Mettle Mentality
By Preston
We each already have the ability within ourselves to overcome hardship, pain, addiction, insecurities and can grow because of our suffering. Most of us just don’t know this yet. Sometimes we need someone to guide us through our suffering and teach us how this is done. The mission of Mettle Mentality is to be a vehicle to deliver the those needed guides.
Mettle Mentality Sep 28, 2020
Episode 31: Michael Sugrue
Michael Sugrue is a Retired US Air Force Captain, Retired Police Officer and activist in helping Veterans and First Responders seek treatment for mental health issues, including PTSD.
E30 Jason VanCamp
Jason VanCamp is an Author, a retired Army Ranger and Green Beret, and President of MissionSixZero
E29. Developing Leaders with Pat Welsh
Pat Welsh is an author, speaker, trainer and Pat retired as police officer with the rank of major.
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0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro
02:02 Preston introducing Pat Welsh
03:59 Bigfoot Conversations
04:46 Pat talking about, What is a warrior servant leader?
06:57 What is our responsibility on this earth?
09:01 No greater service than being a parent to children- Preston sharing a day in the life
11:50 Pat sharing his experience of raising 5 kids working night shift.
14:40 Pat looking back into his life and journey
16:39 Absentee Parent- no regrets, have you ever accepted an apology that was never given. Forgiveness is essential to restoring relationships.
17:44 Pat talking about kicking out his son at 18 years old- forgiveness and reconciliation.
19:02 The age at when we stop hugging our kids and stop telling them we love them
20:46 God getting Pat’s attention when his wife got Cancer- Holy Moments- opportunities to get closer to God
21:48 You become what you celebrate
23:00 A word to those who are stuck in their past replaying their failure.
CARE: Commit All Resources and Energy to what I say I care about
24:00 What voice are you listening to- there are two competing voices!
25:58 Accepting an apology that was never given
29:15 You will always find what you’re looking for
30:18 Preston talking about freedom he received from forgiveness he gave
33:24 Pat talking about Mother Teresa being a warrior, servant, leader. She defended what she believed.
35:30 Pat talking about being abandoned in an orphanage in Ireland. And then finding his birth mother many years later.
44:06 Don’t hold things in, Apologize, clear the air, don’t carry the burden
48:11 Abandoning the “old” self -recommitting to building a relationship with God, a journey that will never end
50:18 Deliberate decision to make a change Preston references Deliberate Discomfort by Jason Van Camp https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=B08BLRMJYT&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006
51:51 Pat mentions Overcome by Jason Redman https://www.audible.com/pd/Overcome-Audiobook/154915012X
52:34 Matthew 16:24 paraphrased - Daily deny yourself- pick up your cross and follow Christ
Every day get up and intentionally choose to follow Christ.
53:59 Gold Star Family - Pat and his wife lost their son 5 years ago.
54:50 Go forward and choose
56:40 Mindset of Obedience- Obedient to what God calls us to and to the life we’re meant to live. Story of Moses.
58:49 I promise if you do the activities in this book your life will never be the same (audio link above) https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Discomfort-Operations-Comfortable-Uncomfortable/dp/1733428011
1:01:11 Sun Flowers face the light and if they can’t see the light they face the sun flower that can see the light
1:03:02 If you cannot find the light, look to someone who has the light and follow them until you can get the light.
1:04:40 If you are having a rough time of year- call someone.
1:05:34 Life Sentence “in one sentance what are people going to say at your funeral?” What do you want them to say at your funeral? What are you doing to live that sentence?
1:08:11 Ask for help- I’d rather sit and have a beer rather than go to your funeral
1:11:01 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality
E28. Talking Empathy and more with Tony Overbay
Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
Certified Mindful Habit Coach
Host of The Virtual Coach Podcast
Motivational Speaker
Ultra Marathon Runner
Author of The Path Back and
Online Pornography Recovery Program
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0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro
01:50 Preston introduces Tony Overbay
02:51 Tony’s Virtual Couch Podcast was the first self help podcast Preston had listened to, check in out https://www.tonyoverbay.com/?powerpress_pinw=1395-podcast
3:15 Empathy vs Sympathy - it’s what the world needs now!’
9:24 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- You are the only person that has been through exactly what you have been through.
12:15 Empathizing with things you can’t understand
14:36 Ego
23:22 Where does Compassion come into play?
30:11 Core Values
32:38 Core Value Authenticity
34:58 Core Value Love
41:03 Acceptance that there’s nothing wrong with you, that you’re not for everyone
43:13 The Origin of the word Should
45:05 The difference between guild and shame
49:00 Victim of Circumstance vs taking responsibility
53:54 Core Values Accountability and Integrity
1:05:39 “80% of success is being present” Woody Allen
1:06:54 Bless your heart brain, and come back to what can I do today?
