On the Mommy Oyoyo podcast, Berry Dakara shares the unique experiences of being an African mother! Listen for the funny anecdotes, inspiring stories, challenging topics, heartbreaking moments and more that come with motherhood from an African perspective. African mothers in Africa and the Diaspora, listen in for honest, transparent, authentic and REAL life gist about what being a mother means to us!
In today's world where social media is king, millions of people have accounts on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and an ever increasing number of social media platforms. People share photos of themselves, the things they eat, where they travel to and very often, their children too. With the digital age also comes privacy and information security concerns. From hacking to data breaches and stolen identities, the internet can be a scary place.
In this episode I chat with Tomi Olatunde, founder of The Cuddle Blog about why she has chosen not to show her child's face online, citing some of the aforementioned reasons.
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Coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is an infectious disease caused by a new virus that had not been previously identified in humans. The virus causes respiratory illness (like the flu) with symptoms such as a cough, fever and in more severe cases, pneumonia. Covid-19 is spreading through the world at a seemingly uncontrollable pace, the World Health Organization officially declared it a pandemic and the fight is on to contain the spread of the virus. At this time there is a lot of misinformation and confusion about coronavirus, causing anxiety, mass hysteria, panic buying and more across the world.
In this episode, I interviewed Dr. Ada Adejoro MD, a US-based pediatrician and she answered a few common questions about coronavirus, and shared tips to prevent catching the viral infection.
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Vera Ezimora is a vivacious content creator who is not one to shy away from having hard conversations. After writing all (and I mean EVERYTHING) that led to the end of her marriage, Vera was gracious enough to share what her thought process was like in coming to the decision to divorce, from the standpoint as an African mother. Divorce can still be considered taboo in a lot of African societies, but it is becoming more and more common within Africa and in the Diaspora as well. In this episode we talk about her deciding to leave her marriage, to when/what/how to approach telling her daughter, and advice Vera would give to women in similar situations. Follow Vera via her website www.verastic.com, her "I Am African" podcast and on social media @verastic @iamafricanpodcast Follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @mommyoyoyo
In episode 3 I talked about what NOT to say to someone who is trying to conceive. In this episode, women who are TTC share their opinions and input on what CAN be said and how to approach or address the topic. It is not one-size-fits-all. Whereas some women feel neglected, abandoned and alone if their loved ones don't talk about it at all, other women would rather not have the conversation.
Asking a woman if she's pregnant, especially if you don't know her on a deeply personal level, is a very intrusive and invasive question. It's strange that in our society (Nigerian or African) that likes to keep things hush-hush, people think asking that question isn't a big deal. In this episode I share a few reasons why you should never ask a woman if she is pregnant. Follow us on social media @mommyoyoyo and please rate, review and subscribe to this podcast!
Have you ever heard about giving birth like the Hebrew woman? Do you know the origin of the Hebrew Woman birth story? If you have had children or are currently pregnant, has anyone ever prayed that you give birth like the Hebrew woman?
In this episode, I chat with Ibiene Warmann, who calls herself a Slayer of Pregnancy Fears. In our discussion, Ibiene shared about overcoming her fears and anxiety towards childbirth. She was aware that the overwhelming information about childbirth is largely negative, with screaming mothers-to-be in pain. Ibiene sought out information that helped her have a peaceful and joyful birth experience. In this episode, Ibiene talks about the Hebrew Woman "ideal" and shares more about her brand, Birthing Blissfully, which is aimed at giving women practical tips to leverage faith, and find the right information to have positive birth experiences.
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Potty training is NOT for the faint-hearted! In my opinion, it is mentally and physically exhausting trying to convince a toddler to "go potty." From chasing them down to begging them to just sit on the potty for ten more seconds to cleaning up pee and poop everywhere, I really grappled with the idea of outsourcing this stage of #ToddlerMomLife. In this episode I share what potty training has been like for us. If you're looking for practical tips for potty training, this is NOT the episode to listen to. We are still not fully potty-trained and that's perfectly okay. What I have learned through trying to potty train my toddler girl is this: All in due time. Follow us on social media @mommyoyoyo
Bigger boobs equal more breast milk? A nursing mother cannot exclusively breastfeed after she goes back to work? In this episode, Tomisin and I continue our conversation around some breastfeeding myths we have heard and give our opinions and experiences on them. Listen to the first part of our conversation over on The Millennial Mum Podcast and follow her on Instagram @the.millennialmum Also follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @mommyoyoyo and subscribe to this podcast! Don't forget to rate and review the Mommy Oyoyo Podcast!
Let's face it - there's a certain stigma attached to single mothers, particularly African women who are raising children on their own. From negative labels to turned-down noses, issues related to finances, time/flexibility, etc, an African single mother has quite a lot to overcome.
