Listening from Self

This is a deep dive into storytelling, narrative and evolution with Dr. Randy Olson. Randy Olson is a Scientist, filmmaker and developer of the ABT Framework, a simple tool helping scientists, doctors and entrepreneurs tell better stories. You can find more on http://abtframework.com/randy-olson/ In this conversation we cover topics like: - Why stories catch our attention - What the forces of good narrative are - And how the ABT can help us become better storytellers 0:00 Intro 1:27 The most important question in communication 4:00 What is the ABT? (And how does it help with this question)? 7:10 Journalism vs. Storytelling 9:00 Why the first act is going extinct 12:00 Films vs. books (Literal vs non-literal) 17:34 The Impact of Social Media 19:36 The 3 Forces of narrative 21:25 The definition of narrative (& Joseph Campbell) 23:40 We are problem-solution animals 27:30 The ABT & 3 act structure 28:20 Hillary Clinton and the Lack of narrative 31:30 Obfuscation in medicine 34:20 The narrative spectrum 37:28 the first act is going extinct 42:00 How the ABT can help 45:23 Its ALL about the Context 47:12 MAGA is a therefore 49:29 The ABT and South Park

0:00 Introduction 2:20 Why Storytelling for Business? 6:28 Parks first Story Client 13:05 "Your brand is the story people tell when you are not in the room" 14:18 The ABT Framework for Storytelling 17:13 Example of Client ABT 18:26 How does the ABT improve Marketing? 21:47 A powerful example of the ABT in action 24:00 Anecdotes vs. narrative 25:50 How to tell good Anecdotes 30:45 Story needs conflict 33:32 How to use Story & Anecdotes in Marketing

This conversation with Park Howell shows you how to use Storytelling to grow your business. Park Howell is the host of The Business of Story Podcast (the #1 business storytelling podcast in the world) and a story consultant to major companies. You can find him here: https://businessofstory.com/ In this conversation we cover topics like: - How Park has helped businesses grow by more than 600 percent. - Why he has fallen in love with the ABT framework - And how people who hate marketing can use stories. 0:00 Introduction 2:20 Why Storytelling for Business? 6:28 Parks first Story Client 13:05 "Your brand is the story people tell when you are not in the room" 14:18 The ABT Framework for Storytelling 17:13 Example of Client ABT 18:26 How does the ABT improve Marketing? 21:47 A powerful example of the ABT in action 24:00 Anecdotes vs. narrative 25:50 How to tell good Anecdotes 30:45 Story needs conflict 33:32 How to use Story & Anecdotes in Marketing

0:00 - Intro to Clean Language
25:00 - Persona Modelling vs IFS
55:00 - Assumptions & Leading in IFS
1:00:30 - Persona Modelling and "Fears"  

In this conversation with Wendy Sullivan and Dr. Paul Field we explore Persona Modelling - the Clean Language equivalent to Parts Work:  
- What is Clean Language again?
- How did Person Modelling come to be?
- What are the assumptions as we work with Peronsas?  

Wendy Sullivan is the author of the best-selling book "Clean Language - Revealing Metaphors and opening minds" She has been been working in the field for more than 20 years.   

Dr. Paul Field has been using Clean Language in business and his interest has brought him into co-creating multiple innovative trainings.  

Their website is https://cleanchange.co.uk/ 

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we explore how to talk about Talents and Strengths - in teams and in relationships:

- How can we learn the words and language to talk about talents?
- How is it helpful for ourselves to speak "for our" talents - and thus for what we need and want?
- And how can it help teams to perform better when people express their needs and energies?   

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/    

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Wendy Sullivan and Dr. Paul Field we offer an introduction to Clean Language:  

- How did Clean Language emerge (and how did David Grove develop it)?
- What is the power of Clean Language?
- What does it take to learn Clean Language (and what it means to get it into your bones)?
- Additionally Wendy and Paul offer an introduction into the advances they developed in the Field: Using clean with Parts and the body  

Wendy Sullivan is the author of the best-selling book "Clean Language - Revealing Metaphors and opening minds" She has been been working in the field for more than 20 years.   

Dr. Paul Field has been using Clean Language in business and his interest has brought him into co-creating multiple innovative trainings.  

Their website is https://cleanchange.co.uk/ 

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

0:00 - Intro
1:40 - body-friendly and trauma-friendly language
6:30 - Permission to go to the body
9:30 - What is body-friendly language
18:55 - Exploring somatic Parts Work
28:30 - A spontaneous Demonstration of Somatic Parts Work
42:00 - Zen and the Body
47:40 - Welcoming Resistance
52:00 - Trusting the System
59:15 - Connecting Zen and body-friendly Language  

Nick Pole has been practising, teaching and writing about shiatsu for twenty years. Over time he has worked deeply on integrating language with Bodywork. Through Clean Language, he has developed a simple approach to including Language that speaks to the body in his sessions - and written the book “Words that touch” about it. He is happy to respond to Emails if you have any questions. https://nickpole.com/

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we explore how Talents and Strengths show up in children:  

- How early can we recognise Talents in children?
- Do children with different Talents develop differently?
- How do values and needs of developmental stages influence Talents?   

