By Michele Magner
If you are helping out an aging family member, this is the place for you! As a family caregiver, working in the senior living industry and studying gerontology & dementia, I've learned how important our mindset is as we care for those we love. Here, you will have inspiration and information and provide the tools you need to feel prepared and to take care of yourself along the way! www.michelemagner.com email@example.com
85. Holiday Checklist - What to be looking for
When we get together for the holidays it can be kind of chaotic, but sometimes, we notice that something with our family member seems off. Things that are normally taken care of, are not being handled very well right now. This episode is a comprehensive checklist of what you can be looking for when you gather with your elder family members, to ensure they are safe and healthy in their homes. This list was put together by the Marketing Director at Valley Lakes Assisted Living in Valley, NE. Just 8 short minutes from the Village Pointe shopping center in West Omaha. Here is the link to their website if you'd like to reach out to them to visit their beautiful and welcoming community! ValleyLakesAssistedLiving.com Reach out to me anytime: www.michelemagner.com firstname.lastname@example.org
December 01, 2022
84. Discover Your Unice
What's your unice? Nope, it's not a body part or new age term. It's actually your YOU-NESS, but that's certainly not what I thought when I heard this word for the first time! :) What makes you...YOU? What makes you tick? What do you like? Do you feel like you're showing up as your authentic self? This is certainly part of my continued journey of discovery and what I strive for each day. Let's keep going! www.michelemagner.com email@example.com
November 18, 2022
83. Overcoming FEAR with Confidence
We are born confident and curious and it is only over time that we are repeatedly warned and collecting evidence to have FEAR. Fear holds us back, keeps us stuck, keeps us up at night with worry. F.E.A.R. is simply False Evidence Appearing Real. What keeps surfacing as the way to overcome fear, it is through confidence. Confidence is a muscle that when exercised, becomes stronger. You can build confidence when you have an awareness of yourself, take advantage of neuroplasticity, and practice new ways of thinking and doing to become stronger in your confidence. You want confidence when you're on the path of helping aging family members. It will help you move through challenging situations that you encounter and difficult conversations that need to be had. Here's the video I reference in this episode from a fellow Graceland University alumni, Dr. Ivan Joseph - https://youtu.be/w-HYZv6HzAs
November 11, 2022
82. Assume Positive Intentions / Benefit of the Doubt
We have so many interactions with humans throughout our day. Either people we know, strangers we interact with, or others that barely cross paths with but still leave their mark. Some interactions leave us riding high and others leave us feeling YUCK. In this episode I talk about assuming positive intentions and giving people the benefit of the doubt. Yeah, I know it can be tough, but hope you'll hear me out about what these things are, and how I think they've served me in my life. Thinking through who you are interacting with regularly. Where could these things serve you? Or maybe it's time to have an honest conversation and clean up the connection. Email me: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: www.michelemagner.com Brene Brown on trust and BRAVING - so.freaking.good. https://youtu.be/0SqFiTeka_I
November 01, 2022
81. Caregiving and Drinking to Manage Stress
Teresa was a family caregiver, who went through various stages of caregiving with her beautiful mother-in-law, including having her in their family home and then transitioning to senior living. Each came with it's own stressors and challenges. After 17 years of sobriety, Teresa found it easy to decompress by frequently drinking a couple of glasses of wine. Alcohol was a way to connect with quickly feeling better. As the stress of caregiving evolved, so did the drinking habit, until one day on August 30th, she decided it was time for a massive change and took action. This is a raw conversation about her journey, to take control of her drinking habit, which quite frankly mirrors my own habit in many many ways. (I even did a breathalyzer once before driving to the gym to go 'work it off'). Here are the books she read on why and how to stop drinking that helped her on her journey to being sober again. 1) This Naked Mind, by Annie Grace 2) Alcohol Lied to Me, by Craig Beck If you are a family caregiver needing support, visit my website www.michelemagner.com to learn more about how I can be there for you.
October 18, 2022
80. Apprciating What is Out of Your Control
Despite our best efforts to control as much as possible, it doesn't always play out as we hope. We are doing our best to plan, prepare, manage, organize BUT there is so much out of our control, it can be overwhelming and exhausting. Recently, I started to gain a greater appreciation for what is going RIGHT, even if I'm not controlling it. Frankly, it's a lot. I don't have to micromanage everything, that weight can be lifted off my shoulders. I mean, do things go better when I'm involved (in my opinion), you bet! But, there's a lot of stuff that happens extraordinarily, even though I'm not paying attention to it. www.michelemagner.com Ryan Stevenson: Eye of the Storm - https://youtu.be/-sx8wTnnfSc
October 11, 2022
79. Yoga Mat Lessons on how to Care for Myself and Others
Sometimes being upside down will give you, well, a different perspective! Here are my top 10 lessons on how to take care of myself which always translates into how I'm taking care of others. Ready to Do Yoga Now? Visit, https://www.youtube.com/c/yogawithadriene Ready to make your self-care plan? e-mail me at email@example.com, or visit https://michelemagner.com/work-with-me/
October 04, 2022
78. Talk Nicer to Me
I have a long history of not thinking the nicest things about myself. And with 60,000 thoughts a day, that boils down to about 2,500 thoughts an hour which is a lot of opportunity to be mean to me! Turning it around took attention and diligence, and of course I still have bad days where I want to hide in the cave, BUT once you identify a thought that you realize is recurring, that empowers you to decide if you want to hold on to it and that's exactly what I did. In this episode I talk about the number one thought I let go of and share some I Am statements to kick off your new train of thought. Let's set up a time to chat about how I can help you with this too! www.michelemagner.com
September 23, 2022
77. Should I take them to the funeral
When someone has dementia, it's hard to know when it's appropriate to take the person into an emotionally charged situation, like a funeral. In this episode I share what our family experience was when my father in law passed away, with my mother in law, who has dementia. There can be a lot of judgement and expectations from other people, but you can't worry about them. There is a key question you need to ask yourself. If you need more support, I'm here for YOU! Join me in one of my new Masterclass offerings or the Inspired Caring group program. www.michelemagner.com firstname.lastname@example.org
September 16, 2022
76. Little Signs it's Gonna be OK
What are the little signs that show up for you find reassuring? Life can be pretty overwhelming, and I'm so grateful that my mind has chosen something to bring me reassurance that I'm not on this journey alone. That God has my back.
