By Michael Whitehouse
I've got something to say, and you might need to hear it. This podcast is a stream of consciousness on topics of motivation, meaning, purpose, and using your gifts to benefit the world. Maybe you'll like it. If you do, let me know. Maybe you don't like it. If you don't, then don't listen.
I record this to motivate myself, but perhaps it may motivate you as well.
Use your gifts. Make the world a better place.
I record this to motivate myself, but perhaps it may motivate you as well.
Use your gifts. Make the world a better place.
Ep 140 - 1000 Episodes
I gave a talk at Toastmasters today about having done 1000 episodes across my various podcasts, and it got me thinking I should get back to this.
September 28, 2022
Ep 139 - Leaving It All At The Dojo Door
This has been one heck of a week. Our nation suffered an unprecedented attack. Normally, I see things happening in the news, sigh, and say "okay, so that happened." This hit me a bit harder. It was quite distracting. Add to that all the other stress of business, family life, and all the rest, and I found myself pretty well off balance yesterday. When we go to Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate, we bow upon passing through the door. This is to show respect for the dojo and the instructors, but it is also a signal to ourselves to leave everything outside. The news, the bills, the family, what's for dinner, when will I find time to do the thing, all of that stays outside. No matter what is happening outside, when I go inside my mind should be 100% karate and nothing else. It's not always easy to do so, but by the end of the class, my mind is clear, and I am refreshed to be able to return to the bustling outside world.
January 08, 2021
Ep 138 - The Story of This Clock
I didn't buy it. I got it with a combination of good luck and hard work. I got it the same way that most success comes. https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 22, 2020
Ep 137 - Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken
I had two conversations yesterday that really sum up the debate I had internally a few weeks ago. The end of that debate was to be fully authentic. I'm not going to present a cleaned up, idealized version of myself. That doesn't help you, and it's not honest with you. Thanks Butch for confirming what my instincts told me. Check out my daily motivational messages at http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 19, 2020
Ep 136 - Now is the Best Time to Be Alive
Running water. Indoor plumbing. Plentiful cheap food. Refridgeration. Safe streets. Free education. Electricity. Internet. These are just a few reasons that now, even in 2020, is one of the best times in history to be alive. Keep that in perspective. Looking for more positive messages? Check at http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 18, 2020
Ep 135 - Sweat Equity
I have lived in and owned this house for a month and a half now, but I haven't truly felt like I owned it. It just felt like the place I was living now. My wife has done a lot of work on the house, but I have mostly just worked in the house. My focus is my business and all the things I need to do to be able to pay for my share of the mortgage. Last night, it started snowing, and I went out to do a bit of shoveling. In shoveling the snow at MY house, I started to feel like it was MY house. As humans, we are hard wired that work should involve muscles. Things that we do only with our brains don't always feel like our work in the same way. I think this is some of where the sense of satisfaction in good, hard, physical labor comes from. Your body feels like it did something triggering the brain to say "good work!" Check out Conference21. 30 speakers, 2 days, 1 great event.
December 17, 2020
Ep 134 - Eliminate the Obligations of Christmas
Christmas is supposed to be a joyous holiday, but for too many it is stressful and overwhelming. The joy of giving has been replaced with the obligation of giving. Let 2020 be the year that you shed these obligations. Give because you want to. Give because you will bring joy. If there is someone you are giving to or doing something for because you are afraid they'll be upset, then stop! If someone expects gifts or create obligations upon you, that's not love. That's extortion. Simplify your holidays, and bring the joy back to Christmas.
December 15, 2020
Ep 133 - Sometimes You're Just Bummed Out
I woke up tired and worn out this morning. Just feeling kind of blah. Our instinct when this happens is to justify it. It's silly to feel down for no reason, so we make up reasons. That's even sillier. Sometimes you're just worn out. It's okay. It happens. Sometimes you're just down. That's fine too. No reason to ascribe reasons to it. Just wait it out and get back to it when you're ready. Looking for some upbeat motivation? Check out http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 14, 2020
Ep 132 - I Don't Think I'll Set Goals for 2021
I don't think I'm going to set goals for 2021. That's not entirely accurate. I'm setting goals, but I'm not setting specific ambitious goals. I'm not writing a big number on a piece of paper and tacking it on the wall. I'm not charting a specific course. It doesn't make sense right now. I'm setting two intentions: 1) Make enough money to be comfortable 2) Find my path and follow it forward For some time, I have tried to pay the bills with grand plans and audacious goals, but grand plans take time. I didn't have that time so I had to rush and constantly readjust to get faster cash. It doesn't work. Thus, the two parts. First, GET THE MONEY. Money doesn't have to come from my core business. It doesn't have to come from high prestige, exciting work. It could come from delivering boxes, copywriting, making web sites, delivering food, shoveling snow. Anything that pays a reasonable premium on my time is good. This provides the stable platform and space to work on the second part. Understand what path God has intended for me and follow it. Conference21 is shaping up to be one of my main projects. At the start of October, I hadn't even thought about running events, and it will take three months to come to fruition. It will be fantastic in many many ways, but I can only work on these long term projects if I'm taking care of the fundamentals. Who knows what opporutunities 2021 will bring? I certainly don't. So my specific plan is to place myself in a position to take advantage of whatever amazing ways appear before me. One of the projects I'm really enjoying is creating motivational content. You can get it free in your email every morning at http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 12, 2020
Ep 131 - Shortcuts Don't Work
Kyoshi was speaking to the kid's class at karate yesterday, and he said that if you're taking short cuts now, what will you do later. The answer is that I know exactly where that road leads because I followed it. High school was easy. College was easy. The world was hard. When I got out of college into the real world, my shortcuts and coasting devistated my opportunities, and it would be a decade later that I finally developed the kind of worth ethic needed to achieve success. If I had gone to a school like Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate when I was a kid, I would have enjoyed much better outcomes. Looking for more motivation, check out my daily motivational messages.
December 11, 2020
Ep 130 - Positive Attitude Without Strategy is Dangerous
I'm going around delivering presents with a white beard and a jolly demeanor. I'm basically Santa Claus! I've been listening to @Dan Carlin - Hardcore History as I drive and the current episodes are about Japan in WWII. The Japanise were the epitome of positive, can-do attitude. They were so committed that they would rather die that lose, and would literally commit suicide rather than surrender even when they were clearly defeated. This attitude did not win the war because they did not have the strategy or even honest self awareness of the situation that they needed to effectively deploy that incredible spirit. I have learned a similar lesson in my own life about the need to have strategy and to be humble enough to realize that my own spirit alone is not sufficient to achieve success. Strategy is vital. Looking for a daily boost and high impact motivational messages? Check out http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 10, 2020
Ep 129 - Am I as Smart As a 6 Year Old?
This kid is smarter than me (in some ways). As we grow up, we learn things, and some of those things are wrong. Rowan does not know what she can't do, so she does all kinds of things. I, on the other hand, place all kinds of limits on myself. Not just those "self limiting" beliefs we hear about in goal setting. More mundane things. I had written off a variety of enjoyable and profitable ventures. I am a motivational speaker, coach, author. I can't take a gig hauling packages, can I? I can be an Uber driver can I? Yeah, I can. That's what an entrepreneur is. It's someone who chases opportunities, whether they come dressed in suits or overalls. Rowan would have known that already. It took me a while to catch on. Looking for some motivation to help you pursue your opportunities? Check out http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 09, 2020
Ep 128 - Being Authentic to Myself
I have not been completely honest. Not to say I've been lying or even intentionally misleading. I just haven't been completely honest. I got started coaching because I connected with coaches who talked about the importance of big ticket programs, high dollar courses, audacious financial goals. So I tried to create those kinds of programs, but that's not me. I'm not all about money. I'm about helping people. I'm about coaching people and the feeling I get when someone says "that really helped me." The people I can help the most can't afford high ticket courses. And that's okay. I don't need to make $20,000 a month. If I can pay my bills and spend my time making people's lives better, then I am living my calling and I am happy. It took me a long time to come to this realization, but with it is the understanding that I need to be more authentic in the content I share. You don't need platitudes and theory. You want to see me live my truth so that you can learn from that how to live your own truth. Authenticity is harder than it sounds like it should be. Learn more about Michael Whitehouse.
December 07, 2020
Ep 127 - A Good Hard Day's Work
I wasn't sure if I wanted to share this one or not, but I decided that it is more valuable to you that I share my true and authentic story than for me to share some polished, improved, embelished version of my life. I'm not rich. I'm not independently wealthy. Sometimes my financial fortunes are up and sometimes they are down. I got this idea in my head that I need to make money in "professional" and "respectable" ways. But that's not right. If you make an ethical living and you put food on the table and a roof over your head, then it's a good living. If you can do some good for people at the same time, even better. And I think that my messages and my writing do that for people. Sometimes I make money coaching. Sometimes I make money delivering packages. Sometimes I make money writing. Sometimes I make money running events. That's what entrepreneurship is about. Seeing and seizing opportunities. That and never giving up, never stopping, never staying down. And it really was fun running around in the snow yesterday. Seriously. Two new episodes of Hardcore History in my queue! (Watch the video to understand)
December 07, 2020
Ep 126 - How Do You See Yourself?
How do you see yourself? Your self image affects your confidence and your outcomes. A lot of people get down on the idea of positive thinking, but positive thinking is like nutritional supplements for exercise. Without doing the exercise, they do nothing, but they can be vital to make the exercise effective. You need to do the work to be successful, but you are more likely to do the work if you have confidence and the work is more likely to acheive results. So, how do you see yourself? Do you see yourself as someone with value? Do you see yourself as someone who can succeed? Check out this article I wrote this week on the topic: https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/2020/12/04/how-do-you-see-yourself/
December 05, 2020
Ep 125 - Work the Problem
Work the problem. What does that mean? It means that you take the problem step by step, starting by clearly identifying the desired outcome. The outcome points to the solution. Then ask yourself what you need for that solution. Work backwards from the end to where you are now. What is the next thing you need to do? Do that. What's next? Do that. Repeat until success. Work the problem. Don't panic. Looking for help and support in clarifying and working your problems? Check out the SASS program: http://sas.guywhoknowsaguy.com Want to get your mind right to tackle the next problem? Sign up for a free high impact motivational message in your mailbox every morning at http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 03, 2020
Ep 124 - Morning Motivation and Evening Inspiration
If you're like me, you go on YouTube searching for inspiration. You listen to motivational messages to get fired up and get your head right. Often those messages aren't even meant for you. They're about sports or war or who knows what, but the energy is right, so you go with it. Would you like an empowering message to get you fired up in the morning, and a calming message to wind you down at night? Good, because that is what I am creating! Every morning in your email, a motivational message, and every evening, and inspiring message. To sign up free, visit http://motivation.guywhoknowsaguy.com
December 02, 2020
Ep 123 - This Kid Is Great
This episode is dedicated to my daughter Rowan who is a great kid. Parents have unique challenges working from home, but my daughter understands that if I'm recording, then it's important she not interupt. She needed to tell me something, but she waited so quietly for me to finish my video that I didn't even know she was there. This kid is great.
December 01, 2020
Ep 122 - It Really Is Harder
It's not just you. The economy is way more difficult than it used to be. The era of getting a degree, getting a job, and keeping it for your whole career passed almost half a century again. Even worse, it only lasted for less than three decades. Our ideal of what work should be like it based on a period in time that passed in an historical blink of the eye. The good news is that opportunity still exists, but it only exists if you are looking at the situation that we face in reality and not some fantasy of past economic greatness. If you'd like to talk more about your own sitauation, visit https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com, and click the button the schedule a call. I'd love to learn more about you and see how we can get you moving on the right track.
November 30, 2020
Ep 121 - All Magic Has a Price
Why do I use a smartphone but no longer use a Fitbit? Why do I love my smart home device but hate my car's touchscreen display? We live in a world of magic. A device that I carry in my pocket connects me to the entire world, all it's knowledge, and all it's people. I use this device to record videos that I can share with you, on demand, at no cost. Magic! But all magic has a price. Sometimes the magic is not worth the price, and sometimes the price itself makes the magic no longer worth it. Some technology by its nature makes itself ineffective for its intended purpose. If you haven't yet, you should join my Facebook Group at www.facebook.com/groups/confidentconnected
November 29, 2020
Ep 120 - Consent: The Difference Between Coaching and Abuse
What is the difference between performing surgery and stabbing? Both involve using a blade to cut a person. The difference is consent and intent. In sugery, the patient consents to the proceedure, and the intent is to do good. This is not the case with an assault. The same is true with coaching and motivation. To effectively coach or motivate someone, you must have their consent. If you coach tells you take responsibility for everything you do and find changes in yourself to improve the situation, there is consent and the advice is valuable. If a parent or boss or religious leader does the same thing to deflect blame and responsibility from themselves onto you, the same message, without consent and with selfish intent, becomes abusive. This video goes a bit deeper into heavier topics than I usually do. You may find it interesting, but I warn you that it could be upsetting to some people. I'd love to hear your feedback in the comments or privately at email@example.com Check out my other podcast at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/podcast
November 28, 2020
Ep 119 - This Black Friday, Invest In Yourself
It's Black Friday, that most American of holidays when we buy lots of stuff! As you spend all this money on gifts, I'd like you to spare a moment to ask yourself how much you have invested in yourself this year. The greatest investment you can make is in yourself. I have created a special Black Friday program to allow you to get clarity and get ready for 2021 for less than the cost of a TV. Check it out at http://2021package.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 27, 2020
Ep 118 - Happy Thanksgiving
Happy Thanksgiving! I am doing a daily motivation series (http://crush2021.guywhoknowsaguy.com) I recorded a special Thankgiving message, and I wanted to share it with everyone today. I made a nice video to go with this at https://youtu.be/9pJA9CA6rxg
November 26, 2020
Ep 117 - Discomfort Makes You Stronger
Nothing says good morning like stepping out into 34 degree with nothing but shorts on. This morning, I went out on the deck, did some exercise in the cold, and after 60 seconds, I was fully awake and feeling great. We are so conditioned to avoid discomfort that we diminish the potential of our lives. Anything worth doing is at least a little uncomfortable, but a childhood full of "wear a coat", "be careful", "you'll get hurt" have condemned too many of us to a life of mediocrity. Mediocrity is the ultimate discomfort, so don't be afraid of being uncomfortable to become the great person you are meant to be. Looking for more motiviation. You will love the Crush 2021 Motivational Series. http://crush2021.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 25, 2020
Ep 116 - Keep Sleeping or Get to Work and Make Things Happen
I woke up a 3:50 AM to the sound of rain on the window. I was thinking about some frustrations I've had. Projects that haven't gotten the response I'd hoped for. Initiatives that haven't worked out as planned. So I gave up... ...on sleeping. People ask me how to keep going when it gets hard. The answer is action. Depression is a low energy state. If you are getting frustrated, depressed, hopeless, the answer is to take action. If you're massively frustrated, take massive action! The answer is not on Netflix. It's not in bed. The answer is in action. Get up. Get to work. Get to action. Get to success. Around the same time I woke up, many people received my motivational message in their inbox. If you'd like a blast of motivation every day from now until 2021, visit http://crush2021.guywhoknowsaguy.com to sign up.