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/    

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Tamsin Hartley we explore her approach to personal growth called "The Listening Space":  

- Why do we need Mindfulness for change?
- How can Metaphors help us create lasting change?
- And how can we support each other using Clean Questions?   

Tamsin Hartley is teaching The Listening Space, an approach for personal growth that can be used in group and individual sessions. https://www.thelisteningspace.co.uk/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In diesem Gespräch mit Maria Illgen erforschen wir die Verbindung von Sprache und Berührung:  

- Was ist "Clean Language" und warum eignet sich dieser Ansatz für die Integration mit Körperarbeit? -
Was ist Marias Pfad mit Shiatsu?
- Was sind die Potentiale für die Arbeit mit dem Körper und der Lebenskraft durch Berührung und einfache Fragen?   

Maria Illgen arbeitet in eigener Praxis in Berlin. Sie verbindet Shiatsu mit Clean Language mit der Ausrichtung Menschen in Lebendigkeit und  Ganz-Sein zu unterstützen. https://www.shiatsu-rixdorf.de/ueber-mich/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

0:00 - Intro
0:51 - Example and What is Clean Language?
13:50 - When to use Clean Language
21:49 - Respecting Client’s Space and Demonstration
33:40 - Endless Depth and Subtlty
37:17 - Polyvagal and Clean Language
42:41 - Flow of Sessions with Clean Language
48:20 - Trauma & body-friendly Language
54:24 - Clean Language for Body-Mind Practitioners
58:32 - Getting Started with Clean
1:05:58 - Giving Power to Bodyworkers  

Nick Pole has been practising, teaching and writing about shiatsu for twenty years. Over time he has worked deeply on integrating language with Bodywork. Through Clean Language, he has developed a simple approach to including Language that speaks to the body in his sessions - and written the book “Words that touch” about it. He is happy to respond to Emails if you have any questions. https://nickpole.com/

In diesem Gespräch mit Florian Schäffler unterhalten wir uns über Feldenkrais, Verkörperung und den langen Weg der Integration:  

- Was ist Feldenkrais? - Was ist die Feldenkrais-Perspektive auf Veränderung?
- Wie helfen uns körperliche Praktiken zu mehr Präsenz?
- Und wie hängt all das mit unseren Anteilen und unserem Selbst zusammen?  

Florian Schäffler ist seit 25 Jahren Feldenkrais Practitioner. Er lehrt in Berlin. Seine Website ist: http://www.feldenkrais-mitte.de/ 

Lucas Forstmeyer unterrichtet Online-Kurse für Teile-Arbeit - sowohl für Coaches als auch Selbst-Coaching. Seine Website ist: lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we explore the connection between Life-Force and Talents:  

- What does it mean that your Talents "Energize" you? And where does that energy come from?
- If we are all built differently, how can we serve ourselves and the world using our talents?
- How can we use our Life-Force to move Projects and the world forwards?   

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/    

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Mark Walsh we explore Embodiment to manage our state AND make change stick:  

- What is (ABC) Centering and how does it work?
- How can we learn to regulate our systems better?  
- What does it take to make change and embodied transformation stick and become a natural part of our life?
- And what can we do to speed up this process?   

Mark Walsh has decades of experience in the field of Embodiment. He is the founder of the Embodiment Conference and Embodied Facilitator Training - combining many fields of somatic learning and transformation. You can find out about his work and offers here: https://embodiedfacilitator.com/uk/   

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Ruth Culver we explore the connection between IFS and the modern Science of Trauma:  

- How does the Activity of Parts influence our nervous system?
- How does the general Activation of our System influence the activity of our Parts?  - What are the different strategies Parts use to avoid pain
- and how do they correlate with the different Polyvagal states?
- And how do Exiles and the Self fit in there?    

Ruth works with adults and teenagers to help increase their self-confidence, health and happiness. She combines her training in Hypnotherapy and IFS with a deep appreciation for the Body and Nervous System. She is the Creator of the "Survive - Thrive Spiral". Her Website is https://calmheart.co.uk/ 

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we explore how to take the Strength Based approach to the maximum:  

- What does it mean to build a team based on strengths? (And what makes it difficult)
- How can we discern between the core business and the development of new products?  
- How to benefit from the fact that we all have energy for different things    

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/    

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we explore how understanding Talents and Strengths can make Teams more productive and powerful:     
- How do our Talents impact the work we do in Teams?  
- What is the difference between our Position (e.g. CEO) and Role (e.g. Problem-Solver) in a company?  
- What are real life case examples of this?    

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/    

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

This is the fourth conversation I had with Stas Pstrokonski of Education Bookcast.  

We were talking about how teaching works - How do you teach people knowledge but more importantly skills in a sustainable way?