1:08:01 Progress vs Comparison
1:09:07 Validation external vs internal
1:10:14 Bigfoot Conversations
1:10:55 Tony’s 30 Second Message: work from the angle of “you’re not broken”
1:12:28 Accept yourself, Love Yourself! Move Forward!
1:12:56 Homework assignment:) list the top 5 things that you value most!
1:13:42 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality
E27. Shifting your energy with Bonnie Barber
Bonnie is a mother, real estate negotiator, creative entrepreneur, & life energy coach.
Bonnie can be reached at bonniebarberrealestate@hotmail.com 801-462-5455
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0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro
02:06 Preston Introduces Bonnie Barber
03:16 Bonnie talking about having courage to be Vulnerable, and growing through it
04:28 What Bonnie does and how she got to where she is
05:05 Talking about being a Personal Trainer
05:24 Talking about being a Body Builder Costume Designer
06:41 Talking about being a Real Estate Agent
07:42 Preston talking about “Got your 6” having each other's back
08:11 Competing in Body Building Competitions
10:54 Seeking validation from an external source
12:40 Are you committed or interested?
13:52 Overcoming that fear of worrying about what people think
16:22 Preston talking about overcoming fear to start this podcast
18:07 Thought creates fear, shifting from being interested to being committed. Being willing to keep going no matter how hard it gets.
18:39 Enjoying the journey, so focused on the future and held back by the past, we miss this moment
19:26 Being your own coach with your own dreams.
20:30 Living present in the present moment- this moment is all that is promised
23:49 Blessing of the pandemic, teaching us to slow down change priorities
26:16 When we are in the darkest points, the way we get out is, build a foundation, Consistency, fortitude and grit.
27:00 Bonnie talking about her darkest time and how she uses busy-ness as her numbing tool and overcoming it with crying and letting it all out, resetting and doing it again.
30:09 Foundation of Hope, where to find it, create it. Meditation, asking for a sign,
32:59 Changing your perspective
35:00 Mantras having them and thinking about how we talk to ourselves
36:00 Negative Self Talk- Preston mentions Trever Moawad here is a link to his youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvzYoc4rkqyE6LDKQDseDNg
37:20 How to validate yourself - Making a list of things you Value about yourself
43:12 Get comfortable being uncomfortable
45:12 Realizing that you aren’t where you want to be, consumption vs action of learned information
45:54 Learning to Let go
48:28 Importance of meeting people, making friends and shared missions. Appreciation people that come in to your life in lots of different ways.
50:06 Seeing more in people than they see in themselves, being that person that brings their greatness to light for the first time
53:20 Bonnie references “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Link Here for audio book: https://amber-allen-publishing.mykajabi.com/offers/TbEXBXBk/checkout
Keeping promises-especially the ones you make yourself.
58:05 The impossibility of insecurity. What if it was impossible to be insecure, how powerful would you be?
1:02:12 Thank you for spending time with us, please make sure to follow the Mettle Mentality Podcast on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality. Know you Matter.
E26. Recreational Therapy with Steven Aragón
Steven Aragón is a recreational therapist and a retired member of the Coast Guard.
Show Notes
0.00 Thank you to our sponsor visit am300.com/mettle
0.12 Intro
2:13 Welcome & Introduction of our guest Steven Aragón.
3:31 Big Foot or Extraterrestrial Aliens Conversation.
5:38 Steven Introducing himself, how he got into doing what he's doing.
6:26 Steven talking about Ski Trip for Disabled Veterans, 3 day ski trip.
10:14 Steven talking about his military experience.
13:28 Steven talking about the MWR (Morale Welfare and Recreation) Program a d explaining how it is with in the military for for members and their families. All honorable discharged military members have access to the program.
16:56 Steven talking about life events that have defined who he is as a person.
19:32 Steven talks about Wild Land fire fighting, going out on Hot Shot Crews, "It was hard but we did it together."
20:15 Preston talking about forming a team and insulating yourself through hard times.
20:46 Steven talking about how having a team has meant to him.
21:09 Camaraderie
22:50 Preston talking about respect he has for all in uniform.
23:51 When you're not alone during sucky times, it makes sucky times a lot easier.
24:17 Talking about suffering and hardship, how it makes you stronger.
25:36 Steven talking about empathy and how it has helped his journey.
26:54 Making the choice to serve others! This is who you are. We need more people like this in life!
28:07 Steve talking about how helping Veterans realize that they are unbroken has impacted his life.
