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Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up

Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up

By Michelle Weidenbenner
If you're the mom of addicted loved one and need help understand what's happening to your child, or how to recovery from the addiction chaos, join us here for support.
As the mother of a recovering addict, I've spent years trying to cope with this devastating disease. I used to search for others to help me, but couldn't find what I was looking for.
Now I'm focused on comforting moms, like you, by sharing what I needed -- bringing you hope and a way to recapture you.

Michelle@MichelleWeidenbenner.com
@ChiefHopeBuilder
MomsLettingGo.com
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What is "Loving Well" with Pam Lanhart
Learn how to love your child through his or her addiction. Connectivity is the antidote to addiction, not isolation. Pam is the Director of Thrive! Family Support at Breakthrough Ministries,  She's a certified Family Recovery Coach  www.pamlanhart.com Pam she is also the author at 'Praying Our Loved One Home - Daily Prayers for Prodigals' Discover how she learned to radically love her son during his addiction, so you can learn how to love your child too! Listen to how she chose life!
1:24:41
October 21, 2020
Interview with Bobby Newman, Interventionist
What does an interventionist do? What's the most difficult part of facilitating an intervention?  Why are addicted loved ones opposed to getting into recovery?  Go to: NewmanInterventions.com for your free 25 Tips for a Successful Intervention and Letter Writing Guide
44:34
October 15, 2020
🌸How to discover your SWEET spot.🌸
Living in your purpose can help you focus on something different than your addicted loved one. 👉👉When you can focus on your life and what you’re passionate about, you can live a life that you can control. 👉👉 Learn how to focus on you and your purpose.
15:16
October 12, 2020
What is Prison Like? Interview with Peggy Johnson, Mom of an Addicted and Incarcerated Son
1.  How often are you able to talk to a person in prison?   2.  How do you send him money? 3.  Can you send him books or other information? 4.  Does he ‘live’ with someone else in his cell? 5.  When can they get ‘privileges?’ 6.  What does his typical day look like?
48:42
September 8, 2020
Tips for Grands Parenting Grands from Behavior Therapist, Nancy Kling
If you're a grandma parenting grandchildren, you're not alone. Over 3 million women are parenting children again. Tune into this Interview with Nancy Kling, Founder of Behavior Plus, and start transforming your parenting journey into a more peaceful one. She's the author of The Cup Kid: Parenting a Child with Meltdowns and I’m A Cup Kid, The Workbook Nancy has worked with children with challenging behavior since 1992, and loves teaching parents and teachers how to become the agent of change for their children.   Utilizing her strong behavioral training, experience, and the Nurtured Heart Approach, she can help you strengthen your relationship with your grandchildren, improve their behavior, and restore the peace and joy you desire! For Nancy's FREE Behavior Handout, please write to her at:  Nancy@BehaviorPlus.com
44:54
August 31, 2020
How Can You Practice Mindfulness with RAIN? with Anne Lowell
Since she was a little girl, Anne Lowell has been fascinated by the mind, body, and the brain. She studied Kinesiology at the University of Michigan, has over 1500 hours studying and teaching meditation, yoga, and mindfulness, and has a background in massage therapy for chronic pain and mental health. She's the energy behind Evolved Mind, LLC, which is dedicated to helping smart and successful people from all walks of life and from all over the country to feel at ease amidst the chaos of life. A cornerstone of her mindfulness teaching and coaching is that well-being is a skill, and it starts by training the mind. Today, she’s going to share her personal RAIN Technique to help you train your mind to LET GO of the chaos in your life. https://annelowell.com   "I help people feel CALM amidst the CHAOS of life." https://www.facebook.com/groups/angstyadults
41:19
August 28, 2020
Interview with Author, Mary Dolor, about her book, THROES, a Transformative Parable
Moms of addicted loved ones need support and tools to help them recover from the family disease of addiction. Author Mary Dolor shares a transformative approach to helping moms heal by sharing a story and asking readers to journal answers to questions. Learn about Neuroplasticity and meta cognition and how they help promote positive thoughts. One reader said: I wept as I read about her pain, as it was so easy to relate to the hopelessness and helplessness one feels when dealing with family members suffering this affliction. I believe others will take comfort from her insight knowing they are not alone and can use the techniques she used to heal the deep trauma on themselves and in their families! The message of hope resounds. https://www.amazon.com/Mary-Dolor/dp/1532088108/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1YJQKYOQSOF4J&dchild=1&keywords=mary+dolor+throes&qid=1595527441&sprefix=Mary+dolor%2Caps%2C170&sr=8-1
30:16
July 24, 2020
Interview with Edie Landry, The Mom, Sister and Daughter of an Addicted Loved One
How does one mom cope surrounded by almost ten years of addiction in her life?  The prayer that changed her journey: Lord God, Please walk with Adam. I beg you to captivate his heart, take over his mind, & invade his soul. He needs his Heavenly Father more than ever to show him the way. With confidence, I thank you Lord Adam’s Mommy
57:16
July 20, 2020
What is Motivational Interviewing and how can it help you communicate that you care?