November 23, 2020
Ep 115 - Plans Change, Goals Endure
The how changes, but if the goal is clear, you'll figure it out. Today things did not go as planned. There were a number of surprises, but because we were clear on our goal, the results came out well... eventually. This year has been the same way for many of us. This is why knowing where you want to end up, clarifying your goals is so important. And this is why I am running a series of free goal setting workshops over the next few weeks. If you know the goal, you can figure out the how. Visit http://countdown.guywhoknowsaguy.com to sign up for this FREE goal setting workshop.
November 23, 2020
Ep 114 - Weakness Leaving the Body
Losing weaknesses is an interesting experience, especially if you are more advanced in age. Things that you could never do before, that you got used to not being able to do, are suddenly possible and sometimes easy. A year ago, I couldn't climb a flight of stairs without getting winded. I certainly couldn't do leg lifts or carry heavy objects over a distance. I couldn't even step over a guardrail without great effort. Now, at 40, I'm watching my physical weaknesses fall away one by one. As children, we are used to getting stronger and more capable, then we assume that our capabilities will reduce progressively as we get older after a certain point. But it doesn't have to be that way. We can continue to increase capabilities and shed weaknesses for many more years after... IF we put in the effort. Marital arts has been very good to me, and I'd like to give back by giving anyone who studies martial arts a gift of access to one of my motivational programs at no charge. If you are a martial artist, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with the discipline you study, and I'll reach out to give you access.
November 21, 2020
Ep 113 - What's Next?
What's Next? The best place to focus our attention is on the present and the immediate future. If you look back, then you are stuck in the past. If you look too far foward, then you are stuck in a dream. By focusing on the very next thing, you stay moving forward. Had a great victory? Don't get stuck there. Where is your next great victory? Terrible defeat? Don't get stuck there. On to the next. What's next? Would you like a powerful motivational message in your email every morning for the rest of the year? Visit http://crush2021.guywhoknowsaguy.com and sign up for the Motivational Countdown to Crush 2021!
November 20, 2020
Ep 112 - You Are Undefeated
If you are reading this then you have an unbroken record of surviving every challenge that life has thrown at you. Nothing has been able to kill you. Nothing has been able to stop you. You are UNDEFEATED! We sometimes focus on our failures and think that we are losers. But we are not losers because you cannot lose until the game is over, and as long as you draw breath, the game goes on and you remain undefeated. You have survived everything that has come before, and every day after this one is a chance to be victorious. Want to be updated when I post every Michael's Motivation? The best way to do it is to follow my Patreon page at patreon.com/guywhoknowsaguy Let me help you to plan to win 2021. Join me for a free webinar on seven different dates over the rest of 2020. http://countdown.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 19, 2020
Ep 111 - What I Miss From the Quarantine
Like all of us, I have made a lot of lifestyle changes. I didn't do a lot of in person socializing. I didn't go to bars before the quarantine, so that didn't change. There's no in person networking events anymore, and that's a pretty big change, but I am realizing that the thing I really miss from pre-pandemic times is driving for Uber. It's not about the money. It's that when I was driving, it was relaxing and fun. It was like going out to bar, but without having to pay to be there. I got to meet all kinds of interesting people in the middle of their fun evening. I got to listen to podcasts and audiobooks. And it was simple. I turned on the app, and I did what it told me. For my ADHD brain, that was a vacation in itself. What unexpected thing do you find yourself missing from pre-pandemic times? Share in the comments. https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 18, 2020
Ep 110 - So, This Is My Life Now
"So, this is my life now" Some time ago, I accepted the idea that my life would go to unexpected places and the more quickly I accepted the shift from one phase to the next, the happier I would be. I have lived a great variety of different lifestyles, and at first I would resist the transitions from one phase to another. Many people in 2020 have adopted this attitude of "sure, whatever," as they found that anything could happen in this crazy year. I adopted this attitude years ago, and it has been of great benefit. When 2020 and quarantine and all the rest happened, I did not waste time lamenting all that was lost. I just said, "so, this is my life now," and started working on living my best life in new circumstances. So, this is your life now. What will you do with it?
November 16, 2020
109 - Opportunity Through the Eyes of a Child
What do you see when you look at a pile of empty, broken boxes that have been rained on? Do you see trash that needs to be cleaned up? That's not unreasonable. Do you see the makings of a fun, funky, fantastic obstacle course? That's what a child sees. In The Little Prince, the Aviator says, "Growing up is not the problem. Forgetting is." As we grow up, we limit our view of the world to that which is reasonable and rational. But great things are done by those who think beyond reason. Was it reasonable to say that humans could fly? Was it reasonable to suggest that people could be connected by tiny computers in their pocket? Was it reasonable to build a car that everyone could afford? When you see the world through the eyes of a child, you see opportunities where others see obstacles. You see a path where others see a thicket. When you can see like no one else, you can do what no one else does. How can you turn trash into fun today? Contact me through my web site. http://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 15, 2020
Ep 108 - Is Your Business Rotting From the Inside?
Is your business rotting from the inside? As a new homeowner, I am coming to realize the importance of identifying little problems before they become big problems, like this wet spot in my ceiling. A business is the same way. I recently heard about a customer who is going to be leaving a vendor because they are fed up with the rude accounts receivable person. The owner has no idea this is happening, and there is no telling how many customers this one employee is driving away. How do you know if your business is rotting from the inside? Stay in touch with your customers. Post surveys. Talk to them when they come in. Call them. Communicate in any way you can. Make them comfortable to tell you what is bothering them. I asked this customer why she didn't talk to the owner about it. "I don't know him," was her answer. Ouch. Do you know about my Skills + Accountability = Success System? Take a look. It might interest you. http://sas.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 14, 2020
Ep 107 - Being Open to Opportunities
It's been a long road to our new home. (Not literally. It's actually around the corner.) I'd like to be able to say that it was all because we set an intention and a goal and all that, but I can't. For much of the last six years, we never thought this would happen. Heck, in January we didn't think this would happen. What made the difference was that we were open to opportunities when they presented themselves. 2020 was full of challenges, but it was also full of opportunity if we were willing to see it and willing to act. We did act, and now we are out of our little apartment into our great house. Wherever you are, there are opportunities. Are you open to them? https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 13, 2020
Ep 107 - Accountability - the most important thing in business
Success is not about going big things. It's about setting up habits and systems to do the right small things over and over again. Just like my routine of drinking the green juice every morning, a business needs a routine of key actions that will move it forward. The challenge is that there are so many new ideas and strategies popping up every day that it can be hard to stay focused. This is why accountability is crucial. Most entrepreneurs cannot afford a personal accountability coach, but group accountability coaching is much more affordable. For example, my Skills + Accountability = Success program is only $250 per month and puts you with a team of other entrepreneurs who will hold you accountable, keep you focused, and be there to help you celebrate your wins and learn from your setbacks. More information is at http://sas.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 12, 2020
Ep 106 - Every Day Is a Day to Begin Again
Every day the sun rises, and every day is an opportunity to begin again. Wherever you are, no matter how successful or unsuccessful you have been, today can be the day that you start fresh. How are you doing on your goals? What are you trying to do in your life or business? Is it going well? If you could start over, what would you do? Share in the comments. Today is my day for massive action. I have been unfocused for a few weeks, but today I am beginning again. Maybe this can be your day to begin again as well. Share your thoughts in the Confident, Connected, and Influential Facebook Group
November 11, 2020
Ep 105 - Accountability is the Key to Success
Skills + Accountability = Success This is a basic formula in business, and it is also the name of my new program. If you are like most entrepreneurs, you don't lack for ideas and strategies. You lack execution. This program focuses on accountability and execution. With weekly group calls, coaching, and ongoing support, we help you to stay focused. You will set weekly goals and game plans to achieve those goals. You'll be held accountable each week to yourself. You'll be amazed at what you can achieve with focused action. For more information and to sign up, visit http://sas.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 10, 2020
Ep 104 - Instead of Wishing Upon a Star, Make Plans
As I sat on my back deck of my new house last night, I saw the first star appear in the sky. It reminded me of the various ways I used to make wishes in the past. Wishing on the first star. Wishing at 11:11. Getting to that place, on the back deck of a house that I and my wife *own* was not the result of wishing. It was the result of setting intention, making plans, and executing on those place. Looking at that star, I realized that I don't have any wishes to make on the star. If I want something, I won't wish for it... I'll plan for it. What do you wish for? Are you counting on the stars to deliver or are you making plans? Let me know at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/contact
November 09, 2020
Ep 103 - What Is Your Perfect Workspace?
What is a perfect workspace for you? Is it about having space? Is it about organization and lack of clutter? Do you prefer quiet or background noise? Does music help you work? Tell us what you think.
November 08, 2020
Ep 102 - Buying a House the Guy Who Knows A Guy Way
Buying a house can be a stressful process, but like most such things, it is much less stressful if you can do it with people you trust. The thing about being The Guy Who Knows A Guy is that when I do something like buy a house, I've got a "guy" for all my needs. In this process, my Realtor, my mortgage guy, closing attorney, home inspector, home insurance guy, and even the seller were all known to us before we got started. When we hit bumps in the road, we had confidence in our team that they would make it work for us, and there was much less stress than we would otherwise have experienced. I'm not sharing this to show off Rather I want to encourage you to build your own network so that when you next have a big project, you'll know your own "guys." Want to know how? It's all in my book The Guy Who Knows A Guy. Find it at http://book.guywhoknowsaguy.com Want more great networking tips? Subscribe to my email list at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/subscribe
November 06, 2020
ep 101 - How to Ask for Help
You should never be afraid to ask people for help, but you should ask the right way and always accept that they are in their rights to say no. The key is to ask for help in a way that is high value to you and low cost to them. For example, if you ask me to share your Facebook page or web site, I'll probably do that for you. That is a light lift. On the other hand, because I don't like to alienate people, asking me to publicly endorse a candidate is a very heavy lift for me. When asking people for help, think about what they can give you easily that you can benefit from. That is where you will find the greatest value.
November 05, 2020
Ep 100 - Stop Focusing on the Election, and Focus on Yourself
While we wait for the results of the election, it can be tempting to fixate on things we can't affect. Unless you are a ballot counter, campaign attorney, or otherwise directly involved, your time and attention is better spent elsewhere. It can be exhausting to keep refreshing your news apps and social media for the latest news from Pennsylvania and Wisconsin. I don't mean tired. Tired is how I feel after a good workout or a hard day of work. There is satisfaction in being tired. Exhaustion, however, is different. It's what happens when you drain yourself without benefit. Your corporate overlords are perfectly happy for you to exhaust yourself instead of working on improving your own opportunities. You are too worn out to cook, so you order out. You need retail therapy, so you buy stuff you don't need. Your exhaustion is their profit. Don't worry, when the results come in, you'll hear about them. Until them, let them do their thing. You have your own thing to do.
November 04, 2020
Ep 99 - The Sun Will Still Rise Tomorrow
Today is election day, and there's a lot of anxiety. Who will win? How will that affect me and those I care about? Will the results be accepted? Will there be violence? There's a lot to worry about. The fact is that for most of us, the sun will rise tomorrow like it did yesterday. You'll get up, take a shower, go to work (hopefully), and go on with your life. It is important to be aware and involved in the national issues, but you can make a greater difference by focusing on ways you can increase your own capacities. Build your own business. Build your own network. Build your own resources. Then, when you engage in social change and politics, you have far more to call upon to make the world a better place. "They" want you to spend the next month thinking about the election and not focusing on increasing your own power. Don't listen to them. Build your own greatness! Join the conversation on The Confident, Connected, and Influential Facebook Group.
November 03, 2020
Ep 98 - Stay On Task
Join the conversation on our Facebook group Confident, Connected, and Influential When people fail, it is often not because they give up. It is because they get distracted. They get Shiny Object Syndrome. They lose focus on the fundamentals that drive the project. Money. Revenue. Clients. Recruiting. Once you have a little success, it's easy to start getting excited and jump into all these other areas. Diversification is fine, as long as you keep the core in mind. But it is so easy to get distracted from that core, because other parts of the business may be more exciting and more fun. I love making these videos. They are so much fun, but they bring in a tenth of what my focused prospecting activities bring in. I got distracted with all these whizbang technologies and techniques and got away from the simple, core strategy that got me started. Whizbang is great, but don't give up the tried and true for it. We all need a reminder now and then.