29:48 We aren't tied to our triggers, we can make a different choice. Use what Natures Given US!
31:56 Losing our Purpose when we get out of the Military.
32:40 Purpose of Service even though I can't stand you, I'll be here for you.
33:42 Steven talking about Core Values of having community and giving back to that community
35:30 If I'm not being of service then I'm not being my authentic self.
36:12 Reflection of screwing up and find the ways to grow.
36:30 Letting insecurities get in the way of caring for others.
38:08 Wearing a mask realizing that taking it off is the key.
39:14 People who must serve others, we are not aware of the number of people who just want to help others.
40:20 If you feel Broken, if you feel Hopeless, You are not Alone. There are people out there who want to help you.
40:56 Preston sharing his story of co-worker soldier that took his own life recently.
42:02 Steven's 30 second message: I'm here, you don't have to say anything, just know you are not alone.
43:54 To reach Steven contact him saragon1087@gmail.com
45:24 Thank you for being here, please share this podcast with someone you know who could benefit by it. You can find us on Instagram, facebook and twitter @mettlementality
E25. "Quiet The Noise" with Marco Lopez
E24. Failure doesn't mean quit with Will Branum
Will Branum is a retired 26 year Navy SEAL. He is the founder of Naked Warrior Recovery, supporting Veterans & first responders' recovery.
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0:12 Podcast Intro
2:07 Preston introducing Will Branum
4:45 Will Talking about his story
8:07 Joining the Navy to become a Navy SEAL
14:01 Will Asking CNO for Opportunity to go to SEALs Training
16:00 Talking about turning “Failure” into Massive Success
17:12 Pointing out how Will never gave up, pushed through “Failing” which made him a stronger SEAL.
19:23 If you put an obstacle in front of me I’m going to overcome it
20:04 Talking about people who said he would never make it, you don’t have what it takes. Use that as fuel or water to put out your fire. “Okay, we’ll see”
23:05 Saying, “I don’t want to be here” never happened. Singularity of FOCUS.
24:40 Will talks about his struggle after leaving the military life to civilian life, is the hardest military mission he has ever been on.
26:34 Lack of elite performer brotherhood-finding them now and becoming teammates with them
27:05 Planning the day before, laying clothes out- getting up and ready to go.
Mentally Prepare for tomorrow, Today.
29:35 Will talking about Training, Planning, Contingency Plans for when life doesn’t go as planned which is almost always.
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32:45 Preston talking about Mission First.
34:24 Will talking about his mission NOW to help Veterans and First Responders recover from traumatic events. Physical, Mental, Emotional.
34:54 Talking about using CBD to calm the fire, keep out of the red zone.
36:50 CBD Helped stay out of the red zone
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40:14 Will explains what Naked Warriors were.
44:09 Talking about the armor we wear, because of the intensity of life right now, never letting recovery happen. Becoming naked emotionally to let recovery happen.
46:16 Will talks about how CBD helped him drink significantly less.
46:51 Preston talking about the layers we put on to protect the true authentic self. The fear of people seeing us for who we really are.
47:28 We care too much what other people think about us. Just be a better person tomorrow than we were today.
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50:55 Finding what YOUR mission is. What helps you, and sharing that with the world.
51:33 Will talks about his Non-CBD product Super Greens https://nw-recovery.com/product/navy-seal-super-greens-2/
59:06 Talking about Servant Leadership-Wanting to make a great team, to make everyone around them better.
1:02:11 Overlooked and underappreciated Servant Leaders who need tools to recover, Will serves those who have served.
1:05:37 Final Question: If you had 30 seconds to talk to someone who is operating in the Red what would you say to them? What makes you happy? Do that! Find a way to help other people, doing what you love. Get good at it. DO more of what you love. Make that your mission. Focus on what makes you happy, get there-and stay there.
1:08:12 Closing-Please share with someone you know who would benefit.
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E23. Getting Real About Domestic Violence with Leah Olszewski Part 2
Leah Olszewski (AKA Superwoman) has truly been through Hell and back. As as a domestic violence survivor, she is here to show you her scars and put it all on the line because she has nothing left to lose. Leah will stop at nothing until we all realize that we are meant to to rise above it!
Leah Olszewski is Co-Founder at FEMTAC, public speaker, Army Reserves Officer, and an advocate for domestic violence survivors.
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0:10 Intro
2:05 Re-Introducing Leah Olszewski
2:59 Leah talking about getting on Naked and Afraid TV Show
9:33 Preston pointing out abusers make it so that whatever you do, you're wrong.
19:16 Leah talking about how people have ideas of each other and what people close to you say that affects you
21:17 Leah talking about walking off the show
23:42 Leah talking about making a plan when things go bad, your mind is not in a right spot to think in the moment.
