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Modern Renegades

By Modern Renegades

Modern Renegades is a podcast for those of you who are not interested in playing it safe and are ready to question everything you've been taught. Each week we will explore tools and concepts that inspire us to ask, seek and feel. Your mind will open up to new ideas and beliefs that are not for the norm: They are for the Modern Renegade. They are for you.
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Episode #26: Interview with Page Pressley Pandemic Pivot Series

Modern RenegadesMay 07, 2020

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Episode #26: Interview with Page Pressley Pandemic Pivot Series

Episode #26: Interview with Page Pressley Pandemic Pivot Series

Introducing the Pandemic Pivot Series

Interviews with everyday Modern Renegades on life and how they are pivoting both personally and professionally during a pandemic.

Today I'm talking to Page Pressley who inspired 2 of my previous episodes, "I'm a Life Coach, Not a Saint" & "You Mean Like, Friends?" to discuss, yes the obvious, how we became friends after dating and our thoughts on what dating will look like post pandemic,  what tv shows + movies he's been indulging in while quarantined, but most importantly, how he has responded both personally and professionally to a global pandemic.

Page is one of those very structured, regimented, scheduled "types" if you know what I mean...

Weeks before he found out about the seriousness of Covid-19, Page was in negotiations on a lease to open a restaurant... Needless to say, that idea came to a hard stop. While he adjusted personally and continued to work on his consulting jobs inspiration hit- and in true Modern Renegade fashion-found his #pandemicpivot.

Say Hello to

FOXTAIL SUPPER CLUB, AN AT-HOME IMMERSIVE DINING CONCEPT IN COLLABORATION WITH ASSEMBLY KITCHEN.

Tune in and turn on.

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May 07, 202059:44
Episode 25: Just My Imagination
May 03, 202021:24
Episode 24: Why Choose Pain

Episode 24: Why Choose Pain

Renegades,

On todays episode, I compare my emotional experience of being in a pandemic vs my first divorce and then his his death. There is no guide book on how to grieve, but avoiding, resisting or buffering definitely isn't the way. It took me 10 years to make surrender to the beauty in our loss. I don't want to lose that kind of time ever again. So instead, I choose to feel the pain; all the grief, fear, uncertainty, one wave at a time.

I'll explain how the biggest difference between the two is that I’m fully here for the pandemic, quarantine and economic shutdown situation we are in. I’m riding all the waves and feelings that are coming up. It can feel a little manic at times. There are some days that I’m like, I’m not experienced enough for this wave… it’s to big. Are you fucking crazy? Then there are other days when it’s flat and I have the urge to paddle in and go look for another spot, but I stay. I wait. Then there are the days when the waves are choppy. I want to complain- but I don’t. I’m just riding the waves.

This was not my experience after my divorce or when Chris died. That was more like paddling out while a massive set of waves was rolling in during a storm- and then trying to bail, but it was too late. I'd get wrecked. I'd be underwater and not knowing what direction was up. 


Apr 19, 202035:36
Episode 23: How to feel into your feelings

Episode 23: How to feel into your feelings

Today I open up with how I’m trying to be compassionate and patient with my kids during this time around the coronavirus and how witnessing their minds see their worlds shrink in front of them while their questions around ‘what does this mean for my future?’ and ‘what’s next?’ grow with the uncertainty. And how these questions and reactions are no different than the ones coming from us, the adults.

It’s a welcomed reminder that I can practice this same patience and compassion for myself and others. I can have grace. I can let us all be human.

I do make it a point to say, we have a choice to look at this and remain positive, but I’m not going to recommend feeling good or positive. Instead I share with you the tools on how to lean into what you are feeling. Today’s episode is about how to become aware of what you’re feeling and how to process it. Part of the process is getting friendly, even intimate with the emotions and allowing them, Renegades.

I talk about my personal experience of resistance in surrendering to the grief I was feeling around becoming an empty nester as well as how I channeled my fear last week into being productive.

We are all experiencing similar thoughts and feelings right now; fear, guilt for going out, confusion, uncertainty.

It’s okay to feel those things. To lean into that discomfort.

You don’t have to resist or avoid feeling. And you definitely don’t need to beat yourself or judge yourself feeling the way you do.

I will give you a few tips on how to identify and allow your feelings - if you’re not sure what your feeling is ask Alexa for a list of emotions 🤣 no but seriously, I’ve noticed my friends and I are all pretty limited with the the words we use to describe our emotions. I’m trying to expand my emotional vocabulary… but I digress. Tune in and turn on today - I will give you solid focused steps on how to process your emotions and when you’re ready, create new ones.