November 02, 2020
Ep 97 - These Are The Good Times
Join the conversation in our Facebook Group. We often do not recognize the times that we'll look back on wistfully when we're going through them. We're fixated on challenges and stress. So much so that we miss those moments that we long to return to. This is especially true if you have kids. If you think back on when your kids were younger, or maybe when you were with that lost love, you will probably hold onto some wonderful moments. You may be vaguely aware that you didn't make more of those moments because you were busy, but many people can't even remember what seemed so important at the time. What moments are happening today? What in 2020 will look look back on longingly? Are you letting them slip by because you are choosing to focus on the worry and the stresses? Or are you enjoying them while you are here? Learn more about Michael Whitehouse at http://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
November 01, 2020
Ep 96 - Just Take Action
Tony Robbins talks about taking "massive action" to turn a decision into reality, but some people are intimidated by this idea of massive action. "I can't take massive action! There's a quarantine! There's distance learning! We've got all this stuff to deal with!" You don't need to take massive action. You just need to take action. Martin Luther King Jr. said, "If You Can't Fly Then Run, If You Can't Run Then Walk, If You Can't Walk Then Crawl, but Whatever You Do You Have to Keep Moving Forward." If you can take massive action, you should do so. If you cannot, do what you can. Set up that Patreon account. Open a Mailchimp account to start collecting emails. Put up a simple blog. Start a Facebook group. Just take that first step. Then take the next step. Then the next. I crawled for many years before I could walk, and walked for years before I could run. As Lois Coffee Koffi says, "Strive for progress, not perfection." Join the conversation on in our Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/confidentconnected Find resources at http://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/resources
October 31, 2020
Ep 95 - Raise Your Own Minimum Wage
Join the conversation on our Facebook page. There is a lot of talk about minimum wages and living wages. That's a political issue, but shouldn't you have your own minimum wage? Why would you sell your labor for less than you need to live on? Especially when there are opportunities to make your own money entrepreneurially. The key to being able to set your own minimum wage is having options. Having your own business and side hustles create options, but having a powerful network creates options as well. This is why I have created the Networking to a Job in 21 Days program. It is designed to teach you skills and strategies to build the network that will give you the confidence that you can find a better job, while also providing accountability and motivation to keep you on track while you build it. Find more information at http://jobseek.guywhoknowsaguy.com
October 30, 2020
Ep 94 - You Should Not Fear Losing Your Job
Join the conversation at our Facebook group. You should not be in fear of losing your job or your significant other unless something is wrong. If your partner kept you in constant fear of losing them, you would describe that relationship as unhealthy, yet people allow their bosses to keep them in constant fear all the time. They have the leverage to do this because so many people don't know how they can find another job if they need one. They don't have a personal brand, they don't have a network. My mission is to empower everyone so they have confidence that they could find a job if they ever needed one, or, if they are jobless now, could find one quickly. I have created the Jobseek program and Networking to a Job in 21 Days course. For more information, classes, and FREE strategy guides, visit http://jobseek.guywhoknowsaguy.com
October 29, 2020
Ep 93 - Kicking Stress and Anxiety
Are stress response system is built to allow us to fight a wild animal or run from a wild fire. Fight or flight. Cortisol and adrenaline are released to focus our attention, overcharge our muscles, enhance our endurance so we can run or fight to our maximum. But our monkey brains cannot tell the difference between a lion or a fire and an angry boss or an unexpected bill, so it responds the same way. Adrenaline is designed to be used. There is not a good mechanism to flush it because it is consumed with physical activity. This is why we get stress and anxiety. Exercise is a powerful solution to stress because it is what the body is built to do. We are built to encounter threat, release stress chemicals, then go all out to deal with the threat, consuming the chemicals. Like most machines, if you don't use them as constructed, you will have difficulty. The job market is similar. The 21st century job market is no longer built for job sites, cover letters, and resumes. If you or someone you know is having trouble finding a job, it's not you're fault. You're just searching like it's 1985. Visit jobseek.guywhoknowsaguy.com for free resources and an exciting new program that teaches you how to find a job in 2020 in 21 days or less. http://jobseek.guywhoknowsaguy.com Join the conversation in our Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/confidentconnected
October 28, 2020
Ep 92 - Stuff Is Expensive. You Should Charge More.
I meet people all the time who don't charge nearly enough for their work. They tell me they don't know what to charge, or they think that no one will pay them what they want to charge. Then I go to Staples. Cheap notebooks with cute sayings on the cover: $15. Package of colored pens: $12. Fancy looking pens: $20. Office Chairs $300 and up. A box of paper is $50-$90. Have you ever shopped furniture? A new couch is $1,500 to $3,000. Think about what you have to offer. If you're an artist, is your original work worth more than a ream of blank office paper? Is it worth more than a pack of colored pens? Yeah. Probably. Do you offer a service that makes people's lives better? Does it make their life better than a couch? You can get a couch a the Salvation Army for $100. A nice, comfortable couch, but people spend $3,000. Would their life be better if they bought the Salvation Army couch and hired you? If the answer is yes, then you should charge what you're worth! Need some help knowing what you're worth? Let's get on a free coaching call. freecoaching.guywhoknowsaguy.com It'll be worth more than a pack of pens!
October 27, 2020
Ep 91 - The Joy of Achievement
Join the conversation in our Facebook group: Confident, Connected, and Influential we rarely get to focus on a single thing and drive it to completion in out busy, bustling, distracted lives. Yesterday, I participated in the 100 Kata Challenge. It's just like it sounds. We get together as a dojo at Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate and all did 100 kata. We do kata all the time, but what made this special was that we had set a specific, measurable goal and that the goal could be achieved by iteration. My friend Daniel GreenWolf shared a concept of #CanYouCount along these same lines. That you can achieve anything if you can break it down into repeatable steps. What made this event so great was that for four hours we were focused on one thing. No Facebook. No email. No phone calls. Just kata and company of others doing the same thing. We are not built to multitask. It causes anxiety. It is why so many of us feel so much stress. Where you can find an opportunity to fully engage into an activity, set a goal and hit it? www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
October 26, 2020
Ep 90 - The Hard Road Is Sometimes the Fun Road
Join the conversation in our Facebook group: Confident, Connected, and Influential As adults, we are sometimes beaten down into feeling that the hard road is not worth it. We don't know what we'll get, so we choose to avoid paying the price. Children can only imagine adventure and excitement. I was reminded of this when walking with my daughter in the park. We didn't get more than a hundred yards down the path before she wanted to go climb on the rocks and explore a stump. With all the challenges and uncertainty in life, we can sometimes forget that the hard road is often the fun road.
October 26, 2020
Ep 89 - Adventure is Everywhere
Join the conversation in our Confident, Connected, and Influential Facebook Group. I had to bring my daughter with me on the Groton Ct Rotary road cleanup today. At first I was worried if she'd be okay with it, but to her it was a great adventure! She was so excited to use the trash grabber. She was so excited to discover what was on the ground. She also discovered this hidden path into an interesting space to explore. To me, it was just a chance to serve with Rotary. To her, it was a great adventure. Seeing the way she saw the world, reminded me to pay attention to the adventures around me every day. Want to talk about the opportunity for adventure in your life and business? Let's have a call to talk about it. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com to set up a free call.
October 24, 2020
Ep 88 - Whom Do you Work For?
Whom do you work for? The answer should not be the name of someone else's company. You should work for yourself and your family. You should work for the causes you care about. You should work for your personal mission. Even when I have worked for other people, I always maintained a mindset that I was a business owner, and my one person business had an exclusive client with whom we had a mutually profitable arrangement. If you think of yourself as working for yourself then you are less likely to accept low pay, poor conditions, and bad treatment. The confidence of thinking like a boss gives you leverage, and a more equal relationship makes you a better worker and makes the whole company stronger. Whom do you work for? Hopefully yourself. Not sure how to get your boss attitude? Let's talk. freecoaching.guywhoknowsaguy.com That's the link to have a free half hour call with me to talk about how to get your attitude right.
October 23, 2020
Ep 87 - Change Your World To Change The World
Join the conversation in our Confident, Connected, and Influential Facebook Group You can't help the poor by becoming one of them. What if I told you that the billionaire class is happy to see you spending all your energy fighting for social change and political change? They know that there is only so much that organization and letter writing and protests can do against well funded and well organized political opposition. They also know that as long as you're focused on some distant vision of changing the world, you're not focused on developing your own ability to make your own money and shed your dependence on wage work. You see, the thing that is much scary that some new government regulation is the idea that the population they depend on to exploit with low wages to drive their profits will realize that the Internet gives almost every American the power to launch their own business and make their own money. Imagine what it would do to Walmart and Amazon and all the rest if every one of their workers learned how to make the same money they make it their crappy job with an online business. It would force them to raise wages and improve conditions in an instant! So, keep working for social change. Keep trying to make the world better. You need to change your world before you can change the world. Take some of that energy to make your own world better. Improve your own situation, because the better your situation, the more resources you have to make everyone else's situation better. Want to talk about first steps? Let's set up a free half hour coaching session and I'll get you started.
October 22, 2020
Ep 86 - Excuses Are a Limitless Resource
Stay connected in the Confident, Connected, and Influential Facebook Group There is always a reason why can't get started on a business or a project. "I'm waiting for the kids to go back to school." "I need to pay off this debt first." "I don't have the certification." "I need more money." And then there's always "Covid" for all occasions. If we could find a way to power cars with excuses, we'd have the ultimate clean energy. But when you make a decision to get started, it's amazing how many of those excuses vanish. That thing you thought you couldn't start without suddenly isn't important. That resource you thought you were short of turns out to be more plentiful. The obstacle turns out to be smaller. The time to start is now. What if you have a legitimate challenge? Are you working on it or are you just using it as an excuse. Success is a journey, so if you're working on your first step, that's fine... as long as you're actually working on it, not just thinking about it. https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
October 21, 2020
Ep 85 - It Says Second Income, Not Second Job
Join the conversation in our Facebook group. I made a post recently which suggested that people should have a second source of income. Many of the comments focused on the idea of getting a second *job*. But it doesn't say "job", it says "income." Income doesn't need to come from another job. It can come from a side hustle. It can from from selling creative work. It can come from a Patreon campaign. It can come from a side business. It can come from investment income. Even if you have nothing to invest, you probably have a skill you could deploy today to increase your income. The first step is believing it is possible. After that, it's just a matter of execution. Do you need help with that first step? Or do you believe it's possible but you're not sure where your opportunity lies? Let's talk. Click here to schedule a free half hour coaching session so we can figure out what your first step is.
October 20, 2020
Ep 84 - Treasures In Your Own Back Yard
Follow our new Facebook page: Confident, Connected, and Influential In these times, many of us feel a bit trapped, but we're not actually locked in our houses. We can go all kinds of places, just not where there are crowds. Parks, beaches, mountains, trails, even urban environments are safe to visit if you are prudent. Travel to distant places is not a great idea, but there are probably people who would consider where you live to be an interesting destination, so why not take a trip to your own town. Whether you live by the ocean, the plains, the forest, the mountains, or the city, find those treasures right in your back yard to visit.
October 19, 2020
Ep 83 - Health Is a Business Resource
Entrepreneurs (and everyone else) sometimes believe they are too busy to work on their health. I used to believe this. Then I started juicing and practicing karate. My health improved. My strength and endurance improved. My stamina improved. More importantly, suddenly I wasn't getting tired at 2:30 in the afternoon. I wasn't losing productivity halfway through the day. The 4 hours a week I was spending on my health returned a dividend of over 8 productive hours. You don't spend time on health. You invest time in health. Check out our new group Confident, Connected, and Influential
October 19, 2020
Ep 82 - What If the Day Starts Bad?
My Friday got off to a pretty bad start. Family issues. Bank issues. Client issues. All before 10 AM. What a day! Wait, that's not a day. That's just two hours of the day. There were 7 hours of day left! Too often, we take a bad morning to be a harbinger of evil to come. What if, instead, we looked at it like getting all the bad stuff out of the way early? What if we choose to believe that a bad morning is a guarantee of a good day? Is it true? Probably not. But wouldn't you rather spend your day believing that something good is coming up next than the alternative? One good thing that's definitely coming is my new Facebook Group: Confident, Connected, and Influential. Check it out!
October 18, 2020
Ep 81 - Give Up, Slide In, or Open the Gate?
Join our Facebook Group to be part of the conversation Subscribe to the email list for all the updates What do you do when you come to an unexpected obstacle? Yesterday, I went to pick up my daughter and found the gate to be partially closed. People had three reactions. One parked further away, accepting things as what they were. One squeezed their car in, barely avoiding scraping the door on the gate. I stopped my car, got out, and opened the gate the rest of the way. Are you someone who just accepts obstacles, do you find a way around them, or do you eliminate them?
October 16, 2020
Ep 80 - What Do I Mean by "Control Your Destiny"?
Join the conversation in the Guy Who Knows A Guy Group. When people hear things like "remote work" and "control your destiny" and the like they are skeptical. There are all kinds of unscrupulous folks selling all kinds of malarky. I'm not selling you anything. What I'm doing is pointing out (for free) the opportunities which have become available due to the Internet. The economy and labor market are changing, but too many people are still being taken advantage of by employers who still do things the old way. Options create power. If you know that you could make money outside your job, you would have more leverage in your job. I want to help you recognize your options. If you'd like to learn more, let's talk.
October 15, 2020
Ep 79 - Things Are Actually Pretty Good These Days
These are unusual times when I expect to get some hostile pushback from a title like "Things Are Actually Pretty Good These Days." Everything is political these days, including the fact that everything is political. But are things really all that bad? No. They are not, especially when considered in a historical perspective. Even with everything factored in, we're safer today that an average person would have been at most times in history. We can travel safely without a particularly high risk of violent death. We have longer lifespans. We are generally free to associate, move, speak, and act. We have the Internet which allows anyone to have a voice and reach and audience. We also have tremendous economic opportunity, whether or not we are aware of it, and whether or not was choose to take advantage of it. My work is dedicated to helping people recognize and take advantage of that opportunity. Tomorrow, I'll be talking a bit more about what that opportunity is all about. If you'd like to connect and talk about your situation to see what opportunity might exist for you, you should take advantage of the free 30 minute coaching session I offer. Click here to schedule: https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/free
October 14, 2020
Ep 78 - The Story Behind the Yamashita Episodes
Many people look at me and admire how bold I am in putting out all these videos, but I want to share a bit of the behind the scenes. For some time, I was shy about making these karate related videos. I was the new kid at karate, and I felt a little awkward making these videos, so I would sneak over to the parking lot to shoot them. Then, I saw that the dojo was sharing them, that they liked them. They appreciated that I was helping to share their brand, and they were excited about the way I was tying karate to the rest of life. There was no reason to be shy. You have more to offer than you think. Don't hide your flame. Let the world see your light. Unsure how to share your light with the world? Let's talk. I'll do a free, no obligation half hour coaching session with you to identify the gift you bring to the world and point you in the right direction to use it. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/free
October 13, 2020
Ep 77 - Why So Concerned About the Boss's Comfort?
