Men The Podcast

Get ready for an unfiltered, dynamic conversation about relationships from a man's perspective! Join us as a group of brothers come together to share raw insights, powerful truths, and fresh perspectives on how men can navigate modern relationships and be their best selves.

In today's fast-paced world of quick fixes, entitlement, and social media addiction, the pressure on how men should behave in relationships can be overwhelming. That's why we've teamed up with the Swedish Embassy in Tanzania to bring you a thrilling live session of #GlobalGuyTalk, transformed into this captivating podcast episode.

With a live audience of fellow men and expert insights from Social and Health Psychologist George Chacha, this episode delves into the challenges and opportunities of being in a relationship as a modern man. We discuss how men can elevate their relationships and tackle toxic habits that can harm them.

Tune in and immerse yourself in this eye-opening conversation. We hope you enjoy listening as much as we loved bringing it to you!

This is the Allan Lucky’s story of how he went against all odds to become the man he is today.

Born in Songea, to a christian Family, Allan describes his early life as being constrained in the triangle of three main things, church, school and home. From an early age it seemed that this is how his would be. That’s till he came to Dar es Salaam and realized there’s more to life.

Allan takes us on a journey about how he never thought of going back to school to end up graduating, how missing the shot of becoming a host of Planet Bongo TV and radio show during the presenter search broke him and sent him into depression. He shares with us his journey with the famous TV show called SKONGA and how that changed his life for the better and for the worse.

While sitting on top of the world, married and with a kid, Allan quits EATV and the SKONGA TV show and leaves the country to neighbouring Kenya. Professionally things were great, but personally it came with a cost of him losing his family. So what were the lessons learned? Any regrets? And why did he come back to Tanzania after all that? 

This is Allan Lucky’s story and how he fought all the odds stacked against him to get to where he is. When asked who is Allan Lucky, his response was “A father, a husband and a man who thrives at anything that life throws at him, even when stacked against all odds”

In this captivating episode, join us as we sit down with Hisia, a remarkable individual whose journey from humble beginnings in Arusha to musical acclaim and entrepreneurial success in Dar es Salaam is nothing short of inspiring.

From immersing himself in the world of sales and marketing at the tender age of 16 to showcasing his talents on Tusker Project Fame, Hisia's story is a testament to perseverance and hard work. Born as Elisha, he earned the name "Hisia" for his ability to sing straight from the heart.

While some may attribute his achievements to luck, Hisia firmly believes in the power of preparation meeting opportunity. Through candid reflections on his trials, tribulations, highs, and lows, he shares the essence of his journey—a journey marked by resilience, determination, and unwavering belief in his convictions.

From relocating from Arusha to Dar es Salaam alone to establishing his own marketing agency, Hisia's story is a fusion of luck, preparation, and seizing opportunities. Join us as we delve into the depths of his experiences, uncovering the lessons learned and the triumphs celebrated along the way.

This is a tale of courage, ambition, and the relentless pursuit of dreams. Tune in to discover how Hisia's journey embodies the perfect blend of luck, preparation, and seizing every opportunity that comes his way.

Embark on a riveting journey with Gosby, a rising star from the vibrant streets of Namanga, Oysterbay, and block 41. Blessed with multifaceted talents in singing and rapping, Gosby's path to stardom seemed inevitable. Yet, despite his unwavering dedication to music, he harboured a pragmatic mindset, always prepared with a fallback plan - a commitment to education and maintaining focus on his studies.

In this compelling episode, Gosby candidly shares his experiences with longtime friend Michael, delving into pivotal career decisions that have shaped their lives. Together, they explore the sacrifices made and the divergent paths taken to navigate the twists and turns of their respective journeys. 

Gosby reflects on his transition from the entertainment industry to the corporate world, offering profound insights into the transformative impact of fatherhood and marriage on his life.

Join us as Gosby imparts invaluable wisdom on the art of letting go - recognizing when to release the past and embrace new opportunities. Through his story, he illuminates the essence of resilience and adaptability, illustrating the importance of strategic decision-making in navigating life's ever-changing landscape. 

Tune in as Gosby shares the profound lessons learned along his remarkable journey and inspires listeners to embrace the power of decisive action in shaping their destinies.

In a world where relationships are about as stable as a house of cards in a windstorm, and divorce rates are soaring faster than Elon Musk's rockets, is there any hope left for men to navigate the stormy seas of love and come out unscathed?

Enter 'Men Men Men - The Podcast,' where Michael reunites with his high school buddy, Karim Shaibu, to tackle this burning question with the finesse of a surgical team armed with a chainsaw. With wisdom and a hefty serving of sarcasm, Karim dives into the depths of the relationship abyss, armed with a three-point plan to rescue us from the impending apocalypse:

• 'Divine Dating': Karim suggests consulting the ultimate relationship manual—maybe the Big Guy upstairs has some insider tips we've been missing out on all this time. It's time to dial up the heavens and request some divine intervention in our love lives.

  
  

• 'Compromise Cuisine': In a world where everyone wants their way or the highway, Karim advocates for a sprinkle of compromise to grease the wheels of love. After all, relationships are a two-way street, not a demolition derby.

  
  

• 'Back to the Future with Arranged Marriages': Prepare to raise eyebrows faster than a disastrous Tinder date as Karim proposes a radical solution straight out of your grandma's playbook: arranged marriages. Because maybe Auntie and Uncle knew something we didn't about making love last for 50 years.

  
  

Karim doesn't sugarcoat the truth as he dives headfirst into the murky waters of modern romance. He embodies the 'Men Men Men' spirit, where honesty reigns supreme, and tough conversations pave the road to enlightenment. Buckle up for a wild ride as these two friends dissect love, life, and everything in between. Trust us, you won't want to miss this episode—it's like therapy, but with more laughter and fewer copays."

