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Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself.

Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself.

By Matthew Handel
Three simple phrases. One main idea. I just want to connect with people using the ideas of a positive mindset, kind lifestyle, and the challenge of being yourself. If you decide to listen and become part of the “Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself” community, then I am forever grateful from the bottom of my heart.

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I Cried Last Week

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Drawn to the Negatives
I can still remember things from years ago that were said to me. These things I deem "negative". On the flip side, I struggle to remember "positive" things more than weeks ago. Why is this? Why am I so drawn to the negatives? with love, Matthew
January 17, 2021
Time and Practice
I just need time...I just need practice. Something to remember when facing new skills, challenges, and/or changes. with love, Matthew
January 10, 2021
New Year Choices
A lot of the time that a new year comes around we think we have to hit the restart button. Is that always the case, though? I'm proposing some choices for 2021. I hope you enjoy episode 101! with love, Matthew
January 3, 2021
100 Word Send-Off
Leaving 2020 with the 100th episode just feels right. I never thought I would have a podcast that has 100 episodes. Thank you all so much. I love each of you and I'm so grateful to feel the love and support from each episode so far. See you in 2021! with love, Matthew
December 27, 2020
Labeling Our Emotions
I've been reading Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett and it's been such a great read for me so far. I wanted to share one of the ideas he shared in the book. It's about "Labeling" our emotions.  What does it mean to be able to label our emotions? How does that help us? These questions are ones that I'm still learning a lot a bout and wanted to pass along my thoughts on episode 99! with love, Matthew 
December 20, 2020
With Or Without Closure
We hear people "moving on" all the time. I always heard of this when people broke up. After a few years of experiences, though, I'm realizing how deep "moving on" really is. I hope you enjoy episode 98! with love, Matthew
December 13, 2020
What Really Matters
Episode 97 is what it's all about. When life runs out of time what's left? Let's talk. with love, Matthew 
December 6, 2020
Reassessing Our Goals and Achievements
Episode 96 is all about reassessment. What happens when we achieve our goals? What happens when people we love do the same? Well, let's have a chat! with love, Matthew
November 29, 2020
We're All Icebergs
Episode 95 is all about icebergs. Yep, icebergs. Why does this analogy work so well? What does it really mean? Take a listen to this episode and let me know what you think! with love, Matthew
November 22, 2020
Taking Up Space
How much space do you take up in conversations or groups? This was a concept that was very new to me in the past few years. Why? Well, because I am very privileged and naive.  Let's talk about it in episode 94! with love, Matthew
November 15, 2020
Over Apologizing
Sometimes a sorry isn’t needed, but it still comes out. Why? Well, let’s chat about. Take a listen to episode 93 and let me know what you think! With love, Matthew
November 8, 2020
The Power of Observation
Episode 92 is all about observing. What can we do when life starts to speed up on us? Let's find out together! with love , Matthew
November 1, 2020
Balancing Gratitude and Self-Care
Sometimes being grateful hurts.  When? How is that even possible? I ask myself that all the time too. It may happen when we overlook our own self-care and emotions just to be grateful. Episode 91 dives into this idea. I hope you enjoy it!  with love, Matthew
October 25, 2020
Patiently Waiting
Episode 90 is all about patience. It's a hard concept to think about sometimes, but it felt needed. Give it a listen and let me know how it feels! with love, Matthew
October 18, 2020
Opportunity Shift
From problems to opportunities. That's the goal. It was something I recently noticed working and I wanted to pass it along to you. I hope you're well! with love. Matthew
October 11, 2020
One Degree at a Time
Change and growth can feel overwhelming. The goal of episode 88 was to break that down and give you a tool to help.  I hope it was helpful. with love,, Matthew
October 4, 2020
Be Where Your Feet Are
Have you ever felt distracted? Same. Let's talk about tools that help bring our mental, and physical, state together as one! I love y'all so much! with love, Matthew 
September 27, 2020
Robin's Wish
Episode 86 talks about the stigma surrounding mental health. Following the viewing of Robin's Wish (**spoilers in the episode**), I wanted to vent. Are y'all okay with that?  Take care of yourself and then others. with love, Matthew
September 20, 2020
When There Are No Lemons
What happens when you go to make lemonade and the lemons are gone? In episode 85 I wanted to share my story about times the lemons ran out and I got my confidence back. with love, Matthew
September 13, 2020
Extending the Convo
September brings a lot of thoughts. One of those thoughts is about extending the conversation surrounding mental health. Let's have a chat! with love, Matthew
September 6, 2020
How Can You Be Yourself?
