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Self Care and Chill With Maui

Self Care and Chill With Maui

By Amirah Morris

A bunch of laughing and finger snapping while we talk about relationships, sex and self love.
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A Lonely Holiday EP:65
A Lonely Holiday EP:65
I am sending you love if this is your first holiday alone. Somebody loves you and it is okay to surround yourself with people that remind you how loved you are!! Enjoy 50% off the entire website when you use the code BLACKFRIDAY www.thesoftestlife.com
09:02
November 24, 2022
First Date Sex EP:64
First Date Sex EP:64
This episode we talk about having sex too fast. Is there a time limit? What should we look for when dating someone? How do I know of things are moving too fast or if this person is worth my time? I hope you enjoy! Follow on social media at @selfcarexchill @maui_w @thesoftestlife
43:14
November 20, 2022
Being Single Is Boring EP:63
Being Single Is Boring EP:63
This episode is for single people who are just tired of being by themselves. I feel you, I understand you and I get it. It will be worth it in the end knowing that you didn’t settle! Use the code LOVE at mauithewriter.com for free shipping on my relationship books
25:13
November 09, 2022
I Dont Feel Considered EP:62
I Dont Feel Considered EP:62
This episode we talk about not feeling considered or appreciated within your relationship. Something that I feel is super important in order for a relationship to prosper and work. We also talk about how lonely and ugly your self love journey can be in the beginning stages when you are trying to figure out who you are. This journey is not about being perfect, it is about making progress to be a better version of who you no longer want to be. Make sure you follow the social media pages @selfcarexchill @maui_w @thesoftestlife 
25:15
October 31, 2022
We Don’t Have A Title EP:61
We Don’t Have A Title EP:61
Today we did a Q&A and just some mini advice and words of encouragement for anyone who has been wasting their time with someone who doesn’t want any tittles. Use code MAUIDARES at Dare To Have Hair for your hair!! Happy self care Sunday!
18:04
October 16, 2022
Oh You Being Sneaky EP:60
Oh You Being Sneaky EP:60
So on this episode we discuss what exactly is cheating, what are the dos and do nots while on a break and guys who are nice but do not want to be in a relationship. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill and @maui_w
33:48
October 10, 2022
Splitting Bills & Dating EP:59
Splitting Bills & Dating EP:59
This episode we talk about splitting responsibilities in the household. The bills aren’t my issue, it’s the men who do not realize that they are requiring their women to do all of this housework and still GO TO WORK.
28:38
October 02, 2022
He Cheated And I’m Staying EP:57
He Cheated And I’m Staying EP:57
The title says it all. Today I am talking about staying in a relationship after your partner has cheated and trying to navigate that relationship. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and Maui The Writer on YouTube
20:11
September 23, 2022
I Feel So Alone EP:56
I Feel So Alone EP:56
This episode we talk about getting through feeling alone, not liking who we see in the mirror and learning to feel better about ourselves. Make sure you subscribe to the YouTube Maui The Writer and follow the instagram pages @selfcarexhill and @thesoftestlife
41:28
September 17, 2022
I Love A Married Man EP:55
I Love A Married Man EP:55
This episode I answer a listener’s question about her relationship she currently has with a man that is married. What should she do? Should she move on or is it okay because he isn’t happy? Make sure you run into this episode. Follow on social media @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife
35:34
September 07, 2022
Healthy Relationship Tips EP:54
Healthy Relationship Tips EP:54
This episode we discuss some things we can work on to make our relationship better and healthier. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and follow @thesoftestlife
33:06
August 28, 2022
I Don’t Know How To Love Me EP:53
I Don’t Know How To Love Me EP:53
This episode I talk about what my self love journey looked like in the beginning for me, what I learned in some relationships and what made me start it. I hope someone needed to hear this today. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife
44:05
August 21, 2022
I’m Just Too Nice EP:52
I’m Just Too Nice EP:52
This episode is for the ones who are always nice to everyone when they like someone or are dating. Liking people way too fast, doing the most and not thinking of yourself. Meet me in Wilmington De 8/31. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife
20:54
August 04, 2022
I Want My Partner To Do All The Work EP:51
I Want My Partner To Do All The Work EP:51