Happy New Year, fabulous listeners! Guess who's back to kick off 2024 with a bang? That's right, it's your favorite podcast, and we've got an episode that's more thrilling than a rollercoaster ride with a twist.

Meet Zlatan Milisic, the UN Resident Coordinator for Tanzania. He's not just your average globe-trotter; this guy has seen it all – living in war zones, dodging bullets like a pro, and surviving to share his jaw-dropping tales. But hold on, this isn't your typical action movie; it's a podcast about life choices, mental health, and the art of thriving amidst chaos.

Join Michael and Nadia in the cozy chaos of Nadia's office as they sit down with Zlatan. Forget the cliché therapy talk; Zlatan spills the beans on why choosing your well-being is the real game-changer. Get ready for a rollercoaster of emotions as he unravels the UN's secret recipe for staff well-being and spills the tea on how they're tackling mental health in Tanzania.

This episode isn't just a conversation; it's a manual for navigating life's hurdles. So buckle up, because Zlatan, Michael, and Nadia are about to take you on a ride where the only destination is self-discovery and the courage to face life head-on.

Life's a challenge, and this episode is your secret weapon. Tune in, laugh, maybe shed a tear, and remember – we're all in this together. Cheers to 2024 and conquering life like a boss! 🚀✨

Katika “episode” yetu ya leo, wanaume wawili wameketi na kuulizana, kweli kuna mwanaume aliyepona? “A healed man”?  Tunaposema “A healed man” au mwanaume aliyepona, hapa tuna maanisha mwanaume ambaye amechukua muda wake kujitambua na kujua mapungufu yake, historia yake, sababu ya kwanini yupo jinsi alivyo, amejifunza kutokana na makosa yake, na pia yupo katika mapambano ya kumfanya awe mwanaume bora zaidi siku za usoni.

Kwa mujibu wa mgeni wetu wa leo, ndugu Leslie Omwenga, anasema hakuna kitu kama hicho. Hakuna kitu kama “A healed man”, na sababu kuu ya yeye kusema hivyo ni kwamba anaamini kila mwanaume ana kazi ya kuendelea kupambania afya yake ya akili mpaka siku ya mwisho, hivyo kwake kuna “A healing man”. Au mwanaume anayepona.  Huyu ni mwanaume ambaye kila siku anataka kuendelea kuwa bora, na anatakiwa afanye hivi mpaka siku ya mwisho ya uhai wake.

Leslie pamoja na Michael Baruti wanajadili swala hili kiundani, huku kila mmoja akichangia kwenye hili kutokana na uzoefu wake pamoja na ufahamu wake kuhusu mchakato mzima wa kumfanya mwanaume kuwa bora. Hakuna kitu ambacho hakikuguswa hapa, kuanzia malezi, mahusiano, swala zima la kipato, pamoja na swala zima la kumpeleka mwenzi wako ukweni kwake 😂😂.

Karibu katika episode ya leo.

Mganga hajigangi ni msemo unaofahamika sana na wengi wetu, na wengi tunautumia pale tunapoona inafaa, ila kwa siku ya leo, ni kweli MGANGA HAJIGANGI.

Dr Isaac Maro ni daktari maarufu hapa Tanzania, na amehudumia watu wengi na kutoa ushauri wa kitabibu kwa wagonjwa wengi sana, aidha kwa kupitia taaluma yake kama daktari, kupitia nafasi yake kama mkufunzi wa elimu ya juu, lakini pia kupitia nafasi yake kwenye jamii kama mtayarishaji na muongozaji wa kipindi pendwa cha redio kinachofahamika kama NJIA PANDA.

Lakini, ni nani aliyempa ushauri, na kuwa mganga kwake pale alipogundua kwamba mtoto wake wa pili, Ivan, ana usonji? (Autism). Aliweza kufuata ushauri anaowapa watu wengine au ni kipi alichokifanya ili kuweza kubadili maisha yake na kuendelea kumlea Ivan kwa namna bora?

Kwenye maongezi ya leo, Dr Isaac Maro anachambua changamoto, furaha, mafanikio na yote ambayo mtu anaweza kupitia wakati wa kulea mtoto ambayo ni tofauti na watoto wengine (Neurodiverse) . Lakini pia anajaribu kujibu swali la ipi ni nafasi ya baba kwenye hili, na ni kwanini wanaume wengine hukata tamaa na kuamua kutelekeza familia zao pindi watoto wao wanapokuwa tofauti na watoto wengine.

Karibu kwenye episode ya leo, tujifunze wote. 

Kutana Babuu wa Kitaa, Super Star, mkali kutoka King’oko, mwana hiphop, na mtangazaji kutoka moja kati ya vyombo vikubwa sana vya habari hapa nchini Tanzania.

Kwa macho ya nje, Babuu ni kijana anayeishi ndoto za watu wengi sana. Kijana, maarufu, ana kazi nzuri, ana familią changa. Nadhani hii ni ndoto ya kila mwanaume. Lakini, kitu ambacho wengi tulikuwa hatukitambui, ni kwamba Babuu anapambana na vita kali sana ndani ya mwili wake na kwenye maisha yake binafsi.

Maisha ya Babuu wa kitaa yalibadilika mara baada ya kugundulika kwamba ana saratanı ya ngozi, lakini pia mmoja kati ya watoto zake watatu anasumbuliwa na “Down syndrome”

Pamoja na yote hayo, Babuu hajakubali changamoto hizi zimrudishe nyuma na kumfanya kuishi kinyonge. Ameendelea kuwa Babuu yule yule ambae wengi tunamfahamu, na kwa sasa anasisitiza kuwa kubali changamoto zako, na njia pekee ya kupambana nazo ni kwa kuangalia na kusonga mbele na juu . “ONLY WAY UP”

Anaketi na Michael pamoja na Nadia, kwa pamoja wanazungumzia vita ya Babuu dhidi ya saratani aliyokutwa nayo, maisha yake kama baba anaelea mtoto ambae yupo tofauti na watoto wengine, na ni vipi ameweza kubaki kuwa Babuu yule yule ambae wote tunamfahamu kati kati ya changamoto zote hizi anazopitia? Na kwanini anaamini sana katika slogan yake ya “ONLY WAY UP”?