The beauty of the human brain is that you can experience processing your emotions and still move forward- you only need to pay attention and manage your minds.

This is how we evolve. This is how we come home.

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Mar 16, 202026:43
Casual Dating=Casualties, The Word Horny and Questions to Ask When You Can't Control The People Around You
Mar 06, 202035:44
Ruminating is distracting you from feeling
Feb 26, 202014:38
Episode #20 Decide From The Present Moment
Feb 12, 202021:43
You mean like-- friends?
Feb 02, 202016:08
Episode 18: Future Focus + Feeling

Episode 18: Future Focus + Feeling

I want to talk to you about Future Focus and WHY this concept is vital to your growth and creating the life you want- and how, when you combine this thinking with FEELING you can get things done. things like lose weight, make money, open a business, train for marathons, or you know, make out with strangers. It doesn’t matter the WHAT.

Future focus is the required tool for you to overcome your biggest challenge-

You and Your very own brain.

The human brain wants proof of concept - to know how to accomplish the goal in order to go to work. and quite frankly- you’ll never get it referring to your past. You’ve never been this person before. There is no evidence that you can do it- but there is fuck ton of conditioned beliefs and recycled thinking informing you that you can’t.

You have to be willing to overcome your biggest obstacle: Your brain. In order to chase your goals and create the life you want you have to be willing to overcome yourself and your thoughts. You have to be willing to let go of the beliefs you have about yourself. The identity that you’ve created.

We as humans do everything we do because of the way we think it will make us feel… It’s not the external material item. It’s the feeling we get from buying the house or losing the weight or crossing the finish line that we are doing it for.

Everything we do is because we want to feel a certain way. AND our feelings drive all our actions making sure we get the results we are after.

Of course, I share more about my make out sesh with a stranger and how I'm shattering my own beliefs about casual encounters ;) 

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Jan 17, 202018:29
Episode 17: 2020 CONTROVERSY

Episode 17: 2020 CONTROVERSY

I’m adopting an attitude of zero fucks given because for the longest time i’ve cared far too much about what everyone else was thinking. I lived the life doing what I was supposed to do… I’ve let it hold me back, but not anymore.

I’m going to use my voice. I’m going to share - I’m not going to let other people and their idea of controversy be my excuse to not be me. I’m willing to feel what it’s like to not be liked by everyone, or approved of…

I’m willing to be judged and lose followers.

What I’m not willing to do is use other people as a reason to not be me. To not use my voice.

I know one of you needs to hear you’re not alone; you’re not alone in your shame, the things you fear, or even your ideas or ambitions.

So with that, I’m going to talk about everything in 2020, my wins my losses. my goals -When I fall on my face… I’m not going to hide behind ‘what others may think’.

This year, I’m going to proudly talk about all the travel I plan on doing.

I’m going to talk about how big I want to make Modern Renegades. I might even throw around the numbers of dollars I want to make. I’m going to share with you more about my dating life and maybe gush about a new bag that I want… I’ll reference my affairs, my drinking, whatever the hell I feel inspired to, so you can see what’s possible. I’m going to continue to unravel and expose myself - and teach you the tools and concepts I’ve learned that have helped me along the way. ZERO SHAME.

ZERO self-judgement.

For some of you, this information won’t be new or relevant. But for others, it will be just the perspective you need.

I know the voice inside your head. I know the voices from people standing around listening, watching and waiting for you to fuck up so they have something to talk about. I know what it’s like to have everyone think you have it all figured out. You and I are the same. You're the reason I’m here. I want you to know that it’s possible to overcome these blocks.

That CHANGE is possible.

That your past doesn’t need to define you. That you can let it go. That you don’t have to be this person forever. How freeing is that y’all?


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Jan 07, 202016:05
Cheers To Having The Choice

Cheers To Having The Choice

Today I want to make a  toast to 2019! 

And do you know why? Cause y'all can't stopping bagging on it!

But instead of talking about my year and experiences and why I'm choosing to see the good, I want to refer to Dr Edith Eva Eger.

In her book, The Choice, she documents her time before during and after Auschwitz- the mindset she chose to have to survive each day in the holocaust and how her relationship with parents and siblings, her first love and her husband, children, herself were all defined by this horrific year.

and the reason why I feel so compelled to share some quotes and insights from her book is because I think all too often, we forget we have a choice.

A choice to look at our life, its circumstances, and know that even though we can’t always control what's happening around us, we can control how we think about it.

And you may be thinking I’m using a holocaust survivors story to tell you that if she could survive the holocaust you can survive 2019, but that’s not why...

