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My Love Life Was A Sh*T Show

My Love Life Was A Sh*T Show

By Sarah Duff

Embark on a hilarious journey through the chaos of modern dating with "My Love Life Used to Be a Shit Show." Join me, your gal from Hull, weekly as we explore the ridiculous, cringeworthy, and absurd experiences in the quest for love. From terrible dates to relationship roller coasters, we're navigating the highs and lows, complete with my own unforgettable stories. But it's not just about laughs; we're also uncovering valuable lessons from the madness of love. Share your tales, and let's learn and laugh through the world of dating together!
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My Love Life Was A Sh*T ShowApr 25, 2022

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Magnetic You: How to raise your vibe and 10 ways to find more joy

Magnetic You: How to raise your vibe and 10 ways to find more joy

Hey, awesome listeners! It's Sarah and Marci back to close out 2023 with an episode where we share the things we do to raise our vibe every day.


Things we cover:

  1. Daily Rituals: The power of breathwork, music, moving, and simply getting dressed to raise your daily vibe.
  2. Personal Experiences: Marci shares a recent experience that took her on a bit of a triggered spiral and how she handled it.
  3. Practical tools: What we have in our emotional toolbox & how we both approach journaling.
  4. Festive Season Hacks 🎄 - Our golden nuggets for the holidays – mindful minutes, joy in the little things, and spreading good vibes by doing good for others. 'Tis the season, after all!


That's a wrap for now! We'll be back next year with more chatty wisdom. Until then, keep those vibes high, stay fabulous, and catch you on the flip side. ✨

Let's Connect Instagram:


  • Follow Sarah: @itsthrivewithduffstyle
  • Follow Marci: @marcinevin


Dec 15, 202341:10
 My Love Use To Be A Shit Show COMING SOON!

My Love Use To Be A Shit Show COMING SOON!

Embark on a hilarious journey through the chaos of modern dating with "My Love Life Used to Be a Shit Show."


Join me weekly from January 5th 2024 as we explore the ridiculous, cringeworthy, and absurd experiences in the quest for love.

From terrible dates to relationship roller coasters, we're navigating the highs and lows, complete with my own unforgettable stories.

But it's not just about laughs; we're also uncovering valuable lessons from the madness of love.


Subscribe now and let's learn and laugh our way through the world of dating and relationships together!

Dec 04, 202301:26
S4 19.Are You Living In Sync? Here's how to know.

S4 19.Are You Living In Sync? Here's how to know.

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🎙️ Hey friend!! Here's the scoop in a nutshell of what's on today's episode:


🔍 Getting Aligned: I chat about living in sync with what feels right – in career, love, the whole shebang.


🛤️ Spotting Alignment Signs: I'll spill on how to tell when things feel heavy or frustrating and why it matters for making decisions that really light you up.


🌈 My Shifts & Sustainable Style: Get the deets on my new styling adventures and why sustainable fashion is making its mark in our world!


🌈 I share big news today – the podcast is getting a makeover! 🎉 The name just isn't clicking anymore, so I'm taking a quick break for the revamp, but I'll be back in two weeks with a fresh vibe, a brand-new name, and all the good stuff! 🚀 Grateful for you💖


📣 Important links!


👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-coaching 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here: ⁠https://www.instagram.com⁠/thriveinloveafter40.podcast/ ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠



Nov 22, 202318:15
"Are You Your Own Worst Critic? Navigating Negative Self-Talk in Relationships and Life

"Are You Your Own Worst Critic? Navigating Negative Self-Talk in Relationships and Life

Introduction:

Welcome to the Magnetic You, a new podcast series hosted by Sarah Duff and Marci Nevin. Join us for conversations about life, relationships, and personal growth.


Today's Topic: Body Image and Relationships:

  • Exploring body image issues among women over 40 in dating and relationships.
  • The impact of changes in the body on confidence and the fear of getting intimate again.
  • Overcoming the challenges of accepting one's current body and navigating the dating scene.
  • The importance of addressing negative self-talk and inner criticism regarding physical changes.
  • Shifting mindset, finding self-acceptance, and embracing personal growth in the dating journey.

Join us on Magnetic You for insightful discussions on navigating life and relationships with authenticity and confidence. Tune in and explore the magnetic force within you!


Don't forget to follow the podcast, and if you would love us a 5-star review, we would be so grateful.


📣 Important links!


FOLLOW MARCI on Instagram @marcinevin


👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-coaching 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/thriveinloveafter40.podcast/ ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠



Nov 16, 202352:55
S4 17. Should You Date Someone Younger Than You?

S4 17. Should You Date Someone Younger Than You?

"Should You Date Men That Are Younger Than You?" That's the question I'm answering on this episode of the Thrive in Love After Podcast. Watch this episode on YouTube here: youtu.be/KGLewHWrSdI

Key Takeaways from the episode:

Challenge conditioning: Question societal expectations influencing your dating choices.


There is no right or wrong: Understand there's no fixed rule for age in dating, just personal preferences.


Trust your instincts: Follow your heart when deciding to date someone younger.


Shared values matter: Ensure compatibility in life stages and values for a healthy relationship.


Your choice, your life: Don't be swayed by others' opinions; make decisions that feel right for you.


IMO, good and bad decisions don't exist!


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected:

🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ thriveandmanifest.com/11-coaching

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!


Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here: www.instagram.com/thriveinloveafter40.podcast/ ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Nov 09, 202311:12
S4 16. Is Playing The Cool Girl Sabotaging Your Relationships?

S4 16. Is Playing The Cool Girl Sabotaging Your Relationships?

Take my new assessment. here: https://thriveandmanifest.com/taketheassessment


Hello friend, it's great to be back after a short break. Today, I want to dive into a topic that's been on my mind for a while – Cool Girl Syndrome in dating and relationships.


I'm excited to talk about this because it's something I struggled with during my twenties and thirties, and I'm sure many of you can relate.