September 08, 2022
75. Lessons from our Central Perk Friends
For 10 years our "Friends" gathered at Central Perk, sharing the highs and lows of life, celebrating each other, calling each other out (in a loving way) and having each others back. Over the weekend, I was thinking about the 7 years I was the family "helper" for my grandmothers and the many highs and lows of that time. I was in my late 20's/early 30's, so you know I was glued to Must See TV every week. I was also growing my family and caring for these women I love, so there were a lot of challenges at the time. When you are ready for more information and inspiration, visit my website, www.michelemagner.com I am also excited to offer you 2 upcoming Masterclasses! Enroll Here: Senior Living: https://michele-magner.mykajabi.com/pl/2147612099 Dementia: https://michele-magner.mykajabi.com/pl/2147600524
August 27, 2022
74. What's The Point?
This is a solid question I've been pondering lately as our family has had 3 loved ones pass away over the last 6 months. Pretty tough stuff. In this episode I share my mom's words of wisdom (as I remember them), and the reflections I've had on what the point is, and the mindset to consider for why we show up each day for ourselves and the people we love. I'm walking away from recording this fired up to make the most of this day. I hope you do too! #inspiredsenior #coaching #inspiredcaring #dementia #michelemagner #seniorliving #familycaregivig #assistedliving #seniors #alzheimers #mindfulness #agingparents #nursinghome #elderlyparents #lifecoach #love #gratitude #caregiver #homehealth #mindset #consciousaging #aging
August 14, 2022
73. Head to Toe Self-Care
Sometimes it's the little things that really can make a difference! What do you think of when you think of self-care? There are so many little things we can do for ourselves that can help our bodies and mindset. Here's a list of about 60 things I could think of starting at the top of your head, working your way down to your toes. Take care of yourself! It's the only way you can show up for the people you love. www.michelemagner.com
August 04, 2022
72. Stop Yelling
Time and time again, I've heard family members voices rise with frustration and they ask their loved one questions that the person CAN NOT answer. In this episode I talk about why this is happening and what you can do to improve your interactions with the people that you're taking care of. Worried someone you love has Dementia? Join me for a free webinar to untangle some confusion and figure out what the next step is: https://michele-magner.mykajabi.com/registration-page Book a consult or check out my group program (limited spots and it starts Sept. 20, 2022) at: www.michelemagner.com
July 28, 2022
71. The Marathon of Caregiving
Helping aging family members can end up being a significant season or chapter of our lives and feel like a slow, challenging, marathon. There are times when a sprint is required, working through a certain event like a hospital stay or new decline. It can all feel pretty overwhelming at times. Just like a marathon, you can do it self-supported, but it's REALLY nice to have people by your side or in the wings cheering you on! www.michelemagner.com email@example.com
July 20, 2022
70. Feeling Rage
I don't like feeling angry, so when I recently felt totally enraged over something, I wanted to have a better understanding of why this thing pissed me off so much and then calm down so I could get back to enjoying my day. Let's face it, when helping an aging family member, there are a lot of opportunities to get upset. Here I share a strategy to better understand why this is happening and next steps to move towards your actual desired outcomes. If you're a middle age woman and wonder if you're alone in all the things we're dealing with, your not. The book I reference in this episode is, Midlife Bites: Anyone Else Falling Apart or Is It Just Me? By Jen Mann Need More Support? www. MicheleMagner.com #inspiredsenior #coaching #inspiredcaring #dementia #michelemagner #seniorliving #familycaregivig #assistedliving #seniors #alzheimers #mindfulness #agingparents #nursinghome #elderlyparents #lifecoach #love #gratitude #caregiver #homehealth #mindset #consciousaging #aging
July 06, 2022
69. Aging Gracefully with The Curious Senior
There are so many unknowns with the aging journey, but there ARE things that you can be doing right now to feel good today and protect yourself for your future years. Join me in the conversation with my mom, Deborah Ferris, Founder of The Curious Senior, to hear her strategy on aging gracefully. https://thecuriousenior.com/ www.michelemagner.com firstname.lastname@example.org #inspiredsenior #coaching #inspiredcaring #dementia #michelemagner #seniorliving #familycaregivig #assistedliving #seniors #alzheimers #mindfulness #agingparents #nursinghome #elderlyparents #lifecoach #love #gratitude #caregiver #homehealth #mindset #consciousaging #aging
June 29, 2022
68. Same Trip & Destination, Different Expierences
We can find ourselves having very different experiences, even though we are side by side in the same situation, on the exact same journey with the people we love! Realizing we are not experiencing things exactly the same and looking to find a baseline goal can be very helpful when trying to navigate certain situations. If you would like more support, connect with me! www.MicheleMagner.com or email@example.com #inspiredsenior #coaching #inspiredcaring #dementia #michelemagner #seniorliving #familycaregivig #assistedliving #seniors #alzheimers #mindfulness #agingparents #nursinghome #elderlyparents #lifecoach #love #gratitude #caregiver #homehealth #mindset #consciousaging #aging
June 08, 2022
67. Selling the House & Cleaning it Out
When Realtors are also family caregivers, with a specialty in helping seniors sell their homes, naturally they'd open a second company to also help solve the problem of cleaning out the house! Meet Heather Tedesco and Jonie Sturek, the Better Homes and Gardens Real Estate dynamic duo, who opened Family Ties Senior Move Management. If your family members house is full of a lifetime of STUFF, this episode will be a huge help. These ladies cover the number one scam that people are falling for when it comes to selling their home, and a hot tip on how to decide what to keep and what to get rid of. The number one tip I've shared with MY clients is, if they hand you something to take home with you, accept it! Contact these professionals with any questions! https://www.facebook.com/familytiesseniormove/ firstname.lastname@example.org (402) 305-8195 Do you need more support? Reach out to me here: www.MicheleMagner.com; email@example.com
June 01, 2022
66. When you're struggling with your own health - Health & Wellness Coach: Khristine
When Khristine was experiencing significant fatigue, among other health issues, she began researching to understand what she could do to solve her health issues and feel better. She discovered Functional Medicine and tried several 'diets' Paleo, Keto, & Plant Based with varying results, ultimately landing in a healthy space for her body. This episode is a message of persistence and hope! She shares her journey and all of the amazing ways she is able to support you on your health journey. Be sure to connect with her for yoga, hikes and bike rides in the group links below! www.healingwithkhristine.com https://www.facebook.com/HealingwithKhristine https://www.instagram.com/healing_with_khristine/ https://www.facebook.com/groups/1143130443114097 https://www.facebook.com/groups/416720909212486 https://www.facebook.com/groups/4699789743403100 CONTACT MICHELE: www.michelemagner.com; firstname.lastname@example.org
