Rejection provides value

How to be your most attractive

Confidence comes from adversity

Lousy date. But getting her home anyway

How to be more confident

"Mike, do you leave immediately after getting her contact?"

English for sex prostitution swap

Like a fucking mouse

Rejections with big surrounding audiences

Using condoms

Most rejections you take the girl won't even look at you

More abundance = more "blind" dates

Rare genuine reversal of female state

Double Masakis

How to win the friends over

Telling a girl how old you are

"Deer in the headlights" vs genuinely unreceptive

“Unreceptive” girls who are actually receptive

How high energy are you when you open girls?

"After you open her, do you keep walking or stop?"

Girls who see you out with other girls

What to do if your date's late

Forgetting a date's name

"How aggressive should I be when opening girls?"

"Does the city you approach in matter?"

Satisfying girls in the bedroom

You can't get high on your own supply

Approaching with a massive surrounding audience

Approaching a girl who's with her DAD

Stop hanging out with loser beta guys

Not having time to approach is always a bullshit excuse

Message every number you get

Badonkadonk ass

Asking her back to your place

Have you ever ditched your date?

Girls who jump away and run away

Approaching in front of girls who just reject you

A slightly unusual approach

"Mike, should I approach girls who are with guys?"

Girls who wanna take it

Scary! I have to go!

The most efficient date possible

Reacting negatively to harsh rejections

Rejections will never go away. No matter what.

The most attractive thing a guy can do when meeting women

The ideal way to say hi to a girl

Don't give her time to close herself off

Girls are often just in a "state"

How to be more happy

Saying hi to girls for the first time

Handling the tension of surrounding audiences

Mike, what's the most contacts you've gotten in one day?

Screening people in and out of our lives

A gym approach (one of many)

Hitting on a girl's friends

Happiness is the ROI, not money

Sleeping with girls

How to say hi to a girl

How to build your confidence fast

Saying hi to groups of girls solo

Neediness vs non-neediness always permeates to the surface

Tinder: Why girls will swipe right for you then not respond to your message

The hypocrisy of girls who use Tinder

The female "concern" I hear most frequently

Stop being so afraid. Everyone's fucked up.

The less she anticipates your approach, the more attractive it becomes

Why some women will shame you for talking to other girls

Omg you're so creepy

Worst response to an approach I've ever received

Don't hang out with loser guys who deter you

"I need to return! I need to return!"

Triple-stacking dates

Sleeping with a girl immediately after daytime cold approaching her

Girls seeing you approach other girls

Women who carry SMV entitlement

Higher tension approaches = More confidence

Passing her alpha-beta shit test

Sleeping with her an hour after you meet her on the street

The more deregulated you are, the more attractive you are

The easiest way to determine a guy is needy

One of the strongest metrics of a male's confidence level

A "higher level" approach reflection

Finally shedding your fucking parents

Non-dating confidence arbitraged from dating rejections

You have to just Do

Stop fucking stalling. Yes, travel to Bumblefuck.

Stop searching for excuses.

Shitty date, but how to get her home anyway

How to not change your behavior for her

Check out the blog at http://mikemehlman.net/ for cool articles, videos, etc.

How to achieve even LOWER conversion rates

Dating stunning women who are 40+

The "three date rule"

Kissing girls + Improperly superimposing your "conclusions"

An important short talk about loneliness

My requirement for being just friends with a girl

Loving relationships through polygamy

How to go from Zero to "Wow I can approach"

The guidance I wish I received

The engine that drives happiness

Making money while living abroad

Cutting your costs while living abroad

Macro intent always wins

The advantage we have as men (that women don't have)

How to become even more confident

The "correct" relationship

"Love at first sight"

Thinking about Girl B when you're with Girl A

When you're into her, but she's not into you

Blog post to go with this podcast is here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/11/11/the-benefits-of-language-immersion-not-what-you-expect/

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It's on you to put yourself in the right place at the right time. The blog article on this topic is here: http://mikemehlman.net/2018/03/01/nosuch-thing-as-getting-fucking-lucky/

Don't fucking pander. The blog article on this is here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/directapproach/

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Thanks for checking out this clip. Check out the others on this channel and on the blog (mikemehlman.net).

I talk about how I'm not special and how several narrow probability windows aligning perfectly is what propelled me into my mindset today. (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

Money; Embracing adversity (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork)  If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

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The way in which we approach/behave with women determines those with whom we pair.  (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

The two most important points that I believe are the "potent duo-unlock" for getting you from Zero to Something in terms of starting to introduce yourself to new people. Two blog posts that go with this video are here: http://mikemehlman.net/2019/02/19/the-5-stages-of-approach/ http://mikemehlman.net/2018/03/12/howto-become-an-approach-machine/ (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

The link between confidence and rejection. (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

Here we discuss marriage and male-female sexual dynamics. (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

People will impose their judgments on others without any context. I don't want this clip to come off like I'm preaching, but I really do want to drive home the point that if people judge you, especially without having context, they're weak, not you. This clip isn't long, and it abruptly cuts off toward the end, but it was either discard it or just post as is, hoping it will give you some value.  (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork)  If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

Happiness in relation to money; choosing life experience over money Also a blog post on this topic:  http://mikemehlman.net/2018/12/03/an-important-point-about-money/ (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

An important talk about how approach/rejection relates to entitlement. In this video we delve into any potential negative reflex responses we might have to getting rejected. Even if we come from a genuine place of non-neediness, we're not perfect and are always looking to improve. So if there is ever that inclination to take a rejection, followed by a 0.6-second "F off" in one's head, this talk presents a deeper analysis as to why that might occur - i.e., this talk goes into the psychology behind a male's response to rejection.  (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

Narrow probability windows; passing the baton; mindset; confidence

I've talked about in my blog, podcast, and other videos how the more experienced you are, the lower your percentages. Not the other way around. I inculcate/hammer this point to really reinforce for you that if you're being bold and aggressive enough, you SHOULD BE getting rejected a high % of the time. But then a reasonable, secondary question arises: when are low %s simply a result of mere inefficiency. (Blog: mikemehlman.net; IG: @mike_mehlman; Snap: @michaelnewyork) If you like my channel, please subscribe for updates.

The more experienced you are, the lower your percentages. Not the other way around. I've preached about this before, but I inculcate/hammer this point to really reinforce for you that if you're being bold and aggressive enough, you SHOULD BE getting rejected a high % of the time.

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The female natural state is to experience hesitation receiving an approach the same way a male hesitates making one. That’s another reason you should never take anything personally.

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The greater the tension associated with an approach, the more confidence you reap as a result of making it.

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In this clip, I talk about some setbacks I faced while in medical school and how those helped propel my character into a much more positive direction.

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This will probably be more of a "bombshell" podcast. This will particularly bring value to those who engage in polygamy who question the notion of longer term relationships, love, and family. 

Pretty straightforward

My blog post on this: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/the-more-experienced-youare/

It's what's tried and true.

It's this type of thing that fuels you going forward

Your actions have to match your rhetoric

Plenty of girls out there

Be a man and start owning your approaches. It's not on the girl to say hi to you. Life isn't fair that way. Handle it.

Always be willing to walk if the interaction isn't what you're looking for. You never know, your non-neediness might just reward you in an unexpected way.

An important short clip here

I talk about in one of my articles how the more we transfer emotionally heavy thoughts to an external location, the less of a big deal they become. I imagine the reason I'm willing to put this deeply personal podcast out there for you to hear is because this is part of that process for me. In other words, the mere act of producing this marks one of the major/monumental steps in my character evolution away from insecurity surrounding my appearance. I hope this clip provides you value in some way - I hope this gives you the cover and shielding you need to help you see that none of us are alone in terms of having deeply personal issues that we try to grow past.

Probably one of my most important podcast clips right here.

Probably one of the most valuable clips I've made so far

Some talking points about how things change as you move through your 20s.

Important short clip.

Crux is toward the end if you're ADD and can't handle 11 minutes.

It's true.

No one is entitled to a high level of confidence. I've talked about in the blog how I believe confidence comes from experiencing and overcoming repeated rejection/adversity. If you want a high confidence level, you have to expose yourself to high levels of adversity (i.e., rejection) day in and day out. There's no right or wrong as far as "what level" you're at, but don't carry the entitlement or expectation that your neediness will magically go away if you don't actually put in the work to absorb rejection.

The approaches you don't make are the ones that would have taken you places.

Confidence only comes with long-term, repeated, daily adversity (i.e., lots and lots and lots of rejection). You are - no one is - entitled to confidence.

An important lesson I learned from coming to Japan + penetrating the language barrier here.

Some surprises/unexpected findings associated with blogging/podcasting

Short clip with an important point of distinction

Looks like 2019 is going to be kick-started with this one.

Never take non-neediness for granted

University approach is as easy as it gets. A good short clip here.

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Just push for her contact anyway.

That's it.

Especially the latter half of this clip hits it home.

How to be as non-needy as possible

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Important short clip packed with goodness.

random chat

Is there ever a time we don't look back in 3-4 years and say, 'wow, a lot has changed.'

A short clip about public trans approaching

Crux comes toward the end of this short and important clip.

Those moments where you just decide to go for it can turn out to be your most pivotal decisions in life.

When you come from a place of good intent, all of the positive effects aren't palpable/felt in the short-term.

Latter part of this clip in particular ties it together.

Important points about self-esteem and the application to non-dating aspects of life.

Doesn't matter how smart you supposedly are. Never tacitly use your intellect as a justification for non-action when your intuition truly says action is warranted. Ask yourself: are you not approaching/making a life decision because that's *really* the healthiest thing for you, or do you simply carry fear of the repercussions. One of the things that allows me to be successful is I don't fear a negative outcome. I embrace loss.

Having a chat about my choice to move to Japan, and this point sort of hit me mid-convo, without ever having thought about it prior.

Why entitlement is holding you back

A male's choice to be monogamous

A really important point about emotional connection

Passing the baton

This short clip discusses a few really good points. Enjoyyyy

Kick-starting the month of November (at least here in Japan at 12:23am Nov 1 [it's still Halloween most everywhere else!]) off with this short clip.

After graduating med school, I gave up the career in order to move to move to east Asia, learn about language and culture, and write. Haven't looked back since.

If you're a reader of my blog, this is definitely a deeper and more important clip.

I don't believe there's anything wrong with creating width of content in order to reach more people, but I think one should be self-aware and then devote more time to strengths vs weaknesses. In other words, writing is my core, and although I'm exploring audio and video, I'm still aware that my DNA makes me more of a silent, writer-type.

How I went from zero to......tiny, but non-zero

- Video, audio, written-word -Why I started podcasting

This is a short one for you guys in university.

This is a good post to go with this clip: http://mikemehlman.net/2018/07/04/why-you-should-never-force-your-conversations/

More on the blog about this here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/directapproach/

In this clip I talk about leaving instantly if the girl is unreceptive. Never force anything. Pushing back against a girl's unreceptiveness in any form - and it doesn't matter how "nuanced" - is neediness.

I don't really know what to tell ya. It's story time. (But real guy talk.)

Doesn't matter how nervous or "un-smooth" you are.

This is a short and very valuable clip in terms of not taking rejection personally. I also talk about approaching a second girl in the plain site of a girl who just rejected you.

A good chat about culture and food. I also talk about my observations of Korean approach and my experiences with Koreans in general.

This clip is short but important. (SORRY ABOUT THE BULLSHIT STATIC)

Once again, I'm sorry for being an asshole and having TERRIBLE static in this episode. Couldn't edit it out. So it was either throw it away or just upload. (And no, I don't have an interest in re-recording contrived shit.)

That's it.

JUST A HEADS UP: I'm so sorry for the terrible static on this clip. But I believe the candid content is too important to ultimately delete this episode.

This is a hyper-short but very effective clip. Enjoy.

There's no such thing as serendipitous encounters. There's no such thing as getting fucking lucky. 99% of the time, you "getting lucky" is really you going out of your way to put yourself in the right place at the right time. You didn't "accidentally go to that party." You didn't "accidentally decide to go out for dinner," vs staying at home all day, which was when you bumped into that girl "so serendipitously" on the street.

At what point do you just one day "become confident" approaching? "How much time" is required.

In this clip I talk about how to finally make the leap to move abroad. If you've been thinking of dropping the life you have now and just going for it, listen to this clip.

This short clip discusses some points of contrast and similarity between day and night game. Here are some articles from my blog on the topics: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/26/daygame/ http://mikemehlman.net/2018/06/04/finally-post-on-night-game/

Confidence and fear are full-spectrum. This is a short clip discussing the link between dating and non-dating aspects of your life.

This clip discusses the most pivotal change in mindset/perspective that can get you from stage-zero to ACTUALLY approaching.

This short clip is about reframing your mindset to be process-, rather than outcome-, oriented with meeting new girls.

My general sentiments regarding introducing oneself to 2+ girls at once, while solo. I talk in more detail about this here: http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/28/approachingsolo/

If you want to meet women, you have to risk "creepy."

A short clip about breaking free from others' opinions. I really hope this brings you value. Also, I've written a lot on this topic here: http://mikemehlman.net/2018/01/20/living-true-to-yourself/

This is about what to do when you get a date back to your place. If you make it through this short clip, the latter input is particularly important. Thanks again for listening!

This short clip is essentially a reiteration that the initial interaction you have with a girl has zero correlation with whether she will actually follow through or not. If you want more detail on this topic, I wrote an article here on it: ( http://mikemehlman.net/2017/10/27/the-initial-interaction-means-absolutely-jack-shit/ )

The title is self-explanatory. This short clip isn't about any type of bar/club scene pull. It's about how to transition into taking a girl home on the first "real date" you go on, as well as the psychology behind that process.

In this episode I talk about why my blog exists and the tremendous gratitude I have for the mindset I hold. I also talk a little about confidence and rejection. Thanks so much again for listening. ~Mike Mikemehlman.net