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Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching

Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching

By Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching - Tonya ❤
Previously - Light Your Divine Path:

A podcast for women who are ready to HEAL, RECLAIM and TRANSFORM their life after experiencing a devastating breakup or toxic, emotionally abusive relationship.
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(S2#8) Why Your No Contact Rule isn't Working for You (Breakup + Divorce Coaching)
In this live replay I discuss the issue of enforcing no contact and why your no contact rule isn't working out for you on your journey of healing and recovery after experiencing a devastating breakup or divorce.  There is a major difference between knowing what no contact is all about and actually enforcing your no contact rule in reality. As a Holistic Breakup and Spiritual Wellness Coach my approach to enforcing no contact takes into consideration the 4-major domains of your recovery and healing journey; and they include your mindset (mental), spiritual, emotional and physical. Enroll Today! 1:1 Private Coaching with Tonya Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
47:27
August 21, 2022
(S2#7) PART 3 What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Journey of Healing)
Welcome back to season 2, episode #7 of the Loving Ahead Podcast. Hi! I'm back with part 3 from my book review What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing - (Journey of Healing). In this week's episode I will be continuing with chapter 7, 8 and 9. The main highlights from this week's episode I will discuss the wisdom gained from the trauma of a breakup or divorce. Trauma informed - what does that really mean in practice? Western Medicine vs. a holistic, integrated healing approach. Enroll Today! 1:1 Private Coaching with Tonya Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
58:03
August 15, 2022
(S2#6) PART 2 What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Trauma After a Breakup)
Welcome back to season 2, episode #6 of the Loving Ahead Podcast. Hi! I'm back with part 2 from my book review What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing - Trauma After a Breakup. In this week's episode I will be continuing with chapter 4, 5 and 6. The main highlights from this week's episode will discuss how we experience trauma, connecting the dots between our early childhood years and the trauma we have experienced in our adult, intimate relationships and lastly, how to begin the healing journey despite having experienced trauma that has been transmitted down to us through early childhood. Enroll Today! 1:1 Private Coaching with Tonya Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
53:01
August 08, 2022
(S2#5) PART 1 What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience and Healing (Revisiting Early Childhood)
Welcome back to season 2, episode #5 of the Loving Ahead Podcast. This week I'm introducing a new 4-part, mini series which will be discussing the amazing book What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing. Each episode I will highlight a topic or quote from a chosen chapter to discuss and hopefully further assist you on your recovery and healing journey as you continue to process what happened to you as a result of this devastating breakup, divorce or separation. Enroll Today! 1:1 Private Coaching with Tonya Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
57:10
July 25, 2022
(S2 BONUS) Why Your Integrity is Important on Your Healing Journey After a Breakup
Welcome back to another bonus episode of the Loving Ahead Podcast. In this bonus episode Tonya discusses three reasons why your integrity will set the tone for your recovery and healing journey after experiencing a devastating breakup. (Breakup to Level 3-Month Program)  Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok Instagram
15:38
July 09, 2022
(S2 BONUS) The Unfiltered TRUTH About Your Healing Journey After a Devastating Breakup
In this bonus episode Tonya shares the unfiltered TRUTH about your recovery and healing journey after experiencing a devastating breakup; especially if you were involved in a toxic, emotionally destructive relationship. During your healing journey post-breakup, our friends and family may have good intentions of wanting to help us and be as supportive as possible, but at some point their time, energy and patience with our healing journey may dwindle overtime and it is up to us to not rely on others to do our healing journey for us. Ultimately, it is up to us/YOU to do the necessary inner work to get to that next level of abundance, healing and transformation you desire after experiencing a devastating breakup. Breakup to Level Up 3-Month Program Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok Instagram
