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Moms and Martinis

Moms and Martinis

By Kira
Moms and Martinis welcomes you into the kitchen table talk I share with my friends. We discuss our past and how it has shaped us into who we are today. How life impacts us mentally, physically, spiritually, and financially. Most importantly, how do we create a legacy by building a pipeline of future leaders.
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Niiya: Her Truth, Her Story
The Moms and Martinis podcast is a biweekly listen into the kitchen table talk between the host, Kira, and her friends. Kira, mom of four, from Atlanta, Georgia, invites you to witness candid moments in her life, as she tries new things and go new places; all while becoming a better person and mother, and keeping her mental health in check. In this week's episode, Kira, is joined at the kitchen table with Niiya Grant, as she shares her experience as a triple minority - being black, a woman, and trans. Niiya shares how therapy has allowed her to come into the fullest of who she is as a woman and enabled her to be a better advocate for the trans community. Niiya provides an insightful and educational overview of what it means to be transgender, how a person knows they are transgender, and the differences between sexual orientation and gender identity. Niiya also provides advice to parents on how best to support a child/ren who come out to them. Resources: The National Center for Transgender Equality Support Our Sponsor: It's never been easier to record, publish, and distribute a podcast. Try Anchor, the easiest way to make a podcast. Everything you need, 100% free. Go to to learn more.  Where to Find Niiya: Instagram: @jesuisniilee  Stay Connected: Is there a topic you'd like covered on the podcast? Or, if you are have questions or would like to discuss podcast sponsorship, email us at  The hashtag for the podcast is #momsandmartinis and #momsandmartinispodcast Make sure to follow us on social media: Twitter: @momsandmartinis Facebook: @momsandmartinis Instagram: @momsandmartinispod
November 16, 2020
Abused But Not Broken with Devon Croom
In this week’s episode, Kira is joined by Devon Croom, inspirational author, career and marriage coach, and executive technology leader. Daughter of an alcoholic, teenage mother, domestic violence survivor, and having recovered from COVID-19, Devon discussed why her faith has helped live a meaningful, purpose-filled life. They discuss why mental health is essential and explained the importance of breaking the stigma of therapy.  Devon shared how trauma connected her to her ex-husband, who later demonstrated verbal and physical abuse that started when she was seven months pregnant. After several attempts to sustain the marriage, at 23 years old, she found herself as a divorced single parent of three children. With the courage to change the narrative, Devon moved out on her own determined to create a better life for herself and her children.  They discuss the beauty of learning and growing through life’s challenges and releasing the hurt and shame of past trauma to a wholehearted life.  Devon explains the importance of not rushing love and why she made her husband wait over eight years before marrying. Connected by their love of traveling, she explains why it was important to have a relationship founded on a strong friendship. Explaining to her now-husband, "You can't do me like God do me", Devon established the framework of her forever marriage and why she knows her husband is her Boaz.  Also, Devon shares her story of how she and her husband contracted and survived COVID-19. Devon tested positive and was diagnosed with pneumonia in one lung. Then after three weeks on a ventilator in a coma, pneumonia in both lungs, and sixty pounds lighter, her husband, Darryl, has made a speedy recovery and can now dance with her again. Devon shares how much of April remains a blur due to the extreme trauma. With seven members that tested positive for COVID and four who went into the hospital. Devon explains the challenging moment of sharing with her husband that his father and uncle had passed from the virus while he was in the coma.  Follow on IG: @coachdevoncroom To learn more about Devon’s career readiness and marriage table talks, head over to Abused But Not Broken, available on Amazon  To Purchase:  
November 2, 2020
S3. Ep30 Kira, On Purpose
Friend pour a drink, we need to talk. In the season three premier, Kira takes to the microphone solo to talk about living a purpose filled life and the impact of being a change agent. With a mind soundtrack of Knuckle If You Buck, Kira explains why she is a coffee bean; and how being an empathic bipolar is a large weight to carry. She discuss the importance of self acceptance and being honest with yourself. Kira express the importance of being an example for her children and the importance of creating a positive experience with the people you encounter. She explains why autumn is her favorite season and the importance of shedding old things.  Season three will teach you how to mind your business, evaluate balance in your life, alopecia, incarcerations, the lose of a child, abuse, LGBTQIA, minimizing childhood traumas, love, dating, sex, and intimacy.  If you or someone you know is having a mental health crisis, please contact: National Alliance on Mental Health (NAMI) 1-800-950-NAMI, or text NAMI to 741741. National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-8255
October 19, 2020
BDSM 101 with Autumn the Aries
In this week's episode, I receive an EXCLUSIVE from Autumn, The Aries as she breaks down BDSM. School is officially in session as Autumn explains each part of BDSM, how she came into the lifestyle, the different types of play, the importance of communication, and how to set boundaries.  From physical restraints, complex discipline, power exchange, and mental pain, Autumn makes the BDSM simple, answers the tough questions, and makes me what to explore things more.  More about the guest:  Autumn, The Aries, Xennial Influencer with a vision of bridging the gap between the Xennials and late Baby Boomers and the early Millenials. Visit her website  IG: @autumnthearies Twitter: @AutumnTheAries Want to stay up-to-date with the show? Everything you need to know is located here. 