Key Takeaways from the episode:


  • Cool Girl Syndrome (CGS) involves being overly accommodating in your interactions, going along with everything the other person wants.
  • It's driven by the fear of coming across as needy, desperate, or being rejected.
  • Engaging in CGS prevents authentic connections and makes it hard to assess compatibility.
  • The longer you stay in CGS, the more resentment builds because you abandon yourself.
  • Over time, CGS creates an unhealthy relationship dynamic where your partner thinks their behaviour is okay.
  • You block intimacy and genuine connections when you don't show your true self.
  • CGS leads to overthinking and overanalyzing situations.


Action Steps:


  1. Reflect on your past dating and relationship experiences to identify instances where CGS may have influenced your behaviour.
  2. Write a story about what you'll do differently in the future to break free from CGS.
  3. Ask yourself what feels light and authentic in situations rather than following norms or overthinking.
  4. Get clear on your wants, boundaries, and true needs, and practice communicating them in various areas of your life.


Conclusion:


  • I want to encourage you to be yourself and communicate honestly in your dating and relationships.
  • Remember, relationships involve two humans with insecurities and vulnerabilities.
  • Owning your side of the street and working through your fears can lead to personal growth and more fulfilling connections.


Closing Notes:


  • Don't forget to check out the episode on YouTube:
  • I'd also like to remind all the amazing women over 40 that if you need guidance and support on your journey to a love life makeover, you can find more information in down below ⬇️
  • Lastly, consider taking our Relationship Awareness Quiz for personalized insights into your relationships.

Thanks for tuning in, and I'll catch you on the next episode. Bye for now!




📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected:


Watch the episode on YouTube:


🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Nov 02, 202333:48
S4 15. The No Episode Episode!!

S4 15. The No Episode Episode!!

If you're struggling with dating anxieties and repeating love patterns, especially if you're a woman over 40 looking for a love life makeover, check out below for details on how you can work with me. I'd love to help you on your journey to healthier, happier relationships.


And, as always, your support means the world to me! If you're tuning in via YouTube, don't forget to hit that like button and subscribe to the channel for more insightful content. If you're on your favourite podcast platform, please give the show a follow and leave some sparkly stars and a review to help others discover this valuable information.


For any questions or further insights, feel free to connect with me on Instagram or drop your questions to me in an email: sarah@livelovethrive.club --your questions and feedback are invaluable, and I love hearing from you.


Thank you for spending your precious time with me today, and until next time, keep growing, evolving, and loving.


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected:


🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-coaching

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠


Oct 19, 202305:08
S4 EP14. Mastering the Art of Not Getting Too Attached Too Soon

S4 EP14. Mastering the Art of Not Getting Too Attached Too Soon

Howdy, friend, and welcome back to another deep delve episode of The Thrive in Love After 40 Podcast.


In this episode, we'll dive into a common dating challenge – finding that delicate balance between investing enough in someone during the early stages of dating without diving in headfirst and becoming overly attached.


We've all been there, right? We meet someone new, and our minds start crafting these grand fantasies of what the future might hold. But too much too soon can be a recipe for heartache.


What You'll Learn:


  • How to avoid early attachment in dating
  • The dangers of projecting your fantasies onto someone new
  • The importance of Staying present and getting comfortable with uncertainty
  • Overcoming the urgency to rush things
  • Breaking free from the scarcity mindset


So grab your favourite drink, get comfy, and join me in unravelling the mysteries of early attachment in dating.


Key Takeaways from this episode:


  • Don't ignore your issues; address them head-on
  • Practice being present and embracing the moment
  • Overcome the urgency and scarcity mindset
  • The importance of self-awareness and addressing your own patterns and conditioning


If you're struggling with dating anxieties and repeating love patterns, especially if you're a woman over 40 looking for a love life makeover, check out below for details on how you can work with me. I'd love to help you on your journey to healthier, happier relationships.


And, as always, your support means the world to me! If you're tuning in via YouTube, don't forget to hit that like button and subscribe to the channel for more insightful content. If you're on your favourite podcast platform, please give the show a follow and leave some sparkly stars and a review to help others discover this valuable information.


For any questions or further insights, feel free to connect with me on Instagram or drop your questions to me in an email: sarah@livelovethrive.club --your questions and feedback are invaluable, and I love hearing from you.


Thank you for spending your precious time with me today, and until next time, keep growing, keep evolving, and keep loving.


Pod episode mentioned:


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected:


Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/s942wEWYks0


🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠⁠


Oct 12, 202348:18
S4 13. Break Ups: When Should You Start Dating Again After the End Of A Relationship?

S4 13. Break Ups: When Should You Start Dating Again After the End Of A Relationship?

Hey, glorious friend, welcome back to The Thrive In Love After 40 Podcast! In this episode, I am answering an Instagram DM, and I'll be delving into the complex world of post-breakup dating. I'll be sharing valuable insights and advice on when it's okay to start dating again after a breakup.


In the episode 💋, I'll spill the beans on:


  • When is the right time to start dating again after a breakup?
  • The individual nature of post-breakup dating decisions.
  • Escaping pain and the importance of emotional processing.
  • Learning from past relationships for personal growth.
  • The mirror concept: How every relationship reflects aspects of ourselves.
  • Taking action for positive change and reentering the dating world.


Join me as we navigate the emotional landscape of post-breakup dating and discover the keys to making healthy, informed decisions in your love life. Don't miss this insightful episode on The Thrive In Love After 40 Podcast.


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected:


Watch the episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/VI0ksZbgQjY 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠⁠⁠


🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠⁠


Oct 05, 202316:33
S4 12. How To Navigate the Early Stages of Dating As An Anxious Dater: A Deep Dive Into Effective Strategies and Creating The Right Mindset

S4 12. How To Navigate the Early Stages of Dating As An Anxious Dater: A Deep Dive Into Effective Strategies and Creating The Right Mindset

Do you find the early stages of dating challenging? Do you feel you want to press fast forward and get to the relationship part? Watch the episode on You Tube


Hi friend, and welcome back to The Thrive in Love after 40 Podcast with me, your host, Sarah Duff. In this episode, I'm delving into how you can navigate those uncertain and often awkward early stages of dating and offering valuable insights, especially for those who identify with having more anxious tendencies.