Todays episode I talk about making sure you can reciprocate what you require. A lot of people are looking for other people to show up in areas in their life where they lack and looking for void fillers. Being honest and accountable if this is us in relationships and doing the work to change that. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife
24:40
July 31, 2022
How Do I Know When To Leave EP:50
How Do I Know When To Leave EP:50
This episode we talk about how do we know when it is time to leave someone. Knowing our worth, creating boundaries and not allowing people to treat us how they see fit. Hopefully this is confirmation for someone who has been trying for far too long to make something work with a person who continues to do things to jeopardize everything. Make sure you follow @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife on Instagram
26:26
July 26, 2022
The Sex So Damn Good EP:49
The Sex So Damn Good EP:49
On this episode I am talking to the people who are finding it hard to let go of someone because the sex is good or they have caught feelings for someone who they only have been having sex with. Realizing that the standards we have for ourselves should be more than how well someone can have sex with us. Make sure you follow these instagram pages @selfcarexchill and @thesoftestlife
31:08
July 10, 2022
Be Submissive They Say EP:48
Be Submissive They Say EP:48
This episode we talk about all of the social media talk we hear about women needing to be this or be that for a man. There are too many posts telling women how to treat a man and not enough statements to help women understand what type of man deserves that type of treatment or helping men understand women more or treat them better. But have no fear, Maui is here and she has an opinion. Make sure you check us out on instagram at @selfcarexchill and my new self love instagram page @thesoftestlife
22:36
July 02, 2022
I Love Me More Than You EP:47
I Love Me More Than You EP:47
This is one of my favorite episodes I have did in a while. I went through messages sent to the self care page and many of them were very sad relating to what people are settling for in relationships. On this episode we talk about what we love ourselves more than. I hope someone really needed to hear this today. Check out the instagram page @selfcarexchill and make sure you check out @fitbeads.co and use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of fitbeads.
26:19
June 22, 2022
He Doesn’t Want A Relationship EP:46
He Doesn’t Want A Relationship EP:46
So you have been talking to someone for months and they still aren’t ready for a relationship? Well here is what I think about wasting your time by allowing someone to string you on. This episode also features our partner @fitbeads.co where you can use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of waist beads.
28:04
June 09, 2022
I Have Sex Too Fast EP:45
I Have Sex Too Fast EP:45
On todays podcast episode we discuss the people who have sex too fast during the dating stage. YES, you can do what you want with your body but it’s also okay to wait until you’re comfortable. I also have partnered with @fitbeads.co and you can use my code MAUI20 for 20% off your first order of waist beads, you know we love a good discount 💙
32:35
May 22, 2022
I Love A Bum EP:44
I Love A Bum EP:44
This episode we talk about the people who are choosing to be in relationships with people who do nothing for them. The people who are laying next to someone right now who couldn’t help them with an electric bill or the candles they will need when they are in the dark. Let’s rescue these people from the bare minimum.
33:09
May 14, 2022
True Partnership EP:43
True Partnership EP:43
On this episode we talk about what real partnership is in a relationship and what that looks like to you. What could you or your partner be doing to make sure that you both are showing up as team players everyday?
26:49
May 07, 2022
I Don’t Want To Be Hurt EP:42
I Don’t Want To Be Hurt EP:42
This episode we talk about not wanting to be hurt so we walk through life trying to avoid the very thing that we continue to attract. So what can we personally do differently, so that we can receive different outcomes? Make sure you follow on instagram at @selfcarexchill
24:01
April 10, 2022
Aries Besties EP:41
Aries Besties EP:41
This episode is a short one to give my favorite podcast listeners a recap on what has been going on with me, I hope you enjoy. You can also check out @womb.ish on instagram for doulas and also doula training.
17:57
March 24, 2022
They Show No Effort EP:40
They Show No Effort EP:40
Today we discuss people showing no effort, we also discuss men lacking the leadership qualities that it takes to allow women to be in tune with their softness and femininity. Two of the books I’m reading are Sacred Woman by Queen Afua and Taming the Tiger Within by Thich Nhat Hanh. Also check out @Anpu1.1 instagram page this is the live that I have been checking out lately.