Subscribe kwenye channel yetu ya YouTube, utazame na kusikiliza mazungumzo haya ya kusisimua na yenye mafunzo mengi sana kuhusu maisha. 

Mwezi wa kumi huwa ni mwezi maalumu kwa ajili ya kufanya kampeni inayokuza na kueneza uelewa kuhusu afya ya akili (Mental Health Awareness month). Na dhima kubwa ya mwaka huu inasema “Afya ya akili ni haki ya binadamu kwa wote”

Kwa kujua umuhimu wa siku hii na namna gani swala zima la afya ya akili linavyohitaji mjadala mpana nchini Tanzania, Michael na Nadia wameketi chini na kuichambua safari nzima ya afya ya akili hapa nchini Tanzania.

Tunakubaliana na ukweli kwamba kuna hatua zimepigwa kwenye kuhakikisha misaada na ufahamu wa afya ya akili unaongezeka katika jamii, ila lazima tuwe wakweli kwamba bado pengo pia linaonekana. 

Mazungumzo ya leo  yanatulezea namna ya kugundua changamoto za afya ya akili, umuhimu wa kutafuta msaada, msaada unapopatikana lakini pia, kama hauwezi kumudu gharama za wataalamu, ni nini ambacho unaweza kiufanya mwenyewe ili uweze kujiokoa?

Mazungumzo yote ya leo yamefanyika yakiwa na lengo moja tu, kukufanya uanze kujali afya yako ya akili. Na ndiyo maana kipindi cha leo kinaitwa “Jali afya yako ya akili”

Kaa tayari kusikiliza mazungumzo mazuri, yenye kufurahisha, kufundisha na kujenga kwenye episode yetu ya 78.

Michael Baruti, na mgeni wetu maalum wa siku ya leo, mtangazaji mashuhuri bwana Harris Kapiga wanazungumza kuhusu dunia ya “u-baba”, na ina maana gani kwa mtoto wa kiume.

Na ndiyo sababu ya mazungumzo ya leo kuitwa “Baba na mtoto wa kiume”.

Ni kazi gani ambayo baba inabidi afanye ili aweze kulea mtoto wake wa kiume katika dunia ya sasa?.

Katika maongezi haya Michael na Harris Kapiga ambaye ni baba wa watoto watatu wa kiume wanazungumza na ku-“share” uzoefu wao, busara, ushauri, mafaniko, changamoto, maanguko na upekee wa safari walizopitia na wanazoendelea kupitia wakiwa kama watoto wa kiume, lakini pia wakiwa kama wakina baba wanaolea watoto katika dunia ya sasa yenye mambo mengi sana.

Fanya ku-subscribe kwenye ukurasa wetu wa “YouTube” na usikilize na kufurahia mazungumzo haya.

Ni mazungumzo muhimu sana kwa kina baba wote, hususani wale wanaolea watoto wa kiume

Join us for a thought-provoking episode as we delve deep into the complex realm of vulnerability and its implications for men. In a world that increasingly champions open conversations about men's mental health and encourages vulnerability, we ask the crucial question: What truly is vulnerability, and is it a positive force for men?

In today's society, where traditional notions of masculinity are being redefined, we confront the intricate facets of vulnerability. Many men grapple with the idea that opening up emotionally might lead to pitfalls. This fear often stems from past experiences where vulnerability felt like a double-edged sword—used against them, leaving them hurt or devalued.

Are we, as a society, genuinely prepared to embrace the vulnerability of men? This episode unearths the layers of this important discourse. We explore the tension between the growing movement to promote men's emotional well-being and the lingering skepticism that vulnerability might remain a precarious path.

We're honored to have Ally Bukuku as our guest on this episode. With insightful perspectives, Ally joins our hosts to shed light on the intricacies of men's vulnerability. Through this candid conversation, we aim to reevaluate the concept of vulnerability for men and its profound impact on their mental health.

Tune in to gain a deeper understanding of vulnerability's place in the lives of men today. This episode challenges preconceptions, sparks conversations, and offers new insights into a topic that's shaping the future of masculinity and mental health.

Join us on this week's episode of the podcast as we delve into the concept of "Consciously Uncoupling" - what it truly means and its practicality. Is it achievable, and how does it come into play when children are involved, necessitating co-parenting?

One of the most challenging aspects men face is co-parenting after separation from their life partners or the individuals they've had children with. The emotions can run high, making it seem like an insurmountable task. But is there a way to manage such situations effectively? What goes through a man's mind when dealing with this complex scenario?

We are honoured to have Ally Bukuku, a devoted parent, join us for this candid conversation. He will share his insights on "consciously uncoupling and co-parenting," shedding light on why it is crucial for individuals to part ways amicably, especially for the well-being of their children.

Tune in to gain valuable perspectives and learn how fostering peace during separation can lead to a healthier co-parenting dynamic, creating a positive impact on everyone involved. Don't miss this insightful episode that promises to offer guidance and support in navigating the complexities of conscious uncoupling and co-parenting.

Subscribe now to stay updated and be part of this meaningful dialogue.

In this week's powerful episode of "Men, Men, Men - The Podcast," we delve into the raw realities of men's mental health. Join us as we sit down with Paul, a brave and determined individual who chose to embark on a transformative journey. With a loving wife and a newborn baby, Paul took the courageous step of leaving his stable job to pursue his dreams through higher education.

