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Loving Goliath

Loving Goliath

By Willow
Speaker and personal trainer Ben Smith talks on male self-esteem and self-help navigating the trials of life, be it racism, homophobia, abuse. With guidance from co-host and daughter Willow, the pair converse on the ups and downs of life in our current climate, and how to kill the voice inside yourself that wants you to believe you aren't good enough. You are! And here's why...
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53. Living Adopted with Naufard Messner
Willow's back this week and we're chatting with a friend of the pod, Naufard Messner. Born in Haiti, he was adopted by a white Canadian family when he was ten. Nofa shares with us the struggles of growing up adopted, learning a new language, the social issues that come with being raised by a family from a different ethnic group than your own and a whole lot more.  Feel like you're missing something? The video for this episode and many more can be found over on our patreon at https://www.patreon.com/lovinggoliath!
41:04
October 19, 2021
52. Inner Child with James Gardiner
We're joined today by James Gardiner, life coach and co-facilitator of our Moving Past Pain cohort. With over two decades of hands-on experience in business and personal growth, James is motivated to help people face their challenges so they can truly live the life of their dreams. Together, he and Ben discuss the importance of inner child work, how they show up in the world and finding a way to always keep playing in life. Check out what James is up to here! https://www.facebook.com/canordinaryinspire/ https://www.instagram.com/jamesgardiner___/?hl=en Feel like you're missing something? The video for this episode and many more can be found over on our patreon at https://www.patreon.com/lovinggoliath!
38:24
October 6, 2021
51. Domestic Abuse with Kellan Fluckiger
We're joined today by our special guest life coach, author, musician and all-around awesome guy Kellan Fluckiger to work our way through a particularly tricky subject, and we're lucky to have him with us on this one. If the subject matter is at all sensitive or especially upsetting for you, please look after yourself first! This conversation covers some heavy themes and ideas but in the end if you are experiencing domestic abuse, know that you are worthy, you are loved and you deserve the best. I hope you enjoy this episode with Kellan as much as we did and, if you do, check him out at https://www.kellanfluckiger.com/ where you can find his podcast, his books, more about his story and basically everything! Now let's get into it!
43:23
September 21, 2021
Episode 50: Music with DRMR
Today we're talking with a good friend of mine Kris who just put out his first two albums, The Last Few Days and I Went To San Francisco And All I Got Was This Lousy Mixtape. It's a supersize episode all about following your dreams and making it work while doing it all to celebrate 50 AND there's another 30 minutes of content going up on the patreon learning more about Kris' process and the ins and outs of the album. Check him out at https://soundcloud.com/kristopher-dante-simpson and twitch.tv/kalesdad, and come visit us on patreon.com/lovinggoliath to get the full video when it drops!
01:05:21
September 7, 2021
Episode 49: The Subconscious Mind
We've talked about it a little bit before, but today we're diving deeper into the subconscious mind. We chat about how to use it to help us move forward, how sometimes sitting back and letting your mind work can actually be to your benefit and, most importantly, the would you rather question. Let's talk about it!
32:17
August 24, 2021
48. Men in the Media
Today we're talking about representation of men in the media, the ways guys are portrayed and how this representation can be harmful. Of course we've talked about women in media, but the image of men isn't much better. Between violence, sexualization, body ideals and emotional expectations, the media places just as much needless pressure on men. But what do you think? Let's talk about it!
34:08
August 10, 2021
47. With Joe
Today we're chatting with a listener named Joe! Beyond just being a stand-up guy with some good thoughts on outreach and support in systems dominated by men, he also shares with us about his experience in the navy, the good, the bad and the ugly. Check his podcast out at https://anchor.fm/outcastsmedia or find him on twitch at twitch.tv/locccjaw
36:17
July 27, 2021
Loving Goliath First Birthday Compilation
In honour of our first birthday, here's a highlight of some of my favourite moments from the last year(warning, LOTS of giggles!) Can't wait to have another year with you all!
08:20
July 17, 2021
46. Staying Focused
Ironically we had the hardest time staying focused for this episode on staying focused, but we did it! In this episode we talk about focus to achieve your happiness as opposed to goals, as well as chat a bit about our upcoming birthday this weekend and some of the things we'll be getting up to that you can look forward to seeing!
30:46
July 13, 2021
45. Handling Rejection
We all face it now and then - be it a romantic rejection, a job or school application, we all face rejection in our lives in various ways and taking it in stride is often easier said than done. Today we talk a bit about rejections in our own lives and how to handle them as they come. Let's talk about it!
25:33
June 29, 2021
44. Expectations
In this episode we talk primarily about mullets, but we do also get a little bit into expectations. Particularly, milestone expectations and why they really, truly, don't matter. Whether it's 20, 30, 40 or beyond, we all have moments where we feel like we have to reach a certain goal - but why, and does it really even matter? Let's talk about it!