24:34 Know your right and left limits
25:42 Preston talking about other's perception of you. Keeping up appearances.
26:52 Preston talking about putting a Band-aid on when we need surgery.
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29:43 Preston continuing to talk about putting a patch on and reminding that it's the human condition- just get the help that you need-no need to judge
30:55 Grinding through Trauma -patch, solve, fix sometimes its not that way
34:38 Failing v.s. an opportunity to learn and grow
35:46 Leah talking about being "known" for domestic violence - if other's know they're not alone, know they can make it out, they can be stronger on the outside- then she is okay with that.
37:27 Preston talking about being defined by our success and how it will never be enough.
42:03 Leah talking about sticking her neck out
42:32 Leah talks about Anderson Cooper interviewing Steven Colbert -check it out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB46h1koicQ
44:27 Being a Victim v.s Staying a Victim. We all go through
45:39 Using your past story, as the background but the main part is what you can do beyond that. Everybody has a story, but it's what they do with the raging fire inside of them that matters.
47:39 Preston reminding us that we are better than how we are being.
49:12 Pain is necessary for growth- sharing the stories of pain to help others move forward faster.
50:25 Preston talking about how is daughter is the reason he does what he does. For her he decided to get help, take accountability and get on the path to having this conversation today.
59:29 Thank you for Listening. Please leave a review this podcast and give us a 5 star review, or share this podcast with others find us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @mettlementality.
E22. Getting Real About Domestic Violence with Leah Olszewski Part 1
Leah Olszewski is Co-Founder at FEMTAC, public speaker, Army Reserves Officer, and an advocate for domestic violence survivors.
E22. Getting real about domestic violence with Leah Olszewski Part 10:00 Sponsor Ad www.AM300.com/Mettle
0:13 Intro
2:12 Preston Introduces Leah Olszewski
2:46 Leah’s opinion on Bigfoot
3:46 Leah talking about her military experience
10:11 Leah’s Story
11:40 Leah talk about Sere School (Survival, Evasion, Resistance, and Escape (SERE) is a training program best known by its military acronym that prepares U.S. military personnel, U.S. Department of Defense civilians, and private military contractors to survive and "return with honor" in varied survival scenarios.)
15:28 Chapter 2 of her story with new relationship and small signs of abuse
16:10 Abuse Starts
18:13 Once they have you trapped abuse amps up
18:45 Threats and Extreme Abuse
19:20 Kicked while she was pregnant then miscarried
19:36 Preston calls out “This Person” If you are the abuser, get help. Stop. Don’t abuse Kids.
20:43 Leah talking about victims feeling bad about abusers getting in trouble. “Hey. You committed a crime-You need to pay the price for your choices.”
22:25 Nothing is ever good enough
23:05 Abuse cycle/ taking away phones, reading messages, gets worse
24:00 This is what happens in domestic violence You get roped in
24:20 People who are listening to this right now. If abuse is happening to- YOU are NOT less because this happened or is happening to you, there is nothing wrong with you. It happens to a lot of different people
26:08 Contact Leah on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/leahmarieolszewski or email Leah@leaholszewski
27:34 Falling in love with Potential V.S. How they actually are/Internal Self Hatred/The Masks we wear
31:04 Hate yourself so much you abuse another person
32:56 Admit to what you have done and move on and be better
37:28 Intermission: Check out Non Profit https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/
39:14 Leah talks about rebuilding after getting out of abusive relationship
39:40 6-9 Months of Depression
40:13 Action. Take action about things you don’t like instead of just complaining. Leah mentions https://www.protectourdefenders.com/ Reach Out!
42:01 You’re not going to heal over night
42:19 Preston talks about fortitude and grit to overcome life’s struggles
43:01 Fighting Hopelessness - When Not taking your own Life feels like a victory, you’re right, it is...keep fighting.
45:58 Constant Battle- Never Give up
47:21 Leah talks about her apparel company, https://femtac.com/, performance, safety, and comfort.