If you answer yes to these questions:

  • Do you have compulsions when you begin dating someone that may not lead to the result that you want?
  • Do you seek a lot of validation and reassurance from the person that you are dating?
  • Do you find yourself worrying and overthinking excessively about dating interactions?
  • Do you struggle with being authentic in your interactions?


This episode is a must-listen for you. ❤️


🌟What You'll Learn in This Episode:


  • How to recognise and address anxious tendencies in the early stages of dating.
  • The importance of self-awareness and authenticity in your dating interactions.
  • Strategies for emotional release and inner child healing to improve your dating experience.
  • Practical tips for creating a solid dating strategy and mastering healthy communication.
  • The role of pacing and taking things slowly in dating success.


Key Takeaways and advice:

  • Dating can be challenging, especially in the beginning, and even more so for individuals prone to anxiety.
  • Anxious behaviours, often driven by a need for validation, can inadvertently push potential partners away.
  • Self-awareness is the key to improving your dating experience; ask yourself crucial questions about your dating behaviours.
  • Understanding and addressing underlying issues like attachment wounds and past relationship baggage can lead to healthier dating experiences.
  • The episode introduces emotional release work and the significance of inner child healing in managing dating anxiety.
  • Commence your journey by working on inner issues and understanding the root causes of dating anxiety.
  • Identify and modify anxious behaviours that might hinder your dating progress.
  • Develop self-soothing practices and methods to maintain emotional balance during the dating process.
  • Explore the healing potential of inner child work to nurture your inner insecurities.
  • Cultivate the habit of self-reflection and providing yourself with what you need rather than seeking it externally.
  • Reflect on your motivations behind dating actions and whether they align with the energy you want to radiate and the outcome you want to experience.


Podcast episode on managing self-doubt and insecurity: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/ZU5Kdz49qDb


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠


Sep 28, 202353:47
S4 11.How can you be your authentic self when dating over 40?

S4 11.How can you be your authentic self when dating over 40?

👋HIIIII and welcome to the Thrive In Love After 40 Podcast. In this episode, I discuss the importance of being authentic in dating and relationships and share my own experiences of trying to please others and the negative impact it had on my connections. By the end of this episode, you will learn: 👉🏻The importance of embracing your imperfections and being true to yourself in order to attract genuine partners. 👉🏻How to stay present and curious during dates, responding authentically rather than reacting defensively. 👉🏻The need to assess your own feelings before seeking validation from others. 👉🏻A four-step process to help you stay grounded and focused on your own feelings.


Questions mentioned in the episode:

  • How do I feel in connection with this person?
  • Does it feel like we are showing up for each other and doing it authentically?
  • Do I feel respected, honoured, seen, heard?
  • Do I feel I can be myself?
  • Are they easy to talk to?
  • Does it feel light fun? Do I like this person?Is there a friendship there?
  • Is there depth there?
  • Do I feel connected? safe to be vulnerable?
  • Is there some sexual connection? 📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠


Sep 20, 202335:57
S4 10.Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationship Patterns: Relationship Coach Iris Benrubi interviewing me!

S4 10.Breaking Free from Unhealthy Relationship Patterns: Relationship Coach Iris Benrubi interviewing me!

Hi, lovely listener, in this episode, I am sharing the audio from a summit I took part in called The Secrets to Healthy Love, where I had the pleasure of being interviewed by Relationship coach and Therapist Iris Benrubi. We discussed the topic of breaking free from the past and finding a healthy relationship. I shared my personal journey of self-discovery and how my past experiences were impacting my adult relationships. One key point I emphasized was the lack of education on healthy relationships.


During our conversation, we talked about common myths and mistakes women make while dating. Self-awareness and intentional action were highlighted as crucial in navigating the dating world.


In the episode, you will learn 3 valuable tips to support you in finding the healthy, loving relationship you want. We explore the importance of


❤️Doing a relationship inventory

❤️A Dating Strategy and what it should include

❤️ Finding a community of like-minded women

❤️ Changing your narrative and approach to dating with a positive mindset.

❤️Letting go of past baggage and embracing a fresh perspective so you open yourself up to new possibilities and increase your chances of finding a fulfilling and healthy relationship.


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠⁠⁠


🌟⁠⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!


👑Grab the Freebie mentioned: https://thriveandmanifest.com/

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠

Sep 14, 202320:32
S4 9:How To Turn All Dating Experiences Into a Positive Thing and Use Them to Take You One Step Closer To Your Dream Relationship.

S4 9:How To Turn All Dating Experiences Into a Positive Thing and Use Them to Take You One Step Closer To Your Dream Relationship.

Hey there, lovely listener! Welcome back to The Thrive In Love After 40 Podcast, where we're about to embark on a juicy conversation. Today, I'm diving into a concept I've coined as the 'stepping stone relationship.'


Ever wondered how to reframe your dating experience mindset so it can actually help you make positive changes and get you closer to finding your ideal partner? 🤔 That's exactly what we'll explore in this episode.


💋I'll spill the beans on why I think it's essential to move beyond personal growth in isolation and into real-world practice to transform your love life.

👉🏻Share a sneaky action step you can take right now to kickstart your journey.

⏱️If you've been hesitating to get back into the dating game, telling yourself "it's not the right time", I'll reveal why it will never be the right time.

 ❌How avoiding dating and relationships isn't the answer.

👑Why 'stepping stone dates and relationships' could be your secret weapon.


Tune in and you'll discover how these 'stepping stone dates and relationships' can be your key to personal growth and getting closer to the relationship you truly desire. 😊🎙️


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠⁠


🌟⁠⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠⁠


Sep 07, 202314:03
S4EP8. Are These Hidden Blindspots Sabotaging Your Over-40 Love Life?

S4EP8. Are These Hidden Blindspots Sabotaging Your Over-40 Love Life?

Welcome back to the podcast! In today's episode, we're delving into the potential blind spots that are sabotaging you in dating and relationships. I call these particular blindspots energy leaks! And no, I'm not referring to the leaks you find in your plumbing – we're talking about those unintentional vibes and behaviours that might steer your love life off track.