Why are people so concerned about their boss's comfort? The workforce has been tricked into believe that it is acceptable and normal for your boss to act like a jealous boyfriend when it comes to your job prospects. An entrepreneur is always on the lookout for new opportunities. An employee should be as well. Why doesn't the boss want you exploring options and developing connections? Because that reduces their power over you. They might have to pay you better and treat you better if you have the leverage of being able to leave. This is why networking is so important, even if your job doesn't require it. I talk to people all the time who are desperately scrambling for a job because they disassembled their job finding apparatus after they got their last job and now they are starting from scratch. Don't do that. You should always seek to grow and maintain your network. You never know when you might need it.
October 11, 2020
Ep 76 - I Saw the Principal When He Was in Trouble With Me
Join the conversation in The Guy Who Knows A Guy Facebook Group When I was in middle school and high school, I went to the principal's office fairly often... because he was often in trouble with me. You read that right. I would go because there was something I didn't like about the way the school was being run, and I intended to fix it. For reasons I'll get into in future content, I learned early on to not accept things just because some authority says so. I respected authority, but I respected my own ability to influence that authority as well. Too many people have learned to just go along, to just let things be, to not make waves. There is great merit in knowing how to pick your battles, but there is no virtue in allowing yourself to be walked over. You can't wait for the right time to make a change in your life if things aren't the way you want. Now is the right time. It gets better because you make it better. And if things aren't better? March back into the principal's office and talk to him again.
October 10, 2020
Ep 75 - Change Your World Before Changing The World
Join the Guy Who Knows A Guy Facebook Group I talk to people every day who choose to focus on political reform or some kind of great revolution rather than focusing on improving their own situation. There are many things that we should change on a societal level. That change takes a long time. Changing things on a personal level is much faster. You can't wait for the government to fix things for you. You can't wait for the slow arc of history to change things. If you want to work to change the world, that's great! That's noble! That's wonderful! Wouldn't it be better to be a wealthy influential revolutionary than a broke powerless revolutionary? So, keep working to change the world, but also work to change your world. Don't use "the system" as an excuse. People just like you are finding opportunities to carve out their own place in the economy, to control their income, and to control their schedule. It's hard to march in the revolution at noon if your shift starts at 1.
October 09, 2020
Ep 74 - My Mission and Minimum Wage
Join the Guy Who Knows A Guy Group on Facebook Minimum wage is important because many people in the labor market are unable or unwilling to advocate for themselves. Often this is due to mindset. People see themselves as low-wage workers, only worth what some big company will pay them. What if everyone realized that they could make money making web sites or copy writing or doing Internet research or any number of things that a person can make money at remotely? What would it do to the labor market if even a third of low wage workers realized they could make better money in less time working from home? It would force wages up because companies would have to compete with every person's ability to make money entrepreneurially. My mission is to spread this word so far and wide that it impacts the labor market. It doesn't mean everyone has to go off and start a side hustle or a business. It works even if you are simply aware that you have the option when you negotiate with your boss! If you are hearing this and despairing that you don't have those skills that you can make money from, I encourage you to reach out to me. Let's do that free half our coaching session I do and find your talents. Even if you don't start your own business, just knowing you can will change your life. If you'd like to talk more, visit https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and contact me.
October 08, 2020
Ep 73 - Don't Quit Because It's Hard
Join the Guy Who Knows A Guy Group on Facebook I have always enjoyed martial arts as a concept, but I've rarely had the privilege of training, so I am pleased that I can now train at Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate. I've found that what I learn there synergizes very well with what I teach as a coach. Discipline. Continual improvement. Resilience. These are just a few things I'm reminded every time I walk into the dojo. Last night, the workout was hard. I was tired. My lungs burned and muscles ached. It was the kind of moment where one might say "Too much! I quit!" But a key to success is to commit to never quit because it is too hard. You can quit because you're on the wrong path. You can quit because the destination is not one you want. If you're going the right way to the right place, it will get hard at some point. "It's too hard" is never a reason to quit. It just means that you're going the right way. Some people have asked me about Yamashita, so if you're near Groton, I'd love to invite you to come as my guest to our dojo. I've arranged with Kyoshi that you can train free for two weeks to check it out, If you're interested in learning more, contact me.
October 07, 2020
Ep 72 - Despair Affects Us All
Stay connected. Join the Guy Who Knows A Guy Facebook group! Despair can creep in for anyone. When you're trying to build something, you may find yourself having doubts and fears, and then fearing and doubting your own feelings. You're told that you have to believe, that you have to have conviction, that you have to visualize to manifest. So, when you feel despair, you may feel that your negative feelings will sabatoge your success. I'm here to tell you that despair, doubt, depression affect everyone. The most successful people you see have dark moments. They may not share them, but they have them. And that's okay. When you have them, that's okay. If you are on the right path, just keep pushing forward and you'll find the light. If you're not sure if you're on the right path, let's talk. Click here for a free 30 minute coaching session.
October 06, 2020
Ep 71 - Gratitude Feeds Action
You will get what you appreciate. If you show gratitude when people do things you like, you will get more of it. This isn't some new age spiritual concept. This is simple human psychology. People want to feel appreciated. They want to feel they are making a difference. When you say thank you with sincerity, they feel that. It means something to them. It feeds their soul. And they'll want it again. If you have someone who has gone 10% down the road to where you want them, show gratitude if you want them to reach 100%. What does not work is berating them. If someone gives you 10% and all you can say is "not good enough," you'll never see that other 90% because they'll remember how you made them feel. A great example of this is the way that some people will attack their own political allies. Someone will post that they condemn white supremacy, maybe face some blowback for even that simple act, but they they get people who they are trying to support declaring they are not good enough. This doesn't inspire more engagement. It inspires disengagement. Gratitude feeds the heart and soul, and people will do a lot for it. Deploy gratitude and you'll be grateful for the results you see. For more information about Michael Whitehouse, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
October 05, 2020
Ep 70 - Things Will Change, Let's Be Ready
For as long as I can remember people have said "the only constant is change." Before Covid, before 9/11, people were saying that the only constant is change. In front of us we have a contentious election, climate change, trade war, and who know what else. I'm not worried about it. The reason I'm not worried is that I have not tied myself to any particular outcome or resource. I have committed my self to resilient thinking. Whatever happens, I'll look at the situation and ask what the best move is from that position, then take it. The greatest gift I can give to my daughter is that level of resilience. This kid will see the turn of the next century, and I can only imagine the changes she'll see. My job is to teach her the self-reliance and resilience to adapt and weather whatever may come. The world is always changing, but it is easy to find something that works and to allow our resilience to fade. If change has caught you flat footed and knocked you on your butt, let's talk. I can help. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and schedule a call with me. I'll share some ideas to adapt and thrive, even in 2020.
October 04, 2020
Ep 69 - What Took so Long?
I have had everything I needed to be a professional coach for at least the last 6 years. I have been coaching people informally with good results for over 20 years. The technology I depend on has been available for years. Why did I only become a professional coach in 2020? Because I didn't start. I didn't believe I could do it. I didn't want to risk the rejection of trying and failing. In retrospect, every excuse I gave was absurd. It is clear to me now, and it was probably apparent then. Yet I waited. What changed is that someone taught me a simple strategy and said "You should be a coach." I believed him and it made all the difference. What is it that you know that you are meant to be but aren't starting? Let's talk. For anyone watching this video, I'll do a free, no obligation half hour coaching session. Let's talk about what you could be doing and if it makes sense to start. If it does, I'll tell you to do it. That's it. If that's all you need to change your life, then I'll be grateful for the opportunity even if you don't spend a penny with me. We are all meant for greatness. If you would like to talk about how to find your greatness, Click here to schedule a free coaching session.
October 03, 2020
Ep 68 - The 4 AM Rule
Like most people, I used to struggle to get back to sleep if I woke up too early. Then I realized that there's a better way. I created The 4 AM Rule. It's simple. If I wake up after 4 AM, I get up. I might need a nap later, but I find that I'm more alert and able to face the day doing this than if I toss and turn and try to force myself back to sleep. This morning, I woke up a bit after 4. I recorded this video, showed, juiced, did pushups, produced an episode of The Guy Who Knows A Guy Podcast, then posted this. It's 7 AM when I post this. I might take a 15 minute nap, but that's THREE HOURS of productive time. Three hours of productivity in place of three hours frustrating, tiring, tossing and turning. Pretty good trade. What do you do if you wake up an hour or two early? Check out my other podcast, The Guy Who Knows A Guy Podcast.
October 02, 2020
Ep 67 - Value Beyond Money
There are other ways to buy things than money. Some of the most valuable things I have gotten for my business have been conducted though some kind of exchange of value. Most excitingly, I have taken Kendra Schou on as an apprentice. She is doing some great work for me in exchange for being part of my program. I am also working with some amazing people on collaborations which will create incredible opportunities that are only possible by brining the strengths of many people together. If you think about value beyond cash, you will realize that there are amazing opportunities in your life. If you want to talk more about building mutually beneficial relationships, or if you're looking for a great assistant, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and schedule a 10 minute call with me.
October 01, 2020
Ep 66 - Systems Determine Outcomes
Systems determine outcomes. Often I can look at a system and predict the outcomes they will generate. Last night when I heard the format of the presidential debate, I turned to my wife and said, "This is going to be a brawl." It's not a matter of how the moderator handled it or what the candidates did. The system was structured in a way that was guaranteed to minimize productive discussion and maximize conflict. It is natural when something does not go as we wanted to blame people for not doing their jobs right or some other factor. More often than not, however, the source of the failure is actually the underlying system. It's easier to yell at someone for screwing up than to do the hard thinking and planning to create a good system to generate good results. Think about the last time things went wrong for you. Who or what did you blame? What as the underlying system or rules? How did they contribute to the failure? Systems determine outcomes. If you enjoy the content I create, why not sign up for my newsletter. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/subscribe to register.
September 30, 2020
Ep 65 - Shift Your Mindset of What is Possible
I want you to discard the limitations you place on yourself as to what is possible. Too many people limit themselves to a restrictive concept of work as the traditional wage for hours employer relationship. In this relationship, you are generally paid less than you are worth, waste a great deal of productive time, and are at the mercy of your employer. On the other hand, a contractor is paid a specific fee for a specific deliverable which usually results in higher pay for less time. Even if you are an employee, having a contractor mindset can shift the way you approach pay negotiations, work situations, and assignments. To talk more about shifting your mindset, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the link to schedule a 10 minute conversation.
September 29, 2020
Ep 64 - Make the Same Money In Half the time
What if I told you that you could make the same money as you do in your job in half the time or less? Sounds like a sales pitch, doesn't it. But it's totally doable. Think about how much time you waste in the office: meetings, chit chat, coffee breaks, meetings, and all the rest. When you are an employee, they are buying your time. When you are a consultant, they are buying your results. Don't sell your time. Sell your results. You'll be amazed at the opportunities that opens up for you. Want to learn more about this? Comment below, or subscribe to my newsletter for more great information and invitations to upcoming workshops. www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/subscribe
September 28, 2020
Ep 63 - How Giving It Away Free Works
Yesterday, I said that I give everything away free. That sounds like a pretty wacky business model. How does it work? This is what my programs will be looking like over the next few months. First, the free content: these videos, The Guy Who Knows A Guy Podcast, Blog articles, etc. Second, low cost education programs: Webinars, recorded programs, networking events. $5 to $50 for some great education. Third, the Guy Who Knows A Guy Academy. For just $49 per month, you get access to a community of ambitious people, as well as access to all the education programs as well as indirect access to me. Even better, you have the whole community to support you and to be a part of. Next is group coaching. Less expensive than one on one coaching. You're in a cohort with other students. 3-6 other people working to become their best selves and live their best lives. At the highest level, you can work with me one on one. We work together to develop a program directly optimized for your needs, your life, the way your mind works. I have no desire to sell anyone on any more than they need. If you can take my free content and take action, that's awesome. I'm happy for you. If a couple of courses gets it done for you, great. If the Academy works, that's good. But for those who need a bit more hands on support, a bit more accountability, that is why the coaching programs exist. It all starts with a conversation. Want to chat for ten minutes or so and see if I can help you? Visit my web site and click on the link to schedule a call.
September 27, 2020
Ep 62 - I Give It All Away Free
I give away everything I know for free... ...and that's why people are willing to pay me for it. I sell two things: information and mindset. Information is impossible to contain, and trying to do so can be maddening. If you give someone a PDF, they can share it. If you give them an audio file, they can share it. Digital content is easily distributed. So I share information for free and hope people share it. If you read all my blogs and watch all my videos and listen to all my podcasts, you will know everything I know and could, in theory, act on it. The challenge comes in execution. How do you put it all together? How do you make a plan? How do you keep your head right to stay focused? How do you maintain your confidence? Knowing and doing are very different things. This is why I have a few coaches myself, to help me with the doing. And that is where I provide value, in helping people to execute. If you are trying to jealously guard your intellectual property so no one steals it, then you will probably also prevent people from buying it. Chances are that what you make is similar to what someone else makes, and theirs is easier to get. This is a scarcity mindset. On the other hand, if you have an abundance mindset and you share, you'll discover that you have more to offer than that piece of IP you made six months ago. Your creativity. Your energy. Your spirit. That is the true value you offer. Your content is just a sample of the deep well of awesomeness you have. Do you have awesomeness to share with the world but you're afraid people will steal it? Let's talk. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the calendar to schedule a free no-obligation call, or just comment below.
September 25, 2020
Ep 61 - Eliminate That Which Does Not Serve You
My schedule has been quite full, and my to do list moreso, but how do I decide what should be at the top of that list, and what's at the bottom? The answer is to start with the key goals. What do you want to achieve in the end? What's the big target? Now, look at the to do list. Which items on the list move you directly towards those goals? Do those first. Then do the rest. Does networking move you towards your goals? Join us for a Virtual Speed Networking event Wednesday, October 7th at 7:30 PM. https://gwkag.ticketleap.com/vsn-100220
September 24, 2020
Ep 60 - You Can When You Must
The best way to learn what you are capable of is to be forced to go beyond your perceived limitations. Most of us place limitations on ourselves far before the end of our true capabilities. At Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate last night, we were instructed to partner up and perform a side kick to our partner's upper arm then a roundhouse kick to their other arm at chest level. As described, I would think that was impossible. I can't kick that high. I'm not that flexible. But Kyoshi says kick, you kick, so I kicked... ...and I hit the target! I didn't do any special stretches. Just tried, and succeeded at something I didn't think I could do. How many places in your life are you holding yourself back, believing that you cannot do it when the potential lies within you? www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
September 23, 2020
Ep 59 - Be Yourself. Everyone Else is Taken!