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51:03 Closing
E21. U-2 Spy Plane Pilot Colonel Retired Merryl Tengesdal
A determined, fun and optimistic person, Col. Retired Merryl Tengesdal Served in the US Navy and Retired in the US Air Force. She is the 1st African American Woman to ever pilot the plane that soars at 70,000 ft, at that height, it takes some real mettle. 0:00-2:14 Intro 2:14 Introducing Colonel Merryl Tengesdal 1994 Commissioned into the US Navy. Nothing she can't fly, she stated confidently. 6:48 Talking about her path to being the first and only African American Woman to fly the the United States Air Force's U-2 spy plane which is used for specialized high-altitude reconnaissance missions. She talks about moving from NY to CA for an open Pilot slot after being pressured to join in an open slot. 13:46 She talks about challenges of commissioning in the 90's. People being closed minded. How change was not readily accepted. "Change is going to happen no matter what. That is why we have so much training, so we can handle the change" 17:12 Merryl talks about being a child of divorce, focusing on things she can control. Doing sports to help her through it. How it felt to be a latch key kid. 18:12 Back to flight school dealing with people who don't really care for your presence. You can't control how people feel-you just control how you respond. Speaks of the support system of others in the same situation. 22:22 Talks about having a trainer they referred to as "the screamer". She felt like quitting, later developed a mentor/mentee relationship. Struggle with self-doubt, mentor says, there will have to be a point in time where people have to finally say, you're here because you're just that damn good. Don't be your own obstacle. 26:40 Non Profit Ad Kirstie Ennis Foundation an all service based 100% profits goes to help other non-profits check it out here https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/ 28:26 Preston asks Merryl where she got her grit. She talks about feeling like giving up, but did not want to be a quitter. "I will not quit. I just go do it." Martial Arts helps to get frustration out. What can I do to make this better, dig deep, suck it up. Then get back in there back to the grind. Figure a different way to make this happen. 31:55 Merryl talks about having kids, whining and wanting to give up, she teaches them to take a deep breath and think of a different way to approach it. Seeing the pride in their eyes when they figure it out. 33:40 Merryl talks about the art of persevering, getting through no matter what. Get dressed, get a routine, set your mind on how you can succeed during this time. 34:30 Preston, how do we motivate others when we don't feel okay ourselves. We don't need to have it all together to help others. 35:07 Merryl talks about Hot Mess, Dumpster Fire or Chernobyl. Normal right now most people are operating at Hot Mess. 37:20 Preston talks about being in college class, professor said, "80% of success is being present." More than just showing up, but actually being present. 39:06 Preston asks about UFO's- Have you ever been above a shooting star? Merryl has... Merryl talks about being in the U2 plane and how you have to be a special kind of person, it's not for everyone. 45:10 Landing procedures. "Landing is where you make your money, that separates the good pilots from the bad ones." 48:13 Merryl's 30 second message, be focused, compassionate and kind.
E20. Become your peak performing self with Jason Beim
Jason Beim is a life coach and owner and founder of Jump Above Boundaries. He describes himself as an Average Joe that just wants others to learn from his mistakes. This may be one of the biggest understatements of all time. Jason is an extraordinary individual that has an powerful message and wants to help you reach your peak potential in life. To learn more about Jason and how he can help you become the greatest version of yourself click here: https://www.instagram.com/jumpaboveboundaries/?hl=en or here: https://linktr.ee/jumpaboveboundaries
6:00- Jason Telling His Story of Suffering, Failing, overcoming and repeating
10:33- Quick Fix Weight Loss Surgery and Why would you not want to live at your highest optimal performance.
11:39- Preston talking about feeling similar to Jason.
12:27-12:29 When you find the power of your WHY you are unstoppable!
13:33- Jason talking about how it felt to not be accepted and trying to buy acceptance. Deep rooted insecurity that no one likes me for me. Being accepted was my first form of drug. - Jason
15:15- 15:32 Preston relates to Jason and shares how he belonged to the moment and belonged to whoever would accept him, how he lived a life of self-betrayal and never honored who he was, because he didn’t know who he was.
16:08- Jason talking about Ego, and finally getting comfortable in his own skin and mentions the book, “Ego is the enemy” by Ryan Holiday.
17:49- “Your Ego is your friend when you don’t know who you are” Preston
18:35- Preston and Jason talking about how it is scary to be authentic these days and how we compare other’s destination to our journey, the destination we see is a mirage. The journey of finding a process that allows us to thrive, that works for us.
20:50- Jason talking about stacking up tiny wins, doing what you do not want to do.
22:10- Jason talking about falling off the wagon and then using that for a springboard to negativity.
23:49- Jason talking about his process that he found that works for him, breaking things down into bite-size pieces and talks about S.M.A.R.T. Goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Timely (initially originated by George T. Doran 1981)
29:29- Talking what Jason values most: Discipline.
31:10- Dominate, Integrity, Self-Accountability, Conquer and Overcome, Internal Motivation, Pride, Leadership of yourself and others, Improve always, Never Quit, Embrace the Suck.
34:18- The willingness to be uncomfortable…. yes
34:28- Kirstie Ennis Foundation check out https://kirstieennisfoundation.com
36:15- Jason talking about Embracing the suck
37:50 -Jason talking about accountability partners and teams, Internal and External Board of Directors.