May 25, 2022
65. What is a Death Doula & Grief Coach?
Meet Jenni Herchenbach with Flourish Collaborative! Jenni has supported families with the end of life journey throughout her career, and is passionate about opening up the conversations about death and dying. Death doesn't have to be scary and there are a lot of choices we can be making right now, to support our end of life care. She is a coach, speaker and educator & is on fire to support you on this important topic! To contact Jenni: https://www.facebook.com/flourishomaha email@example.com Michele@inspiredsenior.com www.michelemagner.com
May 12, 2022
64. It's Going to be OK
I know the weight of overwhelm and despair. I know it feels like the world is on fire. I know how easy it is to want to retreat to isolation. I encourage you to love and nurture yourself right now. Keep things simple and look for those seeds of hope. Seek wise counsel and not get so caught up in the play by play. Turn down the dial and refuel yourself. Stay connected to nature, higher powers, intuition and hope. There is always hope and it's gonna be OK. I love you.
May 04, 2022
63. Health & Wellness Coach - Jenn Abbenhaus
Jenn Abbenhaus is passionate about helping caregivers take care of their own health, so they can care for the people that they love! She drove between 2 states to help out her family member and realized how hard it is to maintain healthy habits while in the family caregiver role. In this episode, she shares a lot of wisdom and some concrete strategies on how you can maintain your health as a top priority. Contact Jenn: firstname.lastname@example.org or www.fitbodyphatlife.com Contact me: email@example.com or www.michelemagner.com
April 27, 2022
62. Caregiver's Physical Health with Jennifer Abbenhaus
Jennifer has been a fitness trainer since 2008 and recently was a caregiver for her Grandfather who lived in a different State. She is passionate about making sure that caregivers are maintaining their own health, so they can care for the people they love. In this episode, she gives us hope (and tips) of little things that we CAN do for ourselves physically, that will add up in the long run! Email Jennifer: firstname.lastname@example.org Website: www.fitbodyphatlife.com Join her FB Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/fitbodyphatlifecaregivers
April 27, 2022
61. Caregiving with Kids
Helping an aging family member can be really hard, adding kids to the mix can make things every more complicated both logistically and emotionally. Our kids have had parents in the caregiver roles nearly their entire lives. Here I share my top 5 things we've done to help our kids along the way.
April 20, 2022
60. A Wife's Caregiver Journey - Conversation with Author, Julie Bennett
Julie Bennett cared for her husband for 16 years as they worked through multiple diagnosis, multiple near death experiences, long hospital stays, and Alzheimer's Disease. In her new book, "The Phoenix Man", Julie shares her and her husband, Scott's, story in a loving tribute to Scott and to their beautiful life together. In the book, she also offers a helpful guide for all caregivers encountering their own challenges, sharing with you what she wished she knew. Julie is one of the most resourceful women I've met and we talk about how she took care of herself and tapped community resources to help her along the way. I hope you enjoy this conversation as much as I did. Contact Julie: https://www.julieannettebennett.com/ Buy The Book: https://www.amazon.com/Phoenix-Man-Julie-Annette-Bennett/dp/1982268719/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=the+phoenix+man&qid=1649702530&sr=8-1
April 13, 2022
59. Caregiver Coach, Kaley Johnson
Caregivers do not have to go this alone! Meet Kaley Johnson, a Certified Health and Life Coach who specializes in supporting caregivers. She has been a caregiver professionally for over 25 years in multiple roles, earned her degree in Human Services, has been a foster parent, and until recently, was the caregiver for her 92-year-old grandmother. In this episode we touch on the nuances between professional and family caregiving and Kaley shares programs she created to help you maintain your own identity & life and avoid burnout, all while caring for the person you love. You CAN do this and Kaley can help! Here's how to reach her: Facebook Group: The Healthy Caregiver - https://www.facebook.com/groups/501569750812659 Website: sparkyourjourney.net E-mail: email@example.com
April 06, 2022
58. How a Patient Advocate Can Help You
When your family member is dealing with multiple Doctors, prescriptions, insurance, diagnosis, a healthcare crisis or discharging from the hospital - all things medical - it can be incredibly confusing and overwhelming. Honestly, sometimes things can slip through the cracks at someone's physical, financial, or emotional expense. Nicky Wik, is the patient Advocate who helps you every step of the way. If you are an out of town family member or just need those extra set of hands as you manage work, kids, household and aging parents; she streamlines everything to bring families peace of mind. Listen in as she shares how she can help your family navigate the complex healthcare system with experience, compassion and understanding. https://outreachpatientadvocates.com/contact-outreach-pa/ https://www.facebook.com/OutreachPatientAdvocates https://profile.advoconnection.com/advocates/outreach-patient-advocates/ https://www.gnanow.org/advocates/outreachpatientadvocates 402-616-1298 Nicky Wik, BCPA, CYT Outreach Patient Advocates Nicky@outreachpa.com outreachpatientadvocates.com
March 30, 2022
57. When to stop going to the doctor or cease extraordinary measures
Bottom line is, it is up to the person if they are able to communicate their wishes and if not, then the medical Power Of Attorney has to decide. In this episode I share some things to consider along the way.