Here's a sneak peek of what you'll learn:


🔍 Understanding Energy Leaks: Discover what energy leaks are and how they can unknowingly affect your dating and relationship experiences.

💔 The Love Shield Effect: Learn how these energy leaks create a "love shield" that can hinder your chances of a fulfilling dating life and a healthy relationship.

🔮 Spotting Energy Leaks: Get insights into behaviours like neediness, negative self-talk, and more that could drive the right connections away.

💡 The "Why" Check: Uncover a game-changing technique for ensuring your actions are grounded in positivity, not insecurity.

🧩 Attachment Styles Decoded: Find out how anxious and avoidant attachment styles influence your energy leaks and the partners you attract.

Fixing the Leaks: Get actionable tips for identifying, challenging, and fixing these energy leaks to create a more positive dating journey.


Remember, these energy leaks might affect your romantic pursuits more than you realise. Tune in to take charge of your dating energy and set the stage for more fulfilling relationships! 🎙️


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠⁠


🌟⁠⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠⁠

💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more!

Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.⁠



Aug 30, 202321:15
S4 7. Stop Blocking Love After 40: How To Let Your Guard Down To Let Love In

S4 7. Stop Blocking Love After 40: How To Let Your Guard Down To Let Love In

In this podcast episode, after a question on TikTok, you and I are exploring the topic of defence mechanisms and how they affect our ability to form healthy and intimate connections.


Key points I touch on:

  • The impact of defence mechanisms on our pursuit of a relationship.
  • The importance of understanding and identifying yours
  • Personal experiences and insights on how to let go of defence mechanisms and lower your "love shield."
  • The influence of childhood experiences and past heartbreaks on our defence mechanisms
  • What you can do daily to help you be more open, honest, and vulnerable in relationships.

Join me as we delve into the world of defence mechanisms and discover how we can overcome them to create more fulfilling and meaningful connections.


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📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and support you on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment.⁠ https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence⁠


🌟⁠Discover The Love Makeover Membership⁠ ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40.⁠ https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage⁠ 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! ⁠Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.


Aug 24, 202330:15
S4 6.Finding Love After 40 Why Self Love Might Not Be Enough To Transform Your Love Life

S4 6.Finding Love After 40 Why Self Love Might Not Be Enough To Transform Your Love Life

Hi, welcome back; in this podcast episode, we're going to dive into the impact of personal development on our romantic relationships. And more specifically, why you might still be struggling with success in this area even though you've been working on yourself for years.


I'll be sharing my own personal journey of growth that began when I had to focus on mending my relationship with food and body after things took a negative in my late 30s.


So, here's what we cover in this episode:


  • Why, despite making progress in other areas of my life through personal development, I found it challenging to stop repeating unhealthy love habits and create healthy romantic relationships.


  • The importance of taking things slowly in dating and being cautious when dating someone who feels familiar.


  • I address a client's fear of repeating past relationship patterns and why it's worth exploring subconscious patterns that may be influencing our choices in partners because childhood experiences and the love imprints we receive have a significant impact on our adult relationships. It's eye-opening to see how our past shapes our present.


  • Discuss the high costs of personal development and share details about my new membership, the Love Makeover, as a more affordable way for you to work on your romantic relationships. Everyone deserves the chance to grow and improve.


  • Explore why combining emotional healing with self-improvement strategies is crucial to improve your love life.


  • I wrap up the episode by providing some action steps for you to take.


I hope you find this episode insightful and helpful. Remember, we're all on this journey together.


Things mentioned in the episode


Topic: Last week's episode


If this episode helps, please share the episode with a friend who needs to hear it and also leave a review to help others find the podcast.


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence


🌟Discover The Love Makeover Membership ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.




Aug 20, 202334:16
S4EP5The Dangers of Seeking Validation on Dates: How to Find True Confidence and Self-Worth

S4EP5The Dangers of Seeking Validation on Dates: How to Find True Confidence and Self-Worth

Hi, Immmmm back, and I am so happy to see you back for another episode of the Thrive in Love After 40 Podcast. ❤️


In this podcast episode, I discuss the pattern of seeking validation on dates and in relationships. I share personal experiences (I have plenty🫣) and give examples of seeking validation, as well as the negative consequences of relying solely on external validation.


  • I emphasize the importance of learning to validate yourself and provide guidance on breaking this pattern.
  • Suggest a process for becoming more self-aware and changing behaviours.
  • Discuss the importance of behaving authentically as you navigate the different stages of dating.

If this episode helps, please share the episode with a friend who needs to hear it and also leave a review to help others find the podcast.


📣 Important links! 👉🏻I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: 🌟Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence ❤️Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage 💋Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.


Aug 10, 202329:06
S4 EP 4 Love After 40: Overcoming Limiting Beliefs to Find Love

S4 EP 4 Love After 40: Overcoming Limiting Beliefs to Find Love

Hi, and welcome to this episode, where we dive into the topic of "Breaking Free from Limiting Beliefs in Love After 40." I'm your host, Sarah Duff and today; we'll explore the hidden beliefs that might be affecting your love life and discover how to overcome them to find the relationship you truly desire. Insights you'll gain from this episode: Uncovering Limiting Beliefs: We'll shine a light on those sneaky limiting beliefs that could be holding you back in your romantic journey. From feeling too broken to thinking all the good ones are gone, we'll tackle these beliefs head-on. Recognising the Impact: Discover how these limiting beliefs can unknowingly influence your actions and choices in relationships and how they might be causing you to disrupt your own happiness. Challenging & Replacing Beliefs: I'll share effective strategies to challenge those disempowering beliefs and how to replace them with empowering thoughts that uplift your confidence and attract positive experiences. Creating a Positive Love Mindset: Learn the power of self-awareness and visualisation to shift your mindset towards finding love, regardless of age or past experiences. Embracing New Love Possibilities: We'll remind you that you have the strength to change your love story and welcome new possibilities for genuine connections. So, if you're ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and transform your love life, join me in this episode. It's time to break free from limiting beliefs and manifest the loving relationship you deserve! Remember, if you want extra support and guidance in this process, you can always book a free love clarity call with me. Looking forward to connecting with you soon! 📣 Important links! I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/contactpage Visit My Website: Check out my thriveandmanifest.com website for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on ⁠Instagram here ⁠for daily inspiration and updates.
Aug 03, 202341:17
S4EP2:Relationship Advice: Why One-Size-Fits-All Rules Might Not Serve You as a Woman Over 40.

