A really important point about confidence

An episode of MikeMehlman.net

By Mike Mehlman
Sup guys. If you're a reader of my blog, mikemehlman.net, then hopefully you'll enjoy this podcast experience. This is sorta just an "audio experiment" for the time being. Maybe you'll find this podcast boring as fuck. Or maybe you'll get some value out of it. Either way, I'm humbled and grateful for your time.
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An important discussion about entitlement
An important talk about how approach/rejection relates to entitlement. In this video we delve into any potential negative reflex responses we might have to getting rejected. Even if we come from a genuine place of non-neediness, we're not perfect and are always looking to improve. So if there is ever that inclination to take a rejection, followed by a 0.6-second "F off" in one's head, this talk presents a deeper analysis as to why that might occur - i.e., this talk goes into the psychology behind a male's response to rejection.  (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.
February 13, 2019
My wish for you
Narrow probability windows; passing the baton; mindset; confidence
February 12, 2019
Low %s due to audacity/experience VS mere inefficiency
I've talked about in my blog, podcast, and other videos how the more experienced you are, the lower your percentages. Not the other way around. I inculcate/hammer this point to really reinforce for you that if you're being bold and aggressive enough, you SHOULD BE getting rejected a high % of the time. But then a reasonable, secondary question arises: when are low %s simply a result of mere inefficiency. (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.
February 11, 2019
One of the biggest hallmarks of male experience
The more experienced you are, the lower your percentages. Not the other way around. I've preached about this before, but I inculcate/hammer this point to really reinforce for you that if you're being bold and aggressive enough, you SHOULD BE getting rejected a high % of the time.
February 11, 2019
Bigger things in life
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 11, 2019
How to be your most attractive as a male
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 11, 2019
Female non-receptiveness is the male non-approach
The female natural state is to experience hesitation receiving an approach the same way a male hesitates making one. That’s another reason you should never take anything personally.
February 10, 2019
Situational audacity
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 9, 2019
When there's a surrounding audience
The greater the tension associated with an approach, the more confidence you reap as a result of making it.
February 9, 2019
How to go from Zero to hyper-promiscuous
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 9, 2019
Start owning your rejections
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 9, 2019
How to be your most attractive in conversations
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 9, 2019
More on the MeToo / Feminist movement
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February 8, 2019
My first approach ever
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 7, 2019
How to stop caring about others' opinions
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 7, 2019
Age and dating
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 7, 2019
A chat about Japanese girls
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 6, 2019
Seeking parental approval
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February 6, 2019
Process vs outcome + Girls who flake
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February 4, 2019
Yes, tell her you think she's attractive right away
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February 4, 2019
Approaching duos/groups at the campus library
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 4, 2019
Housing costs when you move overseas
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 4, 2019
Adversity forces change in you
In this clip, I talk about some setbacks I faced while in medical school and how those helped propel my character into a much more positive direction.
February 3, 2019
The goal of the MeToo/feminist movement
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
February 2, 2019
Redefining relationships (special 31:25 podcast)
This will probably be more of a "bombshell" podcast. This will particularly bring value to those who engage in polygamy who question the notion of longer term relationships, love, and family. 
January 31, 2019
How to set up a first date
January 27, 2019
The number-one way to lose a girl
Pretty straightforward
January 27, 2019
The more experienced you are, the lower your percentages
My blog post on this: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/the-more-experienced-youare/
January 26, 2019
A slightly weird topic
January 24, 2019
How to be more non-needy
It's what's tried and true.
January 24, 2019
My worst blown opportunity
It's this type of thing that fuels you going forward
January 24, 2019
How to find a girlfriend
Your actions have to match your rhetoric
January 24, 2019
Approaching with an abundance mindset
Plenty of girls out there
January 23, 2019
It's YOUR responsibility to approach, NOT hers
Be a man and start owning your approaches. It's not on the girl to say hi to you. Life isn't fair that way. Handle it.
January 23, 2019
When to text her
January 21, 2019
Why you should always be willing to walk
Always be willing to walk if the interaction isn't what you're looking for. You never know, your non-neediness might just reward you in an unexpected way.
January 17, 2019
Whether or not to give compliments to girls
An important short clip here
January 17, 2019
A deeply personal conversation about appearance
I talk about in one of my articles how the more we transfer emotionally heavy thoughts to an external location, the less of a big deal they become. I imagine the reason I'm willing to put this deeply personal podcast out there for you to hear is because this is part of that process for me. In other words, the mere act of producing this marks one of the major/monumental steps in my character evolution away from insecurity surrounding my appearance. I hope this clip provides you value in some way - I hope this gives you the cover and shielding you need to help you see that none of us are alone in terms of having deeply personal issues that we try to grow past.
January 17, 2019
The most important sexual asset a male has
Probably one of my most important podcast clips right here.