March 23, 2022
I am so excited to announce the podcast name change from Inspired Caregiver to Inspired Caring! Overwhelmingly, we just don't feel like caregivers, it's not a title or role we identify with, so this name is more inclusive of the act of caring we are providing for the aging people in our lives and also ourselves. Check out, www.InspiredSenior.com, to learn more about the programs I provide to help set you up for success! firstname.lastname@example.org
March 21, 2022
56. Emptying the House
We have just inherited our 3rd house with a lifetime of belongings in it. YIKES! At the end of the day, for 2 of the households we got companies involved who come through and empty the house. They take everything, but it took some time to get to the place to be ready for this. In this episode I share some thoughts and strategies on how to manage this process, for them and you!
March 16, 2022
55. Lessons from the week before he passed away
The last couple of weeks have been hard as we said goodbye to our family member. We had wonderful support but the experience was emotional and honestly a bit confusing. Sorry it sounds like I’m in a tin can, I recorded sitting in my car the moment I felt I could speak these words without completely losing it.
March 10, 2022
54. How to have a stress free outing
Taking your loved one out on the town for an appointment or event can be stressful! Today we had to go to an appointment and while the actual appointment was a drag for him, overall things went very smoothy and was super low key. Here I share tips on how to prepare and set yourself (and them!) up for success!
February 23, 2022
Trust is an important element of any relationship, but especially in a caregiver situation when emotions are running high and there is a continuous stream of raw vulnerability. They have to trust you, you have to trust them, there are systems and processes that require trust as well. Here are some thoughts to ponder.
February 16, 2022
52. THE Advocate for Residents in Senior LIving - Meet an Ombudsman
Ombudsman is a funny word, but what they do is no laughing matter. Every State in the US is required to have this Department of Health and Human Services program to ensure seniors, living in Assisted Living or Skilled Nursing have a neutral party advocate to help uphold their resident rights. In this episode you will meet Beth Nodes, an Ombudsman in Nebraska who is passionate about seniors living their best life. She fields calls from seniors, their family members and sometimes even the staff of the facility. There is tons of great information here. If you have ANY concerns about the conditions or care your loved one is receiving in a Long Term Care facility, call your local State Ombudsman. They are there to help you! Here is the link for the Nebraska Ombudsman's office, please search for the office in your state if you live outside of Nebraska. https://dhhs.ne.gov/Pages/Aging-Ombudsman.aspx
February 09, 2022
I have been wound up really really tight the last couple of years and as I step in to my new role, I've realized how critical it is for me to UNCLENCH before I can fire on all cylinders. Here I share about how I figured out I was having an issue and what I'm doing to let go. Keep in mind, my self-care is pretty good, I've been meditating daily (I have 167 session streak!), exercise, drink water, get coached regularly, and journal. I still found myself in this situation so you may be in the same boat. Have a listen.
February 02, 2022
50. Dementia Communication Tips
There is so much frustration out there when trying to communicate with our family members who have dementia. They may not have an official diagnosis, but come on, you KNOW something isn’t the same and yet keep trying to have conversations the same way. When that doesn’t work you get mad and frustrated. These 4 tips are game changers.
January 19, 2022
49. Five Secrets to My Success
We can count on life to constantly throw challenges our way and I do my share of bobbing and weaving trying to "keep it all together". Here are some of the key ways I have continued to find success despite the uncertainties that keep popping up.
January 12, 2022
Eps. 48 - Invest Time Now
You are going to use 365 days of time in 2022. John Maxwell says we are "spending our life preparing or repairing". In this episode I share how taking some time at the front end of the year, helped me manage unexpected family circumstances midway through. In a world where so much feels out of our control, don't surrender to giving all of your power away! Invest some time now to set your future self up for success. They will thank you later! Here are the links to the three videos I reference in this episode: Year End Review - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UsgaAty1Nls&t=8s Planning the Upcoming Year - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wxFJ1NUi3N0&t=4s Vision Boards - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f5RtGVwp1Q4
January 06, 2022
Eps. 47 Celebrating Our 2021 Wins
2 Hospital and rehab stays, my kid's graduation, losing a friend, going through stuff at the parents house, relaxed weekly family meals, it has been a roller coaster of a year and I've shown up for all of it. Feeling all the feels, experiencing the ups and downs, I'm proud of what I've created and how we have navigated some of the toughest situations there are. Join me in this episode to celebrate our wins and for a big announcement at the end!
December 29, 2021
Eps. 46 - Pay attention to these things when you visit
Getting together for the holidays can bring a lot of joy, it can also bring a lot of frustrations and concerns. This year when you get together, when you see that your parents aren't "on point" with something, rather than jumping to completely annoyed or angry, become a curious observer. In this episode, I share specific areas to pay attention to and questions to ask them during your visit. www.InspiredSenior.com email@example.com
December 22, 2021
Eps. 45 - Food and Staffing in Senior Living
WOAH - two very sensitive and hot topics are being addressed today, food quality and staffing concerns in senior living. Here are some initial thoughts on both of these subjects. www.InspiredSenior.com firstname.lastname@example.org
December 16, 2021
Eps. 44 - The Alzheimer's Association Programs & Services - not just for Alzheimers
It was a thrill to sit down with, Jon Day, the Alzheimer's Association Nebraska Chapter Walk Director, to talk about who the Association helps and what programs and services they offer. They are for everyone, regardless of what dementia diagnosis has been received or if you are a family or professional caregiver. They offer education, support, volunteer opportunities, and more! There is a 24/7 helpline available to you for ANY issue you may be facing. If you are facing a recent diagnosis in your family and you're not sure what to do next, or maybe your loved one is getting up every night at 2am and packing a suitcase, anything you are facing, they are here to help you. Call, 800-272-3900 day or night to speak with a trained professional. Visit www.alz.org to be directed to local support that is ready and waiting for you.
December 08, 2021
Eps. 43 - We are Energy
This episode is not referring to how much energy you have to get something done (or motivation for that matter). The kind of energy I’m referring to is around the concept that we are all energetic beings with powerful energetic connections to one another. When you show up to a situation, or room full of people, or the person you are caring for, your partner & children, your work place, or even to look at the person in the mirror, there is an energetic vibration that you are bringing with you being created by your thoughts. Having an awareness of your own energy (and that of others) is an important factor in how all of our interactions and communications turn out. Once you are aware, move towards choosing and setting your own energy. This will help you show up as authentically you, and hopefully improve your relationships with others!