Episode 83 is different. These are different times. Listen to episode 83 and let me know what it feels like. What does it make you think of?  with love, Matthew
August 30, 2020
The Overflowing Glass of Self Care
I hope you listen to this episode and find some relief, advice, anything that makes your heart warm! With love, Matthew
August 23, 2020
Perspective Is a Teacher
Conversations, experiences, feelings from others can teach us. These moments that we hear or feel different ideas from others can shift how we think. How beautiful is that? Episode 81 takes this on!  with love, Matthew
August 16, 2020
What happens when life throws a detour your way? How do we know we're in the middle of a detour? How long after a  detour do new life changes happen? All of these questions, and more, are talked about during episode 80!  with love, Matthew
August 9, 2020
Sleep On It
We tend to make decisions when frustrated, tired, emotionally exhausted. What happens when we "sleep on it"? What does that look or feel like? Hopefully, episode 79 will provide explanations and clarity! with love, Matthew
August 2, 2020
When There Is No Closure
What happens when closure isn't available? Does the world stop spinning? How do we move on? Hopefully, episode 78 will welcome new ideas! 
July 26, 2020
Leading With a Question
What happens when conversations start with a question? It's normal, right? Okay, but what happens when conversations begin to be dominated by questions? I think we're on to something. Listen to episode 77 to find out! with love, Matthew
July 19, 2020
From Insecure to Self-Love
Let's have a REAL CONVO about being insecure  with love, Matthew
July 12, 2020
How Are You Feeling About the Future?
Let's have a REAL CONVO about our future! with love, Matthew
July 5, 2020
Empathy Is a Light
Empathy? Yep, empathy. Let's have a chat, y'all 
June 21, 2020
It's a Movement
Episode 73 details what the movement is. Why should you "un-learn" during these times? Also, what to remember during these trying times. I hope you enjoy!
June 14, 2020
The Most Important One
Episode 72 is a read-aloud of the most important piece I've written. I hope this episode resonates with you.   The piece that I read-aloud for this episode can be found here: Black Lives Matter.
June 7, 2020
Confused and Angry
I'm confused and angry and I want to talk with you about it. Please remember and honor the name George Floyd Love, Matthew 
May 31, 2020
The Power of Vulnerability
Being vulnerable can feel extremely weird at times, right? What happens when you overcome that feeling? There is true power in these moments. Episode 70 is about the power of being vulnerable.  With love, Matthew
May 24, 2020
Two-Sided Adjustments
Two-sided adjustments? Absolutely. Episode 69 talks about this idea and how it can help both ourselves and someone we love. Let's continue to have healthy discussions about mental health! with love, Matthew
May 17, 2020
Growth of Perspective
Let's take a fresh glance at our perspective, shall we? Episode 68 is all about perspective. I hope you enjoy it! with love Matthew
May 10, 2020
Important Reminders During Mental Health Awareness Month
May is Mental Health Awareness Month and keeping a healthy conversation going is so important. Episode 67 provides important reminders for you, and anyone you may know, during this month!  You are not alone! with love, Matthew
May 3, 2020
Savoring Positive Moments
What is Negativity Bias? This idea was new to me and I wanted to pass it along to you. One of the ideas inside this article I talk about is 'Savoring Positive Moments'. I hope this shines a new light in your life! Article: with love,  Matthew
April 26, 2020
First Things First
First things first, what are we all doing when the dust settles? What are we grateful for right now? What will we carry with us out of these times? These questions need your help to be answered! I hope you enjoy this episode! with love, Matthew 
April 19, 2020
Self-Soothing or Self-Care?
