This one is about how people-pleasing glosses over your true feelings. And that thinking of others before yourself can become a total resentment fireball.

This one is about contrary action. Sometimes the kindest, gentlest thing to do is nothing. Not picking up your addiction. Abstaining from the actions that lead to the headspace that causes cravings. But it’s also about doing small actions in opposition to these noisy thoughts so you can build muscle memory around what it feels like to endure these moments. And to prove to yourself that the moment always passes if you let it.

This is about how intuition doesn’t yell or chide or browbeat. And how to tell if the ideas you’re having are intuition or distraction or addiction.

This one is about how to handle options. About what to do when you have to make a decision and the stakes are high. It’s about how to choose without the obsession, sleepless number crunching and asking a million questions that other people often don’t have the answers to because they’re not f’in clairvoyant. It’s about trusting that you’ll be okay no matter the outcome.

This one is about gratitude. And exhaustion. It’s also about book tour and surrender around discomfort and neutrality around outcome.

This is about gratitude. And living in the moment of how cool and worthy your art is no matter the verdict.

Boundaries rule! This ep is about how to set boundaries within your self and the practice of dedicating a discrete hour in the day to take the most considered actions around a task that feels overwhelming. And how that can quiet the mind from grinding gears recursively and obsessively without actually doing anything.

This is about not saying yes to no things. And giving yourself permission not to do the most.

This one is about how sometimes we may conflate fatigue with a moral issue. Like, I’m tired; WHAT DID I DO WRONG? And an invitation for gentleness when it comes to large-scale projects because perfectionism is not tenable.

This one is about indecision and ruminating. And how tiring inaction actually is. Plus, a simple decision tree I use when the anxiety is super confusing and I don’t know how best to use my time.

This is about non-reactivity around my parents in 100+ degree weather. And how the stories I tell myself are just stories (even if they are about old wounds.) And that for all my future tripping and magical thinking around family, my parents probably have deeply skewed ideas and expectations about me too. And it all just is.

Today is my one year birthday in recovery. And here are some thoughts about emotional homework, kindness to your internal creative spirit and holiday hangovers in whatever form they take. Have a gentle day.

Wherein I try to forgive myself for having fun even though it might not be “good” for me. And muddling through why I’m convinced I’ll be punished because these foolhardy acts MUST be self sabotage. (They could be; I don’t know!)

“If you weren’t worried about it, would it even be a problem?” This is about how the brain, as an awesome and creative defense mechanism, likes to believe that it can “solve” the future through ruminating. But is RIGHT NOW as it relates to safety, food, love, really that terrible? My brain just thinks it’s helping and I am trying to find gratitude in that without it taking me out of the present.

Fear has no arms and legs. It’s only when it compels you to action or inaction that it can truly bite you. This is for those days that you feel entitled to things you can’t seem to find—wisdom, insight, skill—and the self-loathing that can come from this hubris. Another reminder that creativity and recovery are not linear and accepting where you are TODAY can be a salve.

This is about those days where you build little belief systems around every action. Where you think there’s a right and wrong answer to everything from what you eat to the order in which you do things. Those fearful, superstitious days where you’re convinced that just knowing the outcome will help you move forward despite knowing in your heart that it’s a recipe for total standstill.

Do you ever get confused when the work that is fluid and loose and maybe even a little easy isn’t the work that you intended to make? This is about how the work that comes most naturally may not be what you want to explore and how distracting and flummoxing the experience can be.

This episode is about competitive spirituality and cataclysmic thinking around recovery. And how “vague dressing” helps me get out the door on summer days when there’s too much pressure to be #Fashion.

This is about indecision, how you can feel dread around the right decision for you, and being superstitious about the “right” way to do creative work because of the seductive nature of the muse narrative.

Okay, so you might be a perfectionist even if you’re messy and slightly lazy. But you also might be emotionally immature as a person who was considered precocious since forever. This is about how to deal when you’re awkward and leery moving through the world because you’re conflict avoidant to the point of being people avoidant.

It’s dreary some mornings and you may be in your feelings and that’s okay. This is just a gentle reminder that feelings are not facts and that your version of a story can become more neutral and less painful with time. (As long as you don’t apply a thing to that feeling or try to “fix it” or seek revenge.)

This is about that negative headspace. Where you feel like you’re in the upside down or a sunken place of your own making because you regret a decision about work or where you elected to be. This is also about how to gently move through it, stay curious about what you can learn and channeling that data into gratitude.

How I prepare for overwhelmingly exciting, challenging and vulnerable events as an anxious introvert. (Aka: Book promo is a gift and a curse)

This is about bad days. Where you feel like you’re doing all the work and yet you still get walloped by large overwhelming feelings of shame and pain. Days where all you can do is find solace in impermanence and eventually find words to talk about it.