December 01, 2021
Eps. 42 - Sustainability of Being a Caregiver
Caregiving can be so hard and there are days when emotionally I'd be incredibly drained. It wasn't that something had changed, and I needed additional help, it was more of feeling challenged that there was no end in sight. And the obvious 'end' to my caregiver role meant I was going to lose this person that I loved. In this episode I share some ways to mentally re-set in order to generate the energy you need to keep going. Big hugs to you, you've got this!
November 10, 2021
Eps. 41 Aging Mindset Reset
When we are surrounded by people that are struggling with aging, it can start to confuse us about what is possible for us as we age. In this episode I share a startling fact about your DNA and offer up my aging role models. What we do now, makes a difference in our lives today and for how we are doing tomorrow. We can do this!
November 03, 2021
Eps. 40 - Our Love Languages
Knowing what your love language is and the love language of the person you care for (and even other family members!), can help with communication, feeling appreciated and loving on each other. According to Dr. Gary Chapman there are 5 Love Languages that we operate within, Acts of Service, Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time. You can take this quick and free assessment by clicking on this link, https://www.5lovelanguages.com/learn. I highly encourage you to do this! You'll be surprised at what you start to notice and how much better you will feel if people are speaking your language. :).
October 27, 2021
Eps. 39 Pick a Different Thought
We stay stuck when the same thoughts keep looping in our heads. If days start running in to each other, it's really easy to hold on to the same thoughts! In this episode, I offer a few new thoughts for you to try on when you begin to feel out of sorts. Try them on and see what you think!
October 20, 2021
Eps. 38 - Today I Feel Sad
Today I'm having a moment of feeling really sad and ripped off about how things are playing out in the health of the people I love. We have lost so much time because of dementia and cancer. My wish is that you feel supported and all the love, while we figure out how to best take care of ourselves along the way.
October 13, 2021
Eps. 37 - What Has Changed In My Life Since I Stopped Drinking
Spoiler Alert - every outcome of me not drinking has been positive, across the board. In this episode I share what those changes looked like with my body, relationships, mind, time and more. Enjoy this final episode in this 3 part series of my journey on stopping drinking.
October 06, 2021
Eps. 36 How I Stopped Drinking
My relationship with alcohol had bothered me for years and in 2018, I FINALLY figured it out. I had my last drink January 23rd. The first 6 months I definitely was looking over my shoulder and trying to figure out how to navigate this choice. Resources felt slim and I wasn't sure how to make it through. The Podcast that helped me the most was The Life Coach School by Brooke Castillo. Her Stop Over Drinking episodes 1, 2 and 3, were a game changer. Getting a handle on this habit came simultaneously with me figuring out how to manage my emotions differently and lucky for me she's a certified coach so I was already in the right spot. https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/116/ https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/117/ https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/118/ In this episode I share how I did it. I decided to expand this to a 3 part series and next week share what has changed in my life as a result.
September 29, 2021
Eps. 35 - Why I stopped Drinking
This is an ongoing conversation I began about a year ago. In 2018, I completely changed my relationship with alcohol. Posting videos on Social Media, I invited people in to my experience and as a result, many have messaged me with what their experience is. In this episode, I share the main reasons why I stopped drinking. I mention this is going to be a 2 part series, but will expand it to 3. The next episode I'll share HOW I stopped drinking and then in the final will share how my life has changed. EDIT: the birthday was Jan 21, but the 23rd was an opportunity to celebrate and the 24th is still when I decided to stop. This will make sense when you listen.
September 22, 2021
Eps. 34 - Our Words Matter
It is easy to find a lot of things to complain about these days and there are plenty of people ready to listen (hello Internet). But putting words to our thoughts give them power, and when you are taking care of someone, that can make the days feel even harder and longer. In this episode, I share the importance of choosing our words carefully. (PS, I'm not perfect at it, but I'm aware and sure trying!)
September 15, 2021
Eps. 33 - Thirty Days Notice
In my years of experience, I've never heard of a senior living community that makes you sign a year long lease. In fact, what is required to move out is giving 30 days notice. In this episode I share a couple of reasons why someone may make the decision to transition to senior living and a resource that can help make the process so much easier. Remember, once you've given it a shot, if necessary, you can always give 30 days notice and move out! EDIT: I mention in this episode that I don't know of anyone who has chosen to give notice and move out, BUT, my own grandmother did when we moved her from one side of town to another. So of course, as with everything in life, there are exceptions!
September 08, 2021
Eps. 32 - I don't think I can do this anymore
This is a comment that I see over and over in caregiver support groups and have also heard a lot in recently in healthcare. Based on my experience and what I've read, there are three phases we go through. Digging deep to gut it out, reconnecting with 'why', and considering shifting gears to make a change.
September 01, 2021
Eps. 31 Feeling Guilty
I haven't met a caregiver that isn't riddled with guilt. Guilty is an emotion you are feeling generated by what you are THINKING. In this episode I talk about my recent experience of feeling guilty, why spending energy on guilt isn't useful and what you can do. Change your thinking, change how you feel.
August 26, 2021
Eps. 30 Conversations about visiting with my Grandma
Join me in this episode as I visit with my mom, Deborah Ferris, as she shares some strategies on how to have a good visit with your older family member. Ultimately the key was being willing to pivot when things were not going as expected. Have a monologue in case they aren't up for participating in the conversation. Take pictures or a pet to talk about Do what's right for YOU Have a plan going in if you don't think things are going well
August 19, 2021
Eps. 29 Slow Down
This quick tip came from a Nurse and C.N.A. (Certified Nursing Assistant) who care for elderly adults and are constantly watching how families are interacting with their loved one. Moving too fast is a big contributor to miscommunication as well as potential injury.
August 12, 2021
Eps. 28 Tips to Survive the Whirlwind
There are times when it feels like everything is happening all at once. In this episode, I share 2 of my key reflections on how I keep going when it all feels like too much.
August 04, 2021
My emotions are running high and I am so dang fragile right now. Join me in this episode to hear how I'm powering through one of the most joyous and challenging season of life.