28:16
March 16, 2022
What’s Love Got To Do With It? EP:39
What’s Love Got To Do With It? EP:39
This episode is a short episode for self care Sunday reminding you time choose yourself even when it may be a little difficult or hard. Choosing to not continuously stay where you are hurting and find the time to reset and regroup. I hope you enjoy. You can check out my books at mauithewriter.com or follow my social media @maui_w or @selfcarexchill
20:41
February 20, 2022
He Got To Know You & Didn’t Like You EP:38
He Got To Know You & Didn’t Like You EP:38
On this episode we address a tweet that I posted on my instagram that many people seemed to have an opinion on. “He got to know you and didn’t like you”. The lies we tell ourself and not being honest about the inconsistency that people show us in the beginning and making excuses for it.
29:52
February 13, 2022
Loving Yourself Is Boring EP:37
Loving Yourself Is Boring EP:37
This episode is about how difficult it may be to love yourself, exercise boundaries or figure out exactly what makes you happy. Make sure you check out my books on my website mauithewriter.com
30:18
January 29, 2022
Love & Basketball Ft: Khalif Wyatt EP:36
Love & Basketball Ft: Khalif Wyatt EP:36
So on our first episode of 2022 we have a special guest and one of my favorite people Khalif Wyatt. We talk about him playing basketball overseas, mental health in men, creating his sports apparel brand and also our relationship and things that we have learned. Everyone who checks out this episode and uses my code MAUIW can receive 2 FREE books with their black and gold order from his website www.m-sportco.com Follow him on social media at @msport_legacy & @leafbuck1
01:00:18
January 14, 2022
I’m Having A Baby!! EP:35
I’m Having A Baby!! EP:35
This episode is kind of self explanatory from the title, but in case you missed the news with my maternity photo on Instagram this weekend, I came to share the news personally with all of you. I am so excited and grateful. I also cannot believe I have kept this from all of you for months but nonetheless here we are. So here are all the deets. Follow on social media @selfcarexchill and @maui_w
39:55
December 26, 2021
A Bad Bish With A Broken Heart EP:34
A Bad Bish With A Broken Heart EP:34
This episode we are talking about getting our heartbroken and trying to heal. We are letting go and getting in tune with who we really are. It is okay to cry and be sad but we will not be in the same spot that someone left us.
30:31
December 19, 2021
Happy Wife Happy Life EP:33
Happy Wife Happy Life EP:33
This episode I talk about the how making your partner happy is an investment in your own happiness. How can we show up for our partners and create environments where they feel loved, seen & heard?
27:44
December 07, 2021
Is Your Partner A Reflection of You? EP: 32
Is Your Partner A Reflection of You? EP: 32
Today we did a recap of what’s been going on in my life and a question that one of you have sent. I touch briefly on the situation with Dani and Da Baby, But the main moral of todays episode is what part of yourself is your partner a reflection of? Use my code mauiw for free shipping on our fitness site https://m-sportco.com
31:09
November 17, 2021
He Said I Am Not Submissive EP:31
He Said I Am Not Submissive EP:31
This episode is more dedicated to men and the things that we often hear from them. I also touch on my opinion on how to give men more grace with the things that they may be going through and also being patient with an ambitious man. There are a ton of men who feel like my podcasts are never advocating for them, so today I wanted to give them some advice. 
23:59
October 27, 2021
I Am Not An Escort EP:30
I Am Not An Escort EP:30
This episode is about dating properly and holding out on having sex. I picked this title because sometimes men tend to think that women use their body as a reward for a man dating them or has sex only after getting certain things from him, which is not what I mean when I say wait. I want more women to wait until it feels right, until this person is consistent and shows interest and when you really believe this relationship is growing. This episode will also be available for you to watch on YOUTUBE so make sure you tune into my channel Maui The Writer. Make sure you follow this page on instagram @selfcarexchill & @maui_w
33:10
October 18, 2021
Co-Parenting and Long Distance Ft: Sap Life EP:29
Co-Parenting and Long Distance Ft: Sap Life EP:29
On this episode we have a special guest; author, poet and my sons father Sap Life we discuss co-parenting, long distance relationships and showing gratitude in your relationships. You can follow him on instagram at @sap__life and check out his books that are in his bio. This episode is also brought to you by MSport Legacy; a black owned fitness brand, with affordable high quality fitness clothes for men, women and children. You can follow them on social media and check out their website and use my code "mauiw" for FREE shipping. Check them out on IG@msport_legacy and m-sportco.com.