What do you allow yourself to want? And is it limited by the shame in admitting what you may not achieve? Or are your delusions of grandeur and magical thinking clouding the things you can truly work towards?

Addictions as parasitic organisms that have a strong biological imperative to survive. And how it’s surprising what materials they’ll use as fuel.

Is Instagram a necessary tool to keep abreast of your industry or is it a din by which you muddy your own voice and vision?

Are you a sleeper perfectionist? To where you’re not Type A but you get discouraged and abandon things if they’re not exactly what you’d hoped?

This one is about seeking help for abusing work as my eating disorder gets quieter.

Deadlines, taxes, skirmishes with reality. This is a small prayer for a tough week.

Phone calls chapter 2! Why we have to have them. Why you can’t fail at them. And how to get out of the obsession that the other person is judging you.

Phone calls! Chapter 1: How to endure the performance anxiety and the dread of that pop quiz feeling. And what to do!

Are you waiting for permission to do something? Is your answer no but your actions and beliefs say otherwise?

What if there’s no getting “better” at anything? Will you be free or will you bug out?

Warmer, warmer, colder, colder. A tiny, extremely useful exercise to locate your intuition in all situations.

More on deadlines. And how there isn’t one when it comes to wellness. Even if you’re impatient and it feels like your calendar/press/everyone else says, “optimize now or die.”

How calendar alerts don’t work for me except to cause panic about impending deadlines. But how blocking out appointments to do the work in my calendar makes me feel safe. More SUPER obvious stuff that I am just finding out. And how recovery is eye opening in new collaborations when you’ve never been able to hold down a job before.

More on money. Pay freelancers $200 every time you “pick their brain.” It inspires everyone to prepare for the meeting in an appropriate way and invites clarity and zero resentment around expectations and value. Plus, this is business! Pay your friends if they have to wear business hats.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #minipod about mental health and creativity from author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 66 is about emerging from addiction and realizing you’ve been living in administrative squalor your whole career as it relates to scheduling, invoicing and where a random retirement fund is living. And forgiving yourself while being patient as you learn stuff other humans know.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micopod about mental health and creativity by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 65 is about why anyone in their right mind would be sober if they’re not an alcoholic.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #minipod about mental health and creativity. Episode 64 is about how to be sober when New York is New Yorking all over you in the best, most exciting and slightly terrifying way.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a minipod from New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 63 is about how to remove the value judgment in people not liking you.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a minipod by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 62 is how friendships change when you get sober and become mindful. And how rehearsing “concern troll” speeches about friends’ character flaws may be a sign for everyone to move on.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 61 is about time. And how unilateral decisions about how long you think things take and how long they actually take merits investigation because lol.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 60 is about the anxiety cycle of knowing that you don’t know and attempting to ignore it. And a note on emotional black holes and energy vampires.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a micropod about mental health and creativity by New York Times bestselling author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 59 is about the mental toll and physical expense of people pleasing.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 58 is about surrender around your appearance as a person with food addiction and body dysmorphia.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 57 is about how worrying can ramp up when it’s time to rest. And how anxiety can roll over from the day before and that it’s uncomfortable but okay.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 56 is about how not to take rejection personally.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 55 is about what to do on the days you wake up gaslighting yourself into believing that you’re healed/recovered/normal/all better. And the underlying control issues and what they may mean.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by author Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 54 is the depression and self-judgement that accompanies a day where you don’t make something.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 53 is about how punitive we can be to ourselves for our anxiety and depression and how subconsciously searching for culprits to our moods and feelings can be exhausting in end of itself.

Hey, Cool Life is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 52 is about medication, depression, anxiety and intervention. And how mindfulness and gentleness cannot disrupt the really heavy shit when you need outside help.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 51 is about the wellness industrial complex and the zeitgeisting of mental health awareness. And how paying for something doesn’t get you out of doing ANY of the work. Plus, how no amount of money will get you ready to hear what you need to hear when you need to hear it.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 50 is about how meditation strengthens the muscle that resists fuckshit and addictive distractions. And what familiar but nebulous phenomena like “focus” or “intuition” actually feel like.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 49 is about sobriety in recovery for other addictions. And the simplest way to decide whether or not a work opportunity is right for you.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 48 is about how gentleness and surrender around large projects improve overall perspective and quality. And how inviting mindfulness of “fake mini deadlines” within projects can be kinder to your body and mind.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 47 is about self-perception, Karl Lagerfeld and **trigger warning for eating disorders: the most visceral way to know whether or not you may have an ED.