Dr Eger shares her story not only on how she survived that year, but the denial that followed, the trauma that she stored in her mind and body and how she took it out on those around her.

How she felt that her childhood was taken from her, that it was too late for her to go to college in her 40’s and that it was her husband's fault she was so miserable… all the beliefs she had and then compassion. So much compassion and forgiveness…

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Dec 30, 201911:03
I'm A Life Coach, Not A Saint
Dec 16, 201925:60
Modern Mondays: Shatter Your Belief Systems
Dec 02, 201907:37
Episode #13 Your Thoughts Are The Problem
Nov 08, 201932:06
Episode #12 w/ Laurel Kinney: I know what you did this summer...
Oct 19, 201948:25
Episode #11 Heather Emerson Gets Me To Confess

Episode #11 Heather Emerson Gets Me To Confess

This interview with Heather Emerson from Prep to Your Door ended up being one where I shared more about myself than any other interview. We immediately dive in discussing how we both abused alcohol and drugs when we were younger, but shifted our belief systems and habits in adulthood and have been able to stay our course. This is just the beginning. Stick around and listen as we explore what it's like to forgive your parents, run a business and do your part to help mother earth :)




About Heather Emerson 

Heather graduated from University of Texas at Austin with dual degrees in Mathematics, Linguistics, as well as completed the UTeach program. After being recruited for Teach for America, she moved to New York City on a mission to facilitate change in the education space, with a focus in STEM.

Shortly after her Teach for America program, she switched careers to style New York’s socialites and celebrities under two European fashion houses. After five years in Manhattan, she realized her true calling and potential was not being met. She backpacked around the world for 7 months taking food classes and volunteering at different plant-based establishments.

When she returned, she moved to Cambridge, MA to start her Masters in Journalism with a concentration on Innovation and Entrepreneurship at Harvard University. The first day of class she met her current partner in life and business, Faiez Rana. They shared a common passion for social entrepreneurship, education, sustainability, and healthy food. They also learned about the massive environmental and health impacts of the modern food industry. In 2016, they moved to Austin, TX to start Prep To Your Door, serving local, organic, farm-to-table meal prep in completely reusable packaging.

With environmental consciousness built into the core of their brand, Heather is focused on growing the company nationally while sticking to their core mission of serving local organic meals and improving their zero waste business model. Additionally, they are committed to supporting local farms, building local food communities, paying livable wages, offering health benefits to part-time employees, all while working to contribute as little as possible to the landfill.

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Sep 23, 201901:49:19
Episode #10 Rachel Dickson confesses, "my becoming a mother is a different story than most"
Aug 29, 201901:03:52
Episode #9 Your Brain on Dating Part 2
Aug 24, 201942:14
Modern Mondays Episode #8 Your Brain on Dating Part 1
Aug 11, 201921:03
What it's like to be 15, with depression and the desire to cut

What it's like to be 15, with depression and the desire to cut

Today I interview my daughter, Faith. She is 15 going on 16, and has been learning to live with depression and anxiety. She shares with us what it's like to have the tendency to cut, how she and her friends don't feel like they have anyone they can talk to about it and also the stress she places on herself to succeed. 

On the flip side, I share with you what it's been like for me as a parent- one who was in denial and one who *still doesn't always have the answers. 



Jul 19, 201945:35
Episode #6 with Jess Hawkins

Episode #6 with Jess Hawkins

Jess Hawkins and I dig into her life and address topics around sexual assault, and even though she thought she dealt with the trauma, it has reared its head in her marriage. We discuss sex, parenting, bondage as a form of therapy and the work she continues to do for personal growth. 


Jul 04, 201901:36:31
Modern Mondays Episode #5 The Usual Suspects

Modern Mondays Episode #5 The Usual Suspects

 Today I talk about my Usual Suspects-  The things our brains go after to avoiding feeling, say, sad bored or lonely- because that may be like death and the safer, better options would be; have a drink, check social media for likes, go buy something- eat deliciousness.. any outside experience that will reward us with dopamine and remove us from our river of suck.


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Jun 25, 201924:43
Episode #4 Jessie Barnes Talks Her Dad's Suicide, Divorce & Running
Jun 15, 201958:26
Dressing Room Confessions w/ Kara Marie Episode #3

Dressing Room Confessions w/ Kara Marie Episode #3

Today I talk with Kara Marie Trombetta of Kara Marie Studios. We touch on how she has grown her work over the years by way of several channels while being a mom and wife- and just HOW she pulls it off. SPOILER ALERT- She ends up working herself into the hospital. We find out from Kara about her autoimmune disease and the changes she's had to make for her and her family. 

