The Pleasure Seeker

Desire can feel impossibly tricky, especially when that sparky, electric, grab-you-by-the-pants kinda D E S I R E disappears from a relationship.  

Here are three ways to increase your hot WANTING when sex feels like a chore.

If you are interested in 1:1 coaching or joining my next group salon Better Sex in 60 Days we begin 10/10/22. Dm here, on IG @mrslydiafeldman, or email lydia@lydiafeldmancoaching.com

Not fully sold on months of life coaching at this current moment?

How about ONE DAY to get mind-blowing results in your s€x life?

Desire that fuels your whole body.

Rich fantasies that truly turn you on.

A sexy bedroom revamp.

A *pleasurefication* of your wardrobe.

A lingerie overhaul & boudoir selfie shoot.

How to up-level your dating life & add infinite spice, parties, fantasies or subtleties.

A couples-session where you both can get on the same page erotically & PLAY together.

Ask me ANY question.

Coach on any mind drama.

Move into YOUR needed embodiment, breath, erotic style & relationship dynamics.

In ONE session.

Epic results in ONE day (with an entire week of unlimited support).

It's really like a choose-your-own-sexy-adventure w a sassy chauffeur. 😏

Wanna play?

This summer offer sizzles for just $1000 and is a limited time offer.

Email me for your BESPOKE EXXXPERIENCE or more details, my darling.

lydia@lydiafeldmancoaching.com 

Fantasies hold SO SO SO much insight and potentiality for us... they contain wisdom, access to our deeper desires, and truest selves.  Ya know, the heroine that has ALL the power, presence, and gets exactly what she wants. 

Here's the INVITATION: 

Curate your erotic imagination & start exploring all those dreamy fantasies you've kept tucked away. 

Write your favorite fantasies down.

Send them to me. 

I will read the best ones on this Podcast and celebrate YOUR amazing imagination and smutty erotic brilliance.

Deadline is March 1st, 2022. :)

If You Can't Seduce Yourself... NO ONE Can.

The Art of Self Seduction is starting 2.7.22 and I have gotten lots of questions and curiosities regarding this program!

Could this one-month pleasure salon be right for you??

YES if you want to:

❤️ understand and TRUST yourself to be in charge of your desire and turn on.

❤️stop WAITING for arousal (that barely comes).

❤️ know HOW to get turned on (and why you're turned off).

❤️TRUST yourself to say what you want (and how you want it).

❤️here are some deets!

We start next week!

Doors open for pre-partying next week & officially begin 2/7!

4 weeks
Small group

✨pleasure mapping
✨fantasy exploration
✨boudoir selfie workshop🤳🏼
✨solo tantra
✨erotic movement
✨4 group coaching calls
✨ 1:1 coaching for those who sign up by 1/31!

✨plus seductive bonuses!

$500

(Seriously, this is a stupid good deal).

so grab the link below (or dm me) to get in there!!

IT'S GONNA BE SOOOO FUN!!! 🔥

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This conversation all about boozy sex and sexy booze and snoozy boozy bluesy sex is perfect for the new year. Y'all doin Dry January?? 

Well in this podcast, I talk with Jennie Juechter, an Activatrix of Aliveness life coach who helps women check their over-drinking and eating habits. 

We talk about WHY we want to drink, social anxiety, radical self-ownership, and ultimately the relationship between alcohol and sexual pleasure.

If you're curious about how to curate a SEXY AF and INTENTIONAL lapdance-in-my-mouth kind of relationship with drinking (that doesn't leave you sloppy or zonked by 9pm)... LISTEN UP!!

Plus Jennie is hella funny. 

Check out Jennie on IG (and Follow like a mofo!)  Here's a link to our collab interview we did last fall on her MILF's Droppin the Mic series: 

https://www.instagram.com/p/CWBgmoKJaZb/

Time to check your imagination!!

Does it actually bring more pleasure and connection into your body and life?

I'm joined by my lovely and turned-on client Cassandra Anderson as we talk about her journey that started with TON of DIS-trust of her body and desire as broken and subpar.  

Now she uses her embodiment practice as a means to ALWAYS check in with her body for what she wants.... and trusts her ability to create it. 

Listen on if you want some super practical, easy ways to create a FULL BODY YES to pleasure and intimacy. 

ALSO, if getting out of your head and into your body sounds undeniably delicious AND you are ready to take your pleasure to the next level, reach out!  

The Embodied Woman group coaching program has just begun (11/15) and there are also spaces in my 1:1 calendar.

YOUR PLEASURE IS BEYOND WORTH IT.

XO

Lydia

We usually think we need to DO something in order to feel better. 

Fix something, change someone, make more money, solve a problem...etc.

I want to offer that no emotion is "bad"... in fact, we want to be able to feel it, understand WHY we're feeling it, and then let it go (FULLY). 

With a little drama as possible. 

Here's my process which is SO SO helpful in simply letting myself feel shitty before thought work or blatant numbing out or springing into reaction mode. 

If you want more support in learning how to embody your FULL range of self so you can access deeper pleasure and connection, JOIN my new small group coaching program The Embodied Woman. 

It's short and sweet, 4 weeks and we'll dive into it ALL: Mindset, Breathwork, Erotic Movement, Intuitive Tapping, and your Orgasmic YES.

$500 

Starting November 15th, 2021

Message me here for more info!

Your erotic aliveness is 100% a part of you. 

Remember your fire. 

Remember the heat of your body and your past.

In this episode, I asked listeners and clients to share their erotic memoirs and the invitation continues on for YOU to do the same.

Remember

Revel

Write

...

PS> This is a very explicit episode, so don't listen whilst driving in your minivan with all the kids from soccer practice! ;)

Was it good for you?

I LOOOOVE helping clients create mind blowing sex lives.... so in this episode, I'll break down how to evaluate and recreate awesome sex you've had... and the meh or terrible sex you DON'T want to have again!

Your sex life is better than a movie. 

Your full hot-blooded past has been racy, romantic, heart-throbbingly delicious, and utterly breathtaking. 

AND I invite you to REMEMBER THAT! CLAIM THAT DAZZLE!

This project is for YOU to reclaim your erotic brilliance simply by strip-teasing down memory lane. 

The fun thing about memory is that it is YOURS to finesse, embellish, delight in, and indulge in whatever way serves you best. 

Here's the request: 

1. Remember your hotness and hot times

2. Write that shit down! 

3. Send your short story/ erotic confession/ sultry memory to me at Lydia@lydiafeldmancoaching.com and I will read them aloud on a special episode. Feel free to be as casual, honest, graphic, or demure as you wish! Write in the first person as if you were just telling me the craziest, most fun story. 

4. Deadline is Sept 17th (for our first reading series).

ALL submissions will be read anonymously, so your smutty secrets are safe with me.

Can't wait to celebrate you in all your sexy!

xx 

Lydia

📣Callin' all control freaks!

I see you.

(And I feel you!)

Let's talk about how the need for control and knowing the "plan" is a total dry, buzzkill when it comes to your sex life.

Control is not sexy.

It's based in fear and worry.

It shuts down pleasure.

It subtly (and not so sublty) whisks you OUT of your body and into your busy brain.

It clamps down and squashes your ecstatic bliss (and orgasm).

But yet, it also feels impossibly scary and confusing to "let go" and feel goooooood.

To SURRENDER to the pleasure of the moment.

But the white hot skill of surrender is learnable.

It's all about trusting you CAN lean into the awkward, comfortable & vulnerable and be OK.

Take a breath.

Feel your heart beat.

Notice your body & the feelings bubbling up.

Surrender simply means letting go of control and loving yourself through the discomfort.

❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥
It's wildly worth every breath.
❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

Ummm, flirting and marriage may seem like an oxymoron, but oh no no, it's a SUPER easy way to add way more fun and pleasure to your foreplay (which should begin immediately after orgasm to quote Esther Perel).

Here are three easy steps to flirt with that hunky man (or cheeky wife).

1. Set some rules 

2. Create lots of "maybe"

3. PLAY like you mean it

xx

On the way to more intentional, pleasured eating, you may feel like HOT GARBAGE. 

Here's how I like to deal with removing comfort foods (and drinks) from my diet.

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Food gets to be a BIG part of our pleasure!

But so often, food is complicated - what you "good" food you should eat and "bad" food you really want. 

Which all makes you feel like shit and WAY less pleasured.

If you want a better relationship with food (that actually feels way more pleasurable, delicious and self-serving), listen on!

Play is 100% essential and crucial in your life (and sex life, duh).

But why does it seem so hard and ambiguous lately?

Too much to do, it's a waste of time, I don't know what feels fun anymore... the brain chatter slogs on.

Here's a simple way to guide yourself back into a flow state for way better creativity and hotter sex. 

THIS IS VITAL.

We're going to talk about why taking time away with your partner is SO important... and fun.

But, if the idea of a weekend of sex has you feeling hesitant, we're also going to explore why and HOW to plan for pleasure. 

This week's episode is a special one! A few weeks ago my colleague and friend Rachel Richards interviewed me for her podcast What Lights You Up. 

The conversation was so fun, uncensored, and personal I thought I had to share it here too!

Enjoy a little snippet of my back story and WHY this work has changed everything for me...

Tantra can sound intimidating.

But fear not, you can do this and you will wildly benefit from these very simple tools you can start useing now...