In this episode, I speak to my family friend, Ebube, who is a single mum of one. She shares very candidly about finding out she was pregnant, letting her ex know, telling her parents (who are pastors), the support she has received from her "community" and more! It is a very insightful conversation and I hope that you share this episode!
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What makes a woman decide to tie her tubes aka undergo a tubal ligation? Why does she decide to go that route as opposed to other methods of contraception like the use of condoms, birth control pills or implants, IUDs, or even having her partner get a vasectomy? It is not an easy decision to make, nor is it one taken lightly. Is it solely her decision, because well, it's her body?
In this episode, I have a candid conversation with my sister, Kiki Makanjuola that centers around her decision to get her tubes tied. In an honest and transparent exchange, she shares her thought process in coming to her decision that she did not want anymore children. She touches on why she got the tubal ligation done, as opposed to her husband going through a vasectomy. She also gives her opinion on whether it is a decision to be made solely by the woman, or whether her partner needs to consulted.
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With 2019 drawing to a close, in readiness for 2020 and simply because this mummy is tired and overstretched, I will be taking a break for the month of December to relax, refresh, reset and rest! I wish all of you a happy and merry holiday season and a great start to the new year! Don't forget to follow @mommyoyoyo on social media to stay connected!
"Shouting is a weapon not a tool" Remi Makanjuola. In this episode I speak with the founder of Grace to Parent about not shouting at children as a disciplinary or communication measure. Follow Grace to Parent @gracetoparent and visit the website at www.gracetoparent.com and also follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @mommyoyoyo
Mom Guilt is defined as the feeling of guilt, doubt, anxiousness or uncertainty experienced by mothers when they worry they're failing or falling short of expectations in some way (source: Activekids.com) Every mother out there has felt mum guilt stemming from different aspects of motherhood like breastfeeding, childcare, career, etc. In this episode I share my experiences with Mum Guilt and how I have worked to overcome them. I also share from other mums (and one funny guy) on feeling mum guilt and how to get over it. Please follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @mommyoyoyo and don't forget to subscribe, rate, review and SHARE SHARE SHARE!!!
Putting babies and little children to sleep can be stressful, mentally and physically draining. In this episode Kachi and I share what we've both done regarding bedtime routines with our children so far. Kachi does not mind co-sleeping and I prefer for my toddler to stay in her bedroom. Listen in as we share what's been working and what hasn't quite worked in our families. Follow Kachi on social media @kacheetee @kacheeteecircle and visit her blog at www.kacheetee.com Also follow Mommy Oyoyo podcast on social media @mommyoyoyo
How do Africans raise children in the diaspora (America, UK, Europe, etc) while instilling traditional African values? In this episode I speak to Joy who was born and raised in America to very traditional Nigerian parents. Joy shares what growing up as a child of immigrants was like; what her parents did to ensure she knew her Nigerian roots, and what they could have done better. She also shares how she would approach parenting when her time comes. Follow Joy on Instagram @adabob83. Also follow Mommy Oyoyo on social media @mommyoyoyo and visit us at https://linktr.ee/mommyoyoyo
"Mixed. Biracial. Half-caste. Black. White. Colored." All these and other names can be and are used to refer to a person whose parents are of different races. The world is becoming increasingly diverse and the number of multiracial people around the world is growing quickly.
In this episode, I interview Aisha O'Reilly, a black African woman who's married to a white African man. Aisha and Kevin have a three year old son and I ask Aisha a few questions about raising a biracial child. Like Trevor Noah's book and life story pointed out, once upon a time in South Africa, having parents of different races meant you were "Born a Crime." Times have changed, yes, but there is still progress to be made in and out of Africa.
Aisha discusses teaching her son about race from a young age, shares her thoughts on the "one-drop theory" and gives some insight into race relations and categorization in South Africa.
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In this episode we have a chat with Tinuke, founder of Mums and Tea. Tinuke shares what going through the Vanishing Twin Syndrome was like - she miscarried a baby and successfully delivered his twin. She touches on things not to say to someone who is pregnant. And she also tells us about Mums and Tea, an outfit for events, meet-ups and socials geared towards black mums in England. Follow her on social media @mumsandtea and follow us on social media @mommyoyoyo. Please rate, review, subscribe and share the Mommy Oyoyo podcast!
Has anyone ever told you that your child spoiled? Have you ever said or thought that someone else's child is spoiled? There could be a number of reasons why a child could be deemed a spoiled brat, and in this episode I share some of those behaviors, especially pertaining to Nigerian culture. From not greeting adults properly to being picky with food, some behaviors and characteristics that children exhibit can be tagged as "spoiled." Listen to this episode as I share my thoughts and please share your opinions on the @MommyOyoyo Instagram page.
The birth of a child is wonderful thing and certainly cause for excitement and celebration! So much so that sometimes there is a long line of visitors who can't wait for the new mother and baby to leave the hospital, and carry themselves to visit them in the hospital. In this episode, I share several opinions and experiences from different women (and mine too) about the feelings surrounding post-delivery hospital visits!