29:42
June 15, 2021
43. Chat with Donovan Isaac
Today on the pod we're talking to another friend of mine Donovan Isaac. From football scholarship to graphic design student to successful streamer, today we're talking to him about following your dreams, pursuing your passion despite the expectations of others and what it means to be happy. Let's talk about it! Check out what Donny's up to in the world at https://linktr.ee/chiefdonnyszn
34:47
June 1, 2021
42. Why We Do What We Do
Why DO we do what we do? Today we're talking about the things that make us us, what motivates and moves us, what causes an opinion to form and how best to understand and empathize with the journey another person has taken to get them where you meet them now, so we can see from their perspective a bit more clearly.
24:52
May 18, 2021
Thanks, Mom!
As promised today on the show we have my step-mom, founder of PowHERhouse Impact Media Charlene SanJenko giving a shoutout to moms and motherhood, talking about having a friendship with your kids as adults and sharing a few stories between us!  Hope you all had a safe, happy mother's day out there and we'll catch you with our usual programming next week!
19:25
May 11, 2021
Happy Mother's Day!
Thank you to everyone who submitted a story to make this compilation possible. Within we have ten minutes of stories, memories and appreciation from mothers and daughters, mentors and mentees. Hope all our moms, step-moms, single moms and single dads, foster and adoptive moms all had an amazing Mother's day!
09:58
May 10, 2021
40. Perspective
We're talking today about creating your reality through the lens of perspective. We go through a great many experiences in our lives, some positive and some negative. But the way we view those experiences can change our present from 'man, I wish...' to 'I'm so lucky I learned that lesson when I did.' So what's the difference? Let's talk about it!
27:57
May 4, 2021
39. What do you want to be when you grow up?
Do you remember hearing that? As a young person people asked me all the time what I want to be when I grow up. The pressure to BE something is so strong sometimes that people settle for jobs and things they don't enjoy. I'm joined today by our friend Marcus to talk about BEING, purpose, doing what you love, and so much more! Check Marcus out at twitch.tv/marc_mywords and his own podcast at anchor.fm/marc-mywords
36:45
April 27, 2021
38. Helping Ourselves
After an awesome weekend talking about WHY to help ourselves, we thought it'd be great to talk about HOW to help yourself. Even if our purpose in life is to help others, we have to be whole to put ourselves healthily aside and focus on the needs of others first, and we have to help ourselves become whole. So how do we start? Well, let's talk about it!
32:27
April 20, 2021
37. Burnout
We've talked a bit about fatigue before but it felt apt to talk about burnout today as we both get into busier and busier phases of our work lives, trying to consolidate work, home lives, social lives and time for ourselves.
24:47
April 13, 2021
36. Language, In & Out
When we think about language, we often think only about the words we say to others, but not so much about the words we say to ourselves. This week we're talking about language, fear-based thinking and how language can open up doors, or shut them. Let's talk about it!
31:36
April 6, 2021
35. Journaling
Some of us remember starting a diary as kids, jotting down our thoughts for the day, what we wanted for Christmas, how annoying our teachers were. After about a week those diaries wound up in the trash, or in a drawer never to be seen again. But here on the podcast we talk often, and enthusiastically, about journaling. Ben is a big supporter of journaling as a means of self-discovery, and we wanted to dive a bit deeper into that. Plus, a sneak convo about the upcoming book, Killing Goliath.
30:09
March 30, 2021
34. Trust & Faith
What began as a conversation about motivation and discipline turned into one about trust and faith. As we get into spring and the prospect of hitting the beaches nears, a lot of people are getting back into their diets and exercise kicks. But how do we make our goals happen, how do we see through what we mean to do? I thought it came down to discipline, but Ben would suggest otherwise, and after his many years of personal training, I'm inclined to believe him. So what does that mean, trust and faith? Well, let's get into it!
33:59
March 23, 2021
33. The Help That Works
Coming off our huge hour-long conversation with our friend Marcus, it's a smaller episode today but just as important. We're talking today about help - specifically, the help that works. For me, the help that's worked has been therapy and medication. For Ben, it's been reflection and journalling. Everyone heals differently, so rather than focusing on what's worked for everyone else, it's important to focus on what works for you. Let's talk about it!
24:47
March 16, 2021
32. Happiness with Marcus Richardson
Joined by our first guest, Marcus Richardson, Ben and I chat with this Twitch streamer and podcaster about life, dating, confidence and, you guessed it, happiness. Check out links to Marcus' stream and podcast below and enjoy what is possibly the longest episode we've had to date! He was just such a great guest. https://anchor.fm/marc-mywords https://www.twitch.tv/marc_mywords
01:04:40
March 9, 2021
31. Methods For Happiness Maintenance
This week we're talking about happiness maintenance and how to go about taking those moments that might otherwise bring our day down and changing the way we look at them and how we deal with them. We'll chat about some methods for bringing our happiness back up, so we can be happy all day, every day!