20:23
July 09, 2022
(S2#4) My Solo Self Care Retreat Recap (Sharing 5 POWERFUL Aha Moments)
Welcome back to episode #4 of the Loving Head Podcast! In this week's episode I will be doing a mini recap of my long awaited solo, self-care retreat post-breakup after experiencing covert narcissistic abuse. I will be getting into the five, powerful aha moments I've had while self retreating; and although I've spoken about some of them in previous episodes, the Universe blessed me with additional, sacred downloads of goodness that I want to share with you in this week's episode as you continue to recover and heal after experiencing a devastating breakup. Breakup to Level Up 3-Month Program Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
23:18
July 09, 2022
(S2#3) Solo Self-Care Retreats... Why You Need to Invest in One Post Breakup
Welcome back to season two, episode 3 of the Loving Ahead Podcast. In this week’s episode, as promised, I am going to be getting into the importance of self-retreating after experiencing a devastating breakup. More specifically, I’ll be delving into what exactly is a self-retreat and why you need to allocate specific time for yourself to unplug from the hectic busyness of your life post-breakup. Registration Email for the FREE Online Self-Retreat with Tonya Please type in the Subject line: One Day Self Retreat with Tonya More details will be announced closer to the date! lovingaheadcoaching@gmail.com Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
46:10
June 06, 2022
(S2#2) The Bad Vegan: Dating, Breakups and Bad Decisions (Part Two)
In Episode two of the Loving Ahead Podcast we are continuing with part two from the mini series on scandalous love affairs gone horribly wrong. In this episode, Tonya highlights 10 quotable moments from The Bad Vegan that every woman can learn from and apply to their own dating and breakup situation. Article: Covert Narcissist Discard Signs - Dating 101 Self Retreat Registration Email: lovingaheadcoaching@gmail.com Please type in the Subject line: One Day Self Retreat with Tonya More details will be announced closer to the date! Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
56:19
May 30, 2022
(S2#1) 5 Lessons Women Can Learn From The Tinder Swindler Scandal (Part One)
We're officially back with the first episode of season two. In today's episode we are delving into 5 critical lessons women can learn from the scandalous docuseries The Tinder Swindler. Self Retreat Registration Email: lovingaheadcoaching@gmail.com Please type in the Subject line: One Day Self Retreat with Tonya More details will be announced closer to the date! Private 1:1 Breakup Coaching Tik Tok YouTube Instagram
38:27
May 28, 2022
(S2 Retreat Announcement) Online Self Care Retreat for Women Healing After Experiencing a Toxic Relationship
On June 16th 2022, I will be hosting a FREE online self-care retreat for a small, intimate group of women who are ready to begin their recovery and healing journey post-breakup after experiencing a toxic relationship.  Email: lovingaheadcoaching@gmail.com Please type in the Subject line: One Day Self Retreat with Tonya More details will be announced closer to the date!
02:29
May 22, 2022
(S2 Intro) Welcome Back to Season Two of The Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching Podcast
Welcome back to season two of the Loving Ahead Breakup and Wellness Coaching podcast for ambitious, high-achieving women. I am so excited to be back and have a few updates I'd like to share with the community. Please don't forget to follow us on Tik Tok, YouTube and Instagram; the links are below. Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lovingaheadbreakupcoach? YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3WO8Vedsro53aZ7SDMTjuw Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovingaheadbreakupcoaching/ Website: https://www.lovingahead.com/
07:40
May 19, 2022
(S1#12) Should You Forgive Your Toxic Ex The Narcissist?
How many times have we heard the saying "forgiveness isn't for the other person, it's for you"? But, what if your forgiveness feels rushed, influenced or inauthentic, should you still 'forgive' your toxic ex? I invite you to download my FREE Emotional Detox Guide + FREE no-contact audio coaching sessions. I also offer private, 3-month, 1:1 coaching for women who are having a difficult time getting over their ex. Whether you are in a toxic relationship or are currently experiencing a devastating breakup, I am here to support, motivate and coach you through the process.  Breakup to Level Up Program Not sure if you're ready for 1:1 private coaching with me? I also offer intro coaching sessions for those women who would like to slowly begin the process of being supported and coached through this difficult breakup.  Empower Your Emotions (Follow Me) Tik Tok YouTube Instagram Leave us your message or comments!