01:08:08
October 06, 2021
Court Me Properly Ft: Just Mike EP:28
Court Me Properly Ft: Just Mike EP:28
This episode we talk about different topics with international poet @justmikethepoet. We talk about the dating pool for men, women taking their time to find the right person and working on yourself. You can also use the code “Maui” for free shipping on his website also at justmikethepoet.com
48:56
September 28, 2021
Am I Ready To Date EP:27
Am I Ready To Date EP:27
This episode is for the people who don’t know if they are ready to date, don’t know how to date and don’t know if they are currently dating. Hopefully I gave you some good tips and insight. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill
29:46
September 05, 2021
He Was A Narcissist EP:26
He Was A Narcissist EP:26
This episode we talk about people constantly using the word narcissist and what it actually means and if we have dealt with one or if we have just stayed with someone who didn’t care about us. Make sure you follow on IG @selfcarexchill
21:43
August 26, 2021
No More Survival Love Ft: Cito Blanko EP:25
No More Survival Love Ft: Cito Blanko EP:25
This episode is featuring special guest @citoblanko we touch on black men and mental health, trauma bonding, healing and qualities needed in a relationship. Make sure you follow him on social media and check out his book 98 Sense.
53:20
August 17, 2021
You A Bad Bish So Get Into It EP:24
You A Bad Bish So Get Into It EP:24
This episode we are reminding women of exactly who they are and what they bring to the table in case they forgot. Settle for what? Do you not bring so many beautiful and wonderful qualities to the lives of other people? I know what it’s like to forget and if anyone has forgotten, today I will remind you! Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarxchill and @maui_w
26:51
July 29, 2021
Lovers And Friends Ft: Kira J EP: 23
Lovers And Friends Ft: Kira J EP: 23
Today’s episode me and special guest poet and author @iamkiraj talk about being friends with someone that you have history with and it wouldn’t be right if.
50:06
July 13, 2021
Hold Yourself Accountable EP:22
Hold Yourself Accountable EP:22
Today’s episode is about holding ourselves accountable for the choices we make when Wa laikum salam decide to stay in certain relationships. Not blaming people for being exactly who they are. Make sure you follow on Instagram at @selfcarexchill @maui_w
43:25
June 17, 2021
The Side Chick Advantage EP:21
The Side Chick Advantage EP:21
This episode we talk about side chicks, getting cheated on and why some women are okay with being a secret. Make sure you follow us on IG at @selfcarexchill and @maui_w
43:29
May 29, 2021
Being Nasty And Doing Too Much EP:20
Being Nasty And Doing Too Much EP:20
On today’s episode we talk about being nasty, when is too soon to do certain things, expressing to our partners what we want and how to know if we are doing too much for someone. Make sure you follow on Instagram @selfcarexchill and @maui_w
42:19
May 23, 2021
Girl Code EP:19
Girl Code EP:19
On today’s episode we talk about girl code and also loving yourself for YOURSELF. The goal is to heal and reach our highest potential not to heal for someone else. The work has to be done for ourselves. Make sure you follow on Instagram @maui_w and @selfcarexchill
23:22
May 13, 2021
Oh Give Me A Break Ft. Azai EP: 18
Oh Give Me A Break Ft. Azai EP: 18
On this episode we talk about the value of needing a break and taking time for yourself. You deserve time to rest and recharge! Make sure you follow the Instagram page for the Podcast @selfcarexchill
25:38
April 30, 2021
I Don’t Know What To Do Without Him EP:17
I Don’t Know What To Do Without Him EP:17
Today I answer some questions from the listeners. How to move on, allowing yourself to feel hurt and realizing how much value you bring. If you haven’t followed me on Instagram make sure you check out @maui_w
30:24
April 18, 2021
What Should I Require? EP:16
What Should I Require? EP:16
Today’s episode we start off with some affirmations and being mindful about how we speak to ourself. Making sure we are being gentle and kind to ourself and hyping ourself up! Being our biggest cheerleader and also figuring out what we should require in a relationship.