OARS - Learn what this acronym stands for and how implementing it can change your relationship with you ALO. Communicare is my made-up word for communicating that you care. Learn how to validate your child's feelings.
32:39
July 10, 2020
You might have weak boundaries if ...
Recognize the signs of weak boundaries. Learn the difference between reacting and responding to your triggers.
29:07
June 29, 2020
Which role do you play in your family’s addiction cycle?
Learn what the roles are, why they continue and how you can stop your role in the cycle.
24:46
June 9, 2020
How Do Moms Cope with Guilt?
Interview with author, Steve Makofka, on GUILT. He shares Chapter 13 in his book, "Family Recovery, Build the Family you Need with the People you Already Have." 
42:25
March 24, 2020
Practice Mindfulness
What are the benefits of practicing mindfulness? How can this activity help moms with anxiety and paralyzing thoughts? Let me take you through a practical example of how this can help.
17:52
March 20, 2020
Did your child die in active addiction?
These are the words of recovering addicts. It’s their message to their moms had they died while using.
11:47
March 13, 2020
How Do Parents Let Go? by Certified Family Life Educator, Steve Makofka
"You can change your family Tree with One Branch," Steve Makofka How do you let go of your addicted child without losing hope? Author of, "Family Recovery, Build the Family you Need with the People you Already Have.
30:06
March 3, 2020
How do you Love your Child Through Addiction?
A story of healing, by Lara Frazier. Learn from an addicted loved one in recovery about how parents can continue to love their children through addiction.
10:41
February 29, 2020
Who is the most important person you will lead in your life?
Where are your blind spots? We all have them. Identifying yours could help you overcome your unhealthy helping patterns. This could inadvertently help your addicted loved one.
22:57
February 23, 2020
How Do Moms Detach from their Addicted Loved Ones? by Dr. Lynn Payne
Dr. Lynn Payne, Broken Roads addiction counselor in Anderson, Indiana, shares her experience as the mother of an addicted loved one and as an addiction counselor.  If you're looking for a counselor, feel free to call Lynn at (765) 661-0149. Lynn does video-conferencing too.
29:22
February 5, 2020
What Would This Mom Do Different?
Hindsight in any hardship is 20/20. We often see things differently after we've been through a crisis.  Listen to one mom talk about what she would do differently with her teen addict. Keep in mind that how we parent a teenager who's struggling with addiction is different than how we treat an adult addict. 
34:16
February 1, 2020
How to Explain a Parent’s Addiction to their Children
If you’re a Grandparent raising your grandchildren because of addiction, you have a tough tow. Often times you don’t know what to say to the children. They feel abandoned by their parents. They’re ashamed. Some even think it’s their fault. What do you say?
16:32
January 26, 2020
Inside the Mind of an Addict
Interview with recovering addict and author, Willow Green, who wrote the book, "I'm Sober, Now What? Moving through the fear, anxiety, and humility of LIFE, on Life's terms." For a free download of INSIDE THE MIND of an ADDICT, go to GroovyWillowGreen.com or this link: https://bit.ly/38abLvc
49:01
January 17, 2020
Prayer in addiction.
How can prayer help Moms cope with addicted loved ones? How can praying for specific needs strengthen us?
22:10
January 6, 2020
Interview with Marcia Bracken, mother of an addicted Loved one, and aromatherapy specialist.
How does the mother of an addict control anxiety and depression? What are some holistic approaches?  What do healthy conversations sound like between a mom and her addicted child?
38:47
December 27, 2019
What if I Get The "Call?"