January 16, 2019
An extremely important clip about LOOKS and dating
Probably one of the most valuable clips I've made so far
January 16, 2019
Why getting older is a good thing
Some talking points about how things change as you move through your 20s.
January 14, 2019
You can't have less than zero
Important short clip.
January 12, 2019
How to ask a girl out when you see her often
Crux is toward the end if you're ADD and can't handle 11 minutes.
January 11, 2019
It's not about what you look like
It's true.
January 10, 2019
If you want top 0.1% confidence
No one is entitled to a high level of confidence. I've talked about in the blog how I believe confidence comes from experiencing and overcoming repeated rejection/adversity. If you want a high confidence level, you have to expose yourself to high levels of adversity (i.e., rejection) day in and day out. There's no right or wrong as far as "what level" you're at, but don't carry the entitlement or expectation that your neediness will magically go away if you don't actually put in the work to absorb rejection.
January 10, 2019
You never know the outcome of your approaches. Ever.
The approaches you don't make are the ones that would have taken you places.
January 9, 2019
You are not whatsoever entitled to being confident
Confidence only comes with long-term, repeated, daily adversity (i.e., lots and lots and lots of rejection). You are - no one is - entitled to confidence.
January 8, 2019
An important point about neediness/non-neediness
An important lesson I learned from coming to Japan + penetrating the language barrier here.
January 6, 2019
Generating organic off the back of FB ads
Some surprises/unexpected findings associated with blogging/podcasting
January 4, 2019
The biggest difference between the 31- and 21-year-old male
Short clip with an important point of distinction
January 4, 2019
How to be forward while out on dates
Looks like 2019 is going to be kick-started with this one.
January 2, 2019
If you get lazy, you'll pay the consequences
Never take non-neediness for granted
December 26, 2018
University approach is as easy as it gets
University approach is as easy as it gets. A good short clip here.
December 26, 2018
Stop delaying and just go for it
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
December 14, 2018
"I'll see you around!"
Just push for her contact anyway.
December 14, 2018
How to have the ideal conversation
That's it.
December 13, 2018
Why my dating advice is the best in the world
Especially the latter half of this clip hits it home.
December 7, 2018
99.999% of the dating advice out there
How to be as non-needy as possible
December 7, 2018
If you haven't yet found your confidence
Latest episode of MikeMehlman.net
December 2, 2018
How to be your most attractive
Important short clip packed with goodness.
December 2, 2018
The bootleg podcast
random chat
November 25, 2018
Don't be afraid to document your journey
Is there ever a time we don't look back in 3-4 years and say, 'wow, a lot has changed.'
November 23, 2018
The girl on the bus
A short clip about public trans approaching
November 23, 2018
Why you like my blog but your friend doesn't
Crux comes toward the end of this short and important clip.
November 22, 2018
The time to hesitate has ceased
Those moments where you just decide to go for it can turn out to be your most pivotal decisions in life.
November 20, 2018
The macro effect of good intent
When you come from a place of good intent, all of the positive effects aren't palpable/felt in the short-term.
November 20, 2018
How to become a go-getter
Latter part of this clip in particular ties it together.
November 14, 2018
How to grow your self-esteem
Important points about self-esteem and the application to non-dating aspects of life.
November 11, 2018
Stop using your intellect as an excuse
Doesn't matter how smart you supposedly are. Never tacitly use your intellect as a justification for non-action when your intuition truly says action is warranted. Ask yourself: are you not approaching/making a life decision because that's *really* the healthiest thing for you, or do you simply carry fear of the repercussions. One of the things that allows me to be successful is I don't fear a negative outcome. I embrace loss.
November 11, 2018
The best part about the language barrier
Having a chat about my choice to move to Japan, and this point sort of hit me mid-convo, without ever having thought about it prior.
November 8, 2018
Why entitlement is holding you back
Why entitlement is holding you back
November 8, 2018
A male's choice to be monogamous
A male's choice to be monogamous
November 6, 2018
A really important point about emotional connection
A really important point about emotional connection
November 6, 2018
Passing the baton
Passing the baton
November 5, 2018
An important Litmus test
This short clip discusses a few really good points. Enjoyyyy
November 4, 2018
How to care less about others' opinions
Kick-starting the month of November (at least here in Japan at 12:23am Nov 1 [it's still Halloween most everywhere else!]) off with this short clip.
October 31, 2018
How I knew medicine wasn't for me
After graduating med school, I gave up the career in order to move to move to east Asia, learn about language and culture, and write. Haven't looked back since.
October 26, 2018
The only thing that wins is truth
If you're a reader of my blog, this is definitely a deeper and more important clip.
October 26, 2018
Self-awareness + understanding your core
I don't believe there's anything wrong with creating width of content in order to reach more people, but I think one should be self-aware and then devote more time to strengths vs weaknesses. In other words, writing is my core, and although I'm exploring audio and video, I'm still aware that my DNA makes me more of a silent, writer-type.