This past Wednesday, one of my professors shared an interesting visual during our class. The focus was "The Unspoken Complexity of 'Self-Care'". The visual helped me learn something new and I wanted to pass it along to y'all. So, episode 64 is centered around the ideas this visual brings to life. I hope you enjoy!  Link to the visual: With love,  Matthew
April 12, 2020
Giving Yourself Permission
Have you thought about giving yourself permission? During these times of uncertainty and range of emotions, the time to give yourself permission to feel is at an all-time high. Episode 63 details what that means and looks like. I hope you enjoy! Stay safe and healthy! With love, Matthew
April 5, 2020
Being Proud Of Yourself Again (with Wardell)
Being proud of yourself is one of the most fulfilling feelings. But, what happens when that feeling becomes lost? I had an incredible opportunity to talk to Wardell about this. He shares his thoughts and we talk about seeking help, being proud of ourselves again, and what's next. I hope you enjoy this episode! Wardell's Twitter: @ponaxWardell With love, Matthew
March 29, 2020
Quick Chats: Picking Up the Phone
In a time of uncertainty and adjustments, picking up our phone can be a quick and powerful gesture. In this segment of Quick Chats, you will hear two phone calls I had a while back with two people I care about. The power of picking up our phones and reaching out to people right now can be endless. Give it a try and tell me how it felt!  With love, Matthew
March 24, 2020
What Can We Do Right Now?
There's no shortage of adjustments to be made right now. Coronavirus is forcing us to make adjustments. How have you been so far? Can we help you in any way? During episode 61 I talked about how social distancing is impacting my mental health and some things we can be thinking about during these times. Stay healthy and safe my friends! With love, Matthew
March 22, 2020
Do You Need a Break?
There is a lot going on in our world right now. If you need a break, episode 60 is your place. I hope you are able to stay safe, healthy (mentally and physically), and positive right now! With love, Matthew
March 15, 2020
Who's Driving Our Car?
Wait, someone is driving our car? No, not really, but the analogy in episode 59 is important. Take a listen and tell me what you feel! As always, with love, Matthew To leave a review take a journey here:
March 8, 2020
Views From Our Mountain
Episode 58 talks about the perspective we can have from different views on our mountain. There's room for everyone. Listen to 58 to find out more! Todd Handel Memorial Fund: with love,  Matthew 
March 1, 2020
Gaining Momentum
Episode 57 is about the momentum of life. Sometimes it's spot on, while other times it feels like a challenge. How do we navigate this? Take a listen to find out!  Love, Matthew
February 23, 2020
Slowing Life Down
Sometimes it feels like I'm scrambling to catch my breath. It feels like everyone, and everything, around me, is moving too fast. How do you stop and catch up? Take a listen to episode 56 and find out! Love you,  Matthew 
February 16, 2020
Taking Life In Stride
Episode 55 is all about taking life in stride. What does that mean? What does that look, and feel, like? Give this episode a listen to find out! Love, Matthew
February 9, 2020
Time to Appreciate
Recent events led me to be confused and sad. Then I became confused again. As days passed, one thing became clearer. It's time to appreciate. Appreciate life. Appreciate what makes you happy. Appreciate the people who support and acknowledge you. We can do this! Give episode 54 a listen and let me know how you feel! Love,  Matthew
February 2, 2020
Adjusting Judgment
Episode 53 is about an adjustment. Adjusting the way we feel about judgment. What does that feel like? How does that sound? Take a listen and let me know what you think! I love you all! -Matthew
January 26, 2020
Quick Chats: Positivity Always Wins
In this Quick Chats segment, I decided to focus on the idea that positivity will always win. Is it always easy to remain positive? Of course not. But, it's worth it in the long run. I hope you have an amazing day!  Love,  Matthew
January 20, 2020
There's Enough Pie For All Of Us
If you don't like pie don't worry! (Ha!) Episode 52 talks about life and the way the "pie" is split up. What if people around you are having success, but you aren't seeing that same level in your life? It's okay! We can all succeed, I promise.  Thank you for listening, I love each of you!