Moms of addicted loved ones worry they'll get the call that their addicted loved ones overdosed. They live in fear every day. How do they find peace in their lives when they're in constant turmoil? Meet Clare Cory, licensed psychologist, who's worked in the field of addiction recovery for more than thirty years. Listen to her answers on addiction, boundaries, and the fear of an addiction overdose.
42:19
December 19, 2019
How to Get Through the Holidays with An Addicted Loved One
How do moms get through the holidays and pretend that everything is okay when her child is actively using a mind-altering substance? Do they invite their addicted child to their holiday event? What about Christmas? Should they give their addicted child a gift?  Meet Dre, a 24 year old woman who's a 16 month recovering addict. Find hope and the raw details on her perspective of spending the holidays with an addict. She was addicted to opioids, heroine and meth for nine years. Hear her truth about the mind of an addict.  Find ways to get through the pain of loss during a family time that should be filled with laughter and love. Join the facebook group: MomsLettingGo Download the free ebook at: MomsLettingGo.com
57:10
November 23, 2019
Why should we make a fearless moral inventory of ourselves?
Step Four in the 12 Step of recovery. How to make a searching and fearless inventory of ourselves.
17:09
October 17, 2019
Why do we lose hope for our Addicted children?
Learn the first three steps in the 12 steps of recovery. Even though moms aren’t addicted to drugs or alcohol, we are often obsessed with worry and fear. If we learn the first three steps in recovery, we will find hope.
27:30
September 26, 2019
Why won’t our addicted loved ones admit they have a substance use problem?
Learn suggestions on how to handle denial in your addicted love one.
26:33
September 21, 2019
How to build your plan to let go without giving up.
“If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail. “Benjamin Franklin. Create a simple plan that you can follow and implement so you live the life you envisioned.
27:30
September 11, 2019
What is the secret to creating a Vision Board that will bring you joy despite your ALO’s choices?
Creating a vision board can help you find joy despite your addicted loved one’s choices. What do you have to lose if you don’t plan for joy today?
14:21
August 18, 2019
“Loving What Is: Four questions that can change your life, “ by Byron Katie.
As parents of addicted loved ones, we often believe that our child is going to die from his addiction. Here’s a way to help you cope from negative thoughts.
19:47
July 29, 2019
A Heart-Felt Letter Example Parents Can Use to Let Go
A Letter to an ALO the Day We Let Go Without Giving Up
12:31
July 20, 2019
How do you get out of the way and let your ALO handle natural consequences?
1. Define the problem, 2. Brainstorm, 3. Eliminate unwanted ideas, 4. Identify obstacles, 5. Communicate plan, 6. Get out of the way.
22:52
July 3, 2019
Ways to Build Better Boundaries
Name your limits, tune in to your feelings, be direct, give yourself permission, practice self-awareness, consider your past and present, make self care a priority, seek support, be assertive, and start small.
19:41
June 26, 2019
Practical steps to help moms and dad recover from unhealthy habits.
Practical exercises that can create a more resilient parent who wants to minimize anxiety and maximize Hope and positivity.
22:06
June 19, 2019
Self care and why it brings HOPE.
Build resilience. Start a journey to track your awareness and BE the change you need. Write your happy ending.
16:56
June 15, 2019
Why is this happening to my child?
Did I cause this problem? Was there something I did? No! Brain chemistry is one deep-rooted reason for our children’s addiction.
18:57
June 10, 2019
Lessons from dogs. What can dogs teach parents of Addicted Loved-Ones?
Dogs can teach us ways to comfort our Addicted Loved-Ones.
18:24
June 6, 2019
Seven things I wish I could tell my parents about addiction, Mary Elizabeth
A former EMT and addict shares a letter with her parents and you to help you understand how your addicted loved one feels about his or her addiction.
14:35
June 5, 2019
Motivation is the Key for Change
Confrontation is the arch enemy of motivation. Understanding and appreciating why your loved one does what she, or he, does will help you have more empathy and identify how you can modify your behavior, your relationship, and her environment, so you can help to support long-term change.
22:10
June 2, 2019
Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up. Finding joy!
Moms Letting Go Without Giving Up. Your child is worth the fight. Sometimes we have to let go of what’s killing us even if it’s killing us to let go. If you don’t make time for your own wellness you will be forced to make time for your illness.