However, the path to fulfillment was far from smooth. Financial challenges emerged, putting immense strain on Paul's aspirations and his family's well-being. Despite relying on savings and side gigs, the hurdles seemed insurmountable.

Tune in as Paul opens up about the emotional and financial rollercoaster he faced during this life-altering decision. His candid sharing sheds light on the complexities many men encounter when they strive to redefine their lives while coping with the weight of responsibilities.

This episode offers valuable insights into the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of addressing mental health concerns faced by men. Join us as we explore the triumphs and tribulations of Paul's journey, aiming to inspire and provide solace to all those who resonate with the challenges he bravely confronted.

Embark on a captivating podcast journey as we unravel the extraordinary life of Hassan Tibwa. Follow Hassan’s path as he sets out on a daring adventure, leaving Tanzania with the promise of studying in Algeria, only to find himself enrolled in a university in Sudan.

As the episodes unfold, we explore how Hassan not only navigates the challenges of living in a foreign country but also manages to sustain himself while maintaining a secret life, with his family back home still believing he’s in Algeria.

However, fate takes an unexpected turn when war erupts, presenting Hassan with a life-altering choice. Rather than returning home, he decides to stay, unknowingly becoming the unexpected savior for over 60 strangers trapped in the war-torn zone.

Join our host, Michael, as he sits down with Hassan for an exclusive interview that reveals the untold aspects of his incredible journey. Through heartfelt conversations and intimate details, Hassan shares his remarkable story, offering listeners a unique perspective on courage, sacrifice, and the power of human resilience. Get ready for a gripping episode that will leave you inspired and in awe of the extraordinary impact one person can make in the face of adversity. Tune in to witness the remarkable tale of Hassan Tibwa like you’ve never heard it before.

Welcome to a captivating episode of "Men. Men. Men – The Podcast" with your hosts Michael and Nadia.

In this empowering discussion, we explore the multifaceted concept of masculinity and delve into the art of harnessing one's energy.

Joining us as a special guest is the remarkable Yashuke, bringing his unique insights and experiences to the conversation. Together, we explore the presence of both masculine and feminine energy within individuals, uncovering the ways to achieve a harmonious balance.

From redefining societal expectations to embracing vulnerability and emotional intelligence, we navigate the path towards authentic self-expression and personal growth.

Tune in for an enlightening exploration of masculinity, energy harnessing, and the transformative power of finding equilibrium between these essential forces.

Life can be a battleground, and within each of us, silent battles rage on. But amidst these struggles, there are profound challenges deeply embedded within us, waiting to be understood and addressed. In this poignant episode of "Men. Men. Men - The Podcast," we embark on a journey to the core of men's mental health struggles, illuminating the path towards healing and personal growth.

Join us as we welcome Yashuke Masura, a remarkable individual who bravely shares his transformative story alongside Michael and Nadia. Together, they delve into the importance of unraveling the origins of our personal battles, exploring how these roots have shaped their lives and influenced their paths to becoming better individuals.

With the guidance of our resident psychologist, Nadia, we gain valuable insights into the consequences of leaving our deep-seated issues unaddressed. By failing to confront these underlying challenges, we risk exacerbating the deterioration of our mental well-being. Through heartfelt conversations and shared experiences, we shed light on the profound impact that unaddressed struggles can have on our lives.

"Men. Men. Men - The Podcast" strives to create an environment where vulnerability is celebrated, offering a platform for open dialogue and growth. By uncovering the origins of our individual battles, we hope to empower our listeners to embark on their own journeys of self-discovery and healing.

Prepare for another life-changing conversation that will inspire you to explore the depths of your own struggles. Tune in to "Men. Men. Men - The Podcast" as we shed light on the importance of addressing the roots of men's mental health struggles, paving the way for a brighter and more fulfilling future.

Welcome to "Men. Men. Men –The Podcast" with your hosts Michael and Nadia. In this episode, we will be exploring the complex and ever-evolving concept of masculinity.

Society often has a narrow definition of what it means to be a man, which can lead to harmful and limiting stereotypes. In this podcast, we will be breaking down those stereotypes and discussing what it truly means to be a man in today's world.

Through insightful conversations with our guest, Kennedy Mmari, we examine how masculinity intersects with mental health. We also explore how toxic masculinity and gender norms affect individuals, relationships, and communities.

Our aim is to create a safe and open space for listeners to learn, question, and challenge their own beliefs about masculinity. Join us as we delve into this important conversation and work towards redefining what it means to be a man in today’s world

It’s a known fact, every man’s dream is to provide for his family while being able to achieve the financial freedom. The ultimate financial goal for all men is to be able to create and generate wealth that would be able to take care of his family long after he is gone.

In this episode, we delve into the strategies and mindsets required to build wealth. And how, men if they stick together and help each other out financially, then there’s no limit to what they can achieve.

Patrick Nanyaro shares insights on developing a solid financial plan, identifying lucrative investment opportunities, and navigating the ups and downs of finances.

Whether you're just starting out on your wealth-building journey or looking to take your finances to the next level, this episode is a must-listen for anyone seeking to grow their wealth and achieve financial security.

Fatherhood, for many, might seem like it begins in the waiting room, when he’s pacing up and down, waiting for the doctor to come out of the delivery room, and give him the good news. Sadly, what many don’t realize, is fatherhood, for many men, is also a journey through pregnancy, to delivery, and thereafter.

Often, society fails to notice that a man expecting a child, goes through motions that also affect his mental wellbeing. Fathers to be lack safe spaces that can allow them to express and address their anxiety of becoming a father, their emotional turmoil and fears-leaving some to resent the entire process of childbearing, especially for first time fathers.

