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Love With Intelligence

Love With Intelligence

By Lily Walford
Everyone deserves real, honest and genuine love, but not everyone knows how to get it. In this show we are going to share with you the secrets of the relationship and dating world so you can start to get the most out of your love life. Imagine experiencing a connection with someone that’s so powerful, imagine meeting someone that you can see a magical future with, imagine creating a relationship where all your needs are met and your heart feels safe, loved and fulfilled. That’s exactly what our show is all about and we want to support your journey to experience exactly that.
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Series 3 Episode 9 - 3 Simple Ways To Ensure You Don't Lose Yourself Whilst Dating Or In A Relationship
3 Simple Ways To Ensure You Don't Lose Yourself Whilst Dating Or In A Relationship​ ​ Watch our training to understand three simple ways to avoid losing yourself whilst dating or whilst you are in a relationship. We shall go into these three elements: ​ ​Your identity/happiness & needs​ Your relationship vision ​ Your boundaries​ ​ Ensuring that you don’t lose yourself is so important, yet it’s a common trap that most women and men fall into which can then cause things like: ​ Self sabotage which can lead to pushing partners way ​ Co-dependency where you are living in each others pockets, this can lead to insecurity and missing out on the elements of your life which were once really important to you. ​ Resentment, where you have given your all into that relationship but feeling unfulfilled, angry and frustrated. ​ ​ ​ When you are in a healthy, loving relationship these are what you can enjoy: ​ The space to grow as an individual as well as the enjoyment of growing as a couple. We can only grow in healthy relationships with ourselves and our partners. ​ Feeling confident within yourself without seeking validation from others (including your partner). Confidence causes people to instantly become more attractive. ​ You and your partner embody the same dreams and goals for your relationship and the safe space to be yourselves whilst being open, honest and authentic with each other.​ ​ Check out The Desired Woman Training:
July 14, 2021
Series 3 Episode 8 - 5 Steps To Get Over Your Ex
In this video we discuss how to get over your ex and general advice for someone struggling after a breakup.​ ​ Find out how to get over your ex and some simple tips that you can do to speed up the process.​ ​ 5 ways to get over your ex & stop thinking about them.​ ​ How to: get over your ex, a crush, or a breakup!​ ​ If you can't get over your ex, watch this!
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 7 - 5 Tips On How To Avoid Attracting The Commitment Phobe
Desired Woman Training:​ Join our facebook group:​ ​ Highlights of training - You will learn how to: ​ ​ Understand why you attract distant and avoidant partners​ How to recognise a commitment phobe - no matter how good they are at hiding it​ What needs to happen so you can break the pattern
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 6 - 5 Reasons That Cause You To Relive The Same Type Of Relationships
Highlights of training - You will learn how to:​ Unmask what your subconscious patterns are​ The reasons why you are going for the same type of partners again and again​ What the main areas that influence your relationships​ ​ What happens to people who haven't realised their patterns?​ - Can end up in the same type of relationships again and again​ - You can end up self sabotaging yourself because you don’t believe you can have a loving relationship​ - Wasting more time with the wrong ones and losing hope of if the right one is out there​ - They can cause a healthy relationship to become an unhealthy one​ They continue the patterns due to unresolved issues from the past​ What happens to people who take time to learn this training ?​ - Break the patterns and able to see who is right for them so they can enjoy a healthy relationship with the right one!​ -Knowing when the self sabotaging patterns pop up, so you can make a choice on whether to act on it​ Feeling confident that you will enjoy a loving relationship in the future because of your new found clarity and awareness​ -Feeling more confident and worthy of a loving relationship​ -Feeling at peace with your past
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 5 - 5 Steps To Decode An Online Dating Profile
Highlights of training - You will learn how to: ​ ​ - See a major red flag that most people miss when they are online dating that could mean the difference between meeting someone who is dangerous and/or emotionally unavailable​ ​ - Know how to tap into who this person is from just a few photos so you don’t have to waste time messaging to see if they are compatible with you. ​ ​ Book a call:​ ​ The Steps​ 1) Facial Expressions ​ 2) How do they want to be seen?​ 3) Are they a narcissist or manipulative​ 4) What’s their lifestyle?​ 5) Your confirmation bias
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 4 - Single To Committed Relationship In Just Ten Steps
Desired Woman Training:
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 3 - The Importance Of Healing From Past Relationships Before Dating Again