October 26, 2018
How I grew my blog
How I went from zero to......tiny, but non-zero
October 25, 2018
Everyone absorbs content differently
- Video, audio, written-word -Why I started podcasting
October 24, 2018
When approaching girls interferes with study
This is a short one for you guys in university.
October 24, 2018
How to not change your behavior for girls
This is a good post to go with this clip: http://mikemehlman.net/2018/07/04/why-you-should-never-force-your-conversations/
October 23, 2018
How to open a girl on the street
More on the blog about this here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/directapproach/
October 23, 2018
I force absolutely zero
In this clip I talk about leaving instantly if the girl is unreceptive. Never force anything. Pushing back against a girl's unreceptiveness in any form - and it doesn't matter how "nuanced" - is neediness.
October 22, 2018
STACKING your dates
I don't really know what to tell ya. It's story time. (But real guy talk.)
October 22, 2018
Authenticity goes a long way
Doesn't matter how nervous or "un-smooth" you are.
October 22, 2018
Girls are often just "in a state"
This is a short and very valuable clip in terms of not taking rejection personally. I also talk about approaching a second girl in the plain site of a girl who just rejected you.
October 19, 2018
Korea is a total mind fuck
A good chat about culture and food. I also talk about my observations of Korean approach and my experiences with Koreans in general.
October 19, 2018
Eliminate negative people from your life
This clip is short but important. (SORRY ABOUT THE BULLSHIT STATIC)
October 17, 2018
Your surroundings are fucking everything
Once again, I'm sorry for being an asshole and having TERRIBLE static in this episode. Couldn't edit it out. So it was either throw it away or just upload. (And no, I don't have an interest in re-recording contrived shit.)
October 17, 2018
Stop making bullshit excuses
That's it.
October 16, 2018
Setbacks are your catapult forward
JUST A HEADS UP: I'm so sorry for the terrible static on this clip. But I believe the candid content is too important to ultimately delete this episode.
October 16, 2018
How to make money living abroad
This is a hyper-short but very effective clip. Enjoy.
October 15, 2018
There's no such thing as serendipitous encounters
There's no such thing as serendipitous encounters. There's no such thing as getting fucking lucky. 99% of the time, you "getting lucky" is really you going out of your way to put yourself in the right place at the right time. You didn't "accidentally go to that party." You didn't "accidentally decide to go out for dinner," vs staying at home all day, which was when you bumped into that girl "so serendipitously" on the street.
October 10, 2018
The time required to "become confident" approaching
At what point do you just one day "become confident" approaching? "How much time" is required.
October 7, 2018
How to make the leap to move abroad
In this clip I talk about how to finally make the leap to move abroad. If you've been thinking of dropping the life you have now and just going for it, listen to this clip.
October 2, 2018
Males with the highest confidence prefer day game
This short clip discusses some points of contrast and similarity between day and night game. Here are some articles from my blog on the topics: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/daygame/ http://mikemehlman.net/2018/06/04/finally-post-on-night-game/
October 1, 2018
A really important point about confidence
Confidence and fear are full-spectrum. This is a short clip discussing the link between dating and non-dating aspects of your life.
September 29, 2018
How to always have a 100% success rate
This clip discusses the most pivotal change in mindset/perspective that can get you from stage-zero to ACTUALLY approaching.
September 29, 2018
Rejection IS the win
This short clip is about reframing your mindset to be process-, rather than outcome-, oriented with meeting new girls.
September 25, 2018
Solo-approaching duos, trios, etc.
My general sentiments regarding introducing oneself to 2+ girls at once, while solo. I talk in more detail about this here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/28/approachingsolo/
September 25, 2018
Don't be afraid of the C-word
If you want to meet women, you have to risk "creepy."
September 16, 2018
Living a life true to yourself
A short clip about breaking free from others' opinions. I really hope this brings you value. Also, I've written a lot on this topic here: http://mikemehlman.net/2018/01/20/living-true-to-yourself/
September 14, 2018
Once she's at your place
This is about what to do when you get a date back to your place. If you make it through this short clip, the latter input is particularly important. Thanks again for listening!
September 14, 2018
Never be fucking surprised
This short clip is essentially a reiteration that the initial interaction you have with a girl has zero correlation with whether she will actually follow through or not. If you want more detail on this topic, I wrote an article here on it: ( http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/27/the-initial-interaction-means-absolutely-jack-shit/ )
September 13, 2018
Taking a girl home on the first date
The title is self-explanatory. This short clip isn't about any type of bar/club scene pull. It's about how to transition into taking a girl home on the first "real date" you go on, as well as the psychology behind that process.
September 13, 2018
Tremendous gratitude
In this episode I talk about why my blog exists and the tremendous gratitude I have for the mindset I hold. I also talk a little about confidence and rejection. Thanks so much again for listening. ~Mike Mikemehlman.net
September 9, 2018
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