20:22
October 30, 2021
(S1#10) Healing From Trauma Bonding (Part Two)
Welcome back to Healing From Trauma Bonding (Part Two). Episode #10 In today’s episode, we are going to discuss your concerns around healing from trauma bonding in response to last week's episode (which you can read here) where I outlined some of the reasons of how and why trauma bonding happens. It's my hope that this episode of Loving Ahead will help you to finally begin the process of breaking free from the grips of trauma bonding after experiencing narcissistic abuse and move forward with your recovery and healing journey with confidence. Check out the full article: Healing From Trauma Bonding (Part Two) Additional reading resources: Depression After a Breakup I invite you to download my FREE Emotional Detox Guide + FREE no-contact audio coaching sessions. I also offer private, 3-month, 1:1 coaching for women who are having a difficult time getting over their ex. Whether you are in a toxic relationship or are currently experiencing a devastating breakup, I am here to support, motivate and coach you through the process.  Breakup to Level Up Program Not sure if you're ready for 1:1 private coaching with me? I also offer intro coaching sessions for those women who would like to slowly begin the process of being supported and coached through this difficult breakup.  Empower Your Emotions (Follow Me) Instagram Facebook Leave us your message or comments!
45:06
October 24, 2021
(S1#9) Trauma Bonding with a Narcissist: (Part One)
Hey Gorgeous, Welcome back to episode #9 In this week's episode of Loving Ahead - Breakup Coaching, I get into the topic of Trauma Bonding. Questions I ask and attempt to clarify for you are the following: 1. What Trauma Bonding is when you are in a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship. 2. Probable reasons for why it happens to women experiencing emotional abuse while dating a narcissist 3. What's happening to you when you feel love addicted Check out the full article: Trauma Bonding with a Narcissist - Part One Additional reading resources: Depression After a Breakup I invite you to download my FREE Emotional Detox Guide + FREE no-contact audio coaching sessions. I also offer private, 3-month, 1:1 coaching for women who are having a difficult time getting over their ex. Whether you are in a toxic relationship or are currently experiencing a devastating breakup, I am here to support, motivate and coach you through the process.  Breakup to Level Up Program Not sure if you're ready for 1:1 private coaching with me? I also offer intro coaching sessions for those women who would like to slowly begin the process of being supported and coached through this difficult breakup.  Empower Your Emotions (Follow Me) Instagram Facebook Leave us your message or comments!
49:46
October 17, 2021
(S1#8) How to Navigate The Holiday Breakup Season?
Hey Gorgeous, Welcome back to episode 8. Article: Breakup Season: How to Navigate and Survive It In today's video I offer a few breakup tips, breakup advice, and suggestions to help you navigate the notorious breakup season.   The best way to avoid having the 'turkey drop' on you this holiday season is to be observant and proactive weeks, even months before the holiday season swoops in with unnecessary drama, heartache and regret. I discuss what breakup season is all about. What to look out for and how to avoid and navigate a potential holiday breakup.   If you are having a difficult time moving forward on your healing and recovery journey post-breakup, I invite you to check out my video; which explains a bit more about what I do as a breakup and wellness coach and also how I can best support you during this season of your life.   I invite you to download my FREE Emotional Detox Guide + FREE no-contact audio coaching sessions.  I also offer private, 3-month, 1:1 coaching for women who are having a difficult time getting over their ex. Whether you are in a toxic relationship or are currently experiencing a devastating breakup, I am here to support, motivate and coach you through the process.  Breakup to Level Up Program Not sure if you're ready for 1:1 private coaching with me?  I also offer intro coaching sessions for those women who would like to slowly begin the process of being supported and coached through this difficult breakup.  Empower Your Emotions (Follow Me)   Instagram Facebook  Leave us your message or comments!
24:41
October 08, 2021
(S1#7) International Women's Day Message: I Choose to Challenge
Dearest Divine Lights, Episode 7. Will you choose to challenge gender inequality and domestic violence facing women within your community? Please take a moment to listen to today's message and also take INSPIRED ACTION! What can you do to SUPPORT women in your life and within your community who you suspect or know for a fact are experiencing abuse of any kind? 1. CALL her and let her know you are available to talk to her about anything. 2. Create safety signals between the two of you as a form of protection. 3. Create a list of support and resources online and off that are easily accessible for her to access when needed. She may not have access to the Internet. For women experiencing emotional abuse and cannot seek help and support because of the pandemic: 1. Please be patient and compassionate towards yourself. Try to get enough rest, get out for fresh air to help clear your mind. 2. When you can try to take a moment to meditate or simply focus on something, anything that is uplifting and positive to you. 3. Reach out and get the support you DESERVE! If resources in your community are limited because of the pandemic, please reach out to a trusted friend or family member you can rely upon. Additional Support: United States Domestic Violence Support  (1-800) 799-7233 Ontario Canada – Assaulted Women’s HOTLINE (1-866-863-0511) The free guide can be downloaded via my website Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Have a radiant and healing day!