THE IMPORTANCE OF HEALING FROM PAST RELATIONSHIPS BEFORE YOU GO AND DATE AGAIN​ - Find yourself dating the same person again and again​ - Pining over the ex despite knowing that relationship was bad/didn’t work out​ - Releasing the fear of being alone​ - The need for human connection/validation​ - Not giving yourself the chance to fully recover confidence/rejection​ Something to remember: HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT DECREASE YOURSELF WORTH/CONFIDENCE​ I was on a call the other day with a lovely lady who had gone through a break up and we’ve all been there where we feel the need to help and support the other person (even if they were the one who broke up with you) and she had mentioned how her relationship had decreased her self worth and confidence and how that was her fault and her issue to work through.​ Let me tell you how unhealthy/borderline abusive relationships work (and also how even cults work). They say small one liners that stick! ​ - Oh you’ll never meet anyone as good as me​ - Only silly people think that way – don’t be so stupid​ - Gawd you are so insecure​ Which then plays on to identity issues.​ Remember out identity and the way we see ourselves will impact on the type of relationship we have. This is why I take my clients through the Desired Woman Approach which is a blend of healing, releasing old subconscious patterns and building up the confidence to build up the life and relationship you do want. ​ This is only one of the three approaches I take my clients through but it’s so important as what happens when we don’t get this right is SELF SABOTAGE​ The types of self sabotage I tend to see is: ​ - Dating for validation​ - Reaching out to the ex for whatever reasons​ - Feeling the need to tell EVERYONE the issues and the ins and outs of what went wrong in their relationship to JUSTIFY and PROCESS what they had actually been through​ - Dating people who are wrong for them​ - Pushing the right ones away as they are too afraid to have someone close to their heart again​ - Sleeping with lots of people – To either FEEL something as they feel numb or as a punishment to themselves (LOW SELF WORTH) ​ WE CAN NOT HAVE A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP IF WE ARE CREATING A RELATIONSHIP FROM AN UNHEALTHY PLACE​ When we create a relationship from a healed place – like my clients do after the “Desired Woman Approach” ​ - They are confident within themselves​ - They feel excited about dating and enjoy connecting with people​ - They have standards and hold themselves to those standards​ - They know who is right to date for them and where to meet the right one for them due to the compatibility matrix which is personalised to them. ​ - They are at peace with their past – no matter how awful it was was – shame, guilt, fear​ - They also know what a healthy relationship looks like and how to create it. ​ - They are excited for the future and have an idea of what the future looks like for them.​ ​ If you are currently stuck, then it would be great to speak with you. I’ve free’d up my calendar to speak with people who are struggling with this healing element. ​ ​​ ​ Healing your trauma before dating again is so important because. ​ ​ Healing your trauma before dating again is so important because if you don't look at and heal the wounds you will be vulnerable to getting caught with another abuser.
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 2 - Where Do People Go Wrong In Dating
3 Steps To Improve Your Love Life!  Click here to book a free Personalised Love Strategy Blueprint session:
June 23, 2021
Series 3 Episode 1 - How To End Up In A Committed Relationship
So you want a committed relationship?  Here's where to start....
June 23, 2021
Series 2 Episode 09 - Interview With Emir Samardzic - How To Use Psychology To Become More Attractive When You Are Dating
Website: Free Training on how to meet a high quality partner:  Emir Samardzic is 34 years old, based in Belgrade, Serbia.    He has been professional magician and hypnotist for the past 11 years.  He entered the world of behavior profiling 10 years ago, through performing magic, by learning the general psychology and body language skills.    Short after that, he entered the world of “Pick Up Artistry”, where he became an instructor and started sharing his knowledge with many different clients, in the classroom and in the field.   His experience as the PUA instructor led him even deeper into the world of profiling people and influence. It also helped him learn a lot about dating, attraction and true connection.   He continued to grow even more after that, delving much deeper into the profiling side of things, completing multiple master courses with the industry leaders from all over the world, some of which are part of this summit.   Today, Emir is a part of “Love with intelligence” as one of the coaches, helping people find true love and true connection through his decade long experience.
March 26, 2021
Series 2 Episode 08 - Interview With Ben Cardall - Deduction and Dating
Website:  Free Webinar on 5 Steps To Meet A High Quality Partner:  ​   Ben has been studying how to read people and all of the facets of skill that it entails for over 20 years now, it all stemmed from his obsession with Sherlock Holmes, the detective with infinite reasoning and logic with an aptitude for picking out the smallest detail of a person within seconds of meeting them.  Ben was curious as to whether this super human ability was achievable and sort to find out. Since then Ben has been consulted by the Police on a number of occasions both domestically and internationally. A global reputation built on being able to read information that others cannot.