S4EP2:Relationship Advice: Why One-Size-Fits-All Rules Might Not Serve You as a Woman Over 40.

Welcome back to The Thrive In Love After 40 podcast! In today's episode, I delve into a thought-provoking topic - relationship advice! I discuss the importance of critically evaluating generalised advice before applying it to your unique situation. Join me as we explore the limitations of common advice seen on social media and embrace the complexities of human connections. Episode Highlights: The Generalized Advice: If They Liked Me, They'd Make Me a Priority Let's talk about that advice we often see - "If someone really cares, they'll make you their top priority." Recognising that relationships are multi-layered is essential, and blanket advice may not fit everyone's circumstances. Communication and Actions Matter We all know communication is key in any relationship. But how do we differentiate genuine efforts from excuses? Let's find out why actions speak louder than words and why open, honest communication is vital. Trusting Your Intuition Your gut feelings can provide valuable insights into a relationship. It's time to learn to trust yourself more. I'll share some personal experiences illustrating the importance of listening to intuition. Assessing Compatibility: Ready, Able, and Willing As you navigate the complexities of relationships, I introduce the "RAW" acronym (Ready, Able, and Willing) to assess a partner's capacity for a healthy partnership. Understanding that life circumstances may impact prioritization temporarily, I emphasize the significance of open communication and mutual respect. Conclusion: In this episode, I've highlighted the importance of avoiding blindly applying generalized relationship advice to every situation. I encourage you to explore your unique circumstances and trust your intuition. Remember that relationships are as diverse as the individuals involved, and what works for one person may not work for another. Focus on open communication and mutual respect, and assess compatibility based on readiness, ability, and willingness. Thank you for joining me for this chat. If you enjoyed this episode, please consider following the podcast and sharing it with others who might find it valuable. I appreciate your feedback, so feel free to leave a review on iTunes. And you can ask a question or seek advice by emailing me at sarah@livelovethrive.club Stay tuned for more episodes on navigating relationships and fostering healthier connections. Until next time, take care of your beautiful self. 📣 Important links! I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-8-week-coaching Visit My Website: Check out my website, thriveandmanifest.com, for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on Instagram for daily inspiration and updates. Remember, you have the power to break free from old patterns and attract the love and relationships you truly deserve. Embrace your journey, and I'll be here to support you every step of the way. Sending you love and light on your path to love and fulfilment! 🌟💕 Until next time, Sarah (The Healthy Dating & Relationship Coach for Women over 40) 🎧 Listen to the full episode on your favourite podcast platform.
Jul 27, 202317:56
S4EP1. Breaking The Cycle of Unavailable Partners:The Key to Attracting Healthy Partners Over 40

S4EP1. Breaking The Cycle of Unavailable Partners:The Key to Attracting Healthy Partners Over 40

Welcome back to the 1st episode of season 4 of "The Thrive in Love after 40" podcast! And this is a juicy one as we dive deep into a topic that was a love life game-changer for me. Are you ready? Let's do this! Today, we're talking about the powerful journey of breaking free from the cycle of attracting unavailable partners. If you've ever found yourself chasing after men who seem to vanish into thin air, or if you've ended up in relationships with partners who couldn't fully commit, this episode is for you. What we cover: 💫 The Lightbulb Moment: Breaking the Pattern Picture this: I was just like you, seeking love but consistently ending up with emotionally unavailable partners. It felt like a never-ending cycle of frustration and heartache. Until one day, it hit me like a bolt of lightning! The root of the issue wasn't them; it was me. I discovered that my own lack of emotional availability was attracting these patterns into my life. And that was when everything changed. 🔎 Unpacking Unavailability: The Mirror Concept We'll explore the mirror concept - how the relationships we attract reflect something about ourselves. It's not just about romantic relationships; this applies to all connections in our lives. When we're caught in the cycle of unavailable partners, it can be a mirror of our own emotional unavailability. 💔 Understanding the Impact: Emotional Well-Being Look at how the pattern of attracting unavailable partners can deeply impact our emotional well-being. It may lead to doubts about deserving love, feeling stuck, and questioning if love will ever find us. But fear not! We can unravel this pattern, bit by bit, and build a stronger foundation for ourselves. 🚦 Identifying the Signs: Unavailable Partners We take a closer look at the signs of an emotionally unavailable partner. Fear of commitment, emotional unavailability, prioritising personal space, and difficulty in forming deep connections - are some of the signs we need to be aware of. Recognizing these patterns empowers us to make healthier choices. 💖 Embracing Internal Availability: Prioritize Self-Care Explore the journey to being more available to ourselves. Which includes begins with prioritising our emotional well-being. Setting healthy boundaries and recognising our needs are vital steps towards internal availability. Remember, you deserve love; it all starts with loving and embracing yourself. ✨ Step into the Light: Break the Pattern How breaking the cycle of attracting unavailable partners is a process that requires patience and self-compassion. Let's embark on a transformative journey towards emotional freedom and empowerment together. 📣 Important links! I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-8-week-coaching Visit My Website: Check out my website, thriveandmanifest.com, for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on Instagram for daily inspiration and updates. Remember, you have the power to break free from old patterns and attract the love and relationships you truly deserve. Embrace your journey, and I'll be here to support you every step of the way. Sending you love and light on your path to love and fulfilment! 🌟💕 Until next time, Sarah (The Healthy Dating & Relationship Coach for Women over 40) 🎧 Listen to the full episode on your favourite podcast platform.


Jul 20, 202342:23
Thrive in Love After 40: New Season Preview - Decoding Love, Breaking Patterns, and Finding Happiness.

Thrive in Love After 40: New Season Preview - Decoding Love, Breaking Patterns, and Finding Happiness.

Welcome to "Thrive in Love After 40!" I'm Sarah, your host, and I'm thrilled to announce an exciting new season that will empower you to thrive in relationships after 40.


In this preview, get ready for a sneak peek into what awaits you in our upcoming episodes.


Join me as we delve into the art of decoding love. Together, we'll explore how to:

  • Understand and recalibrate your approach to love.
  • Let go of toxic patterns that hindered your happiness in the past.
  • Break free from those patterns and create a healthier, more fulfilling love life.


We'll tackle the obstacles that hold you back from finding love. And the insecurities and self-doubt that can be major roadblocks. I'll guide you through powerful strategies to overcome them because it's time for you to feel confident, see yourself for the amazing woman you are and live the love and happiness you truly deserve.


Throughout the season, be inspired by real women who found love and happiness after 40. Their journeys will motivate and ignite your own path to love.

I'll be sharing candid truths and thought-provoking discussions, providing valuable insights into yourself and your relationships.


You'll also receive practical advice and essential skills to date smart, make healthy choices, and create profound connections.


And, of course, I'll be sharing my own personal journey of finding love in my 40s. Through my experiences, I offer relatability, guidance, and reassurance that it's never too late to find love and create the life you desire.


Get ready to unlock the secrets to building strong, lasting relationships and living your best life. Subscribe now and join me on this transformative journey towards decoding love, breaking patterns, and finding ultimate happiness.


Together, let's thrive in love after 40.


Jul 11, 202302:10
S4 EP 3BONUS 1: Personal Update On My Long-Distance Relationship Hint: I have BIG news!

S4 EP 3BONUS 1: Personal Update On My Long-Distance Relationship Hint: I have BIG news!

Hey friend, welcome to the bonus episode, where I'm excited to share a personal update about my relationship. If you don't know, we've been together for over 3 years, we met on Tinder during the pandemic, and it's been an incredible windy journey navigating the complexities of long-distance love!


This relationship has taught me and continues to teach me so much about setting healthy boundaries and practising new relationship skills. But it isn't without its challenges. But we've decided to embrace any obstacles and make it a stepping stone, and that's what I'm sharing with you today, our next stepping stone!


You will get a glimpse into our long-distance journey and what's to come. Thank you for being part of this ride with me. Make sure to follow the podcast and stay tuned for more updates in the future. Until then, take care and keep believing in love!


📣 Important links!

I'd love to connect with you further and offer my support on your journey. Here are some ways we can stay connected: Join the Secure and Confident Woman in Love Facebook Group: It's a loving community of like-minded women supporting each other on their journey to love and empowerment. https://www.facebook.com/groups/datingwithconfidence Work with Me One-to-One: If you're ready to take the next step in your personal growth and relationship transformation, I offer one-to-one coaching sessions tailored specifically for women over 40. https://thriveandmanifest.com/11-8-week-coaching Visit My Website: Check out my website, thriveandmanifest.com, for more empowering content and resources. You'll find articles, freebies, and much more! Follow Me on Social Media: Let's stay connected on social media! Follow me on Instagram here for daily inspiration and updates.

Jul 01, 202318:40
S3 EP2:D*ck Pics and Goal Setting
Dec 15, 202221:41
S3 EP1: How to get out of your comfort zone, 5 tips to feel your best in uncomfortable situations and a very awkward weekend!Join me to build more self-confidence in 2023!

S3 EP1: How to get out of your comfort zone, 5 tips to feel your best in uncomfortable situations and a very awkward weekend!Join me to build more self-confidence in 2023!

Join the 21-day confidence challenge here 

I'm doing something I really don't want to do this weekend (like really really don't want to do) but there's a big important lesson, behind the reason I'm making myself do it, that I wanted to teach you.

In this episode, you'll learn; 

  • what the thing is that's pushing me outside my comfort zone
  • how I'm managing my mind and negative thoughts that want to try and keep snuggled in my comfort zone ( so you can manage yours)
  • what made me cry for an hour yesterday maybe you'll relate!
  • the big life re-evaluation I'm currently going through
  • what you need to do if you want different things for yourself and life in 2022 (this is a life lesson you need to hear regardless of your 2023 goals) 


Mentioned in the episode: Join the 21-day confidence challenge here 

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And if you have a minute if you could leave me 5 stars and a review on iTunes it would mean the world to me.

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Grab my E-Book: 4 steps to drastically improve your love life this year

If you need advice or have a question about dating or relationships then ask a question anonymously here by filling out this form. ask a question or seek advice anonymously here

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Dec 02, 202225:52
S2 EP29 Why labels can cause problems when you're trying to change and what you should do instead that will help build new habits
Nov 16, 202209:16
S2EP 28 doing the limbo, how to STOP procrastinating and how to tell the difference between resistance because of FEAR and resistance because somethings isn't aligned with you.
Nov 08, 202222:01
S2 Ep27 How to be more empowered in your life. This concept could change your life!
Nov 01, 202213:26
S2EP26: Tests from the universe, what happened when I landed in New York and what to do when someone you are dating pulls away from you.

S2EP26: Tests from the universe, what happened when I landed in New York and what to do when someone you are dating pulls away from you.

Oct 05, 202228:13
S2EP25:Why we lie, why it's important to speak your truth on dates and in relationships, why TRUTH is truly the key to feeling free.

S2EP25:Why we lie, why it's important to speak your truth on dates and in relationships, why TRUTH is truly the key to feeling free.

Have you ever stood in front of someone who makes you feel nervous - they ask you a very simple question - and rather than giving them the very simple truthful answer --you find yourself in the middle of a word vomit spiral concocting an answer that you think sounds better than the simple truth?!

Maybe you have, maybe you haven’t hit reply and let me know.

I used to do this on dates all the time -- not so much the word vomiting -- but I used to put on an act and become the version of me I thought was going to please the guy I was on the date with -- you know to try and make sure he liked me.