May 14, 2021
Eps. 27 - Engaging your Loved One
Brittany Tran studied Gerontology and has extensive experience as a, Caregiver Support Group Facilitator, working within Assisted Living as a Certified Nursing Assistant, in the Life Enrichment Department, Admissions and ultimately as a Memory Care Director. She brings a wealth of knowledge and compassion to families and also has some great ideas! Life Loop is a program that helps families stay connected with their loved ones in senior living. It keeps track of all the activities your family members attend among other things. If you have any questions for Brittany, her contact information is, Brittany.Tran@ourlifeloop.com
May 05, 2021
Eps. 26 - Caregiver Support Systems
Primary family caregivers need SUPPORT. In this discussion, Yana shares about supporting her mother, who is the primary caregiver for her Grandmother. We don't have to always have answers and solutions, sometimes it's simply a matter of holding space for the person who is doing the heavy lifting. I hope you learn as much as I did from this conversation! If you are ready to explore what coaching can do for YOU, I highly encourage you to reach out to Yana. She. Is. Amazing. Yana Dashevsky is an RMT Certified Life Coach, whose life mission is to help others by showing them that they are never alone. In her late 20's, Yana realized that her name was also an acronym for her calling in life: Yana - You. Are. Not. Alone. Yana is a coach, speaker and author, currently living in Atlanta, GA. For more information about Yana, please visit www.YanaDashevskyCoaching.com
April 28, 2021
Eps. 25 Caregiver Exhaustion - Or is it Menopause?
Dawna Daily experienced a series of physical symptoms and went through several doctors (including an emergency room visit!) to finally discover that she was in menopause. Wait, what? How is that possible? That doctor after doctor did not identify that a woman with all of the indicators of menopause, was going through it? You are a human woman, who will biologically go through a series of events that will ultimately result in no longer having a menstrual cycle. This may begin as early as in your 30's! If you have any of these symptoms, listen to this episode! Exhaustion - Fuzzy Thoughts - Heart Murmurs - Depression - Anxiety Neither of us are doctors and cannot diagnose you. If you are having any of the symptoms mentioned, please contact your doctor.
April 21, 2021
Eps. 24 Speech Therapy (AKA Speech Language Pathology)
Jason Nickelson is an experienced Licensed Speech Language Pathologist. Here he shares his years of expertise working with seniors who have brain or throat based issues. My mother in law has dementia, and when she started biting her cheek when she ate, I knew it was time for Speech Therapy, and it worked! We also dive in to the overall aging process, encouraging hope and excitement for the aging journey. Being a caregiver is not easy, we hope you feel our support and love with this conversation. Jason generously shared his contact information if you would like to reach out to him with any additional questions you may have, email@example.com.
April 14, 2021
Eps. 23 The Poop Episode
Caregivers at home appear to be elbow deep in poop, which is MUCH less of an issue in senior living communities. Why is this? Here I visit the Sandy, a Nurse who has worked in rehabilitation facilities and also serving patients in their homes on Hospice, about what to consider and strategies to use when helping with your loved one.
April 07, 2021
Eps. 22 LBGTQ Seniors
This important conversation was an opportunity for me be educated on challenges facing the LBGTQ community during the aging process. Heather shares incredibly valuable insight! Heather Holmes, Outreach Manager for VidaNyx is passionate about impacting individuals Heather is an intrapreneur, community activist, and sought after mentor who is encouraged daily by the strong women and feminists in her life. She believes in the transformative power of women in leadership. At VidaNyx, Heather advances digital transformation for Child Advocacy Center teams, protecting the stories of survivors of child abuse, and supports outreach and advocacy efforts. Previous to her current role, Heather excelled in a 16 year career in senior living and was an adjunct instructor at the University of Nebraska at Omaha. Heather spends her time advocating for inclusion and diversity, more specifically for LGBTQ+ elders. She loves policy, politics and heartfelt conversations. You can often find her dreaming of her next ritual bath and vibing with the moons cycles. She is deeply grateful for her partnership with her wife Michelle. Together they are exploring the world with their two sons. Being a mom is and will be the greatest joy and biggest life lesson for Heather.
March 31, 2021
Eps. 21 The Dying Body
Eventually, every body dies. Also everybody, but our body, will eventually stop functioning. In this episode, I discuss with a Hospice Nurse what you can potentially expect as the body shuts down.
March 24, 2021
Eps. 20 What is Hospice All About?
Hospice is NOT a four letter word! This misunderstood service is a wonderful opportunity for a person in their final months of life, to continue to have dignity, grace and comfort. Quality of Life is the focus here. Allison helps us unpack: What is Hospice? What services do they provide? How much does it cost? What equipment will you bring? Does Hospice accelerate the dying process? How do I know when it's time? Listen in as this industry expert shares her knowledge on what you need to know about Hospice care.
March 17, 2021
Eps. 19 Final Days with Papa (Part 2) Joy & Clair
In this video Joy and Clair, the other 2 sisters referenced in Part 1, share their experience working with Hospice and each other in their father's final days. Clair offers two hard discussion topics that are important to clarify before the final days of someone's life. Joy shares some of her strategies that helped her have the strength to show up for her family, when they needed her the most. "And I was like, OK, I need to go get a tattoo, because If I can get a tattoo, I can do anything!" The teamwork dynamic and love between the sisters is inspiring. There are some graphic details shared during this conversation so be aware as you join us. Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
March 10, 2021
Eps. 18 Final Days with Papa (Part 1) Emily
Emily, shares her whirlwind of a day with me, she sat by her father's side as he passed over. This episode was recorded just hours after her father died and is full of emotion and beauty. You may be triggered, as you listen to her process this experience. Please be sure you are in a safe space (e.g. not driving). I agree with you Emily, everyone should be so lucky to have the blessing of an ending this beautiful. Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
March 03, 2021
Eps. 17.5 Core Values
Warning: Listening to this episode and doing the work will improve how you communicate with everyone in your life. Having the chance to identify my core values helped me feel less sad, angry and attacked in my life. Changing my THOUGHTS about what was happening, completely changed how I was feeling about things and how I showed up for the people that I love. I'm so excited to hear how this work helps you. Here's a site I used to help me drill down in to what my values are: www.minimalwellness.com/values (she has a worksheet within her description paragraph).
