidiDellaire.com. Please reach you about this episode or something you would like to hear about.
When facing great challenges in life it is very easy to blame other people and situations for our pain. Invariably, you will find that accepting responsibility for yourself and your life is the only way to bring about lasting change. I would love to hear from you about either this episode or other content you would love to hear. You can reach me LoveWideOpen.com or through HeidiDellaire.com. You can also check out my book, Roots and Tendrils here on Amazon.
“Vulnerability is about showing up and being seen. It’s tough to do that when we’re terrified about what people might see or think.” — Brené Brown
To contact me, you can reach out at firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com. You can also learn more about my book through the Roots and Tendrils page on HeidDellaire.com
We can learn a lot about ourselves and society in general if we choose to embrace the shadow self instead of ignore it or make it "not" part of who we actually are. Listen in as I discuss how embracing our shadow actually allows for us to be more compassionate with ourselves and others. Feel free to reach out to discuss this topic at firstname.lastname@example.org or email@example.com. You can find out more about my book Roots and Tendrils at HeidiDellaire.com.
Friendship is such a beautiful testiment and witness to who we really are in the eyes of another. Friendship can be fleeting or last beyond our own passing. Join me on a journey through what true friendship means through the words of one of my favorite poets, David Whyte. He has been one of the inspirations in my own writing and publishing of my poetry book, Roots and Tendrils.
As we are moving through life, why does it become harder to find or express the joyful moments in life like when we were children? Where are you #chasingjoy? How are you finding joy in your life? Have you forgotten to look around and see it everywhere in every present moment? You can connect with my more on HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com and reach out through email on either site. My book, Roots and Tendrils, is available on Amazon. A poetic journey through the highs of love and the lows of heartbreak that ultimately lead you to self-love. It's for anyone who has ever loved or been loved.
We have all had painful moments that stay with us. Time can often heal these wounds and painful moments if we let it. In this episode, I discuss a break-up I went through awhile back and how with time, the pain has lessened. I also read a poem from my book, Roots and Tendrils (available on Amazon) called Heart Cleanse. Heart Cleanse is a piece that talks about pain and releasing it to allow it to form a scar. How are you working through your pain? How are you also seeking out the joyous moments to help you heal? You can contact me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com
We have all been there. We have been on both sides. We have been the one who is in pain and someone says something that just hurts your heart in their kindest attempt to help the situation. We have also been the one that is feeling so much need to try to help the situation that we end up saying something the discounts the pain that someone else is in. Let's always work hard to just stay in presence with someone who is in pain. Often, our presence is all that is needed. Reach out to me at firstname.lastname@example.org or at HeidiDellaire.com with feedback
We hear a lot about self-love these days. Let's talk about what it is and what it isn't. Self-love is an individual journey. I understand that journey. It is what led me to creating LoveWideOpen.com and writing my book Roots and Tendrils. Feel free to comment or send in feedback about this episode to email@example.com or you can find me at HeidiDellaire.com
Have you ever wondered why you can't stop thinking about someone you were involved with or why you hold on to certain items of theirs? When we get emotionally and phyically involved with a person in a romantic relationship, we create energetic soul ties to that person. It's important to clear those soul ties so that both parties may move on with their lives. Listen to understand chord cutting and why it is important. This can also be done with anyone you have an energetic bond with. My book, Roots and Tendrils, is a journey through romantic relationships that ultimately leads to self love. You can find it on Amazon. Always feel free to reach out with questions at lovewideopen.com or HeidiDellaire.com
Does the universe provide us with signs of when it is time to let go of the things that hurt our heart and our soul? Why yes, it does. Tune in to understand the signs that come to us when it is time to let go of either big things or little things, ie., relationships, a job, an idea.
You can find me and more Love Wide Open resources at LoveWideOpen.com and HeidiDellaire.com and Love Wide Open and Heidi Dellaire on Facebook. I have a new book out that is a poetic journey through the highs of love and the lows of heartbreak that lead you back to self-love. Check it out here at Roots and Tendrils.
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What is it in us that makes us lash out at others when we can't sit in our own discomfort? Why do we think it is an act of strength or power to tear someone else down when we don't even take the time to understand a situation? We have to dig deep within ourselves to understand why we, as humans, stop seeing other people as human beings with feelings. Why do we stop acting with empathy and compassion when we are in a state of fear? You can find me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com.
We all have the ability to heal our own hearts. We just need to listen and go deep. Healing is something we need to embrace and take on so that we can let things go and move on with our lives. You can find me at HeidiDellaire.com or LoveWideOpen.com