You can check out Kara Marie here -->

http://karamariestudios.com/

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A photographer for the modern woman, Kara Marie has commanded the camera

professionally for over a decade. She has made it her life’s work to advocate

female individualism and self-love through her career as a photographer and

educator. With impactful black and white photographs as her medium of choice,

Kara’s work has celebrated thousands of extraordinary women over the years.

A practical “minimalist”, Kara Marie uses natural light and intentional shadow to

honor the female form while simultaneously giving women permission to rejoice in

themselves exactly as they are in any given moment. More importantly, Kara

believes that a photo shoot should be an uplifting first-class customer service

experience that builds confidence before her clients even lay eyes on their images.

Her understated, monochromatic style is world-renowned for both its beauty and

its honesty in capturing the soul of the woman in front of the camera.

Kara Marie Trombetta is headquartered in Austin, TX where she operates two

successful photography studios and is currently in the process of publishing her

first book. Beyond the studio, she is the mother of two boys, a wife to her high

school sweetheart, an avid traveler, and a food enthusiast. 


To learn more about your host, Ashley m Kelsch and Dressing Room Confessions, go here -->

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Jun 07, 201901:25:08
Modern Mondays; Episode #2 Reconciling My Past

Modern Mondays; Episode #2 Reconciling My Past

Since I started studying and practicing awareness around my thoughts and mental fitness in general, I’ve learned quite a bit about my thinking and the direction my thoughts tend to go. I thought a skill that I could start to use and apply was one in which I would allow me to practice reframing how I see my past (memories, after all are just thoughts we hold about events in our past) and how I’ve viewed some of the people I was involved with 

This practice, in particular, is not about reframing the events to tell me a better story, but instead, looking back at the people involved and only seeing the good that happened with them. I spoke of this on my podcast last week with Laurel and when I brought it up, I truly believed that the benefit of this work was simple: it would take my mind off the negative- that I would no longer think poorly of the people in my past or carry the burden of what I thought were negative experiences. Truth be told, I’m finding that I’m carrying these stories about my past with me like a large tote- loaded with bricks - I thought if I could start remembering all the good positive times, the reasons I was originally drawn to these people that I could fill my large tote full of fluff, love and sparkles - you know, of all our good times. 

Practicing this work opened a hidden door and behind it, a side of the story that I never knew existed … Their side. By entering, I was able to go deeper into who I was.- Spoiler Alert: turns out I have no-one to blame but myself for my failed relationships. 

 


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May 26, 201916:28
Laurel Kinney Confesses a Traumatic Experience
May 08, 201901:10:27
DRC Pilot Episode- Just what is Dressing Room Confessions?

DRC Pilot Episode- Just what is Dressing Room Confessions?

SHOW NOTES:

 You’re wondering what Dressing Room confessions is all about? here’s a bit of the skinny- for the last 10 years I’ve owned and operated a women’s bra fitting / lingerie store called, Teddies for Bettys, in Austin Tx. It will come as no surprise to you that i’ve spent most of the 10 years - you guessed it, in the dressing rooms. with women. listening to them reveal their most intimate secrets about their lives; from parenting, relationships, losses, sexual experiences, health concerns, drug and alcohol use, body image perceptions - you name it and how they’ve navigated their way through all of it. 

I learned quickly that what was being revealed to me, wasn’t even being revealed to the people closest to them; be it out of embarrassment, shame, or fear of being judged and rejected… 

Imagine the sense of relief when you realize you are not alone in your experiences. The relief of knowing that we all go through life and it’s struggles. That life, well, it’s pretty textbook and no experience is unique. Which if you ask me- is the part worth celebrating. okay, but If you asked my therapist, he’d tell you I was insulted when he told me my problems were textbook. I couldn’t imagine that anyone had ever been through what I had… or that they could feel the way I do… I honestly had to question his credentials and our client patient relationship until he broke it down. 

And so I’ve learned We aren’t alone. 

and By sharing our experiences/ stories, we can connect, heal and move on. 

Now that my friends, is a fucking relief. 

which is WHY we are here! Each week I will be sharing confessions from my life and yours. there will be interviews, stories read, there will be voices heard. I want to hear your confessions- both tragic and hilarious- the ones you swear no one will understand - the ones you are convinced shaped you for better or worse- I’ll be like a high priestess listening. sacred style. and our listeners will vow to hold space, not judge but imagine what that might be like. What do you think? You ready to confess? Let's do it…


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May 02, 201904:18