March 02, 2021
Eps. 17 Adult Onset Food Sensitivities (Part 1)
Meet my Mom! Deborah Ferris, in her 60's started having allergic reactions to various foods she had eaten her whole life. Two different doctors wanted to put her on 2 different life-time medicines. She paid attention to what was and wasn't working for her body, finally had some help from an employee at Whole Foods and started to get her health on track. At 75, she feels fantastic, is not on any prescription drugs and has started a food blog to share her delicious recipes. Caring for someone else is hard enough, caring for them when you physically feel terrible everyday feels impossible. Listen to this important conversation about how to listen to your body and honor what it needs! Then go check out her Blog, The Curious Senior to find some incredible recipes that will have you licking your plate! https://thecuriousenior.com/ Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
February 24, 2021
Eps. 16 Must Have Tools for the at Home Caregiver
You are working so hard to care for your family member! In this episode Lisa Hamilton PT, has a background in Home Health and shares the must have tools to make caregiving at home easier for you and your loved one! Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
February 17, 2021
Eps. 16 Must Have Tools for Caregiving at Home
You are working so hard to care for your family member! In this episode Lisa Hamilton PT, has a background in Home Health and shares the must have tools to make caregiving at home easier for you and your loved one!
February 17, 2021
Eps. 15 Getting Family on the Same Page
It is hard enough when you are the one providing the daily care for your loved one, let alone trying to convince other family members it needs to be done, or how it needs to be done! Debbie shares her experience of navigating multiple family members as they moved through the process of caregiving and moving. Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
February 10, 2021
Eps. 14 Grief and Managing Loss
There can be a lot of loss to navigate as a caregiver, especially when someone has dementia and the losses seem to keep coming. Kay shares from her vast experience from caring for her husband for the last 8 years and her many years as a licensed mental health practitioner, working with families going through grief. Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
February 03, 2021
Eps. 13 Author Whitney Bishop on Caring for her Father
Whitney shares her candid experience of caring for her father, including getting a job in the kitchen of the nursing home he briefly lived in! ABOUT THE AUTHOR Whitney Bishop is a master facilitator, speaker, coach and author. She is devoted to the personal and professional development of change agents and nonprofit leaders all over the world. Her practice is devoted to serving those who serve others, particularly those who are serving women, children and families. Her signature coaching, planning and consulting process helps leaders address the mindsets, questions, habits, routines & practices that are either holding them back or moving them forward. Whitney believes that creating a contemplative daily practice is a game-changing habit that all change agents must embrace. There is much work to be done in the world. And while we are focused on changing the world, we must also focus on consistently developing ourselves. For coaching, speaking & facilitation opportunities, please contact Whitney Bishop, Change Agent Website links www.patreon.com/whitneybishop, https://www.whitneybishop.com/morning-meditation-nuggets/ Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
January 27, 2021
Eps. 13 Author Whitney Bishop Shares About Caring For Her Father
Whitney shares her candid experience of caring for her father, including getting a job in the kitchen of the nursing home he briefly lived in! ABOUT THE AUTHOR Whitney Bishop is a master facilitator, speaker, coach and author. She is devoted to the personal and professional development of change agents and nonprofit leaders all over the world. Her practice is devoted to serving those who serve others, particularly those who are serving women, children and families. Her signature coaching, planning and consulting process helps leaders address the mindsets, questions, habits, routines & practices that are either holding them back or moving them forward. Whitney believes that creating a contemplative daily practice is a game-changing habit that all change agents must embrace. There is much work to be done in the world. And while we are focused on changing the world, we must also focus on consistently developing ourselves. For coaching, speaking & facilitation opportunities, please contact Whitney Bishop, Change Agent Website links www.patreon.com/whitneybishop https://www.whitneybishop.com/morning-meditation-nuggets/
January 27, 2021
Eps. 12 Adult Protective Services
When and Why would you call? Listen in on the discussion I have with Pam Moriarty with APS in Omaha, NE. If you are concerned about the safety and well being of a vulnerable adult, please consider investigating what State resources are available to you. They are here to HELP you and your loved one navigate what options are in the community that could benefit your family. I've repeatedly heard caregivers upset that their family member is living in an unsafe situation and they don't know who to call. Check in with APS, Adult Protective Services. Work with Michele: www.InspiredSenior.com
January 20, 2021
Eps. 11 Music
Music is powerful, for both a caregiver and your loved one. Listen in as Mark shares how music enhanced his experience as a caregiver for his wife and the scientifically proven health benefits of music for all of us.
January 13, 2021
Eps. 10 Therapy for the Caregiver and Your Loved One
In this episode, Mindy Crouch shares some of the struggles facing both caregivers AND the person they are caring for. She also offers guidance and suggestions on what you can do right now to have a more positive experience in both positions! When working as a medical social worker, Mindy Crouch discovered the need for a geriatric mental health therapist who goes to the nursing homes. She couldn’t find a resource for this need so decided to open up a private practice that did mental health therapy in nursing homes. A year and half went by and there were more therapists interested in doing what she was doing, so she decided to open up Pando Geriatric Counseling to expand the services more into the community. She has also acquired her Iowa Social Work License and her Grief Recovery Certificate since then. To reach Mindy to learn more about services Pando offers, contact them at firstname.lastname@example.org or 402-321-8995.
January 07, 2021
Eps. 9 Self Care
What does self care really mean and how do you do it? This interesting conversation will provide specific tips on how and what you can do to take care of yourself, while caring for someone else. Gaby Van Houten has had a life-long interest in Ayurveda. Ayurveda, or“science of life”, is a natural healing system that has been practiced for thousands of years. Originating in ancient India, this healing tradition states that each person’s path to optimal health is unique - because each person is unique. Therefore Ayurveda emphasizes balance in body, mind, and spirit through diet, lifestyle, exercise, meditation, yoga, and cleansing therapies - all designed for the individual, this is not a “one size fits most”approach. Ayurveda and Yoga are sister sciences - practiced together they form a complete approach to optimal health, vitality, higher awareness and increased longevity.Gaby received her formal training through the California College of Ayurveda, the nation’s leader in Ayurvedic education. She has also been in private practice as a Licensed Esthetician since 1987. Whether your intention is to create a healthier lifestyle for yourself, or to learn tools to navigate through a health crisis, Gaby draws on her various qualification as an Ayurvedic Health Practitioner, Ayurvedic Yoga Therapist, Certified Pancha Karma Specialist and Primordial Sound Meditation Teacher, to design a treatment plan that is unique for you.