Hey, Cool Life is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 46 is about the futility of rehearsing confrontation and the delusions that compel you rage-quit jobs and people without true closure.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 45 is about acknowledging mistakes as you collect data about yourself. And how repeated mistakes is data unto itself. Especially regarding addiction. Plus, an invitation to use something special that you’re saving for future you as a kindness to now you.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 44 is about how to have faith in the process to minimize indecision. And reframing failure as a construct.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 43 is how the same material that fuels your imagination, ingenuity and intelligence also fuels your addiction. And that the shame around your “Thing” goes away if you talk about it.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 42 is about managing big news days, the only things you can control when life gets large and what won’t move the needle on success but what can alter your perception of it.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod on mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 41 is about love and the addict’s brain. Non-transactive love, the love of strangers and how giving love may help you feel it more than receiving it.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 40 is about living in the past as it relates to large, time-consuming work and the anxiety of living in the future when you must market or publicize it. And forgiving yourself for being imperfect and thereby making imperfect art.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 38 is about recovery and evolving friendships, how creating new work can be the only way you learn to appreciate old work and hope.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 38 is about trying to find gentleness at the beginning of your career, how getting better and getting big can be at cross purposes and the importance of knowing why you’re making art in the first place.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 37 is about body dysmorphia and how to cope when it’s intolerable to be inside your body.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 36 is about how emotionally expensive your recovery can be for your loved ones and how that isn’t a value judgment on your pursuit.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 35 is about how and why taking dream-adjacent jobs can be soul crushing.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 34 is about how goal-oriented creativity can hogtie experimentation and make you risk-averse in your work.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 33 is about explicitly granting yourself permission to never be Instagram famous and behaving accordingly.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 32 is about not focusing on “sunk costs” in new work, the discomfort of experimenting in unfamiliar media and the magic of reading aloud.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 31 is about identifying your addiction.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 30 is about what to do in anxiety-inducting situations.  

Hey, Cool Life! Episode 29 is about how to ask for advice effectively and how to give advice in a gentle way.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 28 is about intuition and how it feels and sounds nothing like I thought it would.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 27 is about worrying.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 26 is about daily practices, patience and being your own audience.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 25 is about resentments and the crucial data you collect when you stand up for yourself.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 24 is about the freedom of longhand drafting for books and scripts. And the joy of muting your friends on social and texting them instead.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 23 is about self-harming to self-soothe, mindfulness around physical pain and suspending negative thought in the moment.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 22 is about the gentlest, most effective way of getting out of your head. Also, friendship.

This is a new thing. I’m still figuring it out. Thank you.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 21 is about taking input days to nourish output days, “feed brain” and taking time to appreciate the work of friends.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. Episode 20 is about becoming a reclusive creative and the imposter syndrome around it. And how not responding to emails is a small, uncomfortable act of defiance.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 19 is about how false deadlines can stymie the waviness of first drafts.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 18 is about scheduling weekends so you don’t get sad, another reminder not to be late for leisure, and social anxiety around plans.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. This one is about mono-tasking.

Hey, Cool Job! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. This one is about eating disorders.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity recorded by Mary H.K. Choi. This one is about naming your fear and processing large emotions.

Hey, Cool Life! Is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. This one is about the day after a lapse and how to stay faithful to an idea you’re working on.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. This one is about emotional hangovers, harm reduction and communication barriers between me and my family. 

Hey, Cool Life is a #micropod about mental health and anxiety. This one’s about asking for help and intimacy amongst friends.

This one is about visions of my self that live in my head. Some are helpful and some are not.

This one is about the emotional expenses of dealing with family. And how to frame trauma so you can process it without requiring closure from a specific person.

This one is about how “today is just a datapoint” and how to view time so you don’t get overwhelmed working on your craft. Basically, a thing I do not to be terrified of writing.

Hey, Cool Life! is a #micropod about mental health and creativity. It’s recorded every day by Mary H.K. Choi. Episode 7 is about what to do about “rehearsal brain.”

Hey, Cool Life! is a micropod about mental health and creativity. In this, I talk about acceptance, exhaustion and Anne Helen Petersen’s excellent essay on burnout. How Millennials Became The Burnout Generation https://www.buzzfeednews.com/article/annehelenpetersen/millennials-burnout-generation-debt-work

Hey, Cool Life! Is a micropod on mental health and creativity. This one is about saying no.

This is a micropod about mental health and creativity. In this episode I talk about gentleness and empathy for your future self.

I talk about a writing practice that helps me cope with anxiety x

This is a daily micropod about mental health and creativity. It will grow and change.