10:31
May 26, 2019
Prayer for MOMS of Addicted Loved-Ones
SELF CARE ensures there will be something healthy remaining for the recovering addict to return to. There’s nothing COLD about it. LETTING GO is tough. It's a long walk through the hottest fires of hell. This episode was inspired by Sandy Swenson
06:53
May 12, 2019
The signs that you might have poor personal boundaries.
Tips to learn how to create healthy boundaries. The benefits and how to change.
22:25
May 3, 2019
How can we bring hope to our lives and our ALOs lives?
What is Hope? The Four Essential Features of Hope. “Hope is both the belief in a better future and the action to make it happen,” Dr Lopez
23:27
April 27, 2019
Denial is the evil force behind addiction. Understand the stages and the differences.
Type A and type B denial and what they are. What is the difference between an intellectual denial and spiritual denial. And how do you help your child overcome denial?
17:44
April 10, 2019
Saying Goodbye to your addicted loved-one.
Eight steps on what you should you do after you’ve evicted your addicted loved-one and you feel guilty, emotional and irrational.
21:49
March 22, 2019
How to Find the Right Rehab for your ALO (Addicted Loved-One)
Don't wait until your addicted loved-one is ready for rehab. Take time now to research the differences, so when the moment arrives you're ready. Time is crucial. When your ALO is ready for rehab, you must move quickly.
29:09
March 8, 2019
Boundaries! It’s never too late to draw that line. But how? And why do some parents struggle?
BOOK Study on: Don’t let your kids kill you, by Charles Rubin. Shows parents how to reclaim their power, balance, happiness and lives.
24:20
February 22, 2019
Believe in your addicted loved-one.
How do we encourage our child when they are making poor choices and resisting change? Never give up. Believing is powerful!
12:21
February 16, 2019
Showing compassion and empathy.
Our addicted loved-ones make it difficult for us not to be angry. Here are a few ways we can show empathy and find compassion for them and ourselves.
14:10
February 8, 2019
What happens if your loved-one relapses? What causes this?
Relapse is often inevitable. There are tools you can use and suggestions in this podcast to help you think about a plan after rehab.
09:52
February 6, 2019
How to find joy amidst the anxiety of living with an addicted loved-one.
Five strategies that will help you find joy instead of worry and sadness.
11:36
February 4, 2019
Introduction to HOPE and the purpose of this podcast.
HOPE is a support group for Parents of Addicted Loved-Ones
05:16
February 3, 2019
What should you do if your loved-one ends up in jail?
What should you do if your loved-one ends up in jail? Do you help them? Do you ignore them? What’s the right answer? What are the repercussions?
13:03
January 30, 2019
A Prayer for You and Your Addicted Child
It’s so easy to become victims of panic anger and worry, but these things are not God’s way.
08:42
January 26, 2019
Healthy Adult Relationships
Perhaps the most important thing that we can do as parents of an addict is to let him or her go. These principles help us understand that God is in control.
11:19
January 16, 2019
As parents of an addicted loved-one, Patience is often difficult.
Parents can give their children everything but common sense.
08:17
January 14, 2019
How to cope with addiction in your family.
The only person I can control is myself. This episode will give you suggestions on how to cope with communication issues with your addicted loved-one.
09:49
January 14, 2019
Who is your Jonah? Inspiration on the importance of building a family plan.
As long as we keep rescuing our loved ones, we get in God’s way. it’s pride that makes us think we can do what only God can do!
12:12
January 9, 2019
How do you know if you’re enabling your loved-one?
Are you enabling your addicted loved-one? This is a prayer and a checklist for you to reflect upon. You can’t change unless you’re aware there is a problem. Enabling allows our adult children to continue their unacceptable behavior.
14:03
January 5, 2019
Healthy versus Unhealthy Helping
This episode will give parents the tools to identify their healthy and unhealthy ways of helping their addicted loved one
12:51
January 3, 2019
Understanding Emotional Age
What are the traits of delayed emotional growth and how do we want our loved one to develop healthier morals and habits.
11:28
December 31, 2018
Write a letter to your addicted loved-one
Lessons to accept the fact that change is hard, stop unhealthy helping, set boundaries and consequences, and do not rescue from consequences.
12:54
December 30, 2018