Modern Connection - A Dateworking Podcast

Modern Connection - A Dateworking Podcast

By Steve Dean
In search of the core philosophies and practices that help us stay deeply connected to one another and give us feelings of agency and antifragility in a world where norms, expectations, jobs, housing, and even "facts" are constantly in flux.

Through this podcast, we'll try to answer the question, "How do we live well, connect fully, and escape loneliness in modern society?”

Hosted by Steve Dean, founder and online dating consultant at
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#4 - One algorithm to help 50 million people find love (ft Tom Quisel, former CTO @ OkCupid)
In this episode, Tom Quisel and I discuss:  How Tom got his start working at OkCupid, one of the most popular dating sites in the world  The efforts Tom and the OkCupid team went through to help reduce bias in dating apps  Experiments OkCupid has done to better understand just how superficial modern daters are  OkCupid's discovery that we are, in fact, absurdly superficial  The surreal story of how I introduced Tom to his fiancé.  Tom’s post-OkCupid career in healthtech and IoT, using apple watch and fitbit data to predict conditions like diabetes and multiple sclerosis   Tom's subsequent foray into the cryptosphere, building products that empower individuals to send cross-border payments without those exorbitant fees, enabling low income individuals to more easily send money to their relatives in other countries  Ideal strategies for sending first messages in online dating  Strategies for dating in small towns vs. in cities  Whether Facebook's new dating app dating will make a meaningful difference in the dating industry  
July 15, 2019
#3 - Using Theory of Mind in dating & life (ft Anne Coleman)
Anne Coleman is a Philadelphia-based educator and developmental psychology researcher who spent 7 years teaching high school English and Theater before she transitioned into research at the University of Pennsylvania. Her work examines the development of Theory of Mind —also known as perspective-taking — in adults, with the hope of better understanding how teachers use informal psychology in the classroom. When she is not teaching or conducting research, she can be found romping with her rescue dog, directing plays for a community theater group, and moonlighting as a speechwriter for a congressional campaign. You can follow Anne's adventures on Instagram at @AnneHLColeman In this episode, Anne and I discuss her response to a question I recently posed about people's biggest struggle in dating. Anne's response was most upvoted!
September 14, 2018
#2 - Online Dating Insights: Profile Photos and First Message Strategies (ft. Max Alley)
In this episode, Max Alley (Coffee Meets Bagel, MatchUp Dating Coaching) and I go head to head as two dating consultants, sharing our best tips and strategies for profile design, profile photos, first messages, and the most common pitfalls people run into when they get started with online dating.
June 4, 2018
#1 - How to Deepen Connection in Everyday Relationships (with Amelia Broughton)
Amelia Broughton is a connection savant, having trained for years in the art and science of interpersonal connection. In this episode, we explore what types of connection are missing from modern society and how to reconnect in ways that are so simple, yet so critically overlooked by most people alive today.
June 1, 2018
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