Hafiz Juma and Abu Msuya join Michael and Nadia on this specific episode and together they discuss the trial and tribulations of being a father for the first time. For all the joy that comes with getting your first child, for most fathers this signals the beginning of a never ending journey that will humble you and make you question what the future will look like.

What are the rumours about marriage? What did you envision married life to be like before you got married?

Did you anticipate "getting it" every time you desired it? Did you anticipate things like children, misunderstandings, and body changes and how they would end up impacting the intimacy with your life partner?

Have you talked to your partner about it? Do you have the language for it? Are you dying inside without any solutions? Do you know how to bring it up without coming across as self-centered?

Meet Alexis Kwamy. Alexis joins us as we discuss the realities of married life, one of the most important subjects that men need to discuss. While advising other men, Alexis shares his experience with what he has gone through and what he did to save his marriage.

We hope lessons from this episode will help to spark more conversations that men need to have with their partners.

Social constructs and men’s mental health. Where do we even begin with this one?

One of the major barriers when it comes to men’s mental health in most cases is how society has programmed them to think about some of the things that affect their well-being.

While in m most cases we speak about how society does not allow safe spaces for men to express their feelings and their emotions about certain things, this same society has also caused men to normalize some of the things that are detrimental to their mental and physical well-being.

Dr. Katanta Simwanza, a public health specialist, an advocate for men’s well-being and men’s mental health, as well as a trainer and specialist on sexual reproductive health, joins Michael and Nadia in this episode to unpack how social constructs have shaped modern men and how that is impacting their lives.

He shares how the simple life choices that we fail to make now and follow through now, end up affecting and impacting our lives in ways that we can’t even imagine.

Enjoy listening to this episode, it is purely a life-changing conversation

How much of what you do for a living is really you? What influenced your career choice? Do you feel fulfilled with the choice that you made? These are the questions that Michael and Nadia are trying to dissect on this episode.

Dr Alpha Kapola (MD) is an amazing videographer, yes, you read that right, he is a Doctor but also an amazing videographer. Alpha feels like he has found his calling in mixing up his profession with his passion But it has not always been easy for him. It meant defying his parents' expectations of him and going against society’s expectations as well.

Did it come with a cost? Was it worth it? Would he do the same thing again if he gets a second chance? He answers all these questions on the podcast. He also talks about how society and people’s expectations tend to end up a lot of people’s dreams and potentials

WE ARE BACK, AND HAPPY NEW YEAR TO EVERYONE. Now that is out of the way, do you have some new year's resolutions? Do you know what you want for this year? Do you know what you want to achieve? Have you set plans for it?

Well, Sam Ndandala delivers one of the best quotes ever on this episode by saying “Who you're beats what you want” so, how much of what you want aligns with who you’re as a person and your values? Why do we set “superficial goals” of the things that we want, rather than realistic goals for the person that we want to become? The latter involves the process of introspection and self-discovery. Join Sam Ndandala, Ben Owden, and Princely Glorious as they navigate through the discussion of men and setting up resolutions, and how much that has to align with your values and who you really are as a person. So, do you know who you are? WHO ARE YOU?

Jambo la kutafuta kwa ajili ya kuangalia na kuhudumia familia yako ni jambo ambalo halikwepeki kwa mwanaume, tena ikiwa ni mwanaume anaewajibika katika majukumu yake.

Lakini, kwenye kutafuta wanaume wengi sana wamejikuta ikiwabidi kwenda kuishi mbali na familia zoo ili waweze kuzihudumia na pia waweze kutimiza ndoto walizonazo juu ya familia zao. Kuishi mbali na familia kunakuja na changamoto nyingi sana ambazo labda jamii haizitambui. Wanaume wengi wanateseka na namna ya kulea watoto wao, lakini pia hata namna ya kuboresha mahusiano na wenzi wao huku wakikabiliana na umbali uliopo kati yao.

Philip Changala alihamia Dar es Salaam kutoka Dodoma mwaka 2016, akaacha familia yake Dodoma yenye mtoto mdogo kabisa. Leo hii ameamua kuzungumza na sisi namna maisha ya kuwa mbali na familia, hususani familia changa inavyoweza kuwa na changamoto nyingi sana kwa mwanaume, na namna ambavyo inaweza kuwa chanzo kikubwa cha changamoto ya afya ya akili kwa mwanaume.

Nadia anaelezea namna ambavyo mwanaume anaweza akapambana na hali hiyo, lakini pia ni hatua zipi za kuchukua ili kuhakikisha nafasi yako kama baba na kama mume bado inabaki hata kama maisha yamekupeleka mbali na familią yako

This one is for the books. Our episode with Walter Bgoya, a senior citizen and longtime publisher in Tanzania, is all about intergenerational conversations.

Walter dives into this episode and shares his insights as a man on parenting, business, relationships, his values as a man but also, working with his son in the same family business, and how to cultivate a relationship between a father and his children.

He also speaks on the differences between men of his generation and this generation. What they got right then, and what they should have done better, as well as sharing his thoughts on the current generation of men in terms of what they get right and what concerns him. We would confidently say this is that episode that brings men of different generations together and maybe have them learn from each other’s experiences.

Linapokuja swala la ndoa na mafanikio ya ndoa watu wengi huwa na mitazamo tofauti. Wapo wanaosema ndoa ni ngumu na si rahisi kufanikiwa kwenye ndoa, na wapo wanaosema ndoa ni ngazi ya mafanikio pale wanandoa wanapokubaliana kwenye hilo.

Leo hii, sisi tunajiuliza, ni nini nafasi ya mwanaume kwenye kuifanya ndoa ifanikiwe? Ni kweli kwamba ndoa inapaswa kuwa ngumu? Kwa wanaume ambao wamefanikiwa kuishi kwenye ndoa vizuri na kwa muda mrefu, ipi imekuwa chachu ya mafanikio hayo?