49:17- Preston comparing this to addiction recovery program, having a sponsor and going to group meetings.
40:58- Jason talking about most influential people for him. “My family was there for me when I wasn’t there for myself.”
44:28- Jason talking about how we find out what we value most. Jason and Preston Back and forth Embracing the Suck.
53:41- Jason talking about, “How do you use your anger as rocket fuel.”
55:33- Jason talking about what winning is to him.
54:32- Preston talks about the book, Deliberate Discomfort by Jason Van Camp.
59:20- Jason talking about having a never quit mindset.
1:01:06- Jason talking about what he would say to someone who is suicidal.
Do not suffer in silence. Do not make a permanent decision to a temporary problem.
A vulnerable conversation with Preston Ewell
After learning of a coworker taking his own life, I felt compelled to open myself up and share with you my story in a more vulnerable way than I ever have publicly. You will never understand how difficult this was for me to share. But, I will not stand by as I see more and more of my brothers and sisters in arms end their own lives. If sharing my complete story helps just one single person have hope and fight just one more day, then I accept whatever consequences come. I also speak about hate, anger, love, having empathy and compassion, racial inequality, addiction and suicide. If you’re hurting right now and would like to talk with me without any judgement, please send me an email or social media direct message. Let’s talk. I will make myself available to you. Mettlementality@gmail.com
E18. Kirstie Ennis: Staying Gritty to Harnessing the power of Suffering
E17. Lucas Foster: 2022 Winter Olympics hopeful. Your Failures Are Your Greatest Classroom.
Lucas Foster is currently ranked 20th in the world in the snowboard half-pipe, a member of the US Ski and Snowboard team and 2022 Winter Olympics hopeful.
He and Preston talk about how having a holistic approach to your health is beneficial to us mentally, physically and spiritually.
They discuss the importance of having a resilient mentality and the similarities of resilience between professional athletes and members of the military; how these principles are universally true to not only professional athletes and Service Members but to our regular lives.
They discuss how we can use this Covid-19 quarantine time as an opportunity for growth and how stillness will be the key to our success and help us readjust our priorities.
He also addresses perfectionism and how being perfect is really just being authentic, how your mistakes are your classroom and how embracing adversity offers the greatest opportunity for personal growth.
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E16. Dancing in the Storm (Part2) with David Salazar
David Salazar is first a Husband, a Father and an Entrepreneur. For many years David has worked as a Personal Development Coach for adults with disabilities. Join us in this two part episode as we learn from David about loving yourself and dancing through the storms of life.
E15. Dancing in the storm (PART 1) with David Salazar
David Salazar is first a Husband, a Father and an Entrepreneur. For many years David has worked as a Personal Development Coach for adults with disabilities. Join us in this two part episode as we learn from David about loving yourself and dancing through the storms of life.
E14 Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife: Allowing Yourself To Fully Experience Being Human.
Are you allowing yourself to fully live the human experience? Can you look in the mirror and honestly say that you belong to yourself? Are you listening to and believing the lies that shame has convinced you are part of your identity?
Learn how to be better better than you were yesterday in this interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife aka “The Mormon Sex Therapist”. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a Relationship and Sexuality Coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor. She has a PhD. in Counseling Psychology.
In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Preston Ewell about
•How accepting ourselves as human facilitates human intimacy.
•The importance of physical and emotional intimacy in human happiness.
•Why we are afraid of intimacy and how our desire to be known and loved helps us grow.
•How we confuse “vulnerability” or openness with weakness.
•How to take deeper responsibility for our choices and what we are creating in our lives.
You can learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife on her website http://www.finlayson-fife.com/
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
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E13. Alan Lazaros: Finding The Power Of Your “Why”.
On this episode Preston has a conversation with Alan Lazaros. Alan is the Co-Host of The Hyper Conscious Podcast, a Personal Development coach, a Peak Performance coach, a Business coach, a Life Style Design Coach, a Former Corporate Superstar, and a Motivational Speaker. Alan speaks of finding your reason to fight for yourself as well as the power of your “Why”. This is an incredibly powerful conversation. So much so, that Preston shares openly for the first time on the show, about his struggles of living a life of addiction for 17 years, how he was able to find recovery and more about how Mettle Mentality came to be.
Follow Alan on Social Media @alazaros88
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E12. Richard Bell: True American Grit. The Importance Of Being Honest With Yourself And Helping Each Other.
Richard Bell is a compassionate individual with some true American Grit. He is also a Vietnam-era Navy Pilot, former Division 1 basketball player for the University of Oklahoma, member of the AM300 Solutions Board, US Ski and Snowboard Military Advisory Board Member, and true Entrepreneur.