January 19, 2020
Respecting Your Path
How often do we let other people's paths enter our life? What happens when we respect our path and pay more attention to it? Luckily, episode 51 details these questions and much more! Take a listen and let me know what you think! Thank you all from the bottom of my heart!  -Matthew To Leave An Apple Review: To donate:
January 12, 2020
Take A Look At Self-Discipline
Episode 50 dives into the idea of self-discipline. What does it mean? Do I have it? Do you have it? How can we get better at it? All of this and more on Episode 50 of the podcast! ps: thank you all so much for the love and support. Having some time to reflect on having 50 episodes of the podcast is a humbling experience. I love you all so much! -Matthew 
January 5, 2020
Quick Chats: Say I Love You
It's 2020 and we're feeling good! In this Quick Chats segment, I wanted to remind you of something.
January 1, 2020
What Are You Leaving In 2019?
So often we get caught up in what we want the next year to look like. What about taking some time to reflect on our past year? As the new year approaches, I wanted to take time to think about what we want to leave in 2019. Episode 49 gives us a chance to do exactly that! *2019 was a great year for the podcast. I can't thank each and every one of you enough. I love you from the bottom of my heart.
December 29, 2019
Missing Our Target
So often we place so much weight on our failures. The thing is, we all fail. It's what makes us who we are. In episode 48 I wanted to share a helpful analogy I recently heard about how to view our failures!
December 22, 2019
Who's Your Harshest Critic?
Episode 47 was a reflection of judgment and critique. Who takes up the most space in your mind? For me, it's often myself. I wanted to share what that means for my life and how it could help you too! Thank you, for everything! 
December 15, 2019
Did Curiosity Kill the Cat?
I've been wondering about this for a while. Did curiosity kill the cat? Or was the cat in bigger trouble? Silly sayings aside, I wanted to talk more about this idea of curiosity. What makes you curious? Do you dig deeper and follow your curiosities? I talked about this, and more, in episode 46! Check out the podcast's store here!
December 8, 2019
The Power of Advocacy
Advocating can be an overwhelming idea. Where do I start? How do I do it? Will I do it wrong? All of those questions are natural. I wanted to tell you how a football commercial helped me answer each one. Give episode 45 a listen and tell me what you think! Support the podcast with some new merch!
December 1, 2019
Are You Selling Yourself Short?
Lately, I found myself coming up short of some of my goals. I told myself they weren't realistic and I'd be okay without them. Do you ever do this? It got me thinking about how often I would tell myself it would be okay to not chase my goals and dreams. In episode 44 I wanted to talk more about this and see if we could change it going forward. I hope you enjoy & thank you for listening! 
November 24, 2019
Adjusting Your Goals
Can you adjust the goals you've already set? How does that impact the balance in your life? I had so many questions on Episode 43! I hope you enjoy it!
November 17, 2019
Quick Chats: Happy World Kindness Day!
November 13th is World Kindness Day! I hope you have an amazing day!
November 14, 2019
Your Outcomes Don't Define You
What? Outcomes don't define you?  I know, I know. Hang with me. Sometimes we get caught up in what each outcome in our life means. If I fail am I a failure? No, but you have an opportunity to adjust to that "failure". We get to define our own lives and who we are based on the choices we make each day.  Don't let the outside noise distract you from who you really are and who you want to be. Episode 42 describes what this can look like! As always, thank you for supporting this beautiful journey we are on!
November 10, 2019
Facing Change Head On
Change is something that is happening all the time in life. For some people, change is happening a lot. For others, change doesn't happen as often. No matter the amount of change you seem to have in your life, we can adjust the way we view change. Episode 41 is all about adjusting our mindset to the changes in our life!
November 3, 2019
The Ways Compliments Ripple
Episode 40 is all about compliments and how they can ripple! Give it a listen and let me know how you feel!
October 27, 2019
Stop Doubting Your Skill Set
Episode 39 tells you to stop doubting your skillset. Why? How? Great questions. Episode 39 is designed to answer those questions an much much more!