Julius Mlacha ana umri wa miaka 50, na ndoa yake inakaribia miaka 25. Ameungana na Michael na Nadia kwenye maongezi haya akielezea kiundani siri ya mafanikio kwenye ndoa yake, na namna gani mwanaume ana nafasi na jukumu kubwa sana kwenye kuhakikisha ndoa yake inadumu na ina stawi katika namna bora. Huu ni ukweli kuhusu ndoa yake

The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.

This week, we're talking about inflation and mental health. A topic that's been a little too close to home for us lately.

We've all been there. You wake up on a Monday morning and realize that your entire life has changed since that weekend at the bar. You can't afford anything you want or need, and it's all your fault. Or maybe you're just trying to figure out how to manage this new normal of having less money every single day. Either way, we've got some advice on what to do when the world around you is changing faster than your earnings can keep up with.

Listen in!

Loving your father can be complicated. Especially if he has been in and out of your life without any explanations for most of it. When he calls for help, do you go running to assist or do you hold back and doubt whether to help him or not? So many questions that are difficult to answer.

Mark, who was our first ever guest on the Podcast is back again, and this time he is talking about how he repaired his relationship with his father and how he had to look past his pain and disappointments for him to be able to look after him. The big lesson here is that we all need a second chance.

When the subject of parenthood comes up, you can expect to hear all kinds of opinions. But here's one I don't think anyone will disagree with: there are some people who just aren't cut out to be parents. And it's not because they are not good people or that they would make bad parents, no. It's because for some people, being a parent is a calling and it is just not for everyone.

Dr Mujuni, a gynaecologist and his wife who is also a medic have been married for more than four years, and at the beginning of this year they made a decision to not have kids. It wasn't an easy decision to make, but now they've found themselves more fulfilled than ever. So, what prompted them to that decision? Join the conversation on this episode

Karibu katika sehemu ya pili ya mazungumzo yetu kuhusu mtoto wa kiume na majukumu yanayomkabili katika dunia inayopambania usawa wa kijinsia.

Baada ya mazungumzo marefu katika sehemu ya kwanza, sehemu hii ya pili inajaribu kuona ni nini kifanyike ili kuweza kuleta huu usawa na nafasi ya mwanaume katika kulifanikisha hili. Lakini pia, je tunahitaji kubadili mbinu tunazotumia au inabidi tuboreshe hizi hizi zilizopo ili wanaume na wao wapate kushiriki kikamilifu?

Rolland Malaba (Madenge) anamalizia sehemu ya pili ya maongezi haya pamoja na watayarishaji wa podcast hii, Michael Baruti na Nadia Ahmed

Ni karne ya 21, na mapinduzi mengi sana ya kimaendeleo yametokea duniani na yanaendelea kutokea. Na tunajua kwamba ili tuweze kuendelea kuwa bora kama jamii na kamą wanadamu basi hatuna budi kuyakumbatia mapinduzi yenye tija na yenye kuleta mabadiliko chanya katika jamii yetu.

Moja ya mapinduzi ambayo kama binadamu tumechelewa sana kuanza kuyapambania kwa nguvu zote ni mapinduzi juu ya usawa wa kijinsia. Hili ni jambo jema na lenye msingi wenye kuleta heri kwa jamii nzima. Lakini, ili mapinduzi haya yafanikiwe na yaweze kufikiwa malengo yanayopaswa kufikiwa basi ni lazima jinsia zote mbili ziweze kushiriki kikamilifu katika mchakato huu.

Swali ambalo tunajiuliza leo kwa undani, ni je wanaume wanashiriki kikamilifu katika mapambano na mchakato wa kuleta haki sawa kwa jamii yetu? Kama wanashiriki, nini imekua mchango wao? Na kama hawashiriki, ni kitu gani kinazuia ushiriki wao kikamilifu? Hofu ya wanaume ni nini kwenye hili? Chimbuko la hofu hiyo ni nini? Na ni vipi tunaweza kumshirikisha mwanaume huyu kikamilifu kwenye hii safari? Sababu kiukweli kabisa, wanaume na wanawake wote wanahitajiana kwa ustawi bora wa jamii

Rolland Malaba A.K.A Madenge amejadili swala hili kwa undani na kujaribu kuchanganua baadhi ya mambo akishirikiana na Michael Baruti pamoja na Nadia Ahmed. Karibu usikilize Sehemu ya kwanza ya maongezi haya

One of the things that we set out to do when we started the podcast was to also challenge the stereotypes and to question the habits that for the longest time we’ve never had to question as a society, today’s episode is going to do exactly that. Today, let’s talk about “Consent and Power Dynamics”

As a man, a Tanzanian man, what is your knowledge about consent? Where did you learn about it? Were you taught about it or is it something that you had to learn on your own? Do power dynamics also have to be considered and taken seriously when talking about consent?

Our hosts, Michael Baruti and Nadia Ahmed are joined by this week’s guests, Aden. And together they try to unpack this topic. Join in and enjoy the episode.

As men, especially African men one thing we were taught growing up was the importance of being secure and how it was such a weakness or even shameful to admit to your weaknesses and insecurities. But most importantly, the importance of displaying the role of a perfect man to the public.

But the truth of the matter is, as humans, we are all flawed and we all have our insecurities. Matter of fact, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you owning up to your insecurities. The question is, do you know your insecurities?

Henry Sondo from “What If We Keep It Real” joins Michael and Nadia on this week’s episode to discuss. Insecurities, and how to fight them. Should we even try to fight them in the first place?