1. Pause

2. Breathe

3. Connect

This episode is intended to demystify the foundation of the Tantric Sex practice -- guess what, it's all about these three steps I already teach!

• How to elevate your personal connection and self pleasure practice FIRST AND FOREMOST
• survival vs "thrival" breath
• how to use your awareness (the mind) to heighten sensation (the body)
• Eye Gazing for one (with a mirror)
• Orbital Breathing
• Circulating orgasmic energy
• & taking yourself on a Tantric Date... ;)

SELF LOVE comes in countless forms... but you can start with telling yourself these three words.

No matter the context, remind yourself- I LOVE YOU.

Being a people-pleaser is like wading in the surf at first.

All the pleasing and lying and back bending soon leaves you underwater.

If you're sinking, swim.

Craft your boundaries, the things your willing fight for and rules to keep you afloat.

Say yes to what you WANT.

Make your waves.

Be honest & and please YOURSELF.

I know, I know, there is a lot of talk of MINDFULNESS and meditation and zen-like spiritual perfection swirling about these days. And yet, sitting in the sun on a beautiful day, TRYING to be mindful can seriously be SO hard!

So, no wonder the sliiightly more complicated arena of sex can sometimes be DAMN hard to be present in the moment.

In this episode, I break down what it means to have Mindful Sex, and how you can start creating WAY more pleasure doing so tonight.

xx

Lydia

Pleasurable sex requires presence... essentially it's the basis of mindful sex!

Here's how to create a little check-in with yourself to allow your feelings (positive or negative), LONG before you hit the sack. 

xx

To be vulnerable for any other creature on Earth is to risk injury or death. And guess what?

Humans are creatures of this Earth too!  

The only difference is, we have the capability to differentiate actual danger from emotional risk.  

So, when we're looking to deepen our relationship, trust, and intimacy, and we are required to summon up some good ole' fashioned vulnerability, chances are, you dear human, will have some resistance and fear.

Here's my take on getting the V-ball rolling!  

We all gotta breathe, but let's be honest, it's possible you could be getting WAAY more benefits from that air!

In this episode, I guide you through a grounding breath (which helps create a physical CALMING in your body) and then an orgasmic breath (that will open you up to feeling more EXCITEMENT).

So grab a sip of water, a pillow to sit on (or a comfortable place to lay), and breathe with me.

xx

Here are three simple ways to reclaim TOUCH in your body and pleasure so you can experience WAY more pleasure than just toddler cuddles!

There is nothing good or bad, but thinking makes it so...

And what about in your sex life? Could your brain have THAT much power??

In this episode, I explain how to use your own curiosity to DIG into what you can actually transform for yourself in the bedroom (without changing your partner one bit)...

xx

I KNOW I know, Valentine's day is loved and hated.

But guess what, you get to decide, just like any other day what you want to make of it.

So, whether it's smutty and slutty or soft and sweet, you're IN CHARGE of your experience.

Here are 5 ways to create a subtle, simple, and sweet day (and of course then, feel free to add on the passion as needed). 

I talk a lot about mindset but here are my favorite ways to TAKE ACTION and change your life for the sexier.

1. Movement

2. Posture

3. Style

4. Beauty

5. Bedroom

6. Sleep Routine

7. Morning Routine

8. Fancy Surroundings

9. Dating your partner

10. Coaching

As always, I would love to know how YOU like to feel and BE sexy!

xoxo

If you want more information on coaching, please reach out and we can chat: Lydia@lydiafeldmancoaching.com

Becoming sexy is gentle.

It's as simple as a slow breath in.... and a soft mmmmmmmmm as you exhale.

Pretty easy yeah?

Your unique sexy "vibe" & self-confidence comes from knowing what you want & what feels good.

It's active.

It's seeking.

It's asking yourself what feels mmmmmm YES.

Pleasure in this moment is SO fun!

You don't have to wait.

Simple pleasures like breathing, stretching, or brushing your hair ALL count ;)

And when we delay what feels good till vacation or the make over, we miss the point.

AND the same reasons we delay WHAT WE WANT, is probably the same thing holding you back from hiring a Pleasure Coach.

Stop waiting woman!

Invite your sexy IN now

**breathe in **🔥 **breathe out**

3 Pillars for Becoming a Pleasured Woman

This January is a perfect time to bring more intention and impact to any goal you may have - particularly BODY goals like weight loss, exercise, meditation, or leisure.

There are three pillars of becoming a PLEASURED WOMAN -- sexier, more confident, and able to rock any goal she desires.

Part 1: Mindset and how your brain holds all the magic. 

Stay tuned for the next episodes on becoming your sexiest woman this year:
Part 2: Pleasure Now

Part 3: Surroundings, Style & Relationships

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Last week I spoke about creating some sex and love goals! In this episode, I tell you how to implement them on a granular level.

xx

Lydia