In this interview he shares the importance of having compassion for others and positive results of never quitting. He also shares some incredible stories of some close calls from his time as a pilot in the Navy.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E11. Jesse R. Stewart Part 2 Conclusion: The Hotter the Fire, the Stronger the Iron: Living Life On the Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Planes of Existence.
Part 2 conclusion with Jesse R. Stewart: Author of The Phoenix Project (Summer 2020), Founder of AM300 Solutions, motivational speaker and retired Army Ranger. In this 2 part episode Jesse talks about the importance of living life on the Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual planes of existence.
Jesse addresses the dangers of relying solely on only one of these planes and the consequences he faced by doing so. He shares the importance of accepting himself despite his flaws and enabling the Creator to shape him into who he wants him to be; how it is not only just okay to suffer but, the importance of embracing it because, it is necessary for growth and why we should live our lives outside of our achievements.
After getting to know Jesse inside and outside of his appearance on the show, it is clear that Jesse practices exactly what he preaches. He is generous with his time and resources beyond the typical standard we set for someone to be considered kind.
With that being said, Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E10. Jesse R. Stewart Retired Army Ranger Part 1:The Hotter the Fire, the Stronger the Iron.
Jesse R. Stewart: Author of The Phoenix Project (Summer 2020), Founder of AM300 Solutions, motivational speaker and retired Army Ranger.
In this 2 part episode Jesse talks about the importance of living life on the Mental, Emotional, Physical and Spiritual planes of existence. He addresses the dangers of relying solely on only one of these planes and the consequences he faced by doing so.
He shares the importance of accepting himself despite his flaws and enabling the Creator to shape him into who he wants him to be; how it is not only just okay to suffer but, the importance of embracing it because, it is necessary for growth and why we should live our lives outside of our achievements.
After getting to know Jesse inside and outside of his appearance on the show, it is clear that Jesse practices exactly what he preaches. He is generous with his time and resources beyond the typical standard we set for someone to be considered kind.
With that being said, Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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Want to connect with like-minded individuals working to becoming better versions of themselves? Join our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/mettlementalitygroup/
As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E9. Kari Sherman-Personal Growth Coach: Taking on the identity of a lifelong learner.
Kari Sherman is a mother, a business woman, a teacher and a personal growth coach with a passion for showing others how to improve their Mentality. She shares how our mistakes can be our greatest teacher if we take on the identity of a lifelong learner; her experience on how we grow through our failures when we don't allow ourselves to be identified by them; by learning from our mistakes and realizing that the work we are putting in now is an investment in the future versions of ourselves, we are able to become who God created us to be.
Follow Kari on instagram @karisherman.etc
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E8. Anthony Trucks: Owning your shift to make a change in your identity
Former NFL Player, American Ninja Warrior, Motivational speaker and Life Coach Anthony Trucks shares what it means to own your shift and make a change in your life. He opens up about being raised in foster care as child, eventually being adopted, watching his adoptive mother take her last breath, how he considered taking his own life after feeling like he didn't know who he was and how he was able to use these experiences as a catalyst to finding his identity and his purpose in life.
This gives him a unique perspective on what having a Mettle Mentality means as well as how you can make a shift in your identity and become the version of yourself that you know you can be. He discusses the 6 types of failure and how we often apply the wrong type of failure to our situation which prevents us from developing. I highly recommend you check out and follow his Instagram profile to learn more of what he is all about https://www.instagram.com/anthonytrucks/
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E7. Kevin Palmieri "Never Quit Kid": Positivity is key in accomplishing your mission.
Kevin Palmieri is a professional speaker, a mentor, and co-host of the Hyper Conscious Podcast. Kevin knows how to get things done even through difficult times and shares how to think positively. He shares what it took for him to pull himself out of the depths of depression to now being positive force for good in the world.
Follow Kevin on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/neverquitkid/
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
E6. Michael "Unbroken' Anthony: The Most Important Thing You Can Do Is Show Up For Yourself.
"Why is this happening to me?" Asking why will never end your suffering or bring you the results you're looking for. What if the answer to knowing why was found by asking yourself "How am I going to get out of this?" If you were ever abused as a child or are a trauma survivor in any form, you need to listen to this interview with @michaelunbroken. This interview was so powerful and so moving I was literally crying at the end of it. Michael’s message is genuine, vulnerable and will resonate with just about any suffering you have ever been through.
To purchase Michael “Unbroken” Anthony’s new book “Think Unbroken”, follow the link in his bio on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/michaelunbroken/ or here on Amazon
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E5. Michael Rutledge: Defining the Problem and Forming a Plan To "No Fail" Your Mission.