33:48
March 07, 2021
(S1#6) Grieving a Toxic Relationship: The 6-Stages
Topic: Grieving a Toxic Relationship - The 6-Stages Dearest Divine Light, Welcome back to the Light Your Divine Path Podcast - Episode 6. This week we will be delving into the topic of Grieving a Toxic Relationship -What to Expect at Each Stage. Grieving a toxic relationship is not a pleasant experience, nor is the process of grieving the loss of a toxic relationship a linear one. I’ve mentioned before in a previous article entitled Letting Go of a Toxic Relationship – What You Need to Know that “letting go of a toxic relationship isn’t an easy process and most definitely doesn’t go through the ebbs and flow of a ‘normal’ breakup from someone who is otherwise emotionally intelligent and stable.” When we grieve the loss of someone significant, such as an intimate partner, some individuals will experience 6-stages of grieving, and with time, we will eventually heal and gradually move on with our lives. But when you are healing your heart after experiencing emotional abuse moving through each stage must be handled with patience and compassion towards yourself. In today's episode I cover the following stages: 1. Shock and Embarrassment 2. Denial and Resistance 3. Bargaining and Compromising Your Values 4. Loneliness and Isolation 5. Eventual Acceptance 6. Healing and Transformation (obviously my favorite part of the process) -------------------- Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Whether you are actively dating or leaving a toxic relationship, the truth is it's never a linear process. I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be. To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I've created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation. The free guide can be downloaded via my website Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Tonya J.
41:37
March 01, 2021
(S1#5) How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship with Dignity - Sharing 6 Guided Tips
Dearest Divine Light, Topic: How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship with Dignity - Sharing 6-Guided Tips! Welcome back to the Light Your Divine Path Podcast - Episode 5 This week we will be delving into the topic of How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship. Knowing how to move on from a toxic relationship with dignity is something I admittedly was horrible at, and to be quite honest with you, I was a walking train wreck shortly after breaking up from the covert narcissist in my life. In today’s podcast, I would like to share with you a few tips and some genuine advice from my heart to yours that I wish someone, anyone in my life would have stepped forward to offer me as I tumbled out of that tumultuous relationship not knowing what to do with all the raw emotions and thoughts that was ruling my every action at the then time. The 6-Guided Tips + Advice include: 1. Knowing what's your WHY for wanting to leave such a relationship. 2. Having the 'final' conversation and standing in your truth. 3. Why you should implement 'no contact' and STAY 'no contact.' 4. Create sacred space. 5. Cleansing your energy regularly 6. Create your comeback plan. BONUS: You can also read the full article on my website: How to Move on From a Toxic Relationship -------------------- Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Whether you are actively dating or leaving a toxic relationship, the truth is it's never a linear process. I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be. To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I've created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation. Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Hope you enjoyed part one Have a radiant and healing day! Tonya J.
26:15
February 22, 2021
(S1#4) 8-Warning Signs You are Dating a Toxic Person
Dearest Divine Light, Welcome back to the Light Your Divine Path Podcast - Episode 4 This week we will be delving into the topic of knowing what are the warning signs of dating a toxic person? One thing I wish I had known more about when I first started dating the covert narcissist – and this is an issue women tend to overlook or don’t pay enough attention to – are the subtle and not so subtle warning signs you are dating a toxic person. The main question I often hear women regretfully ask after leaving or breaking up from an emotionally abusive relationship is the fact that they had no clue that their ex-partner was capable of such cruelty and that to their knowledge there were no warning signs until it was too late; they were already hooked into the crazy-making, emotional roller-coaster of being in a toxic relationship, in my case this was with a covert narcissist. The 8 warning signs covered in this week's podcast include: 1. Love Bombing 2. Ghosting 3. Dr. Jekyll vs. Mr. Hyde 4. Habitually Lying for No Reason 5. Gossiping + Slandering Past Lovers 6. Gaslighting 7. Drama, Drama, Drama 8. Depleted Energies (Emotional Vampirism) -------------------- Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Whether you are actively dating or leaving a toxic relationship, the truth is it's never a linear process. I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be. To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I've created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation. Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Hope you enjoyed part one. Have a radiant and healing day! Tonya J.