For that we cover different topics from Chemistry to Ballroom Dancing.

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we talk about Guided Tripping:

- How can Psychedelics help people?  
- What does it take for a companion to support them?   
- What do Psychedelics do?  
- And is it as fun as it sounds?

Miriam van Groen accompanies people on their psychedelic trips. Her quest is to support people towards their deeper possibilities. She is also very caring. Her website is https://www.guidedtripping.com/

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we talk about Coaching:   

- Why would any person get a Coach?
- What is the goal of a good Coach?  
- What skills do you need?
- And why did you not fail, even if your Clients do NOT reach their goals??  

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Liesel Teversham we talk about the intersection between Inner Work and Strength Coaching:

- How is personal Healing different from Strength based Coaching?

- How can Trauma and old pain negatively impact our Talents?

- And why conscious healing can be considered the deepest form of Self-Management.

Liesel Teversham supports sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs by helping them discover how to use their unique strengths and let go of old patterns that are holding them back. https://savvyselfgrowth.com/about/

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Nikolas Scholz we talk about Parasocial Relationships:   

- What on earth are Parasocial Relationships? 

- How do new content-forms like VLOGS and Streaming support this relationship 

- What are the power-dynamics and social rules of Parasocial Relationships? 

- And how does it relate to loneliness and social awkwardness?  

Nikolas Scholz is a trained physicist, Coach and Psychotherapist in training. He focuses on helping people find clarity in situations of change and inner turmoil. He does not have a website, but answers questions on quora: https://www.quora.com/profile/Nikolas-Scholz  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Dries Lombaard we talk about STRENGTHS:   

- Why we should build our life on our Talents and Strengths (and what to do if this is not possible) 

- How to understand the Strength Formula (Talent + Knowledge + Skill + Time = Strength) 

- How to manage ourselves, our Needs and Talents so they actually support us 

- And why life is a bit like a continuous game of golf  

Dries Lombaard has been in the field of Strengths-Coaching for more than 20 years and the Author of "Launch your Brilliance". He has lead everything from Team Building, Executive Coaching to Training Programs in this field. In addition to being highly results driven he uses his Strengths for deep thinking understand what strengths actually are and how to use them. His Website is: https://www.strengthsynergy.co.za/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

In this conversation with Liesel Teversham we talk about STRENGTHS:

- Comparing Strengths and Talent

- Strengths as "Natural Energy" and "Abilities built over time"

- How to cultivate our strengths for easier living

Liesel Teversham supports sensitive and empathic entrepreneurs by helping them discover how to use their unique strengths and let go of old patterns that are holding them back. https://savvyselfgrowth.com/about/

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

This is the third conversation I had with Stas Pstrokonski of Education Bookcast.  We are still working on a simple model of our Mind to understand learning, transformation etc. using Cognitive Science.

In this conversation, we focused on understanding unconscious thinking and learning compared to implicit / unconscious learning and deciding. We end up with the question what classical education is actually teaching us - and if it helps in our daily life?

I hope you enjoy!

This is the sixth conversation of the Listening from Self Podcast.  

With Ruth Toledo Altschuler I talk about her understanding & exploration of archetypes using flower essences, her approach to support people in their creativity, the individual unfolding of deeper layers of our Self and the difference between Self as a Resource and Self as itself.   

Ruth Toledo Altschuler is a Flower Essence Practitioner and Educator. She has more than 30 years experience with Flower Essences, archetypes, mentoring and supporting people in their emotional patterns. You can find her work here: https://essencementoring.com/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

This is the fifth conversation of the Listening from Self Podcast.  

With Jeremy Gildman I talk about his exploration of masculinity, the Drama Triangle, subtle shifts in consciousness and my experience with Corona in Germany.  

Jeremy Gildman is a counselor who focuses on supporting men around their masculinity and the changes during fatherhood. You can find his work under https://www.truthandlovecounseling.com/  

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic. His Website is https://lucasforstmeyer.com

This is the second conversation I had with Stas Pstrokonski of Education Bookcast.  We are still working on a simple model of our Mind to understand learning, transformation etc. using Cognitive Science. 

In this conversation, we focused on the Adaptive Unconscious to truly understand what our Unconscious Mind does for us.

I hope you enjoy. 

This is a recording of a conversation Stas and I had on April 22nd 2020.   

We are both fascinated by cognitive models. Stas is trying to understand learning through them. I am more interested in transformation. And we had a good conversation.  There are probably more to come.  

You can find Stas Pstrokonski's Podcast here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/education-bookcast/id1071928361 

George Kao is a Coach for Authentic Business. He offers Online Courses, Master Mind Groups and Coachings for Entrepreneurs building their business around their personal wisdom. His Website is: https://www.georgekao.com/   

Lucas Forstmeyer is leading Online Courses, Groups and Sessions teaching people to connect with themselves and others from a deeper sense of Self. His work focuses on Intimacy, Productivity and work with the Inner Critic.