31:45
April 04, 2021
DATING AND SAYING NO EP:15
DATING AND SAYING NO EP:15
Today this listeners had a chance to choose the podcast topic for the day. There are multiple topics that are discussed from dating, saying no and not letting your emotions control you. Hopefully someone needed this episode on their self love journey. If you have not already follow the instagram page @SELFCAREXCHILL 
39:23
March 30, 2021
HOW CAN I BE HAPPY? EP:14
HOW CAN I BE HAPPY? EP:14
This episode we talk about allowing ourselves to be happy in a relationship and being with someone who keeps cheating. 
36:45
March 22, 2021
But It Feels So Good EP:13
But It Feels So Good EP:13
This episode we talk about letting go of relationships that we love because the sex is good. What to look for when we are dating and being honest about if we are at a place in our lives where we should be focused more on ourselves or building a new relationship. The relationship with ourself is the most important one we have. 
38:31
March 14, 2021
Alone But Not Lonely EP:12
Alone But Not Lonely EP:12
On this episode we discuss so many different topics. Being alone, being honest with ourselves, the type of partners we are choosing and if we need to just work on being a better version of who we are right now in this moment. 
32:26
March 05, 2021
Who Am I Choosing Ep:11
Who Am I Choosing Ep:11
Being honest with ourselves about exactly who we are choosing to be in relationships with. What we bring to the table and not feeling bad about still being single.
42:04
February 27, 2021
Why Do They Keep Hurting Me? EP:10
Why Do They Keep Hurting Me? EP:10
Why does your partner keep hurting you, keep lying or pretending that they have changed? Today we talk about exactly why they do this.
31:11
February 18, 2021
I Am My Own Valentine EP:9
I Am My Own Valentine EP:9
Today I talk about what exactly inspired me to start my self love journey, how hard it was for me, how much letting go and healing it took. I hope that someone needed to hear this today. Even when I am married I will still remember to give myself the love I deserve. 
36:01
February 12, 2021
We All Need A Little Therapy EP:8
We All Need A Little Therapy EP:8
This episode I talk about my therapy experience with the hopes that it will inspire others to go if they feel the need to, i offer some new books that I am reading and I answer some questions that were emailed. 
36:56
February 05, 2021
Being Afraid And Letting Go
Being Afraid And Letting Go
For those of us who are afraid to date, who are heartbroken or do not even want to imagine the thought of putting their emotions out their like that again this is for you.
29:27
February 02, 2021
Minding Your Business EP:6
Minding Your Business EP:6
Todays episode we talk about not allowing people to come into our lives and distract us from the inner work that we are doing. They only want to know why we have not been so accessible not because they mean us any good.
20:51
January 28, 2021
Grace And Gratefulness EP:5
Grace And Gratefulness EP:5
This episode we talk about handling things with grace and not getting out of character when we have grown so much. We also are talking about being grateful even when things are not going how you wanted them to go.
25:23
January 23, 2021
808s and Heartbreak
808s and Heartbreak
This episode we talk a little about getting over heartbreak, allowing people to do what is best for them and not forgetting to pour into yourself in the process of showing up for everyone else. 
23:45
January 20, 2021
OUTGROWING PEOPLE
OUTGROWING PEOPLE
This episode we discuss outgrowing people and letting them go. Allowing people to also move at their own pace of growth and not forcing what we want for them onto them.
15:54
January 13, 2021
DATING CONVERSATIONS WITH DAPPA EP:2
DATING CONVERSATIONS WITH DAPPA EP:2
This episode we have a special guest @REALDAPPA on all social media platforms. We are discussing dating, green flags when you are dating and what are things that men may look for in a relationship. Super great episode. Make sure you check out and follow @REALDAPPA on Instagram and other platforms along with checking out his dope music. 
32:35
January 09, 2021
2021 Self Love Bootcamp EP:1
2021 Self Love Bootcamp EP:1
This episode we are talking about all the things that we need to change walking into the new year. Things that we need to work on or let go of . Allowing ourselves to reach our fullest potential by no longer entertaining things that do not align with where we are going. 
31:12
January 08, 2021
Entrepreneurship Consistency Wins EP:16
Entrepreneurship Consistency Wins EP:16
On this unreleased episode we talk about entrepreneurship, being consistent and finding something that you love doing.
38:43
January 05, 2021
Maybe You Should Leave EP:15
Maybe You Should Leave EP:15
Today we talk about why exactly do you stay if you are so unhappy, expressing what we want and being clear on our worth
25:41
December 29, 2020
You Cant Properly Date Because You Move Too Fast EP:14
You Cant Properly Date Because You Move Too Fast EP:14
On todays episode we talk about dating properly and taking your time when you are dating. Not rushing just because you like someone or are attracted to them. Taking things slow with a clear mind and clear intentions. 
41:41
December 19, 2020
From taken for granted to taking the exit EP 13
From taken for granted to taking the exit EP 13
This episode we talking about men cheating, getting taken for granted and cheating backkkkk.
28:22
December 12, 2020
Let Me Just Put The Tip In EP:12
Let Me Just Put The Tip In EP:12
This episode we talk about allowing someone to pretend to offer you something when in reality their only concern is how can this benefit me. How can they get what they want out of you with giving you bare-minimum treatment. 
30:32
December 04, 2020
Momma gotta have a life too EP:11
Momma gotta have a life too EP:11
On this episode we talk about trying to be a mom and find our place in the world. We need breaks and time to recharge. We also talk about people trying to find time to heal from the things that they dont speak on. 
25:29
December 02, 2020
Self Sabotaging Ep:10
Self Sabotaging Ep:10
This episode we talk about ruining things before they start and self sabotaging love that we dont really believe we deserve. 
28:04
November 29, 2020
Boundaries and Being Selfish
Boundaries and Being Selfish
This episode is all about saying tf, no. Taking time for yourself to rest and recharge. Realizing it is okay to say no and not feel guilty about it.
31:11
November 26, 2020
Hoe Phases and Zodiacs EP:8
Hoe Phases and Zodiacs EP:8
On this episode we talk about when are you too deep into your hoe phase and when should you just sit your butt down? And towards the end its all about zodiac signs.
43:53
November 21, 2020
EP:7 Keep Your Vagina Sis
EP:7 Keep Your Vagina Sis
This episode we talk about from going to a girlfriend to a friend with benefits with someone you were in a relationship with that you still love. Creating your boundaries and sticking to them. 
36:05
November 19, 2020
Saggy Titties Ep:6
Saggy Titties Ep:6
Today we are talking about insecurities, being gentle with yourself, and being with people who refuse to be accountable. 
33:27
November 16, 2020
Half Ass Love EP:5
Half Ass Love EP:5
Todays episode is about going back to people that treat us horrible, not realizing how much more we deserve and settling for half ass love. 
29:46
November 09, 2020
Forgiveness and Alignment EP:4
Forgiveness and Alignment EP:4
This episode we talk about how everything is aligned perfectly, even the things that hurt us. Also letting go of the baggage that we carry around from refusing to forgive people who have hurt us. The forgiveness is for ourselves. 
30:47
November 07, 2020
Lets Have A Sex Talk Ep:3
Lets Have A Sex Talk Ep:3
Today we are talking about my personal opinion on the different levels of nasty sex. What level are you on?
34:03
November 03, 2020
Self Love and Your Toxic Ex EP:2
Self Love and Your Toxic Ex EP:2
On this episode I am talking about your self love journey, the lonely nights, the dating, the wanting to text your ex. This journey is hard but it is worth it in the end.
33:20
October 31, 2020
Food Court Love Ep:1
Food Court Love Ep:1
Let us stop over extending ourselves to people who do not appreciate anything that we have to give and it is all because we have made ourselves way to available. 
39:52
October 29, 2020