August 3, 2020
License to Love
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, I am joined at the table with Penrose Eames from Penrose versus Anybody Podcast. We answer the question, do you truly need a license to love? We explore beliefs in marriages, relationships, dating, and prenups. We talked about having the option to opt out of the marriage, without penalty, at the two year renewal process. Penrose shares why he believe his lady was created just for him and why he believes their relationship is so solid.  Follow's today guest at: IG @penrosevsanybody Twitter @PenroseEames Follow his podcast and other body of works at  For more information about Moms and Martini, click here.
July 27, 2020
It's Not You, It's Me
In this week's episode, of #MomsandMartinis, I am joined by friends to the show, Shereece and Desi, of Oh...She Mixed! podcast. We discussed normalizing healthy breakups. Inspired by Stefanie's, The Life Architect, Emotional Health Specialist, and host of #ISAIDNO podcast, video Happiness over History. We took a deep dive into why allowing yourself permission to align with your new life is important. Honoring the magic in short durations. Finding value in removing yourself from stagnated relationships with no movement. Defining the well known phrase of me, myself, and I. Courting in friendships, and so much more. This episode served as a safe space for healing as I work through my feelings after ending a 23 year friendship, with someone I considered to be my soulmate.  Friends at the table: Desi: Oh...She Mixed! podcast or her personal page @Oh_So_Mellow Shereece: Search the Hot "Tody" report on Facebook. Or send me a private message for secret access. Ssshhh Please check out the video that inspired this episode from Stef, The Life Architect here. Her instagram is @blcnewyork To be a guest on the show, send me an email at Or access all of my outlets here. Please subscribe, rate, and comment if you are listening on Apple Podcast. 
July 20, 2020
Black and Abroad
In this week’s episode, Greta joins me to talk about her love for travel and why she made the decision to move to Thailand. We discussed when she first fell in love with travel, why she decided to start traveling solo, our dream vacation, discovering your travel style, her limited dating pool, and how she made history by becoming the first black teacher at her school. We also discussed her adjusting to living abroad and understanding the customs and traditions of living abroad; and how Thailand is responding to COVID-19 and Black Lives Matter. So if you love to travel, suffering from travel withdrawals, live abroad, or considering living abroad, then you don’t want to miss this episode! To follow Greta and her worldly adventures, you can follow her Instagram is @gretagoesglobal As always, to stay connected with the show everything is linked here @momsandmartinis | Linktree. Also, send me an email to
July 13, 2020
Get It with Coach Lisa
In this week's episode, I am joined at the kitchen table with Coach Lisa, author of the Get It Journal and creator of the 3D Formula. We discuss setting S.M.A.R.T. goals, finding your why, how to create a legacy, the power of dreams, and why I never take no for an answer. She shares her journey to becoming a published author and provides us with the a high level overview of how to write a book and get it published. We also discuss how discipline and mindset determines how quickly you are able to achieve your goals.  You can follow Coach Lisa on IG: @getitwithcoachlisa If you would like to purchase her journal to help you achieve your goals, go to  Moms and Martinis listeners will receive a FREE 45 minute coaching session with a purchase of a journal. Let her know that I sent you.  The easiest way to keep up with the show is by clicking on the following link to connect you with all things Moms and Martinis 
July 6, 2020
Apology Languages
Most people are familiar with five love languages: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. These patterns of behavior are developed over time and determine what we understand as love.  In this week's episode, I am joined by Coach T to discuss the five apology languages and answer some tough questions to determine if we are good at apologizing. 