Be yourself! Everyone else is taken. There is a temptation online to exagerate how awesome you are. Maybe it's just a bit of whitewashing of your story, leaving out the bad parts. Maybe it's a bit of overstating the good parts. In the extreme, you have these "influencers" renting fancy cars and fancy houses to make it look like they're millionaries when they just put the rentals on their credit card. Lying is hard work, and never pays off. You spend your life in fear that you'll be found out, and there is no true success in it. On the other hand, when you are honest, you can create honest relationships, honest success. People can learn from your real story. It also means that when you do have success, it is more interesting to people. They know they can believe it. They know it's not just hype. So be your authentic self. But what if you don't like your current truth? Change it! Become better. Do better. Don't know how? That's what I do. Comment "change the truth" below and we'll talk about how to make your life one you can be excited to show off to the world.
September 22, 2020
Ep 58 - Proactive Scheduling
My friend Alex Maslow asked me to share a bit about proactive scheduling, and the importance of controlling your schedule rather than letting it control you, especially when so many of us are working from home with a disrupted lifestyle. In this episode, I discuss -The importance of blocking out time for the most important things first -Making decisions about priorities ahead of time so you can get right to the work -Setting weekly goals to ensure progress each week Like a motivational DJ, I take requests. So, if you have a topic you'd like me to speak about, email me at email@example.com.
September 21, 2020
Ep 57 - Lessons From Swimming
Recently, my daughter learned to swim without floaties for the first time. As she was first starting, she would grip my hand with hers to prevent from sinking. It did keep her from sinking, but it also kept her from swimming. It was only when she let go and took a leap of faith that she was able to experience he joy of success. The other interesting learning is that I can barely swim. I don't like swimming. I have a bit of a fear of water, especially going under it. Rowan has no fear of water and loves going under it. This means that I, as a barely capable swimmer, was able to coach her to become a decent swimming in only two hours. I did this by helping her to subdue her fears in order to access her inner knowledge. This is the exact same thing I do for my students, many of whom do things in their business that I cannot even concieve of. My job is not to teach them to do their jobs. They're already experts in that. My job is to teach them to unlock their potential and deploy that knowledge where it will do the most good. Interested in connecting with me? Why not schedule a quick call to talk about how I can help. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min
September 20, 2020
Ep 56 - Constant Change in the Age of Covid
The world is always changing, but we are forced to be more aware of it in the age of Covid. 6 months ago, going to the store was like storming the enemy supply depot. You would prepare your supplies, map out your route, strike fast and hard, and return home, hoping not to need to venture out again for as long as possible. Today, I picked up two bottles of milk at the store. Change. What changed is that our knowledge of the situation improved. We now know how Covid is spread which allows us to take targeted steps to protect ourselves and our neighbors. We should always been looking at a changing world and reevaluating our strategy and lifestyle, but many of us just coast, sometimes for years, not realizing that there might be a better way to do what we do. 2020 is an opportunity to reevaluate everything. It's all changing anyway. We might as well take advantage of it to make sure that when the dust settles, we're living our best lives. If you're interested in joining a community of people who are committed to improving their lives and coming out on top, you should check out The Guy Who Knows A Guy Academy at www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/academy
September 19, 2020
Ep 55 - Misdirected Anger
I have a bad habit, and you might as well. Something will happen, and I'll get angry at the wrong thing. You know what I mean. You bang your foot on the coffee table and you're angry at that stupid coffee table. "That coffee table shouldn't be there!" You cry. This anger is instinctive, but you can train your reaction. I try to pause for a moment before lashing out to ask myself this anger is reasonable or silly. What would someone think if they saw me yell at or hit a coffee table? Train yourself to pause a moment to ask yourself if you are the victim of your monkey brain or if your anger is really justified. Either way, calm down before you react. Have you heard about the new Guy Who Knows A Guy Academy? It's an exclusive group for entrepreneurs and ambitious business people who are looking to sharpen their skills, clarify their goals, and join a community of likeminded people to help them on their path. More information at www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/academy
September 18, 2020
Ep 54 - Nobody Has It Figured Out
Some people are really good at making it look like they have it figured out, but no one has really made it in the shade. Social media shows us a highlight reel of the best of, so it's easy to look around and think that everyone has it together. This is doubly true if you are sharing all your trials and tribulations, because other people will think you are more messed up than the rest of us. You're not, you're just being more honest about it. The secret is that no one really has it figured out. No one. Why? Because when you start to master a challenge, life throws you a new challenge. This is a good thing. When you stop having challenges, you get bored and die. My life is way better than it was 10 years ago, but there are just as many challenges. It's just that these are the challenges to get to level 25 instead of the ones to get to level 2. Don't feel bad because it looks like others are doing better than you. Just focus on how you can do better. As Bruce Lee said, “Do not pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a difficult one.”
September 17, 2020
Ep 53 - Criticism is the Key to Improvement
If you cannot take criticism, you will always be ignorant. In this video, I speak of how I learned this lesson very painfully 13 years ago. I share so that you can learn from my mistakes rather than making it yourself. We are born knowing nothing, fully ignorant, but as we grow, we fill that empty space. Some is filled with knowledge and some is filled with garbage. If we are wise, we will recognize that everything we know has the potential to be garbage. Then we are open to reexamining everything we know. How do we know what to reexamine? People will tell us. That's called criticism. Some criticism is very valuable and gives us a chance to learn. Some criticism is... also garbage. But if you disregard all criticism as garbage, then you will never remove the garbage in your own brain. If you write off anyone who disagrees with you as a hater or libtard or facist or moron, then you will never receive the criticism you need to replace your wrong information with right information. Do you find this valuable? You might be interested in the Guy Who Knows A Guy Academy.
September 16, 2020
Ep 52 - Disadvantages and Privileges
Do not become so hung up on your disadvantages that you ignore your opportunities. I know quite a few successful women, successful people of color, successful people of all kinds. I readily admit that there are benefits to being male, white, heterosexual, cisgendered, fluent in English, etc. I acknowledge the privileges that I have. On the macro level, there are inequalities and unfair situations in our nation which must be addressed and must be corrected. At the individual level, however, I implore you not to allow perceptions of oppression and disadvantage to prevent you from seeking the opportunities in front of you. Find your individual strengths and advantages and deploy them to achieve success. Then use that success to push for the larger changes which you believe need to be made. I expect the comments on this post to be contentious. I also expect them to be polite. Please watch the video before commenting. I am dead serious about the offer I make at the end of the video. If you'd like to take me up on that, you can comment or private message me.
September 15, 2020
Ep 51 - What Is Your Narrative of Your Past
What is the story you tell yourself of your past? Do you focus on where you have won? Or do you focus on where you have lost? A lot has to do with how you keep score? I was very successful in my 20s unless you judge my performance on my ability to make money. I did a very poor job filling my bank account, but I did a great deal to make the world a better place. This week and going forward, I'll be sharing more stories from my varied and colorful past and the lessons that come with them. I'll be going into detail on my web site at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/category/personal/ if you'd like to read more.
September 13, 2020
Ep 50 - Run Your Schedule, Don't Let It Run You
When your schedule runs you, any unexpected event is very stressful. When school closed, and I had to keep my daughter home with my while I worked, it was very stressful and disruptive. Now in September, I run my schedule. When I decided that I wanted to drive her to school, I just put those activities on the calendar. Now it doesn't feel like a disruption. Now it can be a fun few minutes with my daughter, as it should be. I learned the hard way the lesson of putting the big rocks in first. I am more efficient, get more done, and an happier while doing it. If you would like to talk about how to run your schedule, comment "schedule" below. If you want more great information like this, I invite you to subscribe to my new email newsletter full of great information to make your life and business better. https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com/subscribe/
September 12, 2020
Ep 49 - September 10th and 12th
We give a lot of attention not September 11th, 2001. I'd like to encourage you to think of September 10th and September 12th. On September 12th, the world came together to support America in its time of need. It was the most united I have ever seen our country and our world. Let us remember that day in these divided times. Let us remember that we can unite for great things. On September 10th, we thought we were invincible. We believe in American exceptionalism. Attacks can't happen here. Pandemics can't happen here. It can't happen here. We like to delude ourselves into believing we are special. America is a special country, but the rules still apply to us, and we have to ground our dreams in reality. Let us learn the many lessons from the tragedy of 19 years ago.
September 11, 2020
48 - Say It Loud and Proud
Too often we, and I include myself in this, mute ourselves out of fear that we might offend. When you quiet yourself, no one can hear you and your view ceases to matter. If you have something you believe in, if you have a message to share, if you have something to teach, say it loud and proud. This does not mean that you should share political memes and parrot political talking points. That serves no purpose, and simply lashes you to someone else's agenda. I'm talking about your own truth and knowledge. If you are a Realtor and you know that now is best time for someone to list their home, shout it from the mountaintop. If you know ways of living that can make your life better, say it loud and proud. My wife pointed out to me that my videos, while good, can sound a bit flat. The reason for this is that I was afraid to sound angry in them. I didn't want to overwhelm people. When I made a video while I was angry, the passion came through and she loved it. Let your passion shine through. And if that means someone says you sound "bitchy" or "bossy" or "aggressive", show them what those words really mean and turn it up even higher. God has given you a gift and something to share, so share it. Loud and Proud. To learn more about me, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
September 10, 2020
Ep 47 - There Is No Montage
Hollywood has lied to you. Excellent takes long, hard, repetitive work. There's no pounding base as you jump over trees look dramatically at books. Movies have given us the idea that with a good trainer and the right killer move, we can go from zero to hero overnight. In real life, there's no training montage, and there are no overnight successes. Success and excellence require commitment and dedicated effort over time. It may happen that learning one strategy or gaining one tool will change your life or business. It certainly happened for my business with Solution Oriented Marketing, but that's because I already knew how to coach. I was just missing one key strategy. Excellence takes work, and work does not make good cinema. But cinema does not make a good plan for life either. To contact Michael Whitehouse, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
September 09, 2020
Ep 46 - Be Careful Whom You Affiliate With
Guard your reputation. You will encounter many opportunities to use your reputation to make money. Some of those opportunities will be truly lucrative. Some will be snake oil. Some will make you money but not help your clients. This is the nature of network marketing. If you truly believe that the product is good, you should sell it. If not... well... I've always had trouble selling anything that I could not stand behind 100%. If have to be absolutely confident that the prospect will benefit from what I'm selling. This is why I was never a number one salesman in insurance or cars or anything else. If I had my doubts, I might not make the sale. Here's the thing. When you sell something, you're putting your name on it. Not only that, you're putting your name on the entire experience. If the product is bad, if the customer service is bad, if the experience is bad, if anything goes bad, your name is on the line. You want to put your reputation behind a good product? Go for it. You want to gamble your reputation on an "opportunity," maybe think twice about that. And if you do see some program that gets you all excited for the money, give me a call first. I'll consult for free to advise on if that program is a good one, or, I will point you in the direction of other strategies that make more sense for you. If you'd like to talk, visit www,guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the calendar to book a call.
September 08, 2020
Ep 45 - Always Driving for the Horizon
You never really get "there," because there are always more challenges. For years, I aspired to be a professional coach. I had the coaching skills but lacked the marketing strategy and focus. That was what I needed to get "there." In June, I learned that missing piece, developed the strategy, deployed it and was working with 8 clients two months later. But "there" moved. I had a new challenge. A more effective strategy to connect with people meant that almost all of my appointments showed up. That's a good thing, but I had been taking advantage of no shows to get other work done. No "no shows", no time to get the other work done. My schedule filled up. So, my next challenge was to master and control my schedule. I've started putting those structures in place, and should be in good shape in a couple weeks. Then I'll be "there," but then "there" will move again. We look as far as we can see, march until we arrive, then set a new goal on the new horizon. This is why having a coach is so important. They can remind us of how far we have come, where our goal truly is, and keep us moving to the next spot on the horizon. I am a coach, and I help my clients do just these things. There are many other coaches who can help you as well, and you should work with one who can best serve you.
September 07, 2020
Ep 44 - Nothing Hurts When You're Winning
Some people look at folks who are really into fitness and find them a bit odd, especially when they say things like, "Man, my muscles are so sore and I feel AWESOME!" The thing is that if you are feeling pain because you driving towards excellence, it does not feel like pain. It feels like a job well done. It feels like satisfaction. This could be sore muscles from karate, and it could be that tired feeling at the end of an all nighter writing a big proposal or finishing your book. The pain is just the physical manifestation of the effort that you have used to drive for excellence. If you know what I'm talking about, follow my Facebook Page and, share your story in the comments.
September 06, 2020
Ep 43 - Yes, It Is Better to Let Go
Recently, I posted a video suggesting that you should let things go and not carry them with you. I got a comment that this advice is not for everyone. I respectfully disagree. The objection is that there are some offenses so severe that they cannot be forgiven. I believe that those are the situations where being able to let go is the most important. I have been wronged fairly severely in my life. I have even had people threaten my family and my daughter. I had a choice. I could have pursued them, destroyed their reputation, found other forms of revenge, but as I stood at the precipice of that decision, I asked myself, "Who will you become while you do this?" I did not like the answer. If someone wrongs you, hurts you, violates you, and you carry hate in your heart, you may get one or two good shots on them, but you will carry the poison within yourself every hour of every day. This does not mean that you should not seek justice. If someone commits a crime against you, they should be prosecuted. But you should not carry in you the evil that they have done. Do not continue to punish yourself as a proxy for punishing your assailant. You need never forget, but it is very healthy to forgive.
September 05, 2020
Ep 42 - Why Do I Want to Be Your Friend?