Identity and a sense of belonging are things that we all want in this life. Now imagine this, a father decides to disown you before you were even born. Before you reach two years of age, your mother abandons you in the middle of nowhere and she moves on with her life. As a result, you end up feeling rejected, and growing up, you always feel as if you’re not good enough. Do you know the impact this can have on someone’s life?

In this episode, our guest Anthony opens up about growing up as an abandoned child and how he had to fend for and take care of himself on his own since he was a child. How that has impacted his life as a man now? Anthony opens up to Michael and Nadia about how for the longest time he hated his mother and despised his father and how that has harmed his thoughts about starting his own family.

He also speaks about the power of forgiveness and giving each other second chances, and how that is helping him now to mend the relationships with some of the most important people in his life.

Mahusiano huisha, na mara nyingine pia ndoa huvunjika. Si vitu ambavyo tunafurahia vikitokea ila uhalisia wa maisha ndivyo ulivyo. Swali ni pale tu, vipi ndoa ikivunjika wakati tayari kuna mtoto ambaye ni zao la ndoa hiyo ni nini kifanyike ili wazazi wote wawili waweza kuwa na haki sawa juu ya mtoto au watoto wao?

Michael na Nadia wameketi pamoja na J (si jina lake halisi) wakijadili namna mwisho wa mahusiano ya ndoa yake kulivyokua chanzo cha yeye kutopata nafasi ya kuwa baba kwa namna ambayo angependa kuwa baba kwa mtoto wake

J anawakilisha wanaume wengine kwenye mazungumzo haya, ambao kwa namna moja au nyingine wangependa kuhusika kwenye maisha ya watoto wao, ila kutokana na namna mahusiano yao na wenzi wao au namna yalivyo au yalivyoisha imekua ngumu kwao kupata nafasi hii. Swali ni, tufanye nini ili hata kama mahusiano yanaisha, bado mwanaume anapata nafasi ya kuwa baba na kuhusika kwenye maisha ya mtoto wake?

Karibu kusikiliza mazungumzo haya

Our favorite podcast is baaaaack. And the amazing conversations are back as well. After 5 months hiatus, Michael Baruti and Nadia Ahmed are back to producing and hosting this podcast.

In today’s episode, we ask, why is it so hard for men to communicate their emotions? What happens when men don’t communicate their emotions? Do men know how to communicate their emotions? And why is that important for their mental well-being?

In the studio, they are joined by Justice Rutenge, a communications and results measurement consultant. Together they embark on the journey of unpacking many questions that we all have when it comes to men and communicating their emotions. Justice shares his experience as well as the barriers that he thinks to limit many men from expressing their emotions while Nadia breaks down how that tends to end up impacting the mental health and mental well-being of many men.

Enjoy the episode

We’ve heard Michael and Nadia interview many people, and we’ve listened to them discuss many issues about mental health and specifically about mental health for men. As we are closing the year and welcoming a new year, they’ve decided to share their experiences about 2021 and the expectations and plans for 2022.

They open up about the different struggles they all went through in 2021, what challenged them mentally, how these challenges affected their mental health and the people around them, and most importantly, what were the lessons learned? They leave no stone unturned. Like we said, 2021 Unfiltered.

It is the 21st Century, and a lot has changed regarding the dynamics of both men and women. While in the past, things like arranged marriages made it slightly easier for men to find women they wanted as life partners, the current climate requires most men to step up and approach women first, and in some cases, we’ve had women approaching men as well. While this is the reality of the world right now, there are still many questions that need to be answered. Are men equipped enough to have good conversations with women? Can men handle rejections when they are told NO? Why do some men troll women online when things don’t go their way?

In this episode, the advocate for “Shooting your shot,” Mr. Emmanuel Mbunda, mostly known as Digital Migrant, discusses the importance of this subject with Michael and Nadia as well as sharing the do’s and don’ts of shooting your shot, but most importantly discussing the challenges modern Tanzanian men face when it comes to holding down conversation with the other gender.

Why are men so obsessed with power and being seen in control of everything? Is that what makes a real man? Where did this obsession come from? What impact does it have when it comes to men and relationships? Have you ever heard of the wheel of control? Have you ever been trapped in it? Have you ever trapped someone in it? Is the wheel of power toxic? Can we eliminate the men’s desire to take hold of the wheel of power and control?

Enters Rajab Mziray, an active member of Men Engage Tanzania, a network that aims at breaking the cycle of men’s toxic masculinity habits and involving men in the conversation of gender equality.

In this episode, he sits with Michael and Nadia. He discusses a man’s obsession with power and control, how society has championed these habits for the longest time, and the importance of men being willing to address this openly to become better men and humans.

At the age of just 21 years old, Idris Sultan won the grand prize of $300,000 from Big Brother Africa House. He lost it all by the age of 23 and he was sinking in debts. He got his life together and cleared his debts by 24, and made three times the money he had lost by the age of 25. Sounds like a story made for Hollywood or Nollywood, right? I mean, for most of us probably that would be the end of us, and we would never be able to pick ourselves up and start again. BUT Idris is not most of us.

He joins Nadia and Michael, to talk about his story of resilience and how the best thing to ever happen to him was probably losing that money. He takes them on a ride of how he has had to build himself up as a human being and as a man to become the powerhouse he is right now. His fears on commitment, his views on love, the things he stands for, the price of fame, his mental health struggles, and why it is so important for him to look after his mental health.

But then again, this is Idris, he hit us with the breaking news about his future moves towards the end of the podcast. Enjoy the conversation

Given Edward has mastered the tech world, has his own company, he has traveled the world and has received an award from the Queen. Having done all that at the age of just 27, Given looks like he has accomplished it all. And let’s be real, the man has done well for himself. It’s almost tempting to pin it purely on luck. However, as far as luck is concerned, Given would have been considered unlucky from the day he was born. 