March 19, 2021
Series 2 Episode 07 - Interview With Dr David Snyder - Relationships & Dating - Decoding Men & Women
We had an amazing interview with Dr David Snyder talking about all things relationships and dating.    We dived into what it really takes to have a fantastic connected relationship.   To learn more about David Snyder check out his work here:  Website:  Free Webinar:  Book Your Free Consultation Here:  Dr. David Snyder DACM  Dr of Integrated Chinese Medicine, NLP Master Practitioner, Expert in Human Influence  TOPIC: Understanding The Male & Female Minds To Create A Deeper Connection In Relationships   Dr. David Snyder DACM, Is a World-Recognized  Expert In The Field of  Specialized Human Influence Technologies, Having Personally Trained Members   of the:      - Legal,   - Law enforcement,   - Military and Intelligence   - Real Estate   - Entertainment,   - Martial Arts and Hypnosis Communities,     all over the world teaching advanced real-world applicable  mind/body technologies for peak performance, influence and persuasion, rapid Mind and Body Healing, relationships and more...      Dr. David holds a Doctor of Integrative Chinese Medicine from Pacific College of Oriental Medicine, Masters of Arts in Acupuncture and Oriental Medicine - Southern California University of Health Sciences,  Associate of Science - Business Management - Oklahoma State University and has maintained a practice in Solana Beach California where he specializes in treating physiological illness that is cause by repressed emotions.
March 05, 2021
Series 2 Episode 06 - Interview With Scott Rouse - Understanding Psychopaths
We had a wonderful interview with Scott, diving into all things Psychopaths!  Scott Rouse - Body Language Expert and Analyst  TOPIC: Understanding The Mind Of A Psychopath - What To Look Out For And How To Avoid!  Scott is a behavior analyst and body language expert with a focus on healthcare. He holds multiple certificates in advanced interrogation training and has been trained along side the FBI, Secret Service, U.S. Military Intelligence, and Dept. of defense.  His extensive training, education, and practice of nonverbal communication has made Scott an expert and consultant to healthcare companies as well as law enforcement, Fortune 500 CEO’s, doctors, attorneys, executives, wealth managers, financial advisors, and entertainers.  After receiving a diagnosis of Thyroid Cancer and experiencing the rapid changes in healthcare from a patients perspective, he instantly recognized the overlooked, yet blatant, causes of patient mistrust, fear, and frustration. In other words, he found the problems that cause more lawsuits and once successful practices to fail.  Now Scott speaks to and trains healthcare professionals, showing them what these problems are and most importantly how to fix them. From your bedside manner to the way your waiting area is setup and looks, Scott covers everything science shows us that works to make patients feel more comfortable and confident in their healthcare situation.
March 02, 2021
Series 2 Episode 05 - Interview With Krystyna Lennon - Relationships & Dating - Self Image & Relationships
How Self Image Impacts Your Life, Your Relationships & Self Sabotage More about Krystyna Lennon Krystyna Lennon, a psychotherapist, leadership development coach and celebrity hypnotist, invites you to take back control of your mindset, habits and Life. Taking delegates on a moving journey using her own story: the loss of both parents, teenage pregnancy, homelessness and abusive relationships, all of which left her with anxiety, zero self-worth and seriously limiting beliefs. Now the UK’s answer to Tony Robbins, Krystyna is an hilarious, moving and engaging speaker – a TV star, named ‘The World’s Best Hypnotist’ by CBS. This published author shares the experiences and techniques she has honed over a period of 20 years, successfully treating herself and a host of international celebrities, producers and CEOs. Krystyna teaches you everything you need to know to programme your mind for success. Her keynotes and workshops leave her audiences inspired transformed.
February 18, 2021
Series 2 Episode 04 - Interview With Chris Hadnagy - Relationships & Dating - Dating Scammers
In this episode we interview Chris Hadnagy on relationships and dating. In particular we dive into dating scams and how they happen and how you can avoid them. Our Website Free training on how you can meet the right one: To learn more about Chris Hadnagy check out: Check out his latest book! About Chris Hadnagy Christopher Hadnagy is the founder and CEO of Social-Engineer, LLC.  During Chris’ 16 years in the information security industry, he created the world’s first social engineering framework and newsletter, as well as hosted the first social engineering based podcast. Chris is also a well-known author, having written four books on social engineering. Chris’ new book, “Human Hacking: Win Friends, Influence People and Leave Them Better Off for Having Met You”, will be available January 5, 2021. Christopher Hadnagy is an Adjunct Professor of Social Engineering for the University of Arizona’s NSA designated Center of Academic Excellence in Cyber Operations (CAE-CO). He also lectures and teaches about social engineering around the globe. Moreover, he’s been invited to speak at the Pentagon, as well as other high secure facilities.  Additionally, as the creator of the world’s first Social Engineering Capture the Flag (SECTF), Chris leads the way in educating people on this serious threat. Chris works with some of the world’s leaders in scientific research for the purpose of acquiring a deeper understanding of social engineering. Notably, Chris authored a book with Dr. Paul Ekman regarding the use of nonverbal communication by social engineers. Chris is certified as an Offensive Security Certified Professional (OSCP) as well as an Offensive Security Wireless Professional (OSWP).  He is also the creator of the Social Engineering Pentest Professional (SEPP) and Master’s Level Social Engineering (MLSE) Certifications.
February 15, 2021
Series 2 Episode 03 - Interview With Mark Bowden - Relationships & Dating - Confident Body Language
We had an amazing interview with Mark Bowden talking about all things relationships and dating.   We dived into making that great first impression, understanding if you can really be authentic during that first date, what it really takes to have a fantastic connected relationship.  To learn more about Mark Bowden check out his work here: Website:  Free Webinar on how to meet the right one:  Book Your Free Consultation Here: More about Mark Bowden Voted the #1 Body Language Professional in the world for two years running, Mark Bowden is passionate about giving your audience the most influential and persuasive communication techniques to stand out, win trust, and gain credibility every time they speak. Inspiring, energetic, engaging, and entirely entertaining, Mark’s memorable talks and training programs not only educate but have proven life-changing in helping people and organizations grow across all industries and sectors. Mark’s work is consistently invaluable to sales and leadership teams, CEOs of Fortune 500 companies, and prime ministers of G7 powers. His highly acclaimed TEDx talk has reached millions of people, and he has presented to many of the biggest, coolest, and most innovative organizations in the world, including Shopify, Dell, Viacom, RBC, Fidelity, Amex, Unilever, Daimler, Microsoft, Toyota, VW, Samsung, KPMG, GSK, Walmart, Nestle, and even Real Madrid.
February 11, 2021
Series 2 Episode 02 - What's Real Love?
In this episode Lily Walford and Jonam Ross share their insights on real love. With all the books, tv programs and films that portray a romanticised view of love which can make even the most toxic relationships look acceptable, we want to share with you what real love really is and what the real qualities are that make a healthy and loving relationship.
January 08, 2021
Series 2 Episode 01 - How To Improve Your Chances Of Successfully Finding Undeniable Love That Lasts
We are so excited to start 2021 off with our new series "His & Her's Point Of View". In this episode we talk about ways to improve your love life in 2021 and how you can find undeniable love that lasts.
January 01, 2021
Episode 18 - 2020 Summary
Can you believe 2020 is almost over.  We have something exciting to share with you - check out the first video of the 5 part series here of how to achieve your goal of enjoying undeniable love that lasts. Click here
December 28, 2020
Episode 17 - Our Exclusive Strategy For Single Professionals To End Up In Relationship
Our Exclusive Strategy For Single Professionals To End Up In Relationship - Here's a link to book your free blueprint strategy for love
December 20, 2020
Episode 16 - How To Find A Committed Relationship
Everyone is seeking commitment in a relationship. Commitment embodies trust, respect, honesty and love. So how is commitment made? How can you attract a partner who will be committed to the relationship as much as you are?
December 17, 2020
Episode 15 - That BIG Scary Word INTIMACY
There is no denying that intimacy is the blood line to any relationship.  Without intimacy the relationship never begins. With intimacy a relationship never ends. So what makes up intimacy and how can you cultivate intimacy with your current or future partner?
December 15, 2020
Episode 14 - What I Wish I Knew About Love Ten Years Ago
There's no denying that my love life has had it's ups and downs. I'm super grateful to have a relationship filled with unconditional love where we are both seen and loved for who we are. It wasn't always like that for me though, from abusive relationship, to narcissistic relationships and I was also stalked for five years  - I had a lot to learn on how to find real love and what real love is all about.