34:58
March 2, 2021
30. Visualizing Optimal Performance
There are certain obstacles we know we'll have to face in our day to day. The kids might be slow to get out of bed every morning, or we know traffic will be crazy by the time we get out of the house. If we take each day piece by piece, these things will cause problems for us every day, potentially affecting our happiness. If we can plan for them, we can move into the day confident. By visualizing times we've been at our best, been our most effective, we can bring that into the present and future to tackle the day with self-assurance, ease, and faith. Let's talk about it! Check out How to Be Happy Every Day: It Will Change The World by our friend Jacqueline Way here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78nsxRxbf4w
38:36
February 23, 2021
29. Visualize your Best Self
We've all had moments of great success in our lives where it feels like we can conquer just about anything. If we look back and take note of those successes, those moments of triumph, we can recreate that state to have an impact similarly on our every day lives. This week, we discuss visualizing the best versions of ourselves and what it takes to make it a reality. Leverydayet's talk about it!
41:48
February 16, 2021
28. Acknowledging your Qualities
You've found the line and taken note of it, you've given yourself a break in the day to take stock of your happiness - now what? The next piece of the puzzle is acknowledging the qualities that make you unique and make you great in and of yourself, so that whatever comes your way you know it isn't a reflection of your person. So how do we do that? Let's talk about it!
28:31
February 9, 2021
27. Grounding
So last week we talked about happiness, staying above the line and how to be aware of how we feel. This week we're talking about how to make all of that happen, and it starts first thing. Grounding yourself in what you want to feel, in joy and happiness and love, will set the mood for your whole day so that staying above the line is even easier - maybe even normal in time.
36:38
February 3, 2021
26. The Line
In today's episode, we're talking about happiness again but on a more day to day level in terms of managing the way that we feel. How conscious are we of the way we're feeling every day, and are we acting like we control our emotions, or like our emotions control us?
35:41
February 3, 2021
25. Clarity
The follow-up to last week's conversation, this week we're talking about clarity. So you've overcome the problem by focusing on the solution, but how do we keep from getting stuck in a cycle of problem and solution when what we really want is a sense of ease? Today, we talk about how clarity can be the answer to an overall simplified life - or one of them.
31:14
February 3, 2021
24. Focus on the Solution
It's so easy to get wrapped up in the problems we face in our day to day. The kids are late to school, our car won't start, the dog ate another shoe - things compound quickly until we're stuck in a loop and it becomes impossible to see the solution. This week, we talk about how to hone in on the answer to our problems instead of letting ourselves wander around blinded by issues. Let's talk about it!
31:22
February 3, 2021
23. Holiday Blues
We can get blue at any time of year, but the holidays can be especially bad. This year has been unlike any other and we're all in it together, but many of us are alone. In this episode, we talk about how to get through lonely times now and all through the year!
28:22
February 3, 2021
22. Gentle Souls
What can make a lot of people hard is beginning gentle and being pushed through all manner of trial. Bullying, abuse, the ever-present push to fit some shape that they don't belong. How does a man with an easy nature, a gentle soul or a kind heart make it in the world and preserve himself? How does he hang on to what makes him great without being changed by societal pressures and, sometimes, family pressures?
25:19
February 3, 2021
21. Savouring the Moment
Life is the longest thing we'll do(obv) but it really isn't that long. What we do with the time we have can make our lives feel shorter or longer. How much time do you spend really savouring the moment, savouring your life and the time you have? Could you spare more? Let's talk about it!
32:19
February 3, 2021
20. The Role of Introspection in Finding your Truth
A lot of us spend a great deal of time in a day distracted. With music, TV, phones and the internet, it's never hard to keep busy. But are we missing time spent just sat around thinking? This week we talk about introspection - if it's important and if so, why.
31:15
February 3, 2021
19. Breakups
They might just be unavoidable. We all have loves and losses throughout our lives, and not every relationship is meant to last. But when we're inspired by a partner to do the work and become our best selves, the end of a relationship can feel like the end of us. How do you hold on to that image of yourself and stay the course when that person is no longer there? Let's talk about it!
33:32
February 2, 2021
18. The Law of Attraction
- And no, we don't mean in relationships. Today, we're talking about attracting things to you. There's a lot of conversation about manifestation and visualization, but are those things just different levels of a greater thing - attraction? How do we ATTRACT the things we want in life and how do we recognize when things are going our way?
33:23
February 2, 2021
17. Fatigue
We all experience it at one point or another. Some of us call it burnout, overwork or just plain tired. It's the dreaded fatigue! And maybe it's just a matter of life all getting to be a bit too much. In this episode, we talk about fatigue, the seasons of life and how we can overcome - or rather, go with the flow of - tiredness.