With all the outreach I do, I now get a lot of people trying connect with me. I am always interested in connecting with people, but it helps to know what the nature of the relationship is to be. I often get these strange approaches where people say they just want to be my friend. I ask them who they are, what I can do for them, etc. If they say anything we can build a conversation on, then I'm happy to talk to them. The problem is that I get so many people who just tell me where they're from, how many siblings they have and that they are a student. What can I do with that? If you want to develop a relationship with me, it is incumbent upon you to drive that conversation, just as if I want to develop a relationship with you, it is incumbent upon me to drive the conversation. Even if you're reaching out to sell me something, I'm open to that conversation, but don't expect me to carry the conversation. That said, if you'd like help with this, I'd be happy to talk to you, and I'll take the lead on the conversation. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the calendar link to schedule a call.
September 05, 2020
Ep 41 - Recharging Relaxation
I have a rule I try to follow. If I wake up after 4 AM, I don't try to go back to sleep. I get up. Not all rest and relaxation is the same. Some is very rejuvenating, and some is not. Some is downright tiring. If you're going to rest be sure to rest in a way that really recharges you. Otherwise, you're just wasting time.
September 03, 2020
Ep 40 - September 2nd, 2021
One year from now, it will be September 2nd, 2021. Where will you be? It's easy to get caught up in the uncertainty of covid and our current political situation. It is difficult to plan for next month, next week, tomorrow. But next year, one way or another Covid should be under control (estimates I see show a rolled out vaccine by summer some time). Politics may cause major shifts and disruptions, but likely not severe enough to upset the fundamentals of our economy and society. So, where will you be in a year? Where do you want to be? What goals do you have? Most importantly, what are you doing today to prepare for that? I know. A lot of people are just trying to survive. You might be out of work. You might have issues with the kids. You might be dealing with Covid directly. Who can think about next year when you have to think about today? You can. I assure you that you can. In fact, if you focus on September 2021, you'll find September 2020 easier to handle. Why? Because everything you're struggling with now will fit into a larger story and purpose. Survival is exhausting when it has no purpose. Do more than survive today. Take the first steps today so you can thrive tomorrow. If you have no idea what I'm talking about, or you get it but you just don't know how to do it, let's talk. Click the link to setup a ten minute call. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min
September 02, 2020
Ep 39 - Let It Go
I was asked for advice the other day. A friend hired a contractor to do some work and it needed to be redone. He ended up spending hours ripping it out and had to pay someone else redo it. The first contractor gave him some money, but not enough to cover his costs and time. He asked me if he should try to take it to small claims court or post negative reviews or what. I told him to let it go. It's over. The work is done. It's less than $1000. I told him to take all the energy he'd waste chasing after "justice" and put it into his business. He'd make far more than $1000 with all that time and energy. Sometimes you just have to let things go. Let karma take it's course. Why carry all that negativity? Don't let them build a nest in your head. You have better things to do. The best revenge is living well. So let them suffer in their mediocrity while you continue on to excellence.
September 02, 2020
Ep 38 - Down for Maintenance
I often see Saturday and Sunday as two more days that I can get work done, but yesterday, I took the day off. My daughter has seen fishing videos on YouTube and she really wanted to try it. My sister and brother-in-law love fishing and were willing to teach her, which left me sitting by a lake on a nice day relaxing. You can become too focused on your business. You can hustle too hard. I say often that as an entrepreneur you are like a high performance machine. You can run a high performance machine hard, but when it times to go down for maintenance, you've got to do it or else you're going to have a broken machine. I encourage you to take a day off every week. Smell the roses. Go fishing. Go golfing. Hang out with the kids. Do something to remind yourself what you're working for. Want to talk more about your business and how to achieve order which will allow balance? Set up a call at www.guywhoknowsaguy.com.
August 31, 2020
Ep 37 - Hopefully Not All Back to Normal
this weekend for the first time in a long time. There was no Sea Lion Show but there was Sea Lion Viewing, which I thought was quite a show in itself. Like the whales, the sea lions enjoy hamming it up for an audience. The frolick and play and show off. I always liked the produced show they did, but it was also a lot of fun to watch the impromptu show.My daughter and I visited the Mystic Aquarium The attendant kept apologizing for the show not running and saying that they hoped to have it reopened soon. I saw it quite differently. Without Covid, we would never have had the opportunity to see this really unique performance, and I hope it continues after Covid. We have been forced to rethink everything, and many very positive things have come of it. Organic Sea Lion Show. Outdoor dining everywhere. People becoming engaged in their schools and jobs like never before. Remote working. Mass adoption of video calls. Wearing masks when sick to avoid contageon. In my own life I've reconnected and connected with so many people simply because I've been in the digital space more intentionally. There are many things we look forward to when Covid is past, but I hope we'll keep the good when we dispose of the bad. The world will never be the same... I hope. Want to talk more about how you can make the most of the changes in the world, let's talk. Visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the button to schedule a call.
August 31, 2020
Ep 36 - Focus on the Awesome, Not the Work
I just completed my Yellow Belt test at Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate. Yellow Belt is a relatively low level, so I'm still learning basics. During the test, I got to watch the higher ranks test as well. They are impressive. They are quick, strong, powerful. As I was watching, I realized how much work it must take to get there. While the lower ranks were told to sit, the advanced ranks continued on for more than an hour. Kicking. Punching. Doing kata and bunkai. It looked exhausting. Part of me said, "I don't know if I want to go that far. That looks hard." But the other part said, "That's why we're here. That looks awesome." Has this ever happened in your life? Have you pulled back because something seemed too hard? Too much school? Too much work? Too much risk? To much fear? You know what the crazy part is. Most times, when you push past that fear and actually do it, the result turns out to be more awesome, and the pain so much less than you expected. Want to talk about how to focus on the awesome? Visit https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the button to schedule a call.
August 30, 2020
Ep 35 - Short. Clear. Concise.
Is your brain overwhelmed? Then you're in good company. There's so much information that we can't keep track of a 1/10th of what comes at us. If you want people to retain your message, you need to make it simple. Short. Clear. Concise. The messaging around Covid has been confusing and overwhelming, so people can't absorb it. Is your business the same way? Keep it down to three simple things. Not 5, not 10, not 15. Three. That's what they can remember.
August 30, 2020
Ep 32 - Focus on the Awesome, not the Work
I just completed my Yellow Belt test at Mystic Dojo - Yamashita International Karate. Yellow Belt is a relatively low level, so I'm still learning basics. During the test, I got to watch the higher ranks test as well. They are impressive. They are quick, strong, powerful. As I was watching, I realized how much work it must take to get there. While the lower ranks were told to sit, the advanced ranks continued on for more than an hour. Kicking. Punching. Doing kata and bunkai. It looked exhausting. Part of me said, "I don't know if I want to go that far. That looks hard." But the other part said, "That's why we're here. That looks awesome." Has this ever happened in your life? Have you pulled back because something seemed too hard? Too much school? Too much work? Too much risk? To much fear? You know what the crazy part is. Most times, when you push past that fear and actually do it, the result turns out to be more awesome, and the pain so much less than you expected. This is what I do. Help people work past the fear to find the awesomeness of what they could be. If you'd like to talk more about this, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the link to book a call.
August 29, 2020
Ep 31 - Should You Discuss Your Politics?
As a business person, should you be sharing your political opinions? I'm here with another video I recorded this past weekend with my wife in Vermont. We can go to Vermont because New London County has good Covid numbers and so does Vermont. We took all appropriate precautions and were able to operate safely. Back to the question... Should you be sharing your opinions? By default, I say no*. But there's an asterisk there because I have seen some businesses do so quite successfully. First, you have to understand that if you share your politics, you will alienate some people. You will also earn the affection of some people. You will alienate more than you enamour. For example, there's a restaurant where the owner and staff espouse views that I agree with. I've never eaten there. It's not in a convenient location for me. is a local pizza shop that fills up at peak times and probably does better because the owner shares her politics.If your business only needs a small group of customers to be successful, and if you are willing to filter your clientel to be primarily people who agree with you, then it can certainly work. On the other hand, if your business needs massive numbers, then getting into politics can be damagine. Hobby Lobby and Chik Fil A are mass market businesses and it costs them revenue to espouse beliefs. Two Wives Pizzeria Ben and Jerry's has always had a social agenda, and that is why they, as one of a zillion small ice cream companies, have achieved national prominence. Their fans like their ethos beyond their ice cream. If you are going to share your politics, don't do so lightly. Don't just share some memes you think are funny. Really take it seriously. Think about topics and share your thoughts. Share facts. Connect with organizations that support causes you care about and support and endorse them. Don't do it half way. All in, or all out. And if you're unsure... all out. If you'd like to learn more about if you should include your politics in your business, and if so how to best do it, comment "politics" below, and I'll connect with you.
August 28, 2020
Ep 34 - Create Value In Context
Have you ever bought something on vacation you never would have bought at home? Another video from my trip to Vermont this past weekend, which we were able to take due to the good work of the fine people of New London County keeping our numbers low and our neighbors safe. Shops like the Mercantile Store I took this video in do well because of context. They take advantage of the joy that people have on their trip and their desire to bring it home with them to sell fun little items. In this case context creates value. What context do you present your business in? Do you just dump it out there, or do you position yourself in a place of value so that people engage you like they do with the Mercantile Store?
August 26, 2020
Ep 33 - Does Your Business Run You?
Do you run your business or does your business run you? This is another video I recorded up in Vermont while I was up there with my wife, a trip that was made possible by the responsible actions of the people of New London County in keeping our Covid numbers down. As your business grows, it becomes more and more important to block out time for the things you need to do. You will become more and more busy, and the things you were able to do in spare time will become the things you aren't getting done. The first victim of this is often time with family, followed by work for future growth. Your time can also be taken up by inefficient marketing. If you are spending all of your time chasing leads and chasing business but not getting enough, that will also consume your entire calendar and leave you feeling like you failed at the end of the day. If you need help prioritizing those important but not urgent parts of your life, or if you'd like to learn about Solution Oriented Marketing to help making your marketing activities more meaningful, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com and click the calendar link to schedule a call.
August 25, 2020
Ep 30 - Make Your Calendar Work for You
This past weekend, my wife and I took advantage of the fact that New London County has been doing the work and keeping Covid numbers down to take a trip to Vermont. During that trip, I took a series of videos which I'll be sharing throughout the week. Today we'll be talking about making your calendar working for you rather than working for your calendar. My business has been taking off. The more clients I have, the more time it takes to serve them, and at first I was caught flatfooted by this success from a scheduling standpoint. It was then that I realized that I needed to take control of my schedule. I put the crucial things into your schedule before it fills in (2 weeks out now for me). So I'm prefilling my schedule with time to do school work with Rowan, as well as time to work on new projects, develop new systems, and find new clients. Only by doing that first do I prevent my schedule from closing in and waking up Monday morning with no open time left in the week. How is your schedule looking? Is your calendar working for you, or are you working for your calendar? Do you need some help? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
August 25, 2020
Ep 29 - Your Past Is Your Foundation
What is the hardest part of your past? That is the foundation of your future. Think of any successful person you like, and chances are that there is something in their past that toughened them, taught them, and built them to be able to do what they now do. Think of the kid who grows up poor and has to work through school to help their family. They learn to work hard and never stop. Think of the person whose family never thought they were good enough. That could be the inspiration that leads them to do impossible things later on. Myself, I deal with ADHD, and a bit of anxiety and depression thrown in for good measure. I get restless in the standard corporate world. That forced me to try different things, work with different companies, and that give me the broad experience that informs my coaching work today. I could have looked back at my history of moving from job to job, the irregular income history, and the resulting poor credit, and believed that history was destiny. Instead, I chose to believe that every experience had put one more tool in my tool belt, and I have used those tools to build a bright future. So, what is the hardest part of your past? And how will you use it to build your future? To learn more about Michael Whitehouse, the Guy Who Knows A Guy, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
August 19, 2020
Ep 28 - Your Scars Make You Strong
Humans are a unique machine. Any other machine, the harder you push it, the more it breaks down. Humans, on the other hand, the harder you push us, the stronger we get. The most successful people out there had to overcome adversity. They had to go through a crucible to achieve the grit and strength that allowed them to succeed. What's that mean? That means that every bad thing that's ever happened to you, every time you've been knocked down and gotten back up, every time you've failed, every negative event in your life has made you more prepared to win now. If everything's been easy for you, it will be hard for you to achieve your dreams, but if everything has been hard, then I've got good news. Like the athlete who trains at high altitude, you have prepared yourself for greatness in the future. If you'd like to talk about how you can draw on your past to build your future, or if you want to challenge me on my assertion, comment "greatness" below, and let's talk. Or cut right to the chase and click this link to schedule a 10 minute call with me: https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
August 17, 2020
Ep 27 - Special Episode - Why Not Now?
Who do you want to be proud of your success? Your parents? Your grandparents? Your best friend? Everyone has a gift to give the world, but most people are hiding their light under a bushel, marking time and getting by while their gift is not shared. There are all kinds of reasons. "I don't have the education" "I don't have the money" "I don't have the time" but to me they are all procrastination. Think about what your gift is. Now think about whom you most want to see you realize your potential. Now imagine how you would feel if you wait so long they are no longer around to see it. Imagine having to say, "I wish _____ was still here to see me do this." Why have regrets that you waited too long? Discover you gift now. Live your best life now. Live the life that you are meant to live NOW. If you are having trouble figuring out what your gift is, or if you know what you should be doing but don't know how to make it a reality, let's talk. Comment "gift" below, or use this link to schedule a 10 minute phone call. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min
August 16, 2020
Ep 26 - The Market Doesn't Care How Good You Are
The market does not care how good you are at what you do if you are not able to communicate your talent. I know many people who are the best of the best who are struggling to pay the bills. I know people who phone it in and are faking it who have piles of money. What's the difference? Packaging. Some of the best, most organized people around are making $14 per hour as glorified secretaries. Meanwhile people are making millions repackaging Amazon's sales portals as third party web sites. One creates real value, the other simply moves money around, If you are creating real value, you should be making real money. If you're not, you may want to consider why. You also may want to talk to me about some strategy. To connect with Michael Whitehouse, visit www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
August 15, 2020
Ep 25 - Worry About Yourself, Not Others
Inspiration strikes me at all times, including in the car, so I'll sometimes record a video in the car. Invariably, when I do so, someone will ask me about if that's safe. So I recorded this video in the car to make a point. Don't worry about me. Worry about you. We love to worry about what other people are doing. How they're driving. How they're raising their kids. How they're running their business. Why? Because it's easier to point out other people's errors than to fix your own. Don't worry about anyone else. Worry about you. Yes, looking at yourself will mean you need to actually think about the areas you need to improve, and that can be unpleasant, but then you can improve, and that is well worth it.