Michael Rutledge is a 30 year veteran retired Navy SEAL and Army SOAR pilot. We will be speaking about accomplishing something even though we may be inadequate. Learn to just do it by making the correct preparations to "NO FAIL" the task.. Achievements come from learning something new and doing it.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
Special thanks to Ammon Carter for editing and producing this and all episodes and media content thus far. Huge shout out to Ryan Martin for the creating our cover art. If you are in need any original graphic art visit www.RyanMartin.us for your own custom designs.
E4. Brigadier General Mike Turley: Are You A Happy Warrior? The Stoic Approach To Suffering.
The Stoic Approach To Suffering with Brigadier General Mike Turley, the current Adjutant General of the State of Utah, shares his insights on being happy while experiencing hardship and suffering.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
Be sure to follow The Mettle Mentality Podcast on social media for posts to inspire and uplift your mentality.
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
Special thanks to Ammon Carter for editing and producing this and all episodes and media content thus far. Huge shout out to Ryan Martin for the creating our cover art. If you are in need any original graphic art visit www.RyanMartin.us for your own custom designs.
Bonus: Stephanie Worth "The Airborne Unicorn": What are your goals WORTH giving up to achieve?
Have you ever wondered why you fail at achieving your goals? In this bonus episode The Airborne Unicorn: Stephanie Worth talks about setting and achieving your goals and what you must give up to make them happen.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
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E3: Dan Luna- Retired Navy Seal: What has forged your mettle?
In this episode I had a conversation with Dan Luna, retired US Navy SEAL with over 15 years of combat experience. In my opinion, he is the epitome of what it means to BE METTLE. In this episode he shares some of his experience in enduring pain and hardship and how this forged his mettle.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
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As always, If you find value in the show please leave a review and RATE us 5 Stars on Apple Podcasts. But, more importantly share this podcast with someone you know who would benefit from the messages from the guests on each episode.
Special Thanks to Ammon Carter for editing and producing this and all of the other episodes published so far and to Ryan Martin for the shows cover art. For all of your custom made graphic design needs be sure to visit Ryan's website ryanmartin.us
Episode 2: How to change the world with love with Myles Jack Morrison Founder and CEO of Swolm8.
From the moment I met Myles Jack Morrison I knew he had a story I had to share. Myles is the founder and CEO of SwolM8 clothing. In this episode he takes the time to share how he is changing the world with love and some of the lessons he has learned in life as well as in business. I truly hope you find this conversation as beneficial as I did.
E1: Everyday is a job interview with Major General Retired Jefferson S. Burton
Major General Retired Jefferson S. Burton served in the United States Army for 37 years. The last 7 of those years as the Adjutant General for the State of Utah. In this episode he shares his knowledge and experience he gained throughout his military career and his take on having a mettle mentality.
Mettle Mentality is proud to be partnered with AM300 and the Phoenix Project. To learn more about this partnership be sure to visit https://www.am300.com/mettle
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Special Thanks to Ammon Carter for editing and producing this and all of the other episodes published so far and to Ryan Martin for the shows cover art. For all of your custom made graphic design needs be sure to visit Ryan's website ryanmartin.us
Episode 0: Trailer
Coming this December 24, 2019, Christmas Eve.
Mettle Mentality Podcast. A resource for consistently believing in your ability to endure hardship with fortitude; to be mettle.
What is mettle? It's your strength of character you rely on to endure hardship with fortitude and grit.
Hosted by Preston Ewell: A Husband, Father, and an American Soldier.
2 ½ years ago when a soldier opened up to me about his 3 failed suicide attempts. He did not believe that his suffering mattered or that he mattered. While he is doing well now, I’ve reached the point that I’m done watching anyone else believe that their suffering doesn’t matter and that they do not matter. I'm done with watching people quit and give up on their dreams, goals, improving themselves, their circumstances and eventually their life. My mission is to help you understand that YOU MATTER and YOUR SUFFERING MATTERS; to get you to believe in your ability to overcome hardship by relying on your grit and mettle.
We each already have the ability within ourselves to overcome hardship, pain, addiction, insecurities and can grow from our suffering. Most of us just don’t know this yet and sometimes need someone to guide through the heartache. Join me as we learn from the experience of some Incredible individuals and begin to understand that YOU MATTER. Find your Mettle and become the best version of you that you know you can be.
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For sponsorship opportunities email us at mettlementality@gmail.com
Credits:
Mettle Mentality is edited and produced by Ammon Carter.
Cover Art created by Ryan Martin. For you own unique graphic design visit: ryansmartin.us