25:39
February 2, 2021
16. Faith
We've talked about faith in the first episode and referenced it in every episode since when we talk about ease, self-assurance and faith. But what does it really mean to have faith, to live in faith, and why is it so important? Let's talk about it!
30:39
February 2, 2021
15. Deadbeat Dads
This week, we talk about the idea of 'deadbeat dads', both from an outside lens and as father and daughter. We delve into what it means to be a good dad, the trouble that can come when two partners no longer work as a couple and how perspective shifts the conversation. Let's talk about it!
45:05
February 2, 2021
14. Bullying
Bullying comes in all shapes and sizes, so many avenues of life. We talk often about kids being bullied, but it doesn't end when we leave school. Bullying comes to test our resolve when we least expect it. In this episode, we talk about bullying we'vethe  experienced and how to overcome it.
54:17
February 2, 2021
13. 'Real Men'
The term toxic masculinity is thrown around a lot in conversation, often on topics that concern how toxic masculinity is harmful to women. In this episode, we discuss how these beliefs hurt boys and men, how to challenge your own beliefs about what it is to 'be a man', and come out the happier for it.
37:32
February 2, 2021
12.5. Asking for Help
Today in the first solo episode, Willow practices some self-forgiveness and talks about asking for help, why it can be so hard and how we can begin to move on. Let's talk about it!
16:32
February 2, 2021
12. The Need to be Right vs The Desire to be Happy
We all know that one person that always has to have the last word, loves to scuffle on Facebook and just can't let a discussion go without being the one that was right at the end. Sometimes, that person is us. But is our need to be right the thing that's stopping us from being happy? And even if it makes us feel powerful in the moment, is it really a sign of weakness?
24:37
February 2, 2021
11. Stress & Anxiety
Stress and anxiety are normal parts of life, but many of us are experiencing both more than ever in these hectic times. This week we discuss anxiety from two perspectives and the toll worrying without a purpose can take on the body and spirit.
38:57
February 2, 2021
10. Effort vs Inspiration
Why work harder when you can work smarter? This week we talk about the idea of effort versus inspiration, of allowing your own intuition to guide you to success as opposed to fighting your way through barriers and coming out the other end one step ahead and exhausted, crabby and miserable for it. Let's talk about it!
35:01
February 2, 2021
9. Bad Jobs
We've all been there. A job to pay the bills, but we're not happy and all we can do is dream about a better time. But what happens when we spend our whole lives dreaming of something better? Today we discuss the idea of a dream job, and how to make any job your dream job.
35:07
February 2, 2021
8. Finding a Sense of Purpose
Having some grand sense of purpose can often feel like the only way to be of use or of value, leaving so many people fumbling in the dark. In this episode we talk about what it means to have a purpose, how far you really need to reach for one, and what having a sense of purpose means to them.
50:23
February 2, 2021
7. Success
What does success mean to you? Today we discuss the meaning of success. Is it money and fame, your relationships, your personal wins? Does success follow money, or does money follow success? Let's talk about it!
40:04
February 2, 2021
6. Violence & Aggression vs Strength of Character
What does it mean to be strong, truly? Is it enough to be physically strong, or does strength of character outshine and outweigh physical strength? Today, we discuss the difference between inner strength and outer strength, and why it's important anyway!
47:22
February 2, 2021
5. Forgiveness of the Self & Others
How often do we stay up late at night agonizing over the mistakes we've made, or things others have done to us? Do we really need to carry those things with us all our lives? Today, we discuss forgiving others and, just as importantly, forgiving ourselves. Neither of us are licensed counselors, and advise you to seek the help of professionals if you find yourself truly struggling.
50:10
January 28, 2021
4. Releasing the Need to Please Others
So often we find ourselves in a loop of wanting to please others, so much so that we set our own needs aside and struggle to find happiness. How can we truly be happy when we don't put ourselves first? This week, we discuss the large and small aspects of releasing the urge we may feel to put others first.
53:04
January 28, 2021
3. Reinventing The Self
We often feel like the road we're on is one we can't get off of, that our path is set in stone. In this episode, Ben and Willow discuss the idea of being able to reinvent yourself, be it in the small or the large, and becoming the best You possible.
42:23
January 28, 2021
2. Hopelessness & Climbing Upward
Hopelessness and how it can drive people is always a hard topic, but in this episode Ben and Willow discuss true hopelessness, the feeling of being in a hole you feel you can't get out of, and provide thoughts on how to navigate upward from their...
36:13
January 19, 2021
1. The Big 3
In this first conversation, Ben and Willow discuss 'The Big 3' fundamentals of a happy life; ease, self-assurance and faith. What does it mean to have any and all of these, and why is it important?
42:31
January 19, 2021