October 20, 2019
Pushing Priorities
Episode 38 starts with an apology and follows with some explaining. What happens when our priorities become messed up (or out of order)? I wanted to share my experiences and let you know what we can do! Podcast review link: Thank you!
October 13, 2019
Looking At Loneliness Differently
Episode 37 talks about loneliness. How can you look at it in a different way? Can you? I hope to show you how!
September 29, 2019
Birthday Reflections
It's my birthday this week and I want to reflect on year's past. Do you ever do this? Why would I want to look back? Episode 36 dives into it!
September 22, 2019
Stuck In Neutral?
What happens when we get stuck in "neutral"? I wanted to talk about a recent time I found my day taking over me and what I did to get out of "neutral". I hope you enjoy! 
September 15, 2019
Am I Being Irrational?
A recent event in my life made me question myself. "Am I being too irrational?" is what kept coming into my head. I shared my experiences and thoughts in episode 34 and I hope you enjoy! 
September 8, 2019
Quick Chats: Normalizing Mental Health
In this new segment of the podcast “Quick Chats” the idea of normalizing mental health is discussed. If you like the new segment let me know!
September 2, 2019
What Are You Counting?
Episode 33 dives into the idea of "counting". What are you counting? Listen to find out! 
September 1, 2019
What I'm Learning From Being Vegetarian
I've recently switched to a vegetarian lifestyle. What have I learned? Listen to episode 32 to find out! Follow along on IG! @bekind.bepositive.beyourself Subscribe, rate, review here!
August 25, 2019
Are You Too Comfortable?
Episode 31 is all about asking yourself if you're too comfortable. The idea of chasing curiosity is also discussed. Thank you for always supporting this podcast!  Follow along on IG! @bekind.bepositive.beyourself. Please rate, review, and subscribe if you haven't on apple podcasts! 
August 18, 2019
Fear Of The Unknown
Sometimes life has changes and they are new and unknown ones. How do we navigate these changes? Episode 30 dives deeper into it. Plus, a special message to my sister! Follow the IG! @bekind.bepositive.beyourself.
August 11, 2019
Chasing The Sunrise
Have you ever chased the sunrise? Had a front row view to the morning sun? I shared my experiences and thoughts on episode 29! Follow along on IG: @bekind.bepositive.beyourself.
August 4, 2019
Finding Inspiration
What inspires you? Do you inspire others? We discuss this and more on episode 28!  Follow the podcast Instagram here! @bekind.bepositive.beyourself.
July 28, 2019
Reflecting On Positive & Negative Experiences
We go through life and we experience both positive and negative experiences, right? Of course. How we deal, and reflect, on these experiences may differ! Follow the podcast's IG! @bekind.bepositive.beyourself
July 21, 2019
Are You Grateful?
Sometimes life can be overwhelming and finding something to be grateful for impossible. Episode 26 talks about this idea and how a slight adjustment in your mindset may help! Follow along on Instagram! @bekind.bepsoitive.beyourself
July 14, 2019
Saying Yes More Often
Sometimes we don't accept invitations because our list of excuses is too long. But, what happens if we reverse the thinking? Find out on Episode 25! Follow the new IG page! @BeKind.BePositive.BeYourself
July 7, 2019
Respecting The Janitor & The CEO
Sometimes relationships get overlooked if they don't provide us with anything. In episode 24 this idea, and the idea of repscting the janitor and the CEO, are all discussed!
June 30, 2019
Keeping Life In Perspective, Over-communicating & Checking In
Sometimes life can seem too stressful and we may lose touch with others. Trying to keep our life in perspective by over-communicating and checking in may help a lot! 
June 23, 2019
I'm Going to Counseling
Episode 22 was one that had me reflecting on my journey. Today is a good day, but there is more work to do! Listen to episode 22 to find out what's happening!
June 16, 2019
What Is Your Happiness & Success? (With Jose)
Episode 21 is a groundbreaking episode for the podcast. Not only is our first guest, my previous professor Jose, on but he gives so many good ideas that I wanted to share! Take a listen, I hope you enjoy!