  • So for example maybe agreeing I was ok with a casual thing when I wasn’t -- one of the reasons for that was I had a lack mindset and I thought if I said I wanted a relationship, that would scare him off and then NO ONE else would come along.
  • Exaggerating how much I liked something he did -- in an attempt to create a greater connection.
  • Or saying I wasn’t busy when I was -- when a guy asked me out last minute -- or actually a bigger non-truth I told was telling a guy I like I just happened to be in Orlando so we should meet -- when I actually went to Orlando specifically to see him, convinced that I could get him to fall in love with me!! ( I told you, I’ve done some crazy man stuff!)

NONE of these examples made me feel good -- because nothing feels good when it’s not your TRUTH. And when you’re dating  -- what’s going to attract the person for you to you -- is you being yourself and speaking your truth.

What isn’t going to help you meet someone and be in a relationship that feels good is putting on masks that hide who you are and your truth. If you want to learn more about this topic you can tune in to the latest Thrive in Love Podcast Episode here.

I’m actually writing this email to you sat in 61D on a Virgin Atlantic plane 20 minutes away from landing at JFK to be reunited with my sweet man -- and the reason I felt inspired to talk on this topic was thanks to what happened to me at border control last time I landed in NEW YORK!!

Mentioned in the episode:

Get Ready fro Love Program: Book a call - https://www.thrivewithduff.com/book-a-call

Useful links and how to connect with me.

Grab my E-Book: 4 steps to drastically improve your love life this year

If you need advice or have a question about dating or relationships then ask a question anonymously here by filling out this form. ask a question or seek advice anonymously here

Or reach me here:

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Sep 28, 202226:31
S2EP24:Important facts about masculine and feminine energy when dating if you are a woman who wants to meet a man who is in his masculine energy you need to hear this
Sep 13, 202210:42
S2EP23:How to move past the move past the fear of dating over 40 when you have been hurt in the past - 10+ things you can do

S2EP23:How to move past the move past the fear of dating over 40 when you have been hurt in the past - 10+ things you can do

Are you over 40 and can you relate to feeling fear about dating again?

After 40, when you’re really not where you thought you were gonna be in your romantic relationships-- you’re not on the timeline that you had set for yourself - maybe you thought you were gonna be married, settled down, all of that but it's not happened.

And it’s not been through a lack of trying but every time you try it just doesn’t work out -- and you’ve faced a lot of rejection and pain in the process.

Or if you were on your timeline and you got what you wanted, you got married, you had kids. And then it all started to unravel. You got divorced or separated or maybe you've suffered a loss.

Whichever one of these scenarios is real for you I understand the fear of actually dipping your toe back in the dating water is, is real.

And the problem this creates for you is:

1. you don't date at all

2. Or you date but you struggle to be yourself so you date as a version of yourself that you think is more likely to be accepted and this energy is picked up on and can repel what you want away or you end up settling.

Neither of which moves you towards the relationship you desire with the “perfect” someone for you who loves you for you.

SO ultimately you have to find a way to move past it and in today’s episode I share 10+ things you can do to move past the fear ( I lost count because there were so many pieces of gold in there so could be more than 10!)

Mentioned in the episode:

The secure and Confident in Love Program: Book a call - https://www.thrivewithduff.com/book-a-call-1

The Love Life Stratagyzer: Book a call https://www.thrivewithduff.com/book-a-call-1

Useful links and how to connect with me.

Grab my E-Book: 4 steps to drastically improve your love life this year

If you need advice or have a question about dating or relationships then ask a question anonymously here by filling out this form. ask a question or seek advice anonymously here

Connect on socials:

JOIN MY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP

Instagram:@sarah_duff_

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Sep 06, 202233:40
S2EP22:How to reduce dating anxieties and make dating feel less stressful by learning self-source vs being an outsourcer

S2EP22:How to reduce dating anxieties and make dating feel less stressful by learning self-source vs being an outsourcer

Hello, my little sausages. Welcome back to another episode, please, if you haven't already. Grab yourself a brew or get your walking shoes on and get outside. Because today we are talking about something that I talk about in my programme, the secure and confident woman in love, which is the concept of outsourcing and self-sourcing your feelings. So it's gonna be a good un!!

Back in the day - when I was still in my 30s - raving it up on the house party scene and generally acting like a bit of a nutcase - dating and men were a very toxic area of my life.

I crashed from dating no one and swearing off men altogether to entertaining any guy that showed me the slightest bit of interest - and something that I did all the time - which is what I am talking about in today's pod episode - is what I now know as outsourcing.

If you find yourself caught in any of these thought loops when you’re dating someone:

  • Do they like me?
  • What does that action or what does that text mean?
  • What do I have to do to get the outcome I want?
  • When will they text?
  • How can I get them to ask me out again?
  • How do I need to act to get them to like me?

This one is for you.

In this episode, I explore the concept of outsourcing vs self-sourcing your worth and feelings of safety and security- the impact that has when you date - especially in the beginning stages - the power of learning how to be a self-sourcer and how this is connected to your masculine and feminine energy.

My intention by sharing this deep insight is to put you more in the driver's seat of your life and love life - to show you the path to getting what you want by going deeply inwards, understanding yourself on the deepest level and doing the inner work so that you can let go of the stuff that is currently getting in the darn way of you and your desires.

Mentioned in the episode:

The secure and Confident in Love Program Opening for Enrolment Soon

The Love Life Stratagyzer

Useful links and how to connect with me.

Grab my E-Book: 4 steps to drastically improve your love life this year

Find out about my course to transform you and your love life: The secure and confident woman in love project

If you need advice or have a question about dating or relationships then ask a question anonymously here by filling out this form. ask a question or seek advice anonymously here

Or reach me here:

JOIN MY FREE FACEBOOK GROUP

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Aug 30, 202228:50
S2EP21:Raising you relationship standards, lonely men, scams and the impact on your energy & what you receive in life when you focus on too much of the wrong thing.

S2EP21:Raising you relationship standards, lonely men, scams and the impact on your energy & what you receive in life when you focus on too much of the wrong thing.

OMG between the voices in my head, Etsy scams and bursting into tears at anything related to women empowerment -- last week in my life was an emotional rollercoaster ride!


But it also showered me with golden nuggets, I felt important to share -- which is why on Sunday morning -- just before heading to pick up my Botox in a bottle from Covent garden - I recorded a podcast episode to give you the low down and the nuggets!!