Raised only by his mother, who had no job, after his father ran away before Given (and his twin) were even born; Given shares how that made him grow up quicker and view responsibilities differently from a younger age. He also shares how the experience shapes how he views relationships, both personal and in business. 

Michael and Nadia walk with Given on this journey of today’s episode as he opens about his vulnerabilities, his fears, and his struggles, emotionally. He also shares his successes and his pride in being a man enough to open up about this in this episode.

Black Tax has always existed in our African communities. It is what has helped most of our parents to achieve what they have been able to achieve BUT also, some say it has limited their potentials.

As modern men, most of us are the beneficiaries of this system. Through the whole community chipping in and helping out, some of the men in our communities were able to live up to and achieve their full potentials. Now, is it a must for them to pay back their dues by helping others?

Is Black Tax creating a vicious cycle that we can’t get out of or this is the way that all of us can help each other out from the pool of poverty? Matter of fact, IS THERE ANY PROBLEM WITH BLACK TAX?

Michael and Nadia have a deep conversation with Samwel Ndandala, a financial guru in Tanzania about the concept of Black Tax and its impact on the modern society

Kusoma nje ya nchi ya Tanzania kuna mpa mtu faida nyingi sana ukilinganisha na ambae hatapata nafasi hiyo. Vitu kama ubora wa elimu na “exposure” anayoipata si vitu vya kubeza hata kidogo. Kwa wengi ambao hawakupata nafasi hiyo huwa wanawaangalia waliopata hizo nafasi kama watu ambao tayari njia yao ya mafanikio imeshasafishwa na imeshachongwa kabisa, uongo?

Lakini je, umeshawahi kujiuliza juu ya maisha ya ughaibuni? Ni namna gani watu wanamudu kuishi mbali na wawapendao kwa muda mrefu? Ni vipi wanaweza pambana na changamoto kama zinazotokana na kuwa mbali na nyumbani? Ni namna gani matarajio ya watu waliobaki nyumbani kwa watu hawa hugeuka kuwa mwiba mchungu kwa walio wengi? Tunajua kwanini wengine hushindwa kurudi nyumbani? Na hata wakirudi, tunafahamu wanayoyapitia?

Webiro “Wakazi” Wasira anaketi na sisi na kutuambia namna mabadiliko haya yanavyoweza aidha kumjenga mtu au kumbomoa kabisa na yeye amewezaje kufika hapa alipo? Alipitia yepi? Nini ni uzoefu wake? Msikilize hapa

As we unravel today’s topic, we relive the fears of modern-day society as affected by the past experiences and history timeline itself. Well - That’s what we call “Mental work” and we at Men Men Men love to partake in the service.

Now, who is a Tanzanian man? What constitutes a Tanzanian Man? What makes a Tanzanian man special? Are they even special? How has Tanzanian history helped shape this man? How does the rest of the world view this man? What are his ethics and values? Do people understand a Tanzanian man? Do they need to? Does he need to wonder if they do?

Do they know the historical and generational trauma he’s had to go through, to get to where he is right now? Do people often wonder like he does, about these things? Do YOU? Are we as a society helping this man in any way, to become the authentic version of himself?

These are the questions that have brought us here today, and the confusing part about these questions is that there is no right or wrong answer. We are all learning, UNLEARNING, and relearning as we navigate this life.

And there you have it, Ladies and gentlemen, the “why” — it was only right for us to have a conversation with one of the great keepers of Tanzanian history, Mr. Mkuki Bgoya.

Mkuki takes us through the Journey of a Tanzanian Man through history’s perspective. He reminds us of how empathetic we need to be towards each other. The details of how history and generational trauma have played a big part in shaping this Tanzanian man are explored during this episode. Additionally, how technology has played a major part in widening the values between different generations of men in Tanzania.

Walk with us through this transcending journey.

Umeshawahi kutaka kufanya kitu ambacho wewe mwenyewe kwa dhati kabisa kutoka moyoni mwako unafahamu kwamba ni ndoto yako na unatamani sana kuitimiza ila watu wanaokuzunguka wasilione hilo wala kukubaliana nalo? Ulifanya nini? Uliweza kukomaa na kutimiza ndoto zako au uliamua kuua ndoto zako na kuishia kufanya kile ambacho kila mtu alikwambie ufanye?

Inahitaji ushujaa, uvumilivu na commitment ya hali ya juu ili kuweza kutimiza ndoto zako, na inakua ngumu zaidi pale ambapo jamii, familia na watu wake wa karibu wanaokuzunguka wanaposhindwa kuamini na kukusaidia kutimiza ndoto ulizonazo.

Phineas Steven kutoka “Unmatched Basketball” anajua vizuri sana kuhusu yote haya, Ila haikumzuia yeye kwenda mbele ili kuhakikisha ndoto yake inatimia. Karibu usikilize maongezi yake, karibu usikilize “unmatched mindset” yake ilivyomfikisha hapa alipo

Wanaume hawajui namna ya bora ya kuwasiliana, kuanzisha mazungumzo ya muhimu na inawezekana hawajui kabisa kuongelea wanayoyapitia, wanayoyafikiria au kuelezea hisia zao wakiwa kwenye mahusiano, hii ni dhana iliyojengeka kwa watu wengi sana, je ina ukweli wowote?

Baadhi ya wanaume wanapingana na hili, na wanasema si kweli. Wanaume wanaweza sana kuwasiliana, sema tu wanawasiliana kwa namna ambayo ni tofauti na inahitaji muda kuielewa.

Michael na Nadia wanazungumza kwa kirefu sana na Gillsant pamoja na Leslie juu ya mawasiliano, matarajio na changamoto za kutokuwa na mawasiliano mazuri kwenye mahusiano kwa upande wa mwanaume na namna gani mawasiliano yanaweza kujenga au kubomoa kabisa mahusiano hayo.