June 30, 2020
Take Care Of Me
In this week's episode, we get back to love and relationships with my special panel of guests; Kaci, Kay Kay, Mista Calhoun, and BJ. We discussed out interpretation to the song Take Care by The Dream. I immediately kicked things off with the important question asking what does it means to be taken care of? We also discussed that it means to be encompassed by love, and why some people fantasize the idea of being in a relationship without looking at the reality of the work it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. This topic was a great one with many varying opinions.  Stay connected with the guest: Kaci IG @ohthatskaci Kay Kay IG @iamkaykay Mista Calhoun IG @digitaldaronpodcast BJ IG @thesubjectchange Stay connected with the show
June 22, 2020
Co-Parenting With a Twist
In this week’s episode I have a conversation with Ashley, my oldest daughter’s bonus mom and my forever friend. We discuss how we met our children’s father, domestic violence shared with him, how she felt dating a guy with a child, why we both left him, and how we were able to remain close after he left the picture and the child became an adult. We also discuss how it came to be that our ex managed to take my daughter without me knowing and how I managed to get her back with Ashley’s help. This week is yet another inside look into my life and the past experiences that have groomed me into who I am today.
June 15, 2020
The Father Effect
Should a boy be raised by his father if the parents are no longer together? This week I am joined by Countryboi of The Cut Podcast to talk about his experience of being raised by his father and whether or not there is truth in The Father Effect phenomenon. “The Father Effect” is the umbrella term for the benefits of a paternal presence.  Source: Guest Co-Host: Countryboi of The Cut Podcast Want to stay connected? Visit for more information. 
June 8, 2020
I Was There - The 2020 Atlanta Riots
“I can’t breath.” These words continue to ring in my head as our community continue to witness the countless murders of our black men and women. The murder of George Floyd set off a series of protests, riots, and looting across the nation. My heart hurts and I’m scared. How do I explain what’s going on in the world to my kids? How do I prepare my black children to enter a world who have little regards about their lives. In this week’s episode of Moms and Martinis, I’m joined at the kitchen table with Mista Calhoun of Digital Daron, as he recants his accounts of being at the center of the Atlanta Riots, which he calls “Atlanta’s pursuit of justice.”He shares his unpopular opinion about Donald Trump, Barack Obama, civil rights leaders, Keisha Lance Bottoms, John Lewis and celebrities like Killer Mike and T. I. Calhoun also shares how his experience showed him the importance of being able to coexist as we fight against the systematic oppression of our government. Want to stay connected? Follow me on all social platforms and send me an email. Also be sure to rate and comment on Apple.
June 1, 2020
Willful Submission
In this week's episode, I am joined by Mista Calhoun of the Digital Daron podcast. We discuss submission, headship, why most women are not submissive, how feminism has ruined order within the home, consent, and women doing what they are told. I also talk about my desire to fully submit to a head of household, and how my history of domestic violence has impact my willingness to do so. We also discuss the day I wore the infamous leggings out of the house to the store, despite him asking me not too!  Mista Calhoun also gives us a crash course in Domestic Discipline and how it adds structure in a relationship. Is this the Christian way? We discuss the four D's of domestic discipline: dishonesty, disobedience, dangerous (behavior), and disrespect. How punishment is administered if the woman breaks the rules, including spanking, sitting in the corner, restricting electronic devices. Take some notes as we learn a few new terms: Domestic discipline of often abbreviated as DD. There is also CDD for Christian Domestic Discipline. Other terms include HOH, or head of household (the dominant man), and TiH, or taken in hand (the submissive woman).
May 25, 2020
Diary Of An Abused Woman
TRIGGER WARNING: This is a clip from the audio diary I kept when I began the healing process after being assaulted by a drunken lover. The recording is of me on December 4, 2018. My emotions were all over the place. I was so confused and rambling; some of it doesn't even make sense. This is real, raw and filled with emotions. I can't make this shit up! There are so many layers in this clip. I was hurting from the abused I had experienced and baffled by the way the police handled the situation, allowing my abuser to be go without penalty. Nothing was done to the officer and I was left to pick up the pieces of my life. I just wanted to be heard and I still do. That is why I am dedicated to using my platform to shed light on domestic violence and abuse. We have to stop this!