December 27, 2020
Eps. 8 Finding Joy
Carla shares her story of caring for her parents and her mother's dementia journey. Through her beautiful stories, she conveys her ability of meeting her mom right where she was at cognitively, so the family could find joy and enjoy their time together.
September 23, 2020
Eps. 7 When is it time for Assisted Living?
This can be a challenging emotionally fueled conversation. Whether it’s for yourself or for a family member, making the decision to transition into assisted living or memory care is never easy. Nikki Wulff drew from the passion of her own family experiences when she opened up the Assisted Living Locators of Greater Omaha franchise. Her commitment to treat every client like family shines through and reduces the stress for everyone involved. Listen in as Michele and Nikki discuss how to know when it may be time to make the move. Nikki Wulff, Owner Assisted Living Locators | C: 402-926-9505 | | PO Box 3193 Omaha, NE 68103 |
September 17, 2020
Eps. 6 Guilt, Fatigue, Assisted Living & More - Caregiver Gold here!
WOW. If you are caring for someone at home this is a MUST LISTEN. Doug talks about moving his parents in to Independent Living after his Mom's Vascular Dementia diagnosis. Caregiving can evolve slowly over time. Doug offers critical tips and support for people as they navigate all of the dynamics and stages of the caregiver journey. Don't mind our technical difficulties as you absorb this caregiver gold right here!
September 13, 2020
Eps. 5 Remaining Independent
Maintaining independence and quality of life are key components to satisfaction as we age. Meaghan Fitzgerald Walls is the President/CEO of Assistology, LLC, in Omaha, Nebraska. She founded Assistology to address an unmet need in the Midwest to provide Assistive Technology (AT), Rehab Engineering and Universal Design solutions that enable an individual to have increased participation in activities that improve functional abilities for daily living, as well as overall quality of life, as well as help businesses increase their ability to create inclusive spaces, services, products and practices. Previously, Walls served as Director of Rehabilitation Services at Children’s Respite Care Center in Omaha. Her career also includes positions as a Biomedical Sales Engineer at ADInstruments in Boston, and as an Assistive Technology Specialist, Assistive Technology Regional Center Coordinator, project leader and researcher for Easter Seals Massachusetts. Most recently, Walls was an award recipient of the Midland’s Business Journal 2019 40 Under 40. In 2019 Walls was appointed to the Mayor’s Advisory Commission for Citizens with Disabilities and in 2020 was elected as the Vice Chair of the Commission. She is the elected Board President of Angel Guardians, Inc. and holds the Vice President position on the Madonna School Young Professionals Board. Meaghan is a certified Assistive Technology Professional (ATP) who holds a Master of Science in Bioengineering with an emphasis on Rehabilitation and Assistive Technology from the University of Illinois-Chicago under a 2 year Rehab Technology Fellowship. She earned a Bachelor of Science in Mathematics with a minor in Chemistry from Saint Mary’s College, Notre Dame, Indiana.
September 12, 2020
Eps. 4 Hearing
Listen up caregivers - your family member might not be able to hear you! Janie offers some very specific tips on how to have better communication with your family member. Janie York is a Hearing Instrument Specialist Licensed in NE and Iowa, owner of Hear Now, Mobile Hearing Solutions, and a Recreation Therapist. Janie is passionate about helping elders hear and communicate with their families, friends and caregivers. No stranger to hearing loss, Janie has worn hearing aids and navigated hearing loss challenges for over 30 years. Now, as she provides hearing care to elders in the facilities, they call home, those challenges become assets as she cleans, repairs and educates to help bring everyone back into the conversation. When not on the business end of a hearing aid in need of cleaning Janie loves to sew, read, motorcycle (as the passenger),and spend time with her children and grandchildren. Please let me know how I can help you! www.hearnowsolutions.com, 402-880-3938, email@example.com Link to face mask (don't forget the anti-fog as well!) - https://www.hearnowsolutions.com/new-...
September 10, 2020
Eps. 3 End of Life
Heidi shares her touching story of bringing her mom home for end of life care. She discloses how when people say they're FINE, they are not actually OK and what is really happening in their world. There's an evolution with helping out a family member that can slowly become all encompassing. Listen in as we discuss what that is like.
September 09, 2020
Eps. 2 A Safe Home for Caregiving
This conversation is FOR caregivers who are interested in creating a safer home environment for their loved one. Lisa Hamilton created The Longevity Project because she is passionate about helping people live long, age well and be well, no matte what stage and age in life! She combines her background as a Doctor of Physical Therapy, Master Movement Educator, and Mindfulness Practitioner to coach people to live active, healthy and inspired lives. Based upon the pillars of successful "super-agers", The Longevity Project seeks to help people find clarity and connect the dots between body, mind, and spirit to design a life filled with good health, meaningful connection, creativity and ZEST! You can reach her by e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at 303-956-5215 to schedule a Free Discovery Session to take a look at your Longevity Life Plan, or sign up for more information and upcoming events.
September 04, 2020
Eps. 1 When the Parent Lives with You
Welcome to Conversations with Caregivers! If you are currently caring for a family member, or are considering it, here's an opportunity for you to listen in on a conversation with someone who is already doing it. While there are common threads among families and the caregiving role, every situation is unique due to circumstances, personalities and family dynamics. Meet Brenda, who is living with her mother-in-law and offers a helping hand AND some great advice to someone considering co-cohabiting with a parent. THIS IS A JUDGEMENT FREE ZONE. Every family is different so it's not our place to determine what is right or wrong for them. Hopefully you get a nugget to take away on your own caregiver journey.
September 02, 2020