32:49
February 13, 2021
(S1#3) Emotional Abuse is Still Abuse
Dearest Divine Light, Episode 3. In this week's podcast, I am tackling the touchy, and some may argue, controversial topic of Emotional R. Syndrome... Ever heard of it? I've personally experienced it, but at the time I didn't know it was an actual syndrome because of being in an emotionally abusive relationship. It's a heavy and touchy topic, but I wouldn't be doing my due diligence as a Feminine Empowerment Life Coach if I did not openly speak up about this issue that many women who have experienced being in a toxic relationship have likely experienced some or all of the complications associated with the phenomena of Emotional R. Syndrome. PLEASE NOTE: I am not by any means lessening the horrific act of being physically violated or sexually abused, but there is much to dissect and contemplate regarding the issue of Emotional R. Syndrome in women who are recovering and healing after being in a toxic relationship. Here is a brief overview of today's podcast content: - What is Emotional R. Syndrome? - Why do women in toxic relationships experience it? - Common symptoms and complications of ERS - Where to find support.  Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Whether you are actively dating or leaving a toxic relationship, the truth is it's never a linear process. I dated a manipulative, covert narcissist and by the time I left that relationship, I was a shadow of the woman I used to be. To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I've created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner; which also includes a morning and evening meditation. Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Have a radiant and healing day! Tonya J.
48:54
February 01, 2021
(S1#2) Why You Need to Let Go of a Toxic Relationship (PART TWO)
Hello Divine Light,  Episode 2. If you are watching part two of this podcast, you've already listened to part one on How to Let Go of A Toxic Relationship. If you haven't listened to part one as yet, I highly encourage you to listen to the first podcast and then return to this one. In part two of today's video, I delve a little deeper into my personal experiences of being in a toxic relationship with a covert narcissist and I also share with you a few words of advice for you to consider as you decide for yourself whether if you are in fact in a toxic relationship and if you are, what you should be considering as you start the process of letting go of that relationship? Part two of this podcast is a condensed overview of my article Letting Go of a Toxic Relationship: What You Need to Know. If you would like to read the article for yourself, please check it out via my website, which I will link to below. In today's message of inspiration and hope, I delve into the topics of: - What are the consequences of staying in a toxic relationship? - Do you have boundaries and why they are important? - Implementing the practice of "going no-contact" It's a more difficult practice than you think. Right now, you probably feel as though you are on an emotional roller-coaster. Dating and eventually breaking up from a toxic individual, in my case a covert narcissist, will make you feel as though you are going crazy. To support you in this phase of your recovery and self-healing journey, I've created a FREE Emotional Detox Guide to help you begin the initial stages of emotionally detoxing from this relationship and your toxic ex-partner. I've also created two guided morning and evening meditations for you to listen to, as you work through the Emotional Detox Guide and implement each of the guided tips. You can download the guide below: Download HERE: Emotional Detox Guide + Bonus Training! Enroll Today! No Contact, No Joke! 5-Part Audio Training Series! Have a radiant and healing day! Tonya J.
23:28
January 31, 2021
(S1#1) Letting Go of a Toxic Relationship - What You Need to Know (PART ONE)
I hope that part one of these podcasts gives you the clarity and guidance needed to help you through the process of letting go of a toxic relationship that you may be trying to break free from. Check out the podcast recap here and read the full article here Download your FREE Emotional Detox Guide Website: Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching for Modern Women YouTube: Loving Ahead Breakup Coaching Instagram: Loving Ahead Coaching 
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January 31, 2021