May 20, 2020
Surviving Domestic Violence
In this episode of Moms and Martinis, Shereece and Desi join me to discuss our experience with domestic violence. We discuss the six types of abuse - physical, sexual, verbal/emotional, mental/psychological, financial/economic, and cultural/identity. We answer the tough questions about why we stayed, why we returned, share if we ignored the signs, and provide advice to women who are looking for love after being in an abusive relationship.  An abusive relationship can include any or all of these types of behaviors, sustained over a period of time and often escalating. If you or anyone you know is a victim of abuse and want to talk, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call 1-800-799-7233, or if you're unable to speak safely, you can log onto or text LOVEIS to 22522. You are not alone.  Stay in contact with the guest: Shereece  If you are interested in joining in raw conversations with the Hot Shots, head over to Facebook and search for The Hot Tody Report.  Desi If you would like to try some amazing new hair and skin products, head over to Also, check out her podcast at Oh...She Mixed!  Bobbi Kristina Serenity House Census 2020   Shape your future by responding to the 2020 Census online, by phone, or by mail.  Census results help determine how billions of dollars in federal funding flow into states and communities each year. The results determine how many seats in Congress each state gets. It's mandated by the U.S. Constitution in Article 1, Section 2: The U.S. has counted its population every 10 years since 1790. Want to stay connected? All information about Moms and Martinis can be found on Linktree at
May 18, 2020
My Mind Is Playing Tricks On Me
You are NOT ALONE. 1 in 5 U.S. adults experiences mental illness. 1 in 25 U.S. adults experiences serious mental illness. 17% of youth (6-17) experience a mental health disorder.  In this episode, I talk about my mental health journey, my diagnosis of bipolar, depression, and anxiety. The African American community needs help and support to bring awareness to mental health. For more information visit  Need help? The NAMI HelpLine can be reached Monday through Friday, 10 am–6 pm, ET. 1-800-950-NAMI (6264) or  Stay connected with Moms and Martinis 
May 11, 2020
That's a Wrap! - Season 1
In this week's episode of Moms and Martinis, I talk about the new shift in the direction of the podcast and closing out season one. Most changes to come and I look forward to an amazing season two! If you would like to be a guest on Moms and Martinis or have an idea for a show topic, please email me at Want to stay connected? All links can be found here Until next season. Okay. Bye!
April 27, 2020
Setting the Table - Part 2
In this week's episode of Moms and Martinis, Kaci, Kay Kay, Calhoun and I continue the conversation about setting the table. We discuss identifying the red flags before entering a relationship, dating a man with children, the differences between standards and preferences. We also discuss dating someone who was not what we considered to be the ideal mate and how the relationship worked. Calhoun gives the ladies tips on how to show effort in a relationship. Despite the in-depth conversation, we are still left with so many questions. Do we blame society for the narrative that is being shared about the division between men and women? Is there a double standard for men and women? Are men judged by their money? Are women judged based on their sexual partners? Are plus-size women looked at as fetishes? Follow my guests on Instagram: Kay Kay @iamkaykayatl Kaci @ohthatskaci Mista Calhoun @digitaldaronpodcast Want to stay connected? All information about Moms and Martinis can be found on Linktree at
April 20, 2020
Setting the Table - Part 1
In this week's episode of Moms and Martinis, I have special guests, Kaci, Kay Kay, and Mista Calhoun on to talk about what they each bring to the table in a relationship. Each reveals the baggage they have and discuss whether or not that prohibits them from have a healthy and successful relationship.  Where to find my dope as friends on Instagram: Kaci @ohthatskaci KayKay @iamkaykayatl Mista Calhoun @digitaldaronpodcast Daron @digitaldaronpodcast What to stay connected, find everything you need here. 
April 15, 2020
I Got a Big Ego Part 2
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, we are joined by Mista Calhoun of Digital Daron Podcast. He shared his point of view of why he described me as a narcissist. We also discussed how we became friends, how we were able to remain friends after ending a long term relationship and had a candid conversation about the foundation of our relationship.  We shared responses to the following questions: What do you wish had never been a part of our experience? What's one thing you really want me to experience? Name my top three pet peeves. What makes this friendship work the way it does? How do our differences enhance our relationship? What is the greatest lesson I taught you? What would you warn my partner about me? If you could grant me one wish, what would that be? What advice would you give the 14-year-old me? What are you going to take away from this conversation? We encourage to set some time to ask these questions to your friends and learn more about each other.  Want o stay connected? Everything you need is added to in the link, so click it!
April 13, 2020
Toxic People
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, I discuss how to identify toxic people in your life. I highlighted the tips from Psychology Today reviewing the eight things that all toxic people in your life have in common. I also discuss tips on how to get out of toxic relationships and heal.  Also, check out Part 2 of this episode that reviews my results from While you are at it, take the quiz and share your results.  Psychology Today: Pscyh Central: Want to stay connected? Check us out at  Find us on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Or, you can email us at 
April 6, 2020
Mommy Moments- Out Of The Mouths Of Babes
Listen in on a candid parenting moment as Kira speaks with Madison, King, and Willow about their feelings about the coronavirus. Like any parenting moments, we also discuss random topics like toxic behaviors, proper communication, school, and missing friends and families. Follow us online: Twitter:  Facebook: Instagram: Email:
March 30, 2020
Mommy Moments - Ask Your Daughter Questions
As we break from our normal routine, Kira talks to Madison and her favorite people and things, career aspirations, achievements and how to become a more supportive parent. Questions from this episode can be found at Follow us online: Twitter:  Facebook: Instagram: Email:
March 23, 2020
ICU - Iceland, Coronavirus, and You
This week on #momsandmartinis, things are a little different while Lark is on hiatus caring for her family during the COVID-19 pandemic. Kira recaps her trip to Iceland and her experience traveling solo to Europe during the Coronavirus pandemic and travel ban.  She also provides tips and resources on travel, health, and wellness resources from Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook: Instagram: Email:
March 23, 2020
Martini Moment - Family Matters
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, we discuss the importance of supporting our kids, why family matters, and breaking the cycle. This is the kick-off of the sub-series Martini Moments. A candid off-script series where the moms talk openly about life, their experiences, and lessons learned.  Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook:  Instagram: Email:
March 9, 2020
Reverse Bucket List
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, we celebrate Kira turning thirty-fine. Together we reflect on our last year sharing what was hard, things we hid from others, images that made us smile, things that make us proud, what we want more of, what we've forgotten, and what we failed to notice.  Article used: Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook: Instagram: Email:
March 2, 2020
Who The Hell Is Navient?
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis we discuss the downfall of student loans and guiding youth in choosing a career path. Is college necessary to become a professional? How do we avoid student loan debt? Are high schools spoon-feeding the idea of college and student loan debt to our students? Tune in to hear what we have to say.  Follow us online: Twitter:  Facebook:  Instagram: Email:
February 24, 2020
Mommy Moments
We are excited to present a new IGTV series called, Mommy Moments. Mommy Moments lets you hear the raw and candid parenting moments we have with our children. In this week's episode, we discuss #OperationStepdad, falling in love, friends with benefits, relationship advice, falling in love versus being attached, know when your kids are ready for dating, and the importance of getting to know yourself.  This is only a snippet of the entire conversation. If you want to hear more, you have to head over to Instagram to follow our series. To keep up to date with the latest content, follow us: Follow us on Facebook: Follow us on Instagram: Like us on Twitter: Email us at  Episodes drop every Monday at 10 am EST on Anchor, Spotify, and PocketCasts. 
February 21, 2020
I Got A Big Ego - Part 1
In this episode of #MomsandMartinis, we explore self-evaluation. Narcissism. Ego. Self-Esteem. Pride. How do you know if you are a narcissist? How do receive feedback from friends and family? At what point do you accept the opinion of others? How does self-reflection play a role in this subject? This episode was recorded live on Instagram live.  If you missed it, catch it today! Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook:  Instagram: Email:
February 17, 2020
Self Care
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, we discuss an article from which covers What self-care is and what it is not. We share what it means to us, our routines, and tips that help keep us on track. We are also asking you what self-care means to you? Also, tell us your self-care routine. Don't forget kids need to establish a self-care routine as well.  Here are a few things we use to help us create routine and practice self-care: Happy Planner: The Day Designer: Calm App: Daylio App: Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook: Instagram: Email:
February 17, 2020
Meet the Moms
In this week's episode of #MomsandMartinis, we introduce ourselves to the audience and discuss the purpose of the podcast and how it elevates our lives individually.   Follow us online: Twitter: Facebook:  Instagram: Email:
February 3, 2020