A very important part of being a parent is naming your child or children. Some people have names picked out for their children way before they even start having children. Some others have divine inspiration for their children's names. As Africans, there is that question of whether to give your children English names at all. There is also the question of who gets to name the children. For single mothers, must the children be given their father's last name? I address all of these naming choices and questions for a fun, light and easy episode. Follow us online @MommyOyoyo and leave your comments on how you named your children, or plan to.
September is Sickle Cell Awareness Month and in this episode we speak to Isowa, a sickle cell warrior and founder of IsoWarrior. Isowarrior is a foundation that helps to raise funds through various programs and initiatives, with the aim of creating awareness for and supporting patients who suffer from sickle cell disease. Isowa shares her life story and the plans she has for her foundation.
Sickle cell disease is a group of inherited red blood cell disorders. There is currently no known cure, other than bone marrow and blood transplants, however there are multiple ways of managing the symptoms. In some parts of Africa, the prevalence of SCD ranges from 20% to as high as 45%!
Visit Isowa's web page at www.isowarrior.com and learn how you can contribute.
September is PCOS Awareness Month. Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome is a hormonal illness that affects about 10 million people in the world and is a leading cause of infertility. It is currently not curable but can be managed with medicine, nutrition and exercise. In this episode Titi Oyebade shares what living with PCOS has been like for her, having secondary infertility and aims to spread awareness.
Motherhood is wonderful... and tough! As much as we all wanted children, the truth there are some aspects of motherhood that aren't so great or sweet. Whether it's your children never giving you space or privacy, or being a single mother, we all have our struggles. We all love our children... BUT! This episode features write-ins from our audience who share some funny and some hard struggles they are facing in motherhood.
In this episode, Kunbi Odubogun shares her story about her struggles with Endometriosis and Infertility. Endometriosis is a debilitating disease that is grossly under-reported by indigenous African women due to different factors including poor awareness, and taboos/shaming around periods/menstruation. It is also a leading cause of infertility and pelvic issues.
This episode is a no-holds barred conversation and a very honest and transparent look at what some African women face and usually have to hide about and keep to themselves.
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Homeschooling in Africa (in this episode, Nigeria specifically) is not the norm. Traditionally young children are either just kept at home without a learning structure or sent to creche/daycare/preschool. In this episode, we hear from Tomilola Olatunde about why she has chosen to homeschool her child, the challenges and wins she has experienced with homeschooling, and she also gives practical advice to parents who might be interested in homeschooling their children. It's not as easy as it looks!
World Breastfeeding Week is an annual celebration and campaign to foster and encourage breastfeeding across the world. The aim is to empower parents, enable breastfeeding. In today's episode I share my personal experience and struggles with Breastfeeding. I also want to thank the ladies who sent in their experiences as well. The more information we share, the easier it is to understand each other.
Omugwo is the Igbo word that describes the practice of when a woman's mother or mother-in-law comes to help her out after she's given birth. For a period of time, postpartum care is showered on the new mum and her child(ren) and it's important to manage expectations. Potential issues that may arise are which grandmother gets to come first, what is expected by all parties, possible disagreements, etc. In this episode, I talk a little bit about what the Omugwo experience is like, and how to overcome or deal with the aforementioned issues.
The stereotypical African father is not very involved in raising his children. More often than not, the typical African man leaves the daily hands-on parenting activities to the children's mother. In today's episode I speak with Osi who's not your typical African dad and who is actively involved in parenting his son. He shares his fatherhood experience so far, including how he fared as a single dad for some time.
Discipline is the act of training someone to obey rules and using punishment to correct disobedience. As Nigerians (or maybe Africans or black people at large) many of us were subjected to being spanked or flogged as part of discipline. These days though, it seems more people are shying away from physical discipline methods and using other forms of correction. In this episode I share 3 levels of discipline my daughter's pediatrician advised me to use. I also ask how early is too early to start disciplining a child.
Why do a lot of Africans like to do amebo and give unsolicited advice? While trying to conceive, there are certain things that a woman or couple does not need to hear. In today's episode I shared some of the comments that were thrown my way before I finally got pregnant. I also share from my followers some of the things that were or have been said to them in their period of waiting to get pregnant. Listen in and learn what NOT to say, and what can be said to convey your support.
Africans like to party! From weddings to graduations to even kids birthday parties! I'm talking about renting event spaces, spending lots of money on food, decor, photography for a child's birthday party. I'm of the "Small Birthday Parties" persuasion myself. I hope you enjoy this episode as I share my thoughts on children's birthday parties.
Welcome to the Mommy Oyoyo podcast. In this first episode, I introduce the podcast and explain where the idea came from, my hopes and expectations of Mommy Oyoyo and giving a voice to the African mother!