The Self-Love Journey

From the framework of Karpman's Drama Triangle, learning how to go from the role of Victim to Creator is so empowering!

Powerful questions can lead to you shift your perspective!

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What is power? Are you conscious of the flow of power in your day-to-day life? Why is understanding power important?

Are these questions you’ve considered before?

If not, you’re not alone. Many of us don’t think about power daily, and even fewer of us have practices to increase or call back our personal power without harming others.

Practices to become power literate, and to call your power back:

• Ask yourself… “Do I feel empowered or disempowered?”
• Stay out of victim mode by owning your actions that may have disempowered you.
• Say “I call my power back to me” – while forgiving yourself for giving your power away. This allows you to take empowered actions that may include…
• Remove yourself from certain systems, activities or relationships that do not refuel you with energy.

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Spirit can mean a lot of things to different people. I like to keep it as grounded as possible, and talk about energy and personal power. That’s something that each one of us can relate to, feel when we are tapped into that “Spirit” energy, and we also know when we are disconnected.

I like to imagine that this power can extend outside of me as well, and that we are all connected in a sort of web of energy. Even with that image, I try to remember that it’s my responsibility to maintain my own energy and light in this web.

Becoming aware of your personal power:          
– When is your energy/power/spirit highest? Who are you with? What are you talking about? What are you doing? What are you thinking/feeling?          
– When is your energy/power/spirit lowest? Who are you with? What are you talking about? What are you doing? What are you thinking/feeling?             
– How can you build into your life more of the practices that allow you to be in your personal power? And how can you create boundaries around the areas that seem to deplete your personal power?

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Human beings are “Meaning Making Machines”…so what meaning are you making from your day-to-day life experiences? Are the beliefs that you create empowering you? Or, do they “protect” you by keeping you small, keeping you from taking action or being seen in the world?

There is an incredible power available to you. You get to create the world through your beliefs.

You can insert a new belief, story or narrative at any time – just make sure it feels good and true when you say it. If not, you may want to see if you can dislodge any old beliefs.

Feeling resistance? You’ll need some extra energy to change that pesky beliefs that isn’t serving you.

Don’t be afraid to use your own anger here! It takes extra energy to change our thought patterns, so using your own anger can be catalytic! Just make sure you’re not using your anger to punish yourself. Instead, use your anger to make a declaration and create a new healthy loving boundary, or take a stand for a new possibility in your life. (Reference the previous section Heart – Feelings are information section for support alchemizing anger)

Remember, you can create ANYTHING – don’t look for proof in the world around you before declaring what you want or need!  New things are brought into the world through new beliefs. How empowered or daring can you be in your beliefs? How much can you imagine for yourself? Loving yourself is allowing yourself to dream, to be worthy of your needs being met, and of caring for yourself.

It's time to befriend your mind...let it work FOR you, not against you. Imagine identifying a certain need, and instantly your mind supports you into action as easily as it does when you realize you are thirsty? What would that be like?

What would your life be like if you were able to create a loving mind, conscious of the thoughts you are thinking and the impact on your ability to take action. 

Topics covered:
- Thought-feeling loops
- The power of narrative
- Creating space to step into the unknown
- Why some affirmations don't work
- Feeling what there is to feel in order to create new beliefs 

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You are invited to continue sitting with your feelings…AND asking yourself “what might I need or want right now?” Sometimes that can be an easy answer, sometimes you might bring yourself to a new insight.

This process of identifying the bodily sensations and/or the emotion, and translating them into a conscious thought is a process of translating. In essence, you will be creating your own Rosetta Stone, a translating tool that is unique to you, your body, and your needs. It may seem daunting at first, because we aren’t taught this process nor have many healthy models for it generally. But, after some practice, you’ll start to identify your bodily sensations in the moment, and interpret it as information that you can put into action.

Continue to identify bodily sensations, name the feeling if you can, and ask yourself what it has to teach you. Be with it, step into it, and trust yourself that yo can translate it into a conscious unmet need/want, and then you have two actions you can take:

1) Ask yourself: “Can I meet this need for myself, even if in a small way, right now?” You’ll be amazed at the power of this question! Meeting your own needs is a form of self-care, and builds a relationship of trust with yourself.