December 14, 2020
Episode 13 - How Can You Tell That Someone Wants A Committed Relationship With You Even When You Are In The Early Stages Of Dating?
Everyone wants a committed relationship where they are loved unconditionally, so how can you tell from the beginning that you are in a relationship that can truly provide that? There is nothing worse than investing precious time, emotions and energy into a relationship that isn't going anywhere. Listen to this episode to find out what you need to watch out for to know if you have met someone who is ready to commit fully to you.
December 06, 2020
Episode 12 - The Problem With Online Dating That No One Talks About
In this episode we are going into the issues of online dating and what you can do to improve your chances of meeting the right one online. We also are sharing an amazing announcement that we will share with you at the end of this episode.  Here's how you can apply
November 29, 2020
Episode 11 - How To Tell If Your Partner Or Date Is Lying To You
No one likes to be lied to. It undermines your self-worth and insults your intelligence. In relationships and dating, the stakes around truth and honesty are even higher. But how can you tell if a person is telling you the truth? First, ignore the pop psychology that says he’s lying if he looks in a particular direction. There is no single sign that says someone is lying. Even lie detectors aren’t always effective at spotting deception. Instead, people will display a series of cues when they aren’t telling the truth. These can be verbal (spoken) and non-verbal (body language). When these cues happen together, it's called a cluster. Someone can be nervous and display one of these cues even when they’re telling the truth. So spotting a cluster—or three or more cues—is a more accurate way to answer the question “Is he lying?” Let’s see what the cues are. For more information check out our website
November 22, 2020
Episode 10 - 5 Ways To Create Intimacy In Your Relationship
Ever felt disconnected in relationships or felt like something was missing? Then check out this episode, as it's more than likely you were missing intimacy.
November 15, 2020
Episode 09 - 5 Tips For Dating During Lockdown
Dating has certainly been interesting in 2020. Do you really have to put your love life on hold, or is there a way that you can still meet the partner that you can enjoy making life long memories with? Here are my 5 tips!
November 08, 2020
Episode 08 - Identifying and Disarming Narcissists
With so many blogs and videos out on how to spot a narcissist, there's nothing out there to disarm a narcissist! Why? Because most people don't know how. This is one of the many reasons why we partnered up with a world leader in behavioural profiling to understand the narcissistic mind and to provide you with the advantage when you encounter a narcissist.
October 30, 2020
Episode 07 - What Makes A Healthy Relationship (With Jonam Ross)
Loved interviewing my partner Jonam Ross behavioural profiler, hypnotist and nlp master practitioner on what it takes to have a healthy, loving and genuine relationship.
October 22, 2020
Episode 06 - Healing Trauma From Narcissistic Relationships
Only when you understand trauma and the way narcissistic relationships work is when you can give yourself the tools to heal. In this episode we give you the awareness you need to make the choice to heal and to find passion within your life again.
October 16, 2020
Episode 05 - Have You Fully Healed From Your Previous Relationships?
We are never taught how to heal from a break up. Yet it can be a traumatic event, think about it. In most circumstances you are uprooting your life and its changed forever in a few short moments. Learn how you can heal now.
October 12, 2020
Episode 04 - Boundaries In Relationships
What are boundaries? How can you set them? How can I benefit from them? Plus the importance of them when it comes to growing as an individual and as growing as a couple too.
October 09, 2020
Episode 03 - The Psychology Behind Why Successful Women Struggle To Meet The Right One & What To Do!
No one ever talks about this but its real!!! If you are successful and looking for love, you'll notice these 5 challenges for sure. We will go through what to do about it! Check out our website for your free guide: 10 Ways Successful Women Find Real, Honest & Genuine Love - Fast!
October 07, 2020
Episode 02 - Healing & Understanding Trauma Caused By Relationships
Trauma has been a hot topic within the industry. In this episode we will be talking about what trauma is and how you can release that in an effective way.
October 04, 2020
Episode 01 - What Every Woman Should Know Before Dating, So They Can Find Real, Honest & Genuine Love
In this episode we uncover what makes a compatible relationship and that elements are important to look at within yourself. We go deep into beliefs, values and even influencing aspects of our parents relationship. Check out our free guide "10 Ways For Successful Women To Improve Their Chances Of Elegantly Finding Mr Right, Fast"
October 03, 2020