August 14, 2020
Ep 24 - Stressful Relaxation
If you're an entrepreneur, not working might be more stressful than working. Taking it easy may not be in your DNA. So what do you do to recharge? Michael Whitehouse, The Guy Who Knows A Guy
August 14, 2020
Ep 23 - Work, Career, Mission
I was listening to Tony Robbins this morning, and he shared this concept that what you do for a living can be characterized as "work", "career", or "mission." When you are living your mission, the work you do is no longer tiring, it is inspiring. Every one of us was put on this Earth with a set of skills, talents, and gifts. These give us the ability to do a certain kind of good for the world around us if we put them to work. Unfortunately, too many of us waste our gifts because we are not able to find places to deploy them where they will be appreciated. If you have gifts to share, there is a good chance that you could make a living doing what you are meant to do if you know where to start. If you are interested in have a conversation about where you particular gifts might be valued, let's talk. Comment "gifts" in the comments and I'll message you or click the link below to schedule a brief phone call. Everyone deserves a fulfilling life. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min
August 10, 2020
Ep 22 - One Kick, Ten Thousand Times
Do you really want to learn new things? I don't. I want to get better at the things I already know. Americans love new things. New technology. New stories. New strategies. The newer the better! But new is not always better. Bruce Lee said, "I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times." In business, we are always looking for the new thing. That new silver bullet that will slay our competition and launch us to fame and fortune. I've got bad news for you. There's no silver bullet. You need to find good strategies and the refine them until they are perfect. Of course, it has to be a GOOD strategy in the first place, so you may need to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince strategy, but once you find something that works, keep doing it! Don't practice 10,000 kicks once. Practice one kick 10,000 times. If you are interested in getting some help to figure out which kick you should practice 10,000 times in your business, click the link below to set up a 10 minute phone call with me. https://calendly.com/mwhitehouse/10min
August 08, 2020
Ep 21 - Whether You Believe You Can or Cannot...
Whether you believe you can or you believe you can't, you are correct. If you believe that you are limited to minimum wage jobs, then you will only seek minimum wage jobs. Many of the greatest advancements in my life we caused by nothing more than a shift of mindset, when I discovered something new was possible. Something I could have done all along, but only when I realized I could do it did I begin to do it.
August 07, 2020
Ep 20 - If Want to Be Heard, Make Sure They're Listening
A lot of people tell me that people don't listen to them. It would be great if everyone was actively listening to those around them. Unfortunately, people are busy. They are distracted. They are often overwhelmed. If you want people to listen, you need to make yourself heard, and part of that it making sure that when you are trying to communicate you are getting attention. If your message becomes a constant droning, it will be ignored, so, unlike my cat, make sure your communication is intentional and forceful. www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
August 06, 2020
Ep 19 - Are You Holding Back Your Gift?
For too long, coaching was little more than a hobby for me. I didn't have the confidence that people would value what I could offer. I was afraid of rejection so I did not ask. When I found the confidence, an amazing thing happened. I asked, and people said yes. People got excited about what I could offer them, were happy to pay for it, and I made their lives better with what I could do for them. Are you in a similar situation? Do you have a gift that you are holding because because you are not sure if people will value it? If you have a gift, and you do not share it, not only are you missing out on living your best life, but the world is missing out on what you have to offer it! www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
August 06, 2020
Ep 18 - When You Ask For Cake, You Might Get Ingredients
When you asks God for a cake, he gives you flour, eggs, sugar, a bowl, and, if you're really luck a recipe. Many people have every ingredient they need to make a cake and still lament that they have no cake. The world rarely gives you things on a platter, but you often have many more ingredients in your cupboard than you realize. Want help inventorying your cabinet. Contact me for coaching.
August 06, 2020
Ep 17 - Sometimes You Just Need a Calming Back Rub
I have an anxious cat. I joke that I am her emotional support animal. We used to have a problem with her tossing her kibble every time she ate, and it occurred to me that the problem might be her anxiety, so I started giving her calming attention when she ate, and the problem mostly went away. When we have problems, we often overlook the simplest, most human solutions. We look for drugs and technologies and complex answers. Sometimes the solution is a simple conversation, a question, or even just a calming back rub. I won't rub your back, but I'll help you find solutions. Reach out and let's talk. http://guywhoknowsaguy.com/coaching
August 02, 2020
Ep 16 - Get Started From Where You Are
Many years ago, I wanted to start a particular project and I didn't think I was ready to start publicizing it. It got some very good advice. "You'll never feel ready." They were entirely correct, so I just got started. In anything you start, you will often feel you're not ready. You don't have the education. You don't have the experience. You don't have the connections. You don't have the money. You don't have the equipment. As my friends in New Jersey might say, "fuggedabodit!" Start where you are. You'll never be "ready." Even if you made a list of everything you think you need, once you had all that, you'd discover you didn't need half those things and you need a dozen more you didn't think of. That thing you want to do? Start now. Looking for some personal help in the coaching? I can help.
August 01, 2020
Ep 15 - What Are YOUR Goals?
It doesn't matter how long you drive south if your destination is to the north. Before you can begin trying to better yourself or your business it is crucial that you have a very honest conversation with yourself about what you really and truly want the outcome to be. Without that, nothing else matters. A helpful tool called "Set Difficulty Easy" is available in the file section of The Guy Who Knows a Guy Group. If you're not a member, be sure to join and check it out.
August 01, 2020
Ep 14 - Luck is Taking Many Shots on the Goal
You might look at someone whom you see as successful and as "how did they get so lucky?" Luck is often a matter of pointing yourself in the right direction and being willing to take more shots at the goal than anyone else. Instead of asking why they are so lucky, ask yourself what they did to get the results they got then analyze how you can do likewise. This is something I do a lot of in my coaching work. I help people first figure out what direction the goal is in, then I help them discover what resources they have that they're not putting to use. I also teach them additional tools and techniques to grow their business.
July 29, 2020
Ep 13 - Block that Bully
If you deal with people, you'll deal with some people who are negative influences. It could be someone with absurd beliefs online. It could be someone who has taken a disliking to you for some reason. It could just be a random jerk. Your instinct may be to let 'em have it. You want to show them what's what. Resist that instinct because it does not benefit you. When you get in a mud fight, you both get dirty. The best way to win is to ignore them, move on, and win at life. Don't let them build a nest in your head. Want more great content like this? Join my group! https://www.facebook.com/groups/guywhoknowsaguy/ More about Michael at https://www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
July 29, 2020
Ep 12 - You can do what you want to do
Some people have a gift that they are not using because they don't think they have what it takes to get started. "I don't have the money. I don't have the educuation. I don't have the contacts. I don't have the certifications. I'm not ready." Sound familiar? Many of the most successful people you know got that way because they started before they were "ready." They jumped off the cliff and built the plane on the way down. Looking for another great podcast? How about The Guy Who Knows a Guy.
July 26, 2020
Ep 11 - Recognition for the sake of recognition
Recognition for the sake of recognition has no value. Recognition increases what people expect of you, so if you are not growing in your talents and capabilities, then you are raising the bar without raising your ability to get over that bar. Need a referral to a local resource? I got a guy.
July 26, 2020
Ep 10 - Goals Beyond Survival
I have made some recent posts encouraging people to focus on their longer term goals. Many were fully on board with the idea, but some felt I was judging them for not being ambitious enough. They told me that they are just trying to survive and there's nothing wrong with that. I completely agree that there is nothing wrong with survival as a goal. It is common and reasonable. However, the best strategy to achieve that goal is having more ambitious plans. Sounds counterintuitive, but it's not. If your goal is merely to survive, then that is as far as you will plan. If your goal is to do something more ambitious or to be in a better place in a year or five years, then survival is the first step of that plan. You'll still do all the same things to survive, but you will be more motivated and more creative. During the quarantine, I've been as locked down as anyone. For the first few weeks, I was in survival mode, but as weeks dragged into months, I shifted my focus. Survival was set. Our family was in a rhythm. We had food. We had taken precautions. Now what? These daily videos are part of the answer to "now what?" My coaching. The other resources I have created. It's all part of a plan to play the cards I've been dealt by the pandemic. Unless you started farming to feed yourself, chances are that survival is not filling your time. If you are focused on survival, but you are reading books or watching TV or doing other leisure activities, then you have time that could be better deployed. Some people say that they need to tend to their mental well being. I completely agree.The best way to tend to your mental well being is to have dreams and goals beyond the present crisis. Living to survive is exhausting and depressing. Living for something more is inspiring and energizing. Defense delays defeat while offense drives for victory. No one ever won through pure defense. Survival is defense. Goals are offense. The best defense is a good offense, so if your goal is survival, the best way to achieve that goal is to strive for greater achievement beyond the current crisis. For more from The Guy Who Knows a Guy, visit my web site.
July 26, 2020
Ep 9 - Green Juice
You are the linchpin in anything you are doing. If you are tired, sick, rundown, then everything else that is important to you will suffer. What are you putting into your body? What are you doing to maintain your body? You cannot ignore the needs of your body and except to be successful in any other aspect of life. Determine what makes the most sense for you and do it. I have another podcast on which I interview a variety of very interesting people. It's called The Guy Who Knows A Guy Podcast. Check it out.
July 22, 2020
Ep 8 - A Black Belt Is When You Begin
Getting your black belt is not the end of training. It is the end of the beginning. It means you have mastered the basics and can now continue to the higher levels of training. Many aspects of life and business are similar. You never arrive at the point where you can coast. Rather, you arrive at new levels of challenge that allow new levels of achievement. Looking for referrals to resources? The Guy Who Knows A Guy can help. Fill out my I Got A Guy form and I'll connect you with someone great from my network to help with what you need.
July 21, 2020
Ep 7 - Wisdom All Around, Are You Listening?
There are people with valuable wisdom and knowledge all around us. Are we taking advantage of what they have to teach us, or are we too busy running from one thing to the next to listen to them? Looking for referrals to resources? The Guy Who Knows A Guy can help. Fill out my I Got A Guy form and I'll connect you with someone great from my network to help with what you need.
July 21, 2020
Ep 6 - Fuel Your Self As Well As Your Car
You put good fuel in your vehicles, but do you put good fuel in yourself? You are the most important piece of equipment in any enterprise you run, and if you break down, it all breaks down. What are you eating? Drinking? Are you exercising? Taking care of your health? It's not just about taking care of you, it's about giving you the power to take care of business. Looking for referrals to resources? The Guy Who Knows A Guy can help. Fill out my I Got A Guy form and I'll connect you with someone great from my network to help with what you need.
July 21, 2020
Ep 5 - I Like Getting Advertising
I like seeing advertising because it keeps me informed of new products, new opportunities, and the state of the business world. Knowledge is power. Even knowledge that some paid to send you. Looking for referrals to resources? The Guy Who Knows A Guy can help. Fill out my I Got A Guy form and I'll connect you with someone great from my network to help with what you need.
July 21, 2020
Ep 4 - Opportunity in Weird Circumstances
It is important to look for the opportunity in all circumstances, especially now, because now we have some weird circumstances. When the quarantine began, I had no idea what to do. My business was entirely in person. We were able to pivot to working remotely. The lack of needing to travel created time, and in that time I launched my coaching business. Looking for referrals to resources? The Guy Who Knows A Guy can help. Fill out my I Got A Guy form and I'll connect you with someone great from my network to help with what you need.
July 21, 2020
Ep 3 - Anything Worth Doing Is Worth Doing Poorly
You're always bad at something when you first start, but you have to stick with it until you get better.
July 16, 2020
Ep 2 - Is your attitude causing you to miss opportunities?
There are opportunities in these strange times if you are willing to accept them. You may not recognize them for what they are, and that's why I made the Set Difficulty Easy exercises. They are out there, and I'm helping my clients find them every day.
July 15, 2020
Ep 1 - Treasures on the Back Burner
Now in a new shorter format! Have you ever looked in your closet and found something valuable. Maybe a great piece of clothing you thought you'd lost or a useful appliance? Your business and other parts of life may be the same way. The solution to today's problem might be a great idea you had a year or two ago that you put on the back burner because it wasn't the time. That's the way it is with this podcast, and why I'm bringing back Michael's Motivation, now in a shorter format. So, ask yourself, what solution did you come up with in the past that might address a challenge you have today? Contact me at email@example.com www.guywhoknowsaguy.com
July 13, 2020
Ep 89 - Win the Crisis
A crisis is a disruption and any disruption is an opportunity. Too many business owners are only seeing the crisis, but they are missing the opportunity. Your business could be stronger going into 2021 than you thought possible, IF you take advantage of this moment.
April 04, 2020
Ep 88 - A Conversation With God
I had to ask myself, am I really doing all this for others or am I just telling myself that to boost my own ego?
March 10, 2020
Ep 87 - Why is Everything Karate
You might have a friend for whom everything comes back to their favorite topical touchstone. Maybe it's karate or Star Wars or the Bible, and you might ask "Why is everything always karate?" As it turns out every topic contains the fingerprints of the Universe, and when you study deeply enough, you will find universal truths.
February 22, 2020
Ep 86 - Kick Full Force in the Shoulder Role of Life
In my karate class this morning at Mystic Dojo Yamashita International Karate we were doing shoulder rolls and I learned a very important less that will serve you well in all areas of life.
February 15, 2020
Ep 85 - If They Don't Understand You, You Were Not Clear
There is no such thing as "I explained it clearly" if the audience does not grasp it. The obligation for effective communication falls to the communicator, and we must practice humility in our communications to accept that when our audience does not understand us, our communication strategy must be improved.
February 06, 2020
Ep 84 - Just Keep Moving Forward
We all get knocked down. We all get discouraged. What's important is that we take one step than another, no matter how small a step, just keep moving.
February 06, 2020
Ep 83 - Take The Wheel in Your Life
I spent far to much of my life being reactive rather than proactive. I wandered from one stage to the next without a true plan. Learn from my mistake. Choose your goal and make a plan.
February 02, 2020
Ep 82 - Ask for the Yes, Not the No
What you can learn from my high school romantic failures that can help you build your business.
January 08, 2020
Ep 81 - Do You Own Your Brand or Do you Rent It?
If you are dependent on a digital platform for your customers, then you don't own your brand, you rent it and you are at their mercy. If you rely on Google results, Amazon sales, Facebook ads or the like then you are at the mercy of them for your business. Let's talk about how you can own your brand and mitigate that risk.
January 03, 2020
Ep 80 - First Get Their Attention
If you're telling a story, you need the attention of the audience or you got nothing. This video does a great job of discussing this point https://youtu.be/vn_L4OPU_rg
December 18, 2019
Ep 79 - What Are You Waiting For
Very often, we don't get started because we're waiting for some magical future time when it will be easier. That time never comes. Start now.
December 12, 2019
Ep 78 - If It's Getting Tougher, You're Going the Right Way
In most video games, you know you're going the right way because the opposition gets tougher. Life is a bit like that too.
December 12, 2019
Ep 77 - Your Best Is Yet to Come
Too often we look back and think that our best moment is behind us. That's only true if we let it be. Instead, use those best moments as inspiration for the next great moment of the future which will make all previous best moments look like mere prologue.
December 11, 2019
Ep 76 - Just Invest It
People often make excuses for not investing time or money of wanting the absolute best return. But the return doesn't matter if you're not putting anything into the account.
December 09, 2019
Ep 75 - Get Moving
If you are feeling down and dispirited, the best solution may be to get moving. Depression is a low energy state, and it is best overcome my energetic action. Run! If you can't run, walk. If you can't walk, crawl. But whatever you do, keep moving.
December 06, 2019
Ep 74 - Bracing Early Morning
There's something about that time when the sun comes up and the chill of the night is still on the Earth that is magical.
December 05, 2019
Ep 73 - You Can Begin Again As Often As You Need
Sometimes we're afraid to reboot our motivation because we reflect on how we failed last time. Forget it. Reboot. Reflect. Reinvigorate as often as you need to in order to get where you need to go.
December 04, 2019
Ep 72 - Only Action Makes a Decision
It's great to have goals and hopes and dreams, but if you're not taking action towards the goal, you have nothing but a day dream.
November 30, 2019
Ep 71 - It's Okay to Ask for Help
There is a myth that we must all get by on our own and that asking for help is a sign of weakness. That's garbage.
November 27, 2019
Ep 70 - Overcoming Anxiety and Making the Connection
A listener asked me to go more in depth on how to overcome anxiety when making connections in networking and sales. Here's my answer.
November 26, 2019
Ep 69 - Yes, Society Is Stacked Against You
If you feel overwhelmed and can't understand why you can't master adulting, it's because you've been given an impossible task. The structure of our modern society has removed the supports that undergirded families and then blamed the individuals for not being able to keep up. Once you accept that the game is rigged, you let go of your pride and do what it takes to beat it.
November 24, 2019
Ep 68 - Your Gift is Your Gift
Everyone has their own unique gifts, but sometimes we compare ourselves to others which often means comparing our weaknesses to their strengths. That way lies madness. Instead look at your own gifts, because that is what God gave you to do good in the world with.
November 22, 2019
Ep 67 - How Not to Be Overwhelmed
Two keys to avoid being overwhelmed: get things off your plate and avoid putting things on your plate.
November 20, 2019
Ep 66 - Abundance Mindset
At the Rotary Youth Leadership Awards Conference, I had the privilege of being a judge in awarding a $500 grant to a youth project, but by collaboration and abundance mindset, we were able to find thousands of dollars of additional resources to fund so many more projects. Why split the pie when you can grow the pie?
October 20, 2019
Ep 65 - The Inspiring Example of Sofia Sees Hope
I am blessed to be on the event committee for Dinner in the Dark, an extremely successful event that has raised somewhere around a million dollars in six year to cure the rare genetic condition known as LCA. The example of this organization raising this kind of money in little Southeast Connecticut should be an inspiration to organizations everywhere. If they can do it, you can to...if you believe you can.
October 20, 2019
Ep 64 - Lead, Follow, or Get The Heck Out of the Way
There are those in organizations who want to do great things, but their greatest obstacle is often others who think things are good enough and just want to leave well enough alone. Burnout is not caused by adversity. It is caused by mediocrity.
October 17, 2019
Ep 63 - Live a Novel, Not. TV Series
In a TV series the drama increases and becomes more complex every season. Have we as a culture come to see this as the model for our own lives? But is it accurate or do we create it ourselves?
October 15, 2019
Ep 62 - How Loud Should You Toot Your Own Horn?
You want people to know of your accomplishments, but you don't want to come off as a braggart. First, know your audience. How much bravado is acceptable. You can let people know about what you've done by recognizing the accomplishments of those who helped you. Sometimes you've just got to tell people what you're worth or they just won't know.
October 11, 2019
Ep 61 - Build Your Opponent a Boat
Burn the boats is a piece of advice given to entrepreneurs. Fully commit to what you are doing to achieve success. Conversely, if you can give your opponent in any field of competition an alternative to fighting you 100%, it can serve well distract them.
October 06, 2019
Ep 60 - Is It The Truth?
The Rotary Four Way Test is a powerful tool for assessing a moral choice. Is it the truth? Is it fair to all concerned? Will it make Goodwill and better friendships? Will it be beneficial to all concerned?
October 01, 2019
Ep 59 - Disruption Doesn't Kill Businesses; Bad Businesses Kill Themselves
Uber didn't disrupt taxis. AirBNB didn't disrupt hotels. Existing business and industries fail to provide for the needs of the market and someone else comes in to fulfil that need for them. If competition is killing your business, it's not the competition's fault. It's yours for not serving the market better.
September 27, 2019
Ep 58 - Fly Your Own Elevator
There are so many things that we believe to be outside our control that we could influence if we only tried. Even our dreams.
September 25, 2019
Ep 57 - It's not that Bad
More often than not things are not as bad as you think.
September 24, 2019
Ep 56 - Authenticity
Authenticity doesn't mean that you are the same all the time. It means you are true to yourself: all of yourselves.
September 23, 2019
Ep 55 - Plus One Thinking
It's amazing how much impact it can have to make one more call, one more drop-in, one more page of reading, one more of whatever you're doing. Plus one thinking.
September 21, 2019
Ep 54 - Making a Difference to One Starfish
How many people do you need to help to be considered to be making a difference. One. If you make one person's life better, then your life has meaning and the world is a better place.
September 21, 2019
Ep 53 - Everyone Has Rough Spots
It's easy to think that everyone else has it good while you're struggling. But we just see highlight reels of other people. They might be envious of your life as your are envious of theirs. Compare and despair.
September 19, 2019
Ep 52 - Today Doesn't Matter
We often focus on the current day. Carpe Diem! But what if today is just a bad day? What if you don't feel well? While you should focus on the now, don't worry if you don't win today. You can win tomorrow.
September 18, 2019
Ep 51 - Appreciate It Before It's Gone
We say the nicest things as funerals, but we spend out lives wondering if we are appreciated. Why don't we appreciate people while they are with us?
September 18, 2019
Ep 50 - You Can't Be Everything to Everyone
There are some people you can serve well, and others that you can exhaust and bankrupt yourself trying to serve. Know which is which. We all want to help everyone, but if you burn too many resources trying to serve all, you may end up serving no one.
September 15, 2019
Ep 49 - You Are Uniquely Awesome
What is your Unique Value Proposition? What is the field of endeavor in which you stand out. Most people judge on money, looks, fame, etc. But there are thousands of things that make someone awesome, and when you identify yours, your confidence will improve.
September 14, 2019
Ep 48 - Like A Boss
What makes you feel like a boss? Do it. Do it a lot and dominate your day. You looking for a podcast to fire you up, this is the one.
September 13, 2019
Ep 47 - What is Shyness Costing You
There are so many opportunities if we can only seize them, but we get shy. We let them go by. What does shyness cost you?
September 12, 2019
Ep 46 - Waking Up September 11 in Somerset County
I spent the night on the side of the highway last night due to a lodging snafu.. Completely by coincidence, it was near the United 93 crash site and memorial on September 11. It really put any little challenges I face in perspective.
September 11, 2019
Ep 45 - The Glitch For This Mission
When the day starts poorly, you have a choice: see it is a portent of evil to come or as getting the misfortune out of the way for better things.
September 11, 2019
Ep 44 - The Fun in the Boring
Going to the gym might be boring unless you watch the Good Place while on the stair climber. Getting to Milwaukee may be unpleasant unless you turn it into a fun road trip. Find ways to put the fun into the mundane.
September 09, 2019
Ep 43 - What Do You Fear
We are all afraid of something. Whether it's spiders or obscurity or death of a loved one or anything else, our reactions can be driven by these fears. It is crucial to understand what triggers us. It may also be beneficial to share our fears with those we work with. Most people don't want to set you off, so it is prudent to share with them were there might be hidden minefields to keep everything smooth and happy.
September 07, 2019
Ep 42 - The Answer to Life, the Universe, and Everything
Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy tells us that the answer is 42, but never tells us the question. Many of us are the same way in our lives. We never spend time figuring out what the question is and simply stumble about seeking an answer.
September 06, 2019
Ep 41 - Hold Your Ground
You may have a right way to do things, but everyone wants to do it their way. Employees, customers, prospects all will take over the agenda if you let them. Don't let them. You have a way of doing things for a reason. Hold your ground and do it right.
September 05, 2019
Ep 40 - Adapting to Change
Change is constant, and so is evolution. Our businesses, our organizations, our communities, ourselves are constantly adapting to the new world we find ourselves in. This is not unique to the present day. Change has always been and will always be. Are you structured for a time gone by or are you adapting?
September 04, 2019
Ep 39 - It's Okay
It's okay if you are not where you want to be yet. It's okay if you missed your goal. It's okay if you're struggling. It's okay if you're broke. It's okay as long as you're still trying and still moving forward.
September 03, 2019
Ep 38 - Do You Have Too?
There is a time to sprint and a time to drift. When the sprint is over, be sure to drift get back to every other part of your life you may have neglected during the sprint.
September 02, 2019
Ep 37 - You Don't Have To Hustle
There's so much glorification of the Hustle that we might think everyone should be hustling. Not true. It's possible to get where you want to go. I'm not personally there, but that doesn't mean you aren't. Coasting can be okay, at least for a time.
August 31, 2019
Ep 36 - I am an Island
Motivational speakers may tell you not to let the opinions and moods of others affect you. This is useless advice. Healthy normal humans are affected by the moods of others. You will be affected, so what can you do about it? Let's dive in.
August 30, 2019
Ep 35 - Spoon Conservation Plan
An entrepreneur is like a high performance machine. Just like a high performance machine, you need to go offline for maintenance or else you break down and stop working.
August 29, 2019
Ep 33 - Do It Anyway
Do you not feel like making that call or writing that report? Do you not feel like going to work? Do it anyway. We waste so much energy thinking about if we want to do something. Stop thinking. Just get it done.
August 28, 2019
Ep 32 - Do Not Covet Your Past
As we get older, it is tempting to look back and wish we still had what we used to have. This can become an excuse. If only I were younger, I could do more, you might say. Excuses kill success. Do not covet your past. Be honest about your present to seize your future.
August 27, 2019
Ep 32 - Does This App Spark Joy?
I factory reset my phone yesterday, and I couldn't even remember half the apps that are now gone. So much clutter, gone, replaced only with what I have chosen. Where else could benefit from this clearing out?
August 26, 2019
Ep 31 - On Anxiety and Its Attacks
I suffer from anxiety. More in the last year than previously, but I've always had it to some degree. It slows me down, but most people wouldn't even know I have it. What unique challenge do you face? What would it mean to know that others faced it as well?
August 26, 2019
Ep 30 - How to Dabble
We can only have one or maybe two core focuses in our professional life. If we try to have more, we become scattered and ineffective. But you can dabble, and if you do so properly, maintaining your resources and synergizing your projects, you can use your dabbling to build your key priorities rather than distracting from them.
August 24, 2019
Episode 29 - Fearsetting
Our brains are very good about warning us for short term risk, but bad at long term benefit. Try this exercise called Fearsetting to put your risks and opportunities in perspective. Based on a TED talk by Tim Ferriss. https://youtu.be/5J6jAC6XxAI
August 23, 2019
Ep 27 - Make More Money By Giving Stuff Away Free
To get something valuable you have to give something valuable. You want your customer's attention, time, money. Give them value to get it. It could be information through a blog, podcast, or book, or it could be service. Don't devalue your work, but do give away enough for customers to know what you are worth.To get something valuable you have to give something valuable. You want your customer's attention, time, money. Give them value to get it. It could be information through a blog, podcast, or book, or it could be service. Don't devalue your work, but do give away enough for customers to know what you are worth.
August 22, 2019
Ep 26 - Unicorn Objections
In business and sales, it's easy to be distracted by interesting but ultimately unimportant challenges, objections, and problems. Just because a prospect asks a question doesn't mean it needs to be answered. Sometimes they are asking the wrong question because they do not understand your product. Ask yourself what value will be achieved if you succeed in answering the question before going down the rabbit hole.
August 21, 2019
Ep 25 - Ask Not What Your Network Can Do For You, But What You Can Do For Your Network
I want you to try this. Post on your social media of choice an offer. Ask everyone how you can benefit them with an introduction. Offer to connect and introduce them to anyone you know, and see how you can help. Then let me know how it goes. Email the results and stories to firstname.lastname@example.org
August 20, 2019
Ep 24 - Common Sense Coaching
As a business owner, everything falls to you. You are the captain, the admiral, and the cook. If you are in the weeds in operations, how can to focus on the strategic? That's where a coach comes in. Someone who helps you to clarify your own thoughts to find your own genius.
August 19, 2019