• Watch out for future projecting…the thought that you can only have that need met at some point in the future. It may be the case, but let’s say you’re looking for the feeling of freedom, and you’re projecting that you can only feel that two weeks from now when you go on vacation. Instead, try putting on a song you like and dancing, right then and there, in the kitchen. In four minutes, you’ll be surprised at how free you feel and you didn’t need to wait two weeks. This may be a “band-aid” fix, but it can be really effective.
• If you find yourself using a band-aid fix again and again, it’s time to look for more structural changes to your life. For example, you keep feeling stuck and trapped in your every day life because of your job and it’s restrictions. That job may not be well aligned to sustain your needs and you might want to decrease your hours or find/create a different job for yourself. You will KNOW when you reach your tipping point and action needs to be taken.
  
  2) Communicate with others to support you in meeting that need
• You may need to work through issues of self-worth and value if you find that you have a hard time voicing your needs to people in your life.

There is no “right” way to do this. Be aware of any stories that come up in the process. Try the best as you can to release the stories. For the stories that are holding on tight, we will use that as fuel in the MIND portion of this journey.

The author of The Secret Language of Feelings, Calvin Banyan, describes emotions from the basis of unmet needs. His theory is that the opposite feeling would be there naturally, if that need was met. If you related to your emotional state through this framework, what actions you could take to have those needs met?

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One of the hardest bodily sensations for me to be with was Anger. Now, I see anger as one of the most misunderstood, and misused emotions we have. I have completely shifted my relationship to that feeling called anger…now I call it my “fire”. The more I step down this path of awareness, the more anger I have coming up. That’s to be expected for as much as I denied it and held it in my body.

It is possible to alchemize anger into an energy that you can use productively! This episode describes HOW I work through that process so I don’t burn myself or others in the process of alchemizing my anger.

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What are feelings? Really, sounds like a simple question, but what are feelings? What’s actually happening in my body that I name a feeling?

This is the type of conversation that I wished I had as a kid. It took a long time to build out the awareness and vocabulary to understand and really feel what was happening in my body.

Each of our bodies is different and unique. So, you are invited to consider these questions and answer them for yourself. Take time here. Sit with these questions...

• How do I “be with” my bodily sensations?
• How do I allow these feelings to pass through me?
• Can I relate to the feelings in my body as waves of information and/or energy?
• What do I name these bodily sensations?
• Are there any bodily sensations that are hard for me to be with?

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We are moving now from our body, into our heart…our feelings and emotions. You are invited to ask yourself “What is my relationship to my feelings?”

You may easily feel certain feelings and allow them to pass through, or you may reject/deny certain feelings based on your upbringing and what felt safe for you to feel.

In reality, all feelings are ok to feel. They are called feelings for a reason – we feel them. So, during our time together here we’ll be focusing on your practice of feeling the bodily sensation, naming it (if you choose to), and interpreting the information that is being sent to you so you can take action. Sometimes that action is just to consciously acknowledge the feeling and it flows through you, just as thoughts flow through the mind. Sometimes we get stuck in or with an emotion for longer periods of time.

There is no right or wrong with feelings, so the more space you can open up for yourself in this practice, by removing any judgments or critical thoughts you may have about yourself, the easier it will be. I remember someone using the word “derivative feeling” and it hit as a huge insight for me. It’s the feelings I feel about my feelings.

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As we meet in this virtual world, separated by space and time, we will come together in a conversation…in an exploration…and in a coming home of sorts. This is an invitation to come home to yourself. Find that love that has always been there, it was just blocked or hidden.

You will discover tools that you can put into use in your daily life again and again and again, until they become habit. At a certain point, you may forget that you ever had to learn these skills because you have grown to embody love.

Hi. I’m Megan Bhatia. I’ll be keeping you company as you practice stepping back into the love for yourself. It’s an honor to join you. I’m so excited for what you’ll discover over these next few weeks, months and years to come.

If you want to deepen your practice, join me and a small group of other like-minded humans from around the world on an 8 week journey: