Are you having a hard time taking care of your loved one that has Dementia? Do you feel stuck on how and what to do with your loved one that has Dementia? Are you ready to take care of yourself and your elderly loved one? Ready to be the best caregiver for your loved one? Then this podcast is for YOU!
In this podcast:
01:00 - Ralph tells us about his life so far
02:00 - Ralph tells us about Walk to End Alzheimer's
04:00 - Ralph tells us about how he ended up being the caregiver for his sister
05:00 - How did Ralph decide to take his relatives into a nursing home?
09:00 - Ralph talks about observing the staff in the nursing home
10:00 - What is Ralph's major struggle?
12:00 - Why does Ralph think caregivers experience burnout?
16:00 - Mike and Ralph talk about taking care of yourself first
17:00 - What is the one thing that Ralph wished he knew before everything happened
19:00 - What advice does Ralph want to give to other caregivers?
22:00 - Mike and Ralph talk about rest and self-care
Today we have Peter Berry as our guest today.
Peter used to run a lumber business for 20 years, and he was just recently diagnosed with Alzheimer’s three years ago.
We talk about Alzheimer’s and we also want to talk about successes in life.
Peter just recently finished 354 miles of riding a bicycle for a certain group in London.
02:00 – Peter tells us about himself.
05:00 – Peter talks about the time when he first found out about his Alzheimer’s diagnosis.
11:00 – Mike and Peter talk about focusing on your strengths.
16:00 – Peter talks about achievements and making your bed every morning.
21:00 – Mike and Peter talk about changing lives and being significant.
23:00 – What advice can Peter give to dementia caregivers?
Ashley Nicole Patterson is an activity assistant in a nursing home in Maryland.
01:00 – Ashley tells us about herself
03:00 – How did Ashley become an activity assistant?
06:00 – Ashley talks about the activities they do to help their patients’ cognitive skills
07:30 – Ashley talks about the struggles of caring for patients
10:15 – Why do caregivers experience burnout?
13:00 – What is helping Ashley in her journey in taking care of her patients?
14:00 – Mike and Ashley talk about appreciation
16:00 – What advice does Ashley want to share to the caregivers out there?
19:00 – Mike talks about focusing on your patients’ strengths
Change Your Words, You Change Your World
Today, I'm thankful for our vehicles, our cars, I am going to take it to Walmart to get the oil changed.
I'm still thankful for it because we have a vehicle to drive to and from work.
Number two that I am grateful for is my kids and number three is Walmart.
That attitude of gratitude is very important.
The other day, I went to a nursing home and saw a patient.
She was complaining about her life, she was complaining about everything. That she was so weak right now and she just had a surgery.
When I did my special test and manual muscle testing, and testing all those physical therapy tests, she was actually not weak. She was just saying that she was weak.
I told her to change her words. I asked her to tell me how strong she is. She told me that she was just weak.
And I told her a bible verse - "Let the weak say I am strong, let the poor say I am rich."
I came from a poor country. Do I look like poor to you?
Attitude of Gratitude
Yesterday I just received the copy of our Caregiver Freedom Journal.
It's a very quick journal that You can write down on everyday for 60 days.
You can write down in the attitude of gratitude journal and we have an inspirational quote for caregivers at the top of the pages.
Today I wrote down what I am grateful for and in 60 days I will accomplish whatever my goal is.
I am grateful for my family, my job, my business and you guys.
I'm going to do this everyday and in that way, you can focus on the good and you can focus on gratitude that we can have everyday.
The more you focus on the good, the more you attract the goodness.
There is what you call the reticular activating system in the brain.
It's a part of your brain wherein whatever you focus on will get magnified.
How to handle conflict?
Conflict is always there.
If you have a dementia patient or a loved one with this condition, there will always be conflict and argument.
Even Jesus Christ himself said, “I come into this world not to give peace, but to come and give trials and tribulation.”
Conflict is always there. What you need is to know how to handle it.
The first thing you need to do is to accept the fact that there’s always conflict in this world. Accept the fact that there will always be a misunderstanding. Especially when you are taking care of a dementia patient.
Second is identifying the source of the conflict.
What is the cause of their behavior? Why are they mad? Why are they upset? Why are they irritated? It could be a physical problem, an emotional problem.
It could be that they are just irritated because they are uncomfortable.
The third is learning how to embrace and to know, and learn from the actual conflict itself.