In the episode, I also share my POV on an article that came out last week “the rise of the lonely single man” -- and let’s just say the time has come when men are feeling the impact of women raising their standards and stepping into their full magnificent power.


Finally, you have realised your path in life is to thrive in a life full of pleasure and joy where you can have everything you desire.


AND if you want someone to share life with your standards are higher -- Your partner must be an elevating addition that compliments your already thriving life (and vice versa!)-- you are no longer prepared to mother someone, feel you have to drag your partner along with you or settle for the bare minimum from someone in a relationship with. Enjoy 

Tune into the episode to learn valuable life lessons AND receive a huge scoop of motivation and empowerment for yourself and your love life.

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The article mentioned in the episode: the rise of the lonely single man


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Aug 23, 202233:44
S2EP20:❤️DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: Why you get obsessed with the guy who ghosts you, rejects you, doesn't want you ❤️

S2EP20:❤️DATING AND RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: Why you get obsessed with the guy who ghosts you, rejects you, doesn't want you ❤️

Seriously if I calculated how many hours of my life I spent obsessing over men it would be in the trillions 🤣!

I was the queen of getting obsessed with the guys who didn't want me -- the more someone rejected me - the more unavailable they were the more I was pulled towards them.

I would get into this crazy frenzied spiral of thinking...

"I need to go after this person more"

"How can I get them back"

"What did I do wrong"

"What do I need to change about me to make them like me."

I also made up stories justifying why they weren't texting me back

I stalked their social media

I even found ways to be places where I thought they might be just to try and bump into them!

Think of all the cringe stuff a person could do and I can almost guarantee I did some variation of it!! (think this might have to be a podcast episode!)

But here's the thing there were legit reasons I kept marching down this path -- I wasn't some cray carry woman with stalkerish tendencies! -- I was a human that had deep-rooted stuff behind how I was behaving and I was so drawn to these unavailable guys who really weren't interested in anything other than at best a bunk-up.

In this brand new episode of the pod, I'm sharing with you some of the reasons that I (and maybe you) tend to get obsessed with the guy who doesn't want us AND the path to breaking the pattern.

In this episode, I talk about some deep stuff -- childhood patterning, cross-wires in your brain, attachment wounding and misinterpreting your nervous system-- but it's stuff I know will help you understand yourself more and help you on your dating and relationships journey.

Enjoy the podcast and if you find the episode helpful please rate and review over on Apple. Share with your BFF and reach out to me on social and let me know your biggest takeaway.


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Aug 16, 202220:41
S2 EP 19 Dating Red flags 101, What To Do and What Not To Do if you Spot a Red Flag and 5 Red Flags to be Aware of When You Meet Someone New!
Aug 02, 202224:36
S2 EP18: Busting Through Limiting beliefs: Personal struggles & showing you the path to busting through your limiting beliefs whether they be in dating, relationships or another area of life.
Jul 26, 202248:10
Signs they could be a player and not looking for anything serious

Signs they could be a player and not looking for anything serious

In today's episode, I talk about signs that someone could be a "player player" and not looking for anything serious.

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Apr 25, 202234:52
Is your "type" keeping you single?

Is your "type" keeping you single?

In today's episode, I talk about having a type and how this could be keeping you stuck in unhelpful patterns in dating and as a result single.

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Apr 14, 202218:50
What to do when you feel someone is pulling away from you
Apr 07, 202216:58
4 THINGS YOU'RE DOING THAT KEEP YOU SINGLE

4 THINGS YOU'RE DOING THAT KEEP YOU SINGLE

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Mar 24, 202231:33
Understanding the masculine and feminine energy dynamics in dating and relationships

Understanding the masculine and feminine energy dynamics in dating and relationships

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Mar 17, 202225:23
Scarcity V Abundance Mindset When Dating And How To Change It

Scarcity V Abundance Mindset When Dating And How To Change It

Being in a scarcity mindset when dating can impact how you show up, the results you get and how stressful the process feels. Tune in to find out if you have a scarcity mindset and the new abundance mindset you need to begin adopting.

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Mar 12, 202237:16
A conversation with my guy about dating, the inner work, masculine & feminine energy, our journey to being ready to meet each other & one of the biggest reasons our relationship works!
Mar 03, 202245:53
S2 EP 10 4 tips to make using the dating apps more enjoyable and effective!

S2 EP 10 4 tips to make using the dating apps more enjoyable and effective!

Dating burnout is real. But it doesn't need to be this way. In today's episode, I share are 4 tips to help you prevent burnout and make the whole experience more enjoyable and effective.

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Feb 24, 202220:00
S2 Ep9Invisible love obstacles that sabotage dating life and your relationship goals

S2 Ep9Invisible love obstacles that sabotage dating life and your relationship goals

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Feb 17, 202236:13
Do you really not have room in your life to date or be in a relationship Or is this story hiding a deeper fear?
Feb 03, 202223:01
HOW TO ATTRACT EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE MEN/WOMEN/PARTNERS - ONE THING YOU NEED TO DO TO MAKE IT HAPPEN
Jan 27, 202215:02
HOW DO YOU MANIFEST LOVE WHILE YOU'RE STILL ON YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? ANSWERING THIS LISTENER Q

HOW DO YOU MANIFEST LOVE WHILE YOU'RE STILL ON YOUR HEALING JOURNEY? ANSWERING THIS LISTENER Q

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Today I am quashing the misconception that in order for you to manifest the partner you want that you need to be fully healed and that until that day you shouldn't date or expect to meet anyone! 

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Jan 20, 202232:17
INTIMACY AND HOW WEARING A BALL GOWN TO THE SHOPS MIGHT BE THE SIMPLEST 1ST STEP YOU CAN TAKE TO GETTING MORE COMFORTABLE WITH IT!!!
Jan 13, 202219:13
3 REASONS YOU DON'T MAKE IT PAST A CERTAIN POINT IN DATING &ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS, WHAT TO DO AND NOT TO WHEN SOMEONE PULL'S BACK AND A WEIRD KNIGHT ON A HORSE ANALOGY
Jan 06, 202232:35