June 9, 2019
Living In Your Moment
How often do we overlook good moments in our life due to looking ahead? I recently struggled with this idea and episode 20 dives deeper into it!
June 2, 2019
Special Episode From the Beach!
Episode 19 takes place on vacation! Listen to what this podcast has meant to me so far, connections that have been made, and my promise going forward!
May 26, 2019
Making Assumptions
Assumptions can limit our lives. After a self-reflection I realized some things about assumptions in my own life. Episode 18 dives into the idea of assumptions! 
May 19, 2019
Are You Taking Your Own Advice?
I haven't been taking my own advice and I was wondering why. Why is it that we tend to give great advice to others, but turn around and not follow it for ourselves? Episode 17 dives into this idea and shares something I think we need to do more of!
May 12, 2019
Mental Health Tips
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. According to NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness), 1 in 5 people will be affected by mental illness in their lifetime. Let's band together to help each other with mental health. The conversation doesn't stop in May, but we will ramp up the talk ad awareness. You are not alone. Episode 16 is meant to refresh the idea of what the podcast is all about. Having a conversation about mental health! 
May 5, 2019
What Does Happiness Look Like?
Episode 15 dives into the idea behind this question, "What does happiness look like?" What does it look like when you're on top of the mountain compared to the bottom? What about the view on happiness when you're happy compared to sad? Episode 15 will talk about these ideas!
April 28, 2019
I Cried Last Week
I cried last week and maybe that's surprising? I wanted to talk about why and what happens when I have a rough time in my life. It's okay to feel like you don't know what's going on in your life at a certain moment. You will overcome whatever is dragging you down and I know it!
April 21, 2019
4 Challenges For You
How do you talk to yourself? Are you writing down your goals? Do you have a focus on your health? Who haven't you talked to in a while that you wish you could? All of these things are talked about in Episode 13!
April 14, 2019
What Do You Want to Be Known For?
What do you want to be know for in your life? When it's all said and done with what will you be known for? Are you working towards that? Are you the one that is writing your life's story or are other people dictating it?  These ideas, along with a recap of the AFSP Walk I did will be discussed on episode 12!
April 7, 2019
Empowering the Youth
Let's empower the youth. How? Episode 11 touches on this idea and also touches on wrapping up Mindful March!
March 27, 2019
Self Reflection
Do you ever find yourself reflecting on your strengths and areas of improvement? Even if this is missing in your life, there are ways to start! In episode 10 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I do my own self reflection and ask for suggestions!
March 20, 2019
I challenge you! I challenge you to go out and spread this idea of acceptance in the world!  What exactly do I need to know about acceptance first? Give episode 9 a listen to find out!
March 13, 2019
Mindful March
In Episode 8 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I talk about Mindful March and what that means!
March 6, 2019
Reacting To Change
In Episode 7 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." I talk about how to react to changes in your life, no matter the scale. 
January 30, 2019
Feeling Like A Burden
Have you ever felt like a burden? Sometimes sharing your feelings or times of stress can make you feel like one. In this episode of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself." how you can avoid feeling like a burden is broken down.
January 16, 2019
Positive Experiences, New Years Resolutions & Things I Want To Teach My Kids
Positive experiences that I've seen recently, my New Years resolutions, and three things that I want to teach my kids are all found in episode 5 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
January 9, 2019
How to Love and Support Toxic Family Members
Sometimes you may have a toxic relationship. Sometimes that relationship is with a member of your family. How do you overcome that and continue to love and support them? That's what is discussed in Episode 4 of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
January 2, 2019
Dealing With Failure In A Healthy Way
We all go through failure and it never seems to get easier. How can you deal with it in a healthy way? That's what is discussed on this episode of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
December 26, 2018
What is anxiety? Who is faced with anxiety? How can I overcome my anxiety? These are all the things that are discussed on episode two of "Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself."
December 19, 2018
What is “Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself.”?
Starting something around one of your ideas can seem overwhelming, but the passion behind “Be Kind. Be Positive. Be Yourself.” was too strong for me to pass up. Take a